Why It's Good to Be Rude in China

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Hey Laowinners!
In China, manners and the way people deal with each other is different than in the west. In China, it's good for people to be rude to each other if they know each other. It's considered rude to be polite to your friends. It's an interesting phenomenon that you should be aware of here.
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@laowhy86 5 жыл бұрын

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@revolutionarycomrade 5 жыл бұрын

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@genetierney9975 5 жыл бұрын

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@Panda-se2qu 5 жыл бұрын

Hey I was wondering if you had any videos on Chinese mythology I've looked and I couldn't find any or if you knew of a good website to look at. I write stories for my nephews and nieces as a fun way to introduce them to other cultures however all I can seem to find on chinses mythology is all clickbait or doesn't look like a very reliable source. Any help is much appreciated.

@theatlantean39 5 жыл бұрын

No no no, Vivi said Asia, when should just say China. China is not Asia, and people are polite to service people in many other Asian countries. That is one of the few really annoying things about your channel and ADVchina. You guys act like China is Asia. And most other Asian countries have quite a lot of cultural differences from China.

@vhvostik 5 жыл бұрын

I recently started watching your videos and serpentza's videos and, personally, I like your videos more. That doesn't mean I don't like serpentza's videos too. I just enjoy hearing from you more. I also like that your wife is a part of your videos. I think you found a really nice Chinese woman! I drive a truck in the southeast of the US and so I often listen to your videos while I'm driving to kill some time. I've gotta say, though, that my view of China has changed a lot since hearing from you and serpentza. I used to want to visit, but now I'm not so sure I want to anymore. I still love certain things about the culture and I think Chinese women are beautiful. But, China just sounds like a third-world country in the way they act and treat others. It's not just infrastructure and architecture that makes a country great. It's also developing respectful and caring attitudes.

@MrMilkyguy 5 жыл бұрын

C-Milk: "Hey Vivi, what's your opinion on this?" (Oh wait, I don't care, I'm going to focus on this bun instead)

@hansihobr 5 жыл бұрын

And.. What does the title of this video say?

@scarletpimpernel230 5 жыл бұрын

Exactly-he does that CONSTANTLY! It's like he's bored if his mind can't try to do two things at once. Or maybe he has problems focusing. Hey, wasn't this video about being rude?!

@fobuloustv 5 жыл бұрын

Rude you might say but I think it just highlights how good the buns really were LOL

@dntboreme 5 жыл бұрын

I realized something. If I'm sharing food with my wife, it takes her like 20 sec to decide where she is going to bite and is always a small bite. But not with Vivie, man she gets that's bite, chomp, watch your fingers.

@alinenunes3684 5 жыл бұрын

dntboreme - She’s pregnant 😄

@AndyOO6 5 жыл бұрын

she eats so awesome, I was watching and going omg that is perfect how she eats.

@NJ-wb1cz 5 жыл бұрын

@@AndyOO6 ........... That's creepy.

@AndyOO6 5 жыл бұрын

lol, I'm watching thinking I need to up my game and level my eating like a pro skill. watching this really pointed out how poor my ability to eat and not look like an animal is. ya my gf tells me not to lick the plate in public.. so maybe how I eat is a bit rude but not the intent of my complement of her skill and tact.

@JiaruiChen_ 2 жыл бұрын

@@AndyOO6 u must also be a villager like her

@Cyberfoxxy 5 жыл бұрын

"Don't bring anything!" *Doesn't bring anything* "So rude!"

@fat1fared 5 жыл бұрын

Manners and etiquette are a way to show respect. Chinese culture - like everywhere - has a series of norms and ideals that forms it view of manners and etiquette, but I think the core basis of it is different to the UK. In the UK, manners generally come from showing patience and humility. You need to show you do not consider yourself better than anyone else. The age old stereotypes on queuing is a good example of this. No matter who you are, you do not have the right to go in front of anyone else to get a service. In China, manners generally come from showing closeness and honesty. You do not need a good friend to say thank you when you help them because if you are honestly their good friend, you would want to help them. Requiring them to say thank you could imply you consider helping them an inconvenience. This is not to say the ideals around humility, patience, closeness and honesty not universal, but that where one puts the focus does impact what they would consider to be good manner.

@jamescampbell5374 5 жыл бұрын

You say Thank you to show gratitude for Help or being Served in some way, It is VERY Impolite to NOT say Thank you. If your best friend helps you move some furniture, you say Thank you, it would be so rude to not say thank you and would show they are not your best friend and you take them for granted. Its amazing how may people these days are brought up with no Etiquette.

@fat1fared 5 жыл бұрын

James Campbell thank you for assuming what I do and do not say to people based on me showing awareness of another culture’s way of approaching the world. As a award, here is a thought exercise. My Chinese mother-in-law picks me up from the airport. If I say thank you to her, this will actively make her uncomfortable as it implies I do not consider her family. Which is truly polite: a) saying thank you anyway despite knowing this and how it will make her feel; or b) learn about her culture and how people express gratitude in her culture, and then show gratitude in that way. Thanks in advance for answering.

