It's funny how men will have their checklist and won't deviate from it period. Us women need to start operating the exact same way. It'll save us from lot of uneccessary mess smh!

My mom always told me that. She said "never spend too much time on one man because you can't get your youthful years back " I plays no games 🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

My husband said he KNEW the first time we met. And he tells our sons, when you meet the ONE.....you will just KNOW.

This is so freeing! You are not his wife if he tells you he is waiting to get his finances in order! I swear my ex used this excuse for 3 years! Thank God I got wiser! Tony these messages are so helpful!

That's true when I met My boyfriend he kept saying you going to be my wife... A couple months later am his wife now...Now everyone acts me why you marry so fast So I say to them I'm a grown women not a child🙌🎯

Yes my late husband said he knew the first weekend we decided to spend time together. He asked to marry me and 3 months later after meeting his Mother family we were married for 16 years before he crossed over. 🙏

I Don’t want a man who drink or smoke because I don’t do neither. I believe in being on the same page spiritually and etc.,

If only men would leave women, who are not their wives, alone ....

“A man isn’t a man until he’s about 35” 😭 that depresses me lmao

I love it Mr. Gaskin. I rather be HURT by the TRUTH than to be COMFORTED with a LIE. Everyone Be Blessed. 💕💕

This all sounds good. But ladies I must tell you, pray to God for your husband. Stop dating and meeting men. Draw closer to the Lord as you keep your legs close. And start building yourself. The Providence of God will lead you right to him.

As I mature I realize that I am attracted to a woman based upon her heart I do like physical appearance also but I get more of a connection with the conversation of a mature woman

I know 50 yr old men that are still grown boys.

Anybody else watch these just to hear Tony say “point blank periOD?”. 😂😂😂 In all seriousness though. Take the lesson ladies. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Stop wasting time with the wrong person. Period.

A girlfriend of mine who is currently married, prior to her marriage to her husband, I asked them how they met. And her husband said before he even met his wife he was dating another girl. While he was at an event of a mutual friend of his and my friend, he saw her and instantly knew she was the one. After he broke up with his ex, he saw my friend another time cleaning and preparing a place for an event of their mutual friend. That's when he took the opportunity to ask his friend to introduce him to her. The rest is history

YOUNG WOMEN PLEASE STOP GIVING AWAY YOUR COOKIES.

By the end of the video I'm in tears! This man has been nothing but a blessing for my well being since last year!

I know God sent you to do these videos.... because I just had to stop talking to a guy because he was Muslim and I though we could work it out we dated for 2 months I thought he was going to be my husband BUT .....Guess what? when it came to our children we could not agree on who’s belief the kids would follow that was our DEALBREAKER. Ladies ima tell yah he was everything pulling out chairs, financially stabled, worked out at the gym with ME faithfully (He was FIT 6 pack etc) but I could NOT jeopardize my Faith because God/Jesus is my foundation my beginning and end ❤️

I let this play out loud and my 33 year old daughter did not move. I’ve said the same thing several times, but I appreciate you addressing this subject. She heard you. TYJ. I think she gets it now. No settling.

You are absolutely right! While Adam was asleep, God was creating Eve. So when God presented Eve to Adam, he instantly recognized her as his wife. Adam didnt know what God was up to, while he was sleeping. It's something God wired in men.

Good stuff Tony! As women we should not invest all these years into relationships that are not leading to marriage. Not many women want to be girlfriends forever.

Tony you are so right ...my husband said he knew I was his wife within the 1st (week) ...im a blessed woman 😀all PRAISES to GOD...

Sometimes it is hard to accept but it’s best to know now rather than wait years down the line.

You are speaking to my 💜 today. My parents went on 5 dates with a chaperone and then got married. They were married 62 years before passing a few months apart. The marriage was not perfect but they raised their children TOGETHER, and was committed to a family structure and NO DIVORCE. My father was 22 when he married my mother who was 19. He HAD TO GROW into his manhood and being married. Nevertheless, I’m proud of them, and the commitment and vows they honored before God and man, And I’m proud of the people my siblings and I became. Many blessings to you and yours my young brother, and be blessed. You are really EMPOWERING US😀.

