Why He WON'T Let You Go...
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Why he won't let you go...In this dating advice video, I will give you the reasons he's not letting you go. You may see these on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to these dating tips, and be sure to watch the entire video.
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@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
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@Realness4sho 3 жыл бұрын
Absolutely a must Read! 💯🌸
@devinetrinity3378 3 жыл бұрын
That's exactly what He said when I left....I was sacred and ALONE. 1 of my points for leaving.....YOU R SO ON POINT!
@devinetrinity3378 3 жыл бұрын
And yes Totally RIDE OR DIE....But When MY PEACE LEFT!!!! SO DID I. @20yrs............................................WHEW CHILLE THE STORIES
@summerhancock9233 3 жыл бұрын
Awesome book
@niviabermudez9151 2 жыл бұрын
@@devinetrinity3378 ,èß zzz
@msdemeanour 3 жыл бұрын
When a man shows you who he is, believe him. Run for the hills girl. 💌
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
@msdemeanour 3 жыл бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you for another enlightening video 😍
@IndiansAuto 3 жыл бұрын
Ppl change
@msdemeanour 3 жыл бұрын
@@IndiansAuto Don't kid yourself 🙄 Leopards never change their spots & snakes in the grass always stay the same.
@blessedchildofgod9112 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@sandragreen5146 2 жыл бұрын
Some people hold onto you not because they want you, but because they don't want anyone else to have you.
@tonicombs278 3 жыл бұрын
I left a 6 year relationship a year ago and never looked back. I still loved him but I felt empty in our relationship, plus I'm a happy person and he was bringing my happy down and I couldn't let that happen. My advice is to stop making it a choice for them to leave you alone and just leave and don't look back no contact. Best of luck everyone.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
@nikkilove6128 3 жыл бұрын
I experienced a similar thing...sometimes we have to make the hard choice because the toxic person won't leave.
@miacarter5328 3 жыл бұрын
💪💪
@IntuitiveEmpath777 3 жыл бұрын
This video is very inspirational. I've left a 13 and half year relationship, and truly have encounter the horrific experience of completely being strip of my happiness while in the presence of my narcissistic ex. Having the ability to now analyze, my vibrations being higher without interruptions of my happiness when he wasn't around, was a wake up call that this man wasn't who God ordain for me to spiritually have has an equal yoke.
@tonicombs278 3 жыл бұрын
@@nikkilove6128 you're right about that the longer we give them a choice the longer they prolong our happiness. We just have to stay strong and make that difficult decision and stick to it.
@deevahlyshus 3 жыл бұрын
I know why he won’t let go: I’ve said it from day one, the benefits he gets is far greater than what he can do for himself
@acd1168 2 жыл бұрын
Far greater.
@Kemipops81 2 жыл бұрын
We are like replacement Mothers….I swear some men are still children in their heads.
@DebBee4730 Жыл бұрын
This is very very true. Replacement moms. I feel so emotionally drained because I was being made to replace his mom, giving me such big shoes I know I will never be able to fill. It's so exhausting. Why can't you just love as I am.
@Lachelsei Жыл бұрын
This! 🎯🎯
@Butterflyyyy9 Жыл бұрын
And it's called Ego
@EmpressCharmaine 2 жыл бұрын
When you settle for less that's exactly what you get less and less and less
@zuiiee 2 жыл бұрын
Yup... sell yourself short in the beginning and it's impossible to raise your price later
@julika1984 3 жыл бұрын
When he doesn't let u go its a controlling issue.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@jayc5756 3 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@Redwine-hb1pr 3 жыл бұрын
Yup
@judyconrad4742 3 жыл бұрын
Yep. He tells me I am his and nobody will want me and all men will do me the same way.
@Ttmara88 2 жыл бұрын
@@judyconrad4742 going do that rite now bad thing I have a kid wit him
@natashasanders8785 3 жыл бұрын
💯 I learned a long time ago to never try to keep a man who doesn't want to be kept.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right. Thank you for sharing!
@blessedchildofgod9112 2 жыл бұрын
Love it lol 😂
@Sophisticated8 2 жыл бұрын
It’s women who would literally fist 👊🏽 fight another woman to keep another woman from looking at him or even if she’s not aware of him having another woman that is kind of a situation a c Ex church member did to me she literally stopped directing the choir and ran into the kitchen and said in-front of others and hollered out I’ll be dam if she gets my husband I wasn’t going to say anything to him I was going to get my money out of my pocket he’s not my type anyway
@acd1168 2 жыл бұрын
Period.
@thelovely961 2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes they don't let go because the situation benefits him. this doesn't always mean sex or sex alone. Sometimes we as women give more than we are getting from them, which is why we end up feeling so drained in the end. They have been benefiting the whole time because we love them and that's why they can't let go. Out of the selfish reason of what they will lose out that they have been getting from us, be it support, validation, food, sex, comfort etc etc.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right!
@jennifersue7655 2 жыл бұрын
Some men can’t appreciate what they had until they’ve lost it. By that time a woman isn’t turning back because she has given him every chance under the sun to do better.
@jjw1309 3 жыл бұрын
What I was looking for at 20 isn't the same thing I'm looking for or want at 40
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I agree!
@SonjaElizabethTeal 2 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@nenerone6638 3 жыл бұрын
I would never fight a man that don’t want me. But it is funny when they leave they always want to come back. But then it is way too late.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
@devinetrinity3378 3 жыл бұрын
Yep...But naw. f ing Good
@fredajohnson506 2 жыл бұрын
Amen don't settle
@devinetrinity3378 2 жыл бұрын
@@fredajohnson506 Never!!!!
@BABS889 2 жыл бұрын
Because the grass was not greener on the other side.
