INFJs are expert at seeing patterns. When one of us does the door slam, it's usually because we've seen too many red flags and we realize we've already given that person too many chances.

The bottom line is that INFJ's seek deep, authentic, genuine connections in a shallow and superficial world. We're only 1% of the world's population. It's not easy to find others like us. Personally, if I can't have a real friendship with someone I don't see the purpose of remaining "friends" because my intentions are never to use someone but to build with someone.

cutting out toxic people is life rule #1 for the INFJ. you DON'T have to babysit garbage people whom are poisonous.

How many times has an INFJ heard "you're not like anyone in have ever met" or "I don't know why I'm telling you this, I've never told anyone." lol and then weirdly just dropping people.. I think it has to do with effort given and not receiving the same amount of effort in return. Waste of time.

I ghost people. I never knew why. I get close enough to understand them, but then later on I'm gone. Out of their life forever.

i am an INFJ and slam that door at the first hint of nonauthenticity, after years of being a pushover people-pleaser and rinsed within an inch of my life.

Absolutely...we are lonely because our standards are so high.

I think Infj s need sacredness ... when that bond is broken there is no getting it back.

I’m very fair and generous with others but once I see fatal flaws I know there’s no point maintaining a false relationship.

My thoughts as a child was that these people can't be my parents. Aliens must have dropped me off here by mistake. What friends? I am never lonely. Quite content being with myself thanks.

Caller ID was the best invention for INFJ's. I rarely answer the phone and will tell people to leave a message. There are just times when I do not want to be bothered. Unfortunately, for people that do not understand us this behavior seems incredibly selfish. In turn, I think people that encroach on my 'Me' time are selfish. I am happy to know that there are others like me.

I think it's better to step out, than waste precious time to people who don't get it. It's not worth it.

There's nothing wrong with purging toxic, negative people out of your lives. Especially mental vampires and narcissists.

I've had good friends that I dropped because they were affecting me negatively. Whenever they have problems, they come running to me and I try to be a good friend. I listen and advise. But when they don't listen to me, I leave them. Especially since I easily absorb negativity. I don't want to be around that toxicity so I cut the friendship off.

When someone seems to be avoiding me, I eventually give up and slam the door. that includes family. I will not beg someone to love me.

As an INFJ I've found most people will wear you out, take advantage, and coast through life, waiting for you to do the hard parts; they don't put out the effort for balanced relationships, responsibilities, and follow through. The users are easy to spot and dump. I'll back out on some people while waiting for them to catch-on and catch-up to the next best level. But mostly, I fade out because my time with them is up. I was only meant to pass through. I know it from the time I meet many.

i don't feel safe with people getting close to me, get away before i get hurt

Most of my friendships and relationships that have died are because of a few different things 1. Personal insecurity. This is basically when I am getting to know someone, it comes to the point where either I know I can open up to them or my insecurity is too high that I can't open up to them, and so I distance myself even if I really like the person, because I don't want to maintain a relationship where I only show my Mask. 2. When somebody else doesn't put in the same level of effort and only takes rather than giving support and something of meaning. I guess because I don't have friends, I am really looking for someone who could be extremely close to me which is hard to find. 3. Mental shutdowns. When I go through periods of not wanting to talk to anybody at all because of either depression or just being emotionally drained and needing time alone. This can be a few days or sometimes a month or two which tends to ruin a relationship.

i always try so hard to save a relationship but if i feel like they're not returning effort or aren't trying even a fraction as much as i am i will end the relationship. i always get taken advantage of easily because i care so much. when people begin lying or become disloyal that's it. it's over. i cannot deal with toxic people who make that decision when all i've ever done is love and support and advise them and be there for them whenever they needed someone.

My capacity to let people go surprises even me. Without realizing it I gradually take account of ways certain people disappoint me and assess their willingness to change or if they even care to. They gradually slide down my priority list until I reach a saturation point where I simply have no time for them at all. I still think of them and miss them but my guard goes up higher than whatever feelings I still have.

