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I was doing a "trick or treating for the food bank" charity event back when I was in university, where students would get dressed up in costumes and go door to door with the kids, asking for canned goods instead of candy for our local food drive. We got to one neighbourhood with big houses, like 3 car garages, and the people there would first sneer at 20-somethings being out on Halloween, then begrudgingly give maybe one can of soup. Later on, we reached a student residence. They pretty much emptied out their pantry for us. If that doesn't demonstrate just how much more likely those who have little themselves are to donate to others in need, I don't know what will.

Having been poor all my life I can verify that whether money buys happiness or not (can't tell you from personal experience), it does reduce unhappiness.

I have noticed the poor tends to tip more, when they go out to eat, because for some of them it is a special occasion. With the wealth it is just tuesday and they desire to be served.

“Only when the last tree has died and the last river been poisoned and the last fish been caught will we realize we cannot eat money.“

One of my dearest family friends is "old money" wealthy, but she has perspective on life since she's disabled and also works in child psychology. She always checks in with me and my family to make sure we're doing well and loves to host parties with us so we can enjoy her beautiful home. I feel so lucky to have a good friend that can show humanity and kindness, despite her upbringing. Some people truly are one in a million

Money doesn't buy happiness but in a world built like a prison it's a tool that helps to gain your freedom.

The richest I have ever been is middle class, but when I was a kid, the other adults made it very clear that we had what we did because they were smart people who went to school and followed the rules, and that people who had less were either unintelligent or poorly behaved. It wasn't until I became an adult and tried to make it on my own that I realized they were wrong: smart, conscientious people find their way below the poverty line all the time. Those experiences gave me a lot more empathy for other poor people than my middle class relatives

I once had a discussion with a CEO wife about social inequality and privilege. Bottom line she told me I should travel more and get to know these "underprivileged" people I'm referring to because, I kid you not, her gardeners come from five different countries and they wouldn't concern themselves with such things.

As a class-jumper myself, this explains so much of my own struggles to get along with people I work with -- they don't cooperate, they compete, and it's been a very lonely existence trying to find other kind minded folks.

I've always felt distrustful of anyone who doesn't have to take care of the mundane aspects of their own lives. It's one thing to have enough money to pay for help with house cleaning or to order takeout or to hire help with child care. It's entirely another thing to be so rich your food just appears in front of you when you are hungry, and your bathroom trash can seems to empty itself without you having to even think about how that happens, and you have complete freedom over your schedule because your kids' three nannies have you covered 24/7.

Money is a magnifying glass for character - if you are good you will be better, if you are bad you will be worse. It shows true personality more easily

My mom was born into a rich family (my grandfather owned a company) and they hired a few helpers for the home. A helper for housekeeping, a helper to watch the children, a helper for the yard. And so on. Now, my mom is an overly anxious and hypochondriacal narcissist. She lacks empathy.

I'm poor, but I live in a area with many rich people. The overall snobbery, ignorance, stupidity & narcissism hurts my soul.

Re children who grow up wealthy struggling emotionally in adulthood - I am witnessing this play out with a new colleague. They are 21 years old, grew up in exceptional wealth in an upper class family and, for lack of a better word, was obviously spoiled rotten at home. It's causing issues in our team because any amount of constructive feedback, no matter how sugar coated and diplomatically delivered, is too much and is met with this person taking on that feedback as a direct existential threat. I can't help but think that it's a result of this person being in a position of power their entire life in every single social interaction they have had. Like, we cannot even raise the most basic normal things with them. We cannot bring any mistake they make to their attention, because if we do, we lose an entire day of her going around from worker to worker, bitching and crying and complaining about how mean everyone is to them with them calling in sick the next day. One incident the other week was this person taking another colleague into an empty office to berate, yell and cry at them for rejecting their facebook friend request. Like, what the actual fuck?! It's absolutely exhausting and infuriating because this person is proving impossible to work with, but also impossible to train. They're 21 years old and have been in our office for 4 months.

