Jessica put out a challenge at the end of the video to tell the world what we're good at. Does anyone else feel like taking it up? Here's some of mine! I'm great in a crisis. I'm a good educator. I'm a good teamplayer. I'm excellent with emotions, my own and others. I'm a good friend and partner.

Having ADHD feels like working twice as hard just to do half as much as everyone else.

when she started crying, talking about how hard it is to describe what you're good at vs what you struggle with, as someone with an ADHD brain? I felt that. In my soul, I felt that.

"I'm good at working hard to make up for the fact that I'm not good at stuff." I feel like this is basically what has got me through my work and educational careers, I can work myself to complete exhaustion and wind up in a really dark place just to get through something that I'm not great at. You said it so simply but I've never been able to put words on it. Thanks so much.

I started tearing up at the end too I was just diagnosed with autism the other day and my partner has ADHD. He sent me this video and both of us relate to what you said and it's just messed up how we are so used to negative self talk that we can't even confidently list the things we are good at. Thank you for this video

One strength you excel is - conveying a story verbally and teaching others.

I’m often reminded of this one comic about the educational system. There’s a variety of animals standing in a line, a songbird, a monkey, a penguin, an elephant, a fish in a bowl, a seal, and a dog. Across from them is a man who tells them: “For a fair selection everyone has to take the same exam: please climb that tree”

I wish I had someone say this to me as a teenager. My life would have gone in a completely different direction and it wouldn’t have taken this long to finally be happy.

You’re good at KZfaq for starters. You’re good at being brave and exposing yourself to vulnerability. You’re good at inspiring masses of people to discover their true worth. You’re really good at helping people discover that they’re valuable and not broken. By shedding light on this massively misunderstood condition you are directly changing the trajectory of people’s lives. From the bottom of my heart. Thank you.❤️

The inconsistent output thing is so real. My career has been a long project in figuring out how to conceal my daily output from my bosses, and get them to focus on my total output over a week, month, or year. When they do, they're completely happy with the amount I accomplish, and even say that I'm one of the best employees .... but I can't let them see my results day-to-day.

"Everyone fails at who they're supposed to be, Thor. The measure of a person - of a hero - is how well they succeed at being who they are."

I am on the Autism spectrum, and I often feel like I'm working twice as hard as neurotypicals just to get the same results. Neurotypicals are allowed to state as many personal boundaries and preferences as they want, and expect that they be respected. But when those of us on the spectrum do this, we are told that it is selfish, bratty, rude, etc. NTs are often encouraged to show emotion, but when us ND people do this, it's taken with a special affront, or at the very least, ignored or minimized. Neurotypicals are often encouraged to stand up for themselves, but when us autistics do that, we are often (figuratively) shot down, or at the very least, viewed as the perpetrators. Why is this stuff ok for them to do, but not us?

5:23 That hit. I got hyperfocused on a specific task the other day and spent SIX HOURS trying to find out the answer to a rather complex problem. When I forced myself to stop, I felt like garbage because I didn't actually find the true answer to it. Looking back, I should give myself more credit because I learned a lot about several different individual parts of that complex problem. So even though I didn't completely solve the problem, I still know a lot more about how/why that problem happened than I did when I began.

You're good at being vulnerable so that others can heal and be stronger too. Thanks for everything, Jessica.

So, so, so true, and sad, that we ADHDers come to deeply internalize, "I'm not that, and that's what society values, so I'm not valuable."

🌟🌟🌟 "The people who are actually successful are not the people who get good at the things they're bad at. They're the people who focus on the things that they're good at, who really take advantage of their strengths." 🌟🌟🌟 Thank you so much for this, Jessica!!!

I think it's terrible that we people with ADHD try so hard to be the opposite of what we are. You don't see people without ADHD trying to be ADHD they will think it's so hard! Now they know how we feel trying to be something we aren't

"Hold down a job for longer than 2 years without being bored" Honestly the only job I've held down for over a year is youth work, and that is because it allows me to essentially act like a big kid! Stick to your strengths people!! And I'm soooo glad I found your channel, I think you're good at teaching things in simple ways and you are a joy to listen to

Just having been diagnosed at the tender age of 61, I've spent a of of time forgiving myself for not measuring up through the years. I was tearing up along with you when you were trying to say what you're god at. You're good at giving comfort because this is the first place I've ever felt that's it's OK to be me. I cannot thank you enough for that.