An INFJ will bail when a relationship is no longer beneficial to either party. Not before and not later.

I door slam only after i am sure i have given 250. Percent For way too long and the other person continues to break my 💙

We don't like conflict, we're usually nurturing, encouraging ppl. But we also like honest communication, when hurt or disappointed, we just fade or walk away. Not worth my time anymore. Trust me we will have our moment of truth, but usually the person won't realize we are dead serious, and we don't like drama, so we do it in purpose. We disengage. Bye Felicia!

Yep, we see energy and how that will potentially unfold...

An INFJ is archetypically the mystic of the personality types because the Ni allows us to recognize patterns and make predictions about the future and the Fe allows us to understand people better than they understand themselves. These two traits can be both a gift and a curse because not all predictions or feelings are positive. Mix into this our perfectionism and loyalty, it doesn't allow us to let many people inside our already insane inner world and that's why we shut the door. It's almost like we are a native species of a habitat and certain people are invaders to the land we can only tolerate them for so long. Life is a lonely walk for an INFJ but only if the relationships you count are the ones with people, we all have connections to nature and the universe and isolation allows us to see things clearer and to notice certain things about the world others would miss in the noise. My advice to non-INFJs don't waste your time if all you are looking for is a good laugh in shallow waters, if you wanna dive deep and wonder with us just knock on that door, we still love people and won't turn our backs on you.

As an INFJ, I feel like “what’s understood doe not need to be explained.” People are aware of their behavior, we all know right from wrong so I do not feel the need to explain to someone what they are clearly aware of, I will just leave people to their b.s and wherever they are at in life and move on. By the time we do “door slam” someone, it’s after countless chances and opportunities for them to make the proper adjustments or changes that we’ve been begging and pleading for them to make but they don’t or refuse to. 🤷🏽‍♀️ It sounds harsh when explained but as an INFJ I know the feeling all to well of giving people infinite chances only for them to keep on hurting or disappointing me.😣....Great video by the way!😎👍🏽

I have often told people that I don't know anyone who is like me. After taking the test yesterday and coming out INFJ-T, I now know why. Everything listed here is 100 percent the way I am. Now I know the reasons.

So basically I'm gonna be alone for the rest of my life! I push away anyone who gets too close to me. I don't trust anyone. I'm not for the bullshit & if you don't see the bigger picture like I do, I simple disappear into thin air I've literally been told I fell off the face of the earth so many times. Yeah well I wish I could because I can't seem to get rid of people when I just want to be left alone almost all the time & so people assume I'm sad or depressed when I just simple like being alone in my own comfort zone .. ya know

The only relationships I have "abandoned" are they ones I gave every bit of my heart in and the other partys decided I was "too different" or "not good enough" in what mattered to them. I am a literal "ride or die" type of person, I literally will be there for someone through everything and be their support, but once people reject me for reasons that are irrational I finally give up and won't chase them down. When people disrespect that I have feelings and also matter I accept the end of the relationship.

I deleted facebook friends because I have had no interaction with them on fb or in person so why keep that person there and see inside my life?

I understood completely the part when you say it's bad...but i remember a situation in my life when i moved way from a friend because she did something that hurt me very badly, but after a while, i gave this person another chance cause we were good friends,,,and she DID it again, i couldn't believe it, after all my intuition was right from the beginning!!

Are INFJ's seen as co-dependents? I thought that was what was going on with me all my life until I found the information on INFJ's. I know so much about family dynamics and relationship dynamics but continue to try to help messed up people whom I can see have the ability to do good in the world. I have spent my entire life taking care of others to my own personal detriment but not necessarily in a co dependent relationship. Recently I walked away from my entire life after realizing every relationship in my life was harmful to my sense of self and some were actually dangerous to my safety. It's all good though. I have learned what my boundaries are and how to let people know what my boundaries are immediately. Being an INFJ is so lonely though. I don't think anyone has ever really gotten me although some have pretended to. I have felt like such an outcast and even as if I am an alien on a hostile planet. Some people would like to make me believe that I am crazy because I'm not like the majority of people but I have always asked myself why would I want to be like them.

