No-one should ever ask ANY woman why she ain't had a baby yet. That's bloody rude!

The whole pregnancy thing is a “problem” as soon as a woman is 20+. It gets worse if you are in a long term relationship or even married. It’s super insensitive to ask! Not everyone WANTS or is ABLE TO HAVE kids. Life isn’t a check list where you need to do certain things at a certain age. It’s a whole mindset within our society. As soon as you have a kid they will ask about the next one. Because EVERYONE should have at least 2 kids, right!? NO ... I understand that the topic is annoying .. but you might have to be harsher about it. Some people are just ignorant.

I, as a 23 year old, appreciate the birth control conversation. It's important

When i met my husband, we had talked about having kids, we had names picked out and everything. May 2015, a year after dating, we got news that he was unable to have children. It weighs heavy on me sometimes. people always ask us if we are going to have kids and how cute our kids would be. they don’t realize the depth of everything and our situation. so please, don’t ask people when they are going to have a baby. it’s very personal and you don’t know what people are going through.

Respect to any woman that talks about these things in public.

My husband and I have been trying for 4 years now. We have decided that if we don’t get pregnant this year it’s time to adopt. We know we were meant to be parents and we will one day. 🥰

It’s crazy how when a woman is in her 20’s people always ask about marriage then once she gets married all they ask about is babies 😩 People need to stop pushing people to make huge life decisions when they’re not ready

Just an FYI for young people here who doesn’t know: there are a lot of different types of birth control, so If one didn’t work for you there might be one that will. That’s why it’s extremely important to consult your gyno before taking any or if you’re planning to change it.

I love the girl chats. As a young girl who doesn't have an older sister these are really helpful. They answer questions I didn't even know I had. Thank you and please do more if you can .

Um, Milo is Baby Conte. Respect the little man 🥺 Also, not everyone wants or needs kids. Jess was right. It is incredibly insensitive to ask things like that. Yes their lives are public because they’re influencers, but there still needs to be some boundaries and respect.

just listening to Jess say that she’s talking to us like she’s our friend makes so happy because i haven’t made any new friends in my school year this year and it’s been hard for me

So important for girls and women to be making informed decisions about their body, and I think this video will help so many! 💞

your transparency is so appreciated and that’s one of many reasons why we love you❤️

I know she probably felt silly being too happy when she got her period, but I get it, especially if your period is very irregular u get kinda nervous about your chances of being fertile so I feel relieved when I get it... I don't even think about having kids, I'm not married or anything, but it's still a relief when I get it:)

It’s so so heartbreaking when people ask about babies when you literally can not ! I took birth control for 9 years (for PCOS). I stopped once I got married with the intention of getting pregnant and I cannot. It’s devastating.

“Milo, you’re really ruining the moment rn.” 😂

I 100% understand the whole pregnancy thing, I personally will struggle due to having pcos & endo, being asked when you’re gonna have a child can really hurt, but I think most people don’t realise this Birth control doesn’t work for everyone, it made my cycle way more painful, but I will eventually have to take it again to manage my pcos & endo

I so appreciate you approaching birth control and pregnancy with such grace and caution for those of us who struggle with infertility. I gave birth to a stillborn daughter a year ago in January, and we have not been able to get pregnant since. Although I am so happy for those who share their journey with pregnancy, I would be lying if I said it didn’t hurt a little. I appreciate you so very much for sharing your heart.

I'm 43...I'm not even falling into your typical viewer age group. You guys are so soo lovely , giving me hope for the next generation. The youths could learn a lot from you guys. 😘

I went off the pill after being on it consistently for 8 years and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made for myself! I also struggle with extremely painful periods but I feel so much better mentally not being on the pill. Birth control definitely affected my mental health in a negative way.

