Dating a women with a kid is like starting someone else's saved video game.

Whenever I think about liking a single mom: I come back here for refresher training. Problem solved.

dated a single mom for like 8 months, ugly break up, the same day we broke up she mentions how she's scared that she left me alone with her son at times....that's the moment i realized how easy it would have been for her to invent some child molestation lawsuit against me...never again with a single mom, not even for a pump and dump....stay smart my dudes.

I remember this single mom I dated, her kids were out of control and she did everything she could to alienate the father. It got to the point that I was telling her to let the father see the kids. She tried to get the kids to call me dad after like a month. I got the hell outta there.

Children are like farts, you can only really tolerate your own ones.

Dating a single mother is like doing time for a crime u didn’t commit 🤣😂

Was married to a single mother. I coached her sons hockey team taught him everything I knew about the game he was 4 when we met. He's 16 now just got sent divorce papers. I will never see him again. And we didn't have kids now I'm 48 and out of luck I guess. Don't date single moms!!!!! you will never Truly be apart of the family just a convenience and handyman.

I'll never date a single mother again.

I once dated a women who had two boys. She was cruel to her ex husband. Would not let him see his children, even though he paid child support and lived locally. He became a heavy drinker and his health deteriorated. I told her that the children were equally his and she should be fair to him. She looked at me like I was speaking Chinese. That was the last time we spoke.

dating a woman with kids is like "damn I really need complexity in my life".

You'll find these women in bars every weekend

Had a gf with a 6 year old. She used to sneak me around and never made it known to the child we were dating. That ended in 4 months. Years later we tried to make it work but this time I asked if I could be more involved in his life. She thought that was a great idea. Weeks later she told me I was doing to much and that he doesn’t need 2 dads. That relationship ended again in 3 months. Damn I was a dumbass.

As a kid of a single mom who regularly dated around. It's NOT the kids that matter more to her, but her own desires & escaping loneliness always come first instead. It's sociopathic behavior.

Single fathers should only date single mothers and vice versa. Those without children should stick to other people who don't have kids.

"the best part of dating a single mothers is all the amazing sex, respect and fun we have together. They appreciate that i'm steping up to this difficult challenge they respect me and treat me well" said no men, ever.

Dating a single mom is like paying full price for a tub of Pringles with only 2 left in the packet. The majority/ all of the value has been eaten away.

Most single moms I know use their mom as a live-in babysitter whilst going out with a different guy every week.. oh yeah and they are always complaining about how life is so hard for them because they are a single mom 🙄

Told a single mother who would not leave me alone once what my rules were: MY House, My Money, My Rules, My style of child discipline, never talked to her again after I explained that. She went crying to her daddy about how horrible I was, he told her that I sounded EXACTLY like the man she needed LOL.

I am currently in this situation...I have FINALLY seen things for what they are. Oh sht life is hell. This is all true. All of it. It's rough every day. Be safe out here fellas

I can't imagine ANY scenerio where I would date a single mother again. Ever.

Women aren't even that nurturing anymore.

"Never date/marry a single mother" was rule #1 when I was single. Never raise another man's kid...NEVER. Single fellas, learn from this man's past mistakes. Leave those women alone. There are millions more

I wish I knew this stuff years ago. I married a single mom who had a 7 year old daughter. I scolded the daughter once because I saw her wind up and kick my puppy in the guts while wearing boots. The wife threatened to go to the police with a child abuse claim. After the divorce was filed, and the wife was out of the house, I discovered there was a lot more going on. While watching a video on my ipad of the wife screaming at me (I had the foresight to record things) the dog would start wimpering, cowering, and crying. I tested this by watching the same video a day later, and the dog once again cowered and cried. I'm guessing she abused the dog (pup) when I was at work, and that's where her daughter learned the behavior from.

You are spot on! I am a veteran, world traveled, educated and of means. I fell into this trap, of marrying a single woman with two kids. Worst mistake of my life! Fortunately, I am divorced now, and had enough wealth off-shore to financially break her financially, for a very good divorce settlement. I was on the verge of losing 50-60% of what I had worked 40 years to achieve. I will never make that same mistake twice!

Your channel has allowed me to dodge so many bullets and I'm only 15.

The kids appreciate nothing and will find a way to ruin your relationship. Don’t do it.

If you are dating a woman with children just know that you can be dismissed at the drop of a hat. She can always retreat emotionally to the comfort of being a mother and caring for her children. The state is the father and you are replaceable.

