WOMEN GLOW WHEN THEY HAVE PEACE. 💅🏽💕✨

Because post divorce ex-husbands have mandated child visitation, giving the ex-wife time to rest and exercise. If glow-ups occurred it means that you were a horrible husband.

Because she has the time to. She's no longer looking after a needy man, she's looking after herself.

The answer is simple: She got rid of her heavy load.

We glow up, after because we no longer have the dead weight, you men be sucking the life out of us !!

Maybe she can now wear the clothes, wear hairstyles, and do hobbies without being told it's stupid? 👀

The fact that he can't figure it out shows the lack of awareness

They really do not realize how damaging they are to us 🤦‍♀️

Why does he care?! You are divorced. He needs to focus on his own glow up. 😂

I've noticed how good women look when they don't center men 😂

The vampires always want to know why their victims only look healthy and happy after they have stopped feeding on them. 😆🤣

After my divorce, I could cook on Sunday and survive on left overs for the rest of the week. I could take naps a few times a week. My house stayed clean. There was no more piss on the back of the toilet because some one didnt have proper aim. I also could be at peace to know that my "man" could not get the opportunity to cheat and give me an STD and my BV cleared up. I was also able to work 2 jobs in peace and save money and not hide it from the greedy "man" who would try to take it. I could also take "cost effective" trips and not have someone try to talk me out of it. I also dont have to suffer in having 3 minutes of the worst sex ever and wishing hot grease would fall on him Life is peaceful now and my hair is growing back.

Exactly. If your ex-wife glows up, it means you were a horrible husband!

How's she supposed to go to the gym every day when she's too busy cleaning up after you?

Women glow up after the divorce because they no longer have an emotional vampire sucking up their energy 🤣

It's pretty simple. The stress has been removed and she is no longer looking after an adult-sized toddler. 🙄

I got divorced and immediately lost 300 pound of entitled, lazy, whiny, dead weight. Glow up indeed!

The entitlement that men have will never shock me. Our nervous system is back on track and so is our PH Balance, our edges are growing back, our skin is clearing up from stress acne and glowing, we stacking our bread up quicker and on vacations with our girls doing whatever we want without a nagging man waiting at home for us. I’m my best when I’m single because nobody can treat me better than I treat myself.

Marriage is a prison sentence if you don't have a partner, but when you have a partner in marriage it is like HEAVEN.

Nobody ever said I was beautiful until after I got divorced. No weight gain or loss in me before, during, or after the marriage. I just lost all 150 lbs of my ex husband and his thousands of pounds of oppressive, evil, manipulative behavior towards me.

I literally went from 143lbs when I met my ex husband to ballooning up to 240lbs due to depression, anxiety and insanity from a broken marriage. I’m finally back to 155 lbs after leaving him and steadily losing weight. I’m finally happy and relieved from all of the issues that came with being in that marriage. I was in survival mode everyday and we didn’t even have children together. My skin is clear, my body is stronger from working out, I have mental clarity, my hair is growing out after purging myself of bad food habits and unhealthy living and I’m experiencing living life without the drama of being with an ungrateful, selfish, and uncaring man. I never thought another person could drain so much energy from me.

Men think it’s about them no matter what. 😂

It's cortisol buildup from stress. Once the stressful relationship is gone, the cortisol will, too. You can't glow up with someone keeping you in the darkness.

We shouldn't have to explain this to the "logical" species.

She didn’t like him. She was miserable and now she’s happy and fulfilled. She dropped HIS dead weight!

Stress...lack of stress from men. I can attest to this. I left my ex and was FINALLY getting 8 hours undisturbed sleep. I ate food I liked and it was not all eaten in 2 days after shopping. I have control of finances and actually have money saved now. No more slamming doors, breaking things on purpose or dealing with weaponized incompetence when it came, to well, everything. Even my fur babies are calmer. I have lost 80lbs, my hair started coming back in and I swear my wrinkles are reduced. Chaos, being unpredictable and unreliable, lying about things and then gaslighting me about them, just being loud and slamming things in general, breaking my items on purpose, hissy fits when he had to do something for himself, never having anyone to take care of me when I was sick but rather, have him bitch and moan and make it harder, complaining about everything I did- that stress is all gone. My space is clean and smells good, there is happiness and peace. I was 49 and looked a bad 65... I am now 50 and people tell me I look barely 40. Imagine that. I can go and get a pedicure and a massage, without someone stomping around because they have to make their lunch or the money issues. If I want to sleep in, or have a Gilmore Gilmore girl marathon, with coffee, snacks and my cats, I don't have someone sitting there, heavy breathing at me and asking me 100's of stupid questions for no reason outside of just trying to disturb me. All those places we were supposedly going to go or all those things you were going to do for me- yeah, I'm doing them myself and enjoying my life, fully! Why are you paying attention NOW? OOPS couldn't be it was your fault!!!!