-im an artist -im very creative in the way i approach things -i always think outside the box -my humor is different but unique -ive always been very ambitious -and i have lots of empathy for others!

You’re good at explaining ideas. You’re good at advocating for yourself. You advocate for others. You see the good. You are present. You are loving. You are compassionate. You are enthusiastic. You are probably very out going. You light up the room when you walk in. You help people who are struggling. You express yourself. You don’t hold back. You are SO GOOD AT BEING YOU.

I actually started tearing up at this. You summarized so much of my struggles with just everything and my own self worth. Thank you for saying what I needed to hear.

Not a person with ADHD but I can tell you this: even fulfiling the neurotypical standards the adult/ corporate world expect us to achive, there is a good chance you still won't be seen as a valuable person. This year I lost a job after five years not because I wasn't good enough (they had to put 3 people to do only one of the tasks I used to do) but because I was "too expensive" for the company. What did I learn from this? You are not your job, your degree or whatever other blank others expect you to fill and strugling to do so is a waste of energy and time because in the end it will never be enough for them. I know, sounds like a cliche but it's not the same when it hits you for real. You are worthy, you have a lot to give and you'll realise about it when you sit down and check what's inside your box. Peace everyone!

I literally started crying watching this. I've been dealing with so much right now as a 25 year old woman who doesn't feel "adult" enough. I keep getting reminded of the stuff in bad at, like keeping my room clean, focusing and finishing one task before moving onto another, prioritizing things, time management... and I've been absolutely feeling like a failure of a human being. I've felt extremely depressed the last year or so, and especially so the last few months. I couldn't help think "why am I this way. What's wrong with me" I stumbled across enough evidence that I may possibly have ADHD, and then found this channel. I've binged almost every video, even rewatched videos to really internalize that this is me, or at least I'm not alone in feeling this way. I've started to feel like there's hope. I'm not sure where to go for professional help yet. I've been trying to make calls or look online but it's a lot on top of my normal life. This is the year I really want to better my physical and mental health and I'm determined to find the help I need. And, I just wanted to say thank you for bringing light to the struggles those with ADHD deal with. The peace of mind I've had after watching these videos has been one of the first true breaths of fresh air I've breathed in a long time.

Jessica is good at being incredibly authentic on camera, and it makes her so compelling to watch.

I recently told my therapist that my life's goal was to be like a combo of Ms Frizzle, Mr Rogers, Miss Honey, and a bunch of other great teachers in media. She asked me what traits I wanted to have from each of them, and then pointed out that I already have a lot of those traits more than I think I do.

"I'm good at working hard, because of all the things I'm not good at." This one hit home. I said "No it has to be! Don't take that one away from me. It's my best skill!"

This channel has helped me realize that what I thought was failing of character was actually an unaddressed mental disorder I have had since I was a child. I still need to get a proper diagnosis, but these traits added up so fast that there's little to no way I don't have ADHD. Thank you for putting this channel out there so people who are struggling in the dark, and otherwise never would have never considered ADHD to be the name of their struggle, can figure out a gameplan to get treatment. This video in particular is very sweet. It helps me to remember what is positive about a brain like mine.

I just want to say thank you. Listening to your story has made me feel like I'm not alone. For so long I've thought that I was broken that I was just bad at life in general. My brother was my biggest supporter he helped me to start thinking that I was different not broken but then he passed away last may. Your journey has been like having a friend at my side over the last several months. What you are doing is making an impact. Thank you so much for being you.

"...those of us with ADHD tend to be corrected more often, or tend to be judged for not being where we 'should be' or as mature as we 'should be' or as good at basic humaning skills..." Damn, call me out on my negative self-talk why don't you

It’s hard for me to accept that I have ADHD when my family pushes the narrative that I’m lazy so hard. “Am I really neurodivergent or am I just lazy?” “I should just work harder. If my brother can do it I should be able to.” “Stop making excuses, you’re not neurodivergent.” “It’s only hard because you’re not trying.” I keep saying these things to myself because they made me doubt how I feel. They always tell me: “Nothing’s wrong with you.” “You’re just identifying with that.” “That is not an excuse for laziness.” “This won’t get you out of doing anything.” I’m not trying to use this as an excuse, I’m just trying to understand why.

