Yes! When I hang out with my friend (and our herd of 7 kids between the 2 of us) people think we're a lesbian couple and they're our kids! We find it hilarious 😂, apparently we're loaded lol

I love this😂😂😂

Our friend group thought me and my best friend were dating due to how we acted towards each other. The only difference being, they were right about there being feelings 🫢

@@TheCosmicJester01 I am a straight man with lesbian bestie people "accuse her of being secretly straight"😂😂😂

Been roommates with my bestie (since middle school) for seven years now. We make married couples jokes constantly.

I don’t think Rhett is gay but link might be BI but who cares!!!!

I try my best as a man to do this and be open and vulnerable with other men but it’s not easy for all of us cause lots men don’t even do it on purpose but lots of us hard to open up because traumas and standards of society placed on straight men in my instance and lots of us just never got anything beneficial from opening up like that and only pain from doing so kinda like subconsciously programs us to naturally not just open up so easy and it’s more of like trying to peal an onion there’s many layers to get to that point and the layers don’t always just come off so easy and the layers are simply just our way to protect our feelings sorta a defensive mechanism that developed but I do try to be more mindful and break free from that. But I do appreciate people like you who have your perspective on it cause definitely should be more normalized especially cause mens mental health is a huge problem because of these social constructs this also the reason I believe more men kill themselves than women because of the burden that can pile up on men who feel they can’t open up or express feelings!

Toxic masculinity which toxic males swear doesn't exist or is something to celebrate. Sad. So many males feel they have to show how macho they are as if anyone cares.

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The reason most men don't is because of women they are quick to tell a man to man up

He is a flawless communicator. When it counts, he listens closely, he thinks, and he speaks.

Some of the best friends for homebodys are the people who say "hey let's go do this."

I still understand that frustration though. Haven't watched the video yet, but yeah

What about people that don't answer texts or phone calls either 😂😂 that's always been my experience

Or try to make plans to hang out or make the plans and then just ignore all texts and phone calls to make sure the plans are still on? Been my experience with literally every single person I've ever been in contact with besides family

@@katc2040I know how you I feel! Don’t take it personally, people are flaky and not reliable. Family is the only ones you can really rely on❤

Every long lasting friendship I've had has ended up with them confessing they like me at one point or another (guy or girl) and this also happens to me with short term friendships too but much more casually like I'm attracted to you. It really warps my worldview of friendships and relationships.

exactly, when i first shipped them i thought they might be together but obviously realised they weren't since they TOLD us and i found out they had wives and families etc. what astounds me is how some people will ignore these facts☠it's disrespectful

i think it has more to do with culture and toxic masculinity and misogyny than people never having had a close friend themselves. it's sadly so, so rare to see men openly affectionate and vulnerable with each other, even less rare for them to act that way in public. so when we do see it, it's honestly natural to assume there might be feelings there, because, at least in the u.s., men don't tend to act that way with each other unless they _are_ romantically involved. it's literally what we've all been taught our whole lives. little girls are told they have close, emotional friendships, and little boys are told they have rough friendships where feelings are never touched on. it's ingrained in our culture, because in our society it's so frowned upon for men to be anything other than macho and tough and unemotional. talking and emotions=feminine, and feminine=bad. though as more and more men act like rhett and link and it becomes normalized, people will stop automatically assuming it's gay. honestly it's not a bad thing that people think they're gay to begin with, their reactions to those assumptions really help destigmatize it. it's not an insult to be called/assumed gay. but like link said, honestly people who think deep friendships like that can only mean romance, are missing out on some wonderful, meaningful, and possibly life-long friendships. really hope to see this change in my lifetime.

@@MonAhgasInsomniAroELF how does it have to do with misogyny?

I think it's quite literally those people who ship anything gay because "aww so cute!" It's weird. Not that being gay is weird. It's just weird to want any male duo irl or fictional to be gay. Now if that's your thing personally, cool. You can be into whatever. It's just weird when that kinda thing is pushed and spread. I don't consider myself an lgbt+ ally, but I don't hate people who are part of that community. I just have my own views that don't align with theirs and don't support it.

Yeah because it’s a government made up term

@@taurez_98 what about the Polynesian third gender roles that have been around longer than the United States has been a country?

nonbinary people don't exist

​@@ttaylor3294 3rd gender doesn't support non-binary which is a reactionary position on not catering to gender norms while ignoring that you can do that without denying your biology.

