Because post divorce ex-husbands have mandated child visitation, giving the ex-wife time to rest and exercise. If glow-ups occurred it means that you were a horrible husband.
@stephkais56133 ай бұрын
This! Many men actually spend more time with their kids AFTER divorce/breakup because it's court ordered. A judge literally has to make them be the primary parent for a set amount of time. Those weekend visits provide free time for the mom. There were no breaks for mom while in the marriage/relationship.
@alexoceanmeow3 ай бұрын
This is it lol
@Thrivegrl243 ай бұрын
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@afrikurl3 ай бұрын
My ex doesn’t have mandatory visitation nor does he pay child support. I have my child 100% of the time. I still had a glow up. I lost 55lbs, my skin looks better, my hair is healthier and people keep telling me that I’m aging in reverse. For me, I literally gave my whole self to my marriage and my child. It was not reciprocated and I was in a very low place. After the divorce, I was able to come back to myself after therapy and lots of self development.
@user-pn6rd6fv9w3 ай бұрын
Yep 50/50 gives her more rest then with him says a lot
@susanplatt53313 ай бұрын
Because she has the time to. She's no longer looking after a needy man, she's looking after herself.
@sammy420_713 ай бұрын
Omg so true
@PandoraBear3573 ай бұрын
She no longer has someone constantly shaming her for spending money on taking care of herself, her clothing choice, or her makeup.
@user-pn6rd6fv9w3 ай бұрын
@@PandoraBear357yep they complain when the money is spent for self-care but STILL complain when she doesn’t look up to their standards
@PandoraBear3573 ай бұрын
@user-pn6rd6fv9w all the guys like the one in the video were probably telling their ex things like "who are you trying to impress" and "you're a mom, you shouldn't be trying to dress like 20 something single" during their marriage every time she did put in effort. Some men strangely have a uniform of respectability they expect their wife to adhere to, but don't find it attractive.
@evaphillips21023 ай бұрын
That part right there
@tashawilliams80933 ай бұрын
The answer is simple: She got rid of her heavy load.
@212Brittany3 ай бұрын
Facts…
@kameshiam16743 ай бұрын
🤭
@vanessa410443 ай бұрын
💯
@BliffleSplick3 ай бұрын
Her beauty was buried under the bulk of the husband lol
@wyleecoyotee42522 ай бұрын
The deadweight
@noraventura90063 ай бұрын
We glow up, after because we no longer have the dead weight, you men be sucking the life out of us !!
@SmileyAdventures3 ай бұрын
Exactly! Hence why single and childfree women live the longest out of any group.
@Andromedastarseed4443 ай бұрын
SAY IT AGAIN!!
@amandasunshine23 ай бұрын
They are so draining 😂
@rse4323 ай бұрын
💯
@FindYourFree3 ай бұрын
on period
@Gumbier_Than3 ай бұрын
Maybe she can now wear the clothes, wear hairstyles, and do hobbies without being told it's stupid? 👀
@karlevon83053 ай бұрын
the truth
@KitanaDenton3 ай бұрын
Yeah, she can also take care of her actual 2 kids and not a grown ass man child.
@_Dark222Angel_2 ай бұрын
or hear him say "why are you so fancy?" because you wore heels and he feels short
@KitanaDenton2 ай бұрын
@_Dark222Angel_ or have him say "who tf are you looking pretty for?!"
@Because-rt8qs2 ай бұрын
And eat something healthier without him saying he doesn't like it. You can eat what you want.
@enjolique3673 ай бұрын
The fact that he can't figure it out shows the lack of awareness
@wordswithjhardy9533 ай бұрын
And that he's the problem
@AIBot9293 ай бұрын
I'm sure he thinks his divorce was not his doing
@enjolique3673 ай бұрын
@@wordswithjhardy953 Correct
@enjolique3673 ай бұрын
@@AIBot929 Exactly!
@Butterflier003 ай бұрын
@@AIBot929 and if i remember correctly...this guy cheated on his wife...
@amandasunshine23 ай бұрын
They really do not realize how damaging they are to us 🤦♀️
@get_aclue42183 ай бұрын
Yes they do they don’t care 🤷🏽♀️
@justacutie52013 ай бұрын
Oh they know. They just don't understand why you can't take care of the home, kids, them AND your personal appearance.
@kayshawnsimmons55853 ай бұрын
They Do, They just rather have women as Batteries. For male leeching off their energy like a parasite
@IraSol373 ай бұрын
Naaaahh, they KNOW. They just love playing dumb! 🙄
@UnsortedSeeds3 ай бұрын
They do know, and they don't care as long as they get the social capital of those kids they don't take care of. They don't care at all as long as they're happy.
@lindsayD19953 ай бұрын
Why does he care?! You are divorced. He needs to focus on his own glow up. 😂
@soniapinkney13423 ай бұрын
Bullseye 🎯!!!!!!
