She wasn’t ready to see herself without fake hair . That’s the reality. It’s hard to look at yourself as you are after years of seeing yourself with fake hair hence the journey. It’s about self acceptance in every state. She really revealed her insecurities

I never wore wigs or weaves and had loose natural hair for 12 years before i got my locs. I think it’s hard for young ladies who try to jump from “instagram baddie” to locs because they aren’t even used to seeing themselves as themselves. It’s hard to go from 20 inch bust down to starter locs. I was used to not so great hair days, frizz, and shrinkage because my natural hair did all those things. I’m so happy I have locs because it’s wayyy less maintenance that’s it.

It kills me when Black women say their hair in their natural state isn't for them. Well, if it isn't for who, who is it for???? The weaves definitely aren't you! The chemically processed hair isn't you. How is your hair that grows out of your hair not for you?!!!

When I saw her I completely resonated with her disappointment and frustration because I felt the same way a few years ago starting my natural hair journey. Except I stopped hating my hair when I got locs. Locs literally solved all my insecurities. It’s such a blessing to wake up not worry about my hair and know that no one can tell me my hair is fake. It makes me feel feminine and beautiful

I had to find her on Tik Tok and I watched the whole series of events. She finally got it together, especially after another loctician styled her hair. I laughed, I did. It was a bit comical to me. However, at the same time I understood where she was coming from. I think she is obsessed with her hair looking perfect. The loc journey isn't about all that. LOL. I'm about three (3) months into my loc journey and yes I look pretty crazy most days. However, I love it!!! I'm committed to the journey because my focus is on the outcome with healthy locs. In my opinion locs has become so commercialized to the place where many get loc envy. I think she may be one of those people. Each journey is different and I'm enjoying mine no matter what it looks like now. At the end of the day it will not be the end result.

Talk that shit !!!! Weaves and wigs got these women in a choke hold !! I respect everything you saying lol

Black people are ashamed of themselves and unfortunately some accept it instead of learning how to live. The amount of money that we spend on our hair even when we are poor is sad.

She might be having an identity crisis, quarter life crisis, she’s just far removed from herself. And it’s manifesting through how she sees her hair.

Well on a side note, I started my locs 3 days ago!!😂 And I did my own starter twist. I'm ready as ever!

Yes a person really has to be patient & ready for this loc journey it isn’t for everyone at first I thought what did I do to my hair now almost 5 years later I am happy I loc’d my hair I don’t have to spend $500 on braids or buying a new wig every other month wearing my own natural makes me feel good about myself & longer my locs are getting other women are also coming up to me asking who started my locs

I agree with everything you said NattyAnn. It is my prayer that every black woman can one day come to love and appreciate their natural hair the way I do. It's been a journey to get here, but now that I am here....baybaaay, it's a beautiful thing!🙌🏾💃🏽❤Thank you for making this video.😊🙏🏽

Ain't gon lie i laughed hard at her at first, but then i kinda felt bad for her because she did no research at all. I was hard for me as well I had to adjust to wearing short hair because weave had a choke hold on me.. it's coming up on 2 yrs now❤🎉

It is first and foremost a spiritual journey. It is the detachment of self as the world anticipates you to be. It's the feeling I had, the first breaking when I went natural. Breaking yourself from the world's beauty standard. And actually this part is healthy. Because we all don't tape feeling this frustration, but when we start any journey that separates us from being the other version of ourselves, and accepting our true selves. When you are used to seeing yourself in the mirror and the way that you feel you are supposed to look based off the world standards watching yourself change is a shock. I think watching that is a part of the spiritual side showing there's a need to love herself.

Oh my gosh! My first reaction to that Tik Tok are our young people are so emotionally unstable these days 😭! Also I agree with pretty much everything you said. Apparently she didn’t do enough research about the starter stages of locs and her hair took her off guard. I hope she’s okay now 😬🙏🏿! Thank you for sharing ❤!

“This is not me” it’s exactly you, and that’s what you’re afraid of.