@melwill9868 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes you just have to experience the pain of letting go in order to heal yourself. It's ok to put yourself and your mental health first. If someone loves it your gut will tell you. You won't have to question it, he's consistent with it. Love isn't supposed to hurt or make you feel crazy.
@NaturallyHERS 3 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely correct. I was recently with someone who triggered my anxiety and depression. The sec it ended so did my anxiety. Granted Im still down and sad Im no longer anxious. My aunt who use to be a short term counselor told me my anxiety in that situation was me going against my spirit and truth about her and the situation.
@rashawntaylor4316 3 жыл бұрын
Goodafternoon it ‘ s hard too find real good man who ‘ s willing too sacrifice for you n make you happy ! A real man wouldn’t let you do things by your self n also he will help by actions ! Secondly , simple things like send you roses , car repairs, bills paid , also take you out on weekend n surprise dates! Third he would value you n honor as his women seriously n ready settle down !
@keisharaye3304 2 жыл бұрын
Thank You!!!
@essiethebestie1 2 жыл бұрын
Most times the pain of letting go is what's actually NEEDED. Because once you go through that pain. You will never look back! & you will always remember that painful feeling. Too many times. People avoid that pain by holding onto to something that will hurt them even more in the long run. When in reality they will loose it inevitably.
@karlataylor1172 3 жыл бұрын
The men in my life have all been a total waste of time. No loss whatsoever.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@sbsllc2224 3 жыл бұрын
When a man doesnt tame his inner dog he will cheat even when he has the woman of his dreams.
@fredajohnson506 2 жыл бұрын
Amen that's true because he is dealing with the spirit of lust and only God can deliver him from that
@princizzraven2000 2 жыл бұрын
Truest thing ever.
@alexakearney 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been ride or die for too many people that didn’t deserve it
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@patriceroach8616 3 жыл бұрын
Yeeees!
@justicevibes1252 2 жыл бұрын
Same. Don't worry good things will be in store for all the good ppl! 💯
@CrazyCandy5 3 жыл бұрын
I'm had this issue with an ex before. He was an abusive narcissist and cheated on me and lived a double life and wanted to keep me around. I broke up with him. He ended up losing at the end and lost everything. Now he regrets everything because I was the only one that gave a damn about him.
@jayparfaye2340 3 жыл бұрын
I went through the same thing. It is a struggle because he is in my heart, but I know I deserve better than what I got from him and am glad to be on my way to freedom to receive my blessings with someone else.....
@heidifisher8973 3 жыл бұрын
People often confuse a bruised ego with a broken heart and because of that they find it hard to let go of their partners. I believe the reason why polygamy is so popular is because it justifies these half-hearted co-dependant relationships. I'm a very nurturing person and I seem to attract many men who are unconscious of their codependency issues. I struggled with boundaries in the past but now I'm much better. I might be able to see his issues but it's not my job (nor any other woman) to connect the dots for him, that's his work to do.
@theosaka69 3 жыл бұрын
MAJOR FACTS!
@patriceroach8616 3 жыл бұрын
Truth! What's a bruised Ego?
@trynatural23 2 жыл бұрын
I SO LOVE THIS COMMENT!!💯♥️♥️💯♥️💯♥️💯
@Melissa.Universally 3 жыл бұрын
“If he is with you for the WRONG reasons; Doesn’t mean He will leave you for the RIGHT one” That hit me too! Beautifully stated!!!!
@Sweetsurvivalist 3 жыл бұрын
Hmmm!
@balancedplans3007 3 жыл бұрын
Very well said!
@keisharaye3304 2 жыл бұрын
That part
@Melissa.Universally 2 жыл бұрын
@@keisharaye3304 yes Ms Lady.... Indeed
@Melissa.Universally 2 жыл бұрын
@@balancedplans3007 He definitely Speaks Truth!!
@sandragreen5146 2 жыл бұрын
Knowing the difference between a man who wants a piece of you vs. The man who wants to be a part of you will save a bunch of headache's,heartbreaks and time waisting...he wants to leave, let him go.
@TheLuxeTraveler702 2 жыл бұрын
This is so spot on. I definately created unhealthy attachments to the wrong men because I craved affection and was love starved. I didn't have too many positive men around growing up to tell me what to look out for. Everything was trial and error.
@zuiiee 2 жыл бұрын
All errors for some of us...😮💨
@Erthangel000 Жыл бұрын
And a man aware of this and still doing it is a man not worthy.
@yamiyascott5455 3 жыл бұрын
This is so on point for me. It hurts when you know the truth, but letting go is so hard when you have history 🤷. Thank you for the truth🤦. Love the message 💯✂️
@Realness4sho 3 жыл бұрын
History, is what’s keeping you STUCK dear. 💯🥰
@Cadillac46 3 жыл бұрын
I understand I was married 12 year together 17 with 1 child…history mean nothing when u don’t have love peace and happiness.. My hubby money came with no peace the relationship became miserable I felt die beeing with him I finally left October 31/20 never plan to look back 💪💯
@bernessabass6409 3 жыл бұрын
I'm right there too
@justinxcinema 3 жыл бұрын
You will feel better💎
@nenerone6638 3 жыл бұрын
But you know when you have had enough. It will be so easy to walk away. You will run!!!!
@vernasmith1108 Жыл бұрын
He told me he wasn't going to let me go. He said, "Why would he. So, I had to walk away, although I still love him. A peace of mind goes a long way.
@Gothgirl-yy7uj 3 жыл бұрын
Yet men tell us women that we have attachment issues.
@destinixshakur 3 жыл бұрын
Yep
@mitz1919 3 жыл бұрын
Do not expect any man who is with you for the wrong reason to let you go for the right reasons - good stuff!
