Hurt people hurt others..I can relate.One of the worst things was when I had struggled to get into WITS University and was asking my mom to sign a NSFAS form for me.She refused and said she wished I could fail and get expelled from the university.She also said that she wished I could get mad and go about picking papers in the street like a mad person,I was shattered.BUT GOD is awesome I managed to finish record time.Today I raise children with love and they are successful because I encourage them and pray for them.My daughter is 22 and finishing her Master's degree in Environmental Science at WITS...To GOD be the glory!What meant to hurt me...made me STRONG

Families need to stop demonising women for not falling pregnant. It's not always the womans fault. Maybe the trauma and insults she suffered prior to having children played a role in how she raised her children. I think some people can't cope with motherhood. This was hard to listen to. "God is able to give you a new character" well said sisi. Congratulations on your book. I'll get a copy.

Everything and everyone can be against you but when your own mom is against you is another thing!!

Old people moved on without counseling, they gotten so used to it that they call us weak when we seek counseling.

Mummy needed counseling. She needed God so much. May God heal the family

This is so sad. Your mother was broken but she didn't know how to deal with brokenness, so she broke everyone else around her. So painful to watch. I need to purchase your book mama.

This is sad, but there are still plenty mothers who still abuse their children. Nobody admits it, nobody talks about. Thanks mama for telling your story.

This has to be the saddest "I've been through the most" story 😢

Women in our society go through alot of pain and abuse... 😓

Your father also had a hand in destroying your mom, no matter how much you loved him but he did not protect her its like she was alone

Sadly this sounds like my mother... I can so relate. Now I’m labelled a bad child for not wanting to visit home anymore 💔

Not everyone is meant to be a mother. Broken people destroy people.

💔 i feel like we need a part 2 of this story.

Now I know why I don't want to go through labour 😔 because the abuse from my mother💔.. I love children so much but the idea of giving birth and a child to come and go through what have been through just doesn't sit well with me💔💔 I need help 😢 Thank you for your story mama❤️

There is a woman in our hood who we know she specialist with calling social workers if you mistreat your child, quietly you will see social workers paying you a visit today I have a great respect for her.Now I understand why she is doing that .I wish mmeThelma had neighbours like her.Let us not turn a blind eye lets report these to social workers .As black people let us normalise going for counselling now almost all villages have clinics go and ask they will help. Not being able to bear children should not devalue you as a woman ,these name calling has sent many to early graves cos you see and feel like a failure.Thank you for sharing mmeThelma God bless you and may your book do well evn internationally.

Thelma is really smart to recognise the part that unaddressed trauma plays in the repetition of cycles of abuse. I'm glad she sought therapy for herself and is advocating for others who have been through similar to do the same. God bless her!

Your poor mother lost herself. Due to all the abuse and humiliation condemnation she endured

offence pain and bitterness rejection left without being dealt with can turn someone into a witch... This mother was a victim of all these and she started victimizing the people she was supposed to love

As the saying goes "Hurt people hurt people". I'm glad that uMama has healed and is now educating others.

Mme Thelma's mother's words reminds me of the importance of speaking words of Life and not words of death. May our communication with one another be loving, tactful and kind.

They tried to break you but all they did was build a strong resilient fighter! I dont know your full life story and all your traumas but from the ones youve shared with us today its obvious that your life has not been easy and it makes it even more amazing to listen to you because you exude such a calm and kind energy despite what youve been through. Thank you for sharing your story , praying endless blessings into your life.

This is sooooo heartbreaking! How does your own mom treat you like that? this is too much

We must accept that mothers can be abusive and monsters. That way we will take harsh steps to deal with them as we would men.

I'm crying because we tend to ignore how our mothers can be abusive and it's just sad because it was all because of how she was also abused .. imagen being laughed by kids and being called names .. with this, I've seen the importance of counseling

First ❤️ This is heartbreaking. The trauma that this woman and her siblings experienced. 😭💔 "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"

I have been through the most with my mother too. Thank you so much for this I really do need therapy and I'm going to book it because my husband and kids don't deserve this❤️

So sorry to hear what you and your mother gone through, she had depression and losing two young kids, that was too much for her, please forgive your mother My sister

Oooh no! It’s heartbreaking to learn how trauma and pain can be passed on to other people if one doesn’t heal. I am so glad that mama Thelma found her own healing, I wish more parents could listen to this. Sending love and light to everyone who is walking with pain🌻

Hugs to you mama

So articulate mama. I could listen to her the whole day.

