What Men Want But Don't Ask For | Dating Advice for Women by Mat Boggs

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@matboggs 27 күн бұрын

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@xyzmsbright 27 күн бұрын

Validation, Feeling desired, Shift criticism to constructive feedback, Emotional safety, Appreciation of efforts, Support his ambitions, Shared interests

@OhioGalReads 12 күн бұрын

Thank you for typing these out.

@paf9191 18 күн бұрын

I do all of these things with my man, and it is amazing how he reciprocates and treats me Exactly how I want to be treated. We have an amazing relationship. I should say I’ve never met anyone quite like him. We are in our 70s and we are getting married August 4. We are so so happy. Everything you say is true.

@OhioGalReads 12 күн бұрын

Congratulations! I am 53, and my man is 58. We do these things and we are very happy also.😊

@BQ900 24 күн бұрын

It should go both ways. Men need to support their woman and the woman need to support their man.

@hikerhobby1204 23 күн бұрын

Amen!

@rashmigama2417 22 күн бұрын

True

@arkitamichelle2770 29 күн бұрын

This is all good advice. But I just got out of a relationship that these did not work on him. These do not work on a man that is a broken man. It's very draining and it comes to a point where enough is enough to keep doing these things for a man who cant unbreak himself .

@homesteadgmad8223 29 күн бұрын

Same here.

@maria-lena5919 29 күн бұрын

Agree

@rezotydnic 29 күн бұрын

Some men aren't whole and don't try to grow and learn.

@lorawhite1017 29 күн бұрын

I'm tired of dealing with a broken man who blames everyone else and won't heal him self 😊

@AriesSimmer 29 күн бұрын

This is precisely why you don't deal with broken men IN THE FIRST PLACE. 👍

@pamelacorona3665 29 күн бұрын

I heard years ago that anger is fear in disguise and I agree I've seen it many times 🙋‍♀️

@danilaroche1156 29 күн бұрын

I agree

@RitaP41 27 күн бұрын

Not necessarily. Can be many other things, mostly Needs not being met.

@lorawhite1017 29 күн бұрын

Im tired of dealing with a broken man who blames everyone else and won't heal him self

@mhal2 29 күн бұрын

Something I learned (maybe even from Mat!) ... "We attract who we are being". Said another way "Like attracts like". This is good news, because we can always choose to change who WE are being (so empowering)! 😊

@EMpowered06 28 күн бұрын

All this advice is not applicable when you are dealing with an abuser or narcissist. Forget your ex and think of doing these things for a good man.

@jkd9573 27 күн бұрын

@@mhal2that concept hasn’t worked for me, I never seem to attract the kind of person I am being…

@mhal2 27 күн бұрын

@@jkd9573 I believe it's more than a concept (have you heard of the law of attraction?). Interesting stuff!

@wassabilove1111 24 күн бұрын

Heal yourself and then you won't even attract men like that

@sonyaparkin7841 29 күн бұрын

I can understand anger and feel understanding and empathy about it. And it still exhausts me and I get emotionally dysregulated. So for me when there’s a lot of anger I just can’t be around it - just can’t do it. You mentioned safety - excess anger is the definition of unsafe! Blessings to all 💚

@Portia620 28 күн бұрын

Agreed!!!

@QueenofmyPlantpot 23 күн бұрын

Yesssssss

@FatmaSamyFAS 29 күн бұрын

In my opinion everything is mutual in a relationship, its never one sided. If it is one sided than that's not enough ! One of you will get hurt and wast too much energy.

@kristenlobstein8634 15 күн бұрын

Your presentation has gotten better, Mat. I’ve followed your videos for a long while. This video flows and holds my attention in a way that’s different from 2 years ago and I like it. You’re doing a great job and I’m grateful for your advice and approach to it all. 😊

@anhduong5261 6 күн бұрын

I love your channel because the knowledge, the way you present as well as the subtitle in each video which makes me easier to learn deeply about the contents. Thank you

@sharris1232 29 күн бұрын

Shout out to your wife for that- 'Ultimate Praise Phrase' 👏🏼 ✨️ I love this. You do a great job at being my man (all the things that I need and want from my man, you do it and do it well) I know this will work on my guy. This is such a great, informative video. Thanks Mat.

@maria-lena5919 29 күн бұрын

I'm sure U deserved the compliments, Mat. I've given many unconditional positive feedback & validation with men & I might as well have been talking to the wall! 🤷

@Portia620 28 күн бұрын

Same with the bedroom!!! Punished so don’t get the orgasm! Ugh

@jackdeniston6150 27 күн бұрын

You obviuosly expected something. So you lie.