@sharonbinan1214 2 жыл бұрын
Firstly, always trust your gut instincts about everything! You can never go wrong! And secondly always trust his actions over his said plans or cover ups or whatever! Have the courage to leave when you feel you need to!
@patriciascorner4686 3 жыл бұрын
Staying together for the kids, especially if in a toxic relationship, is irresponsible and selfish. When those kids grow up they'll have to deal with all sorts of trauma and sometimes they don't understand it's from their family of origin and perpetuate the cycle if they don't get the help they need.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right!
@goddessunivers3122 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Time to start to cut generational cords! It's wrong to teach kids , that because you're married you have to stay and work on marriage! No way...Going for divorce now myself, have 4 kids. Wish I did years ago, but then living with narcissist it's all different story!
@patriciascorner4686 3 жыл бұрын
@@goddessunivers3122 I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through and I'm really happy you'll get the freedom and healing you and your kids need. I pray all will work out for your good 🤗❤️
@goddessunivers3122 3 жыл бұрын
@@patriciascorner4686 , thank you❤Think the most hardest part was to start process for separation/divorce,I believe, that my kids and I will be fine! And strongly believe that I do the wright thing for us, because mental health is most important! Got clinically depressed for 5 month this year! No more 🙌
@patriciascorner4686 3 жыл бұрын
@@goddessunivers3122 absolutely! The first step is the hardest. 🤗❤️
@steffaniececelia3034 3 жыл бұрын
My child's father says my boundaries are "burning bridges" and "finding reasons to be angry". But he is the one who doesn't want to commit to me and wants to play the field. I have never felt so confused in my life 🤦🏽♀️
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏 and I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best!
@chefnic4763 3 жыл бұрын
He's a fboy. Focus on you ❤
@starrbassett1997 3 жыл бұрын
Just remember that having boundaries protect you. You're the only person that can protect yourself like no one else. If they love you, they'll understand your boundaries and move accordingly. They'll try and understand why you feel that way and help find a positive solution moving forward in your relationship. Like our coach Stephan reminds us all the time, God is not the author of chaos and confusion. Stay strong and stay positive friend💖
@thisismystone9658 3 жыл бұрын
Sorry dear..
@shutit4024 3 жыл бұрын
He’s a straight up f***boy please I hope you’ve left his sorry azz
@latashawalton7739 2 жыл бұрын
HEAL FIRST!! Because hurt people hurt people.......
@rashidaking4439 3 жыл бұрын
Funny how now that I no longer want him, he now is being who I needed him to be before. Now he won't let go!! Its ridiculous!
@misselle1430 3 жыл бұрын
Don't be fooled sis.
@rashidaking4439 3 жыл бұрын
@@misselle1430 trust me...I'm doing all I can to get away from him!!! Its too little too late!
@Shawn6751 3 жыл бұрын
@@rashidaking4439 Lay down the hammer on him.
@rashidaking4439 3 жыл бұрын
@@Shawn6751 no doubt!!
@kellyr3804 2 жыл бұрын
Don't ever dismiss the very simple fact that he may truly love you but not know/have the capacity to do so. He wants to claims he can, tries but ultimately cannot. Does not have the communication skills, or the maturity, or the emotional intelligence, etc.
@sandragreen5146 2 жыл бұрын
Men's rejections is God's protection,let him go... thanks Stephen😊great video🙏❤
@GurlPlz4321 3 жыл бұрын
Stephan described my ex perfectly. When I finally accepted that we were no longer continuing our relationship, he still tried to stay in contact with me. I just didn’t understand why when he kept intentionally hurting me. It all makes sense now
@eddiemiller9913 3 жыл бұрын
What he do to keep hurting you and did he know he was doing it
@TT-ud5gf 2 жыл бұрын
@@eddiemiller9913 I guess he came back sweet talk to get intimacy but without intention to continue their relationship … that hurts
@eddiemiller9913 2 жыл бұрын
Ok but you can't give up the cookies if your not sure on what is he wants and even then you have to make them work for it so them your worth more than that remember they left you and disturb your love and peace. Im going through it right now but without contact i stated my case i have healed and making a better me now as this point and if my ex came back she will have to work for my time and me because Im focus getting better with the Lord and walking im my purpose and building my kingdom. I know it hurts but you have to be careful because you don't want to deal with starting the pain all over again by getting your hopes up to be let down again. Just pray fot healing and your peace back. Love peace and happiness
@keisharaye3304 2 жыл бұрын
@@eddiemiller9913 that Part
@acd1168 2 жыл бұрын
In his mind, you deserved to be hurt the way he hurt you. Forgive him because he is in pain too. He literally doesn’t know any other way to function.
@rodahwambia8361 2 жыл бұрын
The hardest is letting go, but very fulfilling at the end of the day, personal peace is more important that having someone who doesn't value,appreciate and care.
@vernasmith1108 Жыл бұрын
"God will continue to make the wrong person hurt you until you have No choice but to let go".
@thisismystone9658 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes when I remember what I have gone through. I am even ashamed to speak on it. I can't believe that I really convinced myself to take on somethings. But I am glad that I am on a different plane now. It feels so peaceful and hopeful. Thank you for teaching for sure..
@taylors7107 3 жыл бұрын
Me too. You’re not alone.
@venieceherb8178 3 жыл бұрын
What was your breaking point Sis?
@thisismystone9658 3 жыл бұрын
@@venieceherb8178 my dear.. almost everything was a breaking point. I reached a time when I felt like I had no heart or life.. I hated every minute of being there, but some how I wasn't finding the strength to leave.. then God did me well and I found this channel and I started listening to Stephan. It took over 4 months of listening to Stephan to finally accept to face what I already knew and when I got sick with Corona.. I kept giving the Corona excuse not to meet and there after refused all the advances for him to meet with me and I got the courage to tell him that I wouldn't meet with him anymore as I was unwilling to confuse God by praying for a man who actually is willing to be a man to me. The one that is truly best for me and yet continue to play about with someone unserious. And I can't believe that I did get that courage to date. It's been over 3months and I feel better and more reassured of my decision to let go.
