Why Is It Important to Express Your Feelings?

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Why Is It Important to Express Your Feelings?

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Expressing your emotions is important-not just for your mental health, but for your physical health as well.
Special thanks to Dr. David Caruso for his input on this topic! You can check out his work on emotional intelligence with the EI Skills Group at www.eiskillsgroup.com/.
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@riverAmazonNZ 6 жыл бұрын

Expressing emotions doesn’t mean you should *act* on it. You might feel angry but that doesn’t mean you should punch someone. The idea is to acknowledge your own emotions, perhaps by saying, ‘I’m angry about this’, or ‘I feel disappointed’, rather than denying you feel the emotion. Telling yourself “I’m fine” when it’s not true is not healthy. Also, acknowledging your emotions at the time you feel them helps you get over them faster, so your feelings don’t linger and fester.

@MsSmashy-rl8wq 6 жыл бұрын

River Amazon can someone please pin this comment! Because this is what it’s all about 💗💗

@halomaster2137 6 жыл бұрын

River Amazon but when I know I’m depressed it still lingers for the whole day (depending on when I get depressed)

@riverAmazonNZ 6 жыл бұрын

Lol Lol depression isn’t an emotion, it’s a state of being, encompassing all your emotions

@halomaster2137 6 жыл бұрын

River Amazon sadness is apart of depression so I guess that counts then

@riverAmazonNZ 6 жыл бұрын

Lol Lol I’m not sure sadness brought on by an imbalance of brain chemistry can be treated exactly the same as sadness brought on by a sad life event (though there may be overlap) Medication is probably more helpful. I’m not a medical professional.

@NewMessage 6 жыл бұрын

* holds back a single tear *

@marios1861 6 жыл бұрын

New Message **wipes single tear gracefully**

@tamarajessup1398 6 жыл бұрын

New Message *Offers a smile, a tissue, and chocolate*

@Master_Therion 6 жыл бұрын

If you bottle up your emotions they will ferment and turn into whine.

@SirNeutral 6 жыл бұрын

I thought they would lament instead.

@skripnigor 6 жыл бұрын

Man you are the king of comments today 👍

@-Neo_Genesis- 6 жыл бұрын

So THAT'S why my mother drinks so much wine. 🤔

@mlok4216 6 жыл бұрын

Master Therion you sir, are genius

@longhairboi6140 5 жыл бұрын

Any validation for your claim?

@angelic8632002 6 жыл бұрын

Plus we have to dump this idea of showing emotions being a weakness. Our culture is really screwy when it comes to this.

@longhairboi6140 5 жыл бұрын

Simone. Emotion can be exploited and therefore it is a direct extension of weakness and vulnerability.

@thatsEforEveryone 4 жыл бұрын

We live in a fucked up world where it's easy to take advantage of someone who's showing emotion

@brandonharwell95 4 жыл бұрын

Yea that's my problem, I've been taken advantage of so many times that I've bottled myself up and now its hard for me to express myself to my girl and its been really hard on our relationship.... I need help

@GlenHunt 6 жыл бұрын

I can read people okay, but I have no idea what to do with it.

@L39T 6 жыл бұрын

@ReginaFera 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah, this sounds like a possible lack of socialization, or learning how to respond appropriately to others through modeling. Perhaps consider **why** this other person is sharing their thing, what **you** want out of the exchange (feel closer? help out? glean support or understanding?), and I guess just try to stay friendly and helpful, reflecting back happy or sad feelings with your body posture and what-not. Social mirroring is an important skill!

@GlenHunt 6 жыл бұрын

Your first sentence nails it. Chronic childhood trauma meant that my priorities were not what a child's should have been. My priorities were my parents' twisted dynamic rather than learning about the world and the people in it. Still, there's hope...and my therapist.

@Koeras16 6 жыл бұрын

Glent Hunt - Me too. Well I can simulate the behavior. But being genuine ? Only if I have business with those people.

@Delluvian 6 жыл бұрын

Still waiting for the Brit-singing-her-way-through-the-script episode.

