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As my therapist said to me: "The person who hurt you can't be the same person to heal you".

Sometimes, the best thing we can do in life is let go.

Never go back to a man that ignore you when you needed him most, thanks for this,I needed to here this

Men usually don't come back because they love you. They usually come back to see if they still can. And they want the ego boost from the attention you give them. I hate that! Men who love you won't lose you in the first place.

The one who loves you wants communication and peace

NEVER GO BACK TO A MAN THAT BROKE YOU.....!!!!! 💔

1. Don't react emotionally. 2. Make sure you got everything off your chest. 3. Ask yourself if it is fixable or worth it. 4. If you 2 had a connection. 5. Release 6. Don't let family and friends dictate for you. 7. Don't let fear guide you

“The man who loves you will bring you clarity and peace. The ones who don’t will bring you confusion and chaos.” 11:30

Do this when he comes back……… DON'T TAKE HIM BACK!!!!! You will be so much happier without him; guys only come back because they know you’ll take him back 99.9% of the time. After all, you still have feelings for him. They play this game until they realize they can’t play it anymore. They just need someone to continue entertaining their clown behavior, and you’re not a circus soooo don’t do it! Just know if you’re always giving them room to come back, they’ll take every opportunity to use that because I mean, why not, right!??? Love is a hell of a drug. But nothing like self-love and self-worth. We’re all in this together; stay strong ladies; if you’re going through a break-up or hardship, just know there is always light at the end of the tunnel. God bless 🙏🏽🙏🏽☮️🕊🙌🏽

6 years together i loved him deeply. Only to find out about a 3rd party. I walked away June 7th 1 year no contact. People really need to love themselves and understand yes it hurts to leave but the disrespect and pain of staying is wasting your life.

Sometimes the person you had the most connection with is the most toxic!

1. Don’t react emotionally. Think out your moves with a calm head before responding. Allow time to process. Don’t let emotions guide you. Use your intuition. 2. Make sure you’ve gotten everything off of your chest. Address the things that bothered you tactfully and gently. Speak your piece. Release the tension from your spirit. 3a. Is this fixable? 3b. Is this worth it? Love worth pursuing = genuine connection, humbleness and willingness to correct past errors on the part of the person who did wrong. 4. Release and release. If you determined that he’s not worth it or the situation is not fixable, express your feelings/thoughts (kindly) and release him. That is let him go. And then shut the door. 5. Be careful with letting friends and family dictate your decisions. Listen to Stephen on the explanation of this point (around 23 minute mark). 6. Do not let fear dictate you. Process things out and come to a clear decision about whether this person is absolutely wrong for you based on certainty, not confusion. 7. Don’t make the same mistakes twice. If you entertained this man due to loneliness last time, don’t do that this time. If you didn’t communicate your standards last time, don’t do that this time etc. The lessons learned here can be applied to future relationships, if it comes to that. 8. Pray and talk to God. Pray and talk to God. Pray and talk to God. Our own intelligence will take us so far. God sees all and wants our best. If you’re not getting your answers clearly, fast. Thanks for reading. Peace.

If we ask, God will ALWAYS reveal to us who a person is. We get into trouble because we keep the Holy Spirit out of your lives and decisions.

Dont ignore the red flags because they are there right from the beginning. I ignored them, made excuses for his bad behavior, but he wasted 5 years of my life. Pay attention to his actions & let him go when u see the red flags. Save yourself the grief & heartache

"The man who LOVES you will want to bring you... CLARITY & PEACE."

This totally happened to me. We had a very mature discussion and agreed he is not emotionally ready and is too insecure to be able to commit to what I would desire I felt good about the discussion. We had a strong connection. We both admitted it. It just got to a point where it needed to move forward and he was petrified. It is OK. Everyone is capable of different levels of intimacy. I happen to want to go deeper in a connection. I am continuing to date. If we meet up again later... so be it. If not, not meant to be.

He came back but I don’t want him the same way I did at the beginning.. I want to meet someone else and start a new journey with a different man..

Again, this video is not about talking about Lying Larry or Trifling Tony. He's referring to people who've experienced regular, healthy relationship issues that can be rectified. i.e., Fear of commitment, a misunderstanding, wrong timing, genuine healing, etc.

1. Don’t react emotionally 2. Let those things off my chest 3. Ask yourself if it’s worth it or fixable

For those that KNOW he is a narcissist, psychologists say the best reply is ALWAYS silence if they try to come around...and if you HAVE to respond, respond with no emotion and make the convo short and to the point regardless of what they say... Don't argue with them, going down memory lane JUST to get a point across... Narcs don't care if the energy is positive or negative, they just want energy at any cost. Block them if you haven't already done so.

prayer is the key for everything...i always pray and ask God for guidance.

