WHAT TEENAGERS NEED (And How To Provide It) | Lisa Damour, PhD x Rich Roll Podcast

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Rich Roll talks with psychotherapist Lisa Damour, Ph.D. about how to equip teens with the tools they need to navigate complex emotions and an ever-changing world. To read more about Lisa and peruse the full show notes, go here👉🏾bit.ly/richroll748
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00:00:00 - Intro
00:02:36 - 2020 and it's impact on our teens
00:03:32 - Empathy for Teens and All the Changes They are Undergoing
00:13:51 - The Pandemic's Effect on Teens and Mental Health
00:22:25 - Not Parenting from Fear
00:24:30 - Parent Reactions are Critical
00:26:47 - Emotional Regulation
00:28:53 - AD BREAK
00:29:54 - Setting Parameters Around How Emotions are Expressed
00:49:26 - Back to COVID
01:02:01 - Delay social media and web browsing as much as possible
01:14:14 - Viewing Teenagers as Having Two Sides
01:15:59 - Kids Need Both Warmth and Structure
01:18:27 - Teenagers are able to detect dishonesty and hypocrisy
01:22:49 - Still Wrapping Our Heads Around How the Pandemic Rocked Us
01:25:49 - Parameters on How Much Kids Have Their Phones
01:26:56 - Sleep, Exercise, Nutrition and Purpose Aid in Mental Health
01:53:56 - What's the one thing that you want parents to take away?
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@43fitness14 Жыл бұрын

This woman is brilliant. Her book Untangled literally saved my relationship with my daughter and me as a parent. She has so much wisdom and truly understands our kids and how to best support them through this tumultuous time.

@lpmowgs2425 Жыл бұрын

This is a gift to humanity…THANK YOU! My teen has been angry at me for nearly 4 years now. There is hope…and gratitude.

@azamashouri3584 2 ай бұрын

À❤❤❤❤

@Rovingkiwi0516 Жыл бұрын

I feel like the universe is looking out for me. So grateful for you, Rich, for delivering content that feels just in the nick of time on too many occasions to mention.

@joelbrunello2094 Жыл бұрын

My kid is not even 4months and I’m taking notes. I love this. Thank you

@elsbetheksteen9231 Жыл бұрын

Me too

@gulmoran1267 Жыл бұрын

Hey❤ i am a Turkish single mom of a 13 yr old girl. I love your podcasts and your being. I laughed with u on so many almost irreversible ‘good luck’ moments in this talk! My girl and I both have AdHd. Yeah, bring it on!!! We call each other in a very Gabor’s way-of-compassionately ‘dumb & dumber’ on many occasions 😅. This morning, she was possessed by her need to send an sms with an urgency & took so much time wearing her shoes that i finally screamed loudly ‘shoes!’ To which she replied louder ‘sockssssss’. Than, giggles! Sums it up! I wish we could be friends with you and your family. I enjoy & learn so much from u. Thank you.

@gulmoran1267 Жыл бұрын

I would love to hear you talk with Dr. Shefali on parenthood, and radical awakenning ❤

@Nico5890 2 ай бұрын

I've read 2 of Dr. Damour's books and highly recommend em. Extremely valuable info within. Great conversation, listening to it for a morale boost after a tough month of parenting. Thank you, Dr. Damour.

@johannatheone Жыл бұрын

So important!! This is adults taking responsibility. Beautiful

@KittyWhiplash959 Жыл бұрын

This is fabulous! Thanks Rich! 🙏🏻🙂

@frp8887 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much! This podcast is so valuable! 🙌🏻😍

@scottvanwagenen1765 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. As a parent of a 13 year old girl this is so timely and so eye opening. You thinik you're doing it differently but in the end making the same mistakes. Thank you Rich and team for all you do.

@go2lucy Жыл бұрын

Oof. This is a gift for sure. Our teen had a mental health breakdown last year. SI, an attempt and SH landed them in the hospital then residential treatment. There were six other kids who were in the hospital for suicide - shocking yet it seems like that's where we are. It has been the hardest thing i've ever done and i'm so sorry my child is struggling yet wanting to push us away. Anyway, thanks for this Lisa and Rich.