😲 that girls tik toc freak out was Hella wild af fr, She doin waaay too much tho... Much Love, Respect and Good Vibes to all 💙🙏

Wow... I just don't know where to start here... this video was loaded. I'm thinking our friend was "acting" in that TicTok video. If she was serious, I am concerned for her mental health. There is more going on than the locs. Anyway, to each her / his own. This is why there are so many options so "You Do You Boo". If she hates her locs so much, for goodness sake, comb them out and find something that works better! 😵 I LOVE MY LOCS. No trending here! My two year anniversary is October 10, 2023! Loc Lifer here!

You spoke so many truths. Its all about self acceptance period. I think it comes with age. I went natural when I was in my early 30s. Now I started my loc journey. Yes our hair is the only hair like this. That blew my mind when I realized that, and why I never realized such an obvious fact.

Thank you so much for this video. I swear I thought she was looking for attention. I am NOT in the business of making someone keep their locs of they are struggling that much with it. It is defiantly not for everyone. Also locs are ABSOLUTLEY a trend right now. I've seen a lot of girlies getting them for followers/views only to comb them out within a year. I started my locs in 2013 when their was little to no one making loc content and I researched TF out of the entire process. So, I don't understand still being confused about the process in 2023. Its all a mess.

I researched for years and took my time before I started the journey. Mine is spiritual and healing, as I grow they grow. But uhhhh 😂😂😂 not to laugh, but I think it’s funny she continues to repeat “y’all think y’all better than me” because she’s projecting. I’m 3 years loc’d and was natural for over 20 years before that so I can’t relate to not loving my natural state, but her insecurity is showing. I don’t think I’m better than anyone, it’s a preference and i don’t care what you do with your hair because it ain’t mine pooh 🤷🏽‍♀️

When you mentioned wigs being a “crutch” for some people…. You were definitely talking about the old me. Actually I will be honest they were a necessity for me because I had basically just given up trying to care for and wearing my own hair. The liberation I have gained from starting my loc journey 3 years ago….. Just writing this comment got me about to cry because I am 50 years old and it took me this long to love my own hair.

I locd my hair with the comb coil method,8/31/23. One week down. Definitely not for the weak..i went shopping yesterday and saw myself in the mirror and got emotional and realized i was handsome and beautiful both inside and out ❤❤❤

I initially said “Dang she’s doing the most!” I have had my REAL locs for 7 years now, and I’ve enjoyed ever single moment of it. Yes, I had bad hair days just as I did when I had relaxed hair, and I still do sometimes! But, I’m still loving the journey. I LOVE MY kinky/nappy dreadlocks/locs!! Honestly, I don’t like fake locs (my opinion)! “Ain’t nothing like the real thang, baby!” 😊😉🤷🏽‍♀️

You said so many good things here, as usual 😇 That young girl's reaction broke my heart. She is beautiful with those gorgeous starter locs but her current version of herself did not match her vision of herself and she was disappointed. Also, I notice that many young black woman are still working on accepting themselves as natural queens in general, and hair love is at the top of that list. Black hair IS amazing. THANK YOU for what you do to shed light on these topics and helping others to love the natural journey.

I’m 3 years locd started with a big chop and my hair has flourished. Her video was so funny to me 😂😂😂locs are not for everyone. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had my bad days in the beginning but I love my locs and I’m never cutting them 🙌🏾

Your videos leave me feeling inspired, sis! Thank you. Her hair looks fine. I don't get it either. Wtf is she embarrassing us? My hair was frizzy and stuff in the beginning but i embraced it wrapped it and styled it when i felt like it. It was no big deal. And then i really liked it. I embraces my journey. Its only now that its super long that in struggling because i dont feel beautiful enough at times. But thwn again, ive always felt that and having locs forces me to jump in the cold pool. You have to accept yourself anyway. And I agree. When weaves and wigs are done right they look nice, but other times it looks clearly fake. Why not our real hair? Fake hair is a crutch! They ashamed of their hair. When i see a faux loced queen ngl, i do swell with pride because im like, "Dis shiz is MINE, I grew dis. Real hair." I wish that we would rock our natural beauty. The world will be forced to accept us. This is who we are.

I had the nappy look but I just began to embrace it.