@ariatamar2706 29 күн бұрын

What is it that Women deeply want? It's so simple! Just that their man finds them *more beautiful* and better than other women. That's it. There's nothing evil in this. Giving her one flower does it!!

@Portia620 28 күн бұрын

😂 they wonder off eventually like a wild buck! Not all but many after they get us!

@blackeneddove 27 күн бұрын

Nope. I want to feel loved: appreciated, cherished, valued, not ignored, special, priceless. Feeling all of those things will make me feel beautiful.

@euphory 29 күн бұрын

Really appreciate the delivery, quality and richness of your advice.

@SunitaRussell-th2wr 29 күн бұрын

Matt thank you so much for helping make my relationship better by watching your videos and applying your advice keep making videos please.

@Mia-vu7wm 27 күн бұрын

Great video Matt, thank you! You hit the nail on the head with all of these points!

@Sakem0to 28 күн бұрын

What an awesome presentation, thank you!!!

@user-zo9pi3gj1x 29 күн бұрын

Excellent video. Makes total sense.

@karenescobar7407 29 күн бұрын

The things that I desire and not be able to ask, are the things that I asked once, it feels like not heard and not want to ask again, creates a gap

@aureliecormier1 29 күн бұрын

Love these tips Mat! Many of these tips are. ones that we are practicing together! Practice, Practice, Practice with respect...feels so good! :)

@Nef_254 25 күн бұрын

This is gold ⭐️Thank you @matboggs 🙏🏾

@small11989 29 күн бұрын

Great advice in this video!. I’ve been doing a lot of relationship learning and understanding the opposite sex since my divorce last year to prepare myself to be the best partner I can be in my next one (and hopefully last). The thing I lacked in my previous relationship that I would love but to afraid to ask for us just simple recognition of how special I am and all I do for my men. My love language is “Acts of service”, so it’s the way I show love and also how I like to receive it, but it was never appreciated or recognised in my last relationship and this eventually tore me down and I stopped bothering.

@AnaFuentes-n6x 28 күн бұрын

Matt this video make me realise what I was doing wrongly with the person I love the most. This was a heaven sent video. I'll pray that God give me the wisdom to apply this correctly and foe him to receive it with wisdom and love.. Thank you! ❤

@carolinereidartist 27 күн бұрын

Thanks for the reminder of providing a safe place

@ewalichorowicz4614 28 күн бұрын

Such a great explanation and great examples, Mat. Men crave good communication, connection, responsiveness and appreciation as much as women do. A good couple will learn how to multiply all the goodness in the relationship. Thank you so much for the great tips on how to have a better relationship. 😊

@carmenmichaelian8307 23 күн бұрын

Great advice, Matt. I am always learning from you.

@Anamak_23 25 күн бұрын

Thankyou for your advice ❤ Blessed

@fakorepiphania709 28 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. I just did practice some, and he just poured out his mind why he's so angry at me. I am very grateful Matt

@grethabekker1777 29 күн бұрын

Thank you!

@NicoleCampbell-hs4kn 6 күн бұрын

You are very insightful !!! Thank you for all this great info !!!

@divineverse7122 29 күн бұрын

God bless Mat, truly appreciate your knowledge & helping to empower people to understand how men truly feel and their challenges. This supports healthy relationships & a healthier world! Men are leaders and i believe that we should encourage their inherent qualities as opposed to negating in a society that is destroying gender. 🕊 🙏😊💜

@norielongakit8976 28 күн бұрын

Thank you mat for your good service 😊

@madelinetaylor7708 16 күн бұрын

These are all really good points. I've learned some of them over the course of 20 years of marriage. But some of them are good reminders. I'm sharing these videos with my grown up daughters who are married and engaged. This is really good advice.

@dr.florence 27 күн бұрын

My experience is this (overlapping with the suggestions). Men want: - to feel like they are enough (they're much more sensitive to this than women!). So, criticism rather than constructive feedback, trying to fix when one sees problems rather than letting them do it on their own, codependent saving - because this low-key means they don't have their act together. Better to say "I trust your ability to figure this out in time." - respect: no putting down or shouting at him in front of others. Very clear boundaries with me. in front of him. -valueing his efforts. Noticing and saying out loud when he does things right. -satisfying their women in bed. Enjoying it and making him know that you do, and it will just fire up his desire to "serve" amd satisfy. No brainer haha - helping. Most men, in my experience, love ot be helpful to women and do stuff for them. That can be practical and it can be giving advice. -admiration. I admire how you build your career. I admore how kindly you treat your parents. This stuff. -asking what they want and need right now: Do you need me to listen or give advice? Should I take your concerns seriously or just say "all shall be well, don't worry?".