@@lovefist86 have you researched the non binary (3rd spirit/ third gender) customs they have over there?

I feel like really close friendships are kind of like being married minus the legal and financial stuff. You love a person deeply and you know them better than anyone else. They're often involved in all your major life decisions and there for your kids. I've had friendships that weren't in the slight romantic but I loved those people with my whole being. Relationships are heckin great

So sorry you've written this all in the past tense.

@@wrathika Thank you so much. The second anniversary of his passing was a few weeks ago, so it has been helpful to remember better times. He was an amazing human being.

That is devastating. Sending a huge virtual hug to ya brother 🙏🏿

@@ChristopherCherry02 I genuinely appreciate that so much. Thank you for letting me share his memory.

@@jjuntureknowing that your best friend has passed made reading your comment so much more sentimental, I hope to find a friend that close one day. My best friend and I are fairly close but unfortunately not as close as we could be

What’s that like? 😭 I wish I had one.

I understand what you mean. My best friend is THE best friend. We’ve been friends for 10+ years and same to what you said, my life would be unrecognizable without him in it.

Maybe someday for me..

You can tell when therapized people are having a conversation lol

I’m one of the “anti lgbt” as most would call me. Can you tell me what that means? You’re non binary, can you explain that?

@@alliedbrandon1355first of all yikes, second of all it just means they don’t feel like a boy or girl they just feel like… them. they don’t identify with any genders cause they don’t feel like any genders.

@alliedbrandon1355 it's not my job to explain basic shit to bigots who have the internet and can just do their own research.

@@alliedbrandon1355non-binary just means your gender identity doesn’t fall into binary/traditional male or female. Its not a third gender, just an umbrella term for several different things, which sometimes includes intersex people.

@@cookiesandpudding8485 Okay, I understand the premise of it, but it’s not possible. Unless you’re someone with an extremely rare case where you have XXY, it just can’t happen. I actually know someone who is XXY and they’re still very clearly a boy. Why not just call it what it is? You’re pretending to be non-binary. Just like if I say I’m a girl, I’m not actually a girl, I’m just faking it.

Yes! I believe Link also briefly mention something along the lines of how saying “I love you” a lot can make it lose its meaning (for some people! I understand this, but it’s definitely not the case for everyone)

Platonic love. They're like brothers without being brothers.

I'ma steal that for sure!

Yeah. I think it's important to get over those barriers and allow ourselves to be close. It took us a while but now me and all my guy friends regularly say I love you. It's really nice tbh. Whenever we add a new member I'm always waiting for the moment when it's okay to say it and be openly affectionate and loving. I've always felt deeply about my crew and I'm glad we're able to say it and show it

For me it's also about the infantilisation of women - it's standard for people to refer to a woman as a girl, but a man is very rarely referred to as a boy. So it's semantically easy to rehome girlfriend in the different context of friendship, but not boyfriend.

@@Pergolesi1736true, personally I have always HAAAATED when a woman calls her friend her girl friend…always idk why but it has always irked me even when I was a kid 🤣

​@@120bakerndfor me it was always just confusing because I never knew if they meant like actual girlfriend lol and like.. I dunno it's weird imo but fine, its a you do you sorta deal

women seem to not be sexually into the guys who are vulnerable, so id say theyre being pretty smart

Matt Damon and Ben Affleck?

omg i LOVE your pfp

this is a bit of a outside source, but there's a band called Super Junior and two of the members have been best friends since they were 14. The group is still active, but they created their own unit together and the member, Donghae, wanted to do solo music but is a bit more shy and he asked Eunhyuk, the other member, to do it with him cause he felt comfortable on stage with someone else, specifically him. He even would have him come to his solo stages cause he didn't like being alone. He even wrote songs specifically for Eunhyuk cause he didnt get many in their group and he liked his dance and voice. Donghae has given Eunhyuk's mother money for a family trip and Eunhyuk had done the same for his parents. They have the keys to each other's houses and even just drop by whenever. In Korea, men have to enlist and they enlisted together cause they didnt want to have to go two years without being together. And this week, they announced starting their own company together. Now they're both 37. It's a 23 year friendship and they're the pair in the group that remains together all the time. Everyone else renewed their contract with the company, but they decided to leave together (but remain in the group).