My thoughts? If I ever felt like this, I would never get on camera, emotionally rant and then upload that rant to the internet for everyone to judge. But I do appreciate her honesty and rawness. I suspect many other Black women actually feel the way she does. She's just one of the few to actually say it out loud. Frustration, tears and all. I do agree that there is a certain pride in wearing my natural hair, especially in loc form. No one else's hair looks like ours when loc'd. I love my locs. My only regret is not starting them sooner.

Omg....I felt so bad for the girl in the tiktok. Mama is frustrated and I completely get it. I've had mine for 14 years. I think alot of people see super mature locs and think their hair will be that length in 6 months-a year. That's not the case. It take a lot of time, patience and education. It's not for the weak.

I felt empathy for her. She’s been wearing all these natural hair styles probably, and hasn’t worn her natural hair in a while. To me it felt like a disservice done by society, as in, as black women we’re told that our natural hair isn’t as worthy of love as natural hair styles and wigs. Like someone else said, she’s so used to seeing her hair in styles but that’s totally different than seeing your natural hair and loving your hair even on bad days

I didn't like the beginning stage either but after so much research i had to learn some patience

For me, the loc journey is also a spiritual journey. It’s not an easy one.

This is a good topic, I think for women who are used to neatness and getting there hair done on a regular basis should not jump into getting locs. I had been natural since 09 I knew what the natural process involved. I knew neatness was not a part of this process, and I wanted a lower maintenance natural alternative.

I agree with her and I felt her pain too. The journey is very hard.

I’m 23 6months locd when I stay I started my locs about 4 times in 3 years trust me and the length there at rn I love them they’re grown so much it’s crazy when I was a loose natural I would think my hair wasn’t growing at all so plus I missed my locs bc I didn’t have to pay a lot of money or keep getting my hair done every 2 weeks I just go to my cousin every month and that’s it oil n spray is all I use fr fr but I don’t touch my hair at all and I keep it wrapped I let god handle the rest plus not everyone can pull off locs and when I took my one set out everyone was upset lol but here I am 6 months about to be 7 on oct 28th 😊

I saw someone else talking about this video and the follow-up. Apparently, she started with shoulder-length hair, and now it looks shorter, and it bothered her. Another loctician reached out and gave her a style and she appeared to be happier. Lol Yeah, the better than me comment was hilarious

I got my locs in December 23 2022 and my hair is short but I am going to wait for it to grow because it is going to get better I love my locs

It’s sad that these young people are so caught up in European beauty standards… She’s a pretty young lady but can’t seem to see her beauty in her natural state. Wishing her success and growth.

Initially when this video was shared with me my reaction was girl please your hair looks dope why you acting so dramatic... and then I was like this happens when you're not familiar with or comfortable with the journey you decided to step into. From the moment I started my natural hair journey (many many moons ago lol) I always said the end game will be locs. I'll be on my microlocs journey 3yrs next month and while I did my research on the type of locs I wanted I didn't necessarily set expectations for my microlocs and I think that's because it wasn't a hair style for me it was and is more. I do think I'm my Dopest when I rock my hair in it's natural state and these microlocs is the icing 😂 but that is something I wish for all women especially Black women because we're magical and set our own standards of beauty! Exit the noise.... Love this!!!🤎

i did research on how i wanted my locs installed. but when i installed them, it was on impulse. i got sick of loose hair after being a loose natural for 6yrs. i am never going back. i love it so much. i am now 5 months into dreads and i feel so beautiful and connected to myself and confident. more so than when i shaved my head in 2017.

10:47 the EXACT thought that got me on the path of researching locks, and finally Landing on my one year old diy micros Needing a wig to feel put together and womanly was ridiculous

I thought she was playing but I guess she wasn’t. So personally, I think she was a little extra.

Right..enough is enough!! Let’s embrace uniqueness, and celebrate our beautiful natural everything!!