@ashatten 3 жыл бұрын
You sure stepped on my toes with this content. I recently ended a 5-year relationship with a guy who admittedly isn’t able to “survive” without me. Thanks for encouraging me to remain firm and not waver due to guilt or some sense of responsibility for the well-being of my ex.
@ThePrettiPalace 2 жыл бұрын
THIS is what I’m going through 🤦🏾♀️ He won’t move out bc he has nowhere to go. That’s not my problem. But it’s hard to just not care about his well being. Ughh
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
@@ThePrettiPalace It took me almost a year to get my ex out of my home. There were no appartments to be had...And then it took another year to get him to move on! I believe he didn't know how to manage on his own, and there were too many positives about having me there.
@lala5061 9 ай бұрын
Thank God u got him out 🙌🏽 my brother told me that if a man depends on u and u try to get rid of him might try to kill u he not letting his lifeline go...and that's real...I experienced the death threats and the actions...don't do it again! Protect your life! U lucky he left and u have no other problems thank God for that!
@missaliciaandfamily4833 2 жыл бұрын
🎯🎯🎯🥰🥰🥰 if he will not let you go , let him go for your sanity. No need to drag the relationship on because we all should be with someone that values, loves , and cares 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤❤❤
@nkemeze1768 Жыл бұрын
I’ve tried😭 blocked him and he keeps sending his location. Comes to my apt.(I don’t answer) but this guy has lied and cheated.. over and over again!! I’m just mentally drained. Like just leave me alone
@lucerodriguez9068 3 жыл бұрын
I feel you Stephan. I was in a 24 years married being that ride or die Chic... I didn't realize how toxic the relationship was all along until I found healing through God and was able to let go. There was Love for him in my heart but the pain he caused was too much for me, I knew I deserve to be in a healthy relationship and receive true Love. God had me go through all I faced in my past to learn lessons and now God has blessed me with a true man of God. Thank you for your encouraging messages. God Bless You.
@tamaratindall1688 2 жыл бұрын
I was with my husband for 19 years with him 20; years, and he hurt me so much ! I begged him to stop ignoring me, and show me affection. Finally gave up, and left him and going through a divorce now! I tried everything. I wasn't enough for him.
@sandragreen5146 2 жыл бұрын
Know your worth.if a man doesn't treat you right..Nothing wrong with being alone...love yourself.
@RS-ww8jo 3 жыл бұрын
I’m 63 and never had a good man to love me the way I deserve. My husband did me so wrong after 35 years. Getting a divorce, almost over with. I wanted a partner to share my life with but, I don’t think it will ever happen for me in my lifetime.
@carolrosales1896 3 жыл бұрын
Anything is possible with faith. it's not over for you yet sister. 😇
@RS-ww8jo 3 жыл бұрын
@Queenlay thank you 😊
@aliyakeller2573 3 жыл бұрын
God has you Queen... allow him to heal you wholly and watch how he blows ya mind... #withGodallThingsarePossible
@RS-ww8jo 3 жыл бұрын
@@aliyakeller2573 thank you I’m so ready 👍❤️🙏🏼
@lovejones69 3 жыл бұрын
💪🏾👑🙏🏾
@RhondaR4 3 жыл бұрын
CONFIRMATION AGAIN! I know GOD is using you to speak and teach me! Thank you from my heart!❤️
@simplymegan1987 3 жыл бұрын
I really needed this video. I’ve been in a relationship for 5 years and decided to end things because I had so much on my plate and no help from my partner. I broke things off with him and now he doesn’t want to let go. He’s been saying all the right things trying to get me back but I haven’t seen any actions. He keeps saying he’s putting himself all out there for me but all I’m hearing is words and seeing no actions. Now to me I feel like he’s trying to make me feel bad because he wants affection from me and I’ve been saying I need actions before I’ll even allow myself to be affectionate. I really needed these words and definitely buying your book.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through. I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best 🙏
@Goldenlife0527 3 жыл бұрын
I walked away from a 15 year marriage because my husband wanted a mistress, a wife and a girlfriend. I have been loyal and try to hold on but couldn't any longer I left almost a year and a half ago. I let him be free in these streets. He is blocked but he is constantly searching for me ( I guess the grass on the other side wasn't as green as he thought) I am now learning to Love me and he just won't leave me alone. I don't have time for his foolery but he just doesn't get it😳🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
@carolrosales1896 3 жыл бұрын
Stay strong😇
@misselle1430 3 жыл бұрын
@@Goldenlife0527 stay gone sis. He thought his mistresses would stay put when they are busy with other men too.
@TheHeatherLHacker 3 жыл бұрын
I’m in the same situation Megan. Think I’m at the point I just can’t & won’t take in anymore
@PrettyLadyChrissy 2 жыл бұрын
This is free therapy ! You’re helping so many people with these videos. We appreciate you !
@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 жыл бұрын
I'm happy this has been helpful to you be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing!
@EatLoveLife 3 жыл бұрын
Literally in the right moment you post this video... when I have been questioning myself for DAys ! God bless you
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!
@gmoneygreen7576 3 жыл бұрын
Needed to hear this my brother...this was my story I lied and cheated I stop and stayed stop my ways trying to do right ...but she couldn't trust me nomore she. was the best woman in the world.. she blocked me..no contact ...i tell guys all the time it not worth it.. treat your woman right ...when she left me I didn't eat couldn't sleep ..And i miss her every Day.. number one lesson do right by the person who love you a relationship is not a test so why cheat...