@thegreylady77973 ай бұрын
Facts! But its probably because the grass he thought was greener aint at all, and he thought he would make himself feel better by looking back at his "poor, lonely, frumpy ex" but she's doing great, so he feels stupid 😂
@OGJaquarPrincess3 ай бұрын
Right lol
@misspriss24823 ай бұрын
Nah. Men like this want their wives to look super hot, have all of that energy, and stay and put up with them. I don't think so. Men have no idea how much work and stress they add to a woman's life. It's like they think that a household runs itself and all of their requests/demands/requirements are a pleasure. I mean, you're a woman. What else would you rather be doing? What other purpose does your life have? SMDH. 😒😒
@b61473 ай бұрын
😂 He seen his ex and was like 🤦🏽♀️ damn I f’kd up
@amandasunshine23 ай бұрын
I've noticed how good women look when they don't center men 😂
@paperorpaper3 ай бұрын
I'm going through this right now! A few months post-breakup and I am finally able to get back to my best self.
@ItsMrstoyouboo3 ай бұрын
I remember before I got with my now husband how I got out of a so called 5 yr relationship and how terrible I looked after. Like id been to war. I lost weight, went celibate, and my happiness and self confidence came back I had fun. Now I'm married and still having fun.
@amandasunshine23 ай бұрын
There's something called the gay glow up, women look so much better after realizing they're lesbians and no longer have to deal with men 🤣
@thepragmaticexistentialist3 ай бұрын
The vampires always want to know why their victims only look healthy and happy after they have stopped feeding on them. 😆🤣
@ronnieking38483 ай бұрын
You win the internet with this comment. 🏆
@cookiesandscream8323 ай бұрын
This comment 👌🦇
@kookie_21783 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@unrulymuse3 ай бұрын
Like how do they not say that and go "Oh, I was the problem. I was ruining her life" how does that question not answer itself?!
@tavilibra71013 ай бұрын
So brilliantly put!🎉
@kameshiam16743 ай бұрын
After my divorce, I could cook on Sunday and survive on left overs for the rest of the week. I could take naps a few times a week. My house stayed clean. There was no more piss on the back of the toilet because some one didnt have proper aim. I also could be at peace to know that my "man" could not get the opportunity to cheat and give me an STD and my BV cleared up. I was also able to work 2 jobs in peace and save money and not hide it from the greedy "man" who would try to take it. I could also take "cost effective" trips and not have someone try to talk me out of it. I also dont have to suffer in having 3 minutes of the worst sex ever and wishing hot grease would fall on him Life is peaceful now and my hair is growing back.
@biomedlib3 ай бұрын
Bless you....I hear you. I was thinking, "Hot Grits."🤣🤣🤣🤣
@kameshiam16743 ай бұрын
@@biomedlib Oooowwwweeee!
@meforever43303 ай бұрын
Well gotdamn.
@jodancer50402 ай бұрын
Im so happy you're out of that
@Poptartsthatareplain1012 ай бұрын
Damn…👀 go you!!🤗😁👌✨✨
@LisaApril3 ай бұрын
Exactly. If your ex-wife glows up, it means you were a horrible husband!
@arcanineryu3 ай бұрын
How's she supposed to go to the gym every day when she's too busy cleaning up after you?
@theteleisewilliamsexperience3 ай бұрын
Why are y'all cleaning up after grown men?
@arcanineryu3 ай бұрын
@@theteleisewilliamsexperience cus if you don't, the weaponized incompetence man will destroy your property and threaten the safety of your children. Because after having lied long enough to convince ya to marry him and have kids, that puts him in a position that's easy to exploit ya because contrary to what incels might tell ya, divorce is actually a pretty time consuming and expensive process, especially with an uncooperative man who has proven to be perfectly willing to lie and screw you over.
@hotandsoursoup26643 ай бұрын
Bc no one will lift a finger & the house can only get so dirty before the health dept shows ip
@paperorpaper3 ай бұрын
@@hotandsoursoup2664 lol this is true!
@LoveK13 ай бұрын
@@theteleisewilliamsexperiencethey’re not going to allow a man to make them live in filth!
@Nessa2Bea3 ай бұрын
Women glow up after the divorce because they no longer have an emotional vampire sucking up their energy 🤣
@misspriss24823 ай бұрын
It's pretty simple. The stress has been removed and she is no longer looking after an adult-sized toddler. 🙄
@tavilibra71013 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂I love this comment ❤
@grittyinpink163 ай бұрын
I got divorced and immediately lost 300 pound of entitled, lazy, whiny, dead weight. Glow up indeed!
@HoneyBadgerxo2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@SmileyAdventures3 ай бұрын
The entitlement that men have will never shock me. Our nervous system is back on track and so is our PH Balance, our edges are growing back, our skin is clearing up from stress acne and glowing, we stacking our bread up quicker and on vacations with our girls doing whatever we want without a nagging man waiting at home for us. I’m my best when I’m single because nobody can treat me better than I treat myself.
@jayogee9133 ай бұрын
And that's why they're pushing the non-working tradwife thing so hard! They want us financially trapped and have no choice but to stay with a man in order to literally not be homeless and starving! I guess good luck to any women who fall for that one! Hopefully it works out for them!
@skarac32243 ай бұрын
Even your description of the single girlie peace gave me peace. Males are energy vampires.
@MAGICKALSHANTE8883 ай бұрын
It’s a wooord!!!! ❤
@nikkilong73773 ай бұрын
Girl, that money stacked up what seemed to be like overnight!
@verdad12343 ай бұрын
WORD THIS💯
@Chosenaire3 ай бұрын
Marriage is a prison sentence if you don't have a partner, but when you have a partner in marriage it is like HEAVEN.