I came into wealth in middle age when I already had a strong network of friends. The biggest stressor is feeling obligated to help my friends who aren't doing as well while balancing expectations and keeping relationships healthy: I don't want relationships to be solely about my friends telling me about struggles and me defaulting to judging whether those struggles are worthy of me giving them money. Parents deal with this all the time: how much do I let my child struggle vs. helping them? The problem is, they're my friends, not my children. And I have to say, it can leave me feeling "god-like" (ugh, barf) knowing that I could write a check and their problem would just disappear. And it also leaves me feeling callous when I don't do that.

I worked at a luxury resort in undergrad. Served millionaires and billionaires at their catered parties. Some of the saddest, loneliest individuals you’ll ever know. No thanks. 😊

As someone who has lived most of their childhood in an apartments and following my mom into food banks I noticed that the world punishes you for being poor. I can't tell you how many times people have been rude to me and has made my mom cry and these were mostly in donation centers and churches. I am also including people who are in the same boat as you economically, they will also treat you terrible, if not, worse. I feel like we should stop romanticizing poverty and try to bring people up to the middle class through education and financial education with those two together I guarantee things will be better.

There is definitely a perception among the wealthy that if they don’t need the social connections to meet their needs, that means that they don’t need the lower class at all. I grew up middle-class-ish, but living abroad and then very poor with many roommates in my 20’s definitely gave me the perspective that we, all of us, live in an interconnected and interdependent community. COVID has only made this more stark. Our society is built on the backs of overworked, underpaid wage labor. That isn’t some Marxist philosophizing; it’s a physical reality. Our society needs to be structured in a way that protects and reinforces this base, not make it as cheap as possible under the assumption that exploitable labor is infinite and interchangeable.

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I am a truck driver. People in luxury cars (BMW ,Mercedes, lexus) are the biggest piles of garbage on the road. Also Subaru drivers seem to think they are not subject to the rules of reality.

a problem with the luxury car experiment is that researchers were not able to assess people's economic backgrounds accurately solely based on the car you drive. It's possible that people that value luxury cars (maybe going into debt to obtain them) and who like to flaunt wealth in public are the assholes in general

I know someone who used to work for several extremely rich families and the things that these people thought were okay to do and or say are so absurd I couldn't even imagine.

I truly believe that rich people don’t get knocked into the middle of next week nearly as often as they should.

I'm interested in how you bought up money as an addiction. Compare how society treats people who are addicted to alcohol or other drugs or gambling or what have you, against someone who is addicted to accumulating more cash. If you were to imply that Insert Billionaire Here was addicted to money, tons of people would run to point out that they're just "highly motivated" and "innovative", and there's nothing wrong with that. Back in my retail days, I encountered some "highly motivated" and "innovative" drug addicts.

Anyone who’s waited tables for a living is well aware of this. I worked in a restaurant near a church with wealthy parishioners and the servers fought to avoid the after church shift because the people were so insufferable and stingy.

It’s kind of sad that as humans we only care about other people unless we need something from them.

I worked in the homes of the rich and famous for 16 years. It's nice to see my experiences validated here.

This is super interesting. I come from the upper class and my wife comes from the lower class. We’ve had huge fights that were essentially cultural miscommunications because we both were raised in such different environments. Like, I always believed in hiring someone to help move homes with you because you wouldn’t want to be a burden by asking a friend (and odds are they’d find a reason not to help, anyway). But she would help you move because then you’ll help her move.

I wonder how much of this is cause/effect. Antisocial traits are also the traits that are economically rewarded. Being willing to exploit others, believing you are entitled to success, and not care about other people are excellent ways to achieve financial/business success

I thought it was maybe my imagination, but I just recently moved to a wealthy area of the city and I've observed what you're talking about with people with good cars. I even have had to tell my son to be more careful around people who are driving SUVs. It's insane to me how little they care.

Isn't a causal relationship in the other direction also quite likely? Like being less generous and more willing to take advantage of others probably increases your chances of acquiring wealth right?

