What to Do with Your "Sexual Needs" as a Christian | Authentic Sexual Freedom

What to Do with Your "Sexual Needs" as a Christian | Authentic Sexual Freedom | THEOLOGY OF THE BODY

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3 жыл бұрын

What do we do with our sexual needs? As John Paul II says, “The very manner in which we conceive of our sexual desires must be, from the start, to the greatest extent possible, freed from purely impulse-oriented, naturalistic presuppositions and shaped personalistically. To put that in layman’s terms: “You’re not an animal.”
In order to answer the question, “What are we to do with our sexual needs,” we must first look at our understanding of sexual needs.
Do we truly have sexual needs? Or are our sexual longings an expression of a deeper human need: the need for love.
00:00 What To Do With Your Sexual Needs?
00:18 Wisdom from JPII
01:12 You Are Not An Animal
02:02 What is a Person?
02:23 Christopher West's Story
03:37 Controlling Your Sexual Desires
04:41 What Is True Sexual Freedom?
05:43 First Time I Tasted Sexual Freedom
06:54 What To Do With Your Sexual Needs?
08:14 Recap: Open Your Needs To God
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@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 4 ай бұрын

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@emiliomilian369 3 жыл бұрын

“If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others, to gratify them.” Spectacular

@robin0540 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting thought. I think that is right.

@tamarajohll5735 2 жыл бұрын

But we can't ignore them...

@zxberdiusxz8112 2 жыл бұрын

@@tamarajohll5735 very very true, but the key word is control the urge. But not a slave.

@stonemaze9925 2 жыл бұрын

Bullshit. Stop spreading guilt

@a-sheepof-christ9027 Жыл бұрын

Sounds great, is complete nonsense. In a maritial relationship the wife MUST comply to the need of the husband: 1 Corinthians 7:5 Paul wrote: "Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan's temptation because of your lack of self-control." Here Paul does not referr to the "lack of control" as something unnatural, but as a natural consequence of being human and being denied: Sexually.

@caseymckee6856 3 жыл бұрын

Please pray for me brothers and sisters, I struggle with an addiction

@DR-nw3jn 3 жыл бұрын

Brother, pray the full rosary (20 mysteries) every day. Mary is powerful we don’t understand or realize just how powerful she is. God has given her all the graces to crush the head of the serpent. She never forsakes anyone who calls her.

@thethreefriends3002 3 жыл бұрын

Definitely start small and build up from there! Maybe 1 decade each day and build up you're prayer life little by little each week. I would also highly recommend going to confession and going to mass to help. I will be keeping you in my prayers

@lilibertnyasunu3564 3 жыл бұрын

Wear The Holy Rosary round your neck when temptation comes, under your clothes or the Brown Scapula. And pray The Rosary. Very powerful anti addiction. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@dea9n 3 жыл бұрын

Devoutly recite and meditate on the traditional 15 decade mysteries of the Most Holy Rosary. Use a Rosary blessed by a Catholic priest. Go for a thorough General Confession. Read about the Sacrament from a book to better understand it. Have fewer meals, fast and pray on bread and water.

@mxrider4764 2 жыл бұрын

@@DR-nw3jn mary will never set you free only the power of the cross of Jesus can set people free .stop spreading lies and

@thebeeft1p419 9 ай бұрын

Porn free for almost 6 months now and I struggled since I was 8. Sad stuff. Im almost 21 and been fighting it since I was 14. Keep praying to God constantly 10-15 times no matter how “unworthy” you feel. He sees you and hears you and he can change you. Fight it off, go to the gym, work, kick it with your homies, put yourself away from a space of temptation. Next girl/guy you talk to, live in the present with them and love the non sexual aspect and activities with them! Use this with any addiction. I used it for my weed addiction too and Im now 30 days weedless! God can do anything!

@danielbanovic511 9 ай бұрын

Needed to hear this from someone similar to me

@NH-en6et 9 ай бұрын

Lets goooooooo

@BornAgainBride 5 ай бұрын

Amen, hallelujah! Not sure if you ever read the Bible. But you might try reading, rereading, and studying it. It has lots of answers for us. For example, fear of God can be quite helpful. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Proverbs 9:10. Bible says that if we have lustful thoughts, it is akin to "adultery". Matt. 5:28. Christ said it. He also said that adulterers/promiscuous folks will be in the lake of fire. Rev. 21:8. Apostle Paul says that folks involved in fornication and adultery will not inherit the Kingdom. Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. And yes, this includes church folks. See Matthew 7:13-27. "Many are called, few are chosen". Matthew 20:16. BUT... the GREAT NEWS is that IF we know the Word of God, and continue in it, and believe it, we will realize that Jesus SAID HE came to save us OUT of slavery to sin. Read John 8:31-36 and Romans chapter 6 sometime. It's all in there. So, we are NOT slaves to sin anymore. So we CAN conquer lusts etc... And if we don't, we simply don't care enough to overcome all this, and probably don't really know or care about God all that much. Thus, we will not be in the Kingdom of God. Jesus said several times to the 7 churches of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, that they all need to overcome sin. Jesus' prescription for overcoming sin is in Matthew 16:24-27: He said we have to DENY SELF, pick up our cross (i.e., die to self, die to sin, die to satan), and follow Him. He said we have to "lose OUR lives" for Him, and also to "forsake all that we have" for Him to be His. See Luke 14:26-33 and Mark 10>28-30. So this walk is not a cakewalk. Jesus describes it as a "cross", and Paul said it will involve "tribulation" and trials. See Acts 14:22, 2 Tim. 1:8. Jesus said that those who love Him keep His commandments. The New Testament is reportedly loaded with about 1050 "commandments", so we had better get busy and find out what they are. And always remember, we have the power to overcome sin/lust/whatever within us, if we are His. Christ sends His Holy Spirit to us to help us and empower us. Hence, sin does NOT have any power over us anymore. See John 14:14-21, 17:17, and Romans 6:14. See also John 6:63. Please at least consider getting into your Bible.

@user-yx4fp3xy5b 5 ай бұрын

God Bless You🤍 keep letting Him be your strength

@Christina_320 Жыл бұрын

I’m a Christian woman and I struggle with this so much, I pray and fast and just waiting and praying for a husband so I don’t burn with lust. 😞😔🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️ It sucks so bad to put it bluntly. Thanks for speaking on a topic that is swept under the rug in most churches. Worded brilliantly.

@the.seagull.35 Жыл бұрын

In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:4‭-‬6 🙏

@the.seagull.35 Жыл бұрын

When one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, he went to the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume. As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them. When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is-that she is a sinner.” Jesus answered him, “Simon, I have something to tell you.” “Tell me, teacher,” he said. “Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?” Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.” “You have judged correctly,” Jesus said. Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven-as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” The other guests began to say among themselves, “Who is this who even forgives sins?” Jesus said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.” Luke 7:36‭-‬50 ❤✝️

@unkameatgoodbar2315 Жыл бұрын

I’m in the same position..I totally understand

@NzRazor Жыл бұрын

Everyone has a desire to be loved and have their sexual needs met. I suggest you find a decent man to explore with. Does God want you to suffer?? Lot of the things in the Bible is man-made, religion is a form of control. As long as you have a good heart, good morals. Stick with a man who desires you and enjoy what comes along with it

@the.seagull.35 Жыл бұрын

@@NzRazor "It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit." 1 Thessalonians 4:3‭-‬8 🙏

@SliderFury1 3 жыл бұрын

"Sexual freedom is liberation from the compulsion to induldge." I'm taking this one to the bank.