“Connection cannot be destroyed, but a lot of trash can be thrown over top of it.” I love that ❤️

Not everyone who leaves comes back. And not everyone who is left behind will catch up. Everything has a limit. 💪

9 years together and about to be baby number 4 together and he left me while I was pregnant. I think after years of making excuses for him I’m done. It’s been a ugly healing process for me while he is out doing whatever he wants and I have our kids at home. It’s time to heal.

Yes talking to God is an absolutely MUST if you want to end up with your correct match💞

A relationship ends because you’ve outgrown it. It can begin again because you, as two, can fill the new shape.

My ex and I reconnected. We talked about what went wrong and what we both need to work on. ( Yes he didn't realize what he was missing). We are both putting 100% effort in the relationship and moving forward we are very happy and content with how things are for us. Of course I've paid attention to the tips and advice from Stephen. Thank you Steven!!!

I believe in the saying" when they walk out of your life, let them".. I learned to take the emotion out. I am a single woman in my mid 40s communication, respect, and spending time together is important to me. If l meet a man who ghost me l consider that closer and move on. It's not worth entertaining them by getting things off my chest if they return . I am choosing to evolve and think on a higher level because I know my worth and certain behaviors from human beings l am choosing not to entertain. I do understand the message in this content however grown adults who use ghosting as a form of communication are not people l need or want in my life.

God took this horrible man away from me I was hurt cause at the time I didn’t understand so I brought that man back and it was total hell I’ve learned that when God takes someone out of your life let them go and stay out cause if u don’t u will regret it I learned a valuable lesson thank u 🙏🏿 Lord

Ain't No coming back your a ex for a reason! They only come back because it didn't work out with whoever the other person was, Think with your head and not your emotions!

Don’t let loneliness get the best of you coz what you are attracted to when you are broken might irritate you when you heal

Ghosting is disrespectful and hurtful. Respect is a must. Not negotiable.

Yo Stephan this advice is gold. I had someone from the past returning after 2 years and there definitely was unhealthy emotional reactions from his end. I spoke my truth and closed the door for good, no regrets. I saw some major red flags and realised that they’re no longer red flags but deal breakers. You cannot fix a narcissist and people who are emotionally/mentally unstable.

~God will never leave you nor forsake you; His LOVE is Everlasting. Therefore, whom He places in your life will be SUSTAINING~

Damn!!! That’s one of the most profound things I’ve heard in so long. The more he cares about you the less likely he is to recover from your rejection enough to keep trying. You’re right! The players make more attempts to my rejection!

The worst thing I regret but I learned a lot! He came back and literally treated me even worse I acted off my emotions by letting him in I knew better but I leaned I’m better wiser and becoming stronger than ever❤️🙏🏽

Some men act like babies, claiming they want a relationship when they don't... Coming in and out like the wind!!! How can a person be sure the same thing won't happen again?? Even when you do express yourself fully...

This one just made me cry. I’ve been so scared of this connection because I’ve never felt it so deeply. He brings me so much peace and he’s so patient but I have only been exposed to bad relationships my whole life and I run away when it gets hard. I don’t want to ruin this but it seems like I am because of all the noise from the enemy. I’ve been in counseling and it’s helping but he’s here now. I hope that I’m right and God will bring him back again when I’m ready.

I am listening to the part about healing and I just started crying. How are you supposed to find the joy and excitement and freshness about approaching love with new eyes after dealing with deep pain & betrayal? And then the weight and guilt of blaming yourself for staying so long in a ridiculous dynamic. I just wish I could go back and time and erase ever meeting him. It wasn’t worth my heartbreak at all.

I agree with Release and Release. I will regret forever not doing that. When you release, but keep everything bottled up, you will never get over it.

I Firmly agree right person, wrong time.This video came just at the right time. The power of healing 🙌🏽.

This was for me! I know he is the one, but we both have some healing to do. Right person, wrong time, but I will not waste the wait.

I can only speak for ME: It’s fixable AND worth it. Sometimes you both make mistakes, then there’s a death and rebirth to a relationship (especially if he/she is your twin flame 🔥). You simply need to have honest and open conversations, forgive each other and you come back even better than before ❤

If he does it to you over and over again clearly means he doesn't respect you.This happened to me with this last guy i was seeing. Ladies be stronger and don't let a man string you along and treat you like an option, a convenience.