@nenerone6638 3 жыл бұрын
I was with my man for 32 years. And everything you are saying is right on the head.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
@cathywilliams8733 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! It’s amazing to hear someone like me. Are you free now? Are you divorced, if you don’t mind me asking? So many times when you have been married for a very long time, people don’t understand and think you should stay since you’ve been together and the kids are grown. But, I believe that’s a time to really focus on yourself and what you want.
@christinebraids Жыл бұрын
He admits he is afraid to be by himself but is making me stressed and miserable I'm ready to be gone and take care of my two sons. He is insecure abusive mentally and physically, constantly cheats and yet doesn't want to be alone. It is so selfish and sad for me. If he did treat me better I would be there always.
@kristenivory628 Жыл бұрын
Go before he goes first -enough
@pajdesign 3 жыл бұрын
God Bless You brother. As I sat and listened to your message today I couldn’t help but thank God for ordaining you and providing you with a spirit of healing, love and togetherness that you so willingly share with the masses. I pray for your continued strength and sustainment; sometimes when you give so much you too can become depleted. Love and continued blessings! ❤️💪🏾🙌🏾
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 love and continued blessing to you as well!
@musclegurl8302 3 жыл бұрын
Amen 😊🙏
@adriannepaul9224 3 жыл бұрын
Thank the Lord Stephan has a strong relationship with God who strengthens, protects and gives him the wisdom to minister to US🙏🏾🙏🏾
@Cadillac46 3 жыл бұрын
I once was so embarrassed to say I am separated from my hubby.. I kept my hubby around for money .. we been having problems for 6 years .. no ladies problem or money … it is deeper then money and a woman he is broken family problem childhood problem and etc .. I feel so good I have peace and a peace of mind almost 1 year separated 💪❤️I love your videos
@angelaaa7777 3 жыл бұрын
I can’t stay with a man that don’t really love me. I’ll just b 🔥 myself at the end. Even though I really do love him.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!
@annettewilliams424 3 жыл бұрын
I have been with a man that was married when I meet him, and I knew that but I was using him for my own selfish reasons! I was young and using drugs and alcohol and I didn't have to be bothed with him always, because he had a wife! I end up with this man for 15 teen yrs.we have a son together and I stayed because I didn't think I could make it without him supporting us! I stayed because it was comfortable,I was use to him beening there! When I tried to leave him 15 teen yrs. later he tried to kill me because I want to leave,he was still married and I wanted to be with someone that might marrie me! It took sending him to jail for six months, he got out and I guess he moved away! He has not seen our son since that's been 2010, when I left him he said our son was not his! We are still living a Blessed and Wonderful life without the drama! God is our provider and always will be!🙌❤️
@terrywilliams5876 2 жыл бұрын
I was in a situation just like this.., where the guy was holding on and didn't want to move on. I noticed that it must be a skill of his to keep multiple women in his life because he moves around the US. At first it was difficult to figure out why he ghosted on the weekend, and sometimes during the week. I broke it off, he kept figuring out how to come back, but he wasn't truly present. This guy had a skill set in the game I had never seen before, he knew how to handle the relationship just right, one time I told him he was a master at the game, but I saw it clearly he only talk certain times of the day - never after 7 pm, then spend one day a week, never really connect you to anyone in his circle, but always give you full attention when he is talking to you like you were important. So I flip the script, I told him I could only talk to him on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday, he finally quit. LOL
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
Smart!
@boredpandacafe 3 жыл бұрын
Man... I seriously did not want to hear this but I needed to. Situationship of five years here. I was hella far from perfect in the relationship and some of my behaviors were way less than desirable, but I know I gave it one hell of a try. He refused to commit because in his words, "we didn't have the same values". Funny how he says when the truth is (my truth) was he was ashamed of me cause I was older. The cycles of idealization, devaluation, and discarding has been on repeat every time he became interested in another woman. Yet every time I walked away, he hoovered. Until recently... Truly sad that someone can be like that.
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
Rince and repeat. That's what they did to us!
@bestillbaby 3 жыл бұрын
I thought I was doing right by staying and protecting my children. I WAS WRONG....long story short. I have had to go back and help my adult kids get past their own struggles. We each as individuals have to heal from every brokenness before even moving on in dating etc. Be whole then move forward if a healthy marriage is what one desires to have. ❤️
@nicollewiggins06 3 жыл бұрын
I left a 22 year relationship, one cause I knew I didn't belong there, but I loved him and since we were married and had kids, it was easier to stay.. Stephen is telling the truth, the kids saw everything and they were not happy. I was short and basically just existing.. It is so much better when you know it's time to go,just go. Yeah it will be hard and some lonely moments, but you will be so much happier.. Good luck
@Amatullah.574 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. It will be 18 years for me.
@jordanjackson3817 3 жыл бұрын
20 for me:-(
@inserter400 3 жыл бұрын
I don't agree, every relationship is different and once married we should always exhaust every Avenue to repair what is not wrong, Women make decisions on their emtions which isn't always the best way to make such an important decision. I have come out of a 23 year relationship and I absolutely adored my wife. I was complacent but not because I didn't care or love her but because she never communicated her needs. I have looked back at my behavior and can see my faults and take my responsibility for my part. 2 years on and much anxiety and stress and sadness, I am still deeply in love with my now ex-wife. Sometimes it takes a breakup to make it work and to improve the relationship. I would now make a much better partner due to this breakup and live in hope that it is back with my wife. Sometimes that second chance pays off
@cathywilliams8733 2 жыл бұрын
@@inserter400 I hope since you have learned from this, there’s a chance to reunite with your ex wife. If not, that it makes you better in your future relationships. I know for me it took a long time to get me to the point of not wanting or loving after 31 years. Women, especially my generation, will try to keep their marriage. Keep hoping that things will get better and have retirement years to enjoy. Kids grown and time to rekindle or even better this time together. So, for me I’m done. If I didn’t give everything in this amount of time. There’s nothing else. But, for me to enjoy the rest of my God given life.