Sooo basically his ex wife is now fine AF 😂☺️🔥

It literally disgusts me when I see m*n happy and healthy in their marriages while I mistake their wives as their mothers!! It's happened so often.

Women glow up because they find what was lost during their marriages and are happy and free.

I tried to glow up while the marriage was deteriorating but he kept sabotaging my progress (buying me cookies when i started meal preping, asking if I wanted ice cream or McDonalds french fries everyday, asking why i wasting money at the gym). My husband wanted me to be fat so no one else would want me.

My mom is getting a divorce-she’s got me and my sister. We keep her youthful. She’s already glowing up tremendously. 🥰

When she wanted to work out did you accuse her of cheating? Did she dress up one day and you accused her of cheating? When she wanted to go back to school did you accuse her of cheating?

This happens with non-married people as well. She dropped the dead weight that was holding her back. Men have NO IDEA how exhausting they can be, to be with. All the validation - that takes energy - from the people around them. All the work they refuse to do - that takes energy - from the people around them. They get clingy. Whiny. Jealous. Angry. That all takes energy - from the people around them. I find the only time I HAVE the extra energy to look nice, wear makeup, pursue the hobbies I can afford, and pay attention to my life and my goals, is when I am completely single. Men wear women to the ground. They tear us women down until we are merely an empty shell of ourselves. Bc they refuse to do the work required to be a grown adult. And it's even worse when children are involved. There is NO TIME for ourselves.

The last long term relationship I had ended around 2004. He was tall, gorgeous, dressed well, etc but he was still awful. Verbally and psychologically abusive. Narcissistic. When I met him I was doing so well with my jewelry business and looked amazing. I started gaining weight and he lost weight almost immediately. My business faltered. My income went down the tubes. My self esteem went south because of all his negging. Right after we broke up I was 29 but two different people said I looked 40. I went on a self care mission after that. I’m now 48 and people think I’m in my 30s. Some men are good partners but soooo many are parasites.

It's funny and weird that men are supposed to be logical and analytical but can not figure out they were the problem. They were the source of stress and chaos that prevented her glow up during their union. 😅

I (32) work retail with younger and older women. I have an equal partner and generally aren't too stressed out. One of the younger woman said "i always forget you have a husband child and whole life" i was confused and asked what she meant. She says "you just seem happy never stressed". That REALLY broke my heart. Her idea of motherhood is stress and being overwhelmed. 😢

ESPRESSO OPINION: The glow up isn't limited to marriage,even our own male relatives!! After kicking out my male relative who wanted me to baby him yet I was working, letting him stay at mine,and he couldn't even take out the trash without throwing a tantrum or giving the silent treatment. I have since become a picture of success,peace and abundance, it's a complete transcendence!! Men ,(even the said golden retrievers),have incubus energy!!!!

They know the reasons why. They just want us to say it. They know they're not being helpful/supportive. They know they're being stressful. 😒

That one woman who said the door to the relationship is closed is so right. he's upset that she glowed up after him because in some way, he still thinks he has sexual ownership of her and is resentful that she's hot now and he can't have her back.

The shortest answer is the woman is not caring for you anymore so she can focus on herself health etc.

Look at him. The nerve. Men please work on yourselves.

There is a serious shift in the conscience of women. We are realizing that marriage is not the flex that women think it is...at least not for the wife🙄

Stress increases cortisol. Cortisol increases insulin. Insulin stores fat

I was in a relationship in my thirties for a minute. I started smoking again while dating him. I had such anxiety, and my hair fell out from stress. I kicked him to the curb. I bought a house, my hair grew down my back, I went on a cruise, and enrolled in school to get my Master's degree.

It’s simple. A person can get way more done when they only have to focus on themselves.

Break ups as well. My ex and I crossed paths at the airport and he couldn't believe what he saw. Suddenly got really friendly. I was like, "do i know you?" I proceeded to go to the lounge and his ass sat by the gate or wherever he went.

We glow up after every relationship, cause we just broke it off with the devil, and we can feel joy again. Can't feel joy around men, they'll deliberately destroy it. If you do everything you can to keep your wife unhappy, why would she be looking good and feeling good, cause these two things come together.

Has he seen himself ???? He should consider getting a glow up himself instead of worrying about his EX

The kicker is this happens in relationships outside/before marriage already. This is how I knew I'm not interested in marriage, because if you're already draining me before we get married - it's going to get worse when we're married.

The real question is why woman in bad relationships have a glow down. It's the stress! It's the chronically evelated cortisol. It's the minimal time for self care. It's the double duty of earning money plus doing majority of childcare and house chores. It's feeling the burden of all the responsibilities for years and years. It's the loss of sleep from taking care of babies. It's men being energy vampires. It's the deprrssion from unrealistic beauty standards put on women - like to have a baby but she must snap back to early 20s pre baby body. When a woman is free of a bad relationship, her healing begins and starts looking healthy again. The glow up naturally happens.

