These are the same men who call women spoiled goods once they do have kids

I think men also use these questions as a baseline to see if they can dangle marriage or babies in front of women as manipulation tactics. If the woman is not seeking to get married nor have children, that’s one less tool in their bag of tricks.

Single moms or childless women. Men can't choose who they hate more.

I wanted children but I gave up that dream because I’ve realized this about myself in the last few months. I couldn’t bring myself to trust a man enough to have a child with him. Men are so fake and switch up on you.

Those men are also the first ones to drop their partner once they’ve given birth to move on to a child-free woman . 😑

I am 50... I have NEVER wanted kids and I don't regret a thing. I've spent the last 25 years traveling all over the world.

Moms: "I can't go out tonight. I have to care for my kid." Dads: "I can't go out tonight. I have to BABYSIT my kid."

I am a mother. Agreeing to have children these days is basically signing up to be a single mom don’t do it. I’m married and I’m still gonna say don’t do it! 😂 he could leave at anytime. Been a single mom before him no thx

Any man who complians about what women do with their bodies, is an automatic no for me. I'd rather be single than deal with an entitled jerk.

I'm a gay man but I wanted to say that I fully support women. It's really curious to see men getting all triggered when a woman chooses her selfstandinghood over marriage and childrearing. It's like their egos are being threatened and so they shame women as a way to shield themselves. The ironic thing here is that men are all about the "traditional" wife who is submissive, and even when they get a good wife there's a high chance they will end up cheating at work and thus, destroying their families. The man can freely walk away, but the mother has to bear the physical responsabilities of her children like making food, feeding them, sending them to school, helping them with homework, and looking after her kids when they get sick. So I think it's a good thing that women are standing up for themselves and shining with their own light.

My ex bf wanted children with no marriage and I left. That could never be me. I don't care what these men say periodt

Childfree and 52. I'm neither alone nor unhappy.

I'm glad women are waking tf up

If they are going to try to lock us down with children “own us” they should be jailed for cheating or trying to leave us 😂

I have met very few men who actually want children. It's more of asset collection to them, another check mark, rather than wanting to raise a good human and be present.

That’s why baby trapping women is a thing.

They try to use fear because there is nothing that they have to offer that would be persuasive enough to encourage women to have kids outside of fear. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I'm taking back the cat lady stereotype. Cat's are delightful 😊 I 1000% would take Cat's over kids any and every day.

Harder to control and tie down a woman with no children. That's why they are threatened.

The dad not knowing the color of her eyes made me a little sad for her smdh

my dad told me at 12 I was a mistake (like I asked to be here in the first place) and badmouthed my mom every chance he got whenever I saw him. My mom didn’t say anything about him only to use her and her relationship as an example. Now at 34 he wonders why I don’t call him for his birthday or see him during the holidays.

I don't give a crap about men's opinion of me - or anyone's for that matter

I’ve already told my girls that if they decide to have children, all the child rearing is going to fall on them. The man can walk away Scott free and the mother has all the responsibilities. They know what’s up. PS. I’m married, but my son was from a previous relationship where his dad walked away and never even gave a shit if he was alive or dead. Just saying. My husband and I have been married 27 years. We have daughters. I still did all the child rearing even while working a full time job. When my youngest daughter was 8 she looked at me and said, “ Why do you have to do everything for us?” Even then she could see it.

Shoot my dad didn't even know how to spell my name. And he wonders why I won't be a hospice care kid now.

So let me get this straight….When she is a “baby mama” and struggling, they talk bad about you and say you should have chosen better. And when you don’t have kids they are still mad????? Ladies, it turns out some men don’t know what they want, and just like to sit around and complain about everything women do or don’t do.

i'm 71. didn't want children and didn't have them and don't regret my choice.

Isn’t it interesting how xys are obsessed with hating on single, childfree women but they won’t say boo about a single, childless xy.

As the one woman pointed out, men are willing to play the role that patriarchy sets up for them. But, modern patriarchy does not penalize child free men. Ultimately, men have the freedom to do what they want in a patriarchy. They can choose how attentive of a husband or father they want to be.

See, here's the thing: if you don't have kids, then tell men you want have kids, they'll dangle kids over your face, like a carrot you will not get. Or if you do have their child they will make sure you are miserable the entire time. Taunting you, by saying hey, I gave you the kid you wanted. Or the men will leave and say you are just another baby mother, single mom with baggage, or used up.