Poverty is a choice made for others by those that it has never affected... Social programs are not handouts... They are investments in then success of the country... The more sucessful it's people the more productive the country... Then insane profits made by corporations are not made by the CEOs or the owers or the stakeholders... the wealth of a company is generated by it's employees... productivity and profits have skyrocketed... wages haven't budged... Employees are getting nothing in return for the wealth they are generating... We work harder and longer and are more productive then any other country and don't even get to reap the results of our labor... at this point it's basically slavery with extra steps...

I grew up poor in a wealthy college town (my mom chose to spend more than she should on rent for the better schools). I learned that money can make life convenient but it didn't make kids happy. Oh sure they had the expensive stuff but didn't have attentive parents which they wanted. Now I am not saying all wealthy people are bad parents, but what I saw growing up cured me of being envious.

My family isn’t at $95k/yr yet, but something I’ve experienced not mentioned here is how having more money than others can come with a lot of guilt, and when you have friends who have less, they may unknowingly ostracize you. I had friends get PISSED at me when I went on a vacation since it was for a few weeks internationally (my first time ever) whereas those who were so angered had traveled internationally before, but never for a few weeks. When I got back, I was afraid to talk about the fun things I did since I didn’t want them to feel mad or envious or anything. It was harder to connect with them since I couldn’t share. I’ve also experienced issues where I could do things they couldn’t, such as going to live shows, and it came down to buying their tickets, which really adds up VERY fast at $150 each, or going without them and not being able to talk about it. It’s easy to say “the cost of a ticket is the value of their company” until it gets to the point where buying their tickets is an expectation, and you start to feel used. They may not even intend this, but it’s what happened to me. I’m not saying “pity me, I’m financially stable,” just that a side effect of being decently okay off is that there is guilt that can come with it, both internally and from those around you. Despite my attempts to give my friends what I can (when it’s not seen as generosity, you can be accused of flaunting), I’ve been pushed out of my social group here, and I’ve spoken with others in my income range who’ve experienced the same, and it sucks. There really are tradeoffs. Financial security and social security often clash. Having been homeless, I’ll take the financial, but it’s really a case of the grass is greener. Easy to think, for instance, that the royals are living on easy street until you realize that they can never do anything without it being public, and none of us take it well when any little slips we make are dissected and shamed. The tradeoffs are real.

When it comes to bad behavior, we are more likely to remember when we were at the receiving end than at the giving end. We need to be equally self-reflective at both ends. I think this is commonly known as "It's okay to do unto others, but not okay when it's done unto you."

Power reveals. Wealth is power. And to always be up the top to never need to compromise to survive definitely doesn't help build character. Lack of accountability for poor behaviour is never good but especially those that get away with it.

When I got my first job that pay decent money, I entered the middle class. I started to lose empathy toward people less fortunate thinking if I can do it, why can't you? Even some of friends who work really hard and got out of poverty think the same way. The truth is that even though we were financially poor growing up, we were values rich because we had a stable family. There are many who are not so lucky. It's like I join another tribe (middle class) that was attacking my tribe (lower class) and join in attacking my original tribe with such a toxic mentality. Luckily, I realize how I was devolving and remember my values. Gaining money then losing your humanity just make you piss poor morally.

I was born into a poor family in Australia. I have socially mobilised through the classes and married my wealthy husband- and his wealthy family. We owe no money on our property and neither of us have to work. I was a registered nurse and miserable. I decided to work in a supermarket instead. I love it. The way people speak to me, is disgusting, even though Most likely I am in a higher social class to them.

This video came at a great time for me personally as I was mind-boggled by some extremely wealthy people recently... I am a photographer for a studio that occasionally does a high-end wedding. I was on one of those high-end luxury weddings in NYC. Everyone was so extremely wealthy and the feeling of having some kind of disconnect with them was very palpable. When speaking to some of them it was first of all hard to get their attention, then it was as if they were looking past me, instead of engaging. However, some were very sweet! But there definitely was that disconnect. It was quite a shocking and strange experience. Also, most brides, grooms and their families follow the itinerary for the day so we can get everything from portraits to family pictures covered. These folks, however, even though They hired Us, would not cooperate, would not be asked to do anything, and quite firmly made their own rules for everyone and everything.

