Why my VBAC attempt failed | My Labour & Delivery Story

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5 жыл бұрын

In this video, I talk about my VBAC attempt at the end of my second pregnancy. Although 75% of VBACs are successful, I fell in the remaining 25% category. In any case, my baby came out healthy and I recovered well from the C-Section, which is what matters. Let me know if you have any questions in the comments below!
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Time Stamps
1:41 - VBAC or C-Section?
3:52 - Start of Labour
5:15 - Going to the hospital
8:19 - Trying to Speed up labour
12:05 - Getting the Epidural
16:20 - Complication
21:00 - C-Section Starts
29:10 - Why I’m okay with having had a failed VBAC
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@ayeshanasir9916 5 жыл бұрын

And yes there is absolutely NOTHING wrong in having a c-section but I hate it when people make you feel like you didn't go through "the right" birthing experience if you didn't deliver naturally

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

exactly! I’ll be sorry for having a C-Section when people start being sorry for having heart surgery. In one case, your body didn’t deliver naturally and in the other case your heart stopped doing it’s natural thing. What’s the difference? It’s called science and technology and people now live longer because of them.

@noornoor-wt6jq 5 жыл бұрын

@@MyInspiredHome hellooo Can u plzz tell me? Is your baby in breech position?

@Ayesha-ws6ph 5 жыл бұрын

Sooo truee

@farahulysse4579 4 жыл бұрын

So true

@ajilashajahan8627 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly 😕

@imalai5064 5 жыл бұрын

You’re story breaks my heart a little. Having a prev CS does not make you high risk. I have Gestational Diabetes and have had a csection and I’m still not considered high risk. It sounds like your providers and hospital were not VBAC supportive. I believe you went to the hospital too soon. You have a better chance at a successful VBAC without induction. It’s best to avoid any and all interventions for best chances at a VBAC, no cervical checks (more risk for infection), no water breaking (puts you on a “clock” and also raises risk of infection). Pitocin is also not recommended for VBAC and also RAISES risks of fetal/ maternal distress (higher risk of CS). Pitocin is also known for making babies HR drop with contractions. If you do end up having to get pitocin make sure they start you on the lowest possible dose and raise them as slow as possible. They should have let you move around even after breaking your water. Not being able to walk/ move around slows down labor and that raises risk of CS as well. Also, many baby’s don’t engage into pelvis (move down/drop until you start pushing!) There are actually more risks having a CS (and repeat CS’s) than having a VBAC. Pregnancies can last up to 42 weeks! Do not rush your body and baby’s natural process if you and baby are healthy! I hope this comment gives more hope to more women to try and fight for their VBAC and I hope you will consider trying for a VBA2C. ❤️

@sofawalakhadija9679 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for this informative comment. My due date is in first week of May 2019. Hoping for vbac for my second baby.

@metalmoth6608 5 жыл бұрын

@@sofawalakhadija9679 My baby's due in late May! Trying for Vbac also, will wish us both luck. Also my doctor us trying to push all of the above on me even though he claims to be very vbac friendly. He wants me to be induced at 39 weeks! I'm so irritated

@amayafa1th 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this information! So helpful

@TubnQT 5 жыл бұрын

Xo xo well normally those things may be true, in this case her baby’s umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck three times. This not only prevents the baby from being able to descend, but it constricts the oxygen flow to his brain during each contraction. I am very supportive of natural birth, having had unmedicated birth with both my children, one being born at home. I have also been a doula, midwife assistant at home births and hospitals, and am now a labor & delivery and NICU RN. But sometimes a C-section is life-saving, and we need to recognize that and support it. In this case, I think her C-section saved the baby’s life. For example, a friend of mine had three natural deliveries at home, but with her fourth baby, her labor would not progress. She went to the hospital and ended up with a c-section. It turns out her baby had the same issue with the cord wrapped tightly around the neck several times. Unmedicated birth and vaginal deliveries are great. But there are definitely times when a c section saves lives.

@rasheedayusop8702 4 жыл бұрын

Can you have vbac even having a low classical incision during previous cs ??

@dawnpatter2149 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this story. It was beautiful. It reminded me of my c section, and, like you, I'm just thankful the c section was an option. It saved my baby's life.

