Look...I have been working fulltime for 24 years now and still have 19 to go. This shit gets old. 10 years as a waitress/bartender, 8 years as a logistics proffessional and now already 6 years as a busdriver. Im not narcicistic I just don't think this is what life was meant to be (like)...what am I? There is more to life then money and economy. 43 years of fulltime work to get a 40% income drop when you retire. Great stuff.....

We live in dead, random, unholy times devoid of heros, legends, a meaningful future and beauty. Menschen inmitten von Ruinen. Everyone can feel that. So what's there not to hate about working all day long without a superior vision?

My work ethic has gone out the window after 20 years of working hard, being an expert in my field, yet never able to get ahead in life...I just don’t care anymore...I’m tired...I still do my best every time I work, but my work doesn’t define me.

I feel like there’s a lack of apprenticeship in some occupations. Sink or swim! Teach yourself as you go. Why?! You only get hired if you have experience. You can’t get experience with out getting hired.

I enjoy my work. The other workers in my department enjoy the work. The issue is the micromanaging and constant needling from people who don’t actually do our jobs. These managers and supervisors are hired from outside, they don’t actually know the work that’s done and they are focused on making themselves look good to whoever they answer to, not in getting the work done. They create extra tasks and burdens for workers, masked as “solutions” to impress their own boss at workers expense. Creating problems so they can solve them. I’ve seen so many smooth-running departments get mangled by micromanaging monkey wrenches. Edit to say: to your point, this is due to a removal of the connection between the businesses owners and the worker. The installation of these managers and supervisors create larger and larger gaps between the workers and the owners. I’m sure the owners love that they don’t have to know the details and have relationships with workers. Makes it easier to be greedy and less empathetic.

You need to give this talk to AS MANY Employers Corporations AS POSSIBLE. I have been working for more than 40 years and there are an influx of bullies narcissists especially in management. I luv your teaching you are amazing

People are not stupid. Work is good when it makes a difference not wageslaving for the sake of wageslaving.

I hate working because it forces me to get out of what I like to do just to make money

Oh, no. I absolutely LOVE to work and love my work. This is what supports my independency from my narcisisistic family. I thank God every day that I have my job.

Depressing. At the end of the day you can just enjoy the leisure activities to keep your mind from being too occupied about the world we live in. We are f-ed .

90 percent of people I speak to don't like their jobs. I'm in engineering.

I think the reason why we dread going to work is because work lacks the overall experiences that humans require. Work for work sake lacks joy, spirituality and direction. It’s a chore. Inorder to survive, we do jobs we don’t really want to do. When we work for material gains with no long term rewards, it leads to negative feelings. Majority of what we do in a 9-5 is not for our personal spiritual benefit and eventually the spirit with get tired of the day to day repetition. There is no challenge to the human mind, no change. This is the difference between liking and loving what you do. If you find a workaholic, ask them and they’ll tell you that they had to shut off certain parts of their minds or emotions and focus on the goals they have in mind. This is not necessarily a good thing because humans need a balanced surrounding to be productive and happy.

I love to work for myself

5:14 Perhaps, Sam, you have not seen instagramers, youtubers, yoga -prenuers, "life coaches", glamorize their work to the point of fetishism of their work...ito me, it is invasive and off putting when one of them pops up in a facebook feed...now I will continue to listen to another great lecture of yours. I love your enthusiasm for teaching. Thank you.

I used to say we are headed to the dark ages, after listening to this very well thought out lecture, I'm amending it to the stone age🙄

Sam, you managed to put into words so much if what I've observed at work and in life over the past few years, especially the past year. Hearing you voice what I didn't realize was weighing me down lifted that weight off me. I love work, yet until today, I couldn't pinpoint where that external friction came from. Thank you! I know what I must do to continue enjoying work.

Not in my country, in Spain having a job at 25 is a miracle ....

Many want the money but not the work that brings the money.

I work just enough to support myself, currently 110 hours a month and I do not ever plan on working more. Whoever tells me that I need to slave my life away can f off. I live simple and happy life.

Human cattle syndrome. We'll soon believe that staying alive is too much work, and our numbers will begin to decline.

This was quite enlightening, yet I feel that it has to get "worse" before it can get better. People worked out side the home for so long, leaving children to emotionally fend for themselves. This is an opportunity for people (having no where to go) to realize their own emotional disconnect by first being physically present to see the behaviors of their off-springs and/or others who are close to them and have NO choice but to make adjustments. To make adjustments to oneself can get worse before it gets better but afterwards it will reflect within self, close relationships, then the world. Thank you for all you do!