I have recently learned that the less people you tell about your situation the better because ppl will try to advise you on what they would do in that situation not what you should/could do and society has it painted to never go back to someone but everyone's experience is different and no one will truly understand it like the two people in the relationship. I have been questioning a lot in regards to this topic. But you breaking it down and explaining it thoroughly gave me some clarity. So thank you!

After 28 years! Lives lead, living thousands of miles away at the moment, wants to reconnect once my move is complete next year back to California. Seeing one another to talk about the past has to be done in person, face to face. We were best friends then, and feel a closeness now. Taking our time now that we're in our late 50s has to be. We have much to talk about. We've left such an impression on one another to where we've always looked one another up but never pursued one another till now. I missed our friendship, but know we have to talk it out, and see what develops from there. He's ex-military and has gone through so much that he's finally in a place of self care which is wonderful. I'm appreciating the time and distance right now. I need to breath through it. Praying for guidance and healing. He took such great care of me then, timing is everything, and maybe this is it. I'm still breathing... Thanks I'm happy I ran across this video.

Always fall for his actions not empty words. ✌️

Don't take him back. If a man/woman leaves you in the 1st place they never loved you... If a person really loves you they will stick around regardless 💯! Thru the good or bad, happy times or sad.

People lease remember that "you, put the price tag on yourselves not other people ". Stay on the shelf and not in the bargain basement box when it comes to relationships.

When you love yourself so much you don't take most things personal. I have learned to unconditionally love myself and in my reflection I have learned to love others unconditionally and accept people as they are. If a man is reflecting my insecurities I work on myself and realize that rejection has nothing to do with him and everything to do with me. I do agree that it's important to talk and discuss intentions and wholeheartedly respect each other whatever that path may be.

Yup you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned about being hurt and disappointed again. I'm just trying to save my heart from all that. It's pretty much all I have that's left of me.

"Don't react emotionally" this one is powerful

Connection cannot be destroyed but a lot of trash can be thrown in 🤔

One thing about me: If I left you for myself, I'm NEVER coming back! 👸🏽✌🏽 I've had so many exes try coming back and it would never happen. Goodbye and God bless you on your future endeavors. 👋🏼

After breakup you should crying out of your shoulder! Just let it all out. Don’t try to move on to fast or trying to pretend like that you are ok but deep down you know you are so hurt .-. How long does it take to get it all out? I truly don’t know, maybe 6 months, 1 year or 2…just really cry until you can’t cry no more. When it stops that the signs you’re done with it

My husband did me wrong 3years ago and I still can’t trust him! He came back because he know I let him! Listening your video really open my eye!! I still don’t have good feeling for him. I still feel he will do me wrong again. Thank you so much your wonderful video!! It’s thought me a lot❤️

IF THIS MESSAGE DIDNT COME AT THE "RIGHT TIME" THANK YOU SIR!! ❤

Pray about it, ask God for guidance. Also, “be willing to heal first, and don’t be afraid to let him back in”. Thanks Stephan!🙏🏾🙏🏾

1) don’t be emotionally and step back emotionally and Evaluate 2).speak your truth 3).ask your self is this worth it to fix it 4).Release fear and try 5).don’t allow people to choose for you 6).if u do give him a try give him a real try

A man who rained chaos, pain and utter fragmentation into a woman's life should not be allowed back. Forgive him, yes. Throw a welcome party, no

The fact that this video popped up at the very time when he came back. But I left him for a reason. I'm growing and feeling even better than ever

How about processing the entire time you're apart? Flushing everything out during the time of separation and getting everything out via journal, email, written letter,etc. During this time you can determine if it's worth it. As a result, if they come back you're CLEAR on what YOU want and either it is or isn't them.

Be willing to heal and be willing to let him back in …. Connection cannot be destroyed, but a lot of trash can be thrown on top of it.

I agree healing is needed in order for it to transit into a holy relationship

Yessss!! I always felt that lack of communication sabotages so many connections intimate, friends, family, professional. Clarity on situations in life is so powerful it helps to bond the connection it prevents assumptions, it builds trust it helps with expansion and if patience is needed because some people are a very slow burn and that’s ok but we must communicate THANKYOU for this 🙏💁🏼‍♀️😁

It's not worth going back heal and you will feel much better there will be sad times hard times but be strong

I love these discussions……… OPTIMISM, CLARITY, BEAUTY, OPENNESS, VISION, LISTENING 👂, CONNECTING, INTUITION

Never let people dictate who you love. Sometimes, people we’re going through lots of stuff & weren’t emotionally intelligent at the time when they we’re with you but, time heals & gives you both growth & you reconnected & are having a deeper relationship years later.He got scared before, I didn’t.Now, we’re both working on our communication, friendship, connection & having it all work out now!

