When I was a child (before I converted to Islam) my mother had 4 children and married my stepfather who had none. He treated us like his children and legally adopted all of us. He is the one I call Dad. He was the best husband to my mother. I have yet to see or hear of a better man. Sadly he's not Muslim.

wallah you really spoke. I have also been married young but still do not know what marriage is. He has left me with a child and NEVER cared for his child and no contact with his child at all. She is now 13 years old, she knows who her father is but never calls her. Unfortunately. I am still alone 14 years later. I think that's a pity. I'm 36 now and I still hope to get married someday. Please make a Dua for me. Don't want to be alone anymore

I married a widow, it's been a seven blessed year. I am 10 years younger. Been doing the Sunnah everyday, washing dishes, cooking, washing clothes.

I think this problem is not just a problem coming from the males, but generally it is something that the guys family will be totally against too and will actively try to prevent them and talk them out of doing this, if it was encouraged or even not looked down upon by family then I think more males will be open to do this.

Assalam o Alaikum! I am single never married and Alhamdulillah I am going to marry a single mother.

So long as the woman has deen and obeys her husband I don't care if she's divorced or a single mother or whatever. I would take a single mother who has deen and is obedient and appreciate the husband 100 times than a rebellious, deenless virgin who'll make your life a living hell.

This is shocking to see muslim women are becoming single mothers. 😰

Im a recent revert and it actually makes me laugh 😂 I'm divorced single mum with kids and I never felt better, happier and closer to Allah ❤ if a man doesn't want to marry me then don't bother, I'm so happy myself, having already many interests and hobbies and loving people around me! 🙏 you take your way and peace be upon you

I have a child from a marriage and divorce (he was unfaithful) before I reverted. My second child is from marriage with a Muslim man who left me while pregnant, alone with my first child in a foreign country where I knew only one other person. Some of us women have been tested again and again. Pointing fingers and assuming she has standards too high is shameful. What men don't understand is a woman who's been married knows what to expect and how to share a life and home with a man. Realistic expectations are not common among young couples. We have requirements based on experience and a great deal of hurt we healed from. I get so much push back for the simple requirement of a spouse already being a resident of my country. Such a basic thing. Subhan Allah that I have good family and friends in my life and the strength to care for my children alone.

I totally understand why most single men who’ve never been married prefer to marry virgin women, or at least women without children. Marrying a divorced person typically does come with baggage, whether you admit it or not and if they have children it’s even more baggage you’re forced to deal with and a headache on top of that. Childless women generally also want childless men as well btw, virgin women want virgin men. I’ve never been married before, and I don’t think I would ever consider marrying a man with kids unless my options have dramatically decreased and I literally have no other choice. I’m 22 now and I don’t have any kids . Why would I choose to get stuck taking care of another woman’s children instead of my own. My first option will always be a virgin man whose first time getting married is with me so that we can experience life, love and joy TOGETHER. I don’t want someone who’s already experienced marriage, sex and kids with another woman. Maybe I would consider them in a rare occasion, but again it wouldn’t be my first choice. I’ve waited a long time, i want the same out of my partner. Inshallah Allah grants me a spouse who is the same as me I don’t think it’s messed up at all to have that preference and it’s perfectly reasonable and makes sense, as long as you are bringing the same to the table. To those who want to take on somebody with children, good for them. Nothing wrong with it at all. But they shouldn’t be forced into it either, or shamed for not wanting to do so.

I always find it interesting that whenever men have preferences they are crucified, yet women can have a list a mile long. Everyone always asks men what they bring to the table-what do women bring to the table?

you missed a important key point brother Gab. which is there are different categories for single mothers...(A) A sister oppressed by her husband and was forced to leave and is a single mother....(B) A sister who's had a bad promiscuous past and had children out of wedlock. and is a single mother. (C) An ungrateful woman who left her husband even though she had it all but thought the grass is greener on the other side and is a single mother. So my point here is that all single mothers are not the same. My advice is to avoid option B and C like a plague because it will be an utter disaster. I don't see an issue with marrying a sister like option A hope that makes sense.

I would marry a non virgin as long as she lost her virginity/ made love in a halal way. Single mothers I would marry as long as she is younger then me, the child is still very young, and the man is dead. Sorry that is the best I can do.

