My boyfriend and I were talking about his goals to be successful in business, and I asked "what happens if you become super successful, would you still love me?" and he said “I wouldn’t be successful if I didn't love you” and it reminded me of what you are always talking about, how loving a woman the right way brings success to a man. I am so grateful for him and love him so much. I believe I found him by taking your advice and watching your videos before we ever met (when I was single in the trenches of dating lol). Just wanted to bring a nice relationship success story to the comments from a subscriber!

I’m over it. Love for me turned into a manipulative situation. I will never again allow someone to claim to love me and use it against me. ❌

Dealing with a man places you in physical risk … including loss of life. Men are emotional and deal with emotions by aggression. Brother Tony telling us truth. Think about what he is saying.

I heard a man tell his wife that he loves her, but not in love with her. I really didn’t know that a person can even marry you and not be in love.

How many times can a woman handle cheating? How many times can a woman handle betrayal? If her heart was pure as gold. Loving him was all she could do. Her love was genuine, but he betrayed her many times. Crushing her soul as if nothing happened.

You can never tell certain men that you’re prepared to leave them , you have to leave without a trace or else, you have a next guest coming.

Im 53 & grew up really naive and to this day whenever I hear Tony say a man will sleep with his wife's Mother or Sister, it makes me sick to my stomach! I be wanting to through up. Its just unthinking and so evil. Tony's a man & a Godly man- so i know he's telling truth

Another good video. Off topic here, but do yall notice how Tony can be nosey and still keep talking😂😂 Eyes just be wandering and he never lose track of what he talking about. I be wanting him to turn the camera to see what he be looking around at.

I love my man so much and I always have issues when things get rough. I’m so glad I watched this video. I’ve never yelled at him or called him out of his name but I have done stupid things to abuse him emotionally that I was not aware of. He made me very aware and he went OFF. I almost lost him. He was really standing on business 😭😭 like one foot out the door and somehow, I got another chance with him. I’m going to cherish this and the way he loves me. Thank you for this video. I’m going to make sure I love him right.

That part about a man who doesn’t allow himself to fall in love is a huge reason why relationships are not succeeding. Because the percentage of dismissive avoidants is a significant number and it’s men and women. Not just men.

How a woman talks to a man is so important. I saw in a blog sometime last year where someone said emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse and the women were actually saying they should be able to speak or talk to a man however way they feel, cursing or shouting , calling him names and it should be acceptable as long as he doesn't put his hand on them because as the man he should know his own strength. So yes alot of women know what disrespect looks like, they just feels when it comes to men they are justified or within their right to do so as long as he doesn't touch her. To that I say this: while I do not condone violence of any kind, when you purposely provoke people or purposely choose to be disrespectful you don't get to choose how they respond, because you don't know what people are capable of.

Tony as a decent godly woman…. This is so exhausting. 😢

As a sister Christian, please do not misconstrue the Bible. A woman is not made for the abuse of a sinful man and his disgusting decisions. Remember, the Bible also says a man is to LOVE his wife as he loves himself and in turn loves God. This is why people are leaving the church in droves because too many men have tried to make women believe they have to suffer. Comparing a sinful man and how he lives with a God-fearing man and how he should live like God directed him to are two totally and completely different things.

Tony ought to be sitting at 1M subscribers as of right now because 👀🗣️

Tony Gaskins NEVERRRR miss 💯 again, He told NO liessss!!!

Tony is speaking from the Bible about a man seeking revenge. “For jealousy makes a man furious, and he will not spare when he takes revenge. He will accept no compensation; he will refuse though you multiply gifts.“ ‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭6‬:‭34‬-‭35‬ ‭ESV‬‬

This is so great to hear. My partner and I are 8 months into our relationship and we both agree we’d be fantastic as a married couple. We communicate so well and we align on values and such. But he isn’t in love with me yet. I am in love with him but only for a couple months. He’s been very open about his “struggle” with falling in love because he’s never experienced it in past relationships. But his actions speak so loud! He’s the best man I’ve ever known and he truly does all he can to ensure I’m happy and we’re in a healthy relationship. I’m being patient but I read a lot men should be in love with a couple to six months and I worry he just won’t fall in love with me. So again, this is so heartening to hear. I know he cares for me deeply based on how much time and effort and attention he puts in. He just asks for time and patience. But I do want to be truly loved and I hope it happens with him!