@jennyyeo5974 28 күн бұрын

Haha Matt, good one mentioned...U.P.P...Ultimate Praise Phrase!😊

@sacrebleu8154 29 күн бұрын

If you want something ask for it. Women aren't mind readers.

@Portia620 28 күн бұрын

Same with men

@heathab...._-_ 27 күн бұрын

@rokhayasene834 17 күн бұрын

😭😭😭😭😭

@mshazebabelicious 13 күн бұрын

Yes ma’am

@FernGray 4 күн бұрын

thank you this was very insightful :)

@carolb6581 21 күн бұрын

…and I continue to really appreciate you Matt! 😊

@melstyle7619 29 күн бұрын

This does work. This comes from a place of respect. It will not work if the women does not apologize for disrespecting him.

@user-zo9pi3gj1x 29 күн бұрын

I believe you.

@jackdeniston6150 27 күн бұрын

An apology is far more than mouth noise.

@crystaldance5731 28 күн бұрын

I think honesty and respect mat ❤️😊

@viviancovington7813 14 күн бұрын

Thanks Mat! Cheers! 😊❤

@krisbaker3349 14 күн бұрын

Great video and I appreciated it! I would like to say that the idea of reciprocation can be a problem. Setting the tone is one thing, giving to get is another. Expecting the other person to automatically catch on could also cause tension.

@joannguzzo185 29 күн бұрын

Good advice ; I've tried most of these things but I regret he didn't respond as such

@ellengambaccini315 21 сағат бұрын

What I need from my man is to be heard. I feel his car is more important and he puts time and energy into it but not into our broken relationship

@c3clark270 29 күн бұрын

Thank you for passion in action. Incredible how you describe your wife as 🪨 giving you energy to roll"

@Portia620 28 күн бұрын

If I waited for someone to give me energy or support I would have fell apart and ceased to exist along time ago!!!!! I know people need this and don’t understand why they can’t find it within… oh wait that’s my trauma response talking I had no choice but to survive on my own and pour into myself and have God be my only supporter so yeah OK… I don’t even know what to do when somebody pours into me and feels good but I almost feel like when the other shoe gonna fall. When are they gonna stop so I don’t rely on it because it can be taken away from God will never be taken away.!!! just a thought for the men and the audience because you know it’s gonna take it away there’s so many people that don’t care sadly!! The grass looks greener on the other side. It’s prettier it has last less flaws. It’s so much better than the grass you have and how sad don’t you think that we live in the world like that because eventually we’re gonna look like crap we’re all gonna cease to exist so I think looking at my soul and most important people look at their money and what they have and what they can do for them more than their soul…sick world and so many lie and pretend to get status or money or friends with benefits, or any other numerous amounts of ways to use a human being in today’s society and I have lost hope and praying this last time maybe just maybe someone will prove me wrong!🙏 let’s pray he can prove me wrong

@footyfan101ful 29 күн бұрын

Your brother and sil has been married for my entire. Life congrats Rich and his wife on 30 years of marriage.

@philasupv 29 күн бұрын

What if this is a new relationship. We've been friends for years but now the friendship is changing.

@Mayfloweralways 29 күн бұрын

That’s how i got in my current relationship and it’s amazing- we were friends first. Boundaries, girl. No matter how happy you are, smile but stick to your boundaries and don’t give a guy everything by letting him skip some work. He is still auditioning for the role of boyfriend. He should plan dates and show a lot of effort still.

@enelrahcreivaj 28 күн бұрын

Got the guy but still listening and taking notes. :)

@kimt8162 28 күн бұрын

Watch out with doing too much family stuff with him/his family if your not actually engaged. Part of becoming a part of his family. I dated for 5 years one guy who took all that I did for granted. TOo nice. Then you have the guy who thinks if a girl sleeps with him fast, that's validation. NO way, he needs to date you. Yes, spend some money on you. OH, and going to all his games doesn't count. I'm going to say give little attention at first, because they end up wanting more and more and more over time.

@rosamoreno4794 20 күн бұрын

Will you please do a video on all the things and or why men are so afraid nowadays? Thank you!

