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There is a saying: "A divorced daughter is better than a dead daughter". Now, it can apply to both genders.

I would never understand why other people care so much about whos divorcing who like just because you're stuck in an unhappy marriage doesn't mean everyone else want to.

We are living in a truly f*cked up society. No education and extreme stigma when it comes to divorce, s*x, financial independence, mental health, and addressing abuses. But somehow it's completely normal in our society when married couples have extra marital affairs, shaming single moms/dads, shaming divorced individuals, not giving a child's custody to dad even if mom is mental, women shaming women for even talking about legal separation, dowry, misusing the law, etc. I hope that the future generations evolve in a better way!

I think a child with divorcee parents has less depression than a child with married parents who fights every single day but not ready to give each other peace by seperating ... saying this from experience

Divorce is not the problem, divorce is a solution to the problem. No point being stuck in an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage if you have already given it everything to make it work, sometimes getting a divorce will be the right thing to do.

I think divorce is better than domestic violence and making everyone in the family suffer. Indians feel proud that India has one of the lowest divorce rates in the world but they don't realise that many couples would have actually separated if there were no societal taboos.

An unhappy family is a social evil, not divorce. Divorce is tool to resolve it.

My mom is a lecturer with a PhD. My dad is an officer in education department. I definitely feel my mom deserves better for not expecting anything from my dad even after 20 years of their marriage and taking great care of his family even when her own mother was on ventilator. She didn't hesitate a bit when she had to change my aunt's diapers who was fighting cancer. She never bought gold for herself or me. We never went on trips like any other family. We were not at all like a family. My father on the other hand wasn't someone we all saw. When my mom was pregnant with my elder brother, she was really depressed because of my father's behaviour. She was writing a death note after seeing which my dad said "if you die after writing 'my' name as the reason for your death, and if I'm put behind the bars, who's gonna take care of my big brother's kids?" My mom literally filed divorce after this but due to pressure from our so called family and society,she had to take it back. Few months ago my parents had a big fight. Now they're not talking to each other. My mom told me to finish my 12th (I'm in 12th now) and live in a hostel for my graduation because she'll be applying for transfer after their divorce next year. She even asked my big brother to stay in hostel (he's in 2nd year mbbs). Holding onto something hurts more than letting it go. Self respect must be the first thing to think about. I love both of my parents, but I respect my mother more than my dad.

If marriage is considered to be a partnership for 7 lifetimes in India, then divorce should be a religiously permitted option for those couples who are currently in their 8th lifetime together.

I hear people saying divorce is not good but yet it's better than living with a wrong partner

Divorce is not a problem, it is a solution.

I was in an unhappy marriage for 14 years. Got divorced some 5 years back, got two wonderful kids with me. I was just a housewife while I was married. After my divorced got a job and started studying. Completed my LLB topped university and pursing LLM. After all this I still have a cordial relationship with my ex and in laws. The reason I want to share this is because if you decide to go for divorce to change your life then it will definitely change your life. I never thought I will be able to achieve this much respect in my career. Right now I give free legal advice to people going for divorce.

Highest in domestic violence Lowest divorce rate - india 😑😑

I wanted to share my own perspective being the kid(I'm 18 rn) who was stuck in the middle of a divorce that never happened: For background, both my mother and father are from very well to do families and in no way experienced any sort of hardships growing up When I was 10 years old, that was the first time when I experienced my father breaking a glass on my mother's head. That one incident was just the start, he used to come drunk at night around 3 am everyday and used to start banging doors asking for somebody to serve him food. Incidents like these continued till when I was about 14 years old. One day he came up to my mother and started shouting that if you don't sleep with me right now I am going to jump out of the window and commit suicide. I clearly remember, this happened a day before the lockdown when my mom asked my nanu what she should do, and he surprisingly told her to pack all of our stuff and come to his place. for context, mom had told my nanu that she wanted a divorce, long before all of these incidents happened, but her whole family just shamed her and told her to deal with it on her own. Cases were filed, with no outcome, my dad had contacts with politicians and with the help of the very convenient corruption at play in our country, no one ever showed up in the courtroom, the dates kept on extending and the case is still stuck with my dad not paying anything for our education or living. For the first few years life was harsh, nanu rented us a place nearby and we stayed there, but because of the lockdown his business went downhill, company was stuck in a debt trap Now 4 years later, with my college about to start, I have no sort of financial security as to how we would even survive the next few years, and my dad is living a life of luxury without showing a care in the world. edit: The only reason we have managed to survive so far is because of the generous help by very close friends and families, especially my mother's sister, otherwise we would be on the road right now with nowhere to go. My younger brother is turning out to be exactly like mohak said, with anger issues, he can barely study, he has a habit of compulsively lying and stealing things.