Just the intro made me burst into tears YEYI ❤️❤️❤️🙏😭 Mme Thelma Dlamini, God's love, healing, peace, protection, blessings and light to you and anyone who's endured hardships and trauma 🙏✨🙏✨🙏you are loved, you matter

Woooo this story is so sad 😭 Even watching this I can’t finish this story 😭😭. There’s no excuse of a mother acting like this!!! She’s a monster herself and the father is the worst for not being man enough to stop it!!!

I am so sorry that you had to go through this kind of life. I pray the holy spirit comforts you and heals you. Sending you much love and strength. Be still and know that God is for you

Trauma and mental health among our African community is the number 1 culprit for domestic and substance abuse

I have not even listened to your story but my heart is feeling so sad when I listen to your voice and the anxiety in your body..Be healed mama

"I can cannot give what i don't have " That why there's no love on people's heart

We need to educate ourselves about mental health, mental wellness and Let go off the stigma around mental health. Her mom was not ok, Im sorry you had to go through this mama.

This is heart breaking...im really sorry u had to go through that as kids, in the hands of a person who should be protectiong her kids....i think your mom went into deppresion, everything she went through changed her...the bitterness and anger...ohhh im really sorry...hugs❤

I can relate to this story... I know how it's like to be raised by a mother who's full of anger nd be a punching bag up until u not scared of being beaten

Thank you, Ma Thelma. Did your mother ever apologize? Did you guys manage to mend your relationship, I wonder. Also, can we PLEASE address the rape culture in SA! So many speakers on this channel are rape survivors. What the heck is wrong with our men?!

May the Good Lord intervene here because there are so many families going through this but with this corrupt world who is a councillor without gain. Because even churches are fake😢😢

This is very bad. Its very clear that her anger towards you and your siblings was a direct result of physical abuse she received from the community. She failed to seek counseling and it later on had a huge impact on her. The physical abuse which she directed towards you and your siblings was just a way of her to experience a short healing and comfort.

I thought it's only in Kenya where there's tribalism 😭😭 The mother was going through real depression.

It was spiritual mama, what you went through needed spiritual intervention. So sad,

I am glad you went through all of this with your siblings and not alone😭😭I am so sorry you (all) went through all of this

Ijooo this is sooo painful....may God heal all of you in Jesus Name Amen

I am glad that you are healed. This is a testimony and a good advise from an experienced mother. Thanks Mamzo

😭😭😭your story is so heartbreaking and I love that you recognize that your mother was herself a victim of trauma and abuse bu others. May God continue to heal you and heal others through you.

I was abused too and it's really hard to relearn .I am self aware and I try everyday

perfect definition of hurt people, hurt people.

Yoooh , you have through the Most Mom😭😭😭May God be your strength forever more

This is exactly why God was sorry He had made man!!!

And it took you so long to talk about this,yet still remember every detail so sorry you had to go through all that ma😢😢❤your mom was so broken that she ended up bleeding on her kids,very sad.. All she needed was help

Indeed mother you've been through the most but a beautiful ending .I'm so happy that you are receiving counseling.This is the hardest story I've ever heard..May God continue to be a healer in your life

This story taught me a lot about King David and Absalom his son, Often times I blamed David for the way Absalom turned out, because had David solved that rape issue concerning Tamer Absalom would not have became a monster that he was. You see the root of bitterness killed him( silent for two long years) now it's all absalom😢.

Oh my God this is sad, how does a mother treats her own biological children in such an inhumane manner

This is very touching. Not only our parents but also our grandparents had to carry on with life as if things were okay; mental health was unheard-of back then. We are grateful for such stories because they show and teach us to forgive them as Christ forgives and extends his grace to us daily 💕.

