Heather don't have to explain yourself to anyone don't let people on KZfaq make you feel like you have to explain Ellie is a teenager and we all make bad decisions but totally get where you are coming from with her safety and Emma safety , love you guys x

It’s hard to raise kids these days, so I respect her as a mother for looking out for her kid’s best interest because friends can definitely change you both for the better or worse.

I am 19 years old and the thing I appreciate most about my parents is they were a parent to me when I was living with them, they didn’t treat me as a friend until I became an adult!! My parents are my best friends now along with my husband! You are doing an amazing job! Just keep being that parent that sets standards and one day you guys will be best friends!

My brother had to choose a whole new group of friends in high school, as well as I did. You are who you choose to be around. Once you realize that, your mind frame changes. My friends were just doing bad things and my brothers were doing bad bad things. We learned from it and turned out just fine. You are doing the right thing as parents (I'm 43 so I'm just learning but I have a 13 and 17 year old too). It is your responsibility to make your kids see when they are doing wrong. I totally get it and am with you.

No need to explain Heather… you are being a good mom that’s what’s most important, I wish y’all the best with the situation at hand!

As a mom of 2, I loved the ending of this video. We are not here to be their friend, we need to be their mother, parent them and protect them with everything we have as they are our world. They can’t and won’t see it until their older or have kids of their own. You’re a great mother Heather. I truly look up to you!

I know that I used to treat people badly and act differently around my friends. I feel bad looking back on it. I am so thankful for being aware of that now and that I changed my behavior.

I’m 21 and I’m so grateful for my mom being “hard” on me sometimes it was all out of love at the end of the day she use to tell me she wasn’t here to be my friend as well as I’ve graduated and moved on in life I’m happy to say she is in fact my bestfriend

As a 27 year old I can say say I appreciate my parents being parents when I was younger. They’re like my best friends now, I am so thankful for how they raised me too. At the time I obviously wasn’t happy lol but you’re a great mom to the girls and there’s no need to explain the girls being teenagers and making mistakes that we all live and learn from growing up.

I think it’s cute that marks wants to stay for Ellie’s sake and her having more opportunities in sports even tho he would like to live in Clearwater

Heather, I’m with you 100%. Do what’s best for your family. If her peers are already acting like this now, lord knows how they’ll be in highschool. Kudos to you for wanting to protect Ellie from that. I was once in her shoes, and my parents showed me some tough love and I was grounded for ab 5 months (and didn’t have my phone) and Looking back I’m so glad they did because I was going down a destructive path. Those “friends” I had are no where to be found. Keep doing you, Mama Heather. You’re doing a great job🤍

All your reasons for what you’re doing are valid. I’m a mom of two soon to be three. Mine are still little, but since being a mom I can really respect all of this and respect what my parents did when I was a child.

Friends absolutely affect us so good job grounding Ellie, you did the right thing as a mom!

Believe me she’ll thank you in the long run.she’ll see your only doing what’s best.

The girls are very lucky to have a protective mom like you! They’ll realize it later.

I actually don’t blame you Heather for wanted to move to a new area. I must say I’ve notice a difference in Ellie when she is with her friends to the way to speaks to her family. A new start would be good for her and she wouldn’t have trouble making new friends

I feel like American schools are so unsafe in so many ways I’m from Canada and in high school we had teachers walking around 24/7 watching and making sure no one unsafe comes into the school and never once seen a school fight especially in a middle school that’s crazy I say trust your gut and do what You feel is better for Ellie

I also feel like it’s fair to say that when you guys moved from Indiana to Florida Emma left her best friend, and so for you and Emma to want to move to Clearwater and Ellie would leave her friends (shorter distance) is fair! I would love to see you back in Clearwater, I loved the vlogs from that era! But no matter where you move I’m gonna watch haha!

putting her in private school honestly wouldn’t change her, all the teenagers this generation tend to be the same all over

Love emma and ellie!!

i agree 100% with what u r thinking w ellie because her disrespect has been shwoing in videos too and u are great parents. i love ellie and her fun goofy perosnallity, but she took it a bit far.

Who cares why you want to move. If you have the means, gor for it! Change is good. You guys have a great life that I love watching. Heather, can you put more of your creativity in your videos. I love your holiday decor!!! :)

That's good parents right there!

I totally agree with you Heather.

I miss living in Laguna Beach so much but I miss everyone there so much it’s crazy how far away we are every one else misses me being there

I feel like what we’ve seen of Ellie’s Friends that you're best to move not being judgmental but having friends impact you can change the path of her life, I’ve seen it happen!