Divorce is best thing about women freedom. Its a gift.

Definitely shaadi ek pavitra bandhan hai but agar wo pavitra hi na ho to shaadi ka na hona hi better hai 🙂

I’m going through a divorce myself right now. Filing next month. It’s all so relatable. My mother is trying desperately to keep me in the unhappy marriage. I feel so cornered and isolated. Thank you for discussing the issue.

Being an only daughter of divorced parents I totally agree with Mohak... I am an adult now but still suffering from insecurity, fear of relationships, childhood trauma etc because of my parent's divorce. My father was very abusive and my maa raised me by herself only. It is the child who suffers the most mentally for whole life💔 but atleast I am happy that now me and maa are happy and at a peaceful environment.

Such a gender balanced video. Hat's off to Mohak and Team.

Thank You for covering this topic. My dad lost his sister to suicide because of her abusive husband. It caused a rift between him and his sister's husband. They use to be close to each other, especially his sister's husband but then after her death my dad hated him. The person who had the worst affect from her suicide was her son. My dad went to his wedding since very few people showed up and that marriage was only able to happen with the help of few of the relatives that they were in contact with, otherwise it was inpossible. Infact in his reception, only 5% showed up.

I don't give a f**k about what anybody says..but I really want my parents to get a divorce. Their toxic behaviour towards one another had a great impact on me and my sister and now we both fear marriages.

My chachi is in a loveless marriage since 23 years...and my cousin got divorced after 3 years of marriage , our family is so mean to my cousin because she chose herself over a idiot man but respects and literally celebrates my chachi's courage because she's surviving in this since many years .....I feel so upset about these two woman in my family ....I really have no idea why it's so difficult for the family members to accept them as they are and support them😢