We glow up because once you know better you do better.

I always remember a line from the Delany sisters book-the ladies that lived to be over 100 years old and wrote a book and then there was a Broadway play some years ago. People asked them how they managed to live so long and they said, “we don’t have any husbands to worry us to death!”

Women drop weight and look good because it takes TIME and EFFORT to look good and change eating habits. Instead of these men genuinely loving women and being ok with some things sliding a little bit in exchange for our time, effort, and love, they're ungrateful. We aren't super heroes, and there are 24 hours in a day. An extra person in our lives takes away the limited time that we do have.

Cause men are energy vampires and they suck the life out of us. Once we disconnect from them, we blossom.

Not having to clean up after another person. Who would purposefully mess things up, helps a lot. Also, not letting then drain your light, from the inside out.

That guy has no self awareness The first woman had it down

Because when a limb becomes gangrenous you have to separate from the body before it can thrive😂

Peaceful surroundings. Better sleeping pattern. Lower stress and not to have sugar coat moods and walking on eggshells

Their resentment for the woman's glow-up tells what type of person this man is. If I'm in a relationship and things end and I see the person has a better life, I'm happy for them! I actually want people to thrive and be happy and I want it for myself. If I feel like I made life worse for my partner I will try to learn from that experience and be better for my next partner (if a romantic partnership is something I want in my life). And I want the ex to be happy because this means I'll have peace, if the ex is in peace they won't be disturbing MY peace!

Getting away from a controlling, overbearing, abusive marriage FEELS SO GOOOOOD!! It's like being let out of a mental and financial (and sometimes physical) cage, and you just BLOSSOM! I'm sure men in bad relationships experience this, also. But given that women tend to be victims of abuse at higher rates than men, you just notice it more in women who are set free.

Bc we are less stressed and happier! Only have to worry about ourselves, the child, work, and the bills. Not another person’s issues that you can’t fix! Not having another person around making you feel less than and unloved! ❤️❤️❤️ It’s freeing! 🙌🏾🙌🏾

Those women are stress free and finding themselves again!

The First Lady was spot on!

Stress increases cortisol levels. When I was with my ex boyfriend I was gaining weight like crazy while doing nothing in particular different. Since I’ve been single…. I’ve lost over 40 lbs and I’ve done nothing different then when I was with him. It’s the stress that will kill us.

Narcissists "go out of their way" to make sure that they "don't get you exactly what you actually want."

The question he should ask himself is why didn't she glow up IN the marriage?

Women are often HAPPIER ❤. FREEDOM. They no longer have to be forced into being SMALL or hide their IDENTITY. The struggle, strings and control has ended. The woman is now owning her LIFE and can make her own decisions. Good stuff.

It's always the dudes asking this question that are the problem.

The ultimate glow up is the ultimate revenge

Being with my ex was like being in a relationship with a Vampire! Towards the end, I really took a long hard look at myself & realized that I AND our children would be better off without him! EVERYTIME I see my old pictures, I see the unhappiness in my eyes at the time! I've got the sparkle back in my eyes & I refuse to let some buster take it away again!

Studies show that men are happiest when married and with kids, and women are happiest alone and childless. Then men turn around and try to say that being a mother is the most fulfilling part of a woman's life? No, it's the most fulfilling part of Men's life (having a wife and mother to his kids) because they don't have to do much and get the rewards.

Because they no longer have dead weight on them. They no longer feel depressed. They no longer are tired. They finally healed and feel better about themselves and feel well rested

it’s because all the years of her being drained by him finally gets to be poured back into her in every beautiful way possible 🤭 it’s like she’s returning to herself!

Marriage benefits men..divorce benefits women..damn so dont get married is what im getting out of this😂

When you’re dealing with a suppressive man in particular, that will suck all the energy out of you. Then when you finally leave him, you end up glowing up because you have all this energy again that you didn’t realize you lost. I just stopped dealing with a man who wouldn’t say out of his mouth that he didn’t want me going anywhere with anybody or making any friends, but his attitude and actions would tell me that he didn’t. I only had peace with him when I was home alone all the time. I felt like a powered-down computer. Now that we’ve stopped talking I feel like myself again. I’m smiling & happy. Never be with a man who makes you lose yourself

my girl at 4 minutes said it best and simply. they are draining like vampires

Wow this is my subject as a woman who has just lost over 40 kg after divorcing one of the worst human beings I’ve ever met in my life It’s because you drown us so much with your emotional baggage and your trauma and your belittlement and bullying that while you’re stepping on us we don’t have the strength to rise up When you are no longer with us if you’re free and we feel light LASTLY THE REVENGE IS SWEET WHEN YOU LOOK SWEETER

My ex-husband was the first type. I didnt glow up so much as I was happier, doing more things that made me happy instead of begging my ex-husband to involve himself with me, our children, and our home. Surprisingly, I haven't had any mental health issues in the six years since my divorce. (While married I was suicidal.)