Im so sad because my mom is a divorcee, we are all young adult daughters now and my dad failed us and my mom is so tired of working,she wants to be a housewife and have someone take care of her, shes an amazing person and beautiful too, but she has to be in this situation and im a student i cant even help her at all, shes a revert as well so her family doesn't help her (in european culture once youre an adult u dont live with family or get help like this) i wish someone would be with her and take this burden off of her inshaAllah

Jazak Allahu khairen. Needed to be said.

My cousin married a mother of one and she's his only wife. Mashallah

Dear sister if you want to be valued, love yourselves first, have professional development in place and whatever Allah has written for you will come to you without issue. I am widowed, young woman and Allah blessed me with two beautiful children 🧒. Alhamdulilah it makes me laugh when I hear from a brothers Oh "you wanted be married like virgin" I say to them nothing is free dear Muslim brother and they should look for a free wife with knowledge of Deen and Dunya. Unfortunately like the brother said there are women who are stable in finance and yet brothers don't want to marry. My opinion is not about finance, beauty and being virgin its about woman valuin herself. #single mothers widowed and never married ladies.

It’s disgusting non Muslim man act more Muslim honestly and become excellent fathers to their step children

im in the place in life where i am financially capable of taking care of a wife and children, if i had children myself i would consider a wife that had a child from previous marriage, but since i dont have kids is it wrong of me to want to start my own family first?

Thank you for this video. After the pain and suffering I endured since I was small I have NEVER knew what real love has been like till a Muslim man found me. I am nothing but honest and he understood everything I have had to say. Just getting to know him and spending time with him helped me wonder how he could be so kind and loving and that is were I wanted to know more about Allah and how I can become more then what I am now. I have not yet become a Muslim but I'm working my way there with his help and support. He is absolutely amazing and wants to marry but we have took our time as I have kids. He never says anything negative about me or my kids. I have to say. No I'm one woman who dosent need a man's support because I'm strong as I am. But he gives me what I lacked. Kindness. Love. Honestly. Loyalty. And I will give him the same effort and energy if not more to show him how much he means in my life. As long as women are loved and understood then you will be met with the same. Don't be harsh on moms who's story you may not know of. Not everyone in life was willing to give or lose their virginity. Everyone deserves a chance. Thank you. For that chance ❤

A solution for single mothers/divorcee/widows is polygamy. They could become 2nd, 3rd, 4th woman of a stable and righteous man. It was made for that in the first place. Now I wonder how single mothers/ divorcees/widows feel about that?

Alhumdulileh I have 3 school age kids and Allah bless me with a single never married husband. Unfortunately my kids had a hard time accepting my husband and sometimes are being rude to him. It’s hard to for me because I don’t want to take sides. I totally understand why many men don’t want to marry single mother with kids because of these challenges especially if the kids are older then 5-6 years old.

my step dad married my mom when she was divorced with 2 daughters and he was the best man to my mother and the best father to us and still Alhamdulillah now we are old but i will never forget how kind and generous he was when we were kids and he still is, he is the best Allahuma Barik , he is a blessing from Allah. maybe nowdays some people become very selfish they dont think of others strugle and how they can help them for the sake of Allah, women and orphans are both weaks they need help and mercy not insults that "disturbed male" (not MEN) enjoy to say today you mock other people struggle tomorrow you will fall in Worse kind of it, just wait and you will see (if you don't repent).

Thank you so much for bringing this topic to light, it is indeed a HUGE PROBLEM. Hopefully the brothers take heed, and also sisters are more lenient towards polygamy

Asalaam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh brothers and sisters, well in ma case am a single mom of one beautiful daughter, en honestly speaking before having that sweet little girl l always felt like l was not whole. Ts been fours years buh alhamudullilah they have been the most beautiful years of ma life. So to every single mom out there just know that Allah knows more than wat we know. If you want man, I mean any Muslim man u desire, just wake up for tahajjud en I guarantee you that he will be it's by Allah's grace. Am so humbled by how Allah continues to honor me, so thank you ya Rabbi.