@sitka49 2 жыл бұрын

I had the compulsion to reading the Bible everyday, and I kicked the habit. I guess in goes for multitude of thing?

@DIBBY40 Жыл бұрын

And if it was true freedom surely it would also be freedom from the impulse not to indulge too?

@MirandaSinistra Жыл бұрын

Have you know anyone to 'suffer' from the impulse to not indulge? I don't even think that makes sense.

@DIBBY40 Жыл бұрын

@@MirandaSinistra Yes. People have starved to death because of the compulsion not to eat.

@MirandaSinistra Жыл бұрын

@DIBBY40 You have a fundamental misunderstanding of anorexia. Anorexics don't have a compulsion to not eat. They want to eat. In fact, many will confess that they love food but choose to ignore those desires for fear of gaining weight. What they're seeking, like the video alludes to, is control. The food and starving of their body is merely a mechanism of obtaining that control.

@oambitiousone7100 3 жыл бұрын

Western, educated, industrialized, rich, democratic (WEIRD) culture says to worship your impulses, and compel others to celebrate them. Christ: discipline is freedom.

@techtonic9100 Жыл бұрын

Are you seriously attempting to say that the idea of practicing sex freely and without regrets is a democratic western idea? Are you dull? Hundreds of eastern cultures have practiced sexual freedom and promoted acting on desires and impulses for millennia. Also why do you say educated, industrialized, rich like those are bad things? Without those things we’d still be in the dark ages. You’ve embarrassed yourself..

@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRain Жыл бұрын

@@techtonic9100 No, you’re the ignorant one!!!. I moved to the states from the eastern side of the world. Boy, I can relate to everything the other guy said. My first thoughts of the western world was how strange the people, their way of doing things, their form of humor and entertainment was. Everyone & everything is backwards! And yeah, it’s like totally anti-Christ. Wish I could go back to the East

@DFSLJC Жыл бұрын

@@techtonic9100mUh EaStErN PrACtiCeS is the answer to everything you can’t cope with as an atheist. Just like billions and billions and billions of years is the only answer to the secular religious “theories” explaining the origin of the world. It takes much more faith to believe in mUh BiG bANg than to believe a wholly awesome and perfectly intelligent being created the world as an artist does than to hang on to a 19th century Freemason racist that says we came from frogs. 🤦‍♂️

@chad1682 Жыл бұрын

@@DFSLJC no

@Cerebhk Жыл бұрын

I relapsed with my sexual desires. Earlier, I asked God for forgiveness and minutes later I came across this video. To me this is God speaking in his way. Listening to Christopher's story opened my eyes with what "true" freedom actually is. It is being liberated from our compulsion and having it under control is only when we truely taste freedom.

@sarahbahr857 Жыл бұрын

Same exact thing just happened to me! God is good. ❤❤❤

@normalbuerger Жыл бұрын

Or it's Google spying on you and suggesting content accordingly

@smokingcrab2290 Жыл бұрын

What sucks is that our desires will never actually be fulfilled. Not even in marriage. We just have to suffer with them for our entire lives. Theres no real freedom either way.

@fernandofuerte4786 Жыл бұрын

The freedom comes when you are satisfied by righteousness, and no longer even feel the need to indulge sexually. Imagine an obese person who loses 50 lbs and feels healthy and strong. They can now find satisfaction in eating food how it’s supposed to be enjoyed, by giving life. Just like sex, which is meant to give life and unity to a God fearing marriage. The once-obese person wouldn’t find the same satisfaction from over indulging in junk food once they’ve tasted the freedom

@davidm4566 9 ай бұрын

If (when, really) you slip up, get up, dust yoursef off, repent, and forgive yourself. Then keep moving forward. Please don't kick yourself after you ask forgiveness. Jesus says that are sins are as far from us as the East is to the West at that point.

@callmesketchy7525 11 ай бұрын

If you struggle with porn addiction, what helps me most is in that moment when temptation is mounting, and you begin to WANT to give in, say a prayer for relief, direction, peace, and strength. You may need to do it more than once per day, but it works. God saves.

@HypnoChode74 9 ай бұрын

I’ve been considering just reading random scripture to keep me from doin it…. I mean if my hands are busy doin something else.

@yaroslavmantsevich 6 ай бұрын

Fasting and keeping the flesh under your spirit before temptation is better than relying on your strength once tempted. Build your strength before your tempted so to say.

@jasonm444 6 ай бұрын

Something that has helped me is thinking of 1 Corinthians 6. There is a verse that says something along the lines of “flee from sexual immorality.” When you begin to experience temptation… FLEE! Move your physical body and try not to fight it. Go for a walk or run, go and talk to a family member, or call a friend. We are more apt to lose against temptation when we fight it in seclusion rather than flee and seek help or leave the physical setting. I hope this is helpful to someone. God bless everyone ❤

@BillBiggs1 5 ай бұрын

@@jasonm444Thank you. Good advice, most of us don’t take it in the literal sense but you literally have to flee.

@randybyers4885 5 ай бұрын

I overcame sexual needs through my cinsciebce, cannot be overcome in the flesh, the word keeps us straight, sexual temptation is a good comparison to finding money, will you try to finds the rightful owner or keep it for yiuemm my self, a matter of self denial, no t to be controlled by our bodies but our mind , Gis was nice enough to create sex , , why woukd he withdraw anting good thing from you, marriage is lawful, outside is wrong

@JayRedding12_12 3 жыл бұрын

I've always been saying this. Coming from a former practicing Alcoholic, the way people talk about sex sounded like Addiction.

@DonNado101 Жыл бұрын

I’ve been struggling with lust, pornography, sexual desires for a very long time. It seems like no matter how much I try to stop, I always relapse into it again. I pray the Lord gives me the strength to turn away from lust one and for all

@vinyl_hug795 Жыл бұрын

i can say, me too. i tried so hard to get free of my addiction of pornographie until i realized, its not about getting free of this but about letting God show me his Image of Men and Women.. How he created Sexuality, not how destructive it is when we live it like animals. I think since i dont chase freedom so hard, but chase the Original of Gods Idea of Sexuality, thats what sets me free of pornographie. I hope you understand, my english ;) I'm from Switzerland.. May bless you God on your way with new Hope and Graditude for his Gift of Sexuality! Michael

@JohnnyWalkerBlack142 Жыл бұрын

You have to be desperate. Fast and pray for a week

@eutimiolongoria4696 Жыл бұрын

Take it one step at a time. The Lord will acknowledge your efforts. Start with 3 days, then one week, and progressively work from there. When you relapse, repent and pray for forgiveness. The Lord understands our struggle. Even great men like King David and Samson struggled with this. God bless your journey to freedom 🙏

@danilaroche1156 10 ай бұрын

The Lord has heard you and you will overcome it. Porn is fornication and it also objectifies and perverts the sacred sex act. You should pray about marrying. You need a wife.