@calforrai 5 жыл бұрын

@@fat1fared Everyone is different. You don't have to jump to the conclusion that's the one and only Chinese culture out there. There's also the "Chinese culture" that you most definitely need to thank the person especially when the person says you don't need to thank him/her. I'm Chinese and I would go with A. Showing gratitude is the most basic part of being a decent human being. It should never change no matter where you go or who you live with.

@matthewtartt9422 2 жыл бұрын

@@jamescampbell5374 I find it rude that you force your norms onto others without understanding the other side.

@sirfer6969 Жыл бұрын

@@matthewtartt9422 The other side has no manners and doesn't even keep their mouths closed to chew just like wild animals, how are we to respect them? Not to mention they don't show any cultural sensitivity towards others, even when visiting or emigrating..

@juststeve5542 5 жыл бұрын

You started off as a cool guy with a Cafe racer, now it's scooter and Hello Kitty hat... I find this change disturbing. @serpentza - I think he needs an intervention!

@hannakinn 5 жыл бұрын

Steve Evans - Haha, it takes a manly dude to wear a Hello Kitty helmet, ride a scooter and have a hot pregnant wife. Maybe he's just balancing all that testerone with the sissy stuff, if not he might Hulk out. He's seeking balance bro.

@BothHands1 5 жыл бұрын

I love it

@georgesahinidis7994 5 жыл бұрын

That is a very racist thing to say... what's wrong with the scouter and the hello kitty... Chinese people use them all the time... I think they are cool

@glenjamindle 5 жыл бұрын

And ladies glasses

@BothHands1 5 жыл бұрын

George Sahinidis - he's not saying anything about race. You might have a leg to stand on if you said "sexist" but even then, I'd disagree. But at least you'd be striking out in the right ballpark. Or you're joking and I'm too drunk to pick up the sarcasm? That's a possibility i guess lol But i personally love a guy who's comfortable enough with himself to not care about that shit.

@britannia55 5 жыл бұрын

The lady who served you the buns is giving you the dragon stare...

@aleksinuutila2315 5 жыл бұрын

Cool concept. ADV china is a talk show on two bikes, but this video is a talk show on ONE bike.

@xenonram 5 жыл бұрын

ADVChina with Winston and C-Milk one one scoot. Two-up, with Winston on back of course.

@aleksinuutila2315 5 жыл бұрын

@@xenonram Thought of winston holding tight on C-milks back cracks me up.

@MilesBellas 5 жыл бұрын

RIP butterfly

@TheMrleo007 5 жыл бұрын

This answered some concerns I've had. I'm an elder and now I know why they push the food to me when we go out with my wife's friends. Eating is an adventure for the Chinese that for sure.

@YesuAiNimen 2 жыл бұрын

My girlfriend is Chinese and when I ask her for things or she gives gifts to me and I say "thank you" she almost always gets on my case for being "too formal" or "too polite" to her.

@yccn410 5 жыл бұрын

In China, people call servers '服務員(literally means server)'. But in Taiwan, people call server '先生/小姐(Sir or Miss)'. It's considered rude if you call them 服務員 in Taiwan.

@tylermoses8104 5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes when my husband speaks to wait staff and shop workers, they seem slightly uncomfortable or confused by some of this mannerisms. We live in Zhuhai, however he studied and lived in America for 9 years in the south. Obviously, Americans will understand by saying "the south" he became accustomed to the southern hospitality. After we decided to move to zhuhai, his newly found southern hospitality followed. Since he is Chinese, some here think he is trying to get something from them or something haha. Like holding doors, asking random people how their day is and so on. Lol

@mutestingray 3 жыл бұрын

Hell, it’s like that in America too. As soon as I leave the Gulf South people look at you like an alien lol. What I’m interested in knowing is how do you guys talk and address one another? I find that with familiars your guard comes down and you can be a lot more “loose” without it coming across as rude. Does this Chinese attitude rub off on you?

@SteveMack 5 жыл бұрын

Love seeing you two together; you're made for each other. I've now passed 50 but I remember as a young Australian boy, my Mum saying that sitting on hot surfaces like concrete can give you piles... wonder if we got that silly idea from China or vice versa. Also when I was in South Korea 15 + years ago Hello Kitty was just becoming a big thing but I believe it was Korean, so maybe the Chinese adopted it or perhaps it was the other way around? I think manners are always important, but sadly in the west they seem to be becoming rarer & rarer.

@russellmayers5966 5 жыл бұрын

hello kitty was from japan

@Zenboy23 5 жыл бұрын

I´ve heard about getting hemorroids that way in Mexico too! Maybe there´s something true behind this grandmas tales...

@SteveMack 5 жыл бұрын

...Grandma's ALWAYS right!! hahaha 😆👍

@tracyl5639 5 жыл бұрын

My mother, a typical Chinese lady said the similar thing about piles.she also said men are easier getting piles than women lol

@SteveMack 5 жыл бұрын

That MIGHT be true - My girlfriend OFTEN says I am "a pain in the arse!" 😆🙃

@ivicaignjatovic5890 5 жыл бұрын

Having watched many of your and Winston's videos I am always amazed with the similarities Chinese people share with Serbians even though these two countries are miles away, one being in South-eastern Europe and other one in Asia...I don't know why is that really...