@iliketojumpoffplanes 6 жыл бұрын

Delluvian Me too

@Delluvian 6 жыл бұрын

@starspawn507 6 жыл бұрын

“You can’t bottle your emotions forever” Me: *bottling up more emotions*. “WATCH ME”

@CaptainFSU 6 жыл бұрын

As a person of British heritage, I wholly disagree with the subject of this episode. It has been well established that only legitimate way to process emotion is through gin (or a strong bitter), passive-aggressive behavior, deadpan comedy, the colonization of a quarter of the planet, or by humiliating the French. God Save the Queen

@massiex1872 6 жыл бұрын

I'm not even British, but yes.

@erinc9159 6 жыл бұрын

Coire Jones so sacrifice your mental health because of social norms

@raviprabhakar7792 6 жыл бұрын

erin crawford well that's a good countered statement and does that mean you are expressing a dislike feeling more than the hate one

@diutrinh1240 13 күн бұрын

Yeah, suppressing your negative emotions toward a person can turn you into a no-good person to him/her.

@GhengisJohn 6 жыл бұрын

I'm _super_ in touch with all of my emotions! It's just unfortunate that all of my emotions are bad...

@longhairboi6140 5 жыл бұрын

GhengisJohn. Try denying em.

@JeepusChrystler 6 жыл бұрын

NO YOU CAN'T FOOL ME MEATBAG I'LL BE ON THE WINNING SIDE IN THE COLD, SOULLESS ROBOT UPRISING

@TommoCarroll 6 жыл бұрын

*Well for vegetables it's so others don't think that you don't **_carrot_** all...* 🥕 Have been waiting for an excuse to use this beast of a pun 😂

@celinak5062 6 жыл бұрын

Aspect Science +

@jaymz6473 6 жыл бұрын

Alright, pack it up everyone, we're done...

@Master_Therion 6 жыл бұрын

Aspect Science The most emotional vegetable is the onion, it makes me cry :'(

@SirNeutral 6 жыл бұрын

Now that's a pun that can't be beet.

@TommoCarroll 6 жыл бұрын

Celina k Thanks for the +, you Hank Green fan you - always nice to come across a fellow nerdfighter!

@Marneezyisshort 6 жыл бұрын

I would like a video on looking at Highly Sensitive People or the HSP personality. Being vulnerable or sensitive has a negative stigma surrounding it. Even this video says its okay to open up, but there's no denying there has been a longstanding suppression in various cultures.

@PhoenixtheII 3 жыл бұрын

It should be the other way around, insensitive people should be the stigma. But alas, they don't care.

@JillShaw Жыл бұрын

Yes and when they started at the beginning by saying sharing your feelings might sound" new agie or cheesy" I nearly turned it off I don't think it's necessary to make feelings Sound ridiculous Or to diminish anyone's beliefs.

@PimpNamedDragonBalls 6 жыл бұрын

Look. I'm Irish. We bottle our feelings up. And then we die. That's the culture. It's just what we do

@CaptainHunt1 6 жыл бұрын

Wait, are you saying bottling up emotions is what causes you to die or that you just bottle it up until you die?

@PimpNamedDragonBalls 6 жыл бұрын

Captain Hunt until we die.

@da4127 6 жыл бұрын

Savage Jesus thats savage

@MarianahsTrenchGal1 6 жыл бұрын

And then we turn to alcoholism as an outlet which leads to our death

@madisonprice5677 6 жыл бұрын

did u get this from john mulaney lolol

@matteussilvestre8583 6 жыл бұрын

"Mr. Stark, I don't *feel* so good..."

@zetharic1610 6 жыл бұрын

Matteus Silvestre god damn XD

@darkwisteria9120 6 жыл бұрын

TOO SOON

@Marneezyisshort 6 жыл бұрын

DAMN YOU MATTEUS SILVESTRE. DAMN. YOU.

@miriamcooper8888 6 жыл бұрын

WHHHHHY?????😦😦

@SirNeutral 6 жыл бұрын

I find it hard to read people. They won't let me write on them.

