What to Say (and Not Say) to Comfort Someone Who’s Lost a Loved One

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Marie Forleo

Marie Forleo

Күн бұрын

How can you comfort someone who’s lost a loved one, experienced a tragedy, or is coping with bad news? It can be difficult to know how to console the people you care about in a way that’s genuine, not trite, and, above all, not unknowingly offensive.
In this MarieTV, Marie shares exactly what to say when someone dies, gets diagnosed with a terminal disease, or suffers a tragedy - with scripts you can steal for your own life. More importantly, you’ll learn exactly what NOT to say, so you can genuinely comfort and support those you love.
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@marieforleo
@marieforleo 3 жыл бұрын
Struggling with what to say to someone experiencing a tragedy? Use these quick links to catch the highlights: 1:26 - The right (& wrong!) things to say when someone shares a life-threatening diagnosis. 2:57 - Why your words can make the difference when tragedy strikes. 4:24 - How to console someone who lost a loved one. 5:10 - Can’t be there in person? How to write a heartfelt sympathy note. 6:16 - The most important thing you can do to support people you love. What’s next? Watch this playlist for more of our favorite nuggets of wisdom: kzfaq.info/sun/PLAxUz0wM51b-f5hvOrlDdcHlUR-d0JcfF
@akankshasecure4495
@akankshasecure4495 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this too I can take screen shot and remind myself what to say & what not to
@snehasworld9007
@snehasworld9007 3 жыл бұрын
p"l
@kaleydiamond4180
@kaleydiamond4180 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I've been looking for advice to deal with my cousin (her dad died) And as someone who doesn't care about anything it's kinda hard to comfort her.
@jonpogue427
@jonpogue427 Жыл бұрын
Everything you said is Wrong! This needs to be removed from the internet!!!
@Angelika0325
@Angelika0325 7 жыл бұрын
When you don't know what to say, a hug helps.
@Pumpkin0_0
@Pumpkin0_0 7 жыл бұрын
My neighbor's beloved dog died recently and she didn't like the hug. Some people don't want to be touched in tragic moments, even if they're usually not like that.
@mmmmmmolly
@mmmmmmolly 7 жыл бұрын
Eiko Pumpkin Yeah, i agree, I'm a touchy person, i touch my colleagues on the shoulder all the time and it doesn't bother me if i do the same, the first thing i would do if i hear something like this is hug the person but not all people like it. or maybe she just wanted to keep it together, i know I can't gold in tears if I'm hugged.
@v.berart8854
@v.berart8854 7 жыл бұрын
I'm a hugger too, and I believe that most people are touched starved... but I've learned to ask them for their permission before I do it!
@Frankendeth
@Frankendeth 7 жыл бұрын
A coworker gave me a big, warm hug today when she learned about a recent tragedy. It was amazing how comforting it was, especially given that I don't know her that well. However, I've always been a hugger, and I know that people have different needs as far as personal space is concerned. A hug can be an amazing panacea, but it's probably a good idea to ask permission first.
@rose-if6vq
@rose-if6vq 4 жыл бұрын
how do I hug someone from the Japan when I am in Europe
@mingsun6159
@mingsun6159 6 жыл бұрын
On my husband's funeral , his cousin asked me: so what is your plan now? At that moment, I want to gauge her eyes out.
@krissy7342
@krissy7342 5 жыл бұрын
ming sun omg!! Whoa...I give you credit for not socking them in the JAW!! Losing a spouse is at the top of the list of losses (With ones child also on there). Hugs 🤗
@MosaidDeath
@MosaidDeath 3 жыл бұрын
That sounds like something stupid that I would say. This is why I am so afraid to talk to someone who a tragic experience, I’m afraid I’ll say the wrong thing and make the person mad. I remember when my mother passed away, and a lot of my friends said these kinds of well meaning but misplaced things at the funeral But I also remember thinking that at least they are trying, and at least they showed up. That meant more to me than what they said. I cut them slack because they were way out of their comfort zone, but were there for me anyways.
@Sylvia-Storm
@Sylvia-Storm 3 жыл бұрын
@@MosaidDeath I’m with you on that one. I never know what to say, and usually end up saying the wrong thing. People think I’m quiet but it’s just because I tend to not say anything rather than saying something I shouldn’t. I wish I was one of those people who always know what to say. In fact I feel people are just waiting for me to say something stupid, this I have done plenty of times and get constantly pulled up over it, or I notice people’s reaction which is not always positive.
@SpiritGuide11111
@SpiritGuide11111 3 жыл бұрын
I love your response 😂👍 Thats awesome 👏 I had a lady at church say to me after my daughter passed “I hope you don’t blame yourself? “ I could hardly respond I was so dumbfounded by the comment so I feel your sentiment 🤦🏻‍♀️
@marysutton434
@marysutton434 3 жыл бұрын
@@krissy7342 I agree.
@yvonstokkink793
@yvonstokkink793 7 жыл бұрын
When in doubt I feel "I don't know what to say" is a good response too. It acknowledges the situation is difficult, shows caring and is way better than saying nothing.
@cheapandclassy9253
@cheapandclassy9253 4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I agree
@hannahnonya2520
@hannahnonya2520 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree if someone said this to me when something bad happens I would get annoyed
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
@@hannahnonya2520 I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@sophiewilliams4943
@sophiewilliams4943 Жыл бұрын
I’ve heard this too many times, as someone dying, it sounds very dismissive. Please don’t do this. It comes across as if you absolutely do not care.
@adamlax27
@adamlax27 7 жыл бұрын
I would advise to mirror their emotional energy. If they're sad and not in the mood for talking, don't try to be energetic and talkative in an attempt to get them out of it. Its best to let them feel how they want to. So in this case, dont say too much and just be present with them. Being there in silence still shows you're there for them and you care
@laylaisntreal12
@laylaisntreal12 7 жыл бұрын
My best friends dad just died and hour ago. And I just. Don't know
@fatimahabib6537
@fatimahabib6537 6 жыл бұрын
My best friends grandfather...and same here. I am just confused. I mean, I feel horrible but I don not know what to do.
@melissabusbey8065
@melissabusbey8065 5 жыл бұрын
Fatima Habib same my best friends grandfather just right now and I don't know what to say 😭😭
@sinethembangcobo5433
@sinethembangcobo5433 4 жыл бұрын
I'm So sorry, my boyfriend's dad too
@Celestiiiial
@Celestiiiial 4 жыл бұрын
Me too but it was my moms mom and I feel so bad but I don’t know what to do
@jacquesun1037
@jacquesun1037 4 жыл бұрын
Mine friends dad died this hour ago to. Dont know how to encourage him.