I remember back in 2007 or 08, this rumour somewhat spread internally spread in my school among my classmates that my parents are divorced. The possible reason for this rumour could be that my Dad used to be the only parent who used to visit the school and collect (my) books during the summer break as I used to be on summer vacation mode with mom at her hometown. The other reasoning for this is also that, even during PTMs, my Dad used to be the only parent who would visit the school as the school was already 25-30kms from my school somewhere in the outskirts and this couldn't have made possible for my mom to visit alone. So, my Dad used to take a day off and visit school for PTM. It was a couple of years later, when I left the school and I happened to have a girlfriend on social media (was 14-15 at that time), who was never in my school but happened to be a friend of my schoolmate, and one day, while chatting, she told me, "your parents are divorced, I've heard it from your friends". I was kinda shocked to read this text as this was the first time I read this about my parents. Even though so far in my comment, I may appear very supportive of my mom, but, unfortunately, my mom has a mental health issue, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2015. She was having mental health issues since early or mid 2007 and had started making our home environment a livng hell. My Dad, someone who used to step out of the house, for his job, to make the ends meet, and being a 5th or 6th std school-going kid, it was difficult to interpret and ohsere the changes in one of the parents. To this day, this has been going on at some capacity and there was this one situation when back in 2010, as a 8th std kid, my Dad after having a verbal fight with mom, told me that "the only reason why I'm bearing with her is because of you, otherwise when you were a small kid, my parents and relatives had told me to leave her and remarry. But I didn't want to remarry and make your life a living hell" (which obviously has been despite having a mom who gave birth to me). So, he was somewhat trying to blame me at that point. I've a younger sibling who's almost 9 years younger than me and it was after her birth, I was able to witness and become aware of the changes in my mom's behaviour which takes me back to the 2007 days. The relatives on my mom's side, in later years, said that "your mom's the sharpest kid of mine / sharpest sibling of ours, and it's only after yout sister's birth, she has become like this". For few years, I used to think like this and didn't use to have a good sibling relationship with my sis. Over the years, we became very good to each other, and I appreciate her existence in my life and I often quote her as the Doraemon to my version of Nobita. To this day, at the age of 55, my Dad has been taking care of our home and not letting us, both the siblings feel the void of a mom, and trying to give us the best life he can, cooking the best of the best food and taking care of us more than we can even expect. I'm glad to have atleast one parent who is able to operate so well as fully grown adult, otherwise seeing myself as a 26 year old man, with some minor issues, I've been functioning like how an adult should be, but due to my alcohol addictions which I developed since November 2022 due to some issues, I don't think that I can become a good and responsible parent and set an example. Before alcohol, cigarettes used to my go-to stress killer because I didn't know other stuff rather than trying to accept the healthier path and improve myself for the long run, I've been "depending" on substances and wasting my Dad's money and efforts. I hope very soon i give up these habits and stop sounding like someone who can't quit these and needs them on a regular basis.

My parents got divorced when i was 9 my dad was abusive to my mother and me. My dad married my mom because she was from a rich family and after marriage he was demanding more and more money from my mom and her parents. When she refused he would beat her. Finally after they got divorced my father forcefully took me to live with him because the house and land belonged to my mom for 5 years i constanty suffered from his abuses then my mom filed for my custody and i was let to go with my mom. Its been 6 years now living with my mom my college is about to start but like mohak said i never had depression or any sorts of those things happen to me infact i was happy that i was seperated from dad. My dad married again and now has a kid he never paid for child support we never asked him to do so my mom is a nurse and i deliver newspapers at morning since i was 16 during vactions i would even for catering jobs. The only downside is i hide this from everyone i know i have quite a lot of friends when they ask me about my dad i would have to make some lies about it.

Loved the way u switched from divorce to balding and again divorce. Before u said traya , i thought the balding is also part of divorce.

my parents got divorced when i was 5 years old. living through the experience, i am glad that they did. it is so much better than to have an unhappy home where they are always shouting and fighting.

My father and mother always fighting with each other. And they don't love eachother but both are living together because of society pressure but I think that It is better to take divorce. 😢 Now I'm 17 year old and my mother face soo many opperations from my father. Also she doing hardwork and earning money. Apart from this she also mannage every money related issue in my home.

Very sensitive topic yet very beautifully presented....thank you for this video...best content ❤

People have to understand that everytime relationship cannot work. So it's better to be separate than to be in an unwanted relationship which may be the reason for further problems like affairs or abuse in future. Which can cause the wrong impact on the children (if they have).

If the legal system is not asking any intrusive questions when two people decide to get married, they should not be so invasive when it comes to their divorce too. 🤷‍♀️

I love that your videos have become longer because now you go deep into the topic!!

Divorce is better than staying in an abusive marriage

10:10 These very similar things happened to my uncle. He is still fighting the case in the court, and due to that he can't even find a job and have to survive on the bare minimum. Thanks to Mohak for bringing this issue which not only affects women but men too. We need to normalize divorce in abusive relationships.

I feel Divorce is an individual choice and legal system should not be an obstacle in that journey. Its great if problems between couples are sorted out with time. But if there isn't a way out of this mess then divorce is the only solution and it shouldn't be stigmatized.