I was friends once with this girl who would constantly say the most tone deaf things about almost everything, and never tip or never pay back her friends, bring things to parties when everyone else is, etc. she’d brag about how much money she has and how much she spent on furniture, clothes, whatever it is. I finally realized that every time I was around her, she was just talking down to me and basically just hanging out with me to try and make herself feel better about herself.

I was always thinking that it's the other way around. People who become rich tend to follow certain rules to get there. They are less social, more frugal to the point of being greedy, and more goal oriented, regardless of means. Naturally, by the time they get there in terms of wealth, they don't see the need in changing. There behavior got them where they wanted to be at the end of the day.

One time at was at a fancy movie theater frequented by older rich people in the Philly suburbs, and as I was waiting in line at the concession stand, MULTIPLE people in front of me took it open themselves to go behind the counter and take what they needed because the line was taking too long.

It is also a very weird experience to change class abruptly. My father, son of immigrant parents, was able to realize his "American dream" of wealth late in life. Monetarily, we are incredibly lucky and grateful. However, it also created chaos and then lasting damage in familial relationships. Anyone else have this experience?

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Dolly Parton is one of the few wealthy people I have any respect for at this point.

more money can definitely make people disconnected and more callous than they originally were. But I think it's really crucial for people to understand that, by nature, capitalism rewards the most brutal and exploitative businesses and their owners, because it is a system based on competition and inequality. By design, the worst people rise to the top. "Money corrupts" is a backwards explanation for what we see. The reality is that evil deeds make profits. The things you have to do to become and remain super wealthy are inherently immoral because profit comes from exploitation. If you have two businesses that provide the same product or service, the one that gets more productivity out of their workers for lower wages gets to pocket more profit. This means they're going to be able to outcompete the other business because they can sell their good/service at lower prices until their competitor goes out of business (then raise prices when they no longer have competition). Essentially, the more adept a business is at exploiting workers - getting a lot of productivity out of them and pocketing most of the value they create- the more profitable it is. I'm glad we are seeing so much more discussion of wealth inequality in recent years, but these discussions tend to avoid the elephant in the room which is what capitalism fundamentally is: a class society in which a few people privately own the major productive resources that affect everyone (factories, land, natural resources - capital) and thus control the economy, and people who don't and thus can be taken advantage of by the first group. We don't know about truly kind super-rich people because, in the very rare event that a kind person becomes a billionaire (through inheritance or the lottery or something, idk) they would not keep all that money - they wouldn't remain super wealthy! Or they at least wouldn't use the money to start taking advantage of other people to increase their personal wealth. The billionaires who give away some millions a year in donations - these are a business expense to them and represent only a tiny portion of their wealth, which continues to grow. The donations are good PR and convince a segment of the population that we need an ultra-wealthy layer of people to fund private charities and such - when in fact these billionaires do everything they can to afford paying fair taxes that would fund better social services. We will keep talking in circles as long as we don't understand that inequality comes down to existence of private property (again, capital, the stuff that's needed to produce goods and services on a large scale - not personal property like your toothbrush, shirt, bed, etc). What we need is to take these productive forces into democratic public ownership and manage them with a democratic planned economy based on meeting human need, not making profits for a few. That's what socialism actually is (not just more welfare programs under capitalism).

3:53 Thank you! I'm so sick of people misusing the term emotional labor! It's not dealing with the mental load of who is doing the Christmas cards or who is ordering the plane tickets for vacations, Karen, it's a performative act of consistently portraying friendliness and cheerfulness when you just aren't feeling it, often to the detriment of one's mental health. It can have a seriously long-lasting impact on people, including making it harder for them to stand up for themselves, thus they often endure heightened levels of abuse and mistreatment that no one should experience.

In my experience, spending 10 years not having to look at a single price tag makes everyone unrecognizable. You can watch it happen live with rappers from poor backgrounds. Their debut album will have lines like "having money isn't everything, not having it is" and 10 years later they no longer think luck played any role in their life ever and their stardom was destined and also somehow everyone could do it too and it's the poor people's fault for being poor and all their songs are now just loose lists of brand names. Jay Z no longer has anything to say besides moaning about not buying real estate 10 years ago that he could sell for far more today.