@ruthjones5557
@ruthjones5557 5 жыл бұрын
I lost my husband 4.5 years ago. He suffered a cardiac arrest so I had no warning ⚠️ that I was about to be enrolled in the club that no one joins voluntarily - the widow/widowers club. Here are some of the comments that I wished I hadn’t experienced: 1. You need to keep yourself busy so that you don’t feel your feelings. 2. After the funeral you need to go straight out and buy a dog 🐕 to keep you company! 3. It won’t be too long before the men start buzzing around you (this was said to me at the funeral). 4. Be strong 💪 don’t show your tears 😭 5. Don’t cry, I can’t bear to see you cry 😢 6. Why aren’t you crying, didn’t you love him? 7. I felt so angry when you returned to work. I wouldn’t have been able to return to work if it had happened to me. I guess you didn’t love him as much as you said you did. 8. I know I haven’t lost my husband (he was standing next to her), but I’m such an empathetic person I can really imagine the pain you’re going through!!!!! 9. Why won’t you talk to me, I know we didn’t know one another very well before he died but I’d love it if you would confide in me. I keep asking you to talk but I don’t understand why you won’t talk to me? 10. I notice you haven’t been to visit his grave in a few months but you managed to take a vacation- what’s that all about, don’t you love him anymore? 11. You’ve got 12 months and then that’s it, no more grief, no more wallowing in self pity. 12. Oh, by the way, I’m gonna work on you for your own good and get you to sell your home and move closer to me so I can keep a close eye on you. 13. What are you going to do now, what are your plans? (Said at the funeral). 14. Kevin wouldn’t want you to.... or Kevin would want you to.... (never use our loved one against us - this is emotional blackmail and it feels like having knives stuck in you). 15. It’s a bit inappropriate for you to be laughing don’t you think? (Said to me 3 years after my loss). 16. Oh, you’re still wearing your wedding ring (12 months after he died). Here’s some things that helped me: 1. I’m so sorry for your loss. 2. I can’t even begin to image what you’re going through. 3. Do you feel like coming out for coffee ☕️ today, no pressure I just thought a bit of company and change of scenery for a couple of hours might help. 4. Come out for a walk with me. We don’t have to talk unless you want to. 5. Do you remember the time that you and Kevin came to ours and such and such happened? That was such a riot. (Please talk about them and remember the good times, as this video says, we think about them all the time and just love to talk about them. 6. If the bereaved person cries, let them. 7. Hugs, especially when I’m crying. 8. There’s no right or wrong way of grieving, whatever way you do it will be right for you. 9. I can’t take your pain away but... I can mow the lawn for you if you like/I can walk the dog for you if you like/I can do odd jobs around the house if you need it. Etc. 10. How are you spending Xmas? Do you feel like coming to ours? It’ll be a bit chaotic because of the kids, but the kids and us would love it if you could. (I found being around young children was so therapeutic for me - their innocence and zest for play distracted me briefly from the weight of my grief.) 11. Don’t make any big decisions for at least 12 months. 12. Take all the time in the world to grieve, there’s no time limit. 13. (Said to me immediately after Kevin’s death), your only obligation right now and for the immediate future is to simply breathe. Just breathe. Breathing is going to be hard enough so don’t put any pressure on yourself. 14. Take as much time as you need away from work. There’s no need to hurry back unless you feel like it. And when you do we’ll find a way to see you back in. Right now you need to take care of yourself. 15. Condolence cards by snail 🐌 mail. I received cards from all over the world 🌍 from people I’d never met. It wasn’t the message of condolence that touched my heart. It was the time that they took to write a brief story about their relationship with Kevin, how they knew him, and describing his wonderful personality traits. Don’t worry about putting humour in the card. Such message shows me how others knew him. Since Kevin’s death I’ve taken he time to send condolence cards with detailed messages. 16. Neighbours knocking on the door and popping in for a chat. 17. Friends inviting me for a drink in the pub and understanding when I changed my mind and returned home, and then continuing to invite me out, being patient and understanding until I was able to go out with them and stay with them the whole evening. 18. Social media helped me to stay in touch with many people at the same time without constantly having to repeat the same conversation with different people, which can be exhausting. In fact, social media helped my friends to keep an eye on me. If I don’t post anything for a week I got text messages or phone calls. Anyway, these are just my experiences that helped and didn’t help. It’s 4.5 years ago and though in many ways I’m coping much better, I can still have set backs if I find myself in the receiving end of judgemental comments. Though these days I’m much more likely to stand up for myself.
@paigeleigh2554
@paigeleigh2554 5 жыл бұрын
Hi Ruth, Firstly, I want you to know that I'm so grateful, for the time taken to post this absolutely wonderful comment. I don't want to give details of my situation, but you've help me so much. Seriously, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for this message. I wish you the best in life! ❤❤❤, for a lovely lady!
@frankrodriguezit
@frankrodriguezit 5 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry for ur loss. Ur absolutely right in defending urself from cruel or condescending comments. I hope and pray u continue to get better as time progresses Thank u so much for ur comment, it really does help God bless you
@ertobert3459
@ertobert3459 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your advice.
@3mar00ss6
@3mar00ss6 4 жыл бұрын
too much work.. I will choose the window club
@pixie5853
@pixie5853 4 жыл бұрын
11. Really pissed me off. It's been 2 1/2 years since my dog died. He was more like a brother than my real brother was. And no, I have NOT gotten over his death. In fact, it caused me to have anxiety and depression which I am now taking medication for.
@LovedHappy
@LovedHappy 7 жыл бұрын
Don't underestimate the power of just being present and listening. Beautiful video, Marie :)
@kiyoponnn
@kiyoponnn 5 жыл бұрын
Super solid advice. This is the best option if you are confused
@BestBluesNRock
@BestBluesNRock 3 жыл бұрын
My father passed away peacefully 2 hours ago. I live 1,300 miles away. I'm thankful we prayed together over the phone about a month ago. Through phone calls and texts, I did my best to try to comfort my stepmother and siblings. My daughter and grandson contacted me with words of love and sympathy. Experiencing a loved one's passing is never easy, but God's comfort and promises bring peace and healing.
@danbruno5945
@danbruno5945 4 жыл бұрын
"How can i help" is really difficult to answer when you lost somebody so suddenly, So hard to answer because your minds just racing
@AllegedlyAlex1
@AllegedlyAlex1 7 жыл бұрын
I second not saying "be strong." I lost my dad when I was 19 and I got a ton of messages telling me to 'be strong' and 'keep my head up.' I knew it wasn't intentional, but it sounded a lot like "don't cry" and "your overwhelming sadness is making me uncomfortable. Pleas hide it." Again, most people on the giving and receiving end know that these statements aren't meant to cause upset. But I was processing an overwhelming amount of grief and small comments like that just gave me more to process.
@cpmffeilberg4970
@cpmffeilberg4970 4 жыл бұрын
Mom just died on Jan 15th 2019 and one of my own sisters, who wasn't around for mom btw said I'm glad she's gone she was a rotten mother. That felt like a million knives in my back. I was there for mom as often ad I could be considering that I live in a nursing home and use a power chair to get around. Mom died knowing that out of 4 children only 1, myself loved her enough to not worry about the expense, but came anyway to the hospital the 2x I managed to have the $ to get there.
@OP-xi1hv
@OP-xi1hv 4 жыл бұрын
@@cpmffeilberg4970 Sounds like she WAS rotten... 3 out of 4 kids didn't like her?! Some parents are shit and have to do a lot to be disliked by their children.