OMG, I recently found out at 53 yrs. I am a INFJ I felt exactly this way and people just don't understand that this is something that is ingrained in my personality. So rather than try to convince someone how I feel or why I feel the way I do . I begin to shut them out or abandon the relationship all together. For me its self preservation. I cannot compromise my values or feelings to please someone else anymore. I used to be such a giving person and now I am way more selective with my feelings and thoughts. Also living in a world or society that doesn't give a shit about anything other than financial gain is something I can't tolerate. When surrounded by people that are just toxic in every kind of way I have to leave within a few minutes . I do this all the time. I can deal with someone on surface level for very short periods of time, but other than that I am out the door. I have been watching a lot of these videos on being an INFJ and it resonates so deeply for me. I always find something new and I now understand why I am the way I am. It has helped immensely. THANK YOU FOR SHARING .

Being an empath and an INFJ is not easy, and I would assume that loving us can be challenging at times also. As I look back on relationships in my 44 years on this earth, there are definitely times when I have just let them wither away. Oddly enough, when we are done with a particular relationship, we are done.

This is so me. I cut even family members at the drop of a hat if i suspect that they love drama.

This is so true. My standards are high so it’s hard being my friend-so I only have a few quality friends-mutual respect is a given if you’re in my circle. I demand loyalty, trust, and the truth-people don’t like hearing the truth most of the time. It doesn’t help that I attract narcissists and jealous people. It’s quite heartbreaking being hurt and betrayed by a person who knows all your secrets. So I tend to self protect and I isolate myself. I’m careful not to share too much-i stay away if I smell a hint of a personality disorder. Do not engage lol. The older I get I find its liberating to say no to people who pretend to be a friend while taking glee in your failures. Life is to short to waste energy on those who secretly despise you.

Loyalty...My brother called me a loser behind my back. That was 4 years ago and i have not spoken to him since. I think we require extreme loyalty because that is what we give. I accept peoples faults except disloyalty.

I think there ought to be more focus in the MBTI community on "why did I manage to let a perfectly good INFJ get to the point in relationship with me where they felt they needed to doorslam?" instead of a rock and hard place argument of why do INFJs take so much abuse and then, when we finally have had it, leave. I haven't watched this video yet, just noticing the blame-the-victim mentality so prevalent in our culture. We can agree INFJs put others first almost to a fault, so maybe these doorslams are actually the recipient's fault.

So true. We do cut off certain relationships when we find it necessary. Some will be permanent, but others we just limit the amount of contact given. It depends on the situation which we think through. We know addressing the situation to the individual can cause conflict which we do avoid. We see no point in conflict because in that situation, we're still misunderstood. We also know we are not perfect so sometimes need to retreat and think it through to know what or who is right for us. We are not afraid of conflict, but wisely choose our battles.

So true! As an INFJ, and highly sensitive empath on planet earth… I find I can very quickly see the patterns in a person, or anything for that matter, and make a very quick snap decision whether they should be in my life or not. Those who are not worthy or willing to swim in the deep waters of life will not survive the sea of the INFJ. We are no better or worse than anyone else, just way more decisive at a certain point.

Finally answers....i thought i was alone in the world

I've become so afraid of myself for the reason of becoming silent at pivotal moments, when I have the power to save relationships. I become a fatalist, feeling unable to express myself.

The only time I haven’t done this was when my ex gf and I decided to end our relationship and go our separate ways. And that was probably one of the most painful and crushing experiences I’ve ever had. Every other friendship I just fade away slowly. The good friends can call me months apart and it’s like we never left. Or I can call them and it’s the same thing. I love those low maintenance friendships where we don’t have to see each other or talk every day and it’s still natural when we do get together after a good amount of time.

