Amen. Nor are wigs. I’ve been wanting to see more natural hair when people are so called glowing up. It seems like we tend to minimize our own hair more than other ethnicities/ races do.

@@Tanniab09 "Nor are wigs (...) It seems like we tend to minimize our own hair more than other ethnicities/ races do." so true!

The salon stylist I went to told me to "heat train" my 4c hair by coming to get a silk press every month. And she's "natural" herself. I said no,I did end up going to get my hair silk pressed a second time by her and my hair never reverted back. This was July. Then in October I had it flat ironed as a last minute look. My hair is almost mid back length and now I have to cut it off and start over. I know better now. I miss my afro so much.

@@Ana2U I’m sorry you went through that. The good news, it will grow back.

Yesssss! My cousin is a straight natural, but she doesn't see herself that way. She claims to have her hair and edges "trained" not to revert and constantly complains about twistouts/washngos/braidouts not looking right. Duh....your hair is damaged by the heat.

ah...believe some stylist would disagree Sis...because hair has been heat trained to purposely loosen the texture/curl pattern (hence the definition of Heat Training)...dose not always mean heat damage...........one can still have a healthy head of hair with a looser curl pattern...can't lump it all in one pot...think it's a beautiful thing if a Sis purposely wants to heat train their hair....or if a Sis only wants to rock a straight style every now and again..the real beauty is choice..and if you do plan to use heat do your research to know what you are doing or what your stylist is doing

Fact! Hence the reason I don't mess with heat anymore. It does alter your natural texture when you do it too much.

I get single strand knots alot most times two or more strands end up knotted together and that leads me to trim the ends preventing length retention. I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I do all you stated above plus detangling and making sure my ends are never dry

@@stepheq7964 do u deep condition? I get single strand knots constantly. I just started using a brush n my go to has been one braid or two but I’ll let it dry like that then always have a stretch style at night or if I’m somewhere with alot of humidity

@@stepheq7964 hi! One thing it could be is the shampoo.. some shampoo brands have a few ‘callout bomb ingredients’ but the cleansers are overpowering… that could be a contributor to experiencing strands getting tangled-knots. Second, ensuring your products are sealing your cuticles. Raised cuticles Can knot easier because they catch on each other… shampoos naturally raise up the cuticles. So following up with a leave-in or tea-rinse that is pH balanced to close your cuticles. It doesn’t ‘coat’ the hair-it actually closes the cuticles along your strands…. Aloe Vera does this AMAZINGLY so you can add that to your spray bottle and use as a leavein after you shampoo/condish/towel dry. Apple cider vinegar also will seal cuticles…however due to its strong smell-you can only use that in the shower when you’re going to rinse it and follow up with something that smells good. So the aloe Vera juice is more practical for daily use… By the way-aloe Vera juice looks and feels like water and has no Scent. The takeaway is that we can do all the steps-but if we don’t review the ingredients of the products-we might not see the results. The quality matters.

@@stepheq7964 same. I do the bare minimum to my hair (use African black soap as shampoo, deep condition, moisturize my hair w leave in & oil, then keep my hair twisted up& stretched with hair ties) and I STILL get them a lot

Makes sense

True but eventually u loose your curl pattern though. You can only go so long before u get damage

​@@lakeishasmith3569 if you use indirect heat appliances while training your hair you won't get damage as opposed to applying direct heat on your hair .

@@celestialmother6828what do you mean by indirect appliances??

Blow drying

​@@lakeishasmith3569When your hair is very kinky (not curly) it is almost impossible to lose your texture if you're doing everything correctly. It's almost laughable 😂

🎉😂That’s why I don’t care about the lies jealous races of people spread. It’s about time we started picking them apart for real reasons. Like, their passive aggressive, attention seeking behaviors. 😮🎉

I'll have to pass this info along to my BFF. She wants to wear her hair straight, but thinks silk presses every 2 weeks won't loosen her curl pattern 😬🙃.

Please tell me what is a really good keratin or box top product. I just got a silk press (1) on my natural hair and I know as it was getting done that I had hear damage. He used Marcell irons and the heat was WAY too much for my hair. I need a good product to help with the damage.

@@msjw1997 One of the best keratin treatments for afro textured hair is by a brand called Inoar its called " Brazilian afro keratin"

Agreed !!! I use uncurly at home keratin system and still have extremely tight curls after washing but my hair is less likely to revert when straight. It makes detangling a breeze and allows for more length retention.

Been contemplating this for months… my struggle is trying to find best keratin treatment… I known some complain about formaldehyde I think It was even tho some don’t have it you really gotta do research. My main reason for keratin treatment is to have a silky press whenever I did straighten… but thanks ima look into this product

Thank you for sharing 😊

I have no problem with how people wear their hair. I was just explaining why I no longer consistently wear my hair straight.