I know someone who was a single mother with one son that took her 4 years to finally find a brother to marry and he didn’t tell his family that she had a child even after they got married…a couple of months later when the family found out they were really upset as they would rather him marry a virgin…that’s just how desperate the situation is.

"Brothers are not willing to step up" well said. It definitely is a challenge to take on children, but Allah will reward the men who step up and take on this challenge. I hope more brithers will understand this.

Mah ShaAllah brother you Are right May Allah Subhanadallah bless you with more knowledge 🤲

After 5 yrs of being single mother I finally found my forever other half, young guy never married the most caring and good looking man. I have witnessed that with all that time I been single and it’s just so sad that our men can fail us like that. By being a single mother you don’t choose it. It’s sad and very unfortunately that Muslim men that reject those men lost faith in Allah and the Quran. May Allah have mercy on them.

Thank you for sharing. I live in America & work with Muslim men. I don't know much about Islam. One individual seems a little more friendliest than the others. Perhaps he maybe mildly interested or maybe he's just curious about the American culture. Who knows?! Nonetheless your video was helpful & informative. Greatly appreciated

a single mother can be just as good of a wife as a virgin could be. i for myself was married 7 years and unfortunately got cheated on, when my baby was only 3months old. it broke me cause I was always taking care of the house and my husband , was always faithful and even left my homecountry for him. but he had nothing better to do than cheat on me as soon as we were in the us. i left the states to go back to my family and friends. up to this day I'm still taking care of my beautiful son whos now 13 and I couldn't be more proud of him. unfortunately my ex husband doesn't care about his son at all.but I have moved on and learned from the past. i just think we as single mothers shouldn't be judged in a certain way in the possibility to find a honest, faithful and hardworking man.

Honestly if these people you tell about have these unrealistic standards, and are afraid of children, we are blessed that they stay away from us single mothers.

After my difforce, i am now 11 years a single mom. I have conferted 20 years ago and feel very alone these years without a islamic man beside me. But i never succeeded to marry ahain with a brother that is caring abouth us....Alhamdulilah, Allah swt knows what is best for us...

Im sorry but its not the same, she has been intimate wirh another man and probably has a child. Why would i choose thst when there are many single women and a few virgins

Because everyone deserves a fresh start ! Why should I bring someone else's problems into my life ! Not doing that unless you are divorced yourself.Maybe whoever asked the question should be rephrased to " why don't divorced men marry divirced women "

The reality is: both single mother and married men nowadays find it almost impossible to get married again. I know many married men who are capable and are good men who wants to get married. But single mothers too have high standards. They want a single guy, with lots of money, who loves her child as his own. While she would not accept him to be married or even have his own children from previous relationship. It goes both ways. The issue is not about virgin or not. It’s about both sides having too high expectations. Not to forget most men would loose their first wife if they go for another. Lolz I know a person who had 2 wives. They all thought they had it figured out. The next day both women gave up. Now he is single from having 2 wives. Haha he lost both.

that's true. Im sure there are guys out there...just a minor amount. But one thing you got to keep is by the time a guy being single and ready to marry for the first time....he's already chosen a girl he's interested in and while that's happening the single mom is most likely over his age. Not that I'm saying its his fault either. He's is high school, college or university for example....its likely that he would be looking around there. In our prophets time there wasn't this type of education where guys would be men and doing menly work til as soon as they hit puberty. Now a days you become a man after your done schooling and made money and ready for marriage. There would be a higher chance to get married men to get a second wife who's a single mother. Thats were the aim should be in my opinion.

Brother, lets be fair... in a muslim society where the man has at least a bit of authority in his home, yeah that could be a sacrifice which a man does and will hopefully be rewarded for by God ... but in the western society where the man is already a slave in his own home by law, do you really wanna risk bringing even more trouble on yourself by having to deal with some strange man's kids? You might wanna first experience that yourself for a couple of years before promoting the idea... kids will wreck your life and and when that brings her to the crossroad of choosing between you and them, she will not think twice... she has, after all, proven that she's capable of leaving so she wouldn't really have a problem doing it again.

