Why we get mad -- and why it's healthy

No video

Why we get mad -- and why it's healthy | Ryan Martin

Рет қаралды 379,411

Күн бұрын

Anger researcher Ryan Martin draws from a career studying what makes people mad to explain some of the cognitive processes behind anger -- and why a healthy dose of it can actually be useful. "Your anger exists in you ... because it offered your ancestors, both human and nonhuman, an evolutionary advantage," he says. "[It's] a powerful and healthy force in your life."
Get TED Talks recommended just for you! Learn more at www.ted.com/si....
The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request here: media-requests...
Follow TED on Twitter: / tedtalks
Like TED on Facebook: / ted
Subscribe to our channel: / ted

Пікірлер: 568

@curiouscarpenter3152 5 жыл бұрын

"If you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what is within you will destroy you."

@curiouscarpenter3152 2 жыл бұрын

@Luz & Fe Nonsense

@chaseburns8418 2 жыл бұрын

This is ment for this people you can't seem to stand up for themselves either mentally or physically.

@user-rx6qz6uf2h 6 ай бұрын

I agree with you!!! You either use the anger and rage towards something positive or it will eventually come out in a negative way!!

@maxz8807 5 жыл бұрын

If that title is true, then my dad must be the healthiest person ever.

@Ra-oi2hl 3 жыл бұрын

same... :(

@farzanehei604 3 жыл бұрын

So it's not true,simple.

@PlanetC64 3 жыл бұрын

I admire your sense of humor

@payalkulshreshtha4786 2 жыл бұрын

Hahahah 😂😂😂😂

@BlessedChristy766 2 жыл бұрын

My dad too

@DrPhill26 5 жыл бұрын

I didn't recognize him at first but Dr. Martin was one of my psych professors in undergrad, and I can attest that his lectures are exactly like this. Right down to his hatred for roundabouts.

@mobileandroid5299 3 жыл бұрын

What are roundabouts?

@faisalalharbi2431 2 жыл бұрын

@@mobileandroid5299 an intersection with a circle in the middle

@Siennaalbertina Жыл бұрын

Hilarious 😂

@NR-kz2nj 5 жыл бұрын

This talk was AMAZING, anger let us ACT when we see discrimination or injustice only if that anger is transform into something positive and productive. Wow! Thanks for this video

@OrbitalVibes 2 жыл бұрын

And how tf you suppose to transform anger into something productive while in traffic!?

@scottyh8494 3 жыл бұрын

Anger is an emotion just like the rest of our emotions. We have the power to channel our emotions.

@JustinY. 5 жыл бұрын

"That's my secret Ted, I'm always angry."

@Feber2001 5 жыл бұрын

Same..

@johnmivule-novabow8143 5 жыл бұрын

Hey Justin, found you again

@anonymoususer8387 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Justin Y. 👋

@studiorose11 5 жыл бұрын

Damn Justin is popular 😂

@NJOverclocked 5 жыл бұрын

Where you been

@yummy8074 3 жыл бұрын

Also be understandable towards angry people. Anger never comes out of nowhere and people always have a reason to be angry. Don't brush off angry people as being unable to control themselves, because they probably had enough and the burden of injustice is too much to bear for them. Don't think they shouldn't break under so much pressure, you would probably get even more mad if you were at their place.

@Peanuts76 2 жыл бұрын

how can you read me? yes, anger it's a sign of something was not right, if you ever facing violations, mock, bully, and you'll keep silent/ avoiding your anger, it probably results in mental illness or some destructive behaviour..... but you define it correctly on people who have anger problem....

@evphex 5 ай бұрын

This guys suggestion to deal with anger is to cuck yourself? Im sure that won’t increase anger at all…

@yeseniarobles4289 Жыл бұрын

I was born angry. Ever since I can remember I have felt anger, frustration. At first I used to lash out towards others, then I learned that you can harness it to achieve things. It activates your amygdala, it pushes you to look forward to things, like a personal vendetta, it increases creativity because now you’re going after something and there’s nothing that’s going to stop you and if something gets in the way you will come up with a plan to either remove the obstacle or go around it, and it increases performance because now you have the drive!

@ages1010 Жыл бұрын

Wow. Well said, Yesenia! I appreciate your elaborations on anger and the benefit it can have. I needed this today

@gerloke914 5 жыл бұрын

Anger saved me from a life of serving people who will do me more harm than good. The one time I let anger go and turn the other cheek I left my job and moved to a bad neighborhood. I lost everything. We are angry because we sense that someone is taking advantage of us. If you don't follow your nature, you won't see the real picture.