@pr3tty_princess
@pr3tty_princess 3 жыл бұрын
@@OP-xi1hv thats so out of place she lost her mom that she loved that wasnt necessary having toxic parents doesnt mean that its not hard losing them
@SpiritGuide11111
@SpiritGuide11111 3 жыл бұрын
You sweet girl. I can only imagine what that one event has done to your life. God Bless You ❤️
@michaelbonello7795
@michaelbonello7795 2 жыл бұрын
I'm with you..."be strong" or "RIP" and "have courage" are all upsetting to most of us!
@soldwithteamgo8413
@soldwithteamgo8413 7 жыл бұрын
Twenty-seven years ago I lost my 3 1/2 year old son. When someone losses a child, I never say "I know how you feel". Every situation is different. I actually had someone telling me how their son could have died in a car accident but came out unscathed. I thought seriously, you are comparing your luck with my tragedy. All the suggestions are excellent. Thanks, Jayma
@gloriabrown-barna4215
@gloriabrown-barna4215 2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely CANNOT imagine the loss of a child!! I have lost A LOT(!!) of loved ones but I have not lost a child and I believe that would be the greatest loss of all! I am so sorry you have experienced such a horrible loss!
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
@@gloriabrown-barna4215 I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@MagsChase1229
@MagsChase1229 Жыл бұрын
It’s tough to say, the best thing to do is to say that ‘THOUGHT’ otherwise people will not learn. They could have said, I’m sorry for your pain, I couldn’t imagine what you must have suffered. I’m blessed that my child was saved. I’ll think of you and your family and let my son know how blessed we are.
@Marissathered
@Marissathered Жыл бұрын
@Kelley McFadden to imply that if someone's loved one wasn't "saved" they would be going to hell is very inappropriate. I'm truly sorry for your loss.
@bukolabankolem
@bukolabankolem 4 жыл бұрын
Never let your fear of saying the wrong thing, stop you from saying something. I feel attacked 😩😩 The exact reason for watching this video is because I am scared of saying the wrong thing.
@therebex23
@therebex23 7 жыл бұрын
I agree with most of this - however, I previously learned in an empathy/counselling seminar thing in uni (I was a peer counsellor) that you shouldn't say "I'm sorry" because, even though the person on the other end will probably get what you mean, saying "I'm sorry" makes it sound like you had some sort of control over the tragic event; we were taught to say "I will be keeping you [and your family] in my thoughts and I'm here for you" or "I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now. Can I meet you for coffee?" I was taught to not ask them what they need, since their mind is probably not thinking about what *they* need to feel better, but to offer something specific and comforting (ie. the coffee example). Bottom line, be genuine in your reaction and don't jump to Google for what to say.
@rogermac6477
@rogermac6477 4 жыл бұрын
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@josandham7844
@josandham7844 3 жыл бұрын
I totally understand this, but i also think it's individual. My best friend took her life a few weeks ago, so many people said 'I'm sorry' and i found it comforting, so it might work for some people.
@Ana-lk7gq
@Ana-lk7gq 2 жыл бұрын
@@josandham7844 oh no! I am so sorry for your lost!!
@yogilad_om
@yogilad_om 2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry Is a powerful thing to say
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@hoalbertotti
@hoalbertotti 7 жыл бұрын
This is PERFECT. I had câncer in 2012 and I can say this is sooo good that you´re sharing this. For those who suffer from câncer and lost their hair, another thing you deffinetly should not say is: "the important is that you´re alive" or things like that. You´re saying that the loss of the hair is not important and this is sooo anoying. Also, I were told that I could not have kids and people would say: " you can adopt!" like if this just took the sadness away and solved the problem. Also anoying! Thank you Marie! Just to mention: I had 2 beautiful and perfect baby girls in 2014 and 2016 :-)
@hiyaraakamine671
@hiyaraakamine671 2 жыл бұрын
just wanna tell that i passed by your comment just now, and it really did teach me something new, so thank you for enlightening me as well as for the inspiration!❤️
@anelphoenix2894
@anelphoenix2894 7 жыл бұрын
When I lost my Grandpa, the worst thing that people said to me was :"It is the circle of life. He was very old. I wish I can get to his years!" I hated it so much! When someone close to you dies it doesn't really matter how old they were, it is stil horrible. To me Granpa was like my Dad, I lived all my life with my grandparents. I know they were trying to comfort me, but it felt like a stab in the heart more then anything, because the way i felt was not valudated.
@jyotisachan1024
@jyotisachan1024 7 жыл бұрын
ya it is true...love doesn't come with age factor
@mixxie.c
@mixxie.c 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@cuteasscourtt
@cuteasscourtt 3 жыл бұрын
i just got a text from my boyfriend telling me his dad is dying. my heart sank instantly when i looked at my phone. i responded with a text telling him that i am so sorry & that he’s not going through this alone I AM HERE! i also told him i loved him & im praying God gives him strength to make it through this. after that initial text i looked up this video & now im about to make the hour drive to meet him at his job. he doesn’t know im coming but i just need to give him a hug & be there in person!
@TMCremixes
@TMCremixes 3 жыл бұрын
The "At least..." part really hit home for me and is applicable to all kinds of situations. I have tons of people doing this and even though they mean well, it only amplifies my pain and suffering.
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@antoniaboyette5345
@antoniaboyette5345 7 жыл бұрын
It's also important to realize the person whom you are consoling is processing an overwhelming amount of emotions and other stimuli, and not to take all their behavior or statements too personally. Whether it is bouts of laughter or being abrupt, the grieving individual is processing in the best way they can. Do not judge. As Marie said, let them know you are there for them. Also, only offer to do "anything you need" if you are truly in a position to follow through. For instance, if you are heading out of town for a two week trip the next day, then be clear about your parameters (e.i. " I'm leaving tomorrow, but will be back in two weeks, and will check in with you to see if there is anything I can do for you. In the meantime, you are in my thoughts") THANK YOU MARIE, for this reminder about compassion and support!
@WeDoLoudTV
@WeDoLoudTV 7 жыл бұрын
Even if we have been through the same situation, we can never truly know how someone else feels. Maybe we can relate, but we all process things differently.
@lauriemtz8616
@lauriemtz8616 4 жыл бұрын
WeDoLoudTV Exactly. Thank you. I just lost my brother 4 months after my best friend lost her brother and both situations are unique and individual and we process differently etc. Unfortunately, she’s already given contradictory and negative opinions about my brother and I can’t hear it anymore or relate to her at this time. It stings too bad so I keep my distance.
@lauriemtz8616
@lauriemtz8616 4 жыл бұрын
WeDoLoudTV I love that and I agree. 👏🏽 💯
@lakesataylor8225
@lakesataylor8225 2 жыл бұрын
Though we have been through the same situation situation we can never truly know how someone else feels maybe we can relate but we are processing differently
@CreateImperfect
@CreateImperfect 7 жыл бұрын
Everyone's response to tragedy is different. And because of that, our responses must change based on our own similar experiences (if we have them), or our connection to the person experiencing the tragedy. At the end of the day what matters most is being present. It's not about finding the right words but understanding that there are no right things to say to someone in grief. Being present and making yourself available is any of us can offer someone in pain.Thanks for the video Marie.