As an INFP, this is honestly such great advice for me too. I have a very difficult time setting boundaries. :/

I'm an INFJ Pisces, so it balances out. The ones who I bond with will never, ever be abandoned (Pisces), the ones who slight me, however, gone before the bonding starts (INFJ.) The ones I bond with are true blue and I got their backs for eternity (Pisces) but the ones who slight me will get by cold shoulder forever (INFJ.) It's a weird combo of extreme loyalty and extreme non forgiveness. Luckily, my intuition these days allows me to weed out the fakes and back stabbers almost immediately. I now attract the sweethearts and profound thinkers of the world due to my cultivation of my life's work and authentic self. Being a Rabbit under the Chinese system also helps with shrewdness. lol

I’m INFJ and I only have two close friends. I’ve managed to keep everybody else at arm’s length. Most of the time, I drop friends or potential friends without even realizing. I just don’t make an effort to keep them. Although I’m very introverted, I’ve found that it’s really not that difficult for me to make friends but I feel like I have to be so fake around them and it drains me so much that it isn’t worth it.

The major reason why I let relationships fade is because most people finally take me for granted because I'm always too nice to them. I try hard to always be happy with my friends which I find is not practical and since I feel a lot of discomfort in confronting, I simply just walk away from the relationship. That's the best way I see to handle the relationship. One of my biggest problems in life is being an Introvert (I score more than 75% in introversion) and also I suffer from social phobia 😟 . I wish I wasn't an INFJ. Maybe I would have preferred being an ESTJ or ENTP

This was so beautifully said, and definitely accurate I often close relationships and not in a dramatic way but in a stealthy disappearing sort of way, as soon as a person is not matching my moral code/vibration for a long period of time...I give up. I give up because I absolutely lack the spine to allow a conflict to arise, this is something I need to work on because I believe I have enough strength and wisdom to help others and also enlighten myself along the way. I also close relationships when I lose hope in a person and lastly when I feel deep hurts and pains from the person

I ended a relationship with a family member and as an INFJ did not do so lightly. It has been over 50+ years but it was the best decision I could make. This person made me feel like he was crushing my soul, deliberately throwing my beliefs and values in my face to see what I would do next. Well, I did it and it has been heaven. Very interesting video and very accurate. Thank you.

I like people, I like talking about the interesting stuff, I just can't like people all the time, I need other stuff as well, don't follow me all the time, I'll talk with you, just not all the time, you'll suffocate me!!

This is so accurate its kind of scary and tbh before now I used to think am a broken soul but now ik that there's others like me out there so am not alone. Sucks to be misunderstood each and everyday especially by the persons you expect to understand

I PAY ATTENTION TO WHATPPL DO NOT SAY. THAT SCREAMSAT ME. ANDIM DONE.

I'm 25 INFJ I never been in love or relationship 😔😢

Oh yes and people who try to manipulate me, try it once, I give you one other channce, do it again you are gone. People who cause conflict in any way in my life, I don't argue with ever, I just walk away. In an office situation I believe in being civilised to people I really don't like, whether a member of staff or a client, but I would never associate with them outside outside working hours ever.

It's called pruning and weeding. Contact with people is great in short spurts - especially if you have to engage in small talk. I can't stand small talk. Drives me nuts. People don't want truth, they don't want honesty, they don't want to hear anything that will make them feel uncomfortable, they don't want to hear anything that may sting. I've had to let friends know when they've crossed a line (and I give them plenty of line) - they've either taken me for granted, or not reciprocated for a long time or something like that. I like what you said about boundaries. Very important to respect boundaries. If someone is consistently pushing past my boundaries, whether they're conscious of it or not.... I cut 'em off. Who needs that? I sure as hell don't.

I just found out (12hr ago) about this whole INFJ thingy because of how accurate this was. And this is so so so overwhelming

Stop calling my phone stop being intrusive leave me the he'll alone

I've always wondered about this and only recently came to realize that it's more a blessing than a curse in my life.