@DavidLee-ge3nx 2 жыл бұрын

You will lose more.

@lowceyn2875 2 жыл бұрын

@@DavidLee-ge3nx No because it stimulate your brain to get better. Life is not lottery, you can manage it

@maliksaleem4242 2 жыл бұрын

The main issue is that I get tired of people looking at my mistakes and they tried to judge me and no matter how hard I try to avoid any situation like this I be ending up getting into a fight with them because they keep judging me for something I did wrong and idk why they do that and yet they acting like they never had made a big mistake before in their lives and its true I've been there done that.

@6184aabbcdefg 2 ай бұрын

How things going on now? I wonder.

@uchihaobito7654 2 жыл бұрын

2:32 I Felt that. Like everytime that I got angry I felt stronger than before. It kinda gave me strength.

@d1want34 5 жыл бұрын

Its ok to be angry, its just you need to be aware and take positive solutions to that particular issue

@prestonrobert2625 5 жыл бұрын

I listen to Mexican music problem this is solving itself sometimes even road rage.

@youssefakdim7695 5 жыл бұрын

@Allison Bauch The main issue, is that some people are fairly patient, but when someone starts to annoy them in any form, they seem to ignore it or try to convince them to stop... but when it escalates to them starting to get physical, the patient person is bound to unleash

@gablit-gt8kk 2 жыл бұрын

Being angry is being insane

@MariaJimenez-ye9sn 5 жыл бұрын

Beautiful. It was an eye opener. Being labelled aggressive for reasons unknown to the rest. It is refreshing to actually accept that you can get mad. The channelling of the energy is still a work in progress. Thank you.

@veganjotaro 5 жыл бұрын

@SAITAMA but is those people who control their emotions or generally have it easier than others.

@melin9799 5 жыл бұрын

@SAITAMA Angry people are usually trying to be scary. But there's always people out there who are so good at looking calm/happy/etc. that no one can tell when they're not. I'm perpetually pissed. I've done a lot of things that I can't take back. I'm never totally fine. But I've got it all tied up with string. Just. Don't. Pull. The. Strings.

@divyamurugesan5557 5 жыл бұрын

His talk on Anger was creating Smiles😊😊

@laeihbvaljefhbvalejfhbv 3 жыл бұрын

I was actually angry watching this lol, I feel better now

@divyamurugesan5557 3 жыл бұрын

@@laeihbvaljefhbvalejfhbv Glad you are feeling better now Julian. 🤗🤗

@Chan-tb7sz 2 жыл бұрын

Same .

@bruatou 4 жыл бұрын

I tend to hurt myself when I’m mad at someone, especially if it’s a unfair situation. the feeling of pain, although i know its not real and just discomfort, and the sight of blood leaking out of my fists seems to calm me down from not hurting people I am angry at. Then I reflect on it and begin to cry and realize I could have probably just sent someone to the hospital out of my anger. I have been dealing with this by powerlifting seriously and bodybuilding to keep me calm and collective. It just makes me really sad though the idea of hurting anyone..

@scorpionmelo943 4 жыл бұрын

well, do a search about the lizard brain.... if you understand how it happens, you'll never feel the urge to be angry anymore. i hope it will help, stay strong

@Peanuts76 2 жыл бұрын

same, hope i can take your suggestions for me

@jenniferduncan3411 2 жыл бұрын

Same, I hit my head so I don't scream at customers

@cart00ner6 5 жыл бұрын

Been divorced 8 yrs, never been angry since.

@melin9799 5 жыл бұрын

"Don't pick a fight with the man with nothing left to lose"

@blucow6677 5 жыл бұрын

so what you're saying is to never get married? here I was feeling a bit lonely lol

@arjun6358 5 жыл бұрын

There's nothing worse than a bad marriage. I have seem my parents go through it, it was soo hard to make it to adulthood

@peakhead7087 5 жыл бұрын

How's your kids?

@millertas 5 жыл бұрын

Been married for over 34 years and in a relationship with her for four years prior to that. I still get angry but not as much as before AND never lonely.

@vinhmai8416 5 жыл бұрын

Wow, this talk was an eye-opener. I hated how unproductive I get when I'm angry and he just taught me how I can channel it to something productive.