My wife of 15 years just left me. We have 3 kids. The last 4 years I was pushed back of that line. When I would bring up how I felt, She would make me feel bad and I had to apologize! Lmao. Even after that I never thought of leaving. She’s so consumed by the kids and her mom. She completely kept pushing me aside always prioritized the kids and her mom. Good luck to the next guy!! Not going to lie Best thing thats happened to me. She will regret her decision one day.

I actually married a single mother... I would not recommend it to anyone

i support single moms every time i go to the strip club.

I’m a childless woman age 25 (waiting for the right one) and you’re speaking facts! I always avoid having single mom friends. Growing up I always felt weird seeing any single moms dating all the times and it must be confusing for the child to see their mom with many men. My old friend is now a single mom now and the dad is someone she met a short time in a vacation 🤣 What a shame. She couldn’t control her legs doing hook ups even tho she always talked about having a family. It didn’t go well.. Stay away from single moms or any single parents!

Wow, I was literally about to pay for a therapist to ask these same questions but you just answered them, I’m going to watch this twice a day for the next month, thank you

Single mothers priority order: 1. Kids/Herself 2. Cat/Dog 3. Her fellow single mothers 4. You (subject to move up the list briefly if she wants you to buy her something for herself or the kids).

The worst part is that they expect you to treat them like they are 18yo virgins again.

Dated a single mom for 7 months after coming out of an 8 year relationship. We had top tier chemistry but she was very aggressive in pushing to advance the relationship and when I tried to slow it down she would emphasize how she “doesn’t have a lot of time and isn’t here to mess around.” She has a victim mindset and brought a lot of drama and tried to pit my friends against me. I broke up with her. Reached out 4 months later to rekindle and we attempted to give it a shot but she held a grudge against me from the first go around. Kept telling me this most recent time how I needed to earn her back, constantly gave me mixed signals, was selfish, solipsistic, and backed out 3 weeks into the rekindling process. Overall, she was drama ridden, victim mindset, and put down the vast majority of men she dated. The only ones she didn’t put down were blue pilled betas who she used them for their resources and left. I doubt she will ever find her Hallmark ending. Avoid single moms like the plague, boys.

I married a women who had a 4 year old and a 1 year old when I met her. We are long divorced but the the 1 year old is now 15 and stays at my house 50% of the time. She is the best thing in my life and we couldn’t be closer. She’s always called me dad.

I notice that if you are the biological father she will still put her kids first, image how bad it will be if you are not the biological father

I married a woman with 3 kids got no respect, used my money, no return, kids never thanked me, no authority only disrespect, got taken advantage of . Getting divorced was the best decision and not adopting them thank goodness 😅

It took my son marrying and divorcing one single mother and a bad break-up with another to realize single mothers are usually single for a reason. Hopefully this is a lesson that will stick with him.

Tried it once when I was 35. Absolute worst relationship ever. Woman was a closet alcoholic, the Ex was a drug addict with a gun. they fought non-stop, she moved her DAD into the place, the 2 kids were 1-3 and she tried to make me a stay at home dad. I was the 5th priority. When I broke it off after 3 months she lied to me about being pregnant, then gangstalked me with her friends. SHE WAS NEVER PREGNANT. NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOM unless maybe shes a widower and the kid is dead and the ex is out of the picture. LMAO

My mom always, since I was a teenager, told me NEVER date a woman / girl with luggage. And listen I did. 😁

The only guy who thinks single mums are an option is a guy with no options.

Did it from the time my stepson was 10 till 21, no thanks, not grateful at all! That was some serious wasted time! My love turned into resentment for him and his mother!

Dated, married and divorced a single mom. One thing I felt when with her and her daughter, was I felt at times I was the daughters older brother... I couldn’t disappoint, and was expected just to be a friend... was very strange and broke me down.

Every date ive gone on with a single mother only revolved around what i could do for her and her kids. There was never anything in it for me. Ill never date a single mother again

I made the mistake. Dont do it!!! Run!!!

Dating a single mother is like putting gas in a car, that another man already wrecked.

He’s right and I know from being the son of mother that was in a relationship like this. Thankfully my Step Dad came into my life (I just call him dad) when I was young and I’m so happy he did. They got married pretty quickly and they stuck it out til my mother passed but I saw how hard she was on him. His life was a living nightmare to the point that I’d step in every once and a while and ask my mom to stop. I remember many times that I’ve wanted to hang with my dad and do something cool but she always had to ruin it and never let us go anywhere. I felt bad for my Dad, he really tried. He still my best friends and we love each other so much but my point is that you will have it hard. Don’t do it if you can avoid it. If you can find a single mother that is a reasonable woman and makes time for your guys relationship, than I think that’s fine but that’s hitting the lotto in this time and age.... unfortunately

It’s rough because when you’re in your 30’s almost all chicks have kids.