@inserter400 2 жыл бұрын
@@cathywilliams8733 hi sorry for a late reply , I have only just noticed . I am 49 and my wife is now 48, my wife went through midlife crisis and became bored and unhappy with our marriage, I am much to blame for the boredom as I didn't see she needed dating as shr was always out with friends. I waz a more homely person. We hit a spiral in 2017 and she becamme futher and futher out of love with me, I panicked and started being something she never saw before, very needy and insercure. It was a terrible time and lasted for years, infact before the end of 2019 she had asked for a separation. I couldn't believe the way she had turned on me, from a love sick teenager to a completely cold hearted bitch. Her behavior just made me worse with anxiety, I knew what I had to do but I was just too ill to show my strong side. I had always been her mountain her rock but with this , I just crumbled. Long story short She divorced me .
@oyen11 3 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯 I totally agree. Prayers is so strong. I'm a firm believer on this. With all my past relationships I always pray about it & he ALWAYS answer my prayers.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback!
@ptrejo7913 3 жыл бұрын
I’m going through a break up after 6 years together. He dumped me and I moved to Texas to heal and learn to love myself first. I am doing no contact (he told me to leave him alone and to let him live his life) so I respected that. I lost 40 pounds in two months and I sent a picture to his mom (we get along really well) she must’ve showed him because he’s been calling me and I don’t want to speak to him. I’m putting me first. I’m starting not to gaf and that’s the best feeling ever. Find yourself first and the right person will come along one day.
@despoinachatzaga2555 3 жыл бұрын
I am trying really hard to detach from this individual but he does not let me go. This makes it even more difficult for me because I love him. I am honestly seeking medical help from a psychologist for this. It is affecting my mental health and I feel really overwhelmed and I told him that I cannot continue to be with him. I believe this to be a form of emotional abuse. I believe that this is a case that touches points to what you mention in your video. I think he has formed a sexual attachment with me and also he does not want to see me with another man. I don't believe that he truly loves me.
@lyndavialet 3 жыл бұрын
You’re saying everything that he wants but what do you want??? If you want to let go then just leave.
@Shawn6751 3 жыл бұрын
Then he doesn't truly love you.
@authorlarhondanfelton9152 2 жыл бұрын
That has to be a miserable situation, forcing someone to stay in a relationship when they want out. Free yourself!
@jjw1309 3 жыл бұрын
Yes he doesn't want to be alone or me to be with anyone else...he is not for ME and i realize this now...But he needs to understand this and leave me be to get myself in order
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
It definitely isn't an easy situation but you need to focus on doing what is truly best!
@s.elizabeth1753 Жыл бұрын
Ya, this makes sense. He's keeping me around cause he knows I'm loyal. He's also hanging onto his ex and entertaining new girls (adding them to insta and snap). I'm about to end it. I'm sick of this shit. I'm not happy at all. He promised me so many things at the start, talked about having kids, said he'd move me to his area and provide for us and 'hope I can give you everything you deserve' .... Weeks later his communication changed and was giving me breadcrumbs and hit me with the "im really stressed and busy". And it's been different ever since and I've just been leaving it as is. Not chasing him I'm just sitting here waiting.... I think by Christmas I'll end it.
@godqueendorothy1338 3 жыл бұрын
I Am In That Predicament With My Soon To Be Ex Husband Saying He Regret Our Separation And He’s Lying 🤥 I Feel It In My Spirit
@alle126 3 жыл бұрын
Never cheated in 9 years so when we broke up there weren't any outside influences it was easy to make a clean break
@manipura4049 3 жыл бұрын
Wow!You just spoke into my life. This has provided a clarity that I needed. I am no ride or die but I am dealing with a man that cannot be alone. After ending the relationship 3 different times he came crawling back and begging Everytime!!!!
@sandragreen5146 2 жыл бұрын
To anyone else dealing with a broken heart and crushed spirit...we're in this together.jesus heal us all speedily 🙏❤
@ericka7901 3 жыл бұрын
i just got out of dating a man who got out of a decade long relationship where the partner cheated on him multiple times. and though we ended things, he is still in my life (but i cut off contact with him). i can’t shake off the feeling that he was ( and currently is still) dating around because he doesn’t know how to be alone. I sincerely wish him happiness and I pray that he would work on himself someday. Thanks stephan for giving me clarity on this
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
My pleasure ❤ I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best!
@mizstrickland 3 жыл бұрын
I just went through almost the same thing. He is so hurt and needs to heal and keeps looking for love and jumping from relationship to relationship. I hope he heals himself one day.
@ericka7901 3 жыл бұрын
mizstrickland just as we wish the best for those men, i pray that we also heal from this experience and we get the right man that we deserve in life. be kind to yourself and know that we are on the same journey!
@mizstrickland 3 жыл бұрын
@@ericka7901 thank you so much! I pray the same
@carolinehood3134 3 жыл бұрын
We broke up a year ago . I walked away and he won't let go but wants his freedom.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear about that I pray he's able to do what is truly best🙏
@gaelablake2692 3 жыл бұрын
I’m going through a divorce and I could not understand why he was fighting it so hard. This was well needed wisdom. Thanks Stephen for not only providing clarity but also giving relatable real life experiences as examples.
@judyconrad4742 3 жыл бұрын
This is definitely what I am dealing with RIGHT NOW!! I acknowledged his trying to better and he throws it in my face after he falls off. I needed to hear this. I love him but I know I gotta let him go.