"I'm good at working hard to make up for the fact I'm not good at stuff..." This hit so hard. I'm sorry you have to deal with that feeling too.❤ I just stopped after a few years....it's really difficult just trying to keep up with everyone else, making sure that I'm doing enough so my flaws aren't visible. Now I'm just doing my best to work on me. I'm trying.

Tears are streaming down my face!! FINALLY!! SOMEONE WHO FEELS MY HEART!! I love you so much!! THANK YOU FOR BEING SO GOOD AT BEING SO BRAVE AND SO GOOD AT EXPLAINING STUFF FOR PEOPLE LIKE ME TO UNDERSTAND!! This is life changing for me!!

I got diagnosed with ADHD just this year at 28 years old after going through nursing school and failing at almost the end despite working harder than the rest of my entire class. I took a few years off and now I'm back in school working to become a nurse again, but now I know why I struggle and am doing better than the first time.

This one broke me down. Even as a therapist who helps those of us with ADHD, it can be so easy to forget this. I have heard somewhere that being ND can feel like a death by a thousand cuts. No matter how 'on top of it' we may feel, this video and the task at the end is always worth visiting. 1- I can empathise with anyone. 2- I can be very creative, especially musically. I am sometimes quite amazed with this. 3- I am very courageous with exploring who I am. 4- I love. 5- I am generous.

The ending to this hit home real hard. I can very easily say all the stuff that i'm bad at, but its so hard to think of something I'm good at. Even if someone tells me "You're good at ____" I either can't bring myself to believe them or I reduce it to me being decent/mediocre at best and compare myself to everyone i know who is good at said thing. Its so hard to not do that and actually have some confidence in myself and my abilities. I'm hoping to work on it and slowly get better with it. I don't think that feeling is ever gonna completely go away, especially given the whole "you suck at____" mentality as been burned into me from a young age, but I'm definitely gonna try and get better.

Thank you so much Jessica for posting this. I have trauma for being attacked for my ADHD traits so this is so healing to hear 😊

You’re such an incredible advocate for ADHD. I’m so grateful for everything you do.

That ending had this grown man tearing up. I can relate, my unaddressed/untreated Adhd has effected my self esteem among other things. So why is it so hard to give yourself credit where it is due? I want to thank you, and add something to your list. You are great at making people feel like they are not alone in their struggles. Keep up the good work.

This was just what I needed to hear today! I've only recently been diagnosed with anxiety and I'm good at... um... I have really nice handwriting. I appreciate beautiful things and take decent photos of nature. I realized that after years of focusing on my weaknesses, I don't wake up curious anymore. I know that I have a lot to offer, but it's taking time to recover from the damage.

That ending hit me like a truck - oh god! Alright, challenge completion time: I am quick witted, funny and analytical (constantly questioning, making clever comments, etc.) I am deeply emotional (just seeing others have a good day makes mine, enjoy the little things) I am happy with little (I don’t need much - I could happily retire in a Caravan) I am a tangential thinker (I have more ideas for my Uni‘s Green Office than it has people) And I guess I‘m quite punctual and organized too... important note though: organized does not mean tidy! 😅

"Holding a job for more then 2 years without getting bored" ouch.

"We have different brains functioning on different operating systems." What a perfect metaphor!

I don't have any formal diagnosis of ADHD or ASD, but there are so many traits of each that I can relate to. I discovered your channel maybe a month ago. So far every video I've watched has had something I can relate to. It's been really difficult for me to focus at work this week, and listening to your videos have been helping me with that. This one hit me hard. I turned 40 a few weeks ago. I didn't learn how to challenge that constant stream of negative self talk until sometime in my 30s. It's taken me until recently to finally feel comfortable in my own skin. It shouldn't take half a lifetime to feel worthy. Thank you for helping others realize this sooner. ❤️

"I'm good at working hard to make up for the fact that I'm not good at stuff" You just hit my heart so powerfully. I feel this way every single day about myself. I just try to work hard to make up for the fact I feel so ashamed about myself.