Saying "it's just hair," and then going right into the social impacts of how the hair is worn seems a bit contradictory in delivery.

@@sharondalewis1620 The concept of race is very political and thus the actions of African-American women can be very politicized. 'What is she wearing? How is she wearing it?' But, I wonder if, underneath it, are we hearing black women? Can we hear their voices underneath all of that? At the end of the day, its just hair. There's enough people in society telling us what to do with our hair and everything else.

I like straighten hair. But I don't like the way it keeps on breaking off, also I miss my natural hair, when my hair is straighten, so I don't know if I have any choice

@@Zahara-ps2ce perfectly said

Sounds great!! What do you use on wash days to prevent breakage?

@@chadun736 *pulls hair from brush and comb* looks at comment I'm still tryin to figure this out. lol But I'm also seeking a professional...my hands are tired okay!

Pin curls @justk I pin curl my hair every night when my hair is silk pressed. My hair lasts a month before it starts looking bad. I hope this helps..and happy holidays to you and your family!

@@FancyMissLady my dear thanks! Lol. Once I start going to the salon I’ll put that into practice. 🙏🏾 look at us helping one another yasssss lol

My straight hair will lasts up to 4 months and I only straighten 1X yearly but I keep it wrapped up (2-3 scarves for showers) and I use oil lightly when it begins to stiffen out. My hair is also very thick and mid-back length. Wrapping/tying it in a high bun helps keep it straight. Hope these help

I wonder if heat damage is caused by the tools people use to straighten their hair because, as a child, my mother pressed my hair with pressing oil or royal crown grease every two weeks and I never had heat damage! I know this because my shrinkage was ubreal! My hair always reverted back to its natural state. That old stove steel hotcomb and hot curlers were the only things she used! I had the same method for years until I went to the beauty shop!

your routine failed because you didn.t wash you hair.

And THAT’s why I’ve had dreads since 2003. 💯

@@cocomonday8389 I like them but my natural hair braids make me look like Felicia on Friday. Lol

Is it just me or did aloe Vera gel make ur hair verrry dry and brittle? I must’ve done something wrong.

+ Coco Monday If your hair hates Aloe, you might be low porosity. I know because my hair hates Aloe too and I'm low porosity. The scientific reason is that Aloe (along with apple cider vinegar) lowers the hairs ph and causes the cuticle to seal/lay flat, which is why it's great to seal in moisture for high porosity hair. But if you're low porosity the cuticles are already sealed/lay flat so adding Aloe just makes it worse. Also, Aloe can act like a protein or have protein in it, so if your protein sensitive(like me😭) it can make hair feel rough & dry. I learned all this the hard way.😭

@@cocomonday8389 protein overload. That’s why I hate when ppl recommend it so freely

@@Bree_Bunny what do you use instead?

Thanks for sharing!

Yes me to the less I straightened my hair and really took care of it when it's natural. It grew soo much!! My hair has never ever been this long.

Not if you want to prevent damage. There are limits if you want healthy hair. Everything is not an option. Choices must be made and there will be negative consequences over time.

Same. Except I don't know if I flat iron every 2 months. It's more sporadic, depending on the intersection of weather and my personal timing/availability. But mostly I blowout my hair most of the time, with an occasional twistout or something like that mixed in. I don't care about heat damage at the level people call heat training because I want to wear my hair in a blowout mostly and would just like it to be less likely to revert.

Thank you 😊

Heat is not for everyone. I too did the same thing

Thanks for making this comment! I’ve been getting a lot of breakage from my straight hair! I realized that maybe it’s from my roots reverting🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

@@TaylorM ur welcome. I can't stretch the month long straight hair if I work out and sweat in my scalp like most straight naturals who don't workout/sweat during that time

Thanks for watching!

Thank you so much 😀

I agree, everyone should do what works for them. What works for one person may not work for next 🤷🏾‍♀️

When I straightened my hair once a month it was around bra strap or mid back. I reached waist length when I started straightening my hair less and had a pretty solid routine.

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@@milami. Thanks so much , I've never used & it's good to know it's also compatible with our hair !

From my personal experience continuous use of heat is not the best for my hair….Even when professionally done. Also I don’t have any nutritional deficiency and I haven’t had any in the past. Different strokes for different folks. I’m not against straightening my hair I just no longer do it religiously. Do whatever works for you.

What’s mbl?

@@cocomonday8389 mid back length 😎.

@@naturallyawesomefitness1738 Gotcha. That makes sense lol. Thanks!!