The hair that grows outta her head was really taking her through it. It’s funny cause a pound of makeup and realistic fake looking hair with lace showing is considered beautiful 😒

When I saw that video my initial reaction was that shorty just desperately needed someone to support her through the process. Like it’s true not everything is for everyone, but as someone who has been loc’d my entire life, am on my third set of locs, and have always done my own hair, even starting my own locs, I know what pain she’s feeling. People love the look of locs, but don’t know the journey it takes to get to the mature stage where it’s easy to feel confident. To get there, you’ve got to learn to feel confident with thick, swollen, frizzy locs that don’t even a hold a fresh twist sometimes. And that look is fine, but that girl clearly was used to something in the opposite side of the spectrum so of course she’s going to feel un confident and etc. it’s hard, and people should tell her that, show her some compassion, and say we’ve been through the process too but you’ll come out stronger and more confident in your natural self in the end. I guess sis really asked for feedback and advice because she was really contemplating cutting it off, and I wish this video was more understanding.

I thinking about combing mine out after 5 years and starting a new set

Loved this video and love your locs. I think what she experienced is actually apart of her loc journey. Having to see themselves as they are and learning to love what they see. Our journeys are unique to each of us and regardless of what our expectations are, reality does hit harder for some. Lol. Her video was actually kinda funny a little though not gonna lie. Like you I used to wear two strands a lot so I already had an idea of what my locs would look like as well. Blessings to you and all the other girlies’ crowns!

Usually I’m rocking with you name twin. But it’s not about being confident. I think women, especially Black women subscribe to a feeling of “doneness” even with locs. Some of it is respectability politics, sometimes it’s pressure we put on ourselves. While over dramatic, the young lady eventually just ended up getting a style and feeling better.

Her video made me laugh so hard

As a stylist I believe that the loc journey is not for everyone and that you better make sure that that's what you really want to do try some two strand twist for a couple of months and see how you like them first before you start trying to lock your hair

you have to be ready for locs, too really appreciate the journey that may look different for everybody. for me I had permed hair down my back for year then I cut it all off and went natural with a huge fro, I did braids wig EVERYTHING. my point it I saw the pros and cons of the best of everystyle , and at the end of the day I was tired of battling the natural state of my hair, its been trying to loc from day 1. hours of detangling and 100s of dollars in and I still had day were I felt not good enough or that I wasn't embracing my true state (ie, fake hair, stretching my curl pattern, heat damage ex). so one day I decided to stop trying to control everything and let my hair be. yes I still had days in the beginning were I felt not enough ,but it made me appreciate my true beauty in the end. if I had gotten locs before I would have been I MESS, anyways thts just my experience and I feel he pain in some way. (reminds me of how I felt before I cut of my permed hair , others thought it was nice but I just felt broken. (I'm actually deslexic so I don't wanna hear anything about the typos pls).

I honestly believe that we need to stop calling people(blw) bald head when they have short natural hair

I saw that video! I commented on it basically saying she not tough enough for the journey lol. Plus its not that deep. Just be tough and endure it. Its always worth it in the end. Im only 5 months in and im sooo happy i didnt cut my locs. Mine are growing and maturing and it feels amazing!

I was hoping I was gonna have lauryn hill locs or tracy chapman lol. Not gonna lie. I had marley twist and looked so cute. But my hair is fine so I will never get the marley locs volume unless I double up. I am currently on one year and 7 months. I am growing to love my locs as I wanted locs since I was 18 but never took the leap until age 32. Also the viral video, her comment on that " they think they better when they wear their real hair." Let us not forget azaelia banks line" you know what your bitch becomes when her weave in."

When I seen the video I actually laughed at her because I’m like, you’re very extra and you can tell she just doesn’t except her hair. She probably compared her locs and that’s where she effed up😂😂😂😂😂

I have been researching to get on my Loc Journey. Although, i am natural as of 2011. I love love love my natural hair. I like to play in my hair far as messing with the different conditoning treatments and hair mask, using Henna, Amla,....etc. ayurvedic indian hair treatments, while still doing my research regarding Locs, because they are so beautiful. Home girl is insecure, and she is just not ready to embrace and love herself. Your locs are very beautiful, Queen.