@catsplantsandart5462 3 жыл бұрын

i do art its helpful

@jessxkirby38 3 жыл бұрын

Someone give Ryan Martin the noble prize! Well done! Blew my mind!

@OrbitalVibes 2 жыл бұрын

What blew your mind? A lot of gibberish nonsense talk about channelling anger into productivity?

@munetoshiyamasaki7536 2 жыл бұрын

People who always get mad are actually nice and very down-to-earth people. They don't hid feelings. People who do not get angry easily hide their true feelings.

@munetoshiyamasaki7536 2 жыл бұрын

@ItsOnlyDanny I agree. Depend on personal level, but for me I was a destructive kid myself in my early childhood, however now I even care the life of animal and do not even want to kill the ants by foot. I think some of successful people are the opposite of me. They don't even care ants' life, but it they're not self-centered and arrogant, they wouldn't been successful in this cruel world.

@k39564 2 жыл бұрын

if people who are always mad how are they nice? I wouldn't want to be around someone who is always mad, they are not very friendly.

@Fahim_Lalani 3 жыл бұрын

Remember-Anger is healthy 👍🙏❤️even thinking about this calms me somehow which is cool 😎 plus if I get angry accidentally I can forgive myself more easily. This person is genius

@pbinsb3437 5 жыл бұрын

Usually the emotion we experience right before anger is fear. If we spend a little time to explore what we are afraid of we can better understand where the anger is coming from.

@annekerotterdam7499 5 жыл бұрын

And grief!!

@AldanahDougherty 5 жыл бұрын

I was today years old when I found out there such an occupation as becoming an 'anger researcher.' You learn something new everyday.

@perryrobles2615 5 жыл бұрын

Anger is unhealthy if you let it fester. If you do not deal with it.

@christopherneelyakagoattmo6078 5 жыл бұрын

To which many DNA angry people would say, "Mind Your own Business, Sunshine." Sometimes there is no deal. You'd Deal with the Devil and All her Minions and God and Hers: if it would give you one more day. one of those child-like innocent Perfect Days. One more half-day with that Loved one that you've Lost. And how did they die? A lot of pain? Fear? Hate? Confusion? Horrible ways to go. The days before everyone was paranoid about pedophiles. Billionaire Child traffickers that steal, kill, addict, abuse, and destroy lives. Some, he just made disappear. Out the door of the Lolita Express over the Ocean: Shark Alley. Poof gone. she O'D'ed on the Heroine, THAT HE GAVE HER. Little Girls. Allegedly. Mad. Yet? If not. I want whatever Drugs, or religion, you are on.

@manubhatt3 5 жыл бұрын

Many times, generation of anger IS itself the problem, NOT what you do with it.

@gerloke914 5 жыл бұрын

True, then you would run away from your problems and meet the devil. You know. The voices in the head.

@perryrobles2615 5 жыл бұрын

Ger Loke Yup.

@TinoMT 5 жыл бұрын

@@christopherneelyakagoattmo6078 It's a choice, Christopher. You choose to be angry.

@virgin_mary_in_islam2469 5 жыл бұрын

The Prophet Muhammad said : When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down. Abu Dawud Book 036, Hadith Number 4764

@virgin_mary_in_islam2469 3 жыл бұрын

@@pmt1489 change the position

@TNord. 3 жыл бұрын

Good advice! Sitting down avoids confrontation. And laying down makes it impossible to physically harm others and allow time to think it over first.

@ratanaun2960 3 жыл бұрын

This law is great, how many of us follow it? The prophet (pbh) clearly knew that anger is bad, not healthy as this person on TED said.

@ratanaun2960 3 жыл бұрын

@@virgin_mary_in_islam2469 He wants both way. This talk is not beneficial to anyone.

@cedricmissonnier 2 жыл бұрын

Muhammad is not a prophet of God.

@Leto85 5 жыл бұрын

9:58 Lovely line. I've read a similar theory in the book Emotional Intelligence. We adapt our world to ourselves faster than we can keep up with it emotionally because we evolve slower than we adapt our environment, according to that line. I found that utterly interesting because it makes so much sense to me. I like this speech. You came with good arguments and you called me off-guard with that key-commend. :)

@rudolphiscrying7575 4 жыл бұрын

I just wanna say thank you for this man. Because of his talk I can get to know myself more and embrace my anger in a healthu way 😊

@aerodynamicist4 5 жыл бұрын

Okay buy why do I get mad when people ask me if I'm mad? Even if I was literally nowhere close to feeling mad

@brigsmith949 4 жыл бұрын

Go see a doc

@melin9799 5 жыл бұрын

It's also important to remember that YOUR anger can be just as justified as someone else's provocation.