@ItsameAlex 5 жыл бұрын

If you read ''a troublesome inheritance'' you will understand why.

@smokeyrivermystic 5 жыл бұрын

I just wanna say thanks. I met a chinese girl when she came here on a student Visa and while she was obtaining her master's in accounting. I was a Serbian Orthodox Christian and she was a Chinese Communist Athiest. We fell in love and at the same time she fell in love with my faith. We got married after her baptism and chrismation and joined the Russian Church as a family. Before we got married I went and met her whole family over a two week period. At the end, her uncle one, asked why we weren't married, so I asked her dad for a blessing to get married. We've been married for 3 years now. I can't remember when I started watching your channel but I just want you to know that you've really helped our marriage. It's really helpful how you're showing us the differences and commonalities in our cultures. Before going to China I thought I knew it all being american and having experienced so many cultures here in America. Of course I was simple minded and closed off more than I thought. Now we are still growing through our diversity and you're really helping us bridge the culture gap. How can I learn more about chinese culture? My wife was telling me to study Sun Tzu but I think that's making it more complex than what it needs to be. Very informative video. Keep it up. It'd be cool to ride through China like you've done. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

@strongerstone9651 5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with these comments, you should pay more attention when your wife is speaking. because she isn't a native speaker, you should give her time to expression herself and help her sometimes.

@BoissonMedia 5 жыл бұрын

The "I can't breathe" shirt, I died, of all the shirts. lol I am 1000000000% sure that person has no idea about what that shirt is about.

@sugarshine 5 жыл бұрын

Omg lol

@AA123TD 5 жыл бұрын

yeah, I felt sick in my stomach when I saw it

@DubbleStepRecords 5 жыл бұрын

Fucking love you man, something about your videos make me feel so at ease.

@NephilaClavata 5 жыл бұрын

My dad's family is Hungarian and my mother's parents are Russian. We have the similar table placement (elder sits at the head of the table and is served first), wait until everyone has food before eating, and also give gifts when we visit people.

@cato.hermansen 5 жыл бұрын

Good video as allways. I'm in Nanning, Guangxi right now, and I must say... The evenings are the best, the days are too hot... Your videos have answered a lot of questions and thanks to you, I feel very well prepared for this visit. The language barrier has been overcomed by the Google Translate app, and it actually speaks chinese. I guess Google are only banned on domestic phones and computers... 😊 Thanks for all the great videoes, keep it up.

@joeliao6410 5 жыл бұрын

Google translation can work in China. I do foreign business, So I need it everyday for some word translate. But For other APP like Gmail, Google earth, Google play can't be use directly. I use Some free VPN app to solve it. Fast and easy.

@jordini3381 5 жыл бұрын

I'm from the UK and this pretty much sums up British banter. Insult your friends for no real reason just cos👌

@juststeve5542 5 жыл бұрын

Oh god yes! They say that men insult each other to their faces, but don't mean it. Women bitch behind each others back and mean every word. Me and my friends/workmates rip the shit out of each other constantly. I work for a small, very male dominated company, so the piss-taking is constant. A couple of years ago we were looking at expanding, and added a female to the mix. We were terrified of ending up in some kind of tribunal! Thank god she has two brothers, and is quite the tom-boy. If anything the banter has got worse, and it's so much fun. One of the original guys actually reaches his "acceptable" limit before our young lady, which is even funnier!

@krollpeter 5 жыл бұрын

British banter is always with a smile in your eyes. In Asia - as she explained correctly but interrupted by the hubby - manners are mainly for people of higher grade / tier / importance, not for your friends and even lesser for lower tier people.

@jesondag 5 жыл бұрын

I'm american, and my friends and I do that too, just not quite as much as brits.

@marvinbush5278 5 жыл бұрын

@@jesondag I think you guys are missing the point. Insulting one another is one thing and being rude is quite different.

@jesondag 5 жыл бұрын

@@marvinbush5278 Nobody said it wasn't. We are simply talking about banter between friends, and that it's a normal thing between friends. I think you're not understanding what the discussion was.

@Sayuthecat 5 жыл бұрын

I think you should have credited SATW (Scandinavia and the World) for the China Russia relationship comic ^^ Just saying as she is an amazing artist and have great humor!

@syntaxerror8955 5 жыл бұрын

But the video was about being rude to friends. Since they used SATWs comics, SATW are probably seen in friendly terms, and thus it would be too nice to give credit. :-)

@Machiavellinetta 5 жыл бұрын

Hey guys. I think I've never commented on any of your vids before, but I just could not resist this time. Vivi - you are absolutely glowing! 😍 Not sure if it's the pregnancy or Taiwan air (or both), but you look simply stunning! This is coming from a fellow woman and is not intended to be weird, just in case you're wondering 😉 The two of you seem perfect for each other (with or without eyebrows 😉). Thanks for the great content 😊 PS: Have you considered having a competition/quiz kind of thing with people guessing the name of your new little one? Not sure if you have already decided on one, but if so, you could give indirect, hidden clues throughout your videos (say, if it's e.g. Natalia, you could talk about Christmas out of nowhere). I think it could be really fun 😊 I don't mean to impose on your privacy of course!