_Thank you for sharing such a vital issue in the country... May God bless you and your work_ 🗿👍

Very informative. You highlighted both parts that divorce can be good or bad. It shouldnt be done too easily nor linger several years. Proper therapy needs to be done in advance to prevent divorce n fix marriage. I appreciate you sharing that men are being abused n harassed too and women face loneliness& depression more

Our society needs to be aware themselves and our legal system also needs to be updated also need to accept the divorces

It is better to get seperated than to stay in toxic unwanted relationship which kills from inside each and everyday

You are right mohak.....stress is one of the reason in hairloss that we often ignore it.....mujhe bhi hairfall ho rhe the that was genetic and exaggerated by stress and vitamin deficiency......aur mujhe insab se niklane aur mere baal wapas laane mein traya ne bahut help Kiya....they have a wonderful team who will cater your hairloss and health issue including stress management.....their hair coaches are so polite and helped you with all your queries and doubts regarding hairloss.....if you are also facing such hairfall problem, you must go for traya

I Hear People Saying Divorce is Not Good But Yet Divorce is Better Than Living With a Wrong Partner..

We're human we do make mistakes, I don't know why people don't understand it. In my friend neighbors house there was a girl who run away at the day of her marriage because she don't wanted to get married with that guy. The exact reasons behind her decision remain unknown to me. However, since that incident, no man has ever chosen to marry her. She has faced constant rejection. Even her own family did not offer support, resulting in daily conflicts within their household. At last she got married at the age of 36 as second wife. She endured a 12-year wait before finding a partner to marry. In my perspective, it seemed like society's way of punishing her. But why? Simply because she refused to spend her life with the person they had chosen for her. Indian society really sucks

Divorce is not a sigma but the way to move on from toxic marriages And society must understand it

Very nice Mohak. Specially that last part where you recommend about couple therapy and touched that because of children , it is so so difficult to make a balance in taking a divorce yet not letting family break . Very good topic. India needs more awareness on this topic breaking the hypocrisy of an old nonfunctional system.

very well researched ....thank you Mohak

I have seen how my father tortured my mother..I was contemplating suicide when I was of class 8, as I grew , I and my mother somewhat adjusted, and now things have cooled. I used to ask my mother, on why she never divorced him ,she replied, I CAN'T EVEN SEND YOU TO SCHOOL BECAUSE, WHEN THEY WIL GIVE A FORM, THEY WIL ASK The FATHER'S name, not of the mother.. Our low life indian society is a degenerated cr*p...Divorce is any day better than a extremely toxic relationship...god help them whose lives have wasted because if the fear of divorce .

The real cowards are people who choose to stay in toxic marriages, not the ones who seek divorce from a mentally/physically abusive union. Thank you Mohak for this well-researched commentary video, I hope this reaches more and more Indians!

Sir you're doing a really great job, i like how you put the argument both side and tell us the pro n cons of the things that many people don't.

I have no words to say! You are running the best KZfaq channel in this century. Talking about the most important social issues in India where nobody talks. You are an amazing impactful person to this society and you change the world. Please continue the hard work!

Even after a financial independence many just choose to stay.... Not in the culture but it's all about "log kya kahenge".... Sigh ...such a saddening thing...

Thanks Mohak! Your video really resonated with me. I'm going through a mutual divorce right now, and it's been really tough. I know that sometimes people fall out of love, and that a marriage can become toxic. It's better to be separated than to suffer in a relationship that is no longer working. But the hardest part for me has been the social prejudice against divorcees. I'm ashamed to say that I'm a divorcee, even though I did nothing wrong. Your video reminded me that I'm not alone. There are many people who have gone through what I'm going through, and they have come out the other side. I'm determined to rebuild my life, and I know that I will be stronger for it. Thank you again for your video. It has given me hope.

one of the best videos i have seen till now, this man is doing great stuff

Bro keep making such videos! It shocks me when Indian people talk about the low divorce rates so proudly online. This was much needed, thank you.

Mohak, your work is impeccable. Your choice of topics, the research on it and the calmness in your voice is what makes you stand apart from other channels. Really appreciate your work.