@Fbitypeshit 4 жыл бұрын

Sean O'Neill so you are saying that if i get mad at someone it’s my fault that he is mad at me because i hate him?

@esmeraldamunoz6262 5 жыл бұрын

It's awesome to be able to share this with students and parents. Thank you for your amazing talk!

@samt1661 7 күн бұрын

Anger is an emotion or a vibe we give off projected on words, and the key is to be aware of your emotions and if you come across words that make you uncomfortable it means you captured those words through your firewall and held onto them. Think of the body, heart, mind, and soul like your computers firewall. If your computer picks up a bug, delete it and clean it up. Information overload is a real thing in both computers and us. Our brain is like a computer storing words and processing them. That's why we need to periodically disconnect from whatever it is that's stifling us, empty out recharge, and replenish in order to carry on.

@lessatwi1 3 жыл бұрын

Best statement- channel ur anger to something productive.

@heydavedawson 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t help but feel insane guilt when I get mad... this video helps a bit.

@ooshma444 5 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed people are always throwing their anger around & abusing others with it & no it’s not ok. They should be getting their anger out cathartically in a way that harms no one yet even when I give clients exercises to do so they never follow through because deep down people are afraid of anger. And most disturbing is how no ever throws love around the same way as they do their anger.

@HumansOfVR 5 жыл бұрын

*_Anger_* is universal, that means it must have a purpose. What is that purpose? stress relief maybe

@Yarblocosifilitico 5 жыл бұрын

self-preservation I think... If you had to fight a lioness you better be angry at it, cos scared you have no chance.

@manubhatt3 5 жыл бұрын

It's only useful when your survival is in some kind of imminent danger.

@michaelcook3168 5 жыл бұрын

It's purpose is to give you the courage to tell someone they are harming you.

@DimitrRaev 5 жыл бұрын

As stated in the video ... anger GENERATE stress. May be cursing can be considered as a stress relief, as it is a form of verbal fight :)

@heavenlymonkey 5 жыл бұрын

The answer is stated in the video: to motivate/energize you to deal with the injustice you are faced with.

@iknowsomestuff7131 Жыл бұрын

I had an experience of using anger productively once : I was preparing for an examination and I wasn't doing good . My parents and teachers criticised me because of my low scores in tests . I felt very angry and ashamed at that time . One day I decided I WILL show them how capable I am , and then I could be the one criticising them for THEIR mediocrity. After an year of hardwork , I succeeded . But by that time I wasn't angry anymore .

@lieuwetop1821 Жыл бұрын

heey, thanks for the nice talk! I have this experience to scream and run and feel anger in every part of my body. its never focust on humans or living things. i feel my bounderies and my own motives speaking. taking a stand. and it is the best source of energie to change things in the world. when I let the anger out it is feeling so right! so liberating and natural. i have talked. it feels like strong and powerfull healthy mesculine energy. since 1 year now i am living on the country sight with not to much neihbors and for the first time i am able to espress and scream without concerns of neighbors. i feel how much energie it took me before to deal with that anger. to supress it. i recommend everyone who feels like they hold their anger in. FREE IT!!! LET IT TALK TO YOU!! it helpt to talk to partners and friend who are close. so they understand whats happening. good luck! and enjoy

@dumbledoor9293 5 жыл бұрын

I heard "anchor" for a good 1 minute, and thought "yes, finally another person who likes anchors!". When it occurred to me he was saying "anger", I got so mad! And now I have to channel that into action? 😡 HERE YO GO THEN, AN ALL CAPS COMMENT!