When the other person finally reveals themselves to b insensitive, self absorbed and unempathetic, I dry up. However it's not my job to educate them and unrealistic to expect them to b on my wavelength. True, I will try to explain this to the other person instead of slamming the door. Thx for that advice!

I am an INFJ and I try to keep as many relationships alive as I can, but as soon as I stop getting the same amount of attention I am giving them back, it's an instant cut off. If they hurt me in any way I try to look past it and see if there is a reason for hurting me and I try to change myself accordingly. But as soon as someone starts hating me for who I am, that is when they won't ever see me again.

I would consider myself a infj if someone who's treating me like garbage even though I gave them love I would leave immediately.

My parents have yet to understand that the more you blow my phone up the longer its going to be before you hear from me

I am 44 years old and just realised I'm an INFJ . It's so made me understand me more. I cried with emotion because I'm now an identity to the world and not a total weirdo. Thanks so much for sharing. I totally relate to it. Had some people totally let me down in life and took advantage of my soft nature. Slammed the door and locked it and threw away the key. The only people I could never do that to is my family, because blood always will win water and they know and understand me most. Love and inner peace to you.

I can't trust people easily. I just can't!

My boyfriend is always think that I'm being judgy or just making assumptions about people and I have tried to explain to him its my INFJ intuition, but he doesn't understand. He is an ENTP, so I guess he wouldn't... There have been a few people I have shut out of my life recently and I literally just stopped answering my messages from them. One was a close friend who has violated my boundaries one too many times and I can no longer accept her trying to control my choices. I love these kind of videos because it makes me feel less weird and alone.

I have always been transparant. Open from the heart.No matter what is thrown at me. My honor has been severed .Took several years to get to this point of balance.

I have blocked almost a 100 people on Facebook. 😆

Just as I can be generous with my time to those who need it and appreciate it, I can easily disappear in thin air for those who try to take me for a fool. No regrets

Thank you so much for this video. I’m an INFJ and I have had it happen so often that sometimes in a friendship I suddenly start disliking that person and it slowly grows deeper and then I just completely cut off contact even if everything between us seemed 'normal'. I feel so bad for doing this and I never quite understood why. I knew why I felt that way but it always feels like it isn’t even under my control. It just happens and I can’t stop it. Now I know why I’m doing this and it makes it easier for me to understand. And I’m not saying that it isn’t hard for the other person because it is and I know that this behavior isn’t okay. I’m working on it. So thank you this really helped!

Thank you for that! Today is the first day in my life where I have finally come across people who are just like me! Yes, I will look at you in what YOU interpret in a very intense way and will thereby gather information to make a fairly accurate evaluation and assessment! I will quite often drop people, not answer phone calls, messages, etc. I have not yet taken the test, but I feel that in just a single day I have gathered enough data on the subject to come to the conclusion myself. It is too bad that for most of my life I have blamed myself for my inability to maintain 'friendships' at all costs, when in fact they were not worth my time or energy! I have been accused all of my life for having 'too high of a standard' but what the hell? It is my standard and I'll be damned if I lower my standards for anybody! It makes me appear rigid and uncompromising, but hey - this is MY life and I need to be true to myself before I can be true to others!

To BE a "Real Friend!" is to put the needs of others "First!!!" before your "OWN!!!" "AMEN!!!" LOVE * LIGHT * TRUTH

Thank you for this post. It really fits with my experience as an INFJ. I’m nearly 60. Looking back at my life I have known a year or so ahead that I am leaving a situation or relationship. I’ve needed to go no contact with my family of origin and that was 5 years ago and a good decision. I long for deep authentic connection and while I have two good friends we don’t discuss matters at the depth I long for. I deeply appreciate my own company and I do feel lonely at times. I noticed some replies here say they don’t feel lonely but I do though I would rather that than being in incongruent company.

I am an INFJ, for some reason I attract the broken. I can't handle being treated bad for what someone else did long ago. I hurt for those women much so, but can't deal with it.