@seanhampson4126 6 жыл бұрын

Next video: How to hide all of your feelings and become a hermit.

@christelheadington1136 6 жыл бұрын

Or win at poker.

@franticranter 6 жыл бұрын

First bit about it being linked to higher mortality rates could just be correlation not causation

@dallaswalker340 6 жыл бұрын

it makes sense, though. lots more stress. lots more heart problems.

@anthonynorman7545 6 жыл бұрын

Brady P or we want it to fit our previous notions so we give the small positive correlation more credence than it should. Only way to find out is more experiments.

@RialuCaos 6 жыл бұрын

That's what she said, "small positive correlation." Which, if you know anything about statistics in psychology, doesn't really mean much.

@franticranter 6 жыл бұрын

暗知能 not everyone who watches these knows anything about psychological statistics tho and it implies that it does mean something

@dallaswalker340 6 жыл бұрын

we already know that stress causes inflammation and inflammation is bad

@EVEspinosa79 6 жыл бұрын

Your T-shirt collection fills me with joy

@kindlin 6 жыл бұрын

This episodes is basically my mental state. I have learned to suppress a lot of anxiety, but it's all still there. I sometimes psych myself out so much that I miss obvious things, and while I do learn from my mistakes... eventually, I feel like I should _do better._ Well, I think everyone get this feeling at some point. I hope, at least.

@carlosmiguelvillapalmeth78 3 жыл бұрын

Let you interact in a more direct way with others. And give you more peace and understanding from others.

@seatbelttruck 6 жыл бұрын

Unsurprising. My siblings and I all have depression. I am physically unable to suppress strong emotions, and both of them have difficulty not suppressing emotions. My physical health is generally better than theirs.

@gummi666 6 жыл бұрын

so are you saying if you are physically more active, making you stronger and healthier than ones that are less physically active?

@seatbelttruck 6 жыл бұрын

...no. I have fewer health problems than my siblings, on average. Our activity levels are pretty similar.

@jacobb8397 6 жыл бұрын

This is by far my favorite channel, thank you for doing all of this amazing research and spreading awareness about mental health

@butter_nut1817 6 жыл бұрын

Im south african and i wish my country had made it into the world cup. Am i doing it right?

@christelheadington1136 6 жыл бұрын

You are right to express that thought. Did doing so, make you feel better?

@Loashscott 5 жыл бұрын

You guys are literally changing my life.

@Master_Therion 6 жыл бұрын

You made a video just for Mark Zuckerberg! How thoughtful.

@TommoCarroll 6 жыл бұрын

Master Therion 🤖 just find the Zuckerberg emoji!

@Lucroq 6 жыл бұрын

He's already expressing all of his emotions.

@LemurWhoSpoke 6 жыл бұрын

Another good related topic that should be covered in its own episode: Alexithymia

@cup_check_official 6 жыл бұрын

wait You mean it *is* important to express your feelings?...

@jerry3790 6 жыл бұрын

Software Man I thought I’d see you here

@longhairboi6140 5 жыл бұрын

Software Man. No it’s not it’s just the 21st century making us all pussified slaves of our own sentimentality

@Spekktre 6 жыл бұрын

Expressing your emotions is helpful from a social perspective and may drop stress levels, BUT it also digs in the Neural Pathways for those feelings making them easier to slip into in other situations. So while expressing your emotions could help in a short-term way, I'm under the impression over the long run it makes things worse if done regularly

@adolfodef 6 жыл бұрын

03:14 _"...and acording to Kurisu..."_ Makise? Cristina? This must be an alpha worldine. El Psy Kongroo

@memeislovememeislife3369 6 жыл бұрын

Argamis (SilverComet) *flashbacks to all of Mayuri’s death* Oh no, not again

@angi7717 6 жыл бұрын

I love your Hogwarts shirt 😊 it makes me feel happy

@bettr3873 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the information :) I really like these videos P.S. Your Tshirt's great

@Surver_A_Kaunain Жыл бұрын

This is really so informative. And I like the way as she explained.