@tatiyana8934 5 жыл бұрын

👏👏😘👍👍 - it was many times I've read in comments on TED - "..it was the best speech on TED I've ever heard..." - now, it is my turn 😳 - It was The Best speech I've heard among all speeches I've listened on TED for the last 2-3 years of my experience to choose the speeches, available here - on KZfaq... - THANK YOU!, - 😘👏👏👍👍🌟✌🙏💗

@GardenFootCreature 11 ай бұрын

I have autism and ocd and it can make every provocation feel like the most unfair and nonsensical thing in the world. I really appreciate Martin’s humour and eloquence

@victoryartist1641 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. We are told to never be anger so are go to response is to shut down. But my dog was being attacked by coyotes and if I didn’t love my dog. I wouldn’t be upset enuf to run after my dog into poison oak to save her from the coyotes. I am also experiencing some injustice that I need to hire a lawyer for now I don’t what to and so wish it could be done just by talking. But I didn’t care about what needed to be done I wouldn’t. So thank you so much. This gives me a sigh of relief. Somethings are worth fighting for.

@teaburg 5 жыл бұрын

I ask myself if I will still be angry about something a year from now, yes..then be angry. A week from now, no...forget about it.

@ratanaun2960 3 жыл бұрын

You wise. Compassion will arise from this as well.

@williamdevonshire356 3 жыл бұрын

i work on a computer and most of the time im on what seems to be a wild goose chase, install this dont install that blah blah blah, anyway i do it all and it still doesnt work... so the problem with that is when you get angry you want to punch people in the face and yell... but when you are on a computer you have to sit still and be very small in the movments with your fingers etc its very exact... also to figure out the problem you have to be calm, because the angrier i get the more difficult it is to understand because im so distracted by the anger... back in the day you can get angry and use it to move a big stone out of the way, or fight a animal or fight your way to the top of a mountain and it was a very big physical thing to live etc... but now it becomes an impediment in that it makes it difficult as i mentioned above

@alenaalena9322 4 жыл бұрын

Don’t let your anger permeate your mind and stay in it permanently.

@QueenEspeon96 2 жыл бұрын

What gets me really mad is lack of communication and people who change their minds at the last minute 😤

@kaleidojess 5 жыл бұрын

At 8:13 honestly that’s how it feels when I’m angry

@barrycharlesbrebner 2 жыл бұрын

"Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance." the Word of God (Bible)

@ydnis8374 5 жыл бұрын

One of the best TED talks ever!

@mayafantana5310 5 жыл бұрын

He's so cute, I love really nervous and at the same time really qualified people. It brings me so much joy :D

@sean8081a 4 жыл бұрын

My wife has anger issues, i wind her up and use her as a weapon against the injustices of the world. Believe me, you don't have a weapon as powerful as my wife, she's unstoppable :0)

@jakeabel9925 4 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video! It actually helped me overcome a ton of large business ordeals.

@virgin_mary_in_islam2469 5 жыл бұрын

A man came to the Prophet Muhammad and he said, “Advise me.” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Do not be angry.” The man repeated his request and the Prophet said, “Do not be angry.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ al-Bukhārī 5765

@mehmetbuyukbayram3166 5 жыл бұрын

He told very simply things that is known everybody

@Huy-ed2re 5 жыл бұрын

Great talk, thank you so much!

@taisenscoolstuff732 5 жыл бұрын

People aren't always going to be happy, we're not robots!

@michaelcook3168 5 жыл бұрын

Actually, many of us are !

@jeffersondavis9415 5 жыл бұрын

I'm the happiest person

@davidpeacemeister1462 5 жыл бұрын

Congratulations!

@Weavile12 4 жыл бұрын

Nevada Kid r/woooosh

@jonpadrejuan5357 5 жыл бұрын

anger + resolve = growth

@cs8782 5 жыл бұрын

I wish I were like you, easily amused.

@SWEmanque 5 жыл бұрын

I get angry when my girlfriend hasn't eaten enough. Because when she doesn't eat she is mad about everything, she is mad that she is hungry, she is mad that she has to eat, she gets mad that she doesn't eat so her solution is to refuse to eat... oh, and she is mad about everything anyone does and doesn't do at the same time. So don't let my girlfriend get hungry. That will ruin the day, even though you have tonnes of fantastic food, once she is hungry she is hungry until the next day when her hunger finally overcomes her madness. I have a really difficult time understanding the evolutionary benefit of being hangry.

@mmmk1616 5 жыл бұрын

Oh man, your gf's behavior sounds like it's rough. Or you make it sound worse than it is. I have a friend who gets testy when she hasn't eaten but is just fine after she eats. What you describe is irrational. Maybe bring it up with her sometime, when she isn't hungry, tactfully.