We must be really open to the concept of divorce, I mean like it's way better than a toxic/violent marriage and alse better for the kids in the long run, as growing up in an abusive home leaves mental scars that don't heal....

All the examples were very nice covering each and every topic and pov.. thankyou mohak.. I really like your videos very much the way you explain.. and I also want to request you for a video for young women nowadays not wanting to get married

Your topic selection is at best currently... really loving it.

More than 70 percent marriages I know including mine would have been broken if people were open to divorce 😢

I think the main problem is not divorce . The problem is not achieving the maturity enough to choose the right life partner .

Apka content bhut acha hota h apki soch smjh bhut achi h tbhi ap sbhi topics pe bhut ache se vedios bnate ho kyoki ap sb smjhte ho ,ki kya shi h or kya galt h ap ek ache or smjhdar insan ho

i have only seen 2 divorces in my life and don't want to see more divorce Divorces will start downfall of Indian society and family system Instead of encouraging divorces we should work on making people's behavior and habits change

I don't even understand why divorce itself is a big legal matter, just some paperwork and the couple are free to separate.

Divorce becomes necessary in case of domestic violence or infedility..however when people say the marriage is taking a toll on their mental health.. doesn't everything in life?..How many things will we run away from?..we just need to communicate better and try and solve the issues..

भाई बहुत ही important video लाते हैं आप लोग... Thank you for your great job.

Thank you for this video. many people not talk to about this topic provided they have not happy own life,. only one statement for women, Education is the most powerful weapon that can be change your whole life.

Great work! This clearly shows what a bad marriage can do to a person, how openness to this can help at various social issues. Small step towards happy society. Peak point was the insight of mental health of single mother.

I feel happy reading this comment section. We guys specially this generation has evolved and learned so much and still open to learn....i assume and have a feeling most of us are open to transformation❤

Thanks mohak bhaiya,for bringing out male issues at the public domain. You are truly an unbiased man👍👍👍

I liked the way you carefully presented this sensitive topic. 😊

Women are not safe in public spaces, but that does not mean that they are safe in their private spaces. Various cases of domestic violence are reported. Cases of domestic violence such as marital rape, dowry deaths, mental torture, bride burning, and female infanticide are reported daily

What a in-Depth research and knowledgeable video it was! Hand off to you Mohak! Thanks for making videos on these sensitive topics!

When it comes to inequality, india is on top notch❤

Love how your videos talk about the issues that men and women face with such topics cause more than often people barely talk about the taboos , issues that men, too have to face when talking about such sensitive issues

Man salute to you for just taking topics that many many people are either ignorant or wanting to vent out in frustration..

This comment section clearly shows how we are still not mentally developed yet to accept divorces in society if a women get abused or a men gets disrespect so what should they do? Should they stay with that toxic person for their whole life or leave that person and start a new better life? Indians need to grow alot. So sad to see this comments❌

What a video Mohak , love it !

You just earned a new subscriber with this great awareness content🎉Hats off to you for talking about it❤❤❤literally I'm impressed 😊

Divorce Is A Blessing If... Your Partner Is Not Happy With U... At Least...Live Your Life With Peace... 😌

Biggest issue with marriage is - you expect your partner to meet your needs (besides sex), while your partner expects similarly from you. Since their needs never end but your patience ends at some point, you can't actually ever complete your partners' needs.

My parents are also living in an abusive relationship for more than 17 years now and honestly it had very adverse effect on my mental health since childhood.

I'm really very Proud of you for covering such a sensitive topic

People think low divorce rates are good, they're not. It only means more people are stuck in abusive and unhappy marriages

I have also talked with someone about solution for this problem ( she was also facing problems in her marriage) . Her very first response was : financial freedom is the most important. So yes financial freedom is a very a good point said in this video.

what a hard work man .... soo much research, content, arrangement,......👍👍👍

Yeah, I think we are mainly involved too much in society than in our personal life. Some relatives blackmouth our partner about you. In many cases if people ignore society and relatives. there will be fewer arguments and more conversation, improving your understanding of each other.