From my observations the friends I’ve had who have been more financially well off were typically LESS generous than those who were struggling with money. An understanding was usually made between friends of mine who were also financially struggling and we helped eachother out sometimes without expecting anything back.

Chelsea, thank you so much for touching base upon the emotional labor side of working service jobs again. While struggling with my own mental health and lacking access to proper Healthcare (at one point), some of the patrons at a former workplace who could EASILY afford having a therapist, who didn't even care to ask how I am doing, would make it a daily habit of dumping their negative emotions on me. They would come out of nowhere! Others had expectations of sexual nature. My manager at said previous workplace would encourage me to "befriend" said patrons and informed me that some complained about me not wanting to be friends. She had no issues pimping me while underpaying me!

My step dad delivered appliances to Paris Hilton once he said she was very nice to them. offered them beers and she actually tipped them really well! Lol idk if she’s in the pic just cause she’s rich rich 🤣

On point, as usual ! It reminds me of my in-laws. I come from a lower-middle class family and my husband's family is "hillbilly rich", if that's a thing. They don't believe they are rich though, even when my brother-in-law was able to crash a Corvette into a telephone pole with absolutely no consequences whatsoever. (:confused Mona emoji:)

Emotional labor has been bastadized into not wanting to spend time with your kids .... Even on her little comedic asides, Chelsea is SAVAGE with the accurate commentary.

I noticed this in LA. The worst drivers almost always have luxury cars.

I’ve been around major wealth but grew up poor. Dating a few VERY successful men has been eye opening. All are very smart, most are insecure and a few are sociopathic. They are all workaholics and nepos create mountains out of molehills and don’t know real problems. Than you for coming to my Ted Talk

I am the Front Office Manager at a Hotel, and you would not believe the entitlement that some people have! I would love to see a video about hotels!!!

I have once witnessed a little girl mistreating her Asian nanny. She couldn't have been older than 7 or 8 years old, but this girl was ordering her nanny around and calling her names for no reason. I almost wanted to video tape this behavior but I was so afraid of this little girl because she spoke with so much authority and had a facial expression of pure evil.

If they had empathy or compassion they wouldn't be hoarding resources while others starve.

I’m not sure I buy the study about luxury car drivers. Not all luxury car drivers are rich, some may be living above their means. Not all rich people drive luxury cars. I think the correlation is more between the type of personality between a person who would drive a luxury car instead of rich people.

Loved the video. I think the link between wealth and depression could be caused by other factors eg. Wealthy people have greater access to healthcare and are therefore more likely to be diagnosed with mental illness.

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Let’s be honest. If someone is a good individual they aren’t going to move along. They’re going to listen, think about their actions, and make any changes if needed. The people moving along are those who think they’re nice but are really Aholes who refuse to see their actions as negative.

Sometimes I go to the fancy and expensive grocery store in my town and that’s the only parking lot I ever get cut off and sped around. It’s cut throat there!-because everyone feels like THEY have the right of way🙄

Grew up poor, recently became upper middle class in my country. My relationships didn’t change all that much, I was able to help my immediate family not worry about money and my mom achieved her dreams to travel to places like Italy and Egypt. I’m able to gift my friends the way I’ve always wanted, nothing fancy but I love it. With a bit of investing, I might not need to work anymore if I keep living the same way I did before, with a few upgrades. So far, so great, and I have people in my life that are going to tell me if I become an asshole.

Empathy is a survival tool. Once you're rich you simply don't need it anymore as you can survive without others. At least your empathy will only be towards those that actually create value for your life.

I once did a stint in customer service at a bank branch. I was in the management programme, and this was a mandatory rotation I had to do just to get an idea of how ground operations work. I noticed the vast difference in attitude that the premier customers (those with >$200k deposits with our bank, barely a large amount) had towards us. That level of entitlement was mind boggling. As someone who has a desk job, I really respect anyone in frontline/customer service work for being able to do this for years.