The wind can blow hard & a man will say his feelings change.

I think guys are afraid to fall in love once they've had their heart ripped out by a woman they were in love with. They don't want to be hurt again. I can't say I don't relate though! Love and prayers for all trying to heal❤❤🙏🙏

hey mr gaskins, the bible also told the man to love their wives as Christ loves the church. and a woman is called to respect their husbands. Ephesians5:25-29.

Let us all be prepared to love, respect, and honor- this is of God.

Yeah…I ain’t waiting up to 5 years lol. I’ll just always keep my heart open for someone else who can fall in “love” faster.

This is your best video on your channel Tony. All women must listen to this video and this video must go viral!

Yeah the dating world is doomed. Men just want a perfect wife! Good luck ladies! 🙏🇵🇸

There is some degree of truth in your rationale of why men are scared to fall in love but please don’t leave out the rest of the truth…men know they were never taught nor personally chose to be faithful so men are scared to fall in love because they know the karma is just lurking around a corner waiting to pounce on them. They are deathly scared of being hurt exponentially greater than they have done all the women they purposely deceived, manipulated and disrespected.

You are stating real facts Mr. Gaskin ✅✅

Be blessed Sir! I'm ready for class! Much love from the Netherlands!🇳🇱

I genuinely don't believe I have ever fell in love with a man. I have shared romantic interests for them but nothing more evolved within my emotions. As a 42-year-old woman, I am not sure if that is normal, healthy, or how to describe it.

Happy Birthday Uncle Tony!!! You have been a great help to me and many other people around the world! God bless you and your family!

This is so true. And tragic. My Mother was killed trying to leave her husband. Her case is still open from 2018, and I know he killed her. Listen to Tony, ladies. 😔 PLEASE.

I’ve seen it too, and it’s makes me uncomfortable. Have vulnerable conversations to also know his triggers.

WELL THAT'S WHY BOTH PEOPLE SHOULD MENTION THE THINGS THAT BOTHER THEM IMMEDIATELY.... 4-5 MONTHS/ YEARS LATER.😢

Coming from a woman with not the most experience with long term relationships, just wanted to recognize you for giving me “rules” of what to and not do in healthy long term relationships. The info of the fact that some men just don’t fall in love was something i needed to hear as well. Thanks 😊

I had a husband who cheated but when i filed for divorce he retailed . People like that are selfish

I appreciate the moments when you share personal moments to actually help us and be so real and honest. God bless you Tony!

A very happy birthday to you, Tony!! 🥳🥳🥳 God bless and keep you and the fam 🌸

No I never cheated and he cheated took him back many times until I was just tired. I can see him now and don't have a word to say. But me and his daughter still have a relationship as well her mom and her husband 😆 who have helped raised her to become a beautiful woman through time I first met her at the age of 6 to now she's in grad school working 2 jobs and a believer in Christ Jesus. I don't have children but God blessed me with at the end of it all a long lasting relationship through my ex child.

This video is 100% true. I live in the Middle East and all this applies to a T. I’ve seen it over and over again women ALWAYS loose when they disrespect a man even if he deserves it. Men on average are much more petty, vengeful and spiteful. A good man will walk away (rare).

That's why I can't fall "In Love" anymore

The authenticity is real!

Thank you Father FOR USING THIS BROTHER CUZ THE MORE I HEAR AND SEE THE MORE I KNOW satan out here like a vulture and a lion waiting to devour The devil is a LIAAAAAAAAAA NOT TODAY OR EVAAAAAA

You are absolutely right 💯 I've been through domestic violence situations. I'm blessed that God has kept me!!! God 🙏🏽 is sending messages through you. 🎉Praise God 🙌🏽 for the confirmation.