I was married for 15 years to a women with two kids from two different men. The part where Rich says, "You Will Never Matter as Must as the Kids"!!!!! is dead on. You are there to help facilitate the support and upbringing of the kids and depending on the type of women the upbringing part is suspect. Your time, money, resources, the stress and B.S that you put up with is never truly appreciated.

"You will never matter as much to the woman as her children." Well, and in the rare cases where this is not so, then those are the kind of women you certainly don't want to associate with.

This is a video I viewed prior to dating Monica as I was researching what it's like to date a single mom as I had never dated a single mom before. Sadly, almost a year later, the relationship has ended and everything this video speaks to is true and speaks much truth to power.

Worst experience I ever had in my life. Nine years wasted trying to raise someone else's children. You nailed it bad behavior is never addressed by the mother.

I dating a chic with a 12 year old son. For whatever reason, in Wal-Mart he decided to kidney punch me, laugh and jump back. I told him to knock it off, he didn't. I cracked him one right across the face. He told his mom, she confronted me, I told her what I did, what he did, and that I'll do it again making eye contact with the kid. He got it. She got mad. We broke up.

I just got rejected by a single mom with an 8y/o. I She complained that I wasn't stepping up enough, so she dumped me. I found out that she was hiding the kid from me to make herself look more appealing, and I never let on that I knew. good thing we were only talking for a few months! Best thing to happen to me!! Lesson learned!! And NEVER looking back!!

I am 30 years old and now married (2 year) and looking forward to our first child together. This man is dropping knowledge! I once dated a woman with children and he is spot on!

In this order: 1] Men love women 2] Women love kids 3] Kids love puppies

I was in the same situation. The thing is when you cut ties, CUT TIES! Don't talk to her AT ALL! Not even a hi, text, wave NOTHING! Move on. Women have a tendency to want to "stay friends" with their past relationships which is toxic. Especially for you.

This is spot on advice. Speaking from experience. 😅 The entire time I watched this memories came to me of being on vacation with my ex’s kid, and all the times “mama bear” protected her little cub. It doesn’t matter how well you and the single mom get along well together either, kids throw an entirely different dynamic into the scenario.

I thought this was a well thought out fair video. Rich didn't point fingers, or say single mothers are the worst. He just was straight about the fact that it's serious business, and not to be taken lightly.

You're NOT my *DAAAD!*

Dating a single mom = dating a lady in a relationship with 12 other guys

This video just made EVERYTHING so clear for me about our breakup! Thank you!!

He is saying the truth you will never be her first priority we are just meal tickets.

I have experienced this. Now at my age I will never meet anyone who does not have kids. I was always expendable. It is better to be alone than to be expendable.

💯% Undated a woman with a 12 year old daughter. The daughter like to boss us around and the woman would just go along with it. I brought it up to her and she acted like it was a personal attack on her daughter. I didn't have an issue with the child my issue was with her not correcting the child. So I broke up with her.

Literally, today 29-5-2020 I close a relationship with my girl, a mom with a little girl and a little boy. All right what you said! Guys, you are good and you are not the problem. Don’t play the “super hero”, you are not the person that will fix her past. Move on and check for a good single woman! Don’t waste your time.

This guy is speaking the truth. You, as a man, will never be a priority with a woman with kids. Simple fact. My last four ex's had kids and i became an after thought....and a excuse for me to pay for everything. If you like doing what you like and having even just a little bit of money, it won't be yours! Listen and heed the warning!!

in the interest of helping others... I dated (I wanted to marry this girl. loved her to death) a mom with two kids. I made a decision, in my heart and mind to do this. I knew deep down, it was probably going to be a bad idea, but I went through with it anyway... because love... I set my heart on this girl, and her kids... It wasn't long before the well being of her kids became the most important thing in the world to me. and honestly, I still look back at that time like the best time in my life... but, like you said... shit just didn't work out, and in an instant, I was no longer a part of their lives... these children I loved with all my heart, where no longer a part of my life, and there wasn't anything I could do about it... that shit broke me down so bad, it took me literally years before I would even let somebody close again. I don't exactly blame her for my heart ache, but I do look at every woman I meet a bit different now...