@mandym4354 4 жыл бұрын

I loved this. I have 6 kids 3 natural births, 1 preterm cesarean in north Africa at 31 weeks, 1 cesarean at 38 weeks because dr refused vbac with a premature cesarean prior and due date was 23 months after first cesarean. I then got pregnant with my 6th and had an amazing vba2c in north africa with the best dr and midwives at 39 weeks and my due date once again was only just 23 months or so after my second cesarean. It shows my previous births were at 40 weeks 37 weeks 36 weeks Cesarean 31 weeks Cesarean 38 weeks Vba2c 39 weeks. I suffered depression and severe PTSD from my 31 week emergency cesarean but the process of recovery was easier then my 38 week cesarean. It was a huge healing for me to birth my baby once again and not because I felt broken or cesarean was wrong but because I love birthing my babys. Although, I felt a huge sense of accomplishment and strength alhamdulillah.

@ajilashajahan8627 4 жыл бұрын

Masha the

@adra6397 Жыл бұрын

I learned you did what was best for the baby and yourself. If anything needs to be learned that’s a personal choice to understand for yourself. On that note mama I’m glad you and baby is well and alive! Thank you for your story.

@sabamarium8186 5 жыл бұрын

I totally felt you. Went for tolac/vbac a week ago and ended up with a c section. I did try but induction was not something i was comfortable with and got anxiety attacks. I am so thankful to Allah (SWT) He introduced c-section in this time and age.

@ShadesofSage 2 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate you sharing your story. My first was an emergency C-section and I definitely remember all the tugging and pressure. It was so uncomfortable 😣! I’ve had 2 VBACs since then and attempting my 3rd in a few weeks 🙏🏿. But like you said, I always keep in mind anything can happen at anytime. Thank God you and baby had a safe delivery 💕!

@sansavoice5277 2 жыл бұрын

What's the gaps between ur cs and vbac?

@mahamhaider1310 5 жыл бұрын

You are such a natural storyteller mashAllah. Loved the video and loved hearing your positivity about your experience in the end, despite complications. Looking forward to seeing more videos from you!

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much Maham!

@AlwaysSmilingTW 5 жыл бұрын

Great video, super informative!

@mshelli1 5 жыл бұрын

Yayy!! The video is up. Anam, you are a natural You Tuber. Hope to see more videos in future :)

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Mashal A awww thanks so much! I’m looking forward to making more content as well isA!

@franciellesousa8537 2 жыл бұрын

Hi, I just try my Vbac on 06/01/22 and my baby was born in the same day by c-Section. I só impact by your story because everything that you share I pass too.

@soniazafar4957 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for all the details..loved every bit :p

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Sonia Zafar thank you!! Glad you enjoyed it ❤️

@adrianagavilanaguilera7828 4 жыл бұрын

I’m in the hospital right now attempting a VBAC. I’ve been here for 1 1/2 day. I haven’t dilated much but I’m hoping for the best.

@fifitheexplorer4074 4 жыл бұрын

adriana gavilan congratulations🎉🎉🎉 how did it go ?

@rozewater7548 4 жыл бұрын

BellaLuna GE how did it go for you?

@Insight189 4 жыл бұрын

How did it go

@adrianagavilanaguilera7828 4 жыл бұрын

I ended up dilating to 3.5 cm only... I had to get another c section after trying for 2 days ... I felt devastated... but my son was born healthy thats what matters

@syedafatima863 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you Anam for the video, you really inspired us. Looking forward for more videos from you :)

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

syeda fatima thank youu ❤️

@ayeshanasir9916 5 жыл бұрын

Alhamdulillah your baby was fine ♡♡♡ Very happy that Alhamdulillah all went well for you 😘😘😘

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Ayesha Nasir thank you Ayesha

@alzahrahdauhajee7204 4 жыл бұрын

My question is why doctors always want to speed up things when the body can do its own thing naturally and within natural times according to each woman body.?

@ratanratan9039 3 жыл бұрын

My sister most of hospital need money thats why they force us to c.section.