Thank you, YT Son, for this message today. I an here cooking and listening to you talking about common sense every day scenarios. Things that I would not think of if I needed to. Thanks for your help.

Forgot one. Invalidating his feelings. It will result in the man loving her but know he cant be in love with her to show that vulnerable side to her

I know a man and he's married to my aunt. They've been married for over 45 years. But he is always an abusive husband to her but she has continued to stay. My aunt isn't disrespectful towards him and he hits her. Why she stayed in that marriage for this long...hmmm I couldn't. I don't think a man will always hit a woman only if she disrespects him..she was the bread winner for years. I believe he was abusive in the beginning mainly because he felt beneath her.

Thank you for your truth, Tony. When I get married again (hopefully), I will remember to always respect him. God bless you and yours, Man of God. ❤

“Legion talking” 🤣, funny but great video!!

Honestly, even I (a woman) am afraid to fall “in love” because of the exact same reasons : (1) cheating and (2) disrespect BECAUSE I SAW IT IN MY PARENT’S MARRIAGE. I know most women stay in relationships after the above two have come to pass in their lives but the offences are far to great for me to reconcile with the person especially the first one. Mr Gaskins , I have a question , you said that A man has to be led by God to fall “in love” with a woman , but , you also said that man of God also is not perfect (which is true), so is it possible for a man of God to be in love with you and still cheat on you? Is there any hope for woman to have a man be 100% faithful to her for the entirety of them being together till death do they part? I don’t mean to come off as a weeping willow but Marriage , which is supposed to be a holy covenant, seem more like hell on earth than heaven on earth. Is there any hope for a woman to be loved the way Christ wanted a man to love his daughter ? Thank you Yours sincerely

Men get bored very easily.

Happy Birthday, Tony G! May God continue to use you and bless you in all you do! 🎉

OR HE CAN CHEAT BCUZ HE ALREADY HAD 4-5 WOMEN LINED UP.

I must be a man cause I am not conditioned for betrayal, deceit or “unconditional” love at all 😭

I am extremely grateful to you Tony for your transparency about the truth about men and their refusal to fall in love with a woman. From a woman’s perspective, a man who cheats on his wife that he claims to “love” means he truly does not love her in the true sense of the word. True love means you never hurt the person you love, but cheating hurts the innocent wife. That cheating husband does not even care about his wife. No wonder God tells husbands to love their wife. God knew men do NOT truly love their wife. Now that I know this truth, I see marriage as being completely pointless, meaningless, and a waste of time. Thank you immensely Tony. I will continue to avoid men until I die happily and peacefully alone. My intuition always told me to avoid men completely, and I obeyed my intuition. Thank you for helping me to avoid unnecessary heart ache from a man. Men are extremely NOT worth the pain whatsoever. Thank you God and thank you Tony for protecting me from men and their cruel, unnecessary pain. I will replay this video many times to never forget the deliberate cruelty of men. The reason why divorce and cheating happens is solely due to -> MEN REFUSING TO LOVE THEIR WIFE. Marriage is a joke upon women. Thank you for giving me peace of mind Tony. Thank you God for revealing the TRUTH about men refusing to love their wife. Thank you Tony for confirming the truth that God revealed in Ephesians 5. Amen. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏✝️ It looks like the devil and men actually won the war against God when it comes to destroying marriage and the family. The truth that men refuse to love their wife means the game has been won by men and the devil. This truth sets women free from being harmed, used, and abused by men. All we women need to do is to avoid men, marriage, and motherhood to protect ourselves. This following scripture is what men disobey and how they damage women and marriage: Ephesians 5:25. Husbands, love your wives, as Christ also loved the church and delivered himself up for it: …28. So also ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. God will punish men for hurting and damaging women and marriage as their payback.

Tony can you please make a video about men who are already in relationships but still with wandering eyes.

Mr. Tony you are absolutely correct!!