@ronstilljr326
@ronstilljr326 6 жыл бұрын
Create Imperfect TRUE
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@clarinetist18
@clarinetist18 5 жыл бұрын
"I am so sorry. How can I help?" 4:16 Simple, kind, and helpful - thanks!
@amybucelewicz4718
@amybucelewicz4718 7 жыл бұрын
I think that checking in regularly is important and just saying things like, "I am so sorry this is happening, I don't know what to say, but I love you or I care about you" is so important. A few years ago I found out my son has muscular dystrophy and I was blindsided because I never knew I was a carrier. At that point, we didn't know how severe it would be or what it would mean. I called some friends and family crying about it. My family was really great, but my friends sort of blew me off. They said some insensitive things like "it's not that serious, right?" And didn't bother to call or check in for updates or just to say hi. Of course I forgive them because they're only human, but I never forgot how alone I was during that time. So the best thing you can do is just be there as an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on.
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@Red_parrot1
@Red_parrot1 Жыл бұрын
thank you so much for your help, my friend has lost his father and i didnt know what to do or say but with your help i was able to comfort them and help them through their grief and now they are feeling better and better and i wanna say thank you
@dalagakill5678
@dalagakill5678 3 жыл бұрын
My best friend’s classmate had committed suicide and she was getting a lot of texts from everyone says ALL of the wrongs. As soon as I heard the news of everything, I didn’t watch this video before I texted her, I just texted “I heard about what happened man. And all imma say is that, if you wanna talk, cry, or just sit in silence with me, whatever it is. I will be here alright. Seriously. Shit must be painful right now. And whenever the time may be, I’ll shoulder all the pain with you. But I get if you just wanna be left alone for a while. You can call me, text me, anything whenever. I’m here man. Whatever you may be feeling, or thinking, just remember that I will sit here and listen for as long as you like if it can get rid of any pain/confusion you feel.” I wasn’t expecting a response since I texted the day it happened but she did respond and I was so relieved. She said she really appreciated it and will talk when she’s ready. Later my mom told me that out of all the friends that contacted her, I was the only one to get through to her and make her feel a little better. Seeing someone completely change hurts a lot, so the slight relief brought me to tears. I wanted to see how my message turned out to get through to her so I watch several videos like this, and I’m very happy I learned even more from this.
@wassie2009
@wassie2009 7 жыл бұрын
This is really nice. Thanks for doing it. I have lost 3 of my siblings in unrelated accidents and have endured my share of faux pas from well meaning people. My #1 Don't is: never say "you must be getting back to normal." There is no normal anymore. People who experience loss are irrevocably changed by it. It's not always sad but it's not normal. Nor do we necessarily want it to be. My #2 Don't is: never say "were you guys close?" While the answer in my case was "yes" it makes a lot less of a difference than you think. Losing a family member, especially a young one, reverberates through the family in ways that aren't about whether or not you spoke to that person daily, weekly or monthly. My #3 Don't is: don't assume that just because a few weeks or months have passed that we're okay. Life goes on and we have work, family, responsibilities to attend to. That doesn't mean we're not grieving. Please ask, please acknowledge, please don't be afraid to "remind me" of it. As Marie said, we don't need reminding. We're thinking about it all the time whether or not we seem like our old selves.
@yamatanoorochi3149
@yamatanoorochi3149 2 жыл бұрын
Any ideas on how to start a conversation through text a few days after expressing condolences? I can't see them in person and I'm not sure if asking "how are you?" would do more than just cause an eye roll
@nadiasmithers
@nadiasmithers 2 жыл бұрын
@@yamatanoorochi3149 can I just step in and say “how are you? “ may feel like a loaded question and a bit vague in the case of someone mourning. I wouldn’t want to answer that and they may not even know how they are. Perhaps better would be “I’m hoping you are managing and you are getting enough support and rest. I’m here if you would like to have a chat or meet for a tea or a walk in the park…” you get the picture. : )
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@vartikaindora5906
@vartikaindora5906 3 жыл бұрын
I recently lost my uncle and I faced all these I don't wanna say anything wrong to my aunt who is suffering right now, so just making sure, when I'll meet her, I be good at saying the words which help her ease. Here are some tips that I experienced while interacting with people when I lost my uncle (who was like a dad to me) 1. Never use JUST "RIP" to reply to their stories. It hurts bad. Cuz RIP has become more like a slang nowadays. 2. Reply in a wholesome empathetic para. 3. Forget previous grudges for sometime, and pop your ego, the person needs you. Trust me, they won't push you back if you approach them in this time. 4. Never make the person unnecessarily laugh by cracking jokes (i know your intentions are maybe good, but that tends to invalidate their own feelings of hurt) 5. Never talk about whatever bad/good is going in your life at that point. Because, death of a loved one is always a bigger loss than anything else.
@stellannie86
@stellannie86 7 жыл бұрын
That's a hug-symbol? I though it was more like Jazz hands. :D
@uroojfatimashad
@uroojfatimashad 6 жыл бұрын
Emmi-Annie Niemi seriously.... i've been sending to every1....damn...what will they thnk about me.
@Vicky2Twizz
@Vicky2Twizz 6 жыл бұрын
Stella Annie lol same
@jamesestrera3330
@jamesestrera3330 5 жыл бұрын
FUCK OFF DEMON
@kkybian5716
@kkybian5716 5 жыл бұрын
Same
@tylerselbows3542
@tylerselbows3542 5 жыл бұрын
🤗
@savannahhavrilek6559
@savannahhavrilek6559 6 жыл бұрын
I'm not sure how you guys feel but the best most comforting words someone has said to me when my grandma died was "what was she like" and yeah I cried from think about all the memories but it also made me happy bc of the good times
@nicolesalava7482
@nicolesalava7482 5 жыл бұрын
My absolute best friend, someone I was constantly with and loved more than anyone in the world. I’m 18. He was in his twenties, very young. The best thing anyone people have done for me over these last couple weeks is just asking how I am and calling and asking if they can come over or take me out. The few people who have made sure I wasn’t too lonely means more than anything.
@maureencrispin307
@maureencrispin307 2 жыл бұрын
when words fail us just giving your time to listen to someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one is so healing for them. This has been my experience .
@rela_.xxo_.2346
@rela_.xxo_.2346 2 жыл бұрын
It hurts knowing that the kitten my moms sister rescued and gave to us died in my arms today…I named her hermosa it stands for beautiful in Spanish…and how glued we bother were to each other hurt even more but oh how beautiful she was…
@madalynzander9985
@madalynzander9985 4 жыл бұрын
This video really helped me out with one of my friends. See I'm a 12 year old girl and I have a guy friend thats brother collapsed tonight on the ground at a football scrimmage. He was sent to the hospital with his mom and dad and all the other siblings and my friend were left at home without a parent. While he was still at the football scrimmage the paramedics were resuscitating him with no response I was on the phone with my friend while his brother was not breathing we talked for a good 20 minutes and after 2 hours they finally got the update he was breathing a little bit the doctors told them he would either be in a comma, wake up brain dead, or not remember anything. He is still not home and won't be for a long time I just wanted to tell people to appreciate the people in your life no matter who the are to you. The sad thing is, is that I had seen his brother 2 hours before this all happened and he seemed perfectly fine. Thank you for the informational video now I know how to respond properly to someone in a sad state of mind or someone who is going through a hard time.