@SWEmanque 5 жыл бұрын

@@mmmk1616 Nah, the best tactic is that simply tell her very angrily to eat, and she may do it reluctantly. She is very aware that she is stupid when she is hungry. No need for taking it up tactfully. :D BTW, she is the worlds kindest girl when she has food in her belly.

@ps123fan Жыл бұрын

is she depressed or have high functioning depression? that would be my guess

@derpixonisagreatname7153 3 жыл бұрын

This is the video for children that rage on minecraft.

@SilentTrip 2 жыл бұрын

I feel the anger... but I can't get it out or express it. People walk all over me because I don't express my anger or protest

@karaokelvis 4 жыл бұрын

We have to practice the two greatest virtues: empathy and compassion to alleviate anger manegment.

@urbanwarchief 2 жыл бұрын

It's a real shame folks dont understand that these days

@k39564 2 жыл бұрын

what if I do or at least try , but your partner is not ?

@jfrd-pw4hk 5 жыл бұрын

People only hate anger when they're not the one having it.

@MESENJAH 3 жыл бұрын

So is that your justification for getting angry.

@ps123fan Жыл бұрын

wtf, that dosent make sense, it makes sense.... ''People only hate anger when they're not the one having it.'' because no one likes when someone is angry, but they themselves are not angry. (thats why people say, dont get angry, calm down etc) do you like me punching you in the face, no ofc you dont, unless you're a maschochist.

@kevinsbott 5 жыл бұрын

I am a fanatical collector of quotes. Mohandas Gandhi has perhaps my favorite quotable phrase. He said that properly channel anger is the most powerful forces of good in the world. And that anger is like electricity, It can light a whole village, or Electric You.

@user-uf1bd9dv7n 5 жыл бұрын

kevinsbott I think this helps me Thanks internet random gentleman

@ahanafridi2624 Жыл бұрын

I get angry 😡 on small talk if it against me. I have a very poor attitude about always keep my self up. I am really fighting to stop this 😢

@Okratron-rr8we 5 жыл бұрын

I suffer from intense anger but I also have an huge need to hyper analyze every time I get strong emotions. I noticed my anger stems from the times I feel powerless and impotent to a situation. This realization doesn't help my anger much but I have a better understanding about a close family member who has worse anger than me and it's put us on bad terms. I feel powerless because he's so powerless now I'm angry again. Such is life.

@mhmm8725 9 ай бұрын

This dude is not just well practiced, but extremely humorous, which makes me wonder if mastery of anger increases your humor levels.

@pamlacooper3288 5 жыл бұрын

Outstanding, I’m sharing, thank you Ryan Martin.

@sgt.warski2958 4 жыл бұрын

Choices made in anger, cannot be undone

@tainguyentuan698 5 жыл бұрын

Sometimes i just wanna ignore everything....

@SnowTerebi 5 жыл бұрын

The tricky thing is that everyone have their own "justice".

@isabellouise8164 3 жыл бұрын

exactly... that statement can be easily taken as a justification for the righteousness of ones destructive rage...

@dukedex5043 Жыл бұрын

This video made me realize fake laughs in crowds make me angry.

@sylviaodhner 5 жыл бұрын

I don't experience anger, that I know of, except occasionally in a dream. Anger isn't as universal as some people say it is.

@christophmunch4796 5 жыл бұрын

Then hope (and I of course wish it for you) that you don't get cancer, MS or another disease which correlates with suppressed feelings. Read for instance Gabor Mate for more about that.

@xd-r-rex-2307 5 жыл бұрын

You must be Jesus

@christopherneelyakagoattmo6078 5 жыл бұрын

Don't Marry your Soulmate. You will know anger. You only want the best. Outcome. Possible.

@tsunamininja 5 жыл бұрын

@@xd-r-rex-2307 Jesus got angry tho

@sylviaodhner 5 жыл бұрын

@@christophmunch4796 I hope so too, but I don't think that's what's happening. What often manifests as anger to other people makes me cry. I do experience frustration directed at people and situations, but not the physiological characteristics of anger.

@kelterskelter4 3 ай бұрын

What makes me mad for the last few years is the guy living above me. His Uncle let him move in and he is just a young guy who can't or won't interact with the world. He sits in the bedroom which happens to be above mine. He thumps and bumps his video game whenever he hears me making any kind of sound. He runs the power drill along the wall or bathtub, he kicks door stopper. He never goes out and he is always waking me up between the hours of 10pm and 5am. I can feel his anger running down my walls. He fights with his Uncle who even wants him out. But he has no where to go. His parents unceremoniously dumped him on my head for me to deal with. He only goes out for necessities and has no social life whatsoever. Only the internet.