I am an African girl and a single mum of a baby girl, growing up in my home village i would see men marring single mums and windowed and divorced,but now the lagest number of men don't want to marry these ladies anymore and i have realised is that they want to marry but you have to leave your kids don't get married with them ,i believe now that men don't want to get out of their comfort zone and raise kids as their own,there is no any woman who will leave her kids to go and get married to a man who don't want her own children. It is so hard to get a life partner and get in to married,,so so hard my people

Aslaamualukoum SubhanAllah that is sad. But I know may Muslim woman who don’t have this experience Alhamdliah. There many Muslim men may Allah reward them who are accepting and happy to marry good women. This also from personal experience may good brothers who are accepting single mothers. The single mothers need to work on their femininity, mentality and confidence and InshaAllah they will find good man to marry.

People are babied too much now a days. The Western view of keep them young for as long as you can, ie let them play, be carefree etc. This isn't a reality and as soon as we reach puberty we start to think more like an adult yet our carefree upbringing has spoiled us towards responsibility.

I believe if a man was to even mention to his wife about a second wife even if its a single mother that he wouldn't mind....the first wife would either have a heart attack or she will get a divorce. So sometimes its not the men....its the first wife. So there stuck in a lose lose situation 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

The issue also is in the first wives who put stipulations in contracts for not to take polygyny. If I had the chance I'd consider a single mum of 1 as a second/ 3rd.

Salaam Alaikum... I am a 32 years old man never married before. I know a single mother of 2. She's super religious with an excellent character, morals and family background. She's got great family values and is beautiful. I wish to marry her. Before anybody comments, please read that I don't see single women as "leftovers". They ain't objects to me. I wish to receive some advice from you brother. Let me know how can I reach you.

I would prefer my first wife to be previously unmarried, but for second, third, fourth, I wouldn't necessarily mind if they were single mothers and/or if they were older in age, I love kids; and as long as the women are in decent physical shape and took care of their personal maintenance, not excessively overweight, etc. But I would need to know the context to why they got divorced, ie. was the woman rebellious against her husband and made his life miserable until he just couldn't take it anymore? Or was the husband verbally or physically abusive and the wife needed to escape from him? Or was it just a mutual agreement that the marriage was not compatible and it just simply didn't work out? Also there are cultural practices that are contrary to the Sunnah and are contributing to the marriage problem, particularly with Desis where they always have to have massive extravagant weddings and walimas instead of a simple nikkah in the masjid, and the brother has to have a Master's degree and be a doctor or engineer earning 6 figures, etc. for him to even be considered for marriage, instead of marrying a good brother who is young and still building his career and finances. And I'm sure there are plenty of brothers who would love to marry additional wives, even if they were single mothers, but we simply cannot financially afford to do so. We can afford the financial burden of one household, but not more than that and still do justice between them. It sounds like both Muslim men and Muslim women have faults and shortcomings that are contributing to this issue. It's not just one side or the other.

How come he doesn't talk about the legal/financial risks for men in marriage? His form of "man-up" is actually "man-down". A rational male doesn't take such risks.

2:04 the hadith was about jabir radiallahu anhu.He was 18 at that time , so rasulluallah sallallahu alaihassalam instructed him to marry someone at same age.....

thanks for talking about this, few talk about this. It's sad many muslim single mothers who cannot feel like a women and be intimate with a man sinply because they were divorced. InshAllah people will start to see the good in these women. But on the flip side a complain to women teh feministic type out there, specially if they are very good looking they want the best looking guy or richest man and they they keep searching until they are in their in mid 30's and now they are ready to compromise when its too late (This is more with those with weaker imaan)

I married when i was 23 and divorced 3 months later when i was pregnant. im 36 now and still single. 🥺

What about single fathers? From what I know, they don't necessarily want a virgin woman.

What an incredible video. Masha'Allah! The advice given is truly wonderful. May Allah preserve you for sharing such valuable guidance. After my divorce with my first wife, I made the decision to marry a divorcee four years ago. Since then, I have lovingly taken care of her and her four children. I am truly grateful for the abundant blessings that have come into my life. Allah's mercy towards His servants is truly indescribable.

As as a single mother we make mistakes and sometimes it our parents fault I am not Muslim I am Christian these mens who are not Muslim or Christian are not good men the majority bc they don’t be responsible for their families and it true

Sometimes the problem is the women who don’t want their husband marrying a second wife (who is for example a single mother)..