I am a widow and have a 15 year old son. My husband died 9 years ago. It's been a struggle ever since his father died. Now he has become a disrespectful holy terror. He's bigger than me and he won't listen to me. I would honestly love to have a big strong good man to whip him into shape!! He would never be acting like this if his father was here. Being a single mother is beyond hard. And to those women that still have their kids father alive and well, either try to work on the marriage for your children, or be fantastic co-parents! Either way, kids don't take mothers seriously, and they desperately need boundaries and discipline! Good men are priceless! I would treasure, at this point having a significant other who would maybe teach him how to grow into a good man and respectful human being. Ladies, don't throw the fathers of your kids away. It's about the kids, not you. So if you still have the opportunity to reconcile, for the love of God, take it.

Omg , I think this is my third comment ever in internet . I’m so thankful, I’m just coming out of a relationship that you just described . Now I realized how little she valued me. And how much I gave for her. Thank you

A smart mortician can tell when he is working on a single mother. Whenever he turns his back to her gurney she tries to pick his wallet.

Woman need to appreciate men who are willing to come in a relationship with a child.

I was about 20 or 21 years old when my granddaddy told me to never get in a ready made family and he said it just like that. He was born in 1914 dropping knowledge like that, I decided to go my own way and I didn't take the advice. I'm now 45 years old and my granddaddy has gone on and now I'm going through it with my soon to be ex wife, who told me after 10 years of raising her two kids who now are 16 and 24 that her kids come before me and not only did she just say it she showed me. I should have took my granddaddy advice. This vid is so on point, no matter how much of yourself you give you will always by the end never get your crown 👑..

I dated a single mom with a daughter who was 4 years old when we started dating. Over 4 years. I spent thousands of dollars traveling to see her and even more on gifts and dinners etc., for both of them. Upon returning home one day from visiting, she just didn’t answer my calls anymore. When I finally talked to her, she only said she “needed to move on”... I thought about all the money I spent during those 4 years. I was mad for about an hour but then thought to myself, I really didn’t wanna be anyone else’s daddy!!! So, I was actually kinda glad she ended it! And like I use to tell her during our arguments, I’ve never had any trouble finding a woman...

This is so true. Wish it knew this before I married one. She had a one night stand and got knocked up by the guitarist from Social D. She was 40 he was 25. I didn’t realize I was the safe, secure, reliable guy. I became the ATM for her and her 5 year old daughter.

I’ve had 2 very bad relationships with single Mothers. In both cases I was shocked at how unruly and disrespectful the kids were.

My best friend had an affair with my wife, we have 2 kids. They've all moved in together now and shes took the kids with her. After watching this it's made me realise what he's gonna be up against. Good luck mate haha :D

I once met a single mom who told me that her next man had to love her in this order: "Jehovah, my children and then me". I never ever asked her out on a date. I stayed far away from this woman.

Yeah, wish I had understood this a long time ago. Not only dated a single mom, but married her. Worst mistake of my life. Marriage lasted 2-years. When you are a step-parent be prepared to get all of the blame and zero credit. You are just there to shut-up and provide...

He's telling the truth, I dated a woman with a child, the acted like a brat, and the woman totally defended the child

TRUTH!!! 2 years ago, My little brother dated a single mother with 3 kids from 3 different men. Our family didn't like the idea of him dating her and dealing with the kids and the "babies daddies drama" and the stress... My brother been through so much with that woman and her children. My brother is a very generous person and he always supported her kids financially most of the time and he was never a priority in her life. I knew my little brother was not happy in that relationship But guess what, God sent the right woman at the right time in the right place into my brother's life. The babysitter hahaha. Yes, the babysitter who used to watch my brother's ex girlfriend kids while they were out on dates Lol She is absolutely beautiful inside & out, no children, educated and a God fearing woman. I just loved how things turned out at the end, my brother now is engaged to her and I can't really wait to be there at their wedding day in August :D :)

Thank you for this video! I was recently hit on by a single mother. I'm in Canada so our laws are messed up. Long story short, you can be on the hook paying support for a child that isn't yours! I explained to her that I don't date single moms, and she came back with the "who hurt you? "... "you're missing out on a great opportunity"... "I'm not like other women". I came back with, the law is the law and thst you can't give me any guarantees that you won't take me for all I have. Thank you Rich!!!!!

I'm catching this late unfortunately. Definitely appreciate this. I spoke up every time when her child was acting out. Even though this was a "conservative" woman she sided with her daughter most of the time. Needless to say, and thankfully, I escaped that hell. I even think she came across the article one day about your opinion on single moms. She brought the details mentioned in the article up to me and while I was still very much with her I said straight up, "the guy is right."