He missed a point..It is right that children from divorced parents might find it hard but children seeing their parents fighting for over years also had a huge impact on them and in future they lose faith over concept of marriage.

Thank you so much Soch team for shedding light on such topics! I love you and your work!😍🤍

In my childhood I repair+improve things(was kind of my hobby). Later it faded but after my studies, when I came to know about my family situation, it kinda struck on that I need to get into it!. Little by little I'm on it.! Hope so! I don't face the major problems in my special personal life! If it does! I would pray to God to overcome it by the skills.

As somebody who has gone through a divorce, my experience tells me the family of the girl never wants to accept her back, especially if there is a brother. They see her as a financial liability and a source of embarrassment. It happens a lot even in so called educated families. Relatives also play a big hand in introducing such toxic ideas that makes us women fear even going back even for a short duration, to our parents homes, post divorce. Secondly, the brothers also feel insecure about the inheritance they might lose due to the presence of their female siblings.. Causing rifts as in my case. Now I have moved out and stay by myself post divorce. Its more peaceful than the toxic societal relationships.

in India ....divorce rate is less ..not because people are happy in there relationships.....its there fear of ..."log kya kahenge"....they give more importance to society than their owm happiness

Divorce is far better than being suffered through Unhappy, Mental Pressure , Domestic Violence and Women treat as object

He makes videos on some of the very underated and important topics , great work please keep it up thats why we love your channel

Hats off 👏 Mohak bhai 🫡. You presented a very important and critical topic clearly ❤

Very good bringing up this topic....there is a stigma around divorce....I too have seen real life separated couples who live in same city but in different houses since they didn't get divorce....long legal battle exists causing personal lives to be consumed...😢😐..

Topics you could have easily covered:- 1) Abuse of section 498A 2) Harrasement of husbands for Maintenance and property. I wish you will cover these.

If couple want divorce then just give them simple but our society makes thing difficult

i too had to a difficult marriage, where i had no or very rare chance of filing a divorce. My x wife took the decision and filed complaint against me, my mother, my sisters, my brother in laws to ensure she gets divorced and more than that the alimony, which you did not talk at all. Both husband and wife had to go through a difficult face, it may be more for the woman, but if you see the man also had to go through the difficulties of being arrested, parents and other relative getting harassed, and on the top that that, most men either have to fight in court to get regular visitations to see their child or just let them go. I decided to let me my child go, i did not want my child to go through any confusion. Now he is 6 years old, she got married and have a baby and i too got married and have a daughter. I just pray that my son from my previous wife stays safe, whether or not he meets me. divorce is always a better option if the marriage is not doing well, and also it is accepted across urban cities and somewhere in villages too. i am being very emotional while writing this. but time will heal everything.

@sochbymm One of the best book to understand the influence of family in human society is Sapiens by Hariri. He emphasises the same notion as you have: family is the most important unit in Indian and Chinese society whereas in Europe and US, it is individuals. He gives a nice theory for this, which I feel makes sense. Once again, nicely researched amazing video!

Why do Indians hate divorce? Because we have unhinged expensive weddings

Let me tell you, my parents decided to part their ways after 27 years of marriage. Was that a happy marriage? No, not at all. My father had trust issues and self worth issues which impacted on my mom negatively. He never trusted my mom around other men, while I know how hard my mom tried to make him understand that she wasn't doing anything wrong. It impacted my mental health so much that once they were in an argument and I suddenly got fits out of nowhere. Now it doesn't mean that I'm weak, it's just that I've had enough for a 15 year old (I'm 23 now). Relatives said, it's time to get your girl married and now you're talking about breaking your own marriage? Well, I luckily have a wonderful boyfriend with a very understanding and healthy family and they understand everything that we've been through. Sometimes, honestly the best thing you can do is walk away. I pity my mom so much, she never knew what a healthy marriage and a loving husband meant. Even after all this, I sincerely hope she finds a man who truly loves her before she dies.