He was never in love if it’s that easy to fall out of love, also he never knew what love really was.

Tony as usual you're speaking hard truth. Although it's definitely not a woman's preference But it doesn't diminish it from being true. GOD Bless you & your wife & sons & ministry. 🤔😒🤐🥺😟😥😭

I think this is one of the best videos I’ve seen this year.

I have disrespected a partner, out of frustration at what I believed to be his grown boy behaviour. That is the two wrongs option so I see my error. I could have taken the high road and communicated clearly and said I am going to leave, but I did not bc it was just that it seemed really hard to take the soft answer path, when it means once again you will be all alone. I was so tired of being alone. I am the queen of solitude. Enough was enough, I thought. I'm going to stay, why should I have to be alone bc he isnt mature. I am going to stay but he is going to pay. Big mistake. He didn't cheat, but I think he is finally out of love. He doesn't call, he doesn't inquire anything. He keeps the conversations short. Tony is right about the years it takes for a man to fall in love though. He really took a while to start truly feeling me. But I wasn't healed from past hurt and neither was he, and there were triggers for both of us that became stumbling blocks. Now I said I didnt want to be alone. But I realise there is more than one way to be alone. If I am gonna be alone, I don't need someone else to be alone with. Same thing I thought about sex- I thought it was a waste for me to be celibate indefinitely. But they waste SO much of you when they MOSTLY engage you sexually. So you don't escape waste by not being celibate. And it seems once you give them that (before commitment and marriage) then to them, there's nothing else to value or seek or investigate in you the woman. To me that's obviously ridiculous but not to them. Princella said men are not capable of love. TG has now said men are not created for love. I don't believe everything Princella says. But in this their statements seem to have some resonance. This confusion I've had with why men don't value love as much, and why they won't do as much as you the woman, for love, nor will they value you if sex is either too early or too late for them, is finally all starting to make a whole lot of sense. We are just so different. Has its benefits, but then the drawbacks are like damn.

Mines came from a single parent home, his mom divorced his dad cause he was an alcoholic. I just dont think he can be in love. He has vices, drinking, gambling, and porn...I've tried, but we keep going back and forth, on and off ...

The break down is always next level. I, as always, appreciate the details. 🔥

God has blessed you.AMEN

Yeah, I love how guys forget to tell me I'm their girlfriend just because we're talking. Lol Then blow a gasket if I talk to another guy.

This video was very much needed and so much knowledge thank you

You speaking facts! Mr. Gaskins.

This video was a great eye opener. Thank you

Organized pimp is crazy 😂

Hi Tony and everyone.. Be blessed and stay safe..

This is so true. I was talking crazy and he was sleeping with someone in my building. All I have to say is when I found out I went crazy then charges on me were filed.

Thank you, Tony 🙏🏼✨

Here I am again taking 📝 . So excited that Im in the growth club 🎉🎉 I'm ready to reach my next level 🥳🙌🏼. Thank you Uncle Tony, God bless you and Happy Birthday 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

In south africa there was an olympian called oscar pretorius, he was called the blade runner, we as a nation loved him but he ended up killing his girlfriend at his home on valentines day. He shot her in his own home where a women is supposed to feel safe.

It’s a Legion lie omg🤣🤣🤣🤣

Ephesians 5:22-33 MEV Wives, be submissive to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, which is His body. But as the church submits to Christ, so also let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for it, that He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, and that He might present to Himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. In this way men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord cares for the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I am speaking about Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

So if men aren't designed to love what's the point in relationships? 🥴

I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH THE TWO POINTS THAT YOU MENTION ABOUT BEING DISRESPECTFUL AND UNFAITHFUL CAN MAKE YOU MAN LOOSE LOVE, BUT… Why is it that men generally don’t like taking accountability for their own actions, beca women are not made of stone either, there also some cases where you hear women committing suicide over a man, or killing the the lover of her man Which I don’t is healthy, neither it is kill your own kids because your wife cheated on you, the Bible also says that men shall love their wives like Chris loves the church, so getting hurt goes sides ways, women are NOT made of stone, we also get hurt with betrayal, rather we stranger or not, I love you brother Tony, thanks for the video

Definitely a good freaking question

Preach, Tony

We are to submit to each other according to Ephesians

Dont make no difference to me anymore. That explains why these men are so jacked up..