@travonpatton6353 9 ай бұрын

This is good. The flesh yet has to become weaker for sexual desire to become weaker. The spiritual now has to be fed and made strong, while the flesh starves, becoming unable to compel you as a slave because it is not strong. God will meet you down the road as you come back home to your divine nature.

@lisabinkley592 9 ай бұрын

I just keep searching for a single man that’s NOT MARRIED, to speak on this topic! So far everyone I’ve found that does, is married. I too, could speak easily on resisting if I were indulging in the benefits of marriage

@kelkabot 3 ай бұрын

Right??!!

@shadiafadulzarur3931 2 ай бұрын

Even within a marriage there are rules of chastity, so it doesn’t mean that these men are indulging. Also if you speak other languages you might find what you’re looking for, I know several LATAM Catholics who speak about TOB and are single.

@HighShepherdLopes Жыл бұрын

"allowing God's love into our sexual desires" actually game changing. Im 23 as of now, been struggling with impulsive sexuality and bisexuality (gay lite [lol]) and I always prayed for God to either take it away or change me and give me a new heart but NOWWW I know that i need to "let him into my sexuality" to not keep Him separate, not to remain in shame, but to bask in His victory and become engulfed in His perfect and unchanging love.

@Plans4YouJer2911 Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏 🙏 🙏 You are not alone my friend Keep moving forward in Holy Spirit Power

@John3_16-17 Жыл бұрын

The further we step into sexual impurity, the more twisted our desires become. It is right to ask God to reform your desires, both sexual and nonsexual so that our hearts learn to adopt God's perfect ways. When I was in high school, I was confused about my sexuality until I gave myself to God and allowed Him to rework my mind. Pray and seek the Lord's face and He will transform you into something good for His purpose and for your (spiritual) benefit

@sabinchacko3 Жыл бұрын

🙏🏽

@Plans4YouJer2911 Жыл бұрын

Romans 12 starts with renewing our minds The heart and mind are tied together The Bible also talks about the eyes and ears What we see and hear For men we have 4 basic needs Food, Water, Sex, Sleep I encourage you to start each day praying and committing all of your life and day to Him Then if you so choose or wish too, the issues or struggles you face daily Detail in prayer a recognition and commitment to God for help over that struggle Some people work thru it on their own Other's do counseling Whatever works for you I have my own personal detailed prayer I use when overwhelmed at times If you are a Christian, the daily walk is a life of progress towards God We are encouraged to a life of perfection and holiness However, we are human and make mistakes When we fall down, get back up Don't stay down You know your making progress in your life when you get back up or come back to God sooner than you used too And I know this thread is about sexual struggles However we can apply this to all areas of life "I struggle with __________ ......." Allowing you to fill in the blank of your personal problem With all this said and shared, I would be wrong to not include this information as well If you are not a born again Christian, then you need to start there Pray to God and ask Him to forgive you of all your sins To wash and cleanse you and make you right with Him If you ask "what is sin" ??? Sin is anything that you have done wrong according to the Bible and God standard Once you have prayed to God and asked forgiveness of your sins That starts a whole new life for you If you read this far and want to know more, please feel free to contact me Steve

@friedfish4415 9 ай бұрын

We will pray for you

@maggiecraigcatholicspeaker 3 жыл бұрын

“Not bound by urge but invited by love.” Oh man. This hits home. Thank you Christopher!

@estebanbaezs 5 ай бұрын

That only works for people who don't have an urge and just get married because they want to.. Not because they have struggles with sexual desire..

@PintsWithAquinas 3 жыл бұрын

Love you, Christopher. Such great advice.

@ge7454 3 жыл бұрын

Christopher West's video appeared in my feed right after watching you and Cameron at Scott Hann's library 🤓 Would it be possible to have Christopher again in the new studio?

@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 3 жыл бұрын

Back at you brother.

@raphaelapologetics4499 3 жыл бұрын

Wowy it's Matt Fradd!!

@maryzupo7176 3 жыл бұрын

@@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute I am thankful for your advice. I struggle greatly of late, I'm tired of waiting for the one. I'm beyond an old maid, in my mid 50s. Having had uterine cancer, and radiation treatments that caused narrowing of the vagina making it impossible for sexual intercourse. I've been with only one man, one time for all the wrong reasons. I understand God's will and not my own. I've lived a life serving others joyfully. It was difficult at times, and joyful, caring for my elderly parents full time 24/7 the last 7 yrs. I will be like Ruth, but I don't want to be Sarah's age of 90 when I find the man for me. It isn't the sex. It's about love, love between a man and a woman. Like you have with your wife. With love the rest will follow, what ever that will be for me. It just gets so hard at times. 😢. I pray everyday and to keep God first in my life. Thanks for listening.

@abelovedchildofgod7383 2 жыл бұрын

Then you are going to love Libido Dominandi: Sexual Liberation and Political Control by E. Michael Jones

@musclehamster7 Жыл бұрын

WOW. Absolutely incredible.. I prayed and I was lead to this video. Today, I was also lead to Psalm 55:22 "Cast your burdens upon the Lord and He will sustain you." I'm a single male, 25 yrs old and I live alone with my cat Meeka. I have a deep passion and love for the Lord and I am trying to continue in spiritual disciplines. I've been dealing with the issue of masturbation and pornography for the past few years and it stings every time I stumble and fall back into it and I feel so weak and weary from it. My spirit wants it to end and the Holy Spirit that lives within me and around me convicts me, but THIS is what I needed to hear. Instead of giving into my flesh and sinful nature, the sexual urges and sexual needs NEED to be reoriented and redirected to inviting God {through prayer} to bring HIS love into this and allow Him to take control and CONTINUE to renew my mind. Praise The Most High!!! The Lord uses you, Chris. Please keep this up in doing the Father's will.