Yes, and let's not fall into the noble savage trope, i.e assuming that poor people will have a better personality because they're not corrupted by wealth. It think it's easy to fall into that but it's irrelevant for most debates and distracts the attention from other questions that matter more.

I worked at an impound lot and by far the worst people to deal with were the luxury car drivers. Most were doctors or lawyers. Their kids were also assholes. We have a law school here in town.

This was a very thought-provoking video. I have no scientific studies, but when I was an Uber/Lyft driver, my most dreaded passengers were the very rich and the very poor. The most rewarding were solidly middle to upper middle class. It seems that having enough money to forget about it, but not become obsessed with it, leads to the most balanced mentality. I am recently coming out of a stage in life where I was listening to a ton of prosperity/law of attraction/hustle gurus. A key refrain amongst them is to (kind of) glorify the rich. Like, you can never say that the rich are (insert negative trait here) because, if you do, then you will never become rich. So people are brainwashed to never say anything negative about rich people out of superstition that this will prevent you from being successful. As an aside, I wonder if some level of psychopathy/anti-social mentality is correlated with wealth. It takes a certain amount of lack of empathy to push towards more and more wealth, not caring if your product or service is useful or if the customer will benefit or not, or if the planet will benefit or not.

Can’t not bring this up after you mentioned a six year old flying business, when I was an au pair I had the six year old I cared for genuinely tell me why he thought business class was better that 1st class. This is no word of a lie, it was years ago and I still think about it all the time.

Use it or loose it. People who don't need to practice empathy on a day to day basis, tend to loose it

My best friend from school is properly wealthy. He was born into wealth but his father earned it through merit and innovation. Credit to his dad who never let him use more money than he should at young age. He had same bicycle a middle class kid would. No fancy stuff for you. He was sent to a govt school, while his father could've very easily afforded to send him to private school. He's decided to pursue his dad's business and he's every bit humble as he used to be. I guess you can stop it from happening if you're mindful.

So true my uncle came to a Thanksgiving party along with other family and he told me about his earnings of 40 million a month and didn't understand why I can't buy a house buy a house with my boyfriend and everyone was shocked when I mentioned that my partner works graveyard at Amazon and only gets 1,500/month and that were homeless living with my parents with our baby. My uncle was like why don't you invest 5,000/month and I had to breakdown living cost and child cost to bring him to reality.

The problem with being rich is even common hobbies seem like a flex to poor and regular people. Enjoy fine wine? That's a flex. Enjoy nice clothes? That's a flex. Enjoy collecting watches? Also a flex. Have a car collection? Go skiing? Go visit other countries? Etc. Etc. Like at what point is it just resentment from the have nots being misconstrued as the rich being "assholes?"

If she had worked at a dive bar instead of a yacht club. She would have negative things to say about poor people too.

This video is amazing!! Thank you for putting it together. Coming from humble background and now living in a wealthy area, I now understand why I find there’s a lack of community, people kids are horribly entitled and rude as well as I feel sometimes very lonely.. I worked so hard to be able to live there but found myself wondering why I aspired you this in the first place. What makes you happy are the healthy social connections and sense of purpose.. not being alone in a sea of wealthy entitled brats.

I was a peer counselor for a while a long time ago. I worked with some wealthy and rich children (court ordered in their case) and I went to school with some too and their parents were usually horrible. They had money, but they hardly ever saw their kids and when they did they generally substituted money for love and affection. The kids I helped generally were horribly neglected emotionally speaking. Their parents punished them out of embarrassment, not to teach them or even discipline them. They rarely acknowledged that their children were not okay. This didn't help their kids. Well off people can overdose and die while driving under the influence and their families can still leave them when it gets bad. It doesn't take away all consequences it arguably only leaves the worst ones.

I used to work at the casino and the high rollers get better benefits such as superior dining options in terms of meal and seating arrangements. Well, one day my high roller room was full so I offered a table in the main dining room so these two high rollers wouldn’t have to wait. The older one scoffs and says “we have to sit with the common people?” And to think these are the people running the entire world 🙄 No wonder everything is disordered and chaotic.