"It's really easy to look at somebody who is neurotypical, and 'responsible' and 'reliable' and all of these things and say, well I'm not that, and that's what society values, so I'm not valuable". This made me cry. I feel like that all the time but you put it so eloquently.

I only wish the people who stigmatize us and critique without listening to us defend ourselves, would hear this message 💔

I connect to this so personally. Hearing it from you makes me feel empowered, loved, and understood. Grateful I discovered this channel.

"I'm good at working hard to make up for the stuff I'm not good at" I can relate to this 1000%!!!

the overreliance on “predictability”, “consistency”, not asking questions, and being to work on time are elements of control. workers that do their work unquestioningly and require no upkeep or attention other than the threat of being fired are easier to manipulate. edit: for people commenting or reading thinking i'm saying these are intrinsic parts of adhd: i'm not. i'm saying employers want pliable employees and that's why people with adhd/autism/etc. are more easily ostracized, fired, etc. and held to a neurotypical standard. because NT people *are* the 'standard' for a compliant employee that doesn't ask questions and just does as they're told (and, per embellished job role blurbs, just so happen to be 'self-motivated' and 'able to work under pressure' or whatever). 'positive' ND traits like creativity and working well under pressure are romanticized for the sake of having a worker willing to bend their back and produce like a robot to work for their employer; that's as far as they're useful in most employer settings--as far as they can be exploited. this is why there are problems with accommodations as well, because the positive traits are romanticized to a point of overshadowing the needs of the ND employee and whatever 'negative' traits they might have (in the view of an employer). your employer being cool with neurodivergent brains is not the rule. it's still an exception.

I'm 40 and I've been diagnosed ADHD for 36 of that. What I learned spending years on job interviews to even land one job is, in that office I can't tell what I'm good or bad at ( in an office sense) but I can tell you I can react fast. I can move fast during a crisis, and I can be calm during a natural disaster, and I can analyze a stock chart in seconds

I heard once from a Lean Manufacturing Director that the key concept of Lean Manufacturing is that when something goes wrong, when you fail... Even multiple times, like us... We haven't failed... In-fact instead of failing 50 times across our processes, we've merely found 50 ways that something shouldn't be done. Too much focus goes on "that's wrong" but people forget that there wouldn't be a right way fi the wrong wasn't discovered. So those failures, are in-fact discoveries.

Jessica, you had me crying again when you struggled to praise yourself and acknowledge your strengths 😪 I'm a recently retired RN living in the UK. I was diagnosed 2 years ago aged 59. You have been such an inspiration to me. May you continue to find success and happiness. You deserve it. Thank you 😘

“I’m good at working hard to make up for the things I’m not good at” is just another way of saying you’re resilient

Hello, brains. After 50 mostly agonizing years, today I got the official diagnosis of ADHD. It has awakened me in a way I never dreamed possible. I'm not yet whole but I realize now what the root cause of decades of anxiety and depression was the whole time. Now, I get to work on that and hopefully eliminate the idea that I was never good enough. Not being neurotypical is not the handicap we've been taught to believe. I understand that now. It's a shame that a lot of us can reel off what we're "bad" at yet struggle to clearly identify what we're good at. (Maybe society needs the mirror held to itself instead?) After a good cry, I intend on moving forward with my non-neurotypical self. Thank you, Jessica, for being our beacon of light! I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.

I was in a class that had a poster on the wall that said fair isn't everyone getting the same thing fair is everyone getting what they need in order to succeed because of that I always make sure to tell teachers that I have accommodations that way I can do my best don't be ashamed of doing something a different way from other people since I have accepted that I'm not going to do things the same way as my friends I have more self confidence I know it's hard to accept that but once you do it's so much easier

Having consistent output everyday is the function of a machine not it's operator. Be a human first, you're good at that.

The ability to convey complicated information in a simple way is literally the bedrock of my career. I never thought of it as being related to ADHD though.