@hillfarm7044 Жыл бұрын

I'm sorry that your kid is struggling, so hard to watch. Been there 11 years ago. I hope you have good help, which unfortunately is very hard to find. My son's Dr said to us, " we can help, he can get better." I literally didn't believe him at the time, as things were so bad. Know it will take time. It can get better. Talk with other parents in the same situation. We didn't have that, and we said a lot of stupid things all with good intentions. We are so thankful for our son's Doctor. Depression makes them push away all things that can help them- friends, family, interests, hope. it is a terrible place for any kid to be. Hang in there.

@mrs.cooleysclassroom2830 Жыл бұрын

Phenomenal episode. I was captivated the entire time. Thank you both.

@michelemarston6149 Жыл бұрын

One tween/teen challenge that you may have already covered in another conversation, Rich, is eating whole foods plant-based. My daughter says her "friends" say how mean her parents must be since we don't pack her lunch with foods that they eat. It creates a lot of frustration and disappointment on both sides. Please share how you navigate WFPB with tweens/teens! 🙏

@djackson4605 Жыл бұрын

There isn't a good reason to feed growing tween/teens a plant-based diet (barring very rare health issues). That isn't a good decision for their health/well-being, so I'd strongly recommend you evaluate why you're doing that at all... Children should have a normal relationship with foods, so any diet is very likely misguided.

@STEAMLabDenver Жыл бұрын

Wow. This was incredible. Thank you! ❤

@btimec5290 8 ай бұрын

This is just awesome. Thank you!!!

@veredgutriech5732 Жыл бұрын

thank you for inspiring conversation , so important for us parents to evolve, grow and to be present for our kids. loved listening

@greenandgreatfood Жыл бұрын

Lisa's 2019 Ep was one of my all time favourites... Loved this one too and will pick up the book. Thanks Rich and team.

@U2B2024 Жыл бұрын

Lisa Damour is excellent. I highly recommend picking up her 3 books.

@leeannhoffpauir1938 Жыл бұрын

What a pleasant conversation.

@hillfarm7044 Жыл бұрын

great content. thank you. Just want to point out that kids playing video games non stop as a distraction is not always a bad thing if the kid is suicidal. I focused on video games as a problem, and later realized it was coping mechanism. As she mentioned, "what are the costs?" For some, video games are literally a life saver. Keep the focus on the long term goal.

@azzahanafi1392 2 ай бұрын

Love it. Amazing. Thank you for the education.

@carlaraimer718 Жыл бұрын

🙏💜🙏 thank you . What a divine synchronicity this is .

@katis999 Жыл бұрын

very interesting, thanks Rich and Dr. Damour :)

@joannablazo6577 Жыл бұрын

incredible conversation; you found a new fan with me!

@CamMacMastermusic Жыл бұрын

First time listener (new subscriber) …… 10 minutes in and I feel like I’m not at a loss in the world anymore. Thank you ! And yes, I apparently chew too weird too !!

@bridiemacdonald9436 Жыл бұрын

Pandemic was terrible for teens full stop. Thanks for such a caring voice.

@bohemianqueen_ Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate this episode thank you! I have an 11 year old right now and noticing the shifts and it breaks my heart.

@divalivingston1664 Жыл бұрын

More to come so don’t allow these natural fluctuations to be more than they are because while your emotions are understandable in a given situation, just know it’s an evolution of them becoming an adult by trial and error.

@JAHinHK 11 ай бұрын

I'm with you, Erin. It's fricken hard.

@OMNIFICPICTURES 7 ай бұрын

Thanks I needed to hear this. My kid is 13 and just said she hates me. It’s a busy time and I am hoping to be the best father I can. It’s all too much but hope I survive it. I really love this kid ai just want to help her get through this.

@gailmunson2478 8 ай бұрын

This is the author of 3 books. Highly recommended.

@MardanAliyev Жыл бұрын

11:17 oh, man! you were reading my mind with 100% accuracy💙

@richardkish4002 Жыл бұрын

I don't have children but nonetheless I loved the two hours plus. Specifically, 'appreciated Lisa's very deliberate, contemplative approach to answering Rich's terrific questions.

@theIdlecrane Жыл бұрын

Can I also recommend Gabor Mate, "Hold on to your Kids"

@ElizabethEllisCoach Жыл бұрын

It’s a bit old now, pre- smart phones, social media, etc…but one of my favorites. Highly recommended. Co-authored with Gabor Mate.