The fact that you have more mature content doesn't mean that your content it's not "clean", based on values or done with integrity! As time goes by you're growing up so it makes sense that your content changes along with you. I personally love it and if you're fine with it then everyone should. This goes from someone that has experienced something similar with growing up. ❤️ God bless! 🙏

Yes I totally get this! I just had a baby 7 months ago and it's always "When are you having another baby!" "You can't have just one!" "Don't you want to try for a girl?" And it's frustrating!!! I'm off of hormonal birth control now and it feels so much better after being on it for a year and a half and then immediately getting pregnant! Congrats on listening to your body and taking control of your life!

i love that you’re talking about serious women topics! and also love how open & transparent you are

I love how she spoke about brith control and wasn't trying to force anyone to do what she did, a very thoughtful thing to do.

i would've loved if you'd talked more about your experiences on birth control, what effects you've experienced. ive been on the pill since august and still have no clue if i experience negative effect because i dont know what those are lol. i don't know what is normal.

I hadn’t noticed you being a “more polished version” before like you said, but I do feel like you seemed more natural, or more laid back this video 😁 I enjoyed it!

Pcos is a topic that needs more attention. Doctors just give the birth control as a blanket treatment. Thanks for taking about this

Jess: putting on her wedding dress on a random afternoon, sends Gabe a quick snap and takes it off again Also Jess: getting ready, curling her hair, doing her makeup to put on bridesmaid's dress 👌🏼

i literally love your transparency, thank you for speaking up to ur audience 🤍

Those scenes where you stumble over your words or almost drop the hair mask, make you even more likeable. You are awesome!☺️💛

I wish I could go off birth control as it's making my hair fall out and I'm gaining weight bc I'm hungry all the time, but if I did my hormonal acne would come back and that's just too scary :(

I can definitely tell a difference with your chill, talking-to-a-friend-on-Facetime vibe this video! It was a refreshing break from the KZfaq "performativeness" you were talking about. My husband and I think you and Gabe are such special people; we value your content!

I really appreciate Jess wanting to make her videos more personal like keeping in parts where she stumbles over her words 🥺 it makes it all seem so much more genuine I love it

Would love an update on going off the pill! I think having these “girl talks” can be helpful because a lot of us are going through similar situations and we can relate to each other!

I watched Kyla Beland’s coming off birth control journey and she has a crazy (good) transformation as well. Thank you Jess for talking about this!!

I didn't even realize the sweater shrunk until you said something! it's so cute!!

The fact that Jess keeps us so updated that some of us already knew what was in the box from Australia is just 🙌🏻

Girly chat starts at 7:32 🖤

I absolutely loved your transparency and authenticity and all the clips you would normally cut out. Thank you for making the effort to keeping them in

Thank you so much for posting this! Literally yesterday I was at the doctor trying to decide what was best for my body, it is just comforting to know that I’m not the only person going through this and that there are resources to help!

Jess: *talking about how her sweater’s arms are awkward length now* Me: *sitting here being like “whaaaat? All my shirts and sweaters’ are that length because of how long my arms are”* 😂😂

really love how you kept in when you struggled with talking instead of cutting it out. does feel like i’m talking to a friend on the phone. ❤️

Ive literally just found you and Gabriel and im full obsessed. You guys are so real and kind hearted and I love how you include your faith

I agree with the whole “ oh is she pregnant” . I once’s typed on a pregnant comment you had ( she has a fur baby leave her be ) x Live ur life babe 👑

I love that you're always so honest with us. Honestly, I get that whole youtube persona thing but it's never truly felt like you weren't being yourself. You're a great inspiration, I love the work you're doing

so interesting hearing others' opinions on this topic. i've been taking birth control since I was 16 and it's never bothered me!! however recently been thinking about going off for a while just to see what it is like. thanks for opening up about this :)

Thank you so much for sharing your story Jess, it’s such a nice change to have someone be so honest about where they’re at and the journey they’re on. I really appreciate you talking so openly. Also, it’s so important to talk about the pregnancy subject, keep sharing it!

loved this vlog so much! The girl chat, the interacting camera shots and graphics on the screen, the range of content. So good! 🦋🤍

birth control is honestly super annoying. I gained a lot of weight and I was super emotional when I was on it!!