@ggarzagarcia 5 жыл бұрын

Well, I'm not concerned about their interactions. I'm not Chinese and will never be. But when I'm there in their home, I have to play by their rules. When they are in the West they have to play by our rules. But we *both* make mistakes too, and do culturally insensitive things.

@tomster7574 5 жыл бұрын

Gerardo Garza García i live in vancouver canada and so many different cultures. Many of which demand their customs be observed while ignoring ours is also demanded. But i doubt that would be accepted in their home countries. I used to be married to a latina and was constantly told this by her friends and family. Thats not what ended us but i couldnt stand always hearing that. Yet the latinos did this but did it much less than many others such as mid easterns and chinese, not asians, just chinese. Sometimes koreans. The rest just kept to themselves and ignored the world around them but were usually quite integrated otherwise.

@justinh2444 2 жыл бұрын

They don’t play by west rules, still rude as shit

@johnkeel2636 5 жыл бұрын

funny how you repeatedly talk about foul manners in china...and BLAH BLAH BLAH how everything is great in america, you are always cutting your wife short when she speaks, or making a smart remark about what she says ? respect your wife first and respect other cultures secondly.

@GlitterPrincessOfDarkness 5 жыл бұрын

agreed. i noticed that too. whelp.

@GamesFromSpace 5 жыл бұрын

Where was he talking about how great america is? I think you read too much into things.

@anikawang9569 5 жыл бұрын

Word!

@Spacemonkeymojo 5 жыл бұрын

He's a white guy who went to China for sex, what else would you expect lol. These guys think they're better than Asian people and their wives think they are marrying "up" by marrying someone who's white. Mark my words, in 5 years time they'll be divorced.

@robertgeorge9540 5 жыл бұрын

Night your missing the point the closer you are to someone the greater it is accepted to be so called rude or straight forward as this shows you understand each other.

@jonathanmcculley3728 5 жыл бұрын

When my girlfriend came to meet my family for the first time she was always asking me what kind of gift to bring. I told her that a gift wasn't needed. But she kept asking, so we ended up buying wine and chocolate. Definitely a culture shock moment for me.

@warrenlauzon5315 5 жыл бұрын

That is one of the most annoying things to me about Asian cultures. Getting and giving gifts that nobody really wants but then you feel obligated to return the gesture.

@jonathanmcculley3728 5 жыл бұрын

Warren Lauzon my family appreciated it, but said it wasn’t needed. I’ll probably do the same for her family just to be respectful of the culture though

@ursodermatt8809 5 жыл бұрын

and possibly the most cheapest money can buy

@sudevinadiyasamanich9081 5 жыл бұрын

Warren Lauzon Who doesn’t like chocolate and wine brought to them for free?

@tomster7574 5 жыл бұрын

Jonathan Mcculley its a very superficial cultural custom.

@Alex-js7td 5 жыл бұрын

Luckily we have three channels cmilk, SerpentZA and advchina to alternatively watch during a week so that the waiting time is like only 2 days instead of 7 days. 😘😘😘

@jessiehorne 5 жыл бұрын

Wonderful video with your gorgeous wife Vivi ☺️ Nice to see you and her riding enjoying yourselves ☺️ STAY LAOWINNING C-Milk and Vivi the OG Vivister 👍💪🏼

@laowhy86 5 жыл бұрын

@sturmdrang4976 5 жыл бұрын

Jessie Horne Vivi is a very intelligent and well educated woman...Unlike world star Gigolo's fake MD wife ,😂😂

@jessiehorne 5 жыл бұрын

universe earth Yes I agree and have stated that in previous video comment sections

@Soruk42 5 жыл бұрын

In UK, manners and politeness are ALWAYS important.

@PERUANO31 5 жыл бұрын

that is the way it should be all over the world, it's common sense

@john7017 5 жыл бұрын

We bring Beer to our friends house in the USA. Great video! Thanks for sharing.

@worldtravel101 5 жыл бұрын

Come on over bro 🍻

@user-zw5ww9tz1j 5 жыл бұрын

You killed a butterfly? 😭😭😭

@snowdog03 5 жыл бұрын

🙏

@machiato031 5 жыл бұрын

Well I'm from Croatia and some manners are the same. For example, when you go visit someone like friends and family, you bring gift. It's not important is ti candy box, some liker, coffee, flowers etc Most of time my mother will bring something for the man in house and women in house and if they have kids, then she brings some kids snacks. When there is big family dinner or lunch, head of family or the oldest one sits at the head of table or sometimes owner of the house, man offcourse will sit on head on table (because tradition is liberal :D). I don't know why but it is often traditional when the food is served, lady of house will put food on guest table. Fun fact, older people like my granny would always hit me if I sat on corner of the table, you know sharp one, and say don't sit there you will never get married and have children. Also when guest are leaving my mom for example will pack some food to them to bring there home, main dish and if there is some cakes she will pack it to. It's common really, that is how it's going for ages.