@loglounge.de.podcast Жыл бұрын

Remove the word "issue" with "opportunity" 😂😂😂😂😂 For real when you m then youre brain is trying to detraumatise you and its only a problem when you keep trying with the people and systems that then try to traumatise you again. They dont wanna hear that they are the trauma so they blame sexuality. Youre brain is programmed to be sexual. Youre literally saying god was doing wrong with building youre brain. Youre literally saying god is wrong. His evolution is wrong. Thats anti

@dan69052 Жыл бұрын

knowledge If you are gay or transgender and know someone who is, this is important information! Sexual orientation is determined in the womb during fetus development. Various hormones are introduced at specific times to accomplish this. The fetus plays no part in this process. A person is born with predetermined physical, biological & psychologic features. It is, therefore, not a choice & consequently not a sin & not immoral. It is a natural path of our evolution & found commonplace in nature. Medical research in this area clearly explains this process. Those who believe it is an abomination do so based not on facts but on religious authority. It is their right to believe this and I understand them. It must be made clear however, it is based on religion not science. If you are truly interested in the truth based on knowledge, the book Gay, Straight & the Reason Why by Dr. Simon Levay explains this with numerous research articles. If you want to understand the truth & have respect for others & yourself, this book will help. It also has, unlike the bible written over 2000 years ago by men that had no understanding of science, an extensive bibliography. I strongly recommend the book. If you chose to respond to me, please read this book &/or the numerous articles referred to in the reference section before hand. The public must be exposed to facts & knowledge. It is an obligation for those who know the truth & must defend it. Don’t let the religious pull you down to their level of ignorance. Peace

@IAMness222 Жыл бұрын

You can try letting go method, or by use mind over matter technic, for example if your addicted to cola or anything, whenever you see it or think about it, you tell yourself I don’t do that anymore! But the issue is resistance you shouldn’t resist but love and acceptance, self love is important, you keep reframing your thoughts bse there’s nothing your dealing with except your thoughts! If you change your thoughts about anything you will change the outcome!

@Plans4YouJer2911 Жыл бұрын

Musclehamster You are on the right track Continue to move forward and commit to God Holy Spirit lives within you Paul encourages us to renew our minds which should lead to renew our lives Satan wants to beat you down with failure Failure that you did it again Commit to God Cast out thoughts and desires that are ungodly and not spiritual If they don't leave, keep praying or speaking out loud for them to leave Bible says resist the devil and he will leave Problem is he will come back unexpectedly Always keep that in the back of your mind I have not arrived yet But much further along than even a year ago Blessings to you in your journey my friend

@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier Жыл бұрын

Be aware, brother in Chist : I've been in such a situation too, yet the devil know how to tempt even the most solid in the Spirit, and eventually make them fall. If you have sexual urges, MARRY. Do not stay alone for too long, it's a trap to take you down under and eventually you will relapse again.

@bittersweet7014 Жыл бұрын

5:24 "Sexual freedom is liberation from the compulsion to indulge." Incredible take! I'd never heard anyone explain this in such a way. I have always known this, but seeing it put into words is amazing. Living in this lust-filled narcissistic society, it's such a refreshing take to hear.

@andrewjjahn 3 жыл бұрын

“You’re not an animal” that got me.

3 жыл бұрын

Animalia - Chordata - Mammalia - Primates - Haplorhini - Simiiformes - Hominidae - Homininae - Hominini - Homo - Homo Sapiens.

@bruceburkhart7813 3 жыл бұрын

@stephen hancock Believe it or not, you're better than that

@Tyler_W 3 жыл бұрын

@stephen hancock i think a better way to put it is that man is not merely an animal. Our animal biology isn't the sum total of what makes us who we are. We're one of them, but not just like them. We're beyond the mere animal of our nature.

@donnalambs9578 5 ай бұрын

Then why do I live in a barn?

@alejandrasuarez1202 2 жыл бұрын

"Love can't wait to give. Lust can't wait to get." - Jason Evert Thank you so much Christopher for explaining this amazing mystery to us and expand our knowledge in God 🥰

@craighenry9512 Жыл бұрын

Man is that one incredible quote.

@Grokford Жыл бұрын

False dichotomy

@alexanderv7702 Жыл бұрын

A pure sound bite!

@powerjolt7215 Жыл бұрын

That quote is beautiful. Remarkable!

@Grokford Жыл бұрын

@@powerjolt7215 The quote is a misrepresentation of the issue.

@KlonkyDonkers 11 ай бұрын

Definitely a taboo subject with Christians, so thank you for making this video. Sex is a good and sacred thing, given to us from God, however like most things, this world has taken it and perverted it. I'm glad you had the determination to talk about it when so many others don't.

@michaelodonnell9589 Жыл бұрын

“Whenever I could get my girlfriend to cooperate.” Great line and so accurate in revealing a lot of men’s experiences.

@MindandQiR1 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not even Christian and I'm so touched by this video.

@Jesusisallandiamnothing 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe you should become one if you feel a calling from this. Welcome to the family, God Bless you.

@danielfeliciano9840 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, honestly, you can give it try❤

@MeisterEck 2 жыл бұрын

thank you for your comment, that's quite astounding! you know... there are from the beginning children of god and not his children. you gotta find out which one you are

@ashleyspurling5701 Жыл бұрын

@memyselfiallthings maybe you shouldn't force your beliefs on others

@Julianrocker200 Жыл бұрын

@@ashleyspurling5701 that’s not forcing

@br1ghtraven578 3 жыл бұрын

Funny enough, I'm an atheist who made it my new year's resolution to kick the habit of indulging in pornography. And this video happens across my feed. Great upload, Mr. West. Cheers🍻

@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 3 жыл бұрын

Good on you, my friend. Freedom is worth it

@eoinMB3949 3 жыл бұрын

Bro you're on the right path, I've been Freed from porn and if I can do it then you lost definitely can. My only advice to you is no matter how many times you fail and fall off the wagon, dont give up, dont make a compromise with porn. Get back up and go again even if you fall 10000 times, get up 10001 times.

@ynzmadeleine Жыл бұрын

Synchronicity... ❤

@stephenking4170 Жыл бұрын

your God given conscience is at work. We are all made in the image of God. With a conscience, the power of abstract thought, great (compared to animals, not God) level of creativity. Think Paganini Violin concerto, mathematical equations to explore physics etc.

@BoazsCrown222 Жыл бұрын

Look up the Novena Prayer called The Efficacious Novena to The Sacred Heart of Jesus ❤️‍🔥 He will heal you 🙏🏻❤️‍🔥

@Digganob590 5 ай бұрын

I have recently finished a 60 hour fast, broken by communion, which has shed much light on my lusts. I had found, then, that fasting all but eliminated the power of sexual temptation. I was tempted many times in the same ways I was before, but each time, the temptations had no weight, no draw on my attention. But of course, fasting cannot be done at all times, and once I had a hearty meal, the temptations descended once more with renewed fury. I soon gave in, then. However, in my disappointment, and in my struggle against these temptations, I came across this video. I have listened to many instructions on how to deal with sexual temptation, and pornography especially. But this one struck a cord. For the past several hours, I have been left alone, no responsibilities or company, and so have been assailed by temptation constantly. And so I struggled. I would constantly consider the temptations, toy with them, admonish myself, pray for a moment, all while I was trying my best to distract myself with a personal project of mine. When I came across this video, I was just about on the verge of giving in. The excuses whispered to me were nearly deafening, for why tonight would not be a failure if I succumbed. But something you said clicked. What are my sexual desires for? I have seen one purpose tonight, as I was battling temptations. I was, in my struggle, working. Creating. Channeling my energy. The desire was put towards something, diverted, if only a little, from the dam of sin and damnation that was about to burst. And at the same time, I was strengthening my will, painfully aware of every crack The Enemy was grasping and prying at. And when I inevitably am tempted again, I will remember what I have learned, and put it to use once again. And when I inevitably fail, in big ways and small, I will learn yet more. The road to salvation is a hard one, fraught with miseries and distractions, the road agents of the Devil, ready to take advantage of the suffering traveler. But if I don't give them my soul, no matter how they may beat me down, and weary me to collapse, the Lord will pick me up once again, to press forward, and continue the pilgrimage. I will be doubtless tempted again, very soon. Pray for me, please. I will certainly need it. A revelation does not save a man, no matter how profound, not alone, and not immediately. But I am better equipped, now. The gate is stronger, the tower taller. The armor of God is reforged, and replaced upon me. I have been granted a hopeful repast. But now, I must go to face my enemy, once again.