You don't become less empathetic. You just have to stop wearing a mask because you're wealthy enough to tell your servants to f*ck off if they don't serve you well. People that genuinely care about others' feelings don't suddenly change and become less empathetic (unless people keep trying to steal from them, that would make sense). If you're poor and not autistic (like me, I am in the Autism spectrum) you read people's faces better because you need to make the effort for your survival (or you lose your job or get a higher price when you are buying things at your local farmers market). You also need to present a better behavior and avoid speaking out your mind because otherwise people might even physically attack you. When you're wealthy you don't have to care about those things, so you can free yourself up from that fake persona or you just need enough of it to prevent a PR nightmare or "cancellation" if your public image is part of your business. In the end some of us are good, some are bad. The wealthy are just more free. Quick note: people who were born rich and never lived as a poor person can't relate to many things. That doesn't make them evil, they're just unrelatable because they never experienced what we do/did. You can't explain to someone how life is when you live with chronic pain if that person never went through it. We can't also empathize with them if we never experienced the other side. It's surely better but it involves a different perspective and you need to adjust to survive.

i just don't understand the stinginess of rich people. i have relatives on both ends of the financial spectrum and only my richest family member are the stingiest. i feel embarrassed for them, don't they understand that it makes them look bad. I'm not saying they have to spend hundreds of dollars on their extended family but something better than a box Costco cookies would nice for a housewarming present. lol.

I'm curious about people who grew up poor who then start to make a lot of money. Are there any studies about those people? How they navigate social situations or work situations. I'll give you an example that's pretty personal to me: I grew up with parents who divorced when I was young. Both were just HS graduates with low paying jobs. I lived in public subsidized housing, and had reduced/free lunch through school. Money was why my parents divorced and it was always a sensitive topic. Now, as an adult, I have been amazingly fortunate to gain a well paying job. In the last few years, I've more than doubled my salary. But this puts me in a sort of Bizarro World. The people I work with, who I interact with, have absolutely *no idea* why I live in a bad neighborhood, in the city, driving an old car, wearing thrift store clothes, talk about my neighbors getting arrested, and complaining about the cost of gas and food. I made the choice to buy a house many years ago that fit my income bracket at the time. Now it doesn't match. The thing is, this all makes sense to me. But they absolutely cannot fathom that I am still worried about money, despite having a well paying job. I'm making up for at least a decade of home repairs that I struggled to afford previously. I don't have that Generational Wealth. I only got money recently. Yes, I make bank in comparison to just a few years ago. But I'm still playing catch up. I know others in my position end up paying for their lower income family once they hit the big money. But I'm not even doing that and I'm still looked at sideways by my peers at work for being cheap. It's wild. Anyway, that's a lot. And I don't even know what term to search for to research it. "New vs Old Wealth" is a bit extreme. It's more "Old Wealth vs. New High Income".

The empirical evidence is great to have, but anyone who has worked in an environment that caters to the rich and wealthy already knew this

I used to work at a regional airport with several private jets being hangered full time for some wealthier company owners. The most disturbing behaviors I noticed from them was that they act as though everyone is their employee (even though we literally weren't) and their blatant disregard for others. The worst offenders are usually the children or grandchildren. It takes time to get a Gulfstream or even a Learjet ready for flight yet we would have them sometimes call 2 hours before they wanted to go on a week or month long vacation. Keep in mind there are other job functions that NEED to happen during that time as well and we didn't always have the man power. I mostly felt bad for the pilots who had to put everything on hold for that time just to please them. Simple appreciation appears to be alien to them, a simple please or thank you for example. Very disconnected from reality!

A study showed rich people are less empathetic than poor people because they don't have to rely on others for help. They Increasingly forget the help they had to reach their current status.

Hi Chelsea, this is a wonderful video. Well thought out with an excellent flow. Your secondary research is well done. Thank you for sharing.

Thanks for including captions that was really cool of you!