Great topic as usual. Like he said in another video: “You can have the pain of discipline or the pain of regret”. Life is too short to keep repeating the same lessons. I appreciate TG’s transparency👍🏾

Chains of bondage are being destroyed as Tony Gaskins speaks the truth! This video is the most liberating because time is precious and valuable and it should not be wasted on someone who cannot make up their mind and who doesn't value you. Be blessed!

I remember when my son met his wife, he came running home saying ma’am ma’am !!!!I met my wife. They have been married for five years now. And I can go on and on stories about that

My husband told me he knew the first day he met me .he gave me his brand new Jeep because my car was raggedy.

Manglish- “when I get my money right ima leave you” 🤣 PERIOOOOOD

Hi Tony, I grew up with three older brothers who taught me about men, and I agree with you with regard to a man knows when he meets the woman he wants to marry. I tell my girlfriends all the time that they will know because he will make the necessary adjustments in his life to make them a priority and be “present.”

This is sooooo true 101 % . I see it all played out with past exes, the excuses they make to drag you along for years until they find the one or settle for you if they cant look no more..

I used to think being in a long term relationship was a good thing. Boy, was I wrong. Thanks Tony for opening my eyes. Setting new standards for 2020...and they just got higher!

No bad news at all. 🗣️Set the captives Free!

This is facts. My dad told me this before he died. He said a man knows what he wants within 6 months. After six months drop him cause you are not the one for him.

I LOVE TO HEAR THE TRUTH NO SUGAR COATED MESSAGES. I'M TAKING EVERYTHING ALL IN BEFORE I GET MARRIED. THANKS FOR SHARING THIS VIDEO.

Off/On with a Man=NOT HIS WIFE!!!#BE BLESSED

I literally cried watching this. I’m 24 and single but I appreciate your realness Tony but I’m just a little discouraged. Be blessed!

Tony, your videos are 10000% the truth. Many women need to hear the truth and it's sad that self-love is lacked. When I decided to love me and develop a love relationship with God my life changed!!! Great men truly exist especially when you learn to love self first!!!!

I was dating a man for over a year who put me through the damn ringer. He knew I wanted to be married with kids. Always said “I need a break , I need space , I don’t want to live together but be together , pick up my kids , I’m not ready to marry, we’re basically married already “ meanwhile cheating on me the ENTIRE time……I finally left him after a year long of back and fourth….. and now I’m engaged to a wonderful man 💕 he said he knew I was his wife after our first date. Proposed to me & now we’re Getting married in 4 days! He wants kids and believes in marriage. I’m so glad I listened to my intuition… God was waiting for me to see my worth and now that I have my blessing has arrived 🙏🏽💍✨💕 I share this to help any other woman struggling with anything similar. God Bless ✨🙏🏽💕

LET THE YOUNG WOMEN KNOW HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED.

Y’all men are draining.

Proverbs 31:30 charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the lord is to be praised

And people judging Lori because how she moving 😂 tuhhh. Y'all better get like her & stop putting life on hold 1 or more years for a bf. Anything after a year you wasting your time. Hello 2020 vision we seeing clearer now! Be blessed 💫

You are absolutely right. I was with my children's father for 12 years we met in college and he never married me. He actually broke up with me 2 years ago and I was heartbroken. Your videos has really helped me, thank you!

💯 my thoughts exactly. And I'm a woman. An indecisive man is unstable in all his ways (James 1:8) Pay close attention to his/her ways.

My father said the same thing. A man ain’t grown till 35. He also said, at 35 a man should have his own business, his own career, he should be at the top of his game.

PREACH TONY -> It all boils down to being "equally yoked " Point Blank PERIODDD!!! Be BLESSED 🤗

This is so true I was with a guy on an off for years even at some point he gave me an engagement ring an he still didn't marry me. When I met my now husband an we were married within three years. If I had kept trying to hold onto the first one he would have kept picking me up an dropping me an it would have been my own fault. I always wanted to be someone's choice an not someone's option when all else failed.