You don’t have to justify the choices you make for your family. You’re a great mother!

Hey Heather I'm so excited for you and your family moving to your house! You know you can always put a cabinet with two doors they sell them at Home Depot Walmart Target I think it's like a cabinet and it has two doors with shelvings and inside of it maybe you can use that for to make it like a closet for your guest room or something hope this helps can't wait for you guys to move love Emma and Ellie so much you guys are so awesome! Have a blessed day!🥰💜💞😃🤗

Not to mention there’s tons of movies where kids moved and were unhappy about it and by the end of it, they are happy

It didn't seem to me like Heather was explaining or "justifying" herself, more like just sharing with us their situation(sounds more friendly lol), so thank you for letting us in :) Heather is a great mom and she and Mark know what is best for her kids!

Im so glad you think that way, you did great as a mother, limites are necessary and we all need to respect our parents no matter what!!

I get so excited when I get a notification that you all have posted 🤗

From one Mom to another, Heather and Mark you're awesome!! Love you all ((hugs))

Wooo. Yes girl! I get you Momma. My youngest son was making some poor decisions and we decided to make a move for the same reason. Moved 4 hours away in hopes that our son would have a fresh start. He did do better as far as school went. You have to do the best you can for your kids. Parent first, friend when they grow up. Plenty of time to be their friend when they are an adult. You only get one chance when they’re young to parent them. Good choice Momma.

Heather don’t blame yourself and it best to get on top it before Ellie get into big trouble. I have say Ellie is funny sometimes in her videos. I hope thing get better for your family. You are doing right thing moving way.

I graduated from Evanston Township High school and every other week or month there would be fights and the school's safety officers would jump in to stop the fight

Heather is a good mom

your a dang good parent as a parent my self we want whats best for our kids i can understand where your coming from hope things get better.

I hope y’all are doing well

Heather I totally agree with you about how Attitude’s change kids with any kind of Electronics I have same issues at times .. if grounded it’s a big turnaround.. when I was going to school back in the days we had hall Monitors all over you didn’t get away with anything.. what are schools doing these days ? Ugh .. Heather I was thinking to bad you and Mark can’t do a channel for ppl 40 plus it be so much fun but I know you have enough on your plate to add anymore to it .. love your family 💖💖💖💙

You don't have to be a teenager to turn bad, even grown up adult, with bad relations, can turn around and be a completely different person, and not in a good way

I love your guys videosss

I AM 45 YRS OLD I LOST MY DAD IN 2015 AN MY MOM IN 2018 WISH I HAD THEM HERE NOW YOU ARE BEING A PARENT AS YOU SHOULD BE! I AGREE WITH EVERYONE ELSE YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF AS A PARENT TO YOU TUBE!

You are doing what's best for your family, children can't see that now but they'll understand when they become parents themselves. It's important we speak about these things thank you for sharing 😊

There is no one to blame. It’s life! I feel for anyone raising kids in this world right now. I think you and mark are wonderful parents and Ellie dosent understand that yet, but she will in time.

Heather your such a great mom....

I'm not even a parent myself and I know that you're doing the right thing, Heather. Ellie is 13, her choices have consequences - that's the lesson here. You're trying to teach her that. I always tell my mom that I'd prefer someone be mad at me for telling the truth ( and they either get over it or they don't, it's their choice at the end of the day ) than caught telling a lie. Being a teenager is definitely a hard spot to be in, I think we can all agree on that - and I didn't have the easiest home life either but at least I can say I never did anything that got me in major trouble ( as far as I can tell anyway - might have been confused about some stuff that inadvertently got me yelled at but that was about it ).

I'm in my kitchen cooking dinner right now watching you cook dinner lol

Good job on being a parent! Need more like you 🥰

Ellie has it easy! Once I’m grounded I’m grounded! Can’t do anything. My mom would never give me my phone on vacation or let my friends come over

Mrs Heather you & Mr Mark are amazing parents!! You shouldn't have to explain yourself. You & Mr Mark look out for & care about your kids so amazingly & loving! Your doing what's best for the safety & well being of your children that's all that matters! Most parents today aren't intune & involved in their child's life! You can't be to cautious or safe now days with your children & family! I love yalls family & I think You & Mr Mark are awesome parents & do an amazing job! Ellie & Emma are blessed to have 2 amazing parents that go above & beyond to see their kids happy & safe & loved! Hats off too yall! Love yall so much!