@ingridjohannarealorjuela6402 3 жыл бұрын

It is important to express emotions to improve our relationships with people, it is also good behavior to avoid excess anxiety and stress, we have the ability to turn an unfavorable situation into something beneficial if we have emotional intelligence and the good news. it's a matter of training

@crystalchaung1576 4 жыл бұрын

I dislike vulnerability of showing anger towards certain people and expressed none of it. Expressing anger does lead to discomfort but this video helps me understand that my expressed feelings can help me win arguments. My shared feelings provide some data to the others to let us be more accepting of who others are.

@jonathoncameron6841 4 жыл бұрын

Dialectical behavioural therapy is what you go to for emotional regulation so I assume it would help with emotional intelligence as it teaches mindfulness and interpersonal effectiveness

@LemurWhoSpoke 6 жыл бұрын

Speaking of all of this, you should do an episode on Asperger's.

@CharlesTheClumsy 6 жыл бұрын

"Wait a minute.... This isn't my world. DISAPPOINTED"

@noahmidgette3943 6 жыл бұрын

Jocko Willick talks about that last point in his podcast. About how expressing emotions that might register as say a 2 or 3 aren't worth expressing , tend to be normalized (i.e people who get hangry know when and why they get hangry). Learning to cope and rationalize is important with those feelings. In regards to intense feelings like that of a an extreme stressor like death or depression or other things you should try to 'outsource' your strength and talk about it.

@ForestGramps 6 жыл бұрын

Do you think it could also be that by bottling up feelings earlier in life, later in life one might be jealous of those who are able to express themselves and end up hating them because of it?

@gummi666 6 жыл бұрын

Micah Beiser, yes there are definitely couple of people in the world that might be jealous of that reason.

@joannej7018 4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with this I discover that my insecurity problem comes when i can't express my feeling I can't say what i don't like, or like, agree, or disagree, angry or happy Right now i decided to be more honest to myself and people around me

@brandonharwell95 4 жыл бұрын

That's another big issue I have like I'm afraid of their reaction when honestly, I shouldn't care in the first place.... its gonna be an uphill battle but WE got this!

@joannej7018 4 жыл бұрын

@@brandonharwell95 yes, i hope you can do it well. For me might take sometime, i grew up in a environment that cannot allow me to freely express myself, disagree with elder in my country culture can be count as act of rebellion. It might be not really related, but we also have law that somehow preventing us to have freedom of speech, insulting people can make you go to jail. Although this law often used by our politician to attack their political enemy

@brandonharwell95 4 жыл бұрын

@@joannej7018 what country are you from? And it sounds like that you more government oppression that self-suppression, nonetheless I hope it gets better for you J and you have to look within yourself do some serious soul searching and just be open with yourself

@sakura2974 6 жыл бұрын

I try to be an open, and flexible person but I am stubborn on occasion and try to appropriately put my foot down. How does one tell how stubborn they are and how do you talk to someone who is easily angered with a "highway" mentality?

@jerry3790 6 жыл бұрын

Muscle hank taught me that only strong, muscular people can safely suppress their emotions.

@seanpeery7780 6 жыл бұрын

That odd, hustle hank sold me a box of emotion suppressing pills.

@dvklaveren 6 жыл бұрын

Sean Peery That's odd. Hustle Hank stole my heart. I feel dizzy...

@ElectricPyroclast 6 жыл бұрын

Alderick van Klaveren F

@interestingnews5296 3 жыл бұрын

But mind courage also important

@tova1412 6 жыл бұрын

this is something i really need to get better at, i'm horrible at expressing myself

@driftingdruid 6 жыл бұрын

I still wonder how the Japanese are able to deal with their emotions, since their culture seems to heavily emphasize suppression of their emotions, as well as suppression of their true opinions on things, even from their friends and colleagues. How can a society that is not emotionally open still function under so much pressure for conformity and excellence?

@d.kincaid3595 6 жыл бұрын

And isn't Japan one of the countries where people have some of the longest lifespans? Hmmm.