@marieforleo
@marieforleo 4 жыл бұрын
Madalyn, thank you for sharing this experience and your words with us. What a brave thing to do. We're so sorry to hear about your friend's brother. That must've been so hard for him and the entire family. You're a good friend for being by his side and for thinking about what's the right thing to say and do. Just by being his friend you're doing the right thing. Sending YOU a big hug. - Team Forleo
@MosaidDeath
@MosaidDeath 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciated my friends being there for me when a family member died. Lots of them said things that they probably shouldn’t have, but, I was so happy they showed up. I knew they were afraid to approach me, and that the conversation would be difficult. i hope all of this talk about what to say and what not to say doesn’t prevent people from being there at all.
@Modernwidowsclubmovement
@Modernwidowsclubmovement 7 жыл бұрын
We thank you for posting this and opening up a conversation for loss communication. With 14 million widows in this country, education and social awareness is so vital. You hit the mark.
@BaronStVon
@BaronStVon 7 жыл бұрын
Inspiring channel premise. Good luck with your ventures MWC! Sounds like you are doing something really good for society
@Effay8105
@Effay8105 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this segment. I recently lost my Grandma and Father in less than two months. I have been overwhelmed with grief and some comments or lack there of from friends, family, and coworkers have made this time all the more difficult for me. But on the other hand, I have had a few people give the best support in way of just being there, making me laugh, or just being a listening ear. Now a days when empathy is being lost in a changing tribal culture, I am glad that you saw the importance of mentioning this. God bless.
@sherrystec181
@sherrystec181 7 жыл бұрын
F. Kabia I lost my mother this year and was surprised to see friends and family (who I thought were close) rarely reach out to me or be insensitive to me on certain topics of discussion. But I also had the very very few be the most supportive to me and that has made all the difference. I hope you continue to have that support. I'll be thinking of you :)
@Effay8105
@Effay8105 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sherry. I am so sorry for your loss. Sometimes I feel like people are waiting for me to crumble because why else would they not be there... But then again maybe they just don't know what to do. Who knows. I have started to journal and that has help a little. Thinking of you and hope you also continue to get that same support and strength.
@Goddessattractor
@Goddessattractor Жыл бұрын
As I ride the train to go sit with my oldest brother and say goodbye... I find myself searching frantically for advice on handling it appropriately. Grateful for the information. My soul leans to "be" with him and honor the space by listening and following his cues. Praying it goes as well as expected. 🙏🦋🙏
@draxionsurgeon
@draxionsurgeon 3 жыл бұрын
Why do I feel like she radiates positivity..she's glowing!
@AZ-ms6if
@AZ-ms6if 3 жыл бұрын
I still remember how strange it felt when we found out a fellow student at my school committed suicide, it didn't feel strange because they had committed suicide and were gone, but the fact that I attempted but survived because I was able to get help, I knew and understood the pain and the topic on a much more personal level. I got lucky and was given help, not everyone gets that in time or at all, that to me is the saddest part.
@JP-1990
@JP-1990 2 жыл бұрын
It sounds to me (and correct me if I'm wrong) like the underlying themes is to let the grieving person person know that: A) whatever emotions they're experiencing are valid, understandable, and relatable B) they are not in this alone and have people, be they friends or strangers, they can count on for support C) they themselves also have the ability to manage the situation even if it never stops feeling difficult
@suel4269
@suel4269 5 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing for this post. My friends husband passed away a week ago. I’m glad I’m doing the right things for her.
@sophiewilliams4943
@sophiewilliams4943 Жыл бұрын
Omg she is spot on! I’m dying, can I say, listen, and we want to know we are loved and our worries are valid.
@teressacanosa960
@teressacanosa960 7 жыл бұрын
Awesome job again Marie, such an important yet under-discussed topic. A little tact and personal contact goes such a long way. Thank you so much for the work you're doing!
@rachelhamidou72
@rachelhamidou72 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! We ALL need this information in this time of need! People are so self centered these days and can only think about their wants. Just being in the presence of a warm soul can be enough. Someone who genuinely listens to you. A calm reassuring soul.
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@alexyssmiley3010
@alexyssmiley3010 4 жыл бұрын
This was SO helpful! And also helped me understand why when I was going through my own grief, I was continuously irritated by comments that people (with good intentions) would make. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@KellieSuePeters
@KellieSuePeters 7 жыл бұрын
Having lost people I absolutely cherished to cancer in the past few years, one of the most unhelpful, ickiest thing that people said to them was, "Why do you think you created this dis-ease?" Completely cruel. Even if that's is what you believe (that we create everything that happens to us and nothing is random) keep that to yourself. It just made them feel horribly guilty and blame themselves for having cancer. That is just such a cruel thing to do to someone. It doesn't lead to healing or peace or anything useful. One woman even refused to go visit one of our friends in the hospital because "she created this, and I don't support that." As if anyone could "create breast cancer!" It's difficult to write this comment in a positive, loving way, but it seems like no one really mentions that people actually say this stuff to people. And they think they're being helpful.
@Frankendeth
@Frankendeth 7 жыл бұрын
Ugh, it's hard to imagine that anybody could be that insensitive. I'm so sorry you and your loved ones had to deal with those emotional vampires in your time of grief.
@arzneipaprika
@arzneipaprika 7 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot for the helpful video, Marie. I think it's difficult to find the right words to say even if you had a similar experience because it's not the same experience under same circumstances with same feelings etc. So it's good to have a video like this making clear what's probably more or less helpful. I was 23 when I lost my father and I didn't like it when people always told me that I was "too young to make such an experience". I don't think that the number of age means a lot and I had the impression they thought that they knew that I couldn't handle this even though I HAD to handle this and I did handle this (well, as I said: You have to, don't you?). Obviously there are people losing beloved ones when they are in their 20s oder much younger and it's not helping to hear "You're making a terrible experience but you shouldn't because you're aged xyz", because this person in fact DOES experience this terrible thing. I was and I am grateful for the years I had together with my father and yes, I wish there had been more years to come but there hadn't been and I accept that knowing the time we had was great and enriching.
@autumnmartinez6111
@autumnmartinez6111 3 жыл бұрын
Always share a smile. They are powerful and always promote feelings of hope, peace, and love ♥️
@AgeFuture
@AgeFuture 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this. My moms friend just died 2 hours ago. I got a call from her husband because she accidentally left her phone at my house. I’m on the long drive to her work listening to this. It’s really calming me down and helping me sort my words out.
@myadaou808
@myadaou808 3 жыл бұрын
Same, my mom is so sad, she went to see her kids, they still dont know yet, i want to talk to them and confort them. It breaks my heart.