@sadiyamohamedabuukar7821 3 жыл бұрын

ya they want only money

@babyinaction7881 2 жыл бұрын

its happened to me

@adra6397 Жыл бұрын

Every service given cost money. It’s a business they don’t care. The same question came to me when I couldn’t understand why they kept disturbing my sleep during postpartum. Every service even a heat pack is a bill. Some do but hard to find.

@himanginaik2682 4 жыл бұрын

Am 33 weks, and going for Vbac. Very detailed and informative video.

@hafsaabukar5526 3 жыл бұрын

How did it go plz

@funkesanusi8670 3 жыл бұрын

How was ur VBAC

@amyelyas 5 жыл бұрын

:) sweet. I wish you all the best in future!

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Amy Elyas thanks ❤️

@hfareen 5 жыл бұрын

Lovely video Anam. Can’t wait for more videos! You are a natural❤️

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

hfareen thank you! 🙂❤️

@MommyMariam 5 жыл бұрын

Hey, Your experience reminded me of my first birth except it wasn't vbac, I had preeclampsia and I was induced early and after all the contractions and epidural they had to do emergency C-section. I am also planning to go for vbac and I am not sure if it will happen for me. But as you mentioned at the end that there is nothing wrong about getting baby delivered via c-section, which put smile on my face because I am still dreading to go through same pushing and tugging and recovery experience after c-section. Alhamdulillah you and your baby are fine and doing great. Great video Anam. Looking forward to more videos.

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Mariam! Yes, it's definitely not the best experience when you're going through it. But I'm thankful for this option!

@sundasnasir37 5 жыл бұрын

You are amazing 💕

@IbuildshipsWagnerEdmond 4 жыл бұрын

Congrats. Im due july 31st 2020 wish me luck😁i had miscarried july 2018😥i hope this one stick. Baby dust to all..

@ajilashajahan8627 4 жыл бұрын

God bless you and your baby

@angelfolmar2732 4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations on your pregnancy, all the best to you and your little one. Prayers

@tazbob4136 4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations sis, hope all goes well 🤲🏻

@humakhan7827 5 жыл бұрын

You are a true inspiration. May Allah keep you and your family safe and happy always. Ameen

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks Huma ❤️

@Esmeevans378 Ай бұрын

There is no Allah! Jesus is king!

@hijaabch7483 5 жыл бұрын

You are love. You are strong. You are an inspiration. Love you for the sake of Allah. May Allah bless you with the best of everything in both worlds. Ameen.

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

you are soo sweet! Thank you!

@sarasara-pp5dl 5 жыл бұрын

MashAllah u are strong ☺

@sarasara-pp5dl 5 жыл бұрын

Allhamdulilah 😊

@tanzilaleeya 2 жыл бұрын

How long did ur recovery take? .. i had a c section with my daughter and im due this week with my 2nd baby.. im scared about having a c section and im scared about natural birth too.. the first tine round i was onyl 4cm and in labour for over 24 hours.. it was so painful i was screaming the room down

@godsgirl7201 5 жыл бұрын

I delivered my baby sept 2018

@toobazac 5 жыл бұрын

This is my story right now....due in Jan/Feb 2019 insha'Allah. Previous csec....want to try for vbac but probably not likely

@sadifoyusuf6232 5 жыл бұрын

AwTkh did you have the baby naturally?

@ajilashajahan8627 4 жыл бұрын

Your delivery is normal?

@Cann856 4 жыл бұрын

Previous c-section can mean a high risk pregnancy IF it is very soon after the c-section like getting pregnant soon after the surgery. Because those tissues are not fully healed and your scar is still settling on the inside and it has to stretch out all over again and it makes the surrounding skin (around the scar) thinner thus meaning higher chance is uterine rupture. I’m 100% not a medical professional I’m just repeating what I’ve learned from my doctor and other doctors. Please always discuss any concerns with your doctor. With that being said if it’s been a few years since the c-section then the pregnancy itself shouldn’t be high risk solely because of a previous c-section so I’m not sure about that one🤷🏼‍♀️

@Lolee56 10 ай бұрын

Every doctor is different but in the US typically most doctors are hesitant of dealing with a tolac/vbac patient as they don’t want to get sued if something goes wrong because the uterus is jeopardized. No matter how much your scar tissue heals it’ll never be as strong as an intact uterus, and the more you get cut open in that same spot the more unlikely you’ll find a doctor you will let you labor

@godsgirl7201 5 жыл бұрын

How long did you're c section take?