@cacarter61453 ай бұрын
True!
@meforever43303 ай бұрын
🙏🏽
@marinaporcaro49572 ай бұрын
Congrats?
@abiola332 ай бұрын
This!
@lovebug11802 ай бұрын
Yup.. can be very hard to find one of those
@toscadonna3 ай бұрын
Nobody ever said I was beautiful until after I got divorced. No weight gain or loss in me before, during, or after the marriage. I just lost all 150 lbs of my ex husband and his thousands of pounds of oppressive, evil, manipulative behavior towards me.
@neekyboo772 ай бұрын
I didn't even notice that I was beautiful until after my divorce. I saw a picture of me after the divorce and I cried. I never knew I was beautiful before.
@TarynRMartin2 ай бұрын
What was that skinny man even doing for you?
@Brandy2053 ай бұрын
I literally went from 143lbs when I met my ex husband to ballooning up to 240lbs due to depression, anxiety and insanity from a broken marriage. I’m finally back to 155 lbs after leaving him and steadily losing weight. I’m finally happy and relieved from all of the issues that came with being in that marriage. I was in survival mode everyday and we didn’t even have children together. My skin is clear, my body is stronger from working out, I have mental clarity, my hair is growing out after purging myself of bad food habits and unhealthy living and I’m experiencing living life without the drama of being with an ungrateful, selfish, and uncaring man. I never thought another person could drain so much energy from me.
@toogroovywavey1363 ай бұрын
Good for you!!! 🙌
@turquoiseturtle91423 ай бұрын
Excellent. Peace and blessings to your continued growth.
@boo31523 ай бұрын
I’m happy for you and felt this so much
@Merinkous3 ай бұрын
I'm so happy for you! ❤🎉😊
@Sunny-tc3ul3 ай бұрын
Yes ma’am they will take you down through there.
@laughingshaman13 ай бұрын
Men think it’s about them no matter what. 😂
@queenlcq79013 ай бұрын
This!!!
@Eeppydeepy3 ай бұрын
“Why weren’t you hot for me when we were married” not “how can I fix myself after this divorce?
@bdaddy5032 ай бұрын
Women blame men no matter what
@harajukugrl3 ай бұрын
It's cortisol buildup from stress. Once the stressful relationship is gone, the cortisol will, too. You can't glow up with someone keeping you in the darkness.
@aaabbb88122 ай бұрын
Exactly!!! Once you calm down, it goes away. Melts off right away.
@user-wi9hv2pb2q2 ай бұрын
yes women with stress hold water so you will absolutely lose some weight.
@lovebug11802 ай бұрын
It's weird cuz it was the opposite for me. I lost weight from the stress instead, didn't eat much, was always walking on eggshells. Now I'm free, happier, have a better appetite and I hate that I gained a few pounds but they're happy pounds 😂
@Cloverkitty2 ай бұрын
@@lovebug1180 Work those happy pounds, girl! You earned them after all the bullshit!
@corimoon336012 күн бұрын
@@lovebug1180yes of course it’s not the same for everyone. Sometimes you either lose or gain weight with stress depending on who/how you are.
@nikkilong73773 ай бұрын
We shouldn't have to explain this to the "logical" species.
@kenyanikkiicampbell56283 ай бұрын
She didn’t like him. She was miserable and now she’s happy and fulfilled. She dropped HIS dead weight!
@txspacemom7653 ай бұрын
Stress...lack of stress from men. I can attest to this. I left my ex and was FINALLY getting 8 hours undisturbed sleep. I ate food I liked and it was not all eaten in 2 days after shopping. I have control of finances and actually have money saved now. No more slamming doors, breaking things on purpose or dealing with weaponized incompetence when it came, to well, everything. Even my fur babies are calmer. I have lost 80lbs, my hair started coming back in and I swear my wrinkles are reduced. Chaos, being unpredictable and unreliable, lying about things and then gaslighting me about them, just being loud and slamming things in general, breaking my items on purpose, hissy fits when he had to do something for himself, never having anyone to take care of me when I was sick but rather, have him bitch and moan and make it harder, complaining about everything I did- that stress is all gone. My space is clean and smells good, there is happiness and peace. I was 49 and looked a bad 65... I am now 50 and people tell me I look barely 40. Imagine that. I can go and get a pedicure and a massage, without someone stomping around because they have to make their lunch or the money issues. If I want to sleep in, or have a Gilmore Gilmore girl marathon, with coffee, snacks and my cats, I don't have someone sitting there, heavy breathing at me and asking me 100's of stupid questions for no reason outside of just trying to disturb me. All those places we were supposedly going to go or all those things you were going to do for me- yeah, I'm doing them myself and enjoying my life, fully! Why are you paying attention NOW? OOPS couldn't be it was your fault!!!!
@Sunny-tc3ul3 ай бұрын
He sounded abusive. I’m glad things are better for you and the fur babies 🥰
@yesitsthattime3 ай бұрын
THIS
@crystalducharme9393 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@hotandsoursoup26643 ай бұрын
Best answer EVER!!!
@txspacemom7653 ай бұрын
@@Sunny-tc3ul In a lot of ways, yes. It was mental, emotional, financial for me.