Every few years I take up a new hobby or thing I wanna learn. So I am good at. Building models, mushroom picking, knife making, leather work, making sheaths out of kydex, building stuff, planning, problem solving, hack sack, skate boarding, rollerblading, hunting, outdoor skills, Camping, kayaking, guiding kayaking, teaching arachnolagy, ran my own buisness and owned a store. all thease skills I tought my self but my greatest achievement is my daughter and my best skill will be being the best dad I can be and guide her through this topic and teach her the skills she needs to survive in the nature and in life.

Yes! It’s just so exhausting thinking about staying focused on one topic at a time. Work days leave my brain so fatigued at a level that feels somewhat depressing at the end of the day. I always feel the best when I accomplish a task, as dumb as that sounds. If I get the kitchen clean, I feel good and no anxiety. If I finish a painting, I feel accomplished. If I got to work on time and remember to eat lunch, that is an accomplishment. So glad I’m not the only one when for the longest time I would over think and wonder why I feel like an outcast and people perceive me weird.

This hit home. It’s also similar to the question “name one fun fact about yourself” that jobs usually ask during a class full of people at orientations. I struggle to name anything because my brain goes through the note cards of things I’m not good at first which blocks my mind from thinking of an actual fun fact. I feel like a bumbling non-fun fact fool and embarrassed in the end.

I really admire how you struggled with “normal” employment like I did, so you went and built your own job making fun, educational videos that help others, then built your own company that even employs other people. That is a HUGE accomplishment that most people could not successfully do, and that takes a lot of perseverance, entrepreneurial spirit, and vision. I’m willing to bet your desire to help others, self-awareness, ability to delegate, and willingness to recognize others for their strengths makes you an awesome boss. You’ve accomplished an awful lot, so even if you didn’t do it “perfectly”, I hope you can take some joy in all the things you’ve created, all while working harder than neurotypical folks to get there. Thanks for what you do.

This is touching me on so many levels. People dont understand and i always feel like i sound like im using it as an excuse when i try to explain that i am different and i cant perform the same every day. I struggle sooooo much with being on time. I always have the best intensions but it just doesnt happen and that frustrates me so so so much. Its frustrating because on my off days i feel lazy and not being able to make coffee in one shot makes me feel inferior. A lot of people tell me that it doesnt look like i have adhd, but they dont understand how much effort it takes to make it look effortless. Thank you for this video, i felt a bit more understood♥️

I did this excercise as a kid at school. I needed a teacher’s help, because I completely locked up. I did it again now and…I was hesitant, but it went so much more easily. A few months ago I realised I have ADHD. Since then I noticed myself that that’s why school went so poorly all that time. Partially because of these videos, I now feel a lot more accepting of my good and bad traits. I think I’m getting there. P.S.: I cried 3 times through the course of this video.

Agree 100%. Personally, I experienced a lot of frustration about why I couldn't be neurotypical like others and that all I needed to do was to try harder and push myself to my breaking point. I've recently accepted that I'll never be neurotypical and that is OK and I'm not a "broken"/ failed version of myself.

"hold down a job for more than 2 years without getting bored" really hit home for me as someone who had 4 jobs in 8 years

I was diagnosed as an adult. I'm having a really tough time at the moment and I don't know who to speak to so I just need to get this down somewhere. I'm having a bit of a breakdown at the moment and spend nights wishing I could just be "normal". My husband is your typical neurotype and things seem so easy to him and I'm drowning. I left my meds because I felt like it was affecting my personality and like my feelings were numbed down. But living without it is torture. My worst problem at the moment is getting ready in the mornings.. doesn't matter how hard I try I just can't seem to leave my house in time in the morning so I'm always like 2 hours late. I try to set reminders and have lists but It doesn't help when it goes well for 2 weeks and then I need a list to remind me to make a list. I'm always exhausted like I'm running after myself trying to pick up after myself doing damage control after I've missed deadlines. Some deadlines on work projects I forgot I had the day after I got them.. sorry for the ranting.. It just helps talking to people that actually understand my struggles. Some days it's hard to be positive.