Good Advice , Stephan !! I know now to pay attention to a man's language , when he comes back. If he begins the conversation talking about my emotions and saying things like : I understand why you're mad/bitter/broken etc etc. Red Flag - that man is trying to get you in your "feelings" ; thinking with your emotions and not using logic - intuition . That man reminds me of the serpent that talked to Eve ... The Word never said how many times he talked to her before she was deceived. Thank you , Stephan !!

Excellent, insightful video. First,only take him back if the situation was Not toxic and detrimental to your health and safety. Agree with your key points, if the love is worth pursuing, and there is genuine love and connection, that is worth saving. Majority of relationships are sabotaged by fear to be open and vulnerable. Poor communication creates confusion and chaos. Fear cannot guide you only truth. Release your feelings, forgive, and most importantly don't take for granted a love that has the potential to change your life. Pray always and let God guide you both. Thank you for the video. "A sliver of light" was the word you were thinking of regarding the door being dimmed. Be Blessed.

Stephan...you are gifted. what you are doing has been ordained by God. only a few people have this kind of understanding and revelation on issues of the heart. You put a lot of things in perspective hence enabling a lot of us to make decisions that allow us to live fulfilled lives.

Good advice. You must clearly know “who” you are dealing with regardless of the connection. Also, you need to understand why they are choosing to come back. Just because they return, that isn’t enough to let them back into your life….If your life is better with them gone and your have greater fear in letting them back into your life because they hurt you before, then stay in the present and leave the past in the past. The only thing you are missing is the opportunity for him to hurt you again… don’t waste time on that.

I know ur mainly talking to the ladies, but sometimes it's the men who have to heal and return, not the woman needing to heal and accept him. Men less accomplished shrink before an independent women, creates insecurities, or, just her being herself amplifies his insecurities and may cause him to leave... What about those instances

In the beginning if its too fast and already having problems and you have doubts, red flags, patterns of disguise...walk away. Confusion, chaos manipulation not good! Behavioral change isn't a deep rooted heart change. Know the difference! They'll change temporarily. Check to see how he treats his loved ones. The closest ones behind closed doors know him best!!!

Don't react emotionally - Don't allow even family members to influence you Get everything off your chest - Be open minded and discuss things to eliminate confusion and fear Evaluate the worthiness of the relationship - Is it fixable? Is there a real connection? - Connection can never be destroyed Be willing to heal - not let fear block you into letting him in your life Don't let loneliness and boredom get the best of you Release and release - even if you are not taking them back Seek guidance ffom counselor or therapist Check if it is the right time for their come back Let him go and shut all the doors if convinced that he ain't the one - Don't allow the same mistake twice Pray and talk to God to seek direction and clarity

I'm facing this now. I love listening to you. You are truly a blessing. I have been telling all my friends about you. Thanks

Facing the truth can be a different thing, accepting, believing, understanding and listening to who (he) is through his actions and words can be scary because it may not add up to the person you taught you fell for. Add betrayal to that and now you are questioning everything you’ve experience in that relationship. Reflection and ownership of your part is the first step, then acceptance, then healing so you don’t repeat the cycle. Here’s to closing the door and embrace the new chapter (healing me). Thanks for your video, very informative as always 😊

I totally agree. We shouldn’t let the wrong people back into our lives for the wrong reasons. Use your intuition to discern whether this is a genuine connection or not and whether it’s something that can be worked through.

Thank you. Sometimes I struggle with knowing what I want -not society, my family or my partner- and I’ve mistakenly believed in extreme ideas that don’t go with me (“dump him” type of comments). I love him and he really is worth trying.

Thank you for your videos. I have been listening and learning. Spent the past few months growing my relationship with God. While in no contact, I worked on healing and forgiveness. Recently started journaling my prayers for my future partner. Thanks to our Father God, we have been able to slowly make our amends and working on our journey together at a slow pace. I see the growth in him and he sees the growth in me. Placing God first and trusting in God’s timing never steers you wrong. Thank you Stephan

Stephan can I tell you I absolutely LOVE YOU!!! Not in a romantic way......I love you with the love of God...You have such a sincere, genuine spirit about you that does not come off as haughty, arrogant, self serving or deceptive in any way. You seem to just be a great and humble man! I appreciate you and thank you!

Friends first truly helps in a successful relationship...patience

I have a fearful avoidant attachment way to love. I was always a late bloomer and She was my first girlfriend from 23-27. I took her for granted, and became wrapped up in myself - I let my ego control me. This breakup was the experience I needed to shake me to my core and re establish my relationship with faith- something I lost for many years. Doesn’t matter what she did to contribute or has to work on, I am focusing on my own accountability to be the best person I can and hopefully carry that into the future of love. I have this deep feeling it should be her, though at this point I know it’s not my place. It’s in the lords hands.