@stilljocelyn_3 ай бұрын
Sooo basically his ex wife is now fine AF 😂☺️🔥
@THErealOGse3 ай бұрын
Happy for her! You go sis! Lol
@blessedcutie89833 ай бұрын
😂 Yep. And he's triggered by that.
@THErealOGse3 ай бұрын
@@blessedcutie8983 he isn't even that good looking himself
@amilya4u3043 ай бұрын
😂🤣🤣❤️
@Lulu-wv1nt3 ай бұрын
Hot AF and is super jealous some other dude will end up with her😂😂
@zoeymonet3 ай бұрын
It literally disgusts me when I see m*n happy and healthy in their marriages while I mistake their wives as their mothers!! It's happened so often.
@1amissingno3 ай бұрын
So many marriages where the man is smug & lazy, meanwhile the wife is exhausted and has health problems from the stress.
@humbleheart26503 ай бұрын
Sad😢
@peachluck10503 ай бұрын
Agree. I always take a look at the wife to rate the caliber of the man. Decent men make sure the wife is well taken care of. Overweight wife, haggard wife, and/or unkempt wife shows the man is using her as a tool.
@zoeymonet3 ай бұрын
@@peachluck1050 💯💯💯
@RAJOHN-ke7mc3 ай бұрын
I worked with a man whose wife looked half dead while he walked his happy ass around looking full of life
@gingersnaps9973 ай бұрын
Women glow up because they find what was lost during their marriages and are happy and free.
@one2inV3 ай бұрын
I tried to glow up while the marriage was deteriorating but he kept sabotaging my progress (buying me cookies when i started meal preping, asking if I wanted ice cream or McDonalds french fries everyday, asking why i wasting money at the gym). My husband wanted me to be fat so no one else would want me.
@neawilliams72043 ай бұрын
I’m sorry that sound so maliciously…evil. Like wtf 🤬😔. I’m so sorry, don’t let him or anyone stop you. Your power triggers their insecurities and they know it. Keep shining, Angel 💋
@ibabechanel3 ай бұрын
*ex husband.. ?
@abiola332 ай бұрын
I really hope this husband is now the ex-husband? You deserve a serious man who supports you, not sabotages you.
@one2inV2 ай бұрын
Yup ex husband
@atlanteancherub25603 ай бұрын
My mom is getting a divorce-she’s got me and my sister. We keep her youthful. She’s already glowing up tremendously. 🥰
@HoneyBadgerxo2 ай бұрын
Good for you. Love your momma ❤.
@monicashine56523 ай бұрын
When she wanted to work out did you accuse her of cheating? Did she dress up one day and you accused her of cheating? When she wanted to go back to school did you accuse her of cheating?
@icebergrose89552 ай бұрын
When guys do that it's because they're thinking of cheating all the time, so you must be too. Red flag, leave.
@Rose-kj7rz3 ай бұрын
This happens with non-married people as well. She dropped the dead weight that was holding her back. Men have NO IDEA how exhausting they can be, to be with. All the validation - that takes energy - from the people around them. All the work they refuse to do - that takes energy - from the people around them. They get clingy. Whiny. Jealous. Angry. That all takes energy - from the people around them. I find the only time I HAVE the extra energy to look nice, wear makeup, pursue the hobbies I can afford, and pay attention to my life and my goals, is when I am completely single. Men wear women to the ground. They tear us women down until we are merely an empty shell of ourselves. Bc they refuse to do the work required to be a grown adult. And it's even worse when children are involved. There is NO TIME for ourselves.
@FireSilver253 ай бұрын
The last long term relationship I had ended around 2004. He was tall, gorgeous, dressed well, etc but he was still awful. Verbally and psychologically abusive. Narcissistic. When I met him I was doing so well with my jewelry business and looked amazing. I started gaining weight and he lost weight almost immediately. My business faltered. My income went down the tubes. My self esteem went south because of all his negging. Right after we broke up I was 29 but two different people said I looked 40. I went on a self care mission after that. I’m now 48 and people think I’m in my 30s. Some men are good partners but soooo many are parasites.
@blessedcutie89833 ай бұрын
It's funny and weird that men are supposed to be logical and analytical but can not figure out they were the problem. They were the source of stress and chaos that prevented her glow up during their union. 😅
@RaspberryHugs2 ай бұрын
It's because like they brand anger as not an emotion, they brand being cold, uncaring and without empathy as logical
@FocusedFighter7772 ай бұрын
Because they were never these things, they just love to repeat them mindlessly but always prove us otherwise.
@FocusedFighter7772 ай бұрын
@@RaspberryHugs I always have to point out that people only mention anger as an emotion... What about everything else? They go through Jealousy Sadness Joy Anger Etc. All human emotions. But they pretend they dont.
@Serenitie33 ай бұрын
I (32) work retail with younger and older women. I have an equal partner and generally aren't too stressed out. One of the younger woman said "i always forget you have a husband child and whole life" i was confused and asked what she meant. She says "you just seem happy never stressed". That REALLY broke my heart. Her idea of motherhood is stress and being overwhelmed. 😢
@get_aclue42183 ай бұрын
It’s not “her idea” it’s the reality of what she is seeing
@strivingtoonedaybeuseful60493 ай бұрын
That's my reality as a mother who is chronically ill, depressed and has anxiety. I can barely function. I am truly jealous of people who aren't in my situation
@icebergrose89552 ай бұрын
I love my two adult children dearly but I'm not sure I would have had them if I'd known what I was in for. Their father left when they were 2 and 3. Don't have kids unless you're prepared to do it alone. No matter what he tells you.