@jjw1309 3 жыл бұрын
I have "walked" away several times and felt guilty and went back to contacting him...hes the type that tries to make you feel bad
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Healing is definitely key and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@boredpandacafe 3 жыл бұрын
Can truly relate to this. Sending you love and healing.
@jjw1309 3 жыл бұрын
@@boredpandacafe Thank u for understanding ❤
@BambiOnIce19 Жыл бұрын
I had an interesting situation where I realised that the man I was with for five years couldn’t let me go but didn’t want to be with me fully either. It was nutty. Finally, I actually moved on but still had an attachment to him where I wanted to stay friends. He kept arguing that I just couldn’t leave him alone so I went all out and said to him: “ All right, tell me what you need me to do to assure you I’ve moved on?” He just couldn’t give me a proper answer. It was actually HIM who couldn’t walk away from me and kept creating scenarios where we’d still end up together, one way or another. But I finally decided that I had to block him on everything I possibly could to prove to him I’ve moved on. He’s probably still in shock that I’ve actually moved on, but… He needs to seriously address his issues otherwise he’ll never have a healthy and functional relationship with anyone, least of all with himself.
@adriannepaul9224 3 жыл бұрын
I was damaged in my parents’ marriage and they divorced by the time I was 5! I can vividly recall crying behind the newspaper from witnessing arguments. If you don’t want your children to have to self-parent (as much) later in life, please divorce now.
@beefaye6861 3 жыл бұрын
You saving my Life....Stephan...WHEN YOU ASK FOR HELP GOD WILL SEND IT !!!!
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Most definitely!
@Martori166 3 жыл бұрын
Ur so knowledgeable on this coz Everything u say is always true. It happens live in my life.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
@Jettingred4 2 жыл бұрын
Ty Stephan! I have been trapped by a Narcissistic rage full alcoholic even though we are No Contact and long distance known decades. He sees me as the “ride or die” chick! I’m awake now and have moved on, joined a gym, writing my book, traveling and thanks be to God and my 👼 Angels I am finally emotionally free! He has a new sad side gal. My heart breaks for her..he’s such a deceitful player!
@s.elizabeth1753 Жыл бұрын
He tried to break it off, I let him go, I blocked him off most social media and then he kept trying to come back, messaging, calling, and then I finally answered and he asked me to reconsider and take him back.. so I did Then he continued to act the same way and nothing changed....
@narviaflournoy3869 3 жыл бұрын
God told me to practice intention, purpose in my relationship, because I've suffered when I had the wrong intentions. 😊👣🙏 I'm single and waiting, for what is best for my. Thank you I'm humble to say your absolutely right.
@velmarasmussen6098 3 жыл бұрын
Make more videos you speak the truth please keep up the good work ok velm a r
@nenerone6638 3 жыл бұрын
Man you have hit my entire life with him
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Glad I could help!
@kananisavea1973 3 жыл бұрын
I literally just listened to the whole video and I had to stop myself from crying cause everything you pretty much stated is so true. My happiness and mental health matters and if he can’t accept that then this isn’t it. I’m a firm believer in if we come back around and better then we do but if not then it just wasn’t meant to be. It’s so complicated for a man to me I feel like they act like it’s the end of the world 🤦🏽♀️ I been through a lot with this man and I feel like it’s time for me to check out. I am here but my heart isn’t. I don’t want to prolong it any longer specially if who knows there’s probably that right person for the both of us. Thank you Stephen for this message it gave me more of an answer to do what I have to do. God heard my prayer this morning I just have to take that first initial step then I can really truly heal 🙏🏽
@freesoul8297 3 жыл бұрын
Ooo yeah, you always hit the nail on the head. Thanks to your advise Stephan. For more than 10 years my life was hell. Finally, recently I managed to escape, after hearing your teachings, it's like I shared you my story already. You are amazing.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Glad I could help!
@corafranklin7555 3 жыл бұрын
I’m dealing with this now! It’s breaking my heart! It started off on lies so I know it’s not going to work! I’ve tried to cut it off a couple times but he won’t make up his mind what he wants’ so this hits the head on the nail!! It’s hard as hell to walk away and not care how they feel
@JaiPhillips1 3 жыл бұрын
I used to feel like that but then I realized they didn't care how their actions impacted me, so why should I care how they feel?
@corafranklin7555 3 жыл бұрын
@@JaiPhillips1 yea I’m in that war now! It sucks
@GlambitiousGirlYT Жыл бұрын
@@corafranklin7555 same
@hazelbrowneyez3126 2 жыл бұрын
I went through this with a man for 12 1/2 years. This really hits home.
@kortiniamartin9682 3 жыл бұрын
Today's content has made me sad. I have never loved for real! I just looked back at past relationships today and I have not loved none of the men including my kids Fathers. I have been engaged to both of them but I ended them both. I have been asked to be married by a man and I told him no as well. To listen and find out I was just infatuated by them, has me thinking would I know real love when it comes. I'm healed I can talk to the men and hold conversations with them and not bring up the past, but they always bring it up. Maybe I should go and ask God to open their hearts to forgive me and move on. In order to experience kingdom love. Sheesh, this is going to be on my mind all day. This is why I am called "the one that got away". I need prayer today yall I getting in the word. Mind blowing
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I'm happy that this has been helpful to you and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you!
@kortiniamartin9682 3 жыл бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you very much. But can you pray and ask God to allow me to have discernment on love as well. Blessings 🙌 to you 🙏
@lindseykingery9530 2 жыл бұрын
wow ladies you make me feel less crazy . i have only been in love once and it was 20 years ago ! i always think i'm crazy bc how is everyone out here in love all the time and i'm not ?? is there something wrong with me ?