This guy does such a great job. He understands so well both female and male psyche and always give explanations with a deep respect and with no judgement.

💯 facts. Must keep family and friends out of your relationship business. Your videos always provide much needed guidance and wisdom.

Oh My Praise.. NO! I HAD TO LEAVE & NO MATTER HOW LONESOME I MAY GET AT TIMES, I'M COMPLETELY DONE.... CO-PARENTING IS GOING JUST GREAT!!! That was 18years of my life, that door🚪 is CLOSED 🔐.. I'm 39 knocking on 40's door🚪 waiting patiently, Obediently, and working on self-love 🙏🏽❤️& HEALING + Prof... I/We sincerely appreciate you Stephan 🙏🏽

I have unfortunately found myself in a place that my boyfriend and I either do the steps you share or we don’t. But hearing everything you have to say is so incredibly helpful and gives me so much hope. I thank you for your knowledge, support and compassion for others. God bless you 🙌🙏🏻💙

And they grew a pair of balls and that deserves time to listen

Divinely guided! Wow! This message answered all the questions I was praying on 🙏🏼

I realize my worth and I will get whatever treatment I deserve !!!

Time heals......he tried to come back, the first thing that came to mind for me, was all the things I did NOT miss when he was gone.....so for that reason......I'm good, no thank, stay gone!!!

Well ladies always remember 🗣NEVER TAKE A MAN BACK THAT UP N LEFT YOU .

As far as I am concerned, if either of us left the relationship, there was a good reason for it. Sometimes its better to leave well enough alone. I don't take exes back nor have I ever begged anybody to take me back. And yes, I am in a happy loving relationship, so I think my approach is not wrong.

😙 Some situations are forgivable...Some you forgive and Never have anything to do with them. 💯 Real talk buddy...

This is why journaling is so important. It helped me vent so I wouldn’t haul off on my boyfriend. When my current boyfriend was assaulted by a stranger, what happened was to be expected; he withdrew and I didn’t see him for six weeks as he was healing from the attack. We are long distance I’ll be at only 350 miles away from each other. But, he didn’t answer his texts, Calls or anything. I did not know how he was doing. I even sent him letters. They all went unanswered. I began to get therapy again because of all of this. I was hurt and angry at the attacker more than I was at my boyfriend. Because this was not my boyfriends fault. My boyfriend went into a dark night of soul, if you will. And he wasn’t getting mental help at the time. He is now however. I contemplated ending the relationship. Because he had changed so much after the assault. But my other half was saying to be supportive and patient. Mind you he wasn’t trying to decide between me or another woman. This was a completely different issue. This was some thing that blindsided the both of us. I drove down to California to see him from my home here in Nevada. He was thrilled to see me. But there was still some thing missing. I took a long hard look at the relationship to see if I was still valid or needed in his life. Throughout all that time he hardly texted me. And I tried to match his level of investment by not texting him that much. I would just ask how he was doing and he wouldn’t answer back. And if he did it was a short text. Or one really long one, to not hear from him again for a very long time. Fast forward six months after the assault, he is now on medication and he did a complete 180 after his recovery. Also that was after I told him that I was breaking up with him. Through all that time I didn’t even tell him that I would do that. But there was a breaking point. I know my worth. We are now doing well. And I’m happy. My moral is to be patient. Know your worth. Be there for your family first, and yourself, go to work and be present at your job, take care of yourself and your body and get your sleep, then worry about the person that is the one you hoped would be your lifelong partner. In other words, God first, family second, and your job third. We are still together BTW. But, on a higher level. We are talking about our future together. Please journal and vent on paper. Don’t haul off on him. You’ll drive him away.

I am so glad I started listening to you. I am so glad my ex and I are working things out. I am learning a lot more about him I never knew before

Love this " connection can not be destroyed but a lot of crap and be placed on it" makes perfect sense

The right person wrong time is something I went through! I'm so happy to hear you say that. When we broke up before we weren't meant for each other. Now we are back & I'm glad we are. Yes I was hurt bad when I had no communication with him, and when he contacted me again after a couple yrs, I felt the hurt & felt the love for him. Now we are trying to be better for each other & working on ourselves at the same time.

I’ve only known of one relationship where a married couple had a daughter after many struggles they decided to divorce and go their separate ways…30 years later they were reunited because of their daughter and when the man saw his ex wife again he said it was as if they’d never stop loving each other…one year later remarried and started serving at the church I was attending to at the time! Beautiful story and probably one in a million!