"FAITH, FAMILY, FINANCES..are a MANS FOUNDATION" thank u Lord for TRUTH!!🙏☝️

And they say Men r Dumb🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽‍♀️😩Lord help us. This Knowledge is Priceless... Come on through Tony....🙋🏽‍♀️🤗

Confirmation is everything..

🗣🗣🗣teach me “Manglish” Brother Tony 🤣🤣

This is true Tony a man knows..i dated a guy who was on & off..the third time he came back he told me he found a virgin..God loving me he left his phone by mistake & i dont even know how i unlocked it..he was already calling that lady his Mrs..& even got her preginant within a month already staying with her..its sad how i was about to be dribbled..its the painful truth that i had to swallow .tho the guy is a serial cheater ..still healing

The truth hurts sometimes but it will set you free! God bless you :)

Whew no one else is being this REAL, salute to you Tony. Be blessed 🙏🏽

I married right at 2.1 years. 26 years and still counting. Thank you Tony Gaskins for confirming everything my husband and I discussed. 💜💙

Tony Gaskins... let your spirit-filled wisdom FLOOD this channel and KZfaq. You are leading a revolutionary movement in relationships and I’m glad to be a part of this movement. P.S. I WARNED all my friends during college, this fact that men know very early what they want. But these friends 2nd guessed these men and stuck around for him to change his mind. A change that never comes. In my circle of college friends all my friends fell early for “douche bags” who used them. And when my friends realized the biological clock ticking, they all settled for marriages with men they did not fall in love with. Now in 2020, either they are stuck in LOVELESS marriages or trying to exit out a broken relationship with a whole lot of baggage. I did NOT SETTLE. I’m single, and live in spirit-filled wisdom. I have my standards high and I weed out douche bags with in 1-3 months. And I’m LIVING PROOF that I’m BLESSED by GOD.

Consigning this 100%👍🏽

🗣🗣🗣 This video!!!!!!!!!!! Point Blank Peri-ooddddd When he drops facts on you and you have no choice but to get out that gallon of water and swallow that huge pill cause you need to take it in order to get to the healthy mindset you’re looking for. Lawd... thank you Tony!🙏🏽

Wow! Man Tony I could literally see what you are saying by looking at my past mistakes. I honestly would rather hear the truth and be saved than to hold on to a lie in my own mind. Thank you for enlightening us.🙏🏽

Listen to this man on this! He is on point and totally telling the truth! Never put your life on hold for an indecisive man! It doesn't take years to " decide " if someone is your wife! He'd be scared of losing that woman to another man , thereby making SURE to put a ring on it! He doesn't want to misplace that cell phone , therefore , he has a ring on it! Do not be disrespected ladies! Out there is a real man who will treat you like a woman is supposed to be treated! Do not settle for second best!

I agree that a man isn’t shy and quiet when it comes to a woman he wants.

He said “musty man.” I am doooone lmbo. 😂😂😂

It’s hilarious how women are knocking other women saying that we lack self confidence because we are in agreement with Tony. Just because you don’t find what he’s saying helpful or another person is enlightened by his knowledge, DOES NOT MEAN A PERSON LACKS SELF CONFIDENCE. That’s what’s wrong with the world today Bitter women who think they know everything. I normally never comment but today everyone seems like they’re in a bad mood. Please get over it. Point of the matter is IF YOU DISAGREE THEN PLEEEEASE GO AND START YOUR OWN CHANNEL!! This is not the debate club.

I feel like I'm being coached correctly after years of flailing around the field and not having any wins. I'm so glad that this man is willing to tell the truth for our benefit.

Big take away in manglish lol: Faith, Family, & Finances. Also « He sees you as good enough to be a egg donor but doesn’t see you as good enough to be his life partner. » God Bless you Tony for the straight TRUTH.

Thank you Tony, this is truly gem dropping. A woman is never suppose to wait on a man, it suppose to be the other way around.

Your video’s are saving so many people. Time is to precious to be wasting it on someone who doesn’t want you. Thank you again and BE BLESSED!

Smh 🤦..its sad that we put ourselves thru all this waiting and waiting..close the door ladies hes lying like Mr T say..Be blessed yall❤❤#2020 vision..🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

It's not about looks...it's about character. After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Being quiet and shy doesn't mean lacking confidence or stupid. I agree that men are self aware and know themselves well enough to identify their wives early.