@thespot20353 ай бұрын
ESPRESSO OPINION: The glow up isn't limited to marriage,even our own male relatives!! After kicking out my male relative who wanted me to baby him yet I was working, letting him stay at mine,and he couldn't even take out the trash without throwing a tantrum or giving the silent treatment. I have since become a picture of success,peace and abundance, it's a complete transcendence!! Men ,(even the said golden retrievers),have incubus energy!!!!
@bunneywolf3 ай бұрын
Omg, yes!!!!
@AyAReI002 ай бұрын
Golden retreivers are inmature men that laugh a Lot and joke. Lot and then sig down and ACT LIKE BABIES while doing weaponized incompetence SO their gf do everything for them .... They are the same as mature men just playing cute ...thats all
@DeiLovelySparxx3 ай бұрын
They know the reasons why. They just want us to say it. They know they're not being helpful/supportive. They know they're being stressful. 😒
@embluvya3 ай бұрын
That one woman who said the door to the relationship is closed is so right. he's upset that she glowed up after him because in some way, he still thinks he has sexual ownership of her and is resentful that she's hot now and he can't have her back.
@Justlikethat5553 ай бұрын
The shortest answer is the woman is not caring for you anymore so she can focus on herself health etc.
@rebeccasmith10083 ай бұрын
Look at him. The nerve. Men please work on yourselves.
@get_aclue42183 ай бұрын
Exactly he’s a whole unattractive mess
@toscadonna3 ай бұрын
He’s the one who’s fat.😂
@sabrinagonzales44563 ай бұрын
Most never will.
@ILOVESOFE3 ай бұрын
There is a serious shift in the conscience of women. We are realizing that marriage is not the flex that women think it is...at least not for the wife🙄
@AyAReI002 ай бұрын
And some women would FAKE SO MUCH being in a perfect relationship and doing the most extreme PR for their husbands ... When in reality they are pos ... I knew a woman who brag about her marriage SO much and his rich husband while we know he has cheated on her twice ... And those only the cases she discover, i bet he sleep with more women while "travel so much for work" ...
Which in return causes anything and everything to happen, hair loss skin problems weight problems and more
@juanita_rocksteady27613 ай бұрын
I was in a relationship in my thirties for a minute. I started smoking again while dating him. I had such anxiety, and my hair fell out from stress. I kicked him to the curb. I bought a house, my hair grew down my back, I went on a cruise, and enrolled in school to get my Master's degree.
@018milliondollarbaby3 ай бұрын
Sis you are goals! I love every part of your glow-up story (especially the going back to school and going on a cruise.) Sail away into a lifetime of peace and prosperity!
@vanessalewis14493 ай бұрын
It’s simple. A person can get way more done when they only have to focus on themselves.
@tashawilliams80933 ай бұрын
💯
@THErealOGse3 ай бұрын
Break ups as well. My ex and I crossed paths at the airport and he couldn't believe what he saw. Suddenly got really friendly. I was like, "do i know you?" I proceeded to go to the lounge and his ass sat by the gate or wherever he went.
@sensimania3 ай бұрын
Haha! That must've felt good
@THErealOGse3 ай бұрын
@@sensimania if a vibe can be pristine it was pristine. Oh and I've gotten my law degree, my dream job, a house, 2 cars, a bunch of friends, and my sanity back since I stopped allowing him to waste my time. Decenter men. That's all. If one that's an actual man and a human being comes along, welcome sir. Otherwise I'm good. I have no hard feelings. I wish him well.... away from me. Really keeping my spirit and my psyche clear. I also don't have time to waste my energy on being upset or hating on him.
@sensimania3 ай бұрын
@@THErealOGse Yasss honey 🙌. So glad you're in a much better place without him 💜
@THErealOGse3 ай бұрын
@@sensimania ty! Ty! I'm in my Queen 👸 era lol
@AG-iu9lv3 ай бұрын
@@THErealOGsethrilled for you! ❤
@latjacmitdye88303 ай бұрын
We glow up after every relationship, cause we just broke it off with the devil, and we can feel joy again. Can't feel joy around men, they'll deliberately destroy it. If you do everything you can to keep your wife unhappy, why would she be looking good and feeling good, cause these two things come together.
@lovebug11802 ай бұрын
That last paragraph 👍 yesss.. so true
@HoneyBadgerxo2 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@Goldniz3 ай бұрын
Has he seen himself ???? He should consider getting a glow up himself instead of worrying about his EX
@missyjohnson43703 ай бұрын
For real, for real........"Overweight Lover Heavy D" 🤷🏾♀️
@kavinagisa12 ай бұрын
I was literally screaming this. "Where was the effort during our marriage?" Sir, obviously it was a huge effort since you are clearly overweight.
@barefootedbougie3 ай бұрын
The kicker is this happens in relationships outside/before marriage already. This is how I knew I'm not interested in marriage, because if you're already draining me before we get married - it's going to get worse when we're married.
@reign_11583 ай бұрын
This!!!!