Men tend to drain their wives/girlfriends and stress them out... all of that leads to unhealthy weight loss/gain, autoimmune issues, cancer, heart conditions, lethargy, etc. When a woman is free, she heals and starts gaining/losing healthy weight. Her mind isn't cluttered and stressed. 😂

Women in relationships always have to be "ON" Men require constant validation, cheerleading, complaining,whether it's work, family,etc..sometimes men intentionally get you fat, especially if the man cooks😂

"why does she glow up after divorce?" Because while she was with you, you did not help her like a real partner should in a healthy relationship, you sir basically drained her like a human leech, and leave her like a prune emotionally and mentally etc by herself, And didn't help her and even made it worse by complaining about her appearance, and she not doing xyz anymore etc when she was/in a dark place that you basically ignored instead of fixing by going to therapy and putting in effort to listen and helping her, Until it was too late and she left you, and now she actually has time to get help for herself, and no longer has someone like you to make the situation worse by just piling on and not helping when she needed it, Yeah you may not be a mind reader nobody is but you know there was both signs and she probably said something to you, you ignored or thought it was nagging.

ECAUSE SHE IS OVERWORKED AND TOOK CARE OF EVERYONE BESIDES HERSELF.🤷🏻‍♀️

I was with my ex for 8 months. In 8 months I went from a size 3 to a size 9. After we broke up I went back down to a size 3. All he wanted to do was stay at home to eat and have relations. I didn't make time for myself to maintain my weight and appearance.

Women glow up when they are poured into, whether by themselves or their partner. Women who are married that stay extremely beautiful are beautiful because their husbands or partners take care of them and shower them with love, affection, care and tell them how much they mean to them. If a person genuinely loves you, they show how much they value you throughout your entire relationship, not when you’re getting ready to walk away.

Because she no longer has a 200lbs tumor draining the life out of her.

Bcause we dropped “ the weight”….

Now she actually has time to focus on herself

I was in an on again off again, abusive marriage for 7 years. Disabled kicked out of my own home I paid rent and bills for. Was homeless but couch crashing, and good people took me in til I got on my feet and got urgent life saving medical care. The reason why we "glow up" after divorce is because we "leveled up" we pursued our own healing and recovery and it makes us happy and fulfilled.

Why the glow up after leaving the husband or BF; less work, even if they have children, eating better, reduction in bills, having more personal time as they don’t have a king baby wanting someone to fulfill their every need. I had a relative whose BF asked her what she wanted for her birthday. Her fridge had conked out, so she told him she needed a new one. He went to the appliance store and came back with a big screen tv, stereo equipment and speakers. So much for listening to what women want.

The woman at the 8:01 time stamp is absolutely right! I gained weight in my last toxic relationship because I had so much anxiety and I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t understand when I was going through it but it makes so much sense.

Also I was all of those things before he came along. But HE was causing me so much stress it threw off my routine mentally, and physically… Not helping with the child, things like that…. Once I left, so did those issues! ❤️ I’m 40 to btw.

Reasons for the glow up, peace of mind, more time to relax and reflect on oneself, by putting yourself first and loving youself. Most important being free of that heavy weight on your shoulders.

Maybe its coz the abuse has stopped and she is finally stress free. When a woman has her peace of mind she will naturally glow. If something is weighing on her shoulders or bothering her, it will shine thru by how she looks. I can always tell a woman who is miserable in a relationship. 🤷🏽‍♂

I glowed up after a long relationship because when I was with him, my self worth was so low. When we split, I learned that I deserved more from myself and learned to feel great in my skin. It’s more than physical. It’s mental and spiritual too.

Omg. Sleep rest and relaxation. Amen.

The last lady said it all!!!! 💯 He only proved why 4b is working. They only care about what women look like and what women do for them. Once that stops and they feel it, like the power just went out is when they give a damn.

We have more time and less stress 🤷🏽‍♀️ that’s proof to single childfree women should maintain their status. Don’t date,marry, or have children with them

Jada Pinket Smith is the best example of men not listening to your wants then calling you ungrateful for now wanting something you don't want.

Because she dropped the extra 90 kilograms of her shoulders 😂the husband

10,000 reasons. renewed faith in ourselves, hope for the future, not having to answer to anyone else, sleeping alone (women who sleep in the same bed as a partner reportedly have lower sleep quality...), eating how we want, reduced cortisol, more time with friends who build us up...