Hi Heather, I been watching your channel ever since Emma was in middle school!!! I love watching your videos!! You are an amazing mom and Mark is an amazing dad!! I'm 38 years old and I'm mom as well, I have a 13 year old also!! Heather, you do not need to explain yourself why Ellie is grounded! We all make mistakes but we learn from them!!! And I agree with you on what you said about teachers should be in the school hallways when students go to class!! This is my first time commenting on one of your videos!!!! You're doing an amazing job with your kiddos!! Don't let no one tell you any different!!! Thank you for all the lovely videos you post. I enjoy watching your videos!!! Please keep up the good work!!! Hope you and your family have an amazing week!!!! :)

Totally understandable & relatable. Ellie we thank you in later life for sure. Great parents you both are. ❤️

Great Job Mom , Totally agree with everything you said. Love you guys. Say hi to Mark, Emma & Ellie xxxxx

Miss Heather, as a parent of 2 daughters, I completely understand your dilemma in making sure the kids like the area you live in. I am going to say, I am rather old school and when it came time to move, my parent's never involved us kids. We moved because that is what the parent's decided was best for the family. Please don't think I am putting you down for your decisions. What I believe some of the younger generation doesn't understand is this. Miss Heather and Mr. Mark are the Matriarch and Patriarch of this family. They are the one's who are in charge of deciding what is best for the four of them, especially after some of the issues they came across a few years back and moved into a secured community for their own safety. Please keep up the great work of protecting your family and providing for them. You said it best when you said "We are not here to be their friends. We are here to their parent's and their protectors." Congratulations on the new house and can't wait to see how you make it yours.

I have two teenagers myself. As a parent, I don’t blame you! Your circle has big influences on your decisions. She can’t see it now because she is a kid but when she gets older she will understand. As her mother and father no one loves her on this earth like you do. You know what’s best for your kids so don’t worry about the haters

Its a tough job being a parent as you say your doing the best you know for your family ❤️ xx

At Thurston middle school laguna beach when I was in 8th grade with allll my friends in the school district when someone was grounded for two weeks marlie

Thanks for clarification

Its so hard with electronics. We just moved from NY to FL. I have a 7th grader we put her in a small private school. She loves it she found a nice group of friends and she doesn't spend much time on her phone anymore. Sports is a big distraction from the phone. Plus the school we have her in is very safe and very picky when it comes to who is enrolled, behavior is a big part of admission to the school

Heather, tell Emma I said hello! Don't forget Ellie as well!

im so supportive of you guys❤️! love you

You know Ellie more than any of us so do what you have to do mama. ❤️

I gotta catch up on these vlogs

I'm 21 and still live at home. I live in a really small town. So at 14 I had a lot of freedom within reason. Like I was allowed to go out and be out in town until 12pm. Once I was 16 I was allowed out as long as I wanted as long as I told my mom if I wasn't coming home. This being said I've always been against drugs and alcohol and partying. So my mom was really trusting. But I also was not allowed in anyones car unless they'd been driving for a full year (safety reasons). Also I had to be respectful no causing problems or doing anything illegal or anything (I think that's obvious). But my mom's whole thing was if you stay out late you still have to go to school and reap what you sow. I also had a job at 14 and had to have a job or I wasn't allowed to have any luxury items... only necessities. She'd help pay for things if I needed help but I had to pay for the things I wanted. I also had to get good grades and be respectful to her and her house. We've always been close but as a teenager see started to be both a friend and a parent. Once I was 17 (graduated highschool) we were pretty much just friends same rules applied but I had more freedom I could leave town if I wanted I don't have to tell her were I'm going or when I'll be home just that I'm not going to be. Although at this point in my life I'm very sick with a heart condition and so I have pretty stricked rules again (for my safety) But honestly I can say that your kids might not appreciate what you're doing for them now but as they age and mature and adapt to the real world they will.