My mom is currently going through the same thing... I'm crying as you speak

Hi Thelma that was my grandma's name and ithought she was the only lady with that name ..I haven't listened to your story ..your name caught my attention 🤩😍😍😍😍

I want to watch the whole video but it hurts too much coz i can relate. I'm glad she's healed but i have not. My mother took my life. All that's remaining is a Zombie.

This is heartbreaking. I'm glad you have now received counselling and recognise that you didn't give your children what you didn't have. I hope they also get counselling so that the cycle does not continue. God bless you all!

Oh my gosh my heart !!!!😭

the child was named gogonyana thats not fair

The saddest story from this channel l am in awe of what was going on in that household...mama your voice is still breaking as you're narrating and it's breaking my heart too, reliving your childhood is still traumatic for you... psychological scars and traumas are real...may God continue healing you.. sending you love from Zimbabwe

This is heartbreaking. I pray you heal and forgive and always remember hurt people hurt people. God is all that, find peace in him, as much as you are healed you are still scarred. I'm sorry for what you went through ❤🥰

It hurts most when its done by someone who is meant to protect you she was bitter she needed counseling

Batswadi barena bagobetje 😭😭May God Give you strength to heal Mama🙏

Oh my God the story it's so touch

Oh my God if you see a mother abuse her biological children than you must know that there is something bad what she went through a mother is mean to be a caring person your mom went through a lot and was jst pouring her stress and anger upon you all but God is faithful I realy feel her pain as a mother even the loss of her kids is realy too much but you guys you must forgive her and love her show love to her most let her release the pain out her heart and you guys mst receive Jesus He is a peace giver than all will be well with your family thanks

Mmmmh HH Jesus.... I run out of words 🙏🙏🙏

My heart is sore over this story, the saddest to date!

It’s time for us black people to start taking counselling serious 🧐

This is sad. I am heartbroken for her.

Thank you, that you became a beautiful soul. Thank you for your testimony 🙏🏽

Morena o tseba Mathata a rona...💐

My goodness, I hope your mother got counseling and you have forgiven her ....This is just too much 😢😢 and heartbroken 💔 😥

Wow this is so painful. I can relate to a certain degree, my mom knocked my tooth out while beating me. But at least she has change now . However I still do feel the pain sometimes when I think about how she used to treat me. Although I never got sn apology from her for mistreating me, I am glad that I chose to forgive her and move on.

Broken people break people.

Tjo I have never heard of such from your own mother, may God continue to strengthen you 🙏

Mental illness is the result of unresolved childhood traumas. I wish people can understand the importance of counseling and stop acting strong 🙏

Her mom was evil 🙆🏽😢😢

This is very heartbreaking 💔

Yho yho Thixo wamaZulu yhini trauma engaka eyenziwa ngulomama ebantwaneni 😢😢hayi Nkosi some women are cruel I don't care how hurt you were but taking out on your children is drawing the line no😢

True...it's important to receive counselling because once you don't heal...you will bleed on other people..

aah Jesus Christ heals you x God bless you my sister x

It's so sad nd heart breaking

Such an evil mother ohhhh my gossshhh... 😭😢💔💔💔

Pain changes the person's heart

😭😭😭😭 sad story to tell I pray for all to be happy & protracted

Reminds me of "Out of the Darkness" by Stormie Omartian

Painful 😪

Fuck...excuse my language...but wow... No child deserves to be treated like that... Not right... Now l need whiskey!!!

Please forgive our mothers , they didn't know better

Yhooo this is heavy and painful.. To those who know different, let's help other moms get the help they need to raise children without hurting them because they were hurt and never healed. This is painful to hear about and an eye opener. Some people will ridicule you for saying your mother abuses, because a mother should be the one to protect you. These things are still happening in 2021.. Lord, help us be a blessing to each other 🙏 I pray for mama for her testimony to help many families heal and may she find healing she needs in Jesus name, Amen.

What a story. Shem nkosi yam

Very sad tjo hai...this is too much

I thank God for coming across this channel.Thank you mama Thema for your story it is soo touching. .I would like to buy your book .Where can i get it?

Such a sadness😞

OMW this story made me so numb! Is your mum still alive? Have you discussed this with her as an adult if she still alive? Other kids go through the most bakithi!

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭So sad