@jasonbeckstrand5553 9 ай бұрын

"If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others to gratify them." WOW

@dernevalsantos3619 3 ай бұрын

This is bullshit.

@eoinMB3949 3 жыл бұрын

I had almost the exact same experience. Sex became my master and I was its slave. Only by coming to know God was I able to see the truth about sexuality. The world says we're free to do whatever we want and it's all good, but that's a lie, its not all good. The consequences of sexual sin are devastating. When I saw the truth or to be more accurate, when the holy spirit showed me the truth, I could see that so long as I was in bondage to my sexual "needs" I could never love a woman properly. Because I'd always have a secret agenda, to use her for my own gratification. And I think this is why so many marriages fail, because each one is trying to get something from the other. Women use men aswell, not for sex though, but for attention and resources. Both men and women have been equally corrupted by sin. Women have to be careful that a man isnt just using her for his own gratification and men have to be careful that a woman isn't using him for attention and resources, she should love you the same if you're broke as if you were doing well.

@stonemaze9925 2 жыл бұрын

god does not exist

@ButtsandFarts Жыл бұрын

Amen 🙏

@christianhenry4173 Жыл бұрын

Exactly. Sadly today this message is not preached in pull pits. Most preaching is only for marriages and families already established but little to no knowledge for singles. And the sad part is that churches are encouraging singleness too much 😢 somewhere along the line people need to connect to the holy spirit instead of purging their own flesh through rituals like Paul warned some of the churches in the new testament

@ashleyspurling5701 Жыл бұрын

Funny...my experience is the exact opposite. Growing up in purity culture and abstinence til marriage beliefs left me feeling nothing but shame for my natural human longing. It left me depressed and lonely. Years later, I'm still dealing with physical mental and emotional effects on my health this way of thinking had over me.

@pyercz5224 Жыл бұрын

golden wisdom

@avb20540 3 жыл бұрын

I've experienced this freedom after a long time of being enslaved. It is incredible. No need to stay up late at night and try to get something. I can just save my energy and sleep early and have a good day the next day.

@BornAgainBride 5 ай бұрын

Not sure if you ever read the Bible. But you might try reading, rereading, and studying it. It has lots of answers for us. For example, fear of God can be quite helpful. The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom. Proverbs 9:10. Bible says that if we have lustful thoughts, it is akin to "adultery". Matt. 5:28. Christ said it. He also said that adulterers/promiscuous folks will be in the lake of fire. Rev. 21:8. Apostle Paul says that folks involved in fornication and adultery will not inherit the Kingdom. Galatians 5:19-21; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. And yes, this includes church folks. See Matthew 7:13-27. "Many are called, few are chosen". Matthew 20:16. BUT... the GREAT NEWS is that IF we know the Word of God, and continue in it, and believe it, we will realize that Jesus SAID HE came to save us OUT of slavery to sin. Read John 8:31-36 and Romans chapter 6 sometime. It's all in there. So, we are NOT slaves to sin anymore. So we CAN conquer lusts etc... And if we don't, we simply don't care enough to overcome all this, and probably don't really know or care about God all that much. Thus, we will not be in the Kingdom of God. Jesus said several times to the 7 churches of Revelation chapters 2 and 3, that they all need to overcome sin. Jesus' prescription for overcoming sin is in Matthew 16:24-27: He said we have to DENY SELF, pick up our cross (i.e., die to self, die to sin, die to satan), and follow Him. He said we have to "lose OUR lives" for Him, and also to "forsake all that we have" for Him to be His. See Luke 14:26-33 and Mark 10>28-30. So this walk is not a cakewalk. Jesus describes it as a "cross", and Paul said it will involve "tribulation" and trials. See Acts 14:22, 2 Tim. 1:8. Jesus said that those who love Him keep His commandments. The New Testament is reportedly loaded with about 1050 "commandments", so we had better get busy and find out what they are. And always remember, we have the power to overcome sin/lust/whatever within us, if we are His. Christ sends His Holy Spirit to us to help us and empower us. Hence, sin does NOT have any power over us anymore. See John 14:14-21, 17:17, and Romans 6:14. See also John 6:63. Please at least consider getting into your Bible.

@arbretree5463 5 ай бұрын

True!

@MrJaundice18 9 ай бұрын

This is so true... "They promise freedom when they themselves are slaves of corruption" - II Peter 2:19

@kaidruhlusa Жыл бұрын

In my own experience, sexual activity outside and inside of marriage never has delivered on the promise of love. At times a deeper bonding, but never the fullness of love that I am now beginning to experience in relationship with my Lord and Beloved Jesus. At the same time sexual desire is waning, and has mostly disappeared, while there is no lack of attractive women around me. True love I find in giving of myself in acts of kindness, in loving service to my Lord. I think that our "needs" grow in proportion to the attention that we are giving to them and to ourselves. The cure may be to put our attention on Jesus and on our neighbor, as the Lord is teaching us.

@a.p5079 3 жыл бұрын

Not just a struggle for men! Thanks for the video.

@samvimes9510 Жыл бұрын

One thing that helped me a lot is to just distract myself. If you feel the urge to look at pornography, do something else. Video games, photography, gardening, exercising, etc. Whatever it is just needs to be engrossing enough to pull your focus away from your sexual urges. Of course, that method probably works better if you're single. It's probably harder if you're dating someone, but I don't really have any advice for that sorta thing. It's been like a decade since I've been with anyone.

@riverasamuel911 9 ай бұрын

“If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others, to gratify them.” Jesus, that's exactly what I have done in the past. I needed to hear this

@zlatkoiliev8927 Жыл бұрын

I personally think that my wife is really attractive and when I am around her I have desires for her! But I always respect when she is not in a mood. Does not feel ok, but I know some times it happens and I try to understand her. But also showing that you have desire to your wife should not be considered as a bad thing.

@JenniferWilliams-jy7rz 3 жыл бұрын

St Francis of Assisi would roll in the snow, true story.

@toompyfloyd4074 3 жыл бұрын

St Benedict hopped nude into a thorn bush!

@enriquetaborda8521 3 жыл бұрын

St. Bernard would dive into a freezing lake

@mikedevita5558 3 жыл бұрын

Well. That's out.

@cryosteam3944 3 жыл бұрын

@@mikedevita5558 🤣🤣🤣

@Ihathnotscene 3 жыл бұрын

Angels tied a cord tightly about St. Aquinas' waist.