@rumplstiltztinkerstein 6 жыл бұрын

japanese suppressing their emotions? wait wut?

@xXSchimpXx 6 жыл бұрын

dont forget that japan is also the country with the highest rate of suicides if i remember correctly, especially tokyo... it can go either way

@rumplstiltztinkerstein 6 жыл бұрын

japan ain't the highest, it's on the tenth somewhat. still it is very high

@miche8868 6 жыл бұрын

xXSchimpXx actually north korea is the highest I think

@auntmanda6157 6 жыл бұрын

In some people though, it seems like angry outbursts lead to MORE angry outbursts.

@albertojoseramireznossi1399 3 жыл бұрын

Is important , first because you need to learn to identifique the different emotions and feelings, after we can get the skill to manage, and applied during a conversation with other peoples in several contexts or situations. The bad is because can to affect you healht because you have some agressive or depresive behaviors

@makeupbyushna3085 6 жыл бұрын

Nice video!

@codyabel4766 6 жыл бұрын

I love this host! great work thank you!

@ArmyCop 6 жыл бұрын

Brit - I love your videos and your presentation. I've gotta ask because it's been driving me crazy, what do your tats say? (Right inner elbow and left collar bone). If they're personal and private, I totally understand. Keep up the fantastic work!

@907john316 6 жыл бұрын

How is this so ? I am extremely emphatic , have different kinds of synesthesia and often feel like an alien 👽 being emotional is not accepted by society now days being cruel is cool😭

@pedroheck3667 6 жыл бұрын

She's very good! More videos with her please! :)

@paljyosar 6 ай бұрын

So, I have the option of either (1) Die soon or (2) yell at my boss and get fired. ============================ Pretty damn confusing

@Sassassasas1526 Жыл бұрын

New KZfaq channel

@laurenevam6305 6 жыл бұрын

This reminded me a lot of what they're trying to teach me in DBT

@cowboyhank456 6 жыл бұрын

This feels exactly like the kind of video all the trumpets wouldn't be able to stand

@Julika7 6 жыл бұрын

So true. I recommend to search for Possibility Management in the net. It helped me so much.

@rhondarose2583 5 жыл бұрын

People act out-using their bodies to bully or physically abuse BECAUSE they don't know HOW TO EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS/EMOTIONS!DUH!!!Also they are filled with fear that they aren't a good,loveable,worthy person.WE ALL NEED TO FIND OUR LOVE&MAKE IT GROW!

@ramiebashir7260 6 жыл бұрын

Yet another amazing content, well done! It feels as if you guys are steadily working your way into autism research hahaha.. Truly an amazing channel, easily one of my favorites.

@judsonhawkins7321 6 жыл бұрын

So you're saying express your feeling for health? However if your feel angry it's more likely to kill you. Well that a double edged sword if I have ever heard of.

@aishashaikh5699 6 жыл бұрын

I love it when she talks

@francescakyanda9182 2 жыл бұрын

crying is great, wish I could do it more

@ambermiller9607 2 жыл бұрын

You can allow yourself to feel any emotion at any given time. The trick is to suppress any inappropriate behavior that may result because of the the emotions you're feeling.

@seukariakumi3490 6 жыл бұрын

The tattoo on her right arm is a set of coordinates that leads to a position just off the coast of "Sunset Key" which is just off the Florida pennisula. I wonder why

@christelheadington1136 6 жыл бұрын

I don't know. I was trying(and failing ) to read her shoulder.

@TheZenytram 6 жыл бұрын

So expressing anger and frustations on video games make you a better and happy person.

@user-zh4vo1kw1z 6 жыл бұрын

so, what about venting then? I thought the whole idea of catharsis through giving into things as anger and such was a form of conditioning yourself to that response, thereby creating a whole new set of problems....

@NintendoPolitics 6 жыл бұрын

I bottle up my emotions and then drink my feelings away.

@calamusgladiofortior2814 6 жыл бұрын

Suppressing emotions can make you more aggressive? Well, that explains the British Empire then.