Last guy to ask me if I had kids, I said no, he said why not? I said I don’t like them. End of conversation 😁

They tell women to have kids then shame women with kids and expect women to do all the raising of these same children

I used to work for the govt and when I’d ask them authentication questions.. fathers didn’t know DOB, full names etc about their children. It was gross and they could tell I was judging them.

when a man doesn’t want kids everyone completely gets it.

I once saw a video on my home page, which was an unhappily single man doing a "reaction" to a childfree woman's viral video. His biggest complaint was that, "her acting that way wasn't attractive to him, and so she's throwing her future away because a 'successful' man (like himself) would never want to 'put up with that behavior'". He then talked about how successful he was because he was a college professor (Geography/Earth Sciences), and how by women taking this mindset, they are throwing away all their opportunities (to be with him) and making themselves disgusting to guys like him. MY MAN, this is her ENTIRE POINT. YOU JUST MADE HER POINT, SIR. ADD: I forgot. He was reacting to the woman who taught herself to make that cultural food dish (I can't remember what it's called or how to spell it), and he FREAKED OUT because "that's a dish to be enjoyed with a group of people, and if she's refusing to start a family then what makes her think it's a good idea to learn to cook a "family" dish"? SIR, FRIENDS. FRIENDS also enjoy food. Also, LEFTOVERS. Maybe she WANTED it all for herself. Good thing you're an Earth Sciences professor, and not a Humanities, Ethics, Philosophy, Sociology, Psychology, Behaviorism, or maybe any other social scientific field. Tell me things about rocks and minerals, Geo Boy 😂

Men feel frustrated that they can't guilt women into having kids so they can't trap them and force them to be linked to that man through the child. Because if you don't have a child with that man and you don't like him, you can block him and even get a restraining order if he pesters you to much. Some men can't imagine a scenario where they desire a woman but she can deny him access to herself. 15:18 "Biggest tool of oppression" you hit the nail on the head.

The man at 2:34 said it all so perfectly. I have been saying for years that women who get married and change their name and wear a ring is just a sign you are owned by a man. I am surprised and glad to hear a man say this.

I think it also has a lot to do with the fact that single, childfree women are not 'rule followers'. Many men are intimidated/threatened by women who think for themselves and live their best lives. Largely because they often believe they will NOT be sufficient for such women. It will be harder to FORCE yourself on a woman who is less inclined to submit to social norms.

I love women waking up from their crap.

I'm not dating you, I'm not sleeping with you, as a matter of fact, I don't know you and you don't know me - BUT IT BOTHERS YOU THAT I DON'T HAVE KIDS!!!! Jesus - make it make sense😢

I’m 36 and I’ve had so many men ask me if I want kids and I say no when they say that they DO want kids STILL pursued me!!! Like bro that’s the end of the interaction. They think they can trick you into eventually having kids and it’s gross!

32. Single. No kids (by choice) And loving it! 🤗❤️

Married with a man and one child, people still complain how come you only have one child even do they know I have a lot health issues. I also, work as a caregiver and a school volunteer. The woman may be alone, but not lonely, they have friends and get visits from their friends children. At the school, 95% of the volunteers are mom and the few dads that volunteer are always the same ones.

What is so bad about having a cat at 50 lol. At least it is surely not gonna treat you wrong.

Their jealous....I know for a fact they don't want you to have freedom....

I will never understand how men can be upset about single mothers AND childfree women at the same time. So you cry when women have kids, and you cry when women don't have kids. Got it.

Speak sis!! They want to slow women down and keep us barefoot and pregnant.

I was married. I have a wonderful son. I have amazing grandchildren who I'm watching grow and learn about the world. I divorced and have no plans to remarry or even live with a man ever again. I'm now debt free, financially comfortable, and my life is peaceful, joy-filled, and full. I vacation with friends or on my own when I want. My income is mine to do with as I see fit. I date a nice man when I want to and don't when I don't want to. He gets me and I appreciate that about him. I'm successful, living my best life, and I'm in my 50s. Life is truly good. I wish you all the life YOU want for YOU! ☮🤟💕

I could care leas what these men have to say about it, being child free.

Children are expensive, and in the US where there’s barely any maternity leave and support I understand why people aren’t having kids. There’s also so many people who were abused by their parents and don’t want to risk becoming like them so they don’t have children. There’s plenty of older folks who question why their children never talk to them, because they’re tired of the abuse they suffer. There is nothing wrong with being childfree or having children, live how you want.