Got diagnosed very recently and I’ve always really related to your videos. The editing is so good - love that it shows you being real. When you take a few extra moments to articulate something, you don’t use fillers or edit that out. Creates a nice pace for the video, and helps to relate to you so much more! You seem like a real person, not a caricature of one

Hi Jess! I’m coming to you from Qatar, I have a job interview tomorrow and I needed to hear your words to feel like I’m not alone in my constant sense of failure. I do want you to know something: I am an Arab Muslim woman and we don’t talk much about adult ADHD where I’m from. Watching your channel is what lead me to seek the diagnosis I needed. That’s what you’re good at, you’re good at connecting to others even from miles away. You’re good at making people feel heard and seen, even when they can’t do that for themselves. You’re good at self-improvement as is evident in how nuanced the topics you discuss have become. Most importantly, you’re good at being yourself, which is a gift to so many of us, I say this as someone whose felt nothing but warmth every time I watch your videos. I hope you get to see this and really see just how monumental your impact has been on people’s lives even when they’re as far away as I, and so many followers on this channel, are.

something you're good at: making me (and thousands of people with ADHD) feel seen and understood. some of us, for the first time in our lives. thank you for your content. your channel means so much to me and countless others.

You are SO good at being you! You are kind, your empathy is palpable. You make so many people stop beating themselves up and realizing the "Ya, I count too, and bring so much to the table that others can't." In my job i am a retention agent for a well known cable company. This means when someone has 'HAD ENOUGH I WANT TO CANCEL', they get me. It's NOT an easy job. But i am SO good at. Empathy, humor, generosity, ability to have a conversation with just about anybody, are all my strengths- and what is reqired for this job. NOW- If I could only not call out once every two weeks or once a month...i'd be the perfect employee!

It’s so beautiful seeing you come to self discovery. How you say these feelings are so relatable. Your vulnerability is a skill.

Imagine taking a class, where you ace all of the tests, clearly showing you know the content well, but then fail because of your attendance grade from being 5 mins or less late a lot for a 3 hour long course? That was me

You are fawesome at explaining the struggles of ADHD and with being real, you don't deny the struggles with ADHD and you make other people with ADHD feel validated

You’re REALLY good at keeping interest throughout a video! I think it’s related to the “simplifying complex information” thing, and by god, THANK YOU for that. It’s harder than it should be to find people who can convey information without losing it in a mass of filler words

I couldn’t even begin to explain meaning of these videos to me, and how much they helping me navigate through rough times and mental challenges that are of not being diagnosed until not so long ago. Thanks for sharing your amazing work.

I am the unofficial go-to person for questions about a few different topics at work. If I don't know the answer, I usually know who does or where it might be found. I have tons of reference material, mostly electronic (gotta externalize that knowledge!).

"We have to find other ways to measure our value" 🥺 I will.

I just found out this channel. Love it! Makes me feel less alone. You´re doing such a great job creating a platfom and helping people understand, accept and value themselves more! 7 years ago I was diagnosed with ADD. I am now 27 and struggling to graduate from universiity, which is, in my experience, a very neurotypical environment. Often I feel misunderstood and I blame myself for not finishing tasks on time, getting distracted and interpreting infomation differently. This reminds me to slow down, be kind to myself and to measure and value myself differently. Thank you a lot for your vulnerability and your effort to get this infomation into the open more.

Hello Brain 💖 Thank you for your openness, beautiful heart and passion for helping others brave this rocky road. I’m 52 years old and have been in a battle with myself for years trying to figure out what’s wrong with me. In an effort to help my 27 year old son navigate his recent diagnosis with ADHD, I’ve been binge watching your content. The more I did, the more patterns I could see in myself. Your Ted Talk is the one that left me in tears. I remembered myself as a kid, how I never quite fit and the backlash I received that ultimately snuffed much of my light out. I’ve had an emotional few days but, for the first time I can see the possibility of actually having a life of my own instead of hiding in the shadows and letting things pass me by. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I’m truly grateful.

Thank you for this. My husband has severe ADHD and has been told his whole life what he is bad at. I have been trying to convince him there are lots of things that he is good at, but sometimes he needs to hear it from someone other than me.