Jess all your vlogs feel like we are your friends having a conversation with you! I really love that so much. 💛

So I was diagnosed with endometriosis 2 years ago and the doctors told me that I could have prevented it had I taken birth control. I was always against putting something in my body that would mess with my hormones but truth is some people produce too much or too little of certain hormones. Women need a balance of both estrogen and progesterone to have a healthy body and to have the ability to become pregnant... but with endometriosis your body produces to much estrogen and not enough progesterone, and that is why the pill is helpful in preventing endometriosis. Also endometriosis grows when you have a period and the blood leaks outside the uterus causing lumps and cyst of blood that can stick to the outside of the uterus or even block your ovaries and Fallopian tubes like a bunch of spider webs . In my case endometriosis was growing near my ovaries which damaged my left Fallopian tube. So now my chances of natural pregnancy is small. Also a huge warning sign of endometriosis is heavy and painful periods. But if you don’t have a period because you’re pregnant or taking birth control you are then preventing further endometriosis from growing that can lead to damage in the uterus. So basically the best prevention for endometriosis is pregnancy or birth control. I now really do believe that birth control shouldn’t be avoided sometimes and you should really have discussions with your doctor before making any decision.

Jess! I don’t know if I missed it or overlooked it, but we need a house tour on the Jess and Gabe channel! Love you guys! ❤️

Jess always has this light around her that brings some peace when she’s talking. Thank you for sharing your life with us. ❤️may God continue blessing you 🙏

I love the girl chats Jess! Especially during right now during quarantine because I can’t visit my friends right now cause of Covid . They live in different states. I’m actually on my period right now lol so these girl chats do help. I do get really moody and emotional on my period. I start crying at the most random times. And about every other month the cramps hurt so bad to the point where I can’t go to work cause it hurts so bad. I was on birth control but I had to stop taking it when I got hit by a car 7 years ago and I was on other medication so I had to stop taking it to prevent blood clots but I haven’t gotten back on it since. And I do agree that it does feel good to be off it. I even asked my boyfriend if he wanted me to be on it. But, he expressed to me that it’s my choice, but he’d rather me not be on it cause of the negative side effects. But all in all this was refreshing! I can’t wait for more girl chats. Thank you Jess!

I appreciated this talk because I think a lot of women struggle with should I get on the pill should I not?? And it feels like such an obligation either way. I’m so happy you feel a weight has been lifted and I pray you get it raise your baby around your family like you dream of. God is with you xx

Jess you are so down to earth and wholesome. Always find it relaxing to watch your videos. Thank you for your dedication and loving-kindness.

I’m 21 and I love your vlogs!!! You’re so satisfying to watch on KZfaq, such genuine people! Your growth & accomplishments always make me so happy to watch! May god continue to bless the two of you in your marriage 💕

I love how you talk to us like we are your real, true friends 💛

Wow I’m so proud of you for talking about this. It’s nice for me(25 years old) to see someone going through something similar to me and knowing I’m not alone. Thank you for being candid on such a sensitive topic💕

I’m so glad you had this girl chat and I hope you include more of these girl chat segments in the future! I’m so glad you were transparent about what you were going through. I can’t relate since I’m on the pill for hormonal acne and it’s saved me, but I know you talking about this has helped some women in the comments! Sending you lots of love x

Off the pill since almost a year after taking it for 9 years.. I literally feel so so much better! Highly recommend for those who struggle especially with mental health or something like this.. Love you jess and so happy for you that you feel so much better xxx God bless you !🤍 Greeting from germany 🤍

I'm so sorry everyone tells u all the time about pregnancy, that must be a lil overwhelming :( we love u!!! I'm so happy u got ur period back!!! And you feeling better!!! Kisssessssss

Oh my goodness Jess THANK YOU for adding captions to that serious chat party of your video!!! As a person learning to become as ASL interpreter you have no idea how awesome that is to see. I understand captions can be a long, taxing addition to make in editing but girl it is so worth it. I can’t speak for the community but I can’t even imagine what someone who is Deaf feels seeing that you added your own! Please consider continuing to add captions to your videos! Accessibility is easily forgotten about but incredibly important! 🤍

So glad you brought this up!! I’ve been off it for about 3 years and it’s felt (health wise) so much better knowing what’s going into my body!