Thank you. Be blessed. It hurts more to waste 5 years with someone who doesn't want you, than to listen to this truth. TIME is the ONE THING we CAN'T replace, stop wasting time.

36 year old man thru 41 year old man play games too🤷🏽‍♀️ I cant tell who’s worst the younger ones or the older ones🤦🏽‍♀️

You sir are out here Blessing my life❣️🙏🏾🙌🏾 Periodd‼️

Men know Men...ladies get your pink slips ready.

I rock with you because you give us the real deal straight, no chaser.

Thank you for the wisdom Tony. This didn't hurt me at all. I'm here for self reflection, accountability and understanding. God Bless

Wow! Thanks for the knowledge Tony..🙏🏽🙏🏽 I agree that when a man meets the "one" he will do what is necessary and required ASAP and he will face and conquer his greatest fears because he doesn't want to risk losing that woman

We appreciate this content Tony !! You have confirmed and enlightened me on today. May God continue to use you & bless your family !!

Whew Lorddddd!!!!!! What a video lol. Very very on point advice. Praying for us single ladies out here 😂...point, blank, periahhhhd😭🙏🏾

Please don’t apologize for being too real. This is the realness that we need to hear. I truly believe that things between men and women will improve all the way around when we as women raise our standards for ourselves and the men that we surround ourselves with. Not to mention, who better to listen to than a man when talking about men? Your realness is greatly appreciated!!!

Ouch, this hurts but I appreciate you, Tony. God is truly using you. Thank you. Be blessed.

Thank you ..Tony !!! Don't sugar coat anything.. Learning soooo much !!! Be Blessed y'all !!! 💙💔💙💔

Yet again I want to thank you for giving me both clarity and the courage to move on and eventually meet my intended. Stay Blessed

When u realize u are not his wife... 😔

My boyfriend told me the first time we met that he wanted to marry me...been dating 5 months and told me to pick out a ring...

Whew!! Had to comment on this GEM!! Come on, talk to the people Tony! If you’re not REALLY listening then you’re just playing yourself. Point blank period! Loved this video! Had to share!! Be blessed tribe!!

Right on time! ✍🏽Thank you! Be blessed 💙

Tony, thank you for all of this honesty. Believe me, I am taking heed. Because honestly, people suffer when you don’t do things the right way.

"Lost broken hurt and confused" - Yes Lord! I hope the ladies truly hear you Tony Gaskins. And we need to seriously PRAY for our brothers.

Don't apologize for speaking the truth!.. Thanks again for all you! Please keep them coming... #neversettle #beblessed #tonygaskins 💋❤🤗🌞💋

That was my dilemma: I dont drink, I dont smoke but the guy I was dealing with did drink (sloppy drunk) and did smoke on occasions. Knowing that wasnt me and who I was, I compromised my standards to be with him...however, it didnt work. He's 37 and still like to party party party (drink/smoke)... I'm 40 and feel like I have outgrown the club/ party scene.... hes now w/ 26 y/o who LOVES to do all the things he loves to do

Thanks so much Tony! Your videos and teachings have gotten me through some tough days the past few months.. Thank you Tony! 😭🙏🏻

Keep telling the truth my Brother Tony🤞🏽🙏

The truth will set you free and listening to you has freed my soul and mind .... thank you 🙏🏽

Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom. God bless you Mr. Gaskins. I really appreciate your content.

That's deep, And u definitely telling the truth. Been there before it was a waste of year's. I love your videos. I'm talking to a older guy. And he always saying he don't have time. And he's not putting no woman over his daughter's but at the same time says he want a wife. Been talking to him for 8 months now. Keep the video's coming and be bless Tony Gaskins 🙏🏾💙

Thank U Brotha Tony for opening my eyes on alot of things i wasnt sure about n touching on alot of things i already know on men...this is a big Blessing to hear..Be Blessed My Brotha

I think this is one of my favourite videos. Thank you for this message!

Thank you so much Tony, we need to hear this and appreciate your honesty.