@KB-eb1lc Жыл бұрын

"If you can't control yourself, you'll try to manipulate the people around you to indulge your own desires" (I paraphrased. This was my ex husband, 110%, whether it was about sex, alcohol, or drugs. He makes so much more sensenow, I wish I'd heard this 5 years ago.

@myafrb4196 Жыл бұрын

Don’t go back though, take it to God

@Notme811_you 2 ай бұрын

let god handle him. He had a responsibility to fix that and he failed to do so.

@skle2300 Жыл бұрын

I have been struggling with my sexual indulgences for most of my life, which has been made so easily accessible with the internet. I met a woman that reminded me of how far I've run from my faith and encouraged to me to come back. She bought a copy of your book for me and I'm working my way through it. Some days are easier than others, but I struggle often with differentiating between what you describe as "suppression" in your book and how I can "embrace my sexual desires" as God intended them to be without straying towards lust. I pray on it quite a bit, but I find myself sliding back down every couple of days. I'm going to take away "If you cannot control your own sexual desires, you will inevitably seek to control others, to gratify them," because I know she deserves better as someone I would like to call my wife some day.

@josephbrandenburg4373 Жыл бұрын

I think I often fall into the temptation to pretend that I'm not nearly as interested in sex as I actually am. I end up "repressing" it by telling myself I've "improved" or "matured"... but it's not an improvement to want it less or to enjoy it less. It's an improvement to be able to feel it more fully without being controlled by it!

@smokingcrab2290 Жыл бұрын

Make sure you marry a woman who has the same level. Of sexual desires as you otherwise there will be serious issues.

@melstarr1864 9 ай бұрын

@@smokingcrab2290But how will you know this before you are married?

@reubenkriegel7639 Жыл бұрын

This was a problem I had in my marriage, too. I have finally learned how to surrender it to God now, and I'm finally free in Christ!

@PsychoBible 3 жыл бұрын

Someone's up'd his editing game!

@adamduarte895 3 жыл бұрын

I needed this, I struggled (and still do to a lesser extent) with the exact situations you described, as a man. I may not be a Catholic (Baptist myself) but the Holy Spirit spoke to me through you. Thank you so much brother and pray our Lord continues to bless you with an even further reach as time progresses.

@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad to hear it, brother. God bless!

@karinacg8118 Жыл бұрын

Me too

@AndersonOliveira-kh6kk Жыл бұрын

are u brasilian?

@adamduarte895 Жыл бұрын

@@AndersonOliveira-kh6kk no but I know my last is Portuguese

@heatice77 Жыл бұрын

Man, that was awesome brother! I saw things I wish I never saw as a child and those chains are not fully off of me since. Parents not very affectionate and not much has changed since so it was great to hear this and I do desire ALL the chains to be loosened. Thank You

@larahamilton2273 11 ай бұрын

Great message! So powerful - if you cannot control your sexual desires, and you will control others around you to fulfill them. This is part of the reason why I don’t want to be in a relationship with a man. I’m so exhausted around being hounded for sex! Honestly, I believe that demonic influence and something close to possession can often be the problem even for “Christians”. I recently came back to Christ and went through several deliverances. I’m single, and loving it and not dominated by my desires 🕊️✝️ Don’t discount the need for spiritual warfare!!

@danilaroche1156 10 ай бұрын

I'm abstinent too. I've been delivered from many things. I still don't think if a person masturbates on OCCASION. I don't think that's sin. Any thoughts?

@Keepsearchinwontfindnothin 9 ай бұрын

⁠⁠⁠@@danilaroche1156it still is even if it isn’t all the time it still is Self control is one of the fruits of The Holy Spirit friend :) “not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want” (Galatians 5:16-17).

@BornAgainBride 5 ай бұрын

@lilibertnyasunu3564 3 жыл бұрын

Thank God this is being articulated by a MAN. Normally they protect each other when it comes to this "animalistic need". How refreshing. Thank you St Joseph. Somehow I knew something miraculous will happen in this Consecration of The Year of St Joseph. Thank you again St Joseph. ST JOSEPH pray for us.

@TexasAmericaUSA 3 жыл бұрын

And the Bible specifically says "... not by power, not by might, but by God's Spirit. We speak to the mountain and shout GRACE! GRACE! " So don't try in your own will power-- you'll fail. Instead, humble yourself to God in your weakness and He'll make a way through. I pray His best for everyone!! 🙏

@SunnyWithNoChanceOfRain Жыл бұрын

The best comment 👏💯

@jawshlitelife Жыл бұрын

Thank you for the clarity, I’ve been on the right path longer than expected and now I know when it’s ok to say “yes”

@DrBahiruLegesse-SCIsurvivor 9 ай бұрын

Sexual freedom is liberation from compulsion to indulge.....well said.

@paulvillarreal4855 3 жыл бұрын

Wow! This is so beautiful and is so desperately needed in our society! Thank you!

@maycamilleri8308 2 жыл бұрын

These lessons are my saving grace.

@samuelpayampsdominguez6788 11 ай бұрын

May God keep blessing your life !! You’ve helped me a lot to get over all my thoughts and feelings about sexual desires. Know I’ve understood😭

@MistyGlades567 11 ай бұрын

Brilliant! I love the concept of inviting God to transform our desires by his Love and turn our desires into a prayer 🙏🏽

@nsoreviews 3 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear that today Christopher West, thank you very much.

@sormag 2 жыл бұрын

Praise the Lord for this wonderful teaching!

@carlinmccormick1105 Жыл бұрын

I have wanted to know this since puberty until today at 65 years old. Thanks for being brave enough to talk about sexual impulses within our Christian walk.

@ez-g3090 8 ай бұрын

You probably can't even get pregnant anymore. Your sexual purpose is gone.

@TheSPACEDIEVEST1 Жыл бұрын

This is so well put! Amen brother

@dkonkel1 3 жыл бұрын

One of the finest presentations of an answer to this perpetually pondered question

@samlammers7602 3 жыл бұрын

Glad to be a part of this youtube channel before it blows up. 😄

@ScientificLee Жыл бұрын

Praise the Lord for giving men such wisdom.

@sassafrassanid5718 Жыл бұрын

I’ve seen a couple people that have a voice and a manner of speaking that penetrates my heart, and Christopher West is one of them. I feel like it’s almost a gift, or it might be that the Holy Spirit is working powerfully through these people. Either way, I can most assuredly say that you are doing God’s work through your ministry!

@thoranpernia Жыл бұрын

I came across your channel a couple weeks ago. This video showed up in my feed ... and what good timing. Thank you Lord for directing me here to hear this - this is exactly what has and is happenìng to me. I see it clearly now. What really hit home for me was where you said in that moment of urge, instead of giving into it, take it to our Lord and pray. I believe this is what our Lord is directing me to do. ... thank you & God bless you!

@jacobgunderson493 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing video! Great backdrop. Looks good with the white light in the front and the warm yellow in the background. Awesome editing! (Loved the little JPII translate graphic) And of course... terrific content!