Walahi Im losing hope in ever marrying again. Many brothers say they emulate the Prophet (PBUH) but only at their convenience. May Allah protect single mothers and answer our supplications of marrying a good Muslim husband who will love us and our child/children. Ameen. Allah knows best.

Are you in Malaysia, recording this????!!!

For me psychologically it would be too big a jump going from single to married with two kids overnight... Ofcourse theres other reasons too but this is one reason why its not a good idea to marry a single mother

I was talking about this topic with my husband recently. Why don't Muslim men marry single mothers? "Its because Muslim society now have become so westernized that they think the child belongs to the mother!" In the time of prophet Muhammad(saw) children belonged to the father and his family. If anything happened to the father, the male relatives from fathers family would take care of the child. Why on earth a men would volunteer to raise someone else's child. In the west its different, mothers get half the earnings of the father in the divorce settlement + the family home. So it is in a mans intrest to marry a single mother.

I am single and never got married before and I don’t have personal experience with relationships. I don’t consider marrying a widow, a divorcée or a single mother unless for polygyny. But I prefer my first marriage to be with a virgin since I never married before.

What if a Christian lady is divorced from a bad marriage and has children, can she marry a Muslim man?

Very valid topic.

Tbh the single widowed women are more powerful than most of the"virgin" men these days. Infact men in general, men dont know what it means to be a man, a real man. As far as virginity goes, most men are not even virgins themself, they mess about before marriage have their fun and then go look for a virgin, like seriously the audacity to then point their finger at women! These women who put the food on the table, pay the bills, work, cook, clean, look after their children, the house and everything else in-between are superheros. I would love to see a man pull all that off and still walk with his head up high. In my opinion men are pathetic and I know alot will be offended by this but these days there's nothing a man can offer that a women can't do herself and this very fact hits the nerves for alot of men, they think they own power and authority that can't be overridden and when it does they turn bitter towards whatever it is that proves they are weak i.e divorced/widowed mum's. So to all the mum's out there, DONT let anyone put you down ever! Always keep your head up high, your more amazing than you'll ever know and remember there's a reason why Allah put jannah beneath your feet and not the feet of men!

My wife have been looking for a single mother or widow for me but we are not able to find one as they don't want to end up in polygamous marriage. May Allah guide us all. Women usually prefer to stay single than become a second wife. This is situation limited to Toronto, Canada. Not sure about other places.

Unfortunate as it is for me to say Single mothers either from divorce or widowed or never married with kids are being preyed upon by our Muslim brothers. They don't want to marry women in this status they want to use them for their own ulterior motives. As a divorcee been divorced for 3 years now and have been approached many times in the 3 years fortunately for me I am not naive and recognize their motives on the onset so I block their approach. That's why me I stay single and I am in no hurry to feel flattered by any attention only to be disappointed when these men try their so obvious stunts. But its sad where are the genuine men. Where is their Islamic upbringing. Some women end up marrying men not from the religion as these men are willing to accept them with kids and this is the horror of these situations.

Don't forget that western men will date those woman first without marrying them and after a few months or years after making sure she is able to pair bobd and she's the right fit for him, they will marry them so it's really different than Muslims who who can date or sleep with women before marriage. So you're comparison bro is unfair. So many Muslim men don't wanna take that risk to marry a single mothers or divorcee, specially that men have to pay Mahar (dowry). So it's really a financial risk. So please don't push the men to do something that they don't want.

Why would a man who doesn’t have kids provide for kids that are not his own? I don’t think that a woman would want to marry a man who has children from his relationship either..

I’m single(never married). I am open to any woman who was married or not married. In the case of divorced/widow with children, I would prefer one child less than 3 years old. If she is around 25 or less, it would be a great option for me

Part of the problem is definitely the mixing of two systems. The Western and Islamic. Now in the Islamic system, the children stay with the biological father. He looks after them financially and otherwise. The mother has visitation rights. ( in an ideal set up, she can spend as much time with the children as possible) Now this also means that the mother is free, unburdened & can on some level almost operate as a single woman. Making her a much more attractive proposition to an interested man ( who knows that the children are with the biological father, they are not a financial burden to him, he doesn't have to be their primary father figure, and so on) Once the mother marries a new husband, there is then room for mercy, bonding, and an opportunity for him to build a relationship with the children. The key is to pick one system.... or the other. Now what happens is the mother picks the western system, when she wants to keep the kids ( becoming the primary care giver, reducing her autonomy to act as a single woman), then the Islamic system when she wants to get married. ( wanting the new husband to take full responsibility for the family - including becoming the primary father figure and financial support to the children of her ex husband) This places a burden on the parties coming together in marriage. Often once marriage is entered into ample room for mercy and love slowly opens up.