When I was younger used to hit the clubs at lot, one of the first things guys would ask me is "so do you have any kids?" When I would say no they'd be shocked. It was like wow, some brother hasn't suckered you into having his kid? You could see the expression on their faces go blank. It was like they didn't know what to say or how to approach me because their usual strategy didn't work on childfree women and they had to rethink their strategy. It was like every black woman in the club had a kid so what did this woman know that she didn't have one. What had she been told and who had she been listening to that she didn't fall for the okey-doke. I swear, my mother drilled it into my head, "no babies, no babies. Get your education so you can get yourself a good job - because ain't no man going to take care of you." But on the other hand she pressed me for years to get married. Never did, and never had kids either. I love children and I have the utmost respect to mothers - single mothers, married mothers, single married mothers, etc. Children are blessing but they are a LOT of work. I like children more than I like men, but I didn't, and wasn't going to have a child without a husband. And since I didn't want to get married I didn't have either. I did what I had secretly wanted to do all along - and that was travel. I'm old and retired now and I travel with world - let those guys be furious. Sometimes I'll meet a guy during my travels and they'll ask me where is my husband and I'll say I'm single and doing exactly what I always wanted to do - you can see the utter confusion in their eyes. No woman is supposed to be so "free range." I'm not supposed to be out here by myself. Living free and doing what I want to do. I'm a threat to authority and I might give their daughters or wives an idea that they don't like. I actually bought a wedding ring from a pawn shop just so I could get some peace when I travel. Some men still respect a wedding ring and won't bother me but I'm pretty good at handling the questions and getting men to leave me alone.

Ladies, just dumped the kids with the dad and if the dad refuses, just take them to foster care or Safehaven (if he’s mad that you took his kids elsewhere other than you being the default parent, that is proof that he doesn’t care about the kids he’s just using you as an anchor). They want the title being a father just not the responsibility of raising their own children that they claim they want. The father can be the default primary caregiver, and let the mother provide financial support, since men claim that Family Court is unfair( in most cases), and also claim that single Father‘s are the better parent compared to single moms. Edit 1: thank you everyone for telling there different viewpoints, but I also wanted to say yes to the people who saying it’s wrong to spite the other parent, which I agree that’s why I said that “CHILDREN AREN’T PAWNS” to hurt the other parent, for the others saying “just get an abortion”, that’s also valid, but you also have to take in the account it doesn’t matter where you are in the world, (talk about the U.S specifically) abortion is becoming illegal in most places here and there, so it’s difficult to obtain and for those were saying just don’t have children, use protection and just remain celibate, you’re also right But also just be very careful and cautious because a lot of sinister people will try to play game on you or trying to shame you for stuck up. Y’all need to women up and Protect yourselves at all cost no matter what, there are laws getting changed or overturned because of this foolishness because most men( not all, but the vast majority) think that it’s OK for them abandon the children that they create, but so quick to dictate what women can/ can’t do with their own bodies and livelihoods.

They HATE them? So many men hate us! Why? My father hated me, my step father hates me, boyfriend's have hated me, beaten and stolen from. I don't get it

I always fast forward when the men talk. I don’t even want to hear their opinions anymore. They will never truly understand us and even if they’re trying to be sympathetic I don’t care.

Lol, wait. I thought men hated single moms with young children?!

I hate how people get feminist and misandrist mixed up. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a feminist. It means you support women’s rights. Men have given a whole new definition to the word feminist to scare women from labeling themselves as so.

We are child free, mostly by choice. Men try to weaponize children and berate us for not wanting to be single moms.

Yes the main reason why I think that society pressures women into having children is because becoming a mother generally holds women back from achieving their educational and career goals. Even after they finished completing their education and established their careers they often fall behind in their careers once they have children and often sacrifice their career goals because of children. By pressuring women into having children is society’s way of oppressing women. Men get judged by society too for not wanting children but women get judged and criticized for it way more than men do. Married childfree women will say that they are the ones people mostly question and judge for being childfree not their husbands that much. And because choosing not to have children increases a woman’s chances of completing their education and succeeding in their professional careers men see it as a threat and hate it even more when a woman says she don’t want neither marriage or children. Not marrying and having children also gives women more of a chance to work in the highest paid jobs such as top level executives, CEOs, entrepreneurs, investment bankers, heirs to fortune, and venture capitalists which is all mostly dominated by men. Women who are single and childless on average have the highest incomes and are the ones most likely to become rich by their incomes. I am a 40 year old male and I believe that it should be a woman’s choice whether she wants children or not and if a woman chooses not to get married or have children that is her choice and nobody should get mad or judge her for it. I have autism, work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want any children is because raising children will be a lot for me with my autism.