@@angietoonz6605 I'm not familiar with kpop or this group but that sounds like an incredible friendship, thanks for sharing! And them enlisting together because they didn't want to be apart for that long is so sweet 🥺

And i'll say this being widowed and being single are very very different concepts

@@dezzyLmc Hope you're doing well now! Being widow sounds more painful, I can only imagine the pain you've felt losing your significant other. I'm single but just the thought of building and maintaining a relationship with another being, sharing your life and experiencing the world with them, then just losing the connection because they died is just tragic to think about.

What’s the time stamp to listen to the part where he refers to how wife as his closest friend?

Yeah :(

I never liked the arm punching. I agree to just say hi

Amen to that brother. I'm 19 and ive been hanging out with my friend saksham for about 8 years. And it's because we have the same brain too! We think alike,although sometimes there are differences which get resolved. And we are close like actual brothers too! As the saying goes, brother from another mother!

It's so strange because they are told to not be vulnerable but i have also seen men saying to only be vulnerable with their guys and not with their gf/spouse and its just... weird, its a sort of void of emotions, making it almost impossible for them to be vulnerable on a societal level

Funny how smaller towns are usually judgemental of homosexuality but are very quick to project it onto any 2 guys who hang out a lot lol my small town was the same way.

I'm not sure that's true. My best friend is my sister and I have another friend who I called family. And I've heard other women do this but it might be a cultural or maybe even a queer thing.

@@juliet6200I have noticed that its more normal to call people your family in queer spaces (im queer) compared to cis het spaces (other than men calling their friends brother). I think its because chosen family is normal in queer spaces.

absolutely! i am also queer and family terms are commonly used within the community. i should have clarified that this is in reference to heterosexual women who are also likely to call a friend, “girlfriend.”

Actually, the writers did intend for them to be together, but the BBC wouldn't let them.

I totally agree! Long term online friendships are different and more emotionally intimate to in person because of the lack of physical/inperson contact.

I agree!! I met many people online and some of them became close friends. I feel like I can trust them and feel closer to them than to my irl friends. It might sound impossible to some people, but online friendships are definitely real 🥰 Greetings from Brazil ~

Yeah it's definitely a lot harder than it used to be

Making friends as a grown adult is hard. Especially when you’re not married, nor have kids. But hey if you wanna be friends I’m here for it.

Every single person on earth should read that book. And "All About Love". Revolutionary. 👍🏼

that's so interesting, it much more easy for me to have heavy conversations if the other party is doing something, like driving, not to distract them of course but because you don't have to focus on the tules of conversing (ie eye contact, facing each other, no long pauses)

that’s so incredibly sad

@@bgingerichhe was raised in a very sad world. The Fort Worth projects during the Great Depression by an alcoholic father and then was sent to Germany. Worked a soul crushing job in the military industrial complex all his life just to be hung out to dry by his employer of 30 years. He’s remarkably kind and loving considering the context of his upbringing. That’s thanks to my grandmother who has always been radically progressive. I love him very much, I find it helps to treat it like it’s an illness he has.

1:18:40 Awh

@@dd4850 Yes being gay is totally okay but they aren't why would they of been with the same women all these years if they wore? That's the difference.

people thinking they're gay really isn't the sad part. it's not like that's a bad thing. the sad part is that people think those kinds of relationships can only exist between romantic partners. that platonic relationships can't be just as (and sometimes even more) deep and meaningful as romantic ones. it means so many people are missing out on a potentially wonderful friendship in their lives because of how our society's deeply ingrained toxic masculinity and misogyny has shaped everyone's thinking/perspectives.

exactly lol.

They have an episode called “have we experimented with eachother” and it’s somewhat similar! This was a deep dive for sure tho and I’m here for it 😄

Those problems are less and less common in younger guys. But yeah I agree, as a man who is very in touch with his emotions I can definitely say that a lot of my guy friends struggle to open up properly and usually take a good few months of toying with an idea before properly talking to me about it.

Well the gender of your friendship shouldn't necessarily matter. Just focus on having great friends with the people who are close to you. And if you really want someone to talk closely to about your nonebinary experiences then try supplementing it with online connections. Not the same but there's a lot of passions I have and have absolutely no friends in real life who share those passions so I found groups of online friends who share those passions that I talk to about them.

Not necessarily. You could say brother or family

@@taurez_98but family isn’t always that close. To me their friendship is more like being a couple because they choose to stick together

Until they breakup

@@Catherine4942 as someone with siblings I’d say family is pretty accurate, and I don’t even like my family a lot of times.

@@lolcandyyy lol I also have siblings. R&L are on another level imo