@bettyleonard347 2 жыл бұрын
I never really got to know my husband while we were dating due to a long distance relationship. I thought I loved him and we prayed at the beginning of our relationship. But after 3 years, I discovered he was a mentally abusive narcissist and then I constantly prayed. I never experienced a narcissist before, and didn’t know why he was treating me badly. Year 4, I left him but he continues to contact me. I believe because I was the bread winner. It was the worst experience of my life!
@sabrinajones9086 3 жыл бұрын
You’ve really gave me something to think about when you said he may care about you but he’s not in love with you, he may say he loves you but he’s not fully in love with you… I think I’m in that same situation.. Thanks Stephan❤️
@shayporter6549 3 жыл бұрын
This definitely hits home for me! This is very toxic and if you don’t leave it will never change!
@pamelakromer1712 3 жыл бұрын
God is so speaking through you, Stephan! I was reading a text today from a guy trying to come back into my life again and using his smooth words. While reading that very text and thinking, oh boy, I’m going to need to go back to God yet again and check that He really doesn’t want me with this guy, the text from YOU popped up at the top of my screen over the guy’s text and it said, “It doesn’t matter what they say, the best apology is changed behavior.” I was like whoa, ok an immediate answer! And then of course I started cracking up and saying “Jesus, thank you for the immediate, obvious answer, but that was funny how You made that pop up right away as soon as I thought about talking to You about it.”🤣🤣🤣 Thank you for spreading His message to us, Stephan!!
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that, thank you for sharing!
@FaveLush 3 жыл бұрын
He can't pretend all day long.A person's character is his/ her personality
@christinebraids Жыл бұрын
I'm presently trying to get my son father out my life. He is constantly sneaky and lying. Talks the worst about me, the whole package. I presented him with proof of him making plans to be with someone else because I went over to my mother and sister's home. He said it's all my fault and yet refuse to leave me alone .
@sacampbr1 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, wow, wow, POWERFUL video!!! I’m marveled by the manner in which you broke down these reasons……… lots to process!!! 💯💯💯
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you!
@mzyotruthnlove8263 2 жыл бұрын
Really, these men you're describing need to turn back to and cultivate their relationship with The Most High. That is the only thing that will fill these voids and correct these disconnects and holes in their souls that are preventing them from being the men they should be in their relationships. We as women need to look to Him as well. No human being can heal the deep hurts 💔 that are preventing people from showing up properly in these dysfunctional relationships. And some people just need to mature and grow up. Be truthful before committing to the relationship. These relationships are doing a lot of damage in people's lives.
@fayjones7918 3 жыл бұрын
I love when I hear that I’m going in the right direction in my life. I always seek God in my life because I’ve made wrong decisions in my past. And I know God knows best for me my ladder will be greater than my beginning!! Thank you Lord!!🙏🏾
@pearlytiger564 2 жыл бұрын
Was in a 3yr relationship. Due to addiction, it went toxic and abusive. He sobers up and is trying so hard to prove he can be the man he thinks I want. He refuses to accept that my trust is gone despite trying to convince me that trust can be rebuilt. The wounds run too deep and I can’t do it. Then goes on and on about how he “understands I need a lot of time.” Ugh!! The man refuses to let go. Thing that sucks is he is still in my house while he tries to find a place to live. It feels like torture and I wish he would just leave! I know he loves me, but addiction coupled with mental health issues ruined him and I can never not live in fear if I made the mistake of keeping him. I refuse to live like that.
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
I had the same guy story. He's out, but tries to hang onto me. The reality might be sinking in finally. Between his alcoholism, his toxic family past of abuse and neglect, and his focus on taking care of himself at my expense, I can't tolerate another moment of that BS. He doesn't know how to manage on his own. He grew dependant on my competancy and benefits. Yet, he never once apologized or made any attempt to get it right with me. Just a child in a man's body.
@pearlytiger564 Жыл бұрын
@@susanparker9877 indeed. Men who never grew up. My ex was equally dependent and struggled to adult in so many ways. Now that he is out of my house and I’m free from his abuse, I have never been happier.
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
@@pearlytiger564 Enjoy your new beginning.
@daynahamer7975 2 жыл бұрын
This was a great video that sheds light on a situation I’m in. He values me, enjoys aspects about me, he cares about me, but for whatever reason the connection is not enough for him nor is it there for him to give me commitment. I think he does not want to be the bad guy, and he genuinely cares. This also still hurts because I’m still trying to work Through moving on from him. I’m praying to God to give me guidance, bc this is a situation that has grown out of my control to make any sense of it. Thank you for this great video!
@anastasiasharidaali8217 3 жыл бұрын
This is so enlightening, Stephan you delve into all points of not letting go..
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback!
@scorpiolove674 Жыл бұрын
Nobody is more clingy than an immature man who needs a place to stay or a relationship to make his family " respect" him more.
@AshlynArrrow Жыл бұрын
13:23 we have to create an environment that allows us to stand on our own 2 feet💪🏾
@TheHeatherLHacker 3 жыл бұрын
This is hitting the nail on the head!! Fixing to ask my boyfriend to leave of 5 years. Thank you for this!! I’ve tried & I want to be happy with my life. Sadly it’s not with him. But can say I have tried.
@Honeycombe88 Жыл бұрын
Why he won't let go? He's lonely, or he uses you for sex, or he uses you for feminine company (the female touch, etc.), or he gets bored, or he likes you as a friend, or it saves him money since you aren't demanding expensive dinners, or you're good for nights when he doesn't feel like bar hopping to find a woman, or to prevent you from finding someone else, or because he can talk to you like you're a therapist, or because you compliment him so feed his ego.
@MissIrvin86 Жыл бұрын
Bingo
@karinesilva183 7 ай бұрын
So true!!!!!!!!!
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