@snowdog03 5 жыл бұрын

Wow That's a trip. Thanks for for sharing. 👍

@SPDavid 5 жыл бұрын

Croatia is an overpriced shit hole.

@vanstockholm3712 5 жыл бұрын

Jedna milka cokolada i 200 grama kafe

@machiato031 5 жыл бұрын

@@SPDavid thanks man for your opinion, because of that milions come every year👍 but what is the point of your comment, we are talking about manners.

@machiato031 5 жыл бұрын

@@vanstockholm3712 Franck kava ciglica, litra rakije, jedna bajadera :)

@TheBradylands 5 жыл бұрын

Another great video,I understand my wife more LOL

@Y2J 5 жыл бұрын

Wooo thank you, I was mentioned at the end :)

@laowhy86 5 жыл бұрын

Your channel is carded, and pinned to the top as well. Also in the description. Everyone check him out.

@ulf___ 4 жыл бұрын

@6:00 Not all Asia. In the Philippines, most people say "Salamat" (Thank you) to everyone.

@RParmable 5 жыл бұрын

Where is Olivia? ? I bet she is big now. Another great video guys

@troutunderscore3 5 жыл бұрын

I dated a chinese girl and she would get angry at me for saying sorry or thank you when she'd do something for me. We were in America (she was studying here and I'm american)

@Bubble23428 5 жыл бұрын

@SeekerKC 5 жыл бұрын

C-Milk, assuming you were raised to say "Please" & "Thank you" with service staff, do you still do so even though China has been your home for so many years? If not, do you automatically switch back while in the States?

@Sock1122 5 жыл бұрын

love these videos but you should really learn to pay attention to Vivi when she's speaking man, always with the buns and intterupting to be like "whoa, theres stuff inside a bun, who'd have believed it?" ;)

@holmesg195 5 жыл бұрын

I guess that's the point of this video....

@alcyonae 5 жыл бұрын

That’s one thing I appreciate about US and Nordic folks, they won’t talk over you. The more south you go the more it seems culturally acceptable, at least on average.

@egovitasum 4 жыл бұрын

It's bothering the way he doesn't pay attention to his wife

@Forgiven1978 5 жыл бұрын

IN Japan everyone is polite and say thank you and hello and goodbye . Not the same as China.

@danholo 5 жыл бұрын

It's good to be 'rude' or more specifically, have chutzpah, to survive in Israel. The culture is just so blunt that you'll need to voice what you need without hesitation. I'm from Finland and the culture is quite passive and polite so it was hard to adjust.

@denniscacamis5055 5 жыл бұрын

Hey always enjoy checking out your videos from time to time. IT was very interesting to find out your from Binghamton. I stay at Tioga Downs, when I visit my kids In PA. Just retired , always thought about coming someday. Thanks again

@user-kz3bs4tp1l 5 жыл бұрын

Hi. I always enjoy watching your videos. so interesting! The is one thing I'd like to ask you... Vivi, please do not say "In Asia". Asia is a huge continent. Please explain things saying "In China, ...". A lot of Chinese culture/customs don't apply at all in my one of other Asian countries ! Thank you ;) Hope you won't find this offensive ;) Good luck with your videos and always looking forward to watching new ones !

@DCyph3r. 5 жыл бұрын

Why are you wearing Vivi sunglasses? 😂

@natashaoneluv3776 5 жыл бұрын

I wonder if strangers in China smile at each other if they don't know one another like in my country the UK. Or does it only happen if they know each other. and also I love your channel keep up the good work 😍👍💯😁😍🇬🇧🇯🇲💖

@lulul0l039 5 жыл бұрын

Haha, I didn't expect to see "Scandinavia and the world" comic here, but it feels natural since it's about culture. Really good episode, clears up some misconceptions about the apparent rudeness I had.

@lulul0l039 5 жыл бұрын

@betzstump Kudos to you then👍. I wasn't aware of this side, I thought it was just dropping the disguise if you have nothing to gain for it. Hierarchy and formality are usually a match, but maybe this is more modern (cultural revolution) thing though.

@kennygoody5862 5 жыл бұрын

Hello Matt, I am from Ohio and was always told hemorrhoids come from sitting on cement benches , anything hard.

@juststeve5542 5 жыл бұрын

I'm from UK, and I remember being told not to sit on heating radiators for the same reason.

@susanspiffley8777 5 жыл бұрын

I was told that cold concrete caused them.

@ShawNshawN 5 жыл бұрын

c-milk is melting and then you guys are eating hot buns!! LOL

@chuckinchina6926 5 жыл бұрын

Great video! Very insightful, I'm learning about a lot of these customs now in grad school.

@littlehx1 5 жыл бұрын

Really i think you're lucky to find Vivi. not a lot of girls could put up with this conversation. You were talking about bringing gifts when visit, Vivi said 'my dad thought i was the bad one not telling you should bring something.' you said ' look at this bun, oh what's this inside? oh it's cheese!'//////////////

@simpernchong 5 жыл бұрын

As an Asian, i feel it is shameful and disgusting for us to treat workers and service people rudely. I see people do it all the time including relatives. It is just an obvious lack of empathy... nothing cultural at all.