I’m applying for jobs today. It’s hard to feel confident in my approach if I don’t know what I’m good at or can’t readily express it to a recruiter. Thanks for this reminder ❤️

I have to say that I LOVE your channel!!! Every subject is right on the spot! And I want to say thank you for your generosity! You give us so much! I got my diagnosis only a year ago but have been feeling different all my life! I couldn't understand why... but your videos are so helpful! you express so well our reality and challenges!

thank you so much for your vulnerability in doing the exercise of telling us your strengths. I was asked to do the same exercise several years ago and it was really hard for me too! you are awesome Jessica!!!

I have dyslexia and I feel like a lot of this advice applies for this disability to. And even though I have a lot of trouble with reading I'm fairly good at writing especially if I have accessibility tools. And I have excellent pattern recognition skills. I'm also so good at baking that I've gotten to the point where I can experiment with recipes and it's not a complete disaster.

“I’ll be an adult when…” this phrase have always been on the back of my my mind, but recently I’ve been trying to change that and accept that it’s okay to be different. This video is extremely encouraging! Thank you for all that you do!

I am currently struggling quite a bit with Everything and this channel has really helped me feel a bit less.. aweful glad theres such a backlog for me to explore!

Everytime I watch you, I feel like at least there's someone that exists that resonates with me. Thank you for being! You made me cry when I first started watching you. May God bless you.

A few days ago I was praising someone for how gifted they were. They flipped the script and asked me what I’m gifted in and I truly struggled to tell them. I really got emotional as you began to list what you’re good at. We so easily find value in other people, but I’m going to implement finding the value in myself. Thank you for this 🙏🏾

I'm extremely grateful for your ability to explain things as simply as possible 😂 Please continue doing that.

*bawling my eyes out realizing I’m not alone* thank you for making these videos and being so transparent💗

I really appreciate you telling us near the end what you are good at. I can so easily attack myself and struggle to honor what I am good at. To see you be so vulnerable is amazing and you inspire me to have more grace with myself.

"...hold down a job for more than 2 years..." Really got me with that one. Good job!

Yesterday I was asked "When are you going to get some new tires?" and it perfectly ties into everything said here, especially how it made me feel and my defensive response.

Finding your channel has saved my life. I was diagnosed this year (23 years old) after going my whole life thinking that maybe I was just lazy, or going to be depressed and feel worthless forever. I’m working on changing my perception of myself, thanks to your channel. ❤️

You do such a natural and effortless job of keeping your voice from becoming mono-toned. I’m alittle new to the channel but I’m very picky about my audio books and any content that is primarily listener based. It’s so difficult for us ADHD people to stay focused even when we are trying our best. You have a true talent with your voice my dear, without a doubt.

Husband: are you crying? Me: yeah, Jess made a good video

A new subscriber after roughly three minutes. As a “perfectionist” and divergent who tries to live up to some far-fetched “standard”, this really hit home. To anyone reading this: pat yourself on the back no matter how “productive” you seemingly are.

Thank you 🙏 your content is invaluable on so many levels. Being a mom of a teenage ADD son, trying to be there for him in every way possible and ensuring that he grows up with a healthy self esteem is my benchmark as a mom. Your content helps me immensely in being aware of his struggles and being more mindful of my approach to them even though I have always stood by him and also noticed his creative out of the box thinking ever since he was a child. Yet societal pressures are huge and I would from time to time succumb to them as my fear and anxiety for his well being in a neuro typical environment would get the better of me. I still struggle with that but am getting better at re-analyzing my thought process and educating myself on reducing my own fears. Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart and God Bless you always for the good you're doing via your channel ❤ 💖 🙏

Thank you. This feeling of not knowing what you are good at is ridiculous. But it’s what many of us feel. I know I’m bad at organization, I know I’m bad at keeping my room clean. Heck I show up to work minimum of 20 minutes early every day for fear of being late, so that I can take the time to put my mind at ease and switch gears so that my first hour of work isn’t completely filled with anxiety. I know I’m good at things, but I can’t for the life of me describe what they are. My dad says “you’re 27 years old. You need to go live your life.” He’s the most kind and loving person you’ll meet. He’s kind to a fault. So don’t take that the wrong way. It is so hard to change from making the bare minimum because I am so scared of failure. This world puts so much emphasis on being financially successful but does everything it can to keep you at the poverty line.