@pascalledouven7022 16 күн бұрын

Super video !! ( one question how come i attract man lately who seem to have more attention for their life and hardly ask me how i am doing..)

@sally3014 29 күн бұрын

Great list, but I think you forgot to add playfulness and being lightheaded

@elsagrace3893 7 күн бұрын

What about what I need?

@goodwalks 24 күн бұрын

Actually these are what women want too. Maybe we want the same thing❤

@noremac0123456789 27 күн бұрын

Not joining my ex boyfriend at his family’s house for Christmas resulted in our ultimate demise.

@ddmr44 28 күн бұрын

Starts @5:30 Ya see, when all you utube creators keep insisting on "masculine energy" vs. "feminine energy", all that does is perpetuate the societal expectations that f'd up men to begin with. If everyone had self-worth, as they *can*, then relationships would flourish. Why not focus on THAT? How to build self-esteem and self-worth?

@RitaP41 27 күн бұрын

As long as we stop denying and start Respecting our Intrinsic Differences we'll be fine.

@drumvet 9 күн бұрын

I've asked my wife not to treat me like a child . I affectionately tell her that she is not my Mom and that there are more effective ways to correct me. How do I get that point across without upsetting her?

@giulz8 24 күн бұрын

what if he does not have ambitions? what if he is looking for a plan and is not able to know what he wants

@taraelmegreen5527 25 күн бұрын

Have to tell u Mat!! I stole one of your phrases for my SIL who is from Columbia...everytime he drives us somewhere with crazy traffic, or I see him conquering something that needs to b done in their home, I say the "Eeeeehhh!! Una A una A una una una A!" The phrase u spoke abt of your MIL'S phrase for HER spouse!! Mat....he puffs out his chest, literally grows 3 inches and smiles from ear to ear while saying "Thanks Mom!" Thx for thr suggestion!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🇪🇨

@joannebrown6540 21 күн бұрын

I'll validate my man if he really deserves that validation. If he never says those things to me, I'm done validating. That's a good reminder for my next relationship with a worthy man.

@laylathomas8309 15 күн бұрын

I'd like to have my own space sometimes

@n0tfr0mth1sw0rld 9 күн бұрын

5:30 validation

@HannahBanana_XO 20 күн бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@sukhdeepkaur1772 25 күн бұрын

❤

@noremac0123456789 27 күн бұрын

Also generational. I’m 54 and guys I’m dating who are older than me (60’s +)are definitely wired differently than men my own age , also more successful and wealthy the men, the more arrogant and entitled they seem to be.

@shans1986 29 күн бұрын

They need to validate themselves.

@rebeccastarns1072 19 күн бұрын

What I LOVE is flirting and attention!

@Scheherazad100 23 күн бұрын

Actually I wouldn't care if he is scrabbling eggs & I peeling one. Flexibility in a nanosecond is needed. What's the big deal. I just put the hardboiled eggs back in the fridge & appreciate he is scrambling eggs & helping. The end.

@user-qp7zr2mm2e 29 күн бұрын

His physical presence 😢

@ladonnagalloway9305 18 күн бұрын

I'm afraid to ask him to learn how and to do my hair as a black woman especially since he's white. Also I'm afraid to as him to dance💃🕺with me especially line dancing.😢😊

@bernardette486 28 күн бұрын

Is it only me but sometimes i can't but not focus on what he has in his background 😅

@msyj1977 29 күн бұрын

First

@sandramichaud8033 28 күн бұрын

First reply to first

@sonias.7856 19 күн бұрын

Why do I feel that we are to be responsable to fix a man and teach him how to be a man?,,,,they dont teach women how to be feminine, we have to figure out ourselves.

@commonsenseprevails1433 19 күн бұрын

When they do describe a feminine woman, they usually describe a slave. I.e. loves to cook, clean, tend to the house, etc.🙄

@belindabrglum1715 25 күн бұрын

who gives a danm f. ? ;)

@terichastain4179 11 күн бұрын

Seems like every relationship coach speaks to women. PLEASE STOP SPEAKING TO WOMEN ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS!! If a man doesn't care enough to figure out how to GET HEALED from childhood wounds that we all have in one way or another, then he isn't ready to be The LEADER in a relationship. Women do all the healing & relationship work and men simply take it. It doesn't matter how we speak, think or act. Unless they stand up and become true men, they are wasting our time. I say this from experience and from all the conversations I have had with women about this. We don't hate men, we are tired of men being emotion immature, having low effort, low support and not making the relationship a priority. Thanks.