Ime as an INFJ I see us as the emotional helpers that ppl need only for a short spell until they can adjust whatever it was they needed. Then the INFJs work is done, so it's time to move on. I've had dozens of short term friends, and I rarely "keep" any because it's up to them to do so. I think our mission is to drop wisdom bombs into ppl's lives and keep flying to the next target. But beware that most ppl can't handle the truth, so be sure those are laser guided emo-missles you're firing. Peace.

It IS ok. Leaving unhealthy relationships is not for the faint of heart but for those who know their hearts. 💚💜

Now I know I am SO INFJ. I always feel I’m weird and not many people understand me as much as I understand them. Thank you very much.

Oh! My. Listening to you for the first time and i am astounded learning I’m an IMFJ. NEVER heard of this. You are a sweet heart! Thank the good vibes for showing up on my feed recommendations. Im 73 and exactly blown away! Thank you again!

I have a hard time moving forward in any way now. After nearly 55 years of living like this, and now am alone again, I'm too exhausted to try again. If this is your type, I suggest you commit to a spiritual path, pray, and ask for protection. If Jesus is not the One guiding me past these suicidal thoughts, there is no one on this world who can...one day at a time dear ones!

What do you do when it's a friend you worked with for 16 years? Who let greed and debauchery take over his life after you were instrumental in helping him prosper? And what do you do with a sister you love dearly who stole from you and lied about it, but now parades it in your face on a daily basis? INFJs are some of the most wounded warriors of all. I've just been giving it to God bc it's more than I can bear.

I think this quality in the INFJ is a double-edged sword. I had to drop a friend because of this. I gave him advice that I thought would really help him because I saw in the future that he is making bad decisions and that if he didn't change, he would suffer because of it. Our relationship was never the same and he resented me because I told him the truth. But I feel that as a friend, it was my duty to not sugar coat the facts, no matter how much it hurt both of us. I have had the ability of seeing visions and premonitions(I also think I'm psychic sometimes) and I saw what was coming for him. Sometimes I get really short flashes of a vision and other times they're a little longer.

Thank you very much! This is very informative. I actually question myself especially the end relationship part. I always choose to be away (as far as possible) from conflict as I hate it so much. I also put tremendous pressure on myself to make the best out of me so I can be somehow useful to others.(Actually not being anyone's hindrance.)

I’m actually intuitive too and it causesdepression when I just know things about a person, their feelings and why they’re in my life because it’s often quite disappointing!

As an infj i value my relationships and i hold people in high regards but when i feel that they do not reciprocate my feelings and is disrespecting me, I would muster all my strenght to walk away and when I do l, there is no going back.

Bo, Thank you for your videos, I have taken the Meyer Briggs test at least 8 times, I have come up with INFJ every time. I am quiet and shy most of the time, I grew up being polite and reserved. When I leave a relationship it's due to clues I get from the person I left, I recognize trouble. I don't do it in a way to hurt the other person, I simply stop calling them, I avoid places they go so I don't run into them. I would move, change my phone number, leave no forwarding address. When I am done that's it, done. It was a wonderful revelation to discover that I am not weird just different.

This is helping me so much, thank you kind Sir.. your words are a balm to a soreness I've had my entire life and never understood...

I m proud to be an INFJS.

I am 59 y/o and have always been regarded as “strange” by my family, when I was around 18 y/o I was told I was dyslexic, I hoped that was the strangeness about me, sadly it wasn’t, that only explained why everyone else seemed to be smarter than me. A few years ago I was told that I was somewhat of an empath, maybe that’s what made me so much different than most people, after learning about empaths I realized that didn’t make me to different than others. A short time before my dad passed away, my wife of 28 years left me for someone that wasn’t so taxing on her, so I talked to a psychologist to help me arrange a thing or two between my ears and that’s when I was made aware that I was an INFJ type personality, so before my dad died I was able to explain to him that I wasn’t all that strange I was just different. Now knowing why I’m different than others keeps me from feeling like I’m from another planet.