@thahirarizwana5714 5 жыл бұрын

Am due on December 2019 Hoping for vbac but really afraid of giving birth Inshallah hope everything goes right

@mahlakophosa6295 4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@fifitheexplorer4074 4 жыл бұрын

Me too🙏

@kulsumirfan6650 4 жыл бұрын

I m due in December 2019 as well and going for VBAC.. I did not had very good experience in my 1st delivery, I hope that Allah make it easy for all of us... Ameen

@girlwholiftscheca5963 4 жыл бұрын

Me too 12-10-19 🙌🤰🏻 vbac but scared

@ZahraFajr 4 жыл бұрын

Have faith, ladies! Do not be afraid of birth because it is an amazing experience and very powerful - whether you have to complete with cesarean or are able to do vaginal birth. If you are able to finish vaginally, you will feel like you 'can't do it' when you are pushing and the head is nearing the point of crowning. When you feel that thought appear, allow that to give you confidence because it means that it is almost over. Push through the thought and it will disappear - you will find new confidence and can then push the baby out. There will be a sharp harsh popping feeling as the head pops out and again as the body finishes coming out after that. It is really okay and you will be just fine. Breathe through and your baby will be born

@saddiqayounas6426 4 жыл бұрын

What was the difference between babies means after first c section how long you got pregnant again

@jesusistheonlywaytothefath9020 2 жыл бұрын

Have any of you C-section mom's ever had random pain in the area where your scar would be? I had an emergency cs with my first in 2015 and then a scheduled cs with my 2nd son in 2018 bc of his health problems. I don't really remember getting the pains after my first but I've gotten them since my 2nd. I did have polyhydramnios with #2 so my stomach got extremely big /super stretched out. The pain usually happens after lifting/carrying something heavy. It's like a sharp stabbing pain that I feel on the inside. I'm gonna bring it up to the doctor because I've always wanted to try for a VBAC but idk if this pain is "normal" or if it'll keep me from trying for VBAC.

@priyankaghodke5919 2 жыл бұрын

Hello I have vbac planned next week. I also have same pain in the belly and tightening and stretching on the belly. How did your VBAC go. How did it go?

@kristenf3076 5 жыл бұрын

How long was it between your two births? I've been told the VBAC risks are higher, the closer you've had c-sections.

@mirandasant3624 5 жыл бұрын

She said her daughter is 5 and son is 2 months. So 5 yearsish.

@godsgirl7201 5 жыл бұрын

The same thing happened to me with my babys heart beat

@Heyimvalarie18 3 жыл бұрын

That's soo odd they didn't let you up. Generally, a previous cessation for your reason wouldn't make you high risk, so odd. Also, I felt a very minor amount of pressure at the absolute most, but pretty much nothing at all.. That sounds horrible 😢

@Azee1818 4 жыл бұрын

I was not getting pain in 40 weeks and was slightly bleeding but 1 cm dilated ...it was my first pregnancy and I also wished for natural delivery ... But when Dr checked n said ur baby's heart beat is not visible actually its was not moving ...I said I am feeling the movement but she did c secession 😫

@swathiniraju4731 4 жыл бұрын

Doctors playing with patients..they indirectly forcing thier patient towards c section

@soniazafar4957 5 жыл бұрын

Awesome :)

@VivirSimple 5 жыл бұрын

If you’re planning on a third baby, did your doctor say if you can attempt a third VBAC? Thank you for sharing your story!

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

M MC my OB basically said to go for a c section next time... I think I would be okay with that.

@joannecottam2387 4 жыл бұрын

Why did you turn yellow?

@mahelaqa1 5 жыл бұрын

Seems like something more or less going to happen with me 39 weeks preg no signs of labour atm and had csection before

@myid4704 5 жыл бұрын

Great information...During the contractions, your previous scar of uterus was okay?? I have heard that it ruptures during contractions if u try for vbac??