@stephkais56133 ай бұрын
The real question is why woman in bad relationships have a glow down. It's the stress! It's the chronically evelated cortisol. It's the minimal time for self care. It's the double duty of earning money plus doing majority of childcare and house chores. It's feeling the burden of all the responsibilities for years and years. It's the loss of sleep from taking care of babies. It's men being energy vampires. It's the deprrssion from unrealistic beauty standards put on women - like to have a baby but she must snap back to early 20s pre baby body. When a woman is free of a bad relationship, her healing begins and starts looking healthy again. The glow up naturally happens.
@Risse143 ай бұрын
We glow up because once you know better you do better.
@biomedlib3 ай бұрын
Amen......
@cacarter61453 ай бұрын
Maya Angelou 👍🏾
@queenreg73 ай бұрын
I always remember a line from the Delany sisters book-the ladies that lived to be over 100 years old and wrote a book and then there was a Broadway play some years ago. People asked them how they managed to live so long and they said, “we don’t have any husbands to worry us to death!”
@roxycauldwell5443 ай бұрын
Women drop weight and look good because it takes TIME and EFFORT to look good and change eating habits. Instead of these men genuinely loving women and being ok with some things sliding a little bit in exchange for our time, effort, and love, they're ungrateful. We aren't super heroes, and there are 24 hours in a day. An extra person in our lives takes away the limited time that we do have.
@elizabethcartagena-vp5tp3 ай бұрын
Cause men are energy vampires and they suck the life out of us. Once we disconnect from them, we blossom.
@sheneedsmorepolish98343 ай бұрын
Not having to clean up after another person. Who would purposefully mess things up, helps a lot. Also, not letting then drain your light, from the inside out.
@zanealexanderZA3 ай бұрын
That guy has no self awareness The first woman had it down
@needisaymoore21383 ай бұрын
Because when a limb becomes gangrenous you have to separate from the body before it can thrive😂
@strivingtoonedaybeuseful60493 ай бұрын
You cannot grown limbs back.... don't be silly. A severed limb can never thrive. Neither can the stump. It will never return to normal
@tmjewel2 ай бұрын
"It" referring to "the body"...
@aaabbb88122 ай бұрын
Yes!!! I remember using that EXACT phrase years ago talking to my mother about relationships. She laughed and thought I was just being dramatic referencing removal of a gangrenous limb and those were my EXACT words to her. Wow!!! 😮
@Sinderella19873 ай бұрын
Peaceful surroundings. Better sleeping pattern. Lower stress and not to have sugar coat moods and walking on eggshells
@nicolebustamante3133 ай бұрын
Their resentment for the woman's glow-up tells what type of person this man is. If I'm in a relationship and things end and I see the person has a better life, I'm happy for them! I actually want people to thrive and be happy and I want it for myself. If I feel like I made life worse for my partner I will try to learn from that experience and be better for my next partner (if a romantic partnership is something I want in my life). And I want the ex to be happy because this means I'll have peace, if the ex is in peace they won't be disturbing MY peace!
@jayogee9133 ай бұрын
Getting away from a controlling, overbearing, abusive marriage FEELS SO GOOOOOD!! It's like being let out of a mental and financial (and sometimes physical) cage, and you just BLOSSOM! I'm sure men in bad relationships experience this, also. But given that women tend to be victims of abuse at higher rates than men, you just notice it more in women who are set free.
@draconicfeline61772 ай бұрын
That and culturally men act like toddlers and many are looking for a bangmommy
@HoneyBadgerxo2 ай бұрын
lol I lost a bunch of weight and my ex husband seems to have found it 😂 lollolololll
@anitra_g_fit56013 ай бұрын
Bc we are less stressed and happier! Only have to worry about ourselves, the child, work, and the bills. Not another person’s issues that you can’t fix! Not having another person around making you feel less than and unloved! ❤️❤️❤️ It’s freeing! 🙌🏾🙌🏾
@jayogee9133 ай бұрын
💯💯💯! Cortisol is a stress hormone, and it wreaks havoc on your mind and body! Being single is literally life-saving for some women!
@joyfitzgerald98783 ай бұрын
💯
@Ccl2tb3 ай бұрын
Yes, with the wrong person, you start asking what's the point if all they do is compare you to other women anyway. Why try to impress someone who doesn't appreciate it. At least when you're single you are more free to find someone who does appreciate you.
@crystalscott99483 ай бұрын
Those women are stress free and finding themselves again!
@anitra_g_fit56013 ай бұрын
The First Lady was spot on!
@purevenus63593 ай бұрын
Stress increases cortisol levels. When I was with my ex boyfriend I was gaining weight like crazy while doing nothing in particular different. Since I’ve been single…. I’ve lost over 40 lbs and I’ve done nothing different then when I was with him. It’s the stress that will kill us.
@mimij62113 ай бұрын
Narcissists "go out of their way" to make sure that they "don't get you exactly what you actually want."
@ms.boogie81323 ай бұрын
The question he should ask himself is why didn't she glow up IN the marriage?
@TajMahalFire3 ай бұрын
Women are often HAPPIER ❤. FREEDOM. They no longer have to be forced into being SMALL or hide their IDENTITY. The struggle, strings and control has ended. The woman is now owning her LIFE and can make her own decisions. Good stuff.