I have a slightly different perspective on this. I often let relationships go simply because the depth doesn’t develop to a point that keeps my interest or helps with mutual growth. I expend a lot of energy on self growth and improvement and find I subconsciously avoid people unless they are contributing to that growth. It takes energy to maintain relationships and often I don’t have or want to expend that energy. I don’t necessarily think that’s a good thing and I do feel like I’m too self centered because these relationships are not dysfunctional or unhealthy, just not stimulating enough. Then I feel sad and isolated because “I have no friends”....

Very helpful! Thank you for this video. I'm a proud INFJ :)

OMG, you have just described how I have viewed and coped (or not coped ) with relationships all my adult life. I find that I feel a lot less threatened when I am on my own, living my way. I have understood that I have always done that, but never really acknowledged the reason why.

I want to thank you for your channel & your guide. I loved your insights, but especially how thankful u were to the people who helped u along the way. Its a blessing to have supportive people. This has not always been the case for me. From "friends" to family members to the workplace there has been envy, strife, and abuse. Its sad they don't care or understand we just want to love, be happy, helpful, and use our gifts to make the world a better place. Thankfully, its not always so bad & I now love who I am & whose I am along with the gifts & destiny God gave me. Thanks for all that you do! It encourages me and lets me know I am not alone nor strange just different. Peace.

You don't know how happy I am to finally found out why I'm like this. I've always wondered what I am, why I reach out to people first and dump them in the end and a whole lot of things. Thank you. I'm really teary ryt now

Everything makes sense. I knew I was different and never quite fit in. But put on the social show. I don't let many into my world.

and being libra ...i dont confront...i just leave them wondering what they did wrong....]

Omg thanks so much just got the copy. This is AMAZING. Many blessings

"No questions, no answers, just move on." I owe you nothing, for I have given. I am on my rise. So many but so few. I'm compelled to navigate this life cautiously. I am alone but never lonely. Though I am in the world I am not of it. "I am the great observer." They call me, "Ghost." "That is my way, I'm an INFJ!"

I can totally relate to this. I've had a few good relationships that I just wasnt interested in anymore and they just fizzled out. Stopped responding to texts and calls. Which is something I need to work on. Because it's not appropriate and/or mature to "end" things that way.

Thank you. I'm struggling with ending a relationship in my family. This video helped me to see that I am indeed doing it for the right reasons.

I recently left some toxic family relationships. As an INFJ, my value is embedded in authenticity, honesty and trust. I've learned that although I strive for a real connection and will do anything for anyone...if I continuously find myself criticized, ignored and rejected, it leaves a meaningful impact. It becomes draining and not productive. We want to know we will receive unconditional love, not based on what we can do for others....that's not genuine and we hate feeling used. I can forgive relentlessly and therefore can be taken advantage of because I don't want to make others feel bad. INFJs seek harmony and don't want to think negative about others, we do hate conflict. We avoid it, internalizing and ruling ourselves out as the problem first/self reflecting non stop.. I don't leave a relationship hastily...There must be reasons behind the leaving... Either the person left me mentally and I completed the physical "leaving " or I cannot deal with something I've done, that I had to leave for my own sanity. However, when intuition kicks in, we begin to see how much we give that may not be reciprocated. We do judgeourselves first and we are our worst critic. When we realize we are not the murderer of a relationship..we realize we've mourned a living person. One day, you can just....move on. It sucks to always be the one who's dependable, the counselor.. yet if I need encouragement.....it's a ghost town. INFJs do what others believe can only be done by those who "have it all together". Not true, we can be a wreck inside, yet the rational part of us presses on because we cannot justify not doing what is right...in the midst of pain. Remember this, even those strong INFJS need someone to stop and take notice, ask us how we are and if we're ok. We don't always want to leave a relationship but sometimes, it can be necessary. I can admit when I've been wrong... and boy have I been wrong before. I also know when a relationship died because I gave more than another was willing to give me. If I cannot trust you, there is no real relationship

This is on point. I am all smiles listening to this. A true representation of how I live my life. OMG 😳