@massivefins2597 5 жыл бұрын

You didn't TRIGGER Vivi when you licked your fingers... Ive had Chinese people FREAK out when I did that....

@Dowlphin 5 жыл бұрын

So unhygienic? xD

@thongd4me 4 жыл бұрын

Very interesting. But here's another take on this. My Thai wife worked for almost 10 years in a supermarket deli in NY and she constantly complained to me about how rude the customers were, compared to her native Thailand. She said if Thai customers ever spoke to a vendor in a market like her customers speak to her, they would get something thrown at them by the vendor. Thailand is not China but that's how it is there.

@Charvo75 5 жыл бұрын

I think it might be Asia in general because cutting in line seems to be par for the course in Southeast Asian countries too. You have to be aggressive in order to get what you want. Growing up in the USA, everyone is taught to say "thank you" for basically everything given to them. I think this applies in Asia. Maybe it is the introverted nature of Asians vs the extroverted nature of Westerners. Being expressive of gratitude is expected in the West while being too open about any kind of feelings is shunned in Asia.

@johnalchin9175 5 жыл бұрын

Hi My name is John Alchin and I went to see the movie Crazy Rich Asians and it was all about the Chinese people in Singapore and how they treated an American Chinese lady. It gave me a closer look at what you were saying about saving face. It reminded me of the way the English treated lowly poor people. If you haven't seen it I recommend you go to see it.

@raymonblodgett4537 5 жыл бұрын

Vivi . .It's a trap. hehehe. I don't know why but I really liked this video. I think it was just the two of you together that gave me this happy feeling. I sometimes play parts of the video over to see everything going on and the other people. I have really enjoyed the years of all of you and sharing with us. I thank you for that. And I have learned a lot about China too. Much love to you all, C-milk, Vivi, Olivia and soon new baby girl. ps.. The Hello Kitty helmets were awesome!

@shayanpp3306 5 жыл бұрын

same in australia, we usually say "oi cunt, pass me the ketchup"

@ColeEamon 5 жыл бұрын

Love these videos man keep up the good work. Nice scenery at the start too

@sdb3039 5 жыл бұрын

Vivi looks great as usual

@TRAPSQUAD187 3 жыл бұрын

She always does

@TheHulkNorris 5 жыл бұрын

I am so glad that Taiwanese are not like that. If you would talk to them that rude, you would just lose friends.

@jyashin 5 жыл бұрын

Then you didn't really have a great connection with them in the first place. In the US, when you meet friends you should act warm and excited. When you meet your GOOD friends, you just smack talk each other and greet with obscenities.

@TheHulkNorris 5 жыл бұрын

@@jyashin sorry to hear that you treat friends like that.

@tomster7574 5 жыл бұрын

jyashin dude, thats gansta crap style. The small minority of idiots do that. Real people dont do that. And you have to be very close friends. Not just casual friends or acquaintances. And still its rare, very rare. If thats all you do with your friends, you all wannabe low life comedians.

@gregbrogan9061 5 жыл бұрын

My thoughts... The pre-Communist Chinese elite were sophisticated, refined, cultured and had polite manners and the proletariate/peasant were rough, loud and direct. The Communists, especially in the Cultural Revolution, crushed the elites and raised up the proletariate/peasants. It was actually dangerous to show refined/cultured manners. That is partly why, in general, Taiwanese are more polite than mainland Chinese... Even the communists renaming the national language to 普通话 / putonghua / common language was lowering the concept of the "Mandarin" of the elites, to the ordinary commoner's rough language. I noticed Viv say "Asian" in a couple vids (including here) when I think she should have said "Chinese" because Asia has many unique cultures that differ. And when it comes to small-talk... Yah, Americans are good, Brits a bit less, but the most charming small-talkers are the Irish! They are so friendly... I had an Irish guy tell me that the absolute worst job for an Irishman is to try to be a "spy" because everyone wants to know your business and everyone is interconnected so you can't fool anyone for long. LOL

@genxman7211 5 жыл бұрын

I’m an English teacher in Melbourne Australia with lots of Chinese students. This video makes so many things clear!

@joeliao6410 5 жыл бұрын

Australia offers an easy entrance level For those students who live in rich family but poor in study. I really look down those Guy in China. They have money But poor educated, also they like to go abroad 😆, and think they still can have special respect from people in other country. Just ignore those silly students, and give praise to wisdom one.😀

@genxman7211 5 жыл бұрын

Joe Liao some of my students are really good people. Some others are exactly what you say! I don’t have time for those people who are just given everything without having to work for it. Most of my Chinese friends and students, Rich or poor are great people. Many are like my children to me.

@joeliao6410 5 жыл бұрын

@@genxman7211 Good to hear this. You knows the differences of people.

@melscotto5330 5 жыл бұрын

You took her sandwich! Just snatched it and took a bite. RUDE! 🤭

@markrichey3490 5 жыл бұрын

I’ve watched these vids before I arrived in China,Now I’ve been in China almost a year and I find them very helpful.