@dianaschmitt8854 5 жыл бұрын

Great speaker; entertaining with useful information.

@pacmanshooter247 5 жыл бұрын

Hm. I do have a rage problem. But I don't experience anger the way he describes it. I just get insanely angry, not thinking anymore, not catastrosizing or anything. Mad. blind. irrational rage. No thinking. I cannot listen to rhat anger. If I give in to it, I start smashing things. I have to go be alone and meditate or listen to music or go for a walk to make it go away.

@Boobies92545 5 жыл бұрын

Pacmanshooter I was the same way.. Let's just say if it wasn't for meditating I would be in prison or dead right now.. We have to learn to not let the thoughts and emotions we are experiencing control us.. Repeat this everyday "I am the master of my mind, I am the master of my reality ." "Thoughts are just thoughts they have no control over me " it takes practice but the more you're aware of reacting the better it will get

@Boobies92545 5 жыл бұрын

I also started to scream like 2 years ago . It helps to get rid of any anger or stress.. When I scream I feel so powerful and afterwards I feel calm. I learned on KZfaq if you ever want to try it. Listen to Disengage - Suicide Silence .

@pacmanshooter247 5 жыл бұрын

@@Boobies92545 Thanks for your advice. I cannot do the screaming as it is too destabilizing for my psyche - I do suffer from C-PTSD and the screaming happend in a rather.. uncontrolled fashion on its own, for some time, and I had to get it under control. My rage used to be worse than it is right now, but sometimes it suddenly happens and catches me unprepared,- problem with thoughts is that that wouldn't work for me. My mind is a very rational place - but the rage completly shuts off my mind. Thankfully I usually have enough control to just shut away from everyone and leave. Though it ruffles a few feathers sometimes, but I think that's better than hurting anyone. I don't think I'm in danger to become too violent right now. Was worse a few months ago. Anywho. Hope you're doing okay too. I'm happy you found a way to deal with it.

@k39564 2 жыл бұрын

when my significant other gets angry, I somehow mirror that too. but I soon realized that I'm just in a "monkey see monkey do" situation. lately I try not to mirror anger. but then I feel guilty when im not angry , especially when anger arose from some stupid silly little thing. I feel guilty because that person feels anger for hours and hours and I can "just let to go" . is anger something people (people with rage problems) enjoy, or maybe not enjoy, but neccasary to be sane in our current environment.

@ps123fan Жыл бұрын

i used to rage if i did bad in gym class, i hated losing, i would flip out. but besides that i dont think i had any rage problems as a kid.

@joshwilliams3653 5 жыл бұрын

Your anger is a gift

@matthewutter2060 Жыл бұрын

Yes I agree with Ryan is right and that’s true I don’t get mad anymore then

@rebeccahutchings5536 Жыл бұрын

Anger is fire.

@Bangandthedirtisgone 4 жыл бұрын

I agree with everything he says it’s just these talks are so *vague*. Like, they tell you to manage your anger but not *how*. Simple platitudes make for a pleasant talk but in reality I think many people watching this (and most other ted talks on similar areas) are looking for real, tangible tools they can use when they find themselves in the situations that provoke their undesirable feelings. Seems like a nice guy though.

@GTRliffe 2 жыл бұрын

anger is growing universally. Anger against woman is growing. Family ties are being severed more than ever...ALL these relate too mans inability too get secure in these most expensive times we live today, once upon a time parents that weren’t able too spell their name could afford buying and paying of house, AND many with multiple property!! TODAY were all more connected with each other, have technology that is close too magic AND YET the ability too acquire AND pay-off a home is close too impossible!!!! this is today’s reality!!!!

@slender1892 5 жыл бұрын

FCKING YASUOS GOING 0/8 AND PREVENTING ME OF GETTING THE CHALLENGER TIER I TRULY DESERVE.

@nghiapham1756 5 жыл бұрын

Lol

@user-rx6qz6uf2h 6 ай бұрын

Great presentation!!!

@robertm8656 5 жыл бұрын

Great topic.