It’s a catch 22. Men will treat single mothers like social pariahs but will also degrade and shame single women for never being pregnant. Make it make sense.

I'm a single child free gal. I've been wearing a false wedding band for many years so I don't have to have needy/awful men trying to chat me up.

It's definitely a " I feel threatened" "you're challenging me by challenging the status quo" type of thing, because it makes absolutely no sense to care about what a woman does or doesn't do with her body when she's not your wife and is not producing your children and doesn't even know you. So in conclusion, what are you getting out of her having or not having a child. Absolutely nothing. Nothing is being added to you. Nothing is being taken from you. You feel entitled and threatened if you care.

Men are projecting their own fears when they tell single childless by choice women they will die alone. The truth is it is the MEN who say that that are truly the ones afraid of dying alone. It used to be not that long ago that women had no other way to survive but to sell themselves and their wombs in exchange for a ring and a roof over their head. Now that women have access to equal education and opportunities to make their own money and discover their true passions and joy in life men can no longer use single hood as a threat or dangle marriage and babies over womens heads as it is no longer the ONLY way for a woman to be allowed to exist or accepted within society. Truth is statistically speaking single women are living longer lives, reporting higher rates of happiness and lower rates of stress and mental illness than their married counterparts. This is because although feminism has given women back the god given rights patriarchy stole from them male society is struggling to adjust to a modern society where women no longer see/ are taught that birthing

Men hate woman for being child free but also hate us just as much for being single moms when they bail out. Pretty much for doing anything they'll hate us 🤷‍♀️

Because they are no longer putting up with their BS .. good for them!!!❤❤❤❤

My ex used the "being in a relationship is owning a woman and nobody owns women" as a threat to end the relationship. Whatevs, idgaf and left his sorry arse. My life is 1000% better without him. That's like wildlife thriving in Chernobyl after all the people left.

To me....the craziest part of these men getting triggered is the fact that they don't realize how THREATENED they sound, by hearing women wanting to be childless. It's so TRANSPARENT.

Disruption of the power structure, i.e. Patriarchy.

They act like we're gonna be alone. No bro, there's so many single ladies that we can keep each other company. 😂

Amen 😂 I am so sick of the men ranting at me "you're going to die alone with your cats." Dude. My cats are awesome. I'm happy with them, and I'd rather live with them & die 'alone' than spend a life being miserable with someone like you.

Because Misery Loves Company 😖. In 2023 my brother that has 5 Ks by 4W asked me,” If I can have kids 🤨😂?? Me: Idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ never cared either way.”. You should be focused on not cheating on your wife/BM4 with BM3 who has been wanting another kid by you, for 10 years, until you got engaged and her mental health issues kicked in “. But thank you for Advertising how miserable you are “.

Love the 'question dad' segments on Kimmel's show! Look it up, there's about 2 or 3 he's done. There's one where they brought the mom in afterwards and she knew all the answers.

It is 100% ok with me if these guys don’t like me because I am childfree. Good. It weeds out the losers.

I am 51 years old, not married, no children, and have a dog. I am extremely happy. I've been married before, and it was the worst mistake I've ever made. I've tried having children, but I've had 2 miscarriages and a stillborn. I was told, by some men and some women, that I was less than a woman because I don't have any of these. Why????? I can do want, say what I want, no headaches!!!! Hell, I've even been told by a lot of women that they wish that they could be me because I smile, laugh, and travel all of the time and I don't have to report to anyone but me.

And the funniest part is that childfree women can actually go their own way and form a com munity with other women. Men can't.

Thaaaaats craaaazzzzyy.. My late husband used to make "jokes" about him owning me. He would lift up my hand and say look bought and paid for. I am a widow and i am happy

Facts!! Society hates childfree women💯💯💯

Courtesy of The Take's episode on the femme fatale trope: Virginia M. Ellen (in her essay "The Femme Fatale: Erotic Icon") writes that a woman not bearing a man's child is "an extreme form of destruction of the male ... deprivation of his posterity, his immortality" and that the image of the femme fatale herself grew out of the "fear and desire experienced by men confronted with women who deny the right of men to control female sexuality".

When women says that, men hear it as women don't want them which triggers them to lash out. They are offended seeing women living good and stress-free without them. They're offended bc they can't make a woman's life a living hell. Keep living ladies! ❤

I am married, but neither my husband or I wanted children. I'm 39, we did not have and are not having children. We have 3 cats. We are happy with this arrangement. We both would be living these same lives if we were single - cats > kids.