Dated a separated women with a couple of kids, got to know them, made a big effort, bought them gifts helped with birthdays and halloween costumes. I put up with only seeing her when she was free and didn't make any demands from her. After a year, her divorce became final and she ended the relationship so she could be free. A couple of weeks before I was decorating the Christmas tree with her and the kids. Now I don't see or hear about them or her. You don't matter in this scenario, you're like a treat, a luxury, you're not a necessity. The last I heard from her was that she was dating men from Bumble because she gets 'lonely'. It's honestly a lot of investment from you, for very little return and a slim chance of a future. The heartbreak was much worse because you fool yourself into thinking that they're family. They're not. They care about each other, but not you.

I have tried dating several single moms in the past few years. I am coming to the conclusion that there are plenty of reasons they are single.

So I can definitely share my story, I dated my now ex for over 6 years and I am now 46 days single. Her daughter is only 7 years old with no father figure but her dad. I wanted only the best for her, helped her get into one of the best universities in NJ(shes not going anymore), got her a brand new expensive car, put her under my health insurance, had her living with me while her daughter is being taken cared of by her mom, put her under my cellphone plan, literally anything! We were on and off and in the off she decided to date and right away sleep with another dude (hence the 46 days) long story short is exactly how you stated brother, it's sucks because I've developed such a great relationship with her daughter and her family but it's done due to her wanting to move on. As a man all I am doing is focusing my energy not on what is she doing, who is this guy, we had great memories, i may have feelings for her etc. Thats all a fantasy thats not real anymore. Sometimes your biggest struggle can be your best blessing you just needed to see not what you lost but what you are doing RIGHT NOW to better yourself, the past is the past it's today you have to worry about. Since we broke up, i just got myself a lexus, was promoted for a higher role (senior account manager) with significantly higher pay in my company, just closed on my first condo (i am 30 years old and i feel old haha), have more money in my pocket, I run every morning and training heavy each and everyday at the gym, life so far has been nothing but a blessing from the man above, does it suck being lonely yes but at the end of the day thats all it is a thought, an illusion, a fantasy that is made up in my head and how do i stop it, MEDITATING! I hope we all can heal if you are going through something like this!

When I turned 30, I got into a relationship with a divorced lady a bit older than me with several kids aged 5 - 13. The parents had never disciplined them and they ran the house. So I became the only source of boundaries or discipline they had ever known. The woman loved me but wanted to own me like they do, while the kids hated me. Let's just say that those were some challenging times! I finally escaped after 11 years... Got re-married to a childhood sweetheart and had a child, after 8 years the new one went batshit crazy and left. I finally learned to stand on my own feet and invest in myself. I think any future relationships will be just a bit more 'casual'...

I see a lot of guys online this time of year who are complaining about not being able to afford Christmas for their kids and step kids and I'm over here going this is exactly why I live the single life

Investing my time, money, and energy into another man's seed?...... no thank you!

You are 100% correct. In my case after 9 years and buying a home together with a single mom have realized that as you said the mother will always defend her child regardless of their misconduct. Thank you for making this politically incorrect video.

*Stepdad 100% responsibility 0% authority*

Divorced was marrired to single mother. 43-year-old no kids I will never do that again.

I dated this single mom who said she couldn't wait to "integrate" me into her life. What a joke. What was I thinking? She had no money and thought she was going to run my life. I have a great job and money.

I married a mother of 2 boys, both from different fathers. Yea, it was a mess and I wouldn't advise anyone to try it. She wouldn't let me discipline the boys or give them chores (we lived on a ranch) and made sure I knew they were her boys and she was in charge of them. I had been previously married and had 2 sons that were younger then her boys and she ended up running my boys off and they didn't want to come see me anymore. We went through a messy divorce that cost me close to $400,000. Definitely avoid single moms.

If you love the feeling of permanent ungratefulness, date a woman with kids! You can’t win & if so, you have no balls/life left!

my bio dad was a raging alcoholic who beat the shit out of my mom and me. after she left him, we struggled. ramen and Mac and cheese every day. she met my step dad who accepted me as his own and raised me to be a decent human being. I could have easily become a statistic. I am grateful for that man. dating a single mother isn't for everyone, but thankfully there good men out there who do.

The danger of dating a single dad is that you are expected to be a free babysitter every now and then. And I don't want to deal with someone else's crotch drop.

Sadly this was almost to point how my last relationship went wrong with a single mother. Thanks for posting this. You got a sub. Great content here!