@MB-vu3ow
@MB-vu3ow 2 жыл бұрын
When my dad, whom I adored, died suddenly of a heart attack years ago, one comment from a cousin was so comforting that I have recalled countless times. She said if she were as kind and caring as he was she would enjoy lifelong peace.
@pariskidsmovie5358
@pariskidsmovie5358 4 жыл бұрын
You look very happy and upbeat talking about a very sad topic. It’s not about what to say, it’s much deeper than that.
@blessingana9899
@blessingana9899 2 жыл бұрын
I TOTALLY ACCEPT WITH THE PART OF SHARING STORIES OF PERSONAL EXPERIENCE,IT HELPS THE PERSON OPEN UP MORE TO YOU AND RELIEFS THEIR PAIN.
@alcd1810
@alcd1810 5 жыл бұрын
My best friend's mom died today and I can't believe it because she was such a strong and beautiful person. The way she talked about her mother was so pure and so full of inspiration. They were so close. I can't believe that after getting better in her cancer fight, she just disappeared...
@KristaGoon
@KristaGoon 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Marie. I learnt a lot from this episode. I lost my mum last year and I have friends who lost loved ones last year too. I always wasn't sure what to say or do and I now have some ideas. Grateful thanks!
@christopherkochis9011
@christopherkochis9011 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Some thing I have learned is extremely helpful is telling the person it's ok to feel what ever they are feeling. I have found that it allows them to give the emotions the green light to work there magic
@cosmenherst
@cosmenherst Жыл бұрын
I had nine months head start of grieving as I was the caregiver to my late husband. The most helpful things were people showing up with food, friends taking me out for a few hours while one of their husbands spent time with my husband, hand written letters and comforting gifts like tea and snacks and blankets, offers to walk the dogs or drive us to hospital appointments, or people just coming by to hang out like normal and watch a game or movie. Luckily I didn’t really get any horrible comments or opinions. Being a caregiver tho, I was so exhausted every day so when someone would text the three words “how are you?”, it filled me with dread. The last thing I had strength for was to write out a detailed list of what was happening and how everyone was doing. I would normally end up responding, “we’re doing alright today”. The best text messages were things like “saw some amazing clouds today, thinking of you and your husband” (he loved clouds) or “sending you both some love today” without expecting a response.
@kellypawspa
@kellypawspa 5 жыл бұрын
Personally after much loss, I can strongly recommend to anyone wondering what to say or not to say to someone suffering so greatly.... the worst thing anyone can ever say, is nothing at all. Its odd that during times of great loss most of us never remeber what anyone says to us anyhow.... but we do remember that they tried to offer some comfort amd support.... and also remember who didnt. It leaves things terribly awkward for both parties. Most helpful things i remember people have said were just inviting me to emote or not imposing an opinion of how my feelings should be. The kindest person of all to anyone greiving is just to be there. Just letting them know that you are there for them for anything or nothing at all. There really are not many words no matter how well intended that can help anyone or heal their wounds or life instantanoisusly so dont take it personally if your offers of support seem unoticed, because if they are its because the hurt is go great for them, it really has nothing to do with how much value or apreciation the greiving person has for you. Never make it about you or try to make them feel guilty for them not being there for you because your cat ran away. Lol just in case youre a person whom really is so shallow.
@marieforleo
@marieforleo 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and perspective with us - being there for someone else truly is the thing that can have the biggest impact on someone else's grieving process. - Team Forleo
@theblacklionation
@theblacklionation 6 ай бұрын
Humans & Cats are Equal.. So they running away is a big of deal
@emank8137
@emank8137 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you soo much Marie for making this video! This is something I definitely struggled with
@toddrussenholt
@toddrussenholt 7 жыл бұрын
Awesome topic some people don't really don't want to talk about this topic 😇 This has made me think about doing videos on this topic...I just experienced a loss of girlfriend that committed suicide month ago due her mental health issues. Now I realize that we live in a way that I can help people who are going through the same pain...
@doctorguss7398
@doctorguss7398 6 жыл бұрын
Oh, do it Todd, so many people are going through those situations and don't really connect or find comfort in the conventional/ traditional therapies
@MariaOC1_
@MariaOC1_ 6 жыл бұрын
Condolences Todd at this difficult time. Your experience will help many people. Strength and hope to you.
@isabelbrake3229
@isabelbrake3229 6 жыл бұрын
todd russenholt my dad committed suicide when I was only 11 months old on July 17 2005 and now I am 13 years old almost 14
@cashtonreynolds5088
@cashtonreynolds5088 5 жыл бұрын
My friends girlfriend just died of heart problems and it’s so hard to see him like he is
@paigeleigh2554
@paigeleigh2554 5 жыл бұрын
I hope that life is treating you well.
@KoreanwithMissVicky
@KoreanwithMissVicky 7 жыл бұрын
Marie, you have always been my woman crush, and inspired by you, I've done something really brave and shared this one video with the world sharing my life experience growing up as an unhappy girl in South Korea. It's not a conventional story, and you'll be a bit shocked too, but I really want you to be one of the viewers to know that one of your "disciples" has done something really brave and a lot of the courage is owing to you!!!!
@KoreanwithMissVicky
@KoreanwithMissVicky 7 жыл бұрын
So please come check out. :) It involves spirituality as well.
@saintxx9006
@saintxx9006 3 жыл бұрын
빅키샘Miss Vicky I smellllll loveeeeee
@gwakisamwakalimba5734
@gwakisamwakalimba5734 2 жыл бұрын
Hello
@gigicassel1804
@gigicassel1804 2 жыл бұрын
When I was in high school my mom died. I have to say I was really lucky because there was a lot of good people in my life who were respectful but compassionate and help me through it
@bettypoffenberger2549
@bettypoffenberger2549 Жыл бұрын
My died of suicide recently and this post was very helpful. What I found Not helpful were texts from my direct family they could have picked up the phone. Just pick up the phone tell the person you love them and that’s all we need to hear. Thank you for this post.
@jaykingman641
@jaykingman641 3 жыл бұрын
As someone who lost a dad only a few weeks ago it’s crazy to hear some of the things that have been said to me. And what I thought I would like being said has had the opposite effect. There’s some great advice here but as everyone is different I’d still tread carefully with what you say and the tone in which you say it to the person grieving.
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@DavidTramacchi
@DavidTramacchi 7 жыл бұрын
this is such a powerful video thank you Marie
@DrGayle
@DrGayle 8 ай бұрын
Thank you, Marie and hello, my son recently passed over. Ryan went to work, heat stroke "brain bleed" and never came home. It's been the most devastating two months. Not only have I lost my son but family and friends have disappeared. The most helpful thing is to "show up", like you said "dropping off the veggie chili or sending flowers". I'm sharing this video and I also attend group with David K. who you mentioned. Beautiful video, thank you.
@TeamForleo
@TeamForleo 8 ай бұрын
We're so incredibly sorry for your loss, Gayle. Please know we're sending you love and comfort right now, and our hearts are with you as you continue to navigate this profound absence. 💜 We're always here to lend a listening ear.
@DrGayle
@DrGayle 8 ай бұрын
@@TeamForleo So much love and thank you!