@salihzanatta3116 4 жыл бұрын

Look at you guys. So happy. Miss seeing you guys so happy

@leifjohnson2081 2 жыл бұрын

Super helpful I knew it was rude to tip when eating. I knew Chinese people were considered rude in western cultures. But been dating a Chinese girl for almost 2 months and it’s just their culture it’s not meant to be rude. Just very blunt.

@tisha4uri425 5 жыл бұрын

Americans back in the 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's would bring a gift to someones home first time visiting....we have lost the courtesy of the years, we just show up on folks front door like (what's poppin) now days 😂😂😂😂

@scotishcovenanters 5 жыл бұрын

I also have noticed that you treat your wife disrespectfully. She is so sweet, funny and fun! No American girl would ever put up with how rude you are to her. I have watched 26 videos of you now, and I feel very sorry for Vivi. Sometimes you can tell it hurts her feelings because it shows on her face. Don't think that you can get away with it forever because one day she will have had enough. Your kids also will grow up hearing how you treat her, and they will think less of her also.

@AutumnFog 3 жыл бұрын

🙌🏻

@bilawl9359 5 жыл бұрын

we want the old intro back :(

@livetotravelworldd3382 5 жыл бұрын

Hello there! My husband and I really like to watch your channel. Keep up good work!

@peterbrad9727 5 жыл бұрын

The minimum wage is 1 to 3 dollars an hour in Mainland China. You don’t expect a good service from that. Taiwan is about 6 dollars an hour on the other hand.

@tomster7574 5 жыл бұрын

Wang Joey that only ever matters with the cost of living in the area you are getting paid. If my income is $10 a month but my expenses are $5, im doing ok. Same as if my income is $10gs a month but my expenses are $5gs. Same success rate. Its the cost of living.

@i13tony 5 жыл бұрын

Great video! Enjoyed the topic and based on that info, it’s clear you’re best friends! 🤗🤗🤗

@tengun 5 жыл бұрын

I'm hungry just by looking at those steamed buns :(

@AnqiXu1988 5 жыл бұрын

What Vivi said is not entirely true that people are rude because of social hierarchy.In Japan, customers are very polite to waiters and cashiers. btw I am 100% Chinese so definitely no bias

@kristinepfs 5 жыл бұрын

I like the Hello Kitty helmets! Especially in the shots with you two together.

@hilaryjones3227 5 жыл бұрын

I may be old fashioned but I think good manners and respect should always be observed whatever country you are in or from,regardless of whether you are family, friends or strangers. Hilary U.K.

@The_Gallowglass 5 жыл бұрын

My aunt is like that. She'll say don't get her anything and then when you don't she gets pissed off and calls you cheap. I hate fake humility. I think even in the USA people expect you to bring something, even if they don't ask. We used to eat with my mother's parents all the time, especially during the holidays and my grandfather had a beautiful hardwood dining table and chairs. His chair was the only one with arms, but I remember him letting me sit there all the time.

@Sandro1155 5 жыл бұрын

"You know what I love on a hot day? A hot steamed bun *Sarcasm*" - two minutes later - "Oh damn that's delicious, that's my stuff!"

@robertsmith6643 5 жыл бұрын

2:30 never knew what betel nut was until i started working with a bunch of people from south east asia. Just about everyone chews it while at work, you can smell it every time they pass by.

@danielmaclaren3065 5 жыл бұрын

Pregnancy really suits vivi

@amberong3934 5 жыл бұрын

My husband is like that, but we live in America, so he always says rude/offensive stuff to my family. He still doesn’t know what he can and can’t say.

@moldoveanu8 5 жыл бұрын

Man that good looking sooo good. I had a Korean dish similar to that. Looked 90% identical except the stuff inside.

@golferchin76 5 жыл бұрын

Rude, manner, is relative. It's also good to have people of different manners because that's what makes us human. If we are all the same, would it be strange? But, I don't like to be rude to anything, and I try to be mindful about my thoughts and my behavior.

@jaja2608 5 жыл бұрын

New intro! Not bad, not bad :)

@davidb2206 5 жыл бұрын

The rudeness of the mainland Han does not apply to other Asians. The proof is that even the Thais are offended by the mainland Chinese and have banned them from certain tourist spots and guest hotels. The whole attitude with language is also different. The traditional Thais from good families (regardless of income or education) always used the particles "ka" (female) and "krup" (male) to end their sentences, even to servers, as an automatic indicator of politeness and respect. I heard it used with all classes of workers a million times, even with taxi drivers who are not in the category that people would assume command much politeness. It was always used with waitresses and waiters.

@happymunchkin2812 5 жыл бұрын

No country wants Chinese people to travel to their country anymore and I heard so much about the issues. Some countries even go farther that they won’t give visas to Chinese people. Even third world countries 🙁. BTW, I love that you two eating and sharing info to us. Thanks

@joeliao6410 5 жыл бұрын

no country wants? your country?😆

@ytfp 5 жыл бұрын

You two are looking very happy on this trip. Vivi looks great with hair in a pony tail on the side. Fab couple! Those bao look fab too.