@Alissandre_Iskander3 ай бұрын
It's always the dudes asking this question that are the problem.
@nadiastar62643 ай бұрын
The ultimate glow up is the ultimate revenge
@mizzpoetrics3 ай бұрын
Being with my ex was like being in a relationship with a Vampire! Towards the end, I really took a long hard look at myself & realized that I AND our children would be better off without him! EVERYTIME I see my old pictures, I see the unhappiness in my eyes at the time! I've got the sparkle back in my eyes & I refuse to let some buster take it away again!
@BliffleSplick3 ай бұрын
Studies show that men are happiest when married and with kids, and women are happiest alone and childless. Then men turn around and try to say that being a mother is the most fulfilling part of a woman's life? No, it's the most fulfilling part of Men's life (having a wife and mother to his kids) because they don't have to do much and get the rewards.
@Sunny-tc3ul3 ай бұрын
Because they no longer have dead weight on them. They no longer feel depressed. They no longer are tired. They finally healed and feel better about themselves and feel well rested
@pryorb9873 ай бұрын
it’s because all the years of her being drained by him finally gets to be poured back into her in every beautiful way possible 🤭 it’s like she’s returning to herself!
@Nbayoungguh3 ай бұрын
Marriage benefits men..divorce benefits women..damn so dont get married is what im getting out of this😂
@get_aclue42183 ай бұрын
Bingo
@HISFAVR-ug5kt3 ай бұрын
👏🏾
@icequeen4913 ай бұрын
No, marry a person that shares same value and values you against all odds, if you can’t find one then stay single and enjoy your peace and glow ❤
@Nbayoungguh3 ай бұрын
@icequeen491 I mean ik that..but weather your a man a woman what I've noticed ppl change and switch up during a relationship, I'm not sayn it's right but I also believe not everthing supposed last forever..wen I look at ppl who been married for 20+ years I just think how much they tolerated each other, sometimes ppl be scared to leave and start over thats why they stay so long..I just don't wanna do that.
@kathydurow68143 ай бұрын
Statistics say single, no kids women are generally happier than married, with kids. Healthier & wealthier, too. Into retirement. Now, generally may not specifically mean you, but this bears consideration before moving in with a man.
@eyme2903 ай бұрын
When you’re dealing with a suppressive man in particular, that will suck all the energy out of you. Then when you finally leave him, you end up glowing up because you have all this energy again that you didn’t realize you lost. I just stopped dealing with a man who wouldn’t say out of his mouth that he didn’t want me going anywhere with anybody or making any friends, but his attitude and actions would tell me that he didn’t. I only had peace with him when I was home alone all the time. I felt like a powered-down computer. Now that we’ve stopped talking I feel like myself again. I’m smiling & happy. Never be with a man who makes you lose yourself
@FindYourFree3 ай бұрын
my girl at 4 minutes said it best and simply. they are draining like vampires
@Khadiyah013 ай бұрын
Wow this is my subject as a woman who has just lost over 40 kg after divorcing one of the worst human beings I’ve ever met in my life It’s because you drown us so much with your emotional baggage and your trauma and your belittlement and bullying that while you’re stepping on us we don’t have the strength to rise up When you are no longer with us if you’re free and we feel light LASTLY THE REVENGE IS SWEET WHEN YOU LOOK SWEETER
@trichmomma3 ай бұрын
My ex-husband was the first type. I didnt glow up so much as I was happier, doing more things that made me happy instead of begging my ex-husband to involve himself with me, our children, and our home. Surprisingly, I haven't had any mental health issues in the six years since my divorce. (While married I was suicidal.)
@fburnsDubstepEnderFox3 ай бұрын
Men tend to drain their wives/girlfriends and stress them out... all of that leads to unhealthy weight loss/gain, autoimmune issues, cancer, heart conditions, lethargy, etc. When a woman is free, she heals and starts gaining/losing healthy weight. Her mind isn't cluttered and stressed. 😂
@sherrita85823 ай бұрын
Women in relationships always have to be "ON" Men require constant validation, cheerleading, complaining,whether it's work, family,etc..sometimes men intentionally get you fat, especially if the man cooks😂
@momoangel92433 ай бұрын
"why does she glow up after divorce?" Because while she was with you, you did not help her like a real partner should in a healthy relationship, you sir basically drained her like a human leech, and leave her like a prune emotionally and mentally etc by herself, And didn't help her and even made it worse by complaining about her appearance, and she not doing xyz anymore etc when she was/in a dark place that you basically ignored instead of fixing by going to therapy and putting in effort to listen and helping her, Until it was too late and she left you, and now she actually has time to get help for herself, and no longer has someone like you to make the situation worse by just piling on and not helping when she needed it, Yeah you may not be a mind reader nobody is but you know there was both signs and she probably said something to you, you ignored or thought it was nagging.
@user-jw1bl4hq9j3 ай бұрын
ECAUSE SHE IS OVERWORKED AND TOOK CARE OF EVERYONE BESIDES HERSELF.🤷🏻♀️
@Breevis293 ай бұрын
I was with my ex for 8 months. In 8 months I went from a size 3 to a size 9. After we broke up I went back down to a size 3. All he wanted to do was stay at home to eat and have relations. I didn't make time for myself to maintain my weight and appearance.