@petiteusagi1233
@petiteusagi1233 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot!!! I loss many members of my family and nobody comforted me correctly, now it's my turn to do it and I was looking for the most appropriate way to do that. Thank you so much!! 💙💙
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
True peace and comfort only comes from Jesus Christ. The world doesn't know how to give that. I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@kerryfoster1
@kerryfoster1 11 ай бұрын
Yes it was great when friends and neighbours would call and ask if they could do anything. Giving hugs was a great comfort. Yes you're so right those sayings don't help at all. Physical presence is a great help. Be with them. The feeling of aloneness is overwhelming.
@lauriemtz8616
@lauriemtz8616 4 жыл бұрын
I just lost my brother unexpectedly in Nov. 2019. I’m overwhelmed and hurt badly and mom, of course, is as well. My mom was speaking to my aunt sharing a story about how her and my brother liked to go to the grocery store one hour before closing since it starts to slow down. My aunt said that it was wrong to go to the store that late and that it’s inconsiderate to the cashier that just worked eight hours and they want to go home and that my brother who passed was a very inconsiderate person. My mom was very stunned and hurt by that comment and I feel pretty hurt and angry myself. During this time it is not easy to let it roll off or not take it personally because of how raw we feel. Also, a lot of people like to say , “it doesn’t get any easier!” Is that even helpful or necessary? Not for me. 😪
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@chayaezagui9435
@chayaezagui9435 5 жыл бұрын
One main thing I learned from my experience from my love ones who lost loved one is DO NOT check up on you love one through text. DO go over to the griever's home and check up on them there because they will most likely ignore texts and phone calls. If you lost a friend just remember that IT IS OKAY to just walk over to the person's home and express what you are feeling to their family or to those who also knew your friend.
@summerrose823
@summerrose823 2 жыл бұрын
I haven’t talked to my friend in a while but a few weeks ago our dads ran into each other at the grocery store and her grandpa was dying. My dad thinks he may have passed away. None of my friends have lost a family member before. Thanks for helping me with ways I can comfort her if that did happen.
@cpmffeilberg4970
@cpmffeilberg4970 4 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to see someone doing this online. I wrote a yet to be published book about loss, through the experiences I've had since my best friend, my husband Ken died may 8 2007.
@marieforleo
@marieforleo 4 жыл бұрын
We're sending you so much love for your loss. xo- Team Forleo
@superjeans100
@superjeans100 4 жыл бұрын
I subscribed within the first minute of hearing what you had to say
@marieforleo
@marieforleo 4 жыл бұрын
We appreciate that so much. We're so glad that you're here. - Team Forleo
@lynnemusso9362
@lynnemusso9362 2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry for your loss was the best thing people could say to me when my mother died. I hated hearing "She's in a better place" I didn't think so because a better place would be having coffee with me!
@gohansakura107
@gohansakura107 Жыл бұрын
This video helped me a lot. I have a friend who recently lost her dad and this video gave me really good advice. Thanks so so much!!!
@Maria-xu5lf
@Maria-xu5lf 4 жыл бұрын
My boyfriends grandpa just died moments ago. I lost my aunt on my sweet 16 but I wasnt really present since nobody wanted me to be more traumatized, so since I’m new to this I’m thankful for this. I’m always going to be here for him and his family, no matter what happens between us. I love him! ❤️🦋🙏🏼 RIP
@marieforleo
@marieforleo 4 жыл бұрын
We are so sorry to hear that. Your boyfriend is very fortunate to have someone so thoughtful and loving by his side, and we know your efforts will mean a lot to him 🙏❤️ -Team Forleo
@aayushigupta1795
@aayushigupta1795 2 жыл бұрын
When I’m in a situation like this I don’t say anything. I just hug that person and let them speak. When a person is grieving over their loss I don’t think there’s anything you can say to calm that person down or to console them. There is nothing you can do immediately to make them feel better. All you can do is to give them your time and patience to hear what they want to say. If they’re crying just give them a tight hug. That’ll be better than you saying a thousand words because no matter what you say their pain and suffering won’t reduce by your words. Also if a person who has lost a loved one cries it doesn’t mean they are weak. Any words you say even if you’re saying I’m sorry for your loss or what can I do to help won’t make a difference. The only thing that makes a difference is actually being there for that person. So just make it a point to be there.
@tillyfromthecrypt7571
@tillyfromthecrypt7571 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, this is just what I needed right now 💕
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@zoknow9062
@zoknow9062 2 жыл бұрын
Insightful video into my own situation currently. My wonderful mother the only close family member in my life passed away 6 months ago. It upsets me every time I hear the generic “if there’s anything you need” while I understand people are only trying to help you can not possibly give some one what they need when they are grieving. At times when I have reached out people have flaked or not followed through which then makes me never want to ask for favours and I just do things myself adding to my stress and confusion. Personally I find it far more helpful if the person thinks about what they are good at and offer what they are able to and most importantly take a bit of control and follow through without needing a million instructions.
@mariewriter1
@mariewriter1 7 жыл бұрын
When I lost my husband 7 years ago, the devastation was horrible. I had the ability to step back, probably because I'm a writer, and see the peculiar, sad and sometimes what could be misconstrued comments, as people stumbling and unable to figure out what to say or do. I remember one woman saying, "if there's anything you need." and I came back with, I could really use a ride here, my car was broken down and it's a long walk to the service station. She looked at me in horror. "It's something you are suppose to say, I wasn't expecting you to come up with something. No one ever comes up with something." As a culture we used to know what to do as a community and individuals when someone was in grief, or had a crisis. We need to learn better ways to cope ourselves, and better ways to ease the grief of others. These are wonderful insights. Thank you, Marie.
@loriorourke5517
@loriorourke5517 7 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for sharing this topic. I lost my son in june and i still cry everyday. A dont i would offer is 'you have to get out of your room and get back to living' I am not finished grieving. And please "you have been through so much". Believe me i know. Hugs have been the best consolation and feel good from almost everyone. (I really dont want to cry all the time)
@paigeleigh2554
@paigeleigh2554 5 жыл бұрын
You have really touched me! I wish you all the very best in life!
@user-ni9gk1sv6k
@user-ni9gk1sv6k 3 жыл бұрын
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@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
🤗❤️ I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
@@paigeleigh2554 I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@Daonly_arii
@Daonly_arii 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! This helped me so much! I feel useful now I had nothing to say because I was looking for videos but I couldn't find any videos that was talking about how to make your mom happy when she lost a family member that really meant to her it was my granny and her grandma. Then I just looked up how to make your mom happy when she lost a family member. And this was it! Because all I got when I looked up '' How to make your mom happy'' I just got is: How to make your mom happy when you didn't obey her, or she had a bad day. So for now on if one of my family members feel down I will watch this everyday to get more ideas! Also you helped me so so much that I SUBCRIBE for just one video that's how much you helped me. Then after that when I talked to her she stopped crying and gave me a big hug but she was sad a little bit but I helped her for not crying a lot when I heard her. ARIELLA- LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!!! (:
@laprepper
@laprepper Жыл бұрын
Someone I know lost a loved one recently. It puts every annoyance in my life in perspective
@ryokohakabi8886
@ryokohakabi8886 Жыл бұрын
I was taught when this happens, "it's unfortunate that this happene, but at least they dont have to suffer anymore and can finally rest peacefully. with no more pain of suffering
@chiaraperry472
@chiaraperry472 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Marie, this video is very helpful.