Guys acting like having a cat isn't a win

9:41 I found this bit ironic. Single Julia seems a thousand times happier, healthier and more fulfilled than Married Beyonce, whose concert she attended. Conclusion: Don't "put a ring on it".

How dare I choose my freedom and peace 😂

Child free and 44… made the decision a long time ago and have no regrets 🤷🏾‍♀️ I have the freedom to move… it feels wonderful

The desire to have kids is usually wrapped up in romanticizing parenthood when we were young 😢

I knew i didn't want kids since i was around 4-5 years old an HO BOY! the social ostracisation you receive when you're vocal about not following the life script is INSANE, even as a kid.

THIS IS WHY WOMEN ARE BACKING OUT OF HAVING KIDS!!!!! WHY AM I DOING ALL THE PARENTING STUFF IF SOMEONE ASKED WHAT THEIR CHILD'S MIDDLE NAME IS HE HAS NO CLUE!!!

Childfree and choose to be happily single. The push back l get back it's strange, they cant stand it that im in control and happy in my choices.

„You will end up with cats.“ Great! Cats are amazing❤️ My boyfriend loves them too😉

To me it seems as simple as men feeling entitled to have their bloodline preserved and they act suspicious towards women not willing to give them that. In many cases there's no malice or any intent of owning a woman but that also happens a lot. Especially in 3rd world countries.

Women that are mothers are also tend to feel threaten by child-free women because they fear their boyfriend or husband would desire the free and happy child-free women out there.

She is right about some of these men not wanting to be involved with the day to day raising of children. I am glad I only have one. It's a lot I have to constantly make a daily conscious decision to be angry I am stuck doing this on my own. This is not what I signed up for.

Exactly. They are threatened. Which is why we're seeing so many laws that are chipping away at our rights.

I'M A MARRIED MOM OF 4 IF YOU DON'T FEEL THE DRIVE TO BE A MOM DON'T FORCE YOURSELF DON'T LET ANYONE TALK YOU INTO IT PRAY ASK GOD YAH TO GUIDE YOU OK 💕💕💕✌🏿👋🏿✈️💃🏿LOVE YALL CHILDFREE SISTERS

It confuses me how unbelievably impossible it is to some men to treat another person like a human being if they're a woman/AFAB. All rationality runs out of the window - if there ever was any. Worried about women choosing to stay single? - Bullying and shaming them will sure make them love the idea of marrying you! (What about saying something good about them to show you appreciate and _love_ them, instead?) Worried about women not wanting children? - Hating on them and telling them they're a failure of woman will sure do the trick! (What about providing even the slightest evidence of you aiming at sharing the responsibility of taking care of the children _you_ so desperately want?) They act the exact opposite way of what they'd want to achieve. I don't understand how they're so blind for their own self-sabotacing.

Some of us don't need or want to get married or having kids end of story

This is the part that bahovs me. The fact that over grown toddlers and their flying monkeys alike get butt hurt when women say i want to be child free by choice. We are not saying we hate kids, we are simply saying that having a child is just not in our path and does not benifit us in anyway. You can call me selfish all day long but, i still sleep peacefully at night. What really gets me is the many women who had children (who shouldn't had them) end up killing, torturing, abusing, neglating and allowing others to do the same, these same over grown toddlers are as quiet as a church mouse 🤔🤐

They get triggered because they will be sad if they was 80 with no one 😂😂😂 men don’t do good alone 😂😂😂 it’s even in the Bible

Why do they always make out that having a cat is a bad thing? What’s wrong with cats?? 😅

They will hate on a baby mama but if a woman chooses not to have kids, they hate on her too.

My dad was absent from my life till I was 15. Then he suddenly appeared, because his third wife, who gave him his fourth child (She was the first one of voting age, when he started dating her) kindly reminded him, that he had two more kids he never even sees. What she kindly had no idea about is he kinda used to beat my mum and drag her along the courts, threatening her with CPS. And I kindly knew all of that. I let him pat himself on the back for few years for giving be some money here or there or repairing my computer. He didnt know crap about me. He never tried to actually get to know me. He just wanted to feel better about himself. He never said he was sorry. Never once did he say he was sorry.Then when I was finishing university, which me and my mum worked our asses for, he made it look like HE achieved that. Anyway, I cut him from my life the day after my grandmas funeral. To any guy, who wants to ask me, why I dont want to subject myself to a life with kids: "Dont ask me, ask him:-)"

I feel like they just wanna fuss in one breathe u can’t stand single moms but turn around an get upset when a woman don’t want kids I will NEVER listen to a man ever the way they think an always a victim but a king all at the same time is crazy leading the crazy