Same!

I found something similar. Back of my head I always new the truths of this world but I really wanted to see things with an optimistic view, until I can't. Then people called me negative, but I knew it was me trying to hide my optimistic side because I dint want to be hurt. But I will tell hope is not a lie, hope is a wish, hope is a story that we tell to ur inner child so he can't sleep not thinking about the past, while we build him a future. Hope get twisted when we think that it means control. Like: "I hope this person don't hurt me." We can't hope for others because we have 0% control of others behavious, even when using manipulation or watching every step. When u hope things for yourself u have the control of the story being able to decide the probabilities and how u want to divide the wish. Just ask different questions about the outcomes = have a lot of different hopes. INFJ intuition is the same as probability, because it estimates the best way to convey inconclusive information. If u hope to breath again in 1 second. U probably have a 100% of being correct. If u hope something using Y/N u have a 50%, with that in mind hope for things like: I hope to learn from my past experiences. So when u do ur best to be optimistic (I prefer to say: more confident) you already making ur hope true. I change this words to help me: I have/need/want = I hope "I need more money" - "Hopefully I can send some CV later." (take power, think something that u can control, that could help with the start goal). I hope = I will "I will be more stronger" (Don't doubt if what u hope if to move forward or be alive. The reality is yours and u decide what ur inside world can do and how much time u will need). I will = Let me think "I will start right now" - "Let me think of how I feel right now and wich way I could start"

@@TejubescDM Same. I read that we fear people not loving us because we don't love ourselves enough. If u leave free space for people you will think that they don't love you. Our heads just know what we know, so if we don't love ourselves to ur brain the other neither. I struggle with the same thing so take it easy, the first step to love yourself is be more kind and gentle. But never forget that u are the only person in the world who could love you in every way

Fake it til you make it Baby

There always remain faith, hope and love, but the greatest of these, is love! 1 Corinthians, chapter 13

lol I love the way you described how you felt like! I felt kinda similar too until I realized that I'm an INFJ.

same... still working on the breakthrough though...

We deserve it!!

"Self this all seems like it can't be true, but I'll give it a chance" - Your affirmation resonated with me - it has faith in there "Give it a chance" - willing to do something different for different results! You are an OG INFJ (OG means original) - I am always curious what you have to say - thanks for your insights!

thanks for sharing how you approach this! "Fake it till you make it" approach don't really work for me, so I also prefer saying to myself something like "What if it can get better?" and "This too shall pass". :)

@@DearYoungerSelf111 You're welcome!🙂

@@elizaveta2407 You're welcome! 🙂

I couldn't agree more! It's the little steps and breaking things down into realistic goals with discernable results. Helping us feel more fulfilled and successful and doing more of the things that bring us joy. By doing this the fog lifts and we can move towards our more idealistic and visions that allow us to tap into our potential in a tangible way

@@nedthestaffieegan3452 Absolutely! I spent so much time believing all the things had to be done...like all or nothing. It is vital to take smaller steps as you stated so eloquently :)

@@LadyCharity I think we can get a bit carried away with our visionary nature's where we lose sight of the scope and practicalities. I've wanted to write for ages but had so many ideas and some of them were impossible to bring together. If I considered a short story it became too big, a book was definitely too big so I couldn't even start. Throw in the need for perfection and fear of writing something rubbish, I got stuck in complete inertia. A few days ago I had an impulse to write about something that was bothering me in an attempt to work through it. I got totally absorbed where I wrote for 4 hours and have been adding bits since where I'm so pleased with what I've written. It's not in any form that meets any conventional format at the moment, but I don't mind. Being able to express myself and have that outlet has given me such a lift where I feel I've accomplished something 🙂

Welcome!

Did anyone actually find that helpful? Seems obvious.

I wish I would have learned how to really trust myself. I felt so different and I was such a people pleaser because I wanted to fit in. I always felt like everyone else knew better than I did. I wish I would have learned to trust my own intuition and my own inner guidance even if it was different than everyone around me.

How do u create new beliefs for your new identity,when ur old ones are strong to dissolve?

I wish I had learned earlier that not everything deserves or needs a reaction.

I wish I had know that the feeling of dread I experience the moment I wake was just a build up of cortisol from the anxiety I took to bed with me the night before, and not some premonition of the day to come.

Glad that I still don't think that I have the need to ask myself this tough question. I have made mistakes, but when it comes to lifelong prosseses that have to be done I have never scrued up. The two things here are first to be as conscious as you can push your self to be for the things that are happening in your life in order to know that you control your life, not your unconscious. The key word here is push. It's tough to constantley think that you are possibly missing something, but thats the price of progress and development. The other component is to think ten years back and ahead because you don't just need to be your best for your last ten years like I do as a strategy, you have to set the base for your satisfaction from the way your life goes after ten years. I could not be wrong about this because it isn't healthy to look back decades ago to seek in what you have been wrong because no one is able to imagine himself three or four decades ahead, there are too much uncontrolable changes that can happen. So in the end try to be your best self for an observable period in the past and future, that's the best thing you can do.

Good to know it just wasn't me, lol.

It felt like small talk....I couldn't get into it.....ughhhh

Christ was a piker

Maybe even a poker lol I meant poker player but when everyone else played for the money jc played for the fun of the outcome actually working in his favor based off the face or the guise or bluff or aka confidence vs a lie, both are practiced and perfected and can be used to hurt and control and manipulate. But when it’s not for personal gain and material gain but to increAse aWareness and the insight to chose and steer their own outcome that is needdd to change the whole game then the outcome can only work out collectively due to the brighter notice from others that if the money won gets immediately split between all who played or donated to someone in need than the need to win using a lie or manipulation for one’s own ego or financial gain is not nesesary snd the latter is attractive to those . Making the game a team effort or enjoyable fir the community sharing of personal strategy and growth vs secret tactical gain over arising from another’s loss of their wealth home and inevitably health n sanity, naming virtually all gamblers who gave that addiction n even the idea that taboo is bad cuz if this way is used over soliciting another’s gain then this isn’t fun playful or a team win win n frankly still shows that it’s more of this making the idea of sharing the win and wanting to grow the inner thru sharing the outer a balanced yet still by defenition it’s more “taboo” or rare than the dark place funds abd finds themselves addicted to the game, why can’t it be a good thing and be coping growing revolutionizing n contributing n therefore problem solving abd nurturing thru a interest or recreation everyone benefits, it’s the purpose we seek to find n it’s literally present in the worst of places if one chooses to see the light that shines thru once the veil is unmasked the goal is clear and further more there’s enough fir all to enjoy n not feel they have to risk the thing they sacrifice by playing anyway, it’s like changing the rules to the game within our strategy abd not having to change the end result of wiinnng being the goal and truthfully the end all to the search for secretive lies or faces because we wNt have to hide our want to play when we don’t have to risk our souls and morals ti gain the search fir our souls abd spirit!!

@@crystalmclaughlin6528 Holy Moses