Plenty of poor people drive luxury cars, they just live in a hovel in order to drive a luxury car so that people see them driving around in something expensive & they think they are rich. Plenty of lower socio-economic people are narcissistic, rude and entitled. It’s not just the rich. I’ve worked with plenty of people on the lower socio-economic scale while I was putting myself through college and I’ve noticed lower class people are much more entitled and vocal about “Me, me, me”. It’s all about them and what they want.

What an interesting, informational video, I hope it goes viral, needs to be seen!

I need to hear this multiple times over. Thank you

This is a great video. Thank you!

I worked in the landscape industry for twelve years. Hiring someone to take care of your home or business garden is a luxury, so I ran into many very wealthy people. The wealthier they were, usually the more demanding and they would always try to get the lowest price possible, or ask me at the last minute to add in plants or something we had not agreed upon or paid for. One time, a client called me up yelling about how our crew cut the grass 1/4” too short. My answer? Wait a few days, it will grow back😆 I swear they all wanted golf course level turf without realizing how many crews, processes and water it takes to achieve that. Witnessed a lot of racist and prejudice towards our Hispanic workers:(

An a-hole will be an a-hole no matter how poor or rich they are; it just gets amplified with money. Same for the reverse!

This is a very well thought out presentation. Thank you for sharing it and taking the time to put it together.

Great topic. I never get tired of your insights from your firsthand experiences.

not sure how this will get takes so I'll try and write it as transparently as possible. I'm lucky enough to be much wealthier than most in my country (Egypt) but still don't count as rich or obscenely wealthy by 1st world country standards (or even other wealthier Arabs) - and I try my best to not lose the sense of empathy & genuine human communal sense instilled in me throughout my life. But in a lot of cases here the separation between classes is hard to ignore. You made a point about eye contact and it made we think how I smile at service workers whenever I'm in Europe or the states but here if I do that they take it as an opening to flirt. Rich women tend to dress more "provocatively" and working class men will sometimes use their positions in fancy malls to just stare at womens thighs or stomachs. The other side aren't perfect either. I remember once I tried to help my nanny out by giving her an old iPad for her son, and later found her stealing my jewellery. I'm not trying to take away from your points at all, I guess I'm just saying there's assholes everywhere and sometimes wealth look different in different societies. I never want to be a spoiled entitled brat, but in Egypt sometimes if I'm not I get taken advantage of so much quicker and swifter. I see my privilege as a matter of fact, and try my best to help how I can. Is playing my part as a wealthy person hypocritical?

4:53 because of my traumatic existence growing up, I've learned to literally read how people are feeling by simply looking at their eyes alone. And it amazes me how many people who had better childhoods lack that skill. I personally believe it's a trauma response.

Weirdly, my wife grew up poor, and she didn't treat wait staff well at the restaurants I took her to. She was also shocked that I tipped the amount I did. She was trained by her parents to hold on to every penny and don't spend unnecessarily. She didn't go out much and nice restaurants were a luxury she never experienced up to that point. She told me the wait staff got paid well and were just hustling and pretending so they could just make more money. She really had no idea what the wait staff at most restaurants made per hour. I told her and she didnt believe me until I asked one of our waiters to explain it to her. She was shocked. 21 years later she runs her own business, quite successfully. She became much more generous to wait staff and much more friendly with them. She's so happy when we go to restaurants to be genuinely welcomed and taken care of. So, she was the reverse of what this video is about. Shes a great person, but she was sheltered and a bit naive when we met. I had to teach her to be generous. And now, she's better at it than I am!

I sorta just assumed they always were.

I had an ex who was childhood friends with a famous hockey player. When this NHLer was still single and at the top of his game, he constantly wanted his friends with him every time he travelled to away games. My ex was often invited to join and he said he even felt pressured to join the entourage but he had to pay for his own hotel and expenses. Eventually he stopped hanging out with him altogether because he was going broke just trying to keep up with his ultra rich childhood friend. The grass wasn't greener, he said to me. Now that this player is retired, I sometimes wonder if they rekindled their friendship. And then sometimes I remind myself that I really could care less lol.