I'm 22 years old born muslim Lives in Istanbul, Turkiye. I'm trying to marry widow/divorced or revert but most of them are older and they have problems, what should i do now. I want to do it for the Sake of ALLAH SWT

Tell me how many men can truly afford four homes for, four wives? Where are they? Unless their all living in huts 🛖 or teepees ⛺️

I can tell you why! Mostely the man takes the second to run a way of house with childeren and a bissy mother who needs help,he Married to please him self not to take responsebilty, للاسف

SubhaanAllah

blonde is not the preference. Men prefer women who have dark hair. So I dunno what weirdo he is talking about but Muslims have nerve to complain. Muslim women are screwed. If Muslim men right now as a collective said they will not ever marry, the only women who will be impacted are Muslim women since Muslim women can only marry Muslim men. What's also screwed up is Muslim men can marry non Muslims. Yassir Qadhi had a video where he speaks against interfaith marriages. Himmm I wonder why? could it be how many Muslim males are marrying non Muslim women, thus leaving Muslim women forever single? It's ironic how many Muslims talk about divorce rates in the West when Muslim marriage is in crisis.

The issue is there are a lot of boys in the ummah, but where are the real men? Men want to speak all tough, and brag about polygyny - then they should man up and take on the responsibility. And Sisters should encourage their husbands to do it instead of be selfish. We have so many sisters struggling in this ummah and marriage would solve so many problems

If you ask single mother why they Are divorce they always tell that the husband is bad and make only mistakes and is a horrible Person. .. but she chooses him to marry and have a child . So there is something wrong with them. A lot of Single lothers Are Broken girls. They do everything for you until you marry them then they show their true Face. If you corekting her or the child she always going to come with the fact that you Are not the father of the child and the child is going to see that and dont treat you like the father . He never going to respekt you and the women too.

I thought you looked like Harry Potter here MashAllah. May Allah make your work more believed to the Muslims than movies 😅

Canada Ont. 44, Recently separated 2 young daughters and willing to Marry woman with children or Widow.. Character and religion is #1 . May Allah find us virtuous spouses where we may find Peace! (30:21) And of His Signs is that He has created mates for you from your own kind that you may find peace in them and He has set between you love and mercy. Surely there are Signs in this for those who reflect.

single mothers bring a lot of trauma with them. they gave their best years to a guy and gave him the honor of bearing his offspring. now she for some reason could not make the marriage work, so she is now single. Then a guy, who studies hard, works hard on his purpose, disciplined and focused, has to risk everything for a single mother who could be good or not. why risk it when there are several women who make better decisions with their lives. No body would give me their daughter when i converted because of my past, and that i understood then and now. People need to prove themselves in business, in academics, sports, competition, but why are women so reckless when it comes to marriage, and then we have to save them. i have seen too many women muslim and non-muslim distroy their own marriage and are still single today. in my opinion, and the statistics prove that women wreck their homes more often than not. Again, why risk it.

If Some sisters before their marriage they would have supported polygamy, the condition would be different, if you ask vrgin girls do they like polygamy they say it's not fard or when you married you should do justice this and that when same lady got widowed the response would be like different... both the parents and youth(boys and girls) need to priorities the things. Allahuaalam

Because there is a lot of competetion for women. Does the preacher practise what he preaches in this case?

I watched another video of bro Gabriel where he bashed women who wanted to work as doing haram - many men also bashed them . Many women raised the issue about what a woman would do if the husband left her and she couldn't find for herself - no man gave any solution- now here they all are saying they are not interested in marrying divorcees- so if this women decided not to work how are they going to fend for themselves and their children ? Muslim men are telling them not to work but they are not ready ro provide for them in the case of divorce and other Muslim men are not ready to marry them - making them liabilities and you all think they would be stupid enough not to work !