Im so scared of birth control as well, personally I don’t like putting things in my body that are not necessary. I know many girls that don’t have good experiences with BC

I really like these kinds of girly chats! It really feels like you are talking to a friend. Would love to see more of them 💓💓

Thank you for being so vulnerable with your audience. You and Gab both help so many people and change their lives for the better!!!💛

wow, jess! you are such an inspiration. thank you for talking about hard and personal things! you use your platform in such an encouraging way and we appreciate it!!!

I absolutely loved getting to hear about what's been going on in your life and your decision regarding birth control, Jess. You have a beautiful perspective on life and I'm excited to see how your intentional vulnerability encourages others :)

“milo, you’re really ruining the moment rn”😂😂

Jess, I have to comment this! I rarely comment but I felt like you deserve to know what your audience love about you. I loved the raw, casual talk... So much has developed over the years, there's already a lot of perfection out there, and I get it that as influencers, you try to portray the best to us which is awesome! But sometimes just random conversations, be it tripping over your words, or looking lost in a video, even the sound of the pool, trust me it felt therapeutic, and basically just sharing what your heart wants to convey atm just feels like a facetime call w my mom which is so refreshing 😍 Love you sm and I hope you get to read this:)

The clips at the beginning of this video are so a esthetically filmed and pleasing to the eye, I just wanna pause the whole time and take screenshots.. The way the room looks with Milo on the bed, Gabe and Jess hugging in the kitchen, even the bathroom clip. EVERYTHING is so aesthetic

best timing, done with the jess&gabe vlog and i can just go on and watch this one 🤩 love you Jess, i hope you have a good day ☺️

love that you're being more real and open. I feel like you hold back and I feel like we mainly know you as Jess and Gabe but not as Jess Conte, I would love to see more videos of you being more genuine and raw from just you alone :)

Omgsh yes👏 I love that you shared this! I went through the same thing last year- I got off the pill because it was affecting so much of my life and my mood and I read the same exact book and loved listening to interviews by her and KZfaq videos by girls who were struggling with the same thing and it felt so so good to not be alone! And I felt that weight lifted, and a year later I can easily say it was the best thing I did for my body🤍 just know that this will help other girls who have been wondering what to do and you’re so amazing for sharing your journey!

You totally were making since for sure! And I’m glad you spoke about the pregnancy comment FOR YOU and for your heart. It’s hard to defend our feelings and what we need and want sometimes but it’s totally okay! And you did it gracefully. Love you sis! I want you to be happy.

1000000000% I felt so much more “human” being off the pill. It made me this version of myself I had never felt or seen before and I hated it. Going off the pill was one of the best decisions I have ever made hands down!!!

Absolutely loved this vlog Jess... it really does feel like I'm just chilling with my bestie 💕

You an gabe are one of the few people i know who are genuinely themselves and utterly good people. So seeing u talk about things which are helpful to others and just knowing that it is an advice or information coming from a genuine and honest person like you, i have no doubts. This vlog was so calm i loved it! ♥️

jess this is LITERALLY my favorite vlog you've ever done!!! loved the little chat and keeping in the little fumbles lol :) so happy that you are feeling good and putting yourself and your health first!!! xx

As a medical student,I personally don’t like oral contraceptive pills as they can cause a lot of complications in your menopausal age. Thanks Jess for sharing this and letting more women know it.:)!