Alot of women betray because they dont know how to leave the relationship

I will not try to yell or carry on in public with my man. I have, but that was out of pure anger and being pushed. Will not do that again because it is not classy. He has yelled at me in public and regretted it.

You should do a Q&A session

Unrequited love

Tony is right with ex narc, I always thought I was the one who had the upper hand in our arguments and sad to say I did disrespect him but out of him also not respecting me. He would stay quiet and not do much. The whole time I thought he was not affected by what I said, he cheating on me…

WHAT IF HE'S A STALKER AND YOU DON'T KNOW ? WHAT IF YALL DON'T LIVE TOGETHER ?

Oh hell no.... my eyes were only on him and only him. I married under God. It's only us three

AND KIDS GROWING UP IN FOSTER CARE LEARNING FROM TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS TOO. AWAY FROM BIOLOGICAL PARENTS. AND SO THE SAGA CONTINUES....😮

Thank you Mr. Gaskins 😊!!!!!

I didn't do any of those things nor would I9 yrs married to him and I caught porn on his phone I confronted him he left 2 weeks later living with java the hut because I would've keep taking his lies,abandonments

What if the man is doing the things you say to the woman but expects you the woman to stay in love

You teach him 😂 Keep Teaching TG ❤

Thanks Tony 😂 this is true and funny

The Bible always says ye submit one to another as well

Tony, can the man fall back in love over time or is his heart closed for good

😂 we cheatin on shoes now? 😂

BUT HE CAN TEXT/ FACETIME / CALL/ WALK DOWN THE STREET LIKE HE'S GOING TO THE STORE... TO MEET HER ???? I DIDN'T CHAT WITH ETC. WHEN WE. WERE TOGETHER. I CUT HIM OFF.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Well, IM SO HAPPY ALL ALONE AND SEEKING HEAVENLY FATHER AND ONLY WANT THE ONE GOD HAS FOR ME AND IF HE AINT FROM MY FATHE R DONT WANT EM LEAVE ME ALONE DONT GOT TIME WHEN IM HERE DOING KINGDOM WORK IM GREAT ALL BY MYSELF I’m so so GRATEFUL YEHOVA HELPED ME TO RAISE MY GROWN YOUNG ADULT SONS WITH HIGH STANDARDS AND RESPECT AND KINGS FOR THE LORD THANK YOU FATHER WE DID GREAT!!!!! ❤

BECAUSE A MAN OF GOD, A TRUE DISCIPLE WILL LOVE HIS WIFE LIKE HE SEEKS AND LOVES THE LORD I DO KNOW THAT IM NOT A CHEATER AND NEVER BEEN THAT TYPE AND SO I KNOW GOD HAS OTHERS who are like me, and i know there are men out there (cuz my sons are one of them men) WHO IS AFTER GODS HEART AND SEEK HIM AND WONT CHEAT AND DONT A MAN WHO IS DISCIPLINED IS A MAN WHO WONT PUT HIMSELF IN SITUATIONS THAT WILL CAUSE him to sin/cheat So, IM A BELIEVER THAT GOD HAS ONE WHO IS LOYAL AND FAITHFUL TO HIM AND I KNOW HE WILL FAITHFULLY TO ME BECAUSE HE OBEYS GOD AND THATS THE ONE I WANT I ALREADY TOLD GOD IF THIS MAN DONT EXIST BECAUSE HE IS MARRIED AND OR MEN IN THIS WORLD ARE DONE ✔️ FOR GOOD I WILL SERVE YEHOVA LIKE IVE been and stay single until is Reign return here on earth!

❤i have and still healing from trust issues i believe it could be both ways not all women trust a man eaither