@pnovotar Жыл бұрын

Thank you for addressing a sensitive subject with truth. As a widow, your message is the first I have heard on the subject. May God bless you for sharing with love and truth!

@oliverwilson5957 Жыл бұрын

I recently had a sexual awakening of my own I also felt the compulsion to please myself. But every time I did, the desire to just went away. I only kept releasing my urges just to relieve built up stress and my climaxes felt less impactful It wasn't until I realized that I wasn't in tune with the emotional aspect and was only relying on primal urges. When you have sex with someone, they aren't just an object to release your desires upon. I realized that they feel just as you do, so if you ignore their wellbeing and feelings it numbs the connection you normally would feel together. Like a vampire draining energy from another person instead of creating energy and sharing it together After realizing that, I felt the desire to honor my partner and their body just as I would expect them to do the same for me Changed my whole outlook on intimacy and sex overall

@dustinryan9671 Жыл бұрын

Wait so your still having sex and not married and when you say partner are you indicating your a homosexual?

@danilaroche1156 10 ай бұрын

Do u think it's sin to masturbate, say once or twice a month? I find praying about this, the strong urge doesn't always leave. Any thoughts?

@zion367 9 ай бұрын

Well explained. Now I do wonder... I am 37 yrs od and have not have a partner or sex since 2019 and one 5 min slip up in 2020 where I stoppen mid act. However, I do have a need for physical intimacy and it does not feel aligned to condem myself for the need to help myself every now and then. Would it mean that it is sinful to love and pleasure my own body? Why would that be wrong? (Unless it becomes an obsession ofcourse)

@jacobtang6279 3 жыл бұрын

What a beautiful sharing. Thank you so much!

@ChrisGBaker 3 жыл бұрын

Sir, you are a brave man. Thank you for sharing these gifts of logic and compassion.

@victoriabakurumpagi2439 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your tips. I am a widow and was just wondering what to do with my feelings. I am going turn them into a prayer. I am sure I will feel better and keep going without falling into sin. May God bless you. You reminded me that I am not an an animal, that I can control my feelings by redirecting them elsewhere.

@tobb2293 9 ай бұрын

My 4 year relationship ended for the same reason! Damm this video hit hard, felt the Holy Spirit with me all trough it! Amen 🙏

@manuelcamac780 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing. A truly amazing invitation to freedom.

@TheLauraMarieT2 2 жыл бұрын

Beautifully stated! 🕊🙏🏼

@aurangonzalez2284 Жыл бұрын

This helped me in my relationship, and god led me here to learn. Doing good!

@andy-in9mt Жыл бұрын

Wow! What a powerful message. Thank you for sharing that!

@kuamiaba1710 2 жыл бұрын

This blessed me very much. Needed to be reminded of this 🙏🏾

@jgfffffffhjiufdddj Жыл бұрын

best talk on this, ever. amen. thank you God !!! thank you Mr for partnering with him

@greatoutdoors6318 9 ай бұрын

I agree with this guy. I’ve found so much freedom in having kids, because I’ve started to see that sex is only the first step in a journey of love. It starts as a couple and gives birth to a new life.

@cryosteam3944 3 жыл бұрын

well damn my mind has been blown and I think I have unlocked a new level of necessary comprehension of this particular topic... we are not animals!! amen!!

@pnovotar Жыл бұрын

Thank you for addressing such a sensitive and tender subject with truth and compassion! As a widow, I appreciate that someone has taken the time and love to speak openly, compassionately and truthfully. May God bless you, my brother.

@christopheroliveriii3985 9 ай бұрын

Outstanding message, thank you for sharing. This message needs to be taught on every street corner and pulpit.

@bastit9188 Жыл бұрын

It is so good!! I love it! I thought about same-sex relations too, cause it's for them like for us, but they have these feelings towards a person of the same sex. And they cannot change it towards a person from the other sex. I think for them it's the same, coming into a loving relationship and being a image, that we all need contact to the same sex too, we're not a lone as a men or a woman and only need deep contact to the other sex.

@donquixotedelamancha58 3 жыл бұрын

Nice to hear from Christopher West again

@terrytaz8914 11 ай бұрын

Great and intelligent perspective. Thanks brother. I will revisit this vid repeatedly

@adambentley8384 8 ай бұрын

Your testimony struck my deep in my heart because I went through the exact same situation in my early twenties and had never heard my feelings articulated so well. Thank God for leading me to this video. I long to love my wife one day with true sexual freedom as you described.

@MA-mh1vs 9 ай бұрын

When I was called to celibacy I prayed for deliverance from sexual desire so I would not be tempted. The Holy Spirit instructed me on what I had to do to be freed from that nature. It was a six month process of rebuking every thought or impulse and immediately turning to God. The final phase was the hardest, there was something very primal that rose up in me, enraged and this awareness that if I just yielded the rage would go away. I resisted it for weeks and then one morning I woke and it was gone and I was free from such desires. God is so faithful!

@averylayne558 9 ай бұрын

My goodness, you hit the nail on the head. I was having flashbacks to my previous relationship as I watched this. I couldn’t help but smile oddly enough as I said “yep, I was the same way!” Not that me being that way was good, but what’s good is that God showed me who I was and freed me from it. That’s the good part. For anyone watching, listening, etc., my hope is that you grow more to realize that the freedom Christ brings us is exactly as outlined in the video: “freedom FROM”, not “freedom TO”. And if you feel like you don’t have that freedom, then pray and don’t stop. If you desire it, God CAN and WILL bring it.

@lauratorres6039 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for clarifying what I had suspected for so long. Very sound advice. Sex is not gratifying without love and understanding with God at the center of the relationship.

@giorgiosopko4626 9 ай бұрын

When you were explaining your life andwhat you were going through at the age of 23 to 24, it was like i was being shown my own life right now. Im currently 23 and im struggling so much with constant gratification of my sexual compulsions. It was like you were describing exactly what im going through right now, as if a warning for my path ahead, especially with my relationship, which we are celebrating our third anniversary in two days. I cant explain how remarkable this was to hear you explain what to do about my sexual desires, opening that area of my life to God. And that is exactly what Im struggling to do aswell, it feels emberassing and wrong to open that part of myself, but after hearing you explain that its good to do so, I realized that this fear i have is actually an attack by the enemy. Thank you so much for this video, you just opened a pathway to freedom for me!

@nickolasdavis4 Жыл бұрын

This is amazing. 😭😭😭 thank you so much

@tinahatmi5773 Жыл бұрын

Im struggling with sexual sin and as you said"sexual needs" and its so hard... Please pray for me 🙏🏻

@Plans4YouJer2911 Жыл бұрын

Tina Your on the right track Acknowledge your struggles and needs Honest true born again Christian will reach out and pray with and for you Both men and women have been there or are going through the same problem as you I have not arrived yet However am further along even a year later Blessings to You my friend ❤️

@stephanvillavicencio5679 Жыл бұрын

me too. ill pray 🙏 for you. please pray 🙏 for me

@tinahatmi5773 Жыл бұрын

@@stephanvillavicencio5679 thank you my friend 🙏🏻God bless you 🙌🏻 And i prayed for you 🤍

@a.p5079 3 жыл бұрын

Also, great and accurate message. It is so true how lack of sacredness in sexual acts leads to an emptiness in relationships and one’s self respect/dignity.