@amayafa1th 5 жыл бұрын

my id470 its always a risk. I think its 1%

@myid4704 5 жыл бұрын

@@amayafa1th hmmm...

@amayafa1th 5 жыл бұрын

my id470 do ur research?

@Legal.Knievel 4 жыл бұрын

The risk of uterine rupture with one previous c-section is 0.5%.

@ajilashajahan8627 4 жыл бұрын

@@Legal.Knievel r u sure

@sticktoreality2912 5 жыл бұрын

Well you tried so much but happens only what Allah planned and he plans Better 😇

@anaivaldez4868 5 жыл бұрын

i was sleeping in my emergency c section and actually felt pain. wishing for a vbac

@fariakabir4167 4 жыл бұрын

This makes me scared. How ppl can feel pain in an emergency c section? Like won't they die if they do?then how come the drs. Are treating them? This is horrible.

@funkesanusi8670 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly what happened to me too..... had my baby 2 months ago. I pray for VBAC insha allah in my future pregnancy.

@anaivaldez4868 3 жыл бұрын

i was asleep but i could feel everything . my heart rate was dropping . i stopped breathing. they switched me to regular oxygen instead of the medicated oxygen. i was breathing and i opened my eyes. i felt the sowing my stomach. they gave me morphine after and it was a BIG pain reliever. found out that i was also allergic to anesthesia. my vbac failed with my 3rd child. epidural helped. i was awake with this baby. had an allergic reaction to the epidural! itchy and sweating

@funkesanusi8670 3 жыл бұрын

@@anaivaldez4868 omg..... I can imagine all you pass through. May God bless all mothers. And we shall reap the fruit of our labour. Untimely death will not claim our lives. (AMEN)

@merriusmylove 4 жыл бұрын

I’m 36 weeks pregnant, I’m going for Vbac/home birth.

@angelfolmar2732 4 жыл бұрын

Congratulations and good luck hon. Prayers for a safe delivery and happy life

@sarashsarante 4 жыл бұрын

How did it go?

@flakisstrill 4 жыл бұрын

Hey how was the birth of your baby? I hope everything went great! I am currently trying to learn as much as I can about Vbac because I just had my baby 2 months ago via C-section due to having a previous emergency C-section and I didn’t know about Vbac birth or that it is a option until now.

@R-A-WN 2 жыл бұрын

Should nver atemp tat hme

@mahirafatima9787 5 жыл бұрын

What are the side effects of epidural ?

@MyInspiredHome 5 жыл бұрын

Just like with any drug, there are quite a few possible side effects. You can google them for detail. There are some serious ones too such as nerve damage but they're rare.

@Esmeevans378 Ай бұрын

I just wanna know how many years did you have your C-section prior to this because I had my 10 years ago and I still get pressured to do bloody C-section!!! it’s pissing me off!!! 😡😡😡😡😡😡

@fariakabir4167 4 жыл бұрын

Hey hun...congrats...really wondering how ppl can feel pain during a c sec? Like omg that's so horrible. C sec is the only option that is after vaginal birth...u can also feel pain even after anesthesia???

@vlogsbysara9761 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah it's true.. I also feel pain during cS

@shaizzz123 Жыл бұрын

Pain in back weak eye sight n so many complications as they just open our body which become vulnerable to infections

@magestical1234 5 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@brookiebear4919 3 жыл бұрын

So frustrating that they wouldn’t let you walk around!!

@shaizzz123 Жыл бұрын

Even baby Brain is fully developed in 42 weeks.. only 2/3 on 37 weeks..

@simasoumi5551 3 жыл бұрын

This is the first time I watch any of your videos, it's all meant to happen SoubhanaAllah, but from my experience people who use pitocin and epidural are not cooperative and are not good in dealing with long labour s... They both put the baby and mummy into distress... Wrong wrong wrong... It happened to me and I ended up having a c section. Whatver it is, alhamdulillah u both ended up alive and healthy..... U had a bad delivery team m afraid...

@godsgirl7201 5 жыл бұрын

You're right with the big light then I'm sure you didn't eat for a while I can imagine you can pass out

@shaizzz123 Жыл бұрын

U gone crazy allopathic medicines is just a slow posion I hope u get more knowledge about these chemicals.