@billygoatideas 6 жыл бұрын

feelings?

@christelheadington1136 6 жыл бұрын

whoa whoa whoa, feelings.....

@aysegulydrm1384 6 жыл бұрын

It ıs hard to express someone's feelings to their mother in law :) :) :) Thanks for video

@masterimbecile 6 жыл бұрын

Even my feelings have feelings.

@NateLVBrown 6 жыл бұрын

You’re not Angry, you’re Miffed !! (the silly sounding name helps 🤫) You’re not Happy, you’re Ecstatic!!! You’re not Sad, you’re Bummed!!

@vegandavey 6 жыл бұрын

I'm going to implement this immediately with my customers! "Can I get a caramel macchiato?" "I feel like you should go to starbucks, idiot."

@jynxkizs 6 жыл бұрын

Does that mean thespians have great emotional health?

@celinak5062 6 жыл бұрын

Jynx C. Would be interesting. Some get interested to learn to deal with stage fright and others didn't get as much attention in childhood as is the norm, so the youngest sibling or a divorcee child.

@christelheadington1136 6 жыл бұрын

While they are acting, they are expressing the characters emotions.

@yareyaretzi 6 жыл бұрын

Just let me cryyyyy a little bit longeeeeeeeer I ain't gonna smile if I-dont-want-tooooo

@massiex1872 6 жыл бұрын

Hey man, we all can't be like you I wish we were all rose-colored too My rose-colored boy

@yareyaretzi 6 жыл бұрын

Yeeeees 💕

@MarianahsTrenchGal1 6 жыл бұрын

So if I'm angry does that mean it's ok for me to punch an inanimate object?

@BaguetteHD 6 жыл бұрын

InvisibleEmma No lol

@MarianahsTrenchGal1 6 жыл бұрын

BaguetteHD Rip How do I deal with those emotions then

@BaguetteHD 6 жыл бұрын

According to Brit, we should manage "angry and hurt feelings" in a non-aggressive way. Not that i know how either, when i get tipped over the edge i have to try to hold myself back from destroying EVERYTHING.

@DeepForestRex 6 жыл бұрын

Maybe punch a pillow instead of the wall or anything that can break under the pressure of your fist

@BaguetteHD 6 жыл бұрын

That's good advice for physical health but still not mental health. My hand was covered in cuts after punching a door into submission once. Big mistake lol.

@rhondarose2583 5 жыл бұрын

Suppressing & holding on tightly to emotions tightens all of your muscles which pull on your muscular-skeletal system& can also give you hemmroids!

6 жыл бұрын

Everyone feels?

@erinc9159 6 жыл бұрын

You finally figured it out good job

@GloomyYumi 6 жыл бұрын

I haven't expressed most emotions (apart from the 'good' one) for around 6 years and now I'm anxious, depressed and suicidal... Yeah, cry when you're sad, scream when you're angry and try to understand your feelings...

@user-ww3ik7ob5l 6 жыл бұрын

What if you don't trust anyone to know what you really feel?

@DandyParrott 6 жыл бұрын

That is sad🙁

@aquamarine3699 6 жыл бұрын

Journaling helps for me at least to vent out feelings!

@longhairboi6140 5 жыл бұрын

カバルナハンナミツチ. Then deny bottle up and ignore all emotion. Worked for me for the entirety of my sentient existence and so far I haven’t turned into a wrist cutting emo yet. You appear to have this conviction that emotion is something to be dumped on any willing person in sight but that doesn’t fix anything

@padisorgum 2 жыл бұрын

You can express emption with many ways, not just with facial expression, In reality facial expression could make someone looks naive and easily manipulated

@richardcheese4680 6 жыл бұрын

You can definitely train that. You just have to want it.

@sweiland75 6 жыл бұрын

As Brit herself demonstrated here, I hate how it seems to have become the cool thing to reject emotions or the "feels" as some call them. It really annoys me when a watch a sad video and someone says something like, "I'm not crying. You are crying." or they make up some excuse for why they have watery eyes. I don't trust people who reject emotions. That is not a healthy behaviour.