@GlitterPrincessOfDarkness 5 жыл бұрын

For me it goes into catagories: Strangers Friends Close friends & Family Depending on the environment whether it's a casual environment or not, I'd most likely always say Please and thank you, For friends, it's a bit flexible, still keeping the thank you and probably dropping the please depending on how well we vibing, Close friends and family? Nah. I feel it'd actually be ruder if I said thank you and please. It's like I'm treating them as strangers. so gotta keep the environment flexible and friendly without being formal. It's like we already know we'd be thankful and grateful for the things close friends & family do, so there isn't any need for me to awkwardly say thank you or please. and that's all just me

@jonyap79 5 жыл бұрын

Manners are use as a level of varying respect, eg not to an elder nor important but to close friends; p & q are place aside mainly because it create an impression of closeness where we can impose on each other without the business front when you outside this “inner circle” concept, take it as a complement with friends or be alert when with strangers. On service staffs, it is not really consider rude in China or Asia if you just get to the point and order without the “please could you”, it is actually consideration to the service staff in a busy environment to get things going without the additional blather, just skip the intro main and go straight to the summary. However saying thank you at the end of the day does make someone’s day, which a lot of people do skip, should be encouraged.

@bored9722 5 жыл бұрын

Great video! Is probably too late... but I wish you had talked about Taiwan while in Taiwan rather than about China...

@davesmith9325 5 жыл бұрын

Vivi just gets better and better, looks so relaxed and easy, and looking great, a natural.

@StuntmanDavie 5 жыл бұрын

great video mate!

@enpappa 5 жыл бұрын

I think it's important for one to be aware of coming to China. Good manners. Not to embarrass yourself or others. And to show that even a foreigner "can behave". More of this please.

@avidian888 5 жыл бұрын

I don't think that that's the 'Chinese' culture, it's in fact a lack of culture that exists only because of Maoism and their hard work in order to destroy the old Chinese culture, which was very polite and complex.

@innote9314 5 жыл бұрын

Being rude is not rare in China that's true，and between close friends and relatives we are not always say please & thank you，but we always show our gratitude and appreciation just not literally, some subculture do swear to each other show closeness. What I find offensive is that you think all Chinese are rude to service staff，and think someone who work at service industry are somehow inferior. It‘s very common seeing someone act that way，but it's definitely not because of the culture. Most Chinese don't have the privilege get good education，many don't even get the most basic education，famine and persecution older generation going through also don’t help，and it may have bad influences when they raising child. It’s just hunger and persecution when they gone something gonna stay with you. My parents always think it's wired that I say thank you every time I‘ve been served，they are kind，but they think doing their jobs are not something you need to say thanks unless it's really good. Be polite is not unusual in China, many are really uncivilized，but you also can meet many well-mannered Chinese，it's just something China need to keeping working on. I don't know where your wife get the ideal，one of the benefit of socialism is that many Chinese do believe all peoples are equal, and they demand it. It's just most of us don't know the truths.

@innote9314 5 жыл бұрын

Sorry for my broken English

@Shenzhou. 5 жыл бұрын

其实我们的祖国有素质高的人只不过素质低的人有点多而且奇葩被爆出来了…

@tomster7574 5 жыл бұрын

Living in vancouver canada most of my life and many chinese here, here, not china but here, they are mostly rude. Even the kids born and raised here do the same. Not as much but still. They are pushy and insensitive and oh so materialistic. While im talking to a chinese service and another chinese comes up and interrupts, they are not told to wait, they ignore me instead and i have to wait, if i wait. I often dont bother anymore with chinese stores cuz of that. Seems the older they get the more rude and arrogant they get. And when asked of this, they always say ‘but when in china,,,,,’ but you aint in china,,,,,,,,,,, and every chinese girl that has ever shown interest or me in her, the next question is,,,,,, how much money do you make? Then; What is your job? Where do you live? How big is your house? How much did you pay for it? They always say it nicely, until they think its not enuf then they are jerks, rude arrogant jerks. And trying to get the truth of them. Even my chinese friends of many years, always fake excuses instead of just saying the truth

@boojablegoogle1245 3 жыл бұрын

Okay so this was really helpful because I'm extremely polite like Japanese people but I work for Chinese people and they eat me alive. I try so hard to be polite, but this video makes sense because if I say something like"please pass me the ketchup" they get mad. When I get frustrated and give more of "give me the g d ketchup" attitude they find it a lot more respectable. This is all really confusing to me because I'm just trying to be nice. I'm American but as polite as a Japanese person even Americans eat me alive, they will take advantage of that too. Everyone thinks I'm timid but really I'm trying to show respect. I'm not shy at all but it seems so.

@janevahman5788 5 жыл бұрын

Hey there, love your videos. We live in Xiamen and you answer many questions for us, things we always wondered about. Maybe you can do a video that would answer 2 questions I always wanted to know about. 1. Why do some Chinese people not cut the hair that grows out of the mole on their face? 2. Why do some Chinese men grow their nails sooo long? Love your vids keep up the good work!