Salamu alaikum, brothers do not want marry single mother because many times there are problems involved. Single mothers want to marry but they are not willing to give the children to their father once they marry. Custody should be given to the father if she marries.

Ask women how they treated us when we were unemployed, didn’t have enough resource. Now you want me to put all these years of hard work set aside and sacrifice my life . I can pray for the single mothers and willing to help them with money . But not ready to be their father . Not my kid not my problem. You may thing I am rude but it’s reality

Wow, so it’s not just me!!

It's too expensive to marry a single mom in the West even if you want her to be 2nd/3rd wife. Most men make enough income to just about afford 1 wife. So all you women thinking you can get a new man if ur husband divorces you think twice. Cause your value went down + not enough men to go around.

Reason they aren't willing is our wives today don't allow it. Nothing we can do. Society changed women

In their eyes, the ‘first ‘man’ , allready used her up. I have asked a man this once, and this was his answer. I’m 100% sure all these men that reject widows/single moms, think alike. Not a virgin, used up, has experience so intimidated by the woman allready survived a husband and now knows what she wants (and what she doesen’t). It’s cultural offcourse. They are weak and insecure. As if the ‘men’ are virgins: give me a break. Also, I have a friend who did remary. And she had a daughter from the first marriage. She told me her second husband cant stand the daughter from that marriage. She didnt come from his seed. Like his seed is made of liquid gold or something. It’s pathetic. Children are born by the plan and will of Allah. I just got divorced and I dont want to remarry. Sometimes its better for a child not to have a father at all, then a bad one. Zina, gambling, drinking, not fasting.. I dont want to keel running around a boy for the rest of ny life. Paying rent on my own, paying for groceries and everything else. What is his use? Might as well do jt alone. Seemed he was more dependant on me and my money then the other way around.

Single mom muslim dont allow to marry single men?is it true single mom is haram in islam?

It seems that not just in a Muslim religion. This is an issue. It is an issue in many other religions many other cultures. Too many men want what they have not proven to earn. Not even wanting/excepting a single mother/divorced/widow women. Wondering if this is a teaching of their extended family of their friends circle or of the teaching of their Superiors or people of their religion. That men think themselves enough or too much for women. That being a woman who is virgin or not. Many women, virgin or not a rather decent women, and actually have a type of independence and a good person to good parrot can be good partner, but why are so many men arrogant. Or why didn’t they not except that they feed themselves this fantasy? in doing so it seems they miss out on the opportunity or privilege better privilege of forming a family with an equal. Preferring to miss out on what could have been. Very Few are the exception it seems.

When marrying a pure woman, meaning virgin, you marry a pure of heart, mind, soul, character, meaning you marry yourself. But when you marry the devirginized woman you are getting trouble sooner or later, in many aspects in life 😇

Widowed, divorced or single fathers should marry widowed, divorced or single mothers. Single, never been married before men should go for a wife who had also never been married before first, the pursue a divorced, widow or single mothers for their 2nd, 3rd or 4th wives. The reason is this. Marriage is expensive. As a person who has never been married before, marriage is often a once in a life time thing. So they're hedging their bets on a person they will spend their lives with and not end in divorce and with a kid. Women dictate the cost of marriage, they make it expensive. If you want men to marry divorced women and single mothers, make marriage affordable! Secondly, marrying a divorced women or a single mother, you're filling in someone's shoes and already have to meet expectations. Whereas marrying a women who's never been married before, you learn as you go. Its easier. Divorced women and single mother who want to get married, make marriage easy! Single mothers will always have their commitment to their child, and not to their husband. Men don't want to raise another mans offspring by force. We will always know its not our kid and will have difficulty raising it properly. A lot of these women complain, saying the men at the prophets time married women who were divorced, widowed or single mothers. But marriage back then was easier, much more affordable and less hassle compared to now. Also, polygyny was commonly practiced. Yet these same women would be hell bent against polygyny, or even making their marriage affordable or easy.

The sahabi wouldn't leave sisters unmarried alone and lonely.