@karanjeetchohan8210 Жыл бұрын

Agree with the roundabouts

@jaredlarsen9419 9 ай бұрын

what about if we do not feel anger in the moment of injustice/mistreatment, but feel it later on? how do we feel anger in the moment and respond accordingly?

@mrMankx 2 жыл бұрын

Knowledge cause anger...

@mrthomaschannelearth 5 жыл бұрын

All I have to say about roundabouts is.. I'd rather be mad than dead

@DARKNIGHTMM 5 жыл бұрын

You have the right to get angry, as long as it doesn't effect anybody else. Have a good day.

@onomequenuncative Жыл бұрын

incredible.

@johnrainsman6650 2 жыл бұрын

My anger toward something is complex. Has anyone ever gotten so _tired_ of someone they see constantly? I feel we see my mom's sister more than my two other aunts (her sister in laws), and I think I'm annoyed because...they're my favorites over the maternal aunt. I get to see the aunt I'm most annoyed with (secretly) than the aunts I enjoy, and I guess I feel that's not fair. It's her, her, her, her, her. Sisters can be SO annoying, even as moms (with the sisterly comparisons, you know). Besides, I think I resent their relationship a bit because I'm a brother with only sisters, and I feel brothers are less important to sisters? You know, brothers are for brothers and sisters are for sisters? Like I said, it's complex. Is it possible how I'm feeling is actually normal, so I'm not being a bigot toward my one and only blood aunt (without her knowledge)?

@allaliensaredemonicandmust7566 5 жыл бұрын

anger is priceless if justified

@Mindset19877 3 жыл бұрын

The reason there are bad people who make us angry is because of a bad value system we live. Every emotion (guilt, happiness, anxiety , depression ) turn into anger if these emotion crosses an internal threshold. As a result of these threshold we develop a system in our mind . This system is called our value system . Collectivity it defines the value system and culture of a society.

@Calel_S 3 жыл бұрын

This is why when angry, one must use that primal energy force for self advancement. We can’t think ourselves out of anger because it will fester and grow internally the more we pretend to fake happiness externally, or express what some call toxic positivity, which is just a colorful phrase for someone who’s delusional and incapable of confrontin there problem.

@David-eu1ms 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes there's no good reason for our anger, just like there's not always a reason when we are happy and contented.

@spongeyspikes09 2 жыл бұрын

Look I'll be honest with you all It's been more than 10 years and if I wasn't so goddamn angry all the time, eventually I would've killed myself It's basically the last thing holding me together and keeping me relatively sane for the past decade

@Peanuts76 2 жыл бұрын

same, i tend to repress my anger, and it's not healthy, im not violent person, but if we keep avoid to expressing our anger, it definitely manifest into somatic symptoms

@Peanuts76 2 жыл бұрын

i even go repressing my anger for about 15 or 16 years perhaps? definitely unhealthy...

@tozboz1018 2 жыл бұрын

It's funny how near the end when he talks about specific symptoms of anger he starts having a nervous breakdown.

@MESENJAH 3 жыл бұрын

Let's not kid ourselves people, anger is a poison, has been, is, and always will be. Every time you get angry you're choosing to feed that grotesque ego, making it bigger and bigger and bigger. Anger is a waste of time and energy. All it does do is escalate problems, and In the end solve absolutely NOTHING.

@jackluo3355 5 жыл бұрын

This is the gist. I like this way of treating.

@dillerhiller Жыл бұрын

“Fear is the path to the dark side … fear leads to anger … anger leads to hate … hate leads to suffering.”

@haloinipatrick8432 Жыл бұрын

sometimes i can't understand when someone get mad, but sometimes i feel mad but i don't know why i think is unnecessary

@osse1n 5 жыл бұрын

*It’s not healthy to express anger and rage* It’s a manifestation of ego. Bottled up feelings, oftentimes spewed at a wrong moment, on a wrong person. Dealing with feelings on the spot is the most optimal, recognising and letting them go.

@Yarblocosifilitico 5 жыл бұрын

so how do you deal with the anger without expressing it?? You're saying it's unhealthy to express anger, and at the sime time it's unhealthy to have bottled up feelings... So, just don't get angry, right? Right...

@hoopgal3216 5 жыл бұрын

@@Yarblocosifilitico first you have to recognize when you're angry. Then with practice, you recognize anger as it arises in your body... you then can let the anger pass through you, without "expressing" it like with words or fists... You allow it to pass through you like wind passing through tree branches. Takes practice but it can be done.