FIRST SHE NEEDED THERAPY THEN SECOND SHE DOESN'T HAVE SELF ESTEEM THAT'S SOMETHING WITHIN HERSELF PPL THINK THEY BEAUTIFUL WITH ALL THAT FAKE STUFF ON THEM ITS SAD HOW THEY NO LONGER SEE THEY SELF BEAUTIFUL NO MORE UNTIL THEY HAVE THAT FAKE STUFF ON ITS A SHAME LOVE YOURSELF BLACK WOMEN 💯💯💯❤❤❤❤

That video of her having this psychological breakdown around the natural state of her hair looking “bald-headed” is incredibly sad. Severe mental illness caused by brainwashing and not being able to accept oneself. I wish her healing and self love.

I'm starting my journey now with two strand twist. I wear wigs in the fall and winter and mini twist during the summer. I decide to start this because I'm a mother of 3 with thick long natural hair and it can be stressful. I know i will make it because i seen how my natural twist looks and feels when it gets old. I'm glad i learn to handle and take care of them. Turbans always saves me when I'm having a bad hair day. Like you said, she should've did more research. Maybe she should've just took a piece of hair and loc'd it to see how it will turn out. I hate she had to feel so sad about it😢

All I said when I posted it on my story was that it wasn’t for the weak and that it really WAS a journey if you can’t get through it. And u’ll need patience that will get you to where it’s worth it. But do what’s best for you. Yea it was tough for me, mostly because I was concerned about my hair actually being locs since hair is looser in the back but I didn’t grow undercut out until a yr after I got my locs. I had no expectations honestly. I’m 4 yrs and don’t regret them at all, best decision ever. Faux locs were the reason I got real locs. I only regret switch between blue, orange and black too much. I’m stick with the orange lochawk. My mom loves and sometimes still does sew ins if she doesn’t crotchet but I hated them growing up. I be only had two of them.

How was she unaware that her hair wouldn't look like a buss down. Some people addicted to hair gel, synthetic hair and 6" long nails and eyelashes. She can keep to that life if it makes her happy but clearly it doesn't seeing how bereft she is after a few weeks. The amount of women I have had come up to me and asked for advice when starting their locs to hide their hair during the "ugly stage" as if it becomes long locs overnight.

There are plenty of women who’ve started their journey and wore head wraps, even box braids over their starters. Sis could have done the same thing 😮‍💨… I think this just shows that a lot of people are hopping into this because it’s trendy…. When you do it for the wrong reasons, you’re in for a rude awakening😂.. people don’t call it a loc JOURNEY for nothing.

To give more context she just got her hair done, instant locs are hella expensive, and it was for her birthday trip! Now, she looked cute but if I was new to locs, didn't like how my hair turned out and paid all that money right before my birthday I'd probably cry too. I hope she learns to love it but her TikTok looks like she went back to wigs so.

When watching that video... personally, I heard the years of generational trauma in her screams. The projection, the looks up and down you get, the nasty stares. People are cruel and will project onto your locs. It's obvious that she's never experienced that feeling before--- at least to this extent. It's all apart of the journey. Not just the loc journey but the "unpacking anti-blackness journey". And we are all at different stages.

I love your videos! You're beautiful and your locs are amazing! Keep making more videos! ❤️

I thought it was a joke too until I seen her really crying. I believe she expected to have instant locs

I was already natural. I had to adjust to keeping my hands out my head

She didn't research. So like someone said. She wasn't ready but it was sooo funny to me.

I feel so sorry for her

Just started mines last month i have little kinks so far i wash once a month and i wear a silk scarf cant wait to see it in January 2024 😂❤ my hair is naturally curly and thick asf i couldnt keep paying 200 to get my hair done or detangling my hair 3 times a day 😢😅 so i kept it cut for like 3 years and it keeps growing back so i decided this is the best thing for my hair 🤷🏽‍♀️🔥

She didn't do the research necessary before she got with what she thought was just a trend.