@dvklaveren 6 жыл бұрын

sweiland75 I think there's value in portraying insecurity over expressed emotions. Like it or not, people aren't necessarily comfortable with highly emotional people. There's moments where being emotional yourself can make it harder to give empathy back and there's moments where you need to let your emotions be your emotions and expressing them emotionally. It's emotional intelligence versus 'radical emotional honesty'. And emotional intelligence means knowing what the right moment is to give way for an emotion and when to compartmentalize it. It also means not deliberately making yourself feel something to get something out of another person. Such as not making yourself angry or making yourself overwhelmed because it gets you out of doing something you don't like. There's a lot of sides to this obviously, you probably didn't need my rant to know that. But to your point, I think that there's a time and a place for everything and that's cool.

@riverAmazonNZ 6 жыл бұрын

sweiland75 comments such as ‘I’m not crying, you’re crying’ are not intended to be taken seriously

@massiex1872 6 жыл бұрын

"I'm not crying, you're crying." are not serious... welcome to the internet! Don't take everything seriosly.

@PhoenixtheII 3 жыл бұрын

It's important, so that society and bullies can then tell you how wrong you're feeling, and should be feeling differently. Abuse them for their own gain. Imagine if everyone stopped expressing, where would the bullies go on? We can't have that, we need bullies to ruin your mental health everyday! So that there's balance in the force. And you know who is boss. How would they ever get to feel better themselves? Ugh, it's so f'ing selfish!

@Ghosteriz 6 жыл бұрын

How to control the emotions over suppressing it?

@lonewander912 6 жыл бұрын

(not the sunglasses guy) lol

@Ahuka 6 жыл бұрын

I'd call this a false dichotomy. Expressing anger makes you very good at being angry, it doesn't make you any good at achieving serenity.

@Hunter-sx9uj 6 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of that Malcolm In The Middle episode when Malcolm stops complaining.

@michelgabe1629 6 жыл бұрын

What about mediation though? Isn't it great for increasing emotional intelligence?

@gabefloyd7768 6 жыл бұрын

So Even if your passive by saying "Hate" brain areas know your using a strong word, thus no matter how we say it, its negative and harmful???

@V0TION 6 жыл бұрын

*ANGERY*

@DrDawdy 6 жыл бұрын

Found a "small" positive "correlation" between suppressing emotions and mortality in a study of only 111 people.... That is barely worth noting. Just think there might be some bias in this episode based on what we think should be true.

@mamatheshkumar5711 3 жыл бұрын

just chant 'I'm positive power person'

@ttaaddoo111 6 жыл бұрын

But I have to wonder, whether this research showing the benefits of expressing emotion could be replicated with success in cultures, wherein emotional expression isn’t idolised (eg. Markus & Kitayama 1991), as it sometimes is in the western macroculture, as I will call it; I have to wonder, whether the meaning we culturally ascribe to emotional expression nigh fundamentally changes, how it affects us.

@dakilangraikage9988 6 жыл бұрын

I was more focused on her shirt than the topic J.K....... Ha!

@darkwisteria9120 6 жыл бұрын

What are feelings

@McRyach 4 жыл бұрын

Not everyone feels things. I’m trying to find a video explaining how to feel things. Because I don’t feel enough. I feel things very rarely.

@michaelmeissner7545 6 жыл бұрын

So does high emotional intelligence cause better mental and physical health, or does terrible mental health lower one's emotional intelligence?

@coughdrop01 6 жыл бұрын

well take THAT every jerk who's ever told me I'm too emotional. I'M JUST HEALTHY

@benrhodes6398 6 жыл бұрын

Why do we like music that makes us sad?

@christianolsen7834 6 жыл бұрын

Or maybe people with low emotional suppression scores have fewer negative emotions that they need to suppress, and it is often appropriate to express their positive emotions? My point is maybe it's not the emotional suppression that is unhealthy, but the things that course you to have the feelings you are suppressing, or the things that course the suppression itself, that is bad?