@the_classy_crackhead3 ай бұрын
Women glow up when they are poured into, whether by themselves or their partner. Women who are married that stay extremely beautiful are beautiful because their husbands or partners take care of them and shower them with love, affection, care and tell them how much they mean to them. If a person genuinely loves you, they show how much they value you throughout your entire relationship, not when you’re getting ready to walk away.
@MissKashira3 ай бұрын
Because she no longer has a 200lbs tumor draining the life out of her.
@ericacosta9873 ай бұрын
Bcause we dropped “ the weight”….
@RDCFemmes3 ай бұрын
Now she actually has time to focus on herself
@raventhorn92873 ай бұрын
I was in an on again off again, abusive marriage for 7 years. Disabled kicked out of my own home I paid rent and bills for. Was homeless but couch crashing, and good people took me in til I got on my feet and got urgent life saving medical care. The reason why we "glow up" after divorce is because we "leveled up" we pursued our own healing and recovery and it makes us happy and fulfilled.
@mjackson31093 ай бұрын
Why the glow up after leaving the husband or BF; less work, even if they have children, eating better, reduction in bills, having more personal time as they don’t have a king baby wanting someone to fulfill their every need. I had a relative whose BF asked her what she wanted for her birthday. Her fridge had conked out, so she told him she needed a new one. He went to the appliance store and came back with a big screen tv, stereo equipment and speakers. So much for listening to what women want.
@peachluck10503 ай бұрын
Love this. What a great story to illustrate the situation!
@boo31523 ай бұрын
The woman at the 8:01 time stamp is absolutely right! I gained weight in my last toxic relationship because I had so much anxiety and I didn’t feel safe. I didn’t understand when I was going through it but it makes so much sense.
@anitra_g_fit56013 ай бұрын
Also I was all of those things before he came along. But HE was causing me so much stress it threw off my routine mentally, and physically… Not helping with the child, things like that…. Once I left, so did those issues! ❤️ I’m 40 to btw.
@dajanarahaseth98093 ай бұрын
Reasons for the glow up, peace of mind, more time to relax and reflect on oneself, by putting yourself first and loving youself. Most important being free of that heavy weight on your shoulders.
@keturaequalizer3 ай бұрын
Maybe its coz the abuse has stopped and she is finally stress free. When a woman has her peace of mind she will naturally glow. If something is weighing on her shoulders or bothering her, it will shine thru by how she looks. I can always tell a woman who is miserable in a relationship. 🤷🏽♂
@VioletFoxisms3 ай бұрын
I glowed up after a long relationship because when I was with him, my self worth was so low. When we split, I learned that I deserved more from myself and learned to feel great in my skin. It’s more than physical. It’s mental and spiritual too.
@X-fd9yp3 ай бұрын
Omg. Sleep rest and relaxation. Amen.
@nikkilong73773 ай бұрын
The last lady said it all!!!! 💯 He only proved why 4b is working. They only care about what women look like and what women do for them. Once that stops and they feel it, like the power just went out is when they give a damn.
@get_aclue42183 ай бұрын
We have more time and less stress 🤷🏽♀️ that’s proof to single childfree women should maintain their status. Don’t date,marry, or have children with them
@lolabigcups71213 ай бұрын
Jada Pinket Smith is the best example of men not listening to your wants then calling you ungrateful for now wanting something you don't want.
@priskruger3143 ай бұрын
I really don't understand what you are saying can you please explain. Because from where I am standing she is abusive and should leave or had left her hub and same goes for him. He should have left.
@lolabigcups71213 ай бұрын
@@priskruger314 He asked her what she wanted for her birthday, she said she just wanted to spend it watching movies with their family, and that she did not want a party only for him to throw her a lavish star studded surprise party and when she left the party's, folks called her ungrateful, selfish, mean and manipulative. She was demonized for not wanting a thing she didn't want. Also how is she abusive?
@priskruger3143 ай бұрын
@@lolabigcups7121 thanks for explaining this. And yeah it does sound nightmarish. Humiliating her hub left and right. Maybe they had an open marriage and maybe he 'cheated' first but that is why I am saying either of them should have ended the marriage not keep going on w this charade. Lol the best one about them is just a silly meme claiming Jada never knew Will Smith. After seeing all the nonsense they shared w us this still makes me laugh. Yeah for the money they can't people say but they should find a way this is a very bad joke of a marriage.
@Indigo5652 ай бұрын
@@priskruger314we don't know their relationship. They can still love each other inspite of what we see. They clearly don't want to be divorced and I don't think it's for us to understand or judge by our own standards. Rich people standards are different. Adam Levine was clearly cheating on his wife but she's still there because it seems like they have an understanding. Relationships are different especially when the parties involved are both financially set.
@priskruger3142 ай бұрын
@@Indigo565 can't disagree. If he wants to stay w someone who has been branded abusive cause they do not want to come to an agreement on the financials - his call
@ErisstheGoddessofmanhwas3 ай бұрын
Because she dropped the extra 90 kilograms of her shoulders 😂the husband
@themuse113 ай бұрын
10,000 reasons. renewed faith in ourselves, hope for the future, not having to answer to anyone else, sleeping alone (women who sleep in the same bed as a partner reportedly have lower sleep quality...), eating how we want, reduced cortisol, more time with friends who build us up...