@stonemaze9925 2 жыл бұрын

Crap

@ashleyspurling5701 Жыл бұрын

Funny being in purity culture and Christianity's abstinence til marriage beliefs are what left me with no self-respect or dignity.

@IramCoercere Жыл бұрын

@@ashleyspurling5701 Abstinence is not your problem and never was. You have probably different problems and abstinence was not the trigger for this

@ashleyspurling5701 Жыл бұрын

@No mercy yes. It was. The fact that you can't comprehend that just shows that your username is accurate. And it also shows how brainwashed you are and never truly met anyone who doesn't conform with your harmful backwards ideas. Abstaining from sex for so long caused vaginismus and to this day I still can't physically have sex long after marriage.

@spaceowl5957 Жыл бұрын

I am atheist and my friend always calls me a “wannabe slut” because I would probably be quite promiscuous if it wasn’t for me having severe social and emotional issues from a shitty childhood. I only had real sex for the first time recently with said friend. And it’s nice and fun and pretty intimate, too. If it’s really good it can definitely make me a little bit happier for a few days. If it’s bad it can also make me unhappier for a few days. But I also become happier for a few days if I masturbate and it’s really good. If I don’t have sex or masturbate I don’t become depressed either, I just get more horny. Sometimes you can redirect the energy of horniness into work. And sometimes the idea of having sex can be very motivating and help you work or take care of yourself and try harder. It can also bond two ppl together because it’s quite intimate and vulnerable and you share good feelings. And it can also make your mind slightly obsessed with a person in a sexual way if you had rlly hot sex. So sex is very useful and powerful and has many different powerful effects on you which can be very positive but can also be negative under the wrong circumstances. But for me it’s really not a “need”. I don’t become sad if I don’t have sex at all. I crave sex. But in the same way I crave a bag of chips. This bag of chips isn’t inherently meaningful to me. It’s not going to bring me fulfillment. But I just really *crave* it right now. But that doesn’t mean it’s a biological *need* to eat the bag of chips. In the same way sex isn’t really a need for me. However what are real needs are intimacy, affection, companionship the care of another human and so on. Without those things our spirit withers away and we become depressed. Those things are meaningful. At least to me. The bag of chips isn’t meaningful by itself but if you share it with a friend and afterwards you cuddle it might be. But maybe I his also differs from person to person or between genders. I’m a man and I crave sex but I don’t need it. It’s not *important* to me or my life. But I’ve heard from several women that they do think it’s important and meaningful in their lives. I also think many people in the modern world are starved for intimacy and affection and the only way they can get it is by entering into a sexual relationship with someone. Maybe that’s why people value it so much. But for me it’s really not easy hat important. But my body is programmed to be horny and so I’m trying to make the best of it and use it to further my happiness.

@maria.1313 Жыл бұрын

This is so rich and profoundly beautiful, thank you for sharing on this very important topic. Eros, in God is Holy and beautiful, as we can gather from the Song of songs also. But fallen, exiled into the sexual alone, the animalistic urge that we've been brainwashed into believing that we are, is consumptive and ultimately empty. God has been healing and harmonizing my sexuality, raising Eros back into Love and im so grateful!

@RP07662 10 ай бұрын

Every man should hear this!!

@Sldoficn Жыл бұрын

Wow this is a great video even for married couples! ❤ God bless all men and women trying to do the right thing and get married with another Christian. Marriage is duty and raising a family, creating a loving bond together that reflects how Christ loves his bride the church. Thank you all brothers and sisters in faith, no greater love than a friend dying for another as Christ did! ❤

@Cpripri85 7 ай бұрын

NEEDED THIS. Thank you Brother. 38 and single, no kids......with the desire to GIVE LOVE. Needed this. Deo Gracias ❤️‍🔥

@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 7 ай бұрын

Glory to God! We're so glad it blessed you. Please pray for us.

@craigsmestad6952 Жыл бұрын

That was beautifully said! Why can't we see messages like this on mainstream media?

@Ashley_MG 11 ай бұрын

This was very well put together bro. Absolutely love the "Make it a prayer" part

@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 11 ай бұрын

We're glad it blessed you!

@jeffertron3973 Жыл бұрын

What a true and beautiful message about sexual liberation and pure love! Thank you for speaking from your past and your heart. Thank you for inspiring me to continue running the good race. Have a blessed day!

@patrickkozak9490 Жыл бұрын

You said it right, If we cannot control our own "needs" and desires, we will seek to control others to gratify them. This is true in all areas of life . Now the world pushes aetheism and will to power more and more, the opposite of love. So often especially in regards to advice in romantic relationships , it is popular now to focus on what you are getting from the other person. It is often recommended that of someone doesn't "SERVE" you, walk away from them, married or not.

@nickychum8939 Жыл бұрын

Amen brother!!!!! Thank you!!!

@wseejattan 11 ай бұрын

Man you nailed it. Bless you. I must share with my children.

@TheologyoftheBodyInstitute 11 ай бұрын

Please do!

@87PenguinsInBlack87 3 жыл бұрын

Christopher, your videos and podcasts never cease to teach me something new. I am currently discerning a life of celibacy and this video has been very helpful. Thank you.

@joeytavez7055 3 жыл бұрын

I hope you become a celibate. It's worth it.

@Zuzezno Жыл бұрын

I'm not a catholic, and let me tell you that from my perspective as a Christian, I loved your advice and how candid you got. God bless you.

@steven3837 Жыл бұрын

Catholicism is a denomination of Christianity friend.

@kylebalmer3396 Жыл бұрын

Heathen

@Zuzezno Жыл бұрын

@@steven3837I don't worship the Eucharist, nor I pray to dead people. The only object I deem holy is the Bible, but not the book itself, but what's written in it. I bow to no man or woman (except that one time I went to Korea, but that wasn't a religious thing). Nor I worship anyone or anything that isn't the Father, the Son or the Holy Spirit. I only get to God through Jesus, and Jesus alone. I don't think we believe the same stuff.

@filippiat9151 Жыл бұрын

@@Zuzezno Cathlolics also believe that Jesus is the only way to salvation “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (John 14:6). But since you're a christian, you probably pray for other people and sometimes ask someone to pray for you. Or at least you do not see a problem with that. Well, this is exactly what catholics do when they "pray" to saints or Mary. We don't ask them for strength, blessings etc. we ask them to pray to God for us, that's it.

@Zuzezno Жыл бұрын

@@filippiat9151Jesus said that he is the only way, but not just for salvation. For everything. Furthermore, we are prohibited to talk to dead people, as seen in Saul's story. Samuel was a great man of God, but it was nonetheless forbidden to try to contact him after death.