Elie is a teenager and they will do good with parents around when parents, not around they so sneaky things protect your child and do what is best as a mother u don’t want her to get hurt. Also she can do the same thing no matter if u move or not I pray she change and that’s not who she really wanna be.👏👏🙏

You got it momma!!

i can totally see where you’re coming from Heather, if i has kids, i would make the same decisions as you for my child’s safety

Good morning everyone happy Wednesday morning and I loved your channel and you all amazing Supporter

The teachers in my high school came out of the classrooms as we were changing periods just for those reasons

Oh I’m 19 and agree with a parent is a parent not your friend you can still listen, be there for your child without trying to be their best friend some parents think “oh if I be their friend they’ll talk to me about anything” you can still be the person they talk to you about anything without trying to be their friend bc when you try to be their friend they see you only as a friend

I love how well and how you took your time to explain that!! Live yohr videos ❤️

You are a great mother Heather. 💜

Friends come and go at her age. She'll probably have new friends as time goes on at her current school anyway. That said, it's nice you consider everyone's feelings in your decision on where to move.

I understand cause I use to be copy my friends and some friends when I went to school And I always get in trouble cause friends always tell the teachers and friends blame me and get me in trouble to and I understand you what you say cause my parents did that to me to

I wish you didn’t feel like you have to explain yourself. One word. Parent. She may not like it now but will love you when she looks back and thinks about how you handled it. Middle school can be so brutal. I can’t wait to see your new home and how you decorate it. I love your decorating style.

Aww! Everyone makes mistakes it's just if we learn from them or not! Heather is a wonderful mother I agree with everything she said! Heather is so good at not being her kids friends but, being her kids mother!

Just thought I should let you know about the whole fight situation teachers are legally not allowed to get involved !!

I love you guys can Emma do what’s on my iPhone fall edition?

secret ingredient to making fried rice taste like hibachi is a little bit of pepsi:) it sounds weird but it’s in theirs and it makes the rice do good.

in my school, the teachers had to do this because we had a lot of fights.

10000% agree with your reasons

Heather you're such a great mom 💗

You shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone. I’m a mom of 4 and my oldest is 13 and can be the same as Ellie. You’re a great mom and I’ve always loved the way you raise your kids. Congratulations on the new house!!! Can’t wait to see how beautiful you make it ❤️ I’m also about 30 minutes from Clearwater.

And teaching positive coping mechanisms 👍

You are great parents!!

You guys seem happier in Clearwater & engage as a family. Whilst it’s crappy that Ellie would move away from her friends, you guys are currently experiencing problems and they are involved. Understandable it is a family decision, but ultimately it is upto you guys & if there are more opportunities in Clearwater then why not?

lmaoo so THATS why you asked emma to pick up soy sauce lol I figured you were gonna make fried rice and was hoping you'd show it !! I love a good cooking segment :)

I always like it when Emma and Ellie’s Family makes awesome and fun videos like this :)

This video is amazing

Yes i love ellie and u guys r great parents. i love ellie and she is a great kid but i have noticed in a few videos shes been pretty disrespectful especially when he friends are around. like the one where they are trying on clothes and she kept rolling her eyes and being disrespectful.

our school is the best in the state and the best in our district. other schools have a lot more fights than ours but ours had a freshman fight today and because fights r so rare the entire school knew within 30 minutes. and last year in middle school, our school was a really good school that never has any incidents. but there was one video...... our district is the best in the state, so fights r so uncommon, in any other district fights happen once a week, ours happen once a semester.

wait … tell me why i’ve been watching y’all for years and literally didn’t know mark is BALD

That is a good idea that private schools are better if I worked in another school I would want private just because I feel it’s no longer safe things have changed so much

You're putting a lot of thought into major life decisions, no shade should be thrown at you guys

My foster brothers act like that all the time and they also cuss around there sister , what is worse is one of the boys have adhd. And has a bad temper that really sucks

i think it’s normal for a kid Ellie’s age to act like that when her friends are around. I’m not saying it’s right but i did the same thing at that age. I grew out of it and realized it’s not respectful.

I think your a great mom

you guys are the one family channel i’ve stuck with and loved. Heather you are a great parent. My mom parents pretty darn similar to you so i completely understand your perspective. I surrounded myself with the wrong crowd of people from 8th-10th and i can say it did make me act out. Being around your parents with someone who you’re friends with or like tends to make kids act out. i’ve been there and done that. i quickly came to realize those people weren’t it and i realize how immature they really were. idk what exactly ellie does with her friends but what my friends and I were doing was stuff that could end is jail time.

You go Heather! My parents didn’t discipline me or my siblings as well as they should have but they did scare the crap out of me a lot which is why I’m tough minded today and follow rules unless it is absolutely necessary to break them. Ellie is 13, she’s just being a teenager but sometimes things go too far including the fight at school that Ellie recorded or watched. She should have told someone, but then again her school seems to be negligent.