Assallamu Alaykum Warah Matullahi Wabarakatuhi. Im 52 yrs old im still single 16yrs.

i think one reason may be that psychological aspect of seeing child that is NOT their own. Every time man sees that child it may remind him that his wife had been in bed with another man.. i think that brings off traumatic feeling. Also the fact of responsibility of raising a child that is not your own turns u off cuz he is result of someone's effort n not yours n also the fear of child NOT accepting you and seeing you as his rival/evil stepfather then this creates a drama within relationship w/ his mother.. also another factor is the FAMILY of guy is less likely to accept someone's child for various reasons... it's a baggage allright....but again ISLAM is exceptional deen, all our relationships r connected w/ Allah so no good deeds gets unrewarded for the person by Allah.. So, i commend anyone who is willing to take responsiblity to care of women in need... i think if a woman is like a 10, most men would be willing to accept her. men with wealth n piety, i guess.

I’m in my mid 30s (virgin, never married). Because I am good looking and look much younger than my age, I get approached for marriage often (they assume I’m in my mid-late 20s), but as soon as they know my actual age, they flee 😂. These men who approach are around my age or a few years younger, but they look much older than me, so I don’t get why age is that big a deal for them. Maybe they want 10 kids or something, and my biological clock is limited to having 2-3 😂

Me as a virgin marrying single mom and she be like he doesn’t know what to do it’s awkward Me:🗿

If a woman remarries the custody of the child goes to the father. In anyway, she loses custody. That is why nobody wants to marry them. They use man made laws to keep kids from the man. It's not all cases, but a good portion of them.

I'm looking to get married for the first time. I'm down to marry 2 women. Gotta find the women willing to marry me though 😂🤕

Being a widowed single mother with orphan kids from a pious father is one thing. Being a divorcee single mother from a pious man or an abusive man is another thing. These two women are not equal. The latter is either rebelious arrogant or damaged goods from all the partying yesrs.

It’s not the responsibility of the second or third husband to raise her kids. Where’s the biological dad? He is still a dad despite ending the marriage to this mother. There are plenty of single moms and never married Muslim women over 30-60. They just won’t get married.

All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, recommended marrying virgin women, as Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullaah may Allaah be pleased with them narrated that he said, “I married a woman during the lifetime of the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ). I met the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) and he asked: “O Jaabir, have you married?” I said, “Yes.” He said: “A virgin or one previously-married?” I said, “A previously-married woman.” Whereupon, he said: “Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could play?” I said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I have sisters; I was afraid that she might intervene between me and them.” He replied: “Then it is that (which is the correct thing to do). A woman is married for her religiousness, wealth and beauty, so you should choose the religious one; lest you lose.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim. This is the wording of Muslim] ‘Utbah ibn ‘Uwaym may Allaah be pleased with him narrated that the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: “Marry virgin women for they have sweeter mouths, more fertile wombs, and are more content with what is little.” [Ibn Maajah in his Sunan. Al-Albaani: Hasan] (Sweeter in mouths): It means that their mouths smell good and their saliva is sweeter. It could also mean lack of obscenity and impudence because they still maintain their bashfulness due to not mixing with men. (More content with little): It means that they are content with little expenses and sexual intercourse because they did not experience it before. As Al-Munaawi may Allaah have mercy upon him stated in Faydh Al-Qadeer, the command in the two aforementioned Hadeeths is for recommendation, not for obligation. To us, the preponderant opinion is that marrying virgin women is better in principle, based on the previously mentioned proofs. Nevertheless, the ruling could be different from one person to another, like when one has children, as was the case with Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullaah may Allaah be pleased with them. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, accepted his justification and considered it a correct decision. This may also be the case with a man who lacks the ability to deflower his wife's virginity or maybe he wants to marry a certain woman who has been previously-married due to her good religious, moral and physical characteristics, as in the case under question. Consequently, we advise the questioner to compare the consequent benefits and harms of his marriage to that woman. He should also perform the Istikhaarah (guidance) prayer, resort to Allaah The Almighty with supplication and humbleness and then proceed with that which Allaah The Almighty inclines his heart to. We ask Allaah The Almighty to guide us all to what He likes and approves. Allaah Knows best. this hadith was for everyone not just that sahabi. provide proof