right, like some people say "it's just hair" but haircare can suck up so much time and money if you lean into the obsession.

​@Kristy Lin also, if you don't like it you will have to wait a LONG time until you grow out that dyed hair ☹️

Yea I’m glad I never dyed my hair either. Seems like too much money, time, and effort to manage dyed hair- not worth it imo. I’d rather it healthy. There’s also prolly like temporary dye that kids could use instead of damaging their hair so early on.

Happy you learned to be more comfortable with ur body and smile! Also gums are important! Ur future will thank you lol

PS scan improve your quality of life even if it’s not medically necessary but the probs are the uncertain outcomes and associated risks 😢

Totally agree! Don’t stare at your mirror all day, get out and enjoy life! But I also regret no getting braces when I was younger haha. Have an open bite and things are expensive now that I’m in my 20s🥹

I think another factor is a lot of people want to live vicariously through others we deem as perfect so when you find out that they’re insecure about something it shatters something within that person. It’s just too common on social media because then people feel the only source of validation is from someone online and not from ourselves. I truly think this is an overlooked thing

I would try facial massage and acupuncture first! It has both health and cosmetic benefits, versus Botox might do more harm than good.

@@ByKristyLin Will try this, thanks so much! Honestly, I'm more scared of it being a gateway to other procedures rather than just this one time so yeah, I agree.

Hmm I personally don’t think I’m attractive either (flat face, really asymmetrical features, long chin, no strong face structure, open bite, etc) nor do I have good fashion sense or a sought after body. And yes I do feel insecure sometimes, but honestly I think you just have to be patient and learn to love/accept yourself. Sometimes you just gotta say fuck it and rock with what you have. Growing up, I’ve just never compared myself with others, at least visually and physically. I think all my friends are prettier than me, but I don’t think any less of myself because of that. No one has ever called me pretty or ugly. I’ve learned that no one actually gives a fuck about you, in the most respectful way lol. Strangers glance at you for 2 seconds and go on with their day. Your friends and coworkers obviously don’t/shouldn’t care if you’re conventionally pretty or not. Also you probably aren’t as ‘ugly’ as you think you are. Maybe it’s because of what you see on social media? Or the beauty standards in your country. If that’s the case, I suggest to just limit social media usage. Or steer away from beauty influencers. Recognize that beauty is subjective. Everyone is unique. You have one body and you should cherish it. Also look at beauty standards in different countries, from the past and history. You’ll find that standards change so frequently, and basically every single year nowadays. Everything is a trend and some cycle back, so don’t bother with chasing those. I think the key to solving this confidence issue is to first identify what is causing you to not be confident. Is it what I mentioned above? 2) body issues? 3) Don’t know how to style yourself? Some of these are relatively easy or non invasive fixes. 2) if you have a bigger body, try to cut out junk food and snacks, and workout. It can simply be x amount of steps per day or you can try lifting weights. Good for your health as well. 3) if you have money, go to professional hair/fashion stylists or makeup artists. If not (me), learn what type of body shape you have and look up online what types of clothes/colors look good for that specific body type. There are countless KZfaq videos that help with this, and which is why KZfaq is my fav social media platform. The most informative and least toxic imo. Even better if you are able to find someone with similar looks or body as you. And even easier, ask tips from your friends! Maybe you know someone whose really into fashion/makeup. Ask them to help you out and treat them to a meal or something. More often than not, those types of people will gladly be happy to help someone using their expertise. You’ll gain new knowledge and a friend :) Lastly Idk how old you are, but i feel like the older you get, the more confidence you will have in yourself and less you care about how others see you. Teenage years are def rougher as you’re still growing and going thru puberty, hormones, all that. Another suggestion is to maybe focus more on your hobbies? Or on something where you are more confident in- whether it be painting, cooking, etc. I think that confidence in your abilities will eventually make you confident about yourself overall, even visually. Good luck with this process and wish you the best!

Btw first step in being confident, don’t call yourself ugly😉 I never say that about myself, I just say that im not really pretty or that I’m average, if need be but rarely comes up in any convo lol.

AND get rid of any toxic people in your life😌 if it’s someone related to you or you can’t get rid of, ignore them and close your eyes and ears🙃

*huuuugs* aww welcome!! So excited to be on this journey with you - Fel xx

Hiii! Yes - we already have all the episodes up on Spotify and Apple Podcasts! Spotify: bwth.in/itswithinspotify Apple Podcast: bwth.in/itswithinapple Hope this helps! 🥰