@Herbivorous_Mari Жыл бұрын

Great EP here enjoyed the wisdom shared... Thanks Rich for having this important convo., as a mom myself of a 14 yr old young man this was much appreciated.... 🙏👊💚

@radessvk4441 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for enlightening conversation.I have 3 kids and I tell u I am confused as F.11,8,3 old…but I love it-it’s not easy-doesn’t even come close to describe the difficulty..but the rewards are heart melting ❤️thank you

@motivationsamuraiofficial Жыл бұрын

The production quality on this video was top-notch. You can tell a lot of time and effort went into making it.

@ElizabethEllisCoach Жыл бұрын

off topic, but please…where are the glass water bottles from? Now, on to the podcast.

@sylviekaiser1064 Жыл бұрын

When girls are saying they suffer, boys suffer too just not saying they are

@rutakr6293 Жыл бұрын

My son is 9 years and he acts like teenager. Moments it’s so hard. It was helpful information. I really need more patience and to learn just to listen and hear him. Still not sure how to make him do the basic stuff without arguing( like throwing his dirty socks to the right place)🤷🏻‍♀️

@natureisallpowerful Жыл бұрын

When you're kid doesn't want to knock about with you anymore, 😂😂😂

@MichaelAmen316 Жыл бұрын

What about how to naturally fix Ulcerative colitis??? 😭

@blairbabylon8504 Жыл бұрын

Or you could have called that section of the book, “It’s Really Hard to Be A Kinder, First, Second, Third, Fourth, Fifth, Nineth, Tenth, Eleventh, and Twelfth Grade Girl.”

@sunflower-oo1ff Жыл бұрын

Dear Rich…I hope your parents were not listening about you saying the negative way they brought you up…. It had to be hurtful…your kids might feel the same way about you one day, no matter how much efforts you put into bringing them up… it’s one thing to be told such a thing privately, another to tell the world about the failing of your parents.Nobody is perfect, you must know this by now. I am sorry, but I feel for your parents…. ;( teenagers and seniors are misunderstood these days… I am both …😉🌻🧡

@richardkish4002 Жыл бұрын

Hey, Sunflower I don't disagree with your comments, but 'just some context. Rich has referenced his parents not in an entirely positive light on numerous occasions in the past on his podcast. I suspect, too, that Rich has had these conversations with his parents. Oh, and one other thing. I don't interpret his comments about his parents either on this particular show or in other, previous show as a 'failing of his parents'. In other words, 'failing' and being 'imperfect'' (or as you say, 'nobody is perfect') are two very different things.

@mikeuptegrove Жыл бұрын

Without watching I can answer this easily: First, a mom and a dad. Second, a stable home. Third, peers who aren’t getting into stupid shit. Fourth, parents who parent and give their kids a good moral foundation to live their lives from. That’s about it.

@Mjr47 Жыл бұрын

She lost me at "Kids of other genders"...

@izesunshine2574 Жыл бұрын

Yes, that was crazy 😢

@paulbrereton5149 10 ай бұрын

She's just looking to avoid being "cancelled" by people unlike us. As someone new to who she is, I came away considering her and her thoughts the absolute best and most insightful on the subject.

@jakeobrien3774 Жыл бұрын

As a teen, I disagree with most of this. Simply allowing someone to experience life for themselves is fundamental. Parents should be passing down their knowledge rather than attempting to change their child. Any sort of manipulation is bad, so why are parents pushing views to their kids without knowing the answer to the child reacting to said view.

@CamMacMastermusic Жыл бұрын

@Jake For a moment, imagine that you have a family member that you deeply care for and then times that by 1,000,000,000 And then imagine your efforts in watching that person walk head first towards a fire and you try your hardest to help them to not get burned all the while not touching them physically or mentally. That’s what it feels like to be a loving parent. 😅😮😢❤

@clothestravel Жыл бұрын

What do teens need? A parent that will be their PARENT and not try to be their friend. These misguided parents these days from my generation just want to friend their kids instead of parent them.

@redbull9554 Жыл бұрын

I believe I can be both. Much love

@bonniemartin4232 Жыл бұрын

I was always my kids friend. I never punished them. All 3 are thriving, loving caring adults. We have an excellent relationship because their father and I always made the relationship top priority no matter what happening in the moment. Be the parent and not the friend is something that has been passed down without any thought given to what it means.