@winonadaphne6445
@winonadaphne6445 6 жыл бұрын
this was such a beautifully presented video, thank you
@ritikakhurana5928
@ritikakhurana5928 7 жыл бұрын
Where can we go from here? Something we must remember when we loss a loved one. And as you said remember the good memories and his/her impact. Impact is all what remains of a person. Value that. I have nothing else any better. Great video. Especially tweet. That's why I could say it.
@kelleymcfadden9675
@kelleymcfadden9675 2 жыл бұрын
Losing a loved one is one of the hardest things we will ever go through. I lost 2 husbands and several extended family members. People need hope and true hope only comes from knowing Jesus Christ. I'd like to share my best friend's story with you. Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzfaq.info/get/bejne/e86flcaCv5y1kmw.html
@erickadrian4173
@erickadrian4173 2 жыл бұрын
im very happy to found your video' it brought alot of help.
@forgodsolovedyou
@forgodsolovedyou 5 жыл бұрын
This is good advice. When asking if there is anything you can do, bring up some ideas. Because we wouldn’t even know what to say. Also I would like to add some things not to say or some suggestions...When I told my friend I missed my husband (he had just passed away 3 months before and we were married 51 years) she replied that I should get my mind off myself and think that he is in a much better place. And another friend that I called to tell her of my husband’s passing said when she answered the phone that “if your husband passed away, I don’t want to hear it”. I didn’t say anything. Or when my husband needed total care at home but still talked somewhat, could follow directions, smiled and had some quality of life by getting to do things and get out but people said that I was selfish for keeping him alive. People can be so cruel. So I like these videos because people need to know these things. I want to add something else. If your best friend that you had and they stood with you and helped you for over a decade becomes disabled, come and see them and don’t act like they don’t exist. They were there for you, you can come and show they have some value with your presence.
@malaikahansen
@malaikahansen 5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video with lots of wonderful advices, but also on what to say and what not what to say depends on our culture, beliefs/ religion/ spirituality etc
@musterbrief9880
@musterbrief9880 3 жыл бұрын
thanks for your effort to bring such a topic on. due to my profession i am often confronted with people who tell me in short what happend or is happening in their lifes. sometimes there are things - like death of so beloved or a loss of things - i think about i cannot respond appropriately to. But now i am better prepared and hope to be able to offer my heart in a better way. Thanks again
@tay_tortots
@tay_tortots 5 жыл бұрын
The love of my life that has rescued me and saved me from so many dangerous situations just died when the car he was in crashed through the wall of a bridge and fell into the ocean. To make things even worse I just found out that I’m pregnant and it’s his. I haven’t been able say this to anyone that I know because the adult parents figured in my life hate him and my best friend was killed a month or so ago. Thank you for this comments section to tell about our problems. I’m really grateful 😋
@marylandry440
@marylandry440 4 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for your words of wisdom. It really helped me, so now I'm going to go out and buy that card. Mary
@KaioTheRedCrow
@KaioTheRedCrow 7 жыл бұрын
based on my personal experiences I have to desagree a bit with this video :/ .. when I had some losses and people used to say me "Im so sorry", "how can I help?" or they tried to be closer to me, I felt like they was just caring about me because of my losses and because "you have to be nice".. instead I was happier when someone said me "theres a reason for everything", because this forced me to think positive and to find a good reason to keep up... but maybe is just me, and for other people is different.. (sorry for my english btw :P)
@andagain9826
@andagain9826 7 жыл бұрын
same here.
@andra_
@andra_ 7 жыл бұрын
Thank makes me feel a bit better lol, because after I watched this video I thought, oh gosh, I've been saying the wrong things my entire life! I must have really pissed a lot of people off lol. But, seeing your comment makes me feel like maybe I didn't totally fluff it up lol!! Either way, I guess there are no mistakes!
@Frankendeth
@Frankendeth 7 жыл бұрын
My mom has terminal ovarian cancer and will likely die in the next year. If somebody told me that she is dying "for a reason" I'd find it an incredibly trite attempt to trivialize my loss. Thankfully nobody in my life has used that line on me, because it would be hard to not be upset by that comment, even if I knew the person saying it had good intentions. There's not always a reason for everything. Sometimes bad things just happen. Sometimes good people get illnesses they don't deserve and die before their time. If somebody you know is grieving, simply being there for them can bring a world of comfort. Nothing you can say will "make it better," but letting the bereaved know that you care and checking in on them regularly is never the wrong move.
@doctorguss7398
@doctorguss7398 6 жыл бұрын
I certainly respect your point of view, but as Jordan Kamp says, when you say there is a reason, it is not that the phrase is necessarily wrong, but the phrases Marie mentions, are actually phrases that most people going through an adversity find as either rude or that makes the others disconnect with the griefer. As I said, most people, and I do respect your feelings and opinion, and I agree some people might have a different perspective. Thanks for sharing anyway. All the best Kaio
@user-rx6eq8nr5l
@user-rx6eq8nr5l 6 жыл бұрын
my mother is dying and if someone told me that "it was all for a reason" I'd want to break their neck tbh
@zyliavaughn6383
@zyliavaughn6383 5 жыл бұрын
This really helped my uncle just passed away and I have to cheer my mom up Thank You So Much 😊
@marieforleo
@marieforleo 5 жыл бұрын
We're so sorry for the loss of your uncle, Zylia. Sending you and your mom our very best wishes for peace and healing during this difficult time. - Team Forleo
@bethelshiloh
@bethelshiloh 6 жыл бұрын
I like this one... share a fondness for the person. "Fred was the most generous person that I knew."
@weronikabednarska6930
@weronikabednarska6930 7 жыл бұрын
Thanks I needed it!
@omarfaruk677
@omarfaruk677 3 жыл бұрын
thanks for uploading this educational class.
@desertdweller8683
@desertdweller8683 2 жыл бұрын
I have had two of these situations, one was loss of my house and loss of an immediate family member due to an accident. Separate events. I think this was good advice in general that can apply to all the situations, I'd like to add a few. Follow the person's lead, if they want to talk, let them, if they don't, never push. Don't give advice unless it's asked for, including pushing for grief counseling.. Don't relate it to some other story, they won't identify with that. Don't ask a lot of questions or make assumptions. I personally wasn't ready to hear others tell me how they were impacted, I was overwhelmed and just trying to get through each day. The biggest thing I can say is DON'T make it about yourself or make them responsible for YOUR feelings. Unfortunately I had this happen quite a bit, and it damaged several relationships for me.
@sannafaxlin7542
@sannafaxlin7542 3 жыл бұрын
My partner lost both his parents not long ago i told him im Sorry and im ALWAYS there for him no matter what and i am sure that they are proud of him
@StudioQB_
@StudioQB_ 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so so much for this video 💕💕💕💕 I want to help my sister so badly 🤲🏾✨
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