I don’t think she understood what the loc journey was about, and how they change as they grow. I think she looks cute, but I don’t think she had realistic expectations.

i think those are real tears but maybe for a different reason. maybe she is going through something else non loc related. it could be real if she has such an attachment to hair idk

Thanks for doing the video! When I first saw her reaction, I felt bad for her. I was also confused because I thought she looked perfectly fine. I hope I don’t have that reaction when I start my locs. LOL

Oh wow, I am kind of embarrassed that she reacted like that. I mean, was it supposed to be a joke. One of those tiktok things that kids do to get likes and clicks? I am having a hard time believing that it was real.

Omg. I was asking myself is this a joke...? Attention seeking? I thought she looked adorable. So many of us are so "addicted" to immediate, instant gratification. This is one example. When you are this sickened by your true and current look, you have work to do. This is where self love needs to happen. I have been disappointed once, after wearing weave for so long that it had damaged my natural strands. It had to be cut and I i had to woman up. Wigs and weaves will have you in a choke hold, and rob you of your natural beauty and self esteem. I was once a sew-in queen, but no more.

I didn’t expect the frizz,it’s hard.

Ive combed out my starter twists for locs, twice already so I decided to either let someone else loc it up or do it again & be patient..im more concerned with how I would be perceive with locs

i’m 19, thinking about beginning my third loc journey. i’ve been wearing mini twists with added hair which is cute, but the way i be re doing them makes me wonder why i don’t just loc my hair again. i feel stuck though. combing out my last journey made me lose so much hair that im not ready to see myself when the shrinkage kick in. or how my lifestyle will take it. i work and go to school in environments where there are a lot of white people. i know that when the locs come, life will change a bit. and i don’t know if i’m ready for that.

Its crazy how hair dyphoria can affect people because she looked super cute in that video but in her head she looked bad because she wasn't wearing a long wig. Thats sad

You are right my sister, good video 📹 we are special my sister

My initial reaction was: 🤡

First seeing the clip and thinking her hair was beautiful it honestly seemed like a clout chase. I’m currently 9 months into a semi Freeform journey. Wayyy more critics when you aren’t wanting to retwist every week and look like everyone else. I care for my Locs under my wigs (take it off daily)and only wear them right now because my locs aren’t the length to lay down how I’d prefer and I don’t work the job(hospital employee)that’s ok with all types of hair wraps thanks to the everyday in public bonnet wearers. Yes my job has a policy besides hijabs.

Not Beyonce's internet LMAO you're absolutely right when it comes to the journey.

Her expectation was different from her Reality she wasn’t ready for the real I wanted them for years before I had them I did the research waited til I was ready to get them 5yrs loc’d in

I was getting upset watching her because its not that serious but at the same time if you dont like it change it. Nobody said we think we are better lol. I think she didnt do her research and expect it to always look good and be easy. Its not. I battle with cutting/ combing out my hair but i dont because i genuinely love my locs. Its just that i need a retwist lol

Spot ON! YES I am better lol 😂 ❤❤ weaves and wigs goodbye! I am hating on them, they look synthetic period. I use to wear them.

Maybe she a teenager ....I get the frustration but the reaction is a bit extreme

Locs is made up of 100% your natural hair....your natural God given hair is for you so yes locs is for everyone unless you just don't want to deal with it than in that case do something else with your hair.

I watched that tik tok, I just keep thinking, "what's wrong you look cute"

But I’m taking a good look at the video and it looks like her locs are freshly started so she could just undo it. She looks good with it however I don’t think she was ready for the time and dedication that it take to have locs.

The way I explained the so called "ugly stage":to me the only ugly thing I saw was another persons perception of me. People might make a negative comment. I laughed because you me this makes you ugly to me.

Whose child is this?! I need an update. Did she shave her head or not. Smh

I was laughing at her tbh

Black women are the key to salvation! Be unique!

I think she didn't like the shortness of the hair as it shrinks.

Why is she crying like that?, like she's going through a treacherous journey not a loc'd one.

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 not everyone built for the real. I always knew they was insecure looking at my hair 😅 I honestly don’t be thinking about their wigs. Also yes her hair was actually fire.

What's her TikTok name so I can watch her videos. Thanks

And then when she cuts it off, she’s going to really be “bald head” she’s the type to think just because she’s light skinned that she’s cuter than others😂😂😂😂😂😂