You need to wash your hair if it's curly or straight after 2 weeks unless you ina dessert somewhere. Your hair is falling because it needs washing and you should listen to your hair and it will grow for you

Thank you!

I don't mind people complimenting my hair. It just the people that want me to part my hair or argue me down about if my hair is real or not.

Thank you! 😊

Thank you 😊

Thank you 😊

What was the point of this comment

@@anythingchannel9326 The same point as yours

same lol

I’m just speaking from my personal experience.

I mean its not our fault but it does warrant attention. I don't wear my hair out a lot because I don't like being stared out and people coming up to me too much in public

Yeah sometimes it can be annoying/overwhelming. I personally don't like when people act like it is my duty to prove it to them by showing them my scalp or letting the touch my hair. I honestly don't think that it is that unbelievable but maybe it's just me 🤷🏾‍♀️

I’ve tried the older RevAir and it didn’t really give me what o was looking for. I’m glad it work for you. Thanks for watching!

@@milami. What didn't it give you?

@@Chin715 I like for my hair to be straighter at the ends when blowdried. This helps me avoid snagging and tearing. After using the dryer my ends were a little too kinky for me. Based on the videos I watched I thought I might be able to achieve the results I was looking for but I never really did. The only way to get the results I was looking for was to add more heat with a flat Iron or blowdryer with a comb attachment. People gave me suggestions but it was too much effort for how much I spent. It seems to work great for other people...just not my cup of tea.

@@milami. Ah okay, that's helpful! I also have the old one. A friend tried the revair followed by the Amika brush and said she liked the results. Idk how I felt about doubling down on the heat. What works best for me is using it on Suction 7 heat 1, then one it's dry, using it on Suction 7 heat 2 to straighten it a bit more (in case you haven't tried that)

Thank you 😊

I personally can’t keep up. I feel like people come out with new words and definitions everyday. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@@milami. Girl they def do!!! They stay changing the English language even things like cis. Etc.

I never get that smell. I guess that's why my 'silk press' is never truly silky, just straight. I'm probably not burning my hair the way it would take to break it down to silkiness. That's fine. I'll take my poofy straight look if that's all I can achieve at 350 degrees. 🤷

@@IndigooceanOrg Thats a really good idea, How often do you end up straightening your hair?

@@YeaNo. I'm inconsistent. Still experimenting. I keep planning to do it more often, but life keeps happening. 🤷 So far only every few months, but I really want to do it monthly.

Many wear wigs and weaves to give their natural hair a break and protect it. My hair has thrived under a wig due to low maintenance and protection from the weather. It’s not about showing it off. It’s about the health of your hair and not the validation from others.

@@onthemenu757 you're right! that's the key you take care of your hair, But you also have to give it a break in between as well. Ive never wore a wig or a weave. I seen so many women at the salon with no edges when they take of the wig

@@MsLoveofmoney Well that’s bad hair care or they wear wigs to cover up alopecia. I prefer glueless wigs or headband wigs personally, but ultimately women need them do what makes them happy.

I am a new wig wearer. I am grateful for the discovery. You said it, I can finally give my natural 4b hair a break and still have the option of a curly style, straight style, braid style, etc. in the form of a wig. I was buying human hair wigs that last longer, but are more expensive. I just discovered synthetic quick weave wigs that mimic the blowout of our natural hair. It has been game changing - a whole new style for $30 or $40? I can’t believe it. I feel like an Instagram model when I get a new hairdo in the mail, lol. Underneath the wig I use chebe with a leave-in conditioner and twist it using the LOC method, every Monday. I put a black plastic cap over it and a wig cap on top of it, to protect my natural hair from the wig. I leave my perimeter out to protect my edges whether the wig is full-lace or a u-part (I like u-part wigs the most because they look more natural, but the full lace allows me to give my u-part a break too). My hair has grown immensely under the wig and I am grateful for discovering wigs and taking the plunge to wear them. I am in my mid-40’s and have spent my life natural, getting press and curls when I was younger, then having it flat ironed, then on to the round brush Brazilian type blowout of pressing my hair. I am glad to stop straightening it. Wigs have given me that grace.

Thank you!

Thank you!

I used to only feel like I could wear my hair straight. It took me a minute to find styles that I was comfortable wearing. Overall it was worth it for me.

@@milami. That's what I'm doing currently. Figuring out what natural styles I'm comfortable with as well. I'm leaving the heat alone for this entire year. I subscribed to you hoping to find some inspiration. I've put these mini twists in (well they're like medium sized) as a start!

I went to Coppin.

Thank you 😊

It seems like there are too many steps by for me. I may give it a try in the future.

Thank you 😊

If you choose to straighten your hair you're still natural. You just don't wear your hair in its natural state.

Thank you 😊