I love how Jess is being more natural on camera and I’ve noticed that you are becoming more confident and it’s so refreshing to see especially because of my age as I’m 18 so it’s nice to see ❤️

I love your authenticity and your efforts towards being one more genuine on camera! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

Loved this video! I love your girl chat, I’ve been struggling with hormones and hearing other people talk about that is always comforting❤️

So here for Jess catering more to her actual audience and not just the young people 🙏🏼 thank youuu 💖 Ps. Small youtuber here ✨🤍

i’m 14 and i agree i am one of the younger viewers but i understand a lot of things she talks about.

Nooo the sweater looks super cute like that I never would have noticed it shrunk ! Also omg Jess’s book looks so cute! ✨ and as for opening up about this, thank you so much for being so vulnerable and sharing with us! You have inspired me to open up about this topic now. My husband and I have been together since I was 15, got married when I was 22, and now I’m 27. We have been getting the baby questions since I was like 18... in college I was diagnosed with endo and was told I had a 50/50 chance of having a baby and I was crushed. The question destroyed me every time I got asked. I got off birth control 3 years ago (not to get prego but because I was over putting chemicals in my body) we were scared of getting pregnant before being ready, but my husband was super supportive of me getting off of it. I feel sooooooo good now being off and just really learning how to listen to my body. It’s a really special thing and I truly believe I will be able to have a baby one day by when the time is right. Or in God’s time lol 🙈 anyways wow this was long... again just want to say thank you for opening up 💛✨

Thank you so much for sharing! I felt so much better mentally and physically after getting off of birth control! Doing what’s right for you around subjects that aren’t always discussed is such a helpful reminder. Hope each month feels better- and for less painful symptoms!

I always find it so interesting when other people talk about their birth control. I would love another update on how you are getting on.

as a 14 year old who doesn't have an older sister, I find videos like this insanely comforting! I know it sounds weird but i've never been able to be open to my mum about things like this, and like I previously mentioned I don't have an older sister. I'm on the pill because i suffer with really bad and heavy periods ! I have never had the opportunity to get told information about things like this so girls like you who talk about this kinda thing is actually very helpful for me, and I'm sure for other young girls also :)

Yes, please share your journey with coming off birth control! I’m in the exact same boat, seeing what my natural body/hormones are like, and would like to hear other experiences. I’d also recommend a book “taking care of your fertility”, I’ve learnt so much from it. ❤️

i love this less polished vibe :) so relatable haha, and it’s easy to fall into thinking the edited/perfect version of people is exactly the way the are in real life, so i really appreciate what you’re doing 💕

I was experiencing really bad periods as well and started taking the pill when I was 16. Due to some unrelated issues I had to take a break for 3 month and it was worse then ever before. So no one should tell anybody to take the pill or not take the pill. You need to figure out what is right for you and your body.

Okay relating to the girl talk: So if it does help others here, who are thinking of stopping to take birth control... I stopped taking it, after my boyfriend and I broke up and since I did not notice anything during the 2 years I took it, I thought nothing would really change. But a month later I felt so much happier and more optimistic. I did not even notice it, so my recommandation for everyone who is starting to take birth control would be to watch yourself not just physically but also mentally, maybe make a feeling tracker or something, because there are different types of birth control you can take, when you notice any side effects.

Absolutely love and appreciate the honesty, transparency, “real ness” and maybe a bit more natural version of yourself you striving to share! Sending you love happiness and positivity always!!💕

Thank you so much for this chat Jess, It was really helpful. You have a beautiful heart. May God bless and protect you and Gabriel always🙏

I love how cute and funny Milo is! 😂 he kinda just roams around sniffing for new trails and boxes to see if there’re any new toys for him! 😂

Thankyou Jess, for everything, literally, you are so loved I hope you know that (btw just finished the jess and gab vlog)

I would love an entire video about how the pill affected you and how it feels once you’re off, maybe even the supplements you used as well. This has been a huge part of my journey the past year or two and has been so so hard. Thanks for being so genuine 🤍🤍

such an important and authentic chat