Well put professor! We feel this instinctively what you have just worded so masterfully. Thank you.

Professor, your final sentence....and its delivery....priceless!

Well I don't hate my work -- I hate that we're short staffed and everyday I have to work 2-4 hours overtime. The pay is great, but the wear and tear of physical labor on the body? The lack of breaks because gps is on my person at all times? the bosses who try to play mind games with me and manipulate my emotions? Yeah, I hate all that. -- On my off time, I write books. On days off, if the house is clean, I'll write all day -- I love that work. Hopefully, if I put enough time and energy into the book writing, I can change careers and get an income from books alone. That would be work I would love beyond loving.

Hi Mr Vaknin. I resonate with your view on object relations when coming from an Easter European country and born in the 80 s. You have expectations and connections when dealing with a craftsman in the village you reside in. Living in a Anglo saxone society I feel mostly lost and not sure what I am search of. Thank you for educating me again sir

The truth about work is this. If you do not own any land or do not own the means of production and have to sell your labour in order to eat you are a slave pure and simple. Unfortunately the slaves at the 'bottom of the pyramid' have it the worst even though their work is the 'most important of the lot' ie., street cleaners, sewage workers etc these are the folks that keep the pyramid and they get a very very very bad deal.

Prof vaknin, I'm going to vent a little bit and throw some thoughts out there, wether you read them or not is up to you. I don't know if you've ever said this before but something I've been thinking about a lot lately when it comes to the narcissism subculture online is that these narcissism videos could be a form of narcissistic supply for us survivors? I know we aren't exactly narcissists ourselves but we definitely do absorb traits after the abuse and I know that when I watch narcissism videos, they become addictive and give me this satisfying feeling which Id assume would be comparable to narcissistic supply but when I tried to warn other victims about this in the community, although many agreed, I was also met with anger and they told me the videos saved them and there's nothing wrong with watching them (which is true in small doses but I mean constantly, not sometimes). We are constantly gaslit and told we're horrible so when we watch these videos, we become addicted to being told we're not what they say we are, sorta like a confirmation bias high 😅 I've backed away from the narcissism community online, the toxicity and lack of self awareness gets really irritating, especially when the people making the videos don't even acknowledge their faults either and feed this cycle of babying the victim, trapping them by making them watch all their videos constantly and then eventually the victim does the same thing and so on a so fourth so eventually no one really recovers, they just become obsessed with learning and teaching about narcissism and never really free themselves (me included sometimes). Anyway I'm rambling, that was just some word vomit, I hope there was a point in there somewhere 😅 your videos are the only ones I watch nowadays if I actually need help with something or if I need to be factual. if you made it this far, it would be cool if you could make videos on narcissistic friends, preferably female. I know it's not normal and they might not even be a narcissist, maybe borderline but I had a girl turn everyone against me, copy everything about me, stole all my friends that she hardly knew, got me banned from my favourite venues over lies and then one day she took me to court and claimed I threatened to kill her, I stalk her, I'm obsessed etc etc. She used projective identification and literally drove me insane at some points. I won the court case but it was quite traumatic this situation. I'm still trying to fix my life but sometimes I feel so lost because there's not much information online about friends doing the abuse, it's always about significant (insignificant) others or parents and the court stuff is always about divorce, never your friend taking you to court before you can so they can frame you as the abuser. Thank you for coming to my TEDxTALK 😅

Great video, agree with everything you said, And I like the ending, LOL , that is why I subscribed to your channel ;)

However alarming, this was a great watch. Thank you. I didn't think the adage "first generation builds, second runs it, and third ruins it" applied to wider society as a whole, but it seems so. Rebuilding post war over a century, the generations there on have been, perhaps unwittingly, moulded by such a mindset up to this point.

Inflation is going up and things cost more than ever but pay isn't matching it at some jobs. People work weird schedule and night shifts were there is no time for holidays or family

I don't care about my work, I just want to get everything over with and disappear. My current job was good, till I learn that I will have to deal with clients.... I HATE having to dispense brain power to have to solve the (idiotic) problems of people I don't care about for someone else to get the lions share. I just don't care because I didn't choose to do this, there is nothing I want to for 8hours straight.

On god all jobs I ever had made me feel like a slave of “the system”

I love work and I love my job. It's the most satisfying job I have ever had and it's probably the one that's paid me the least and I used to work at McDonald's at one point.

No one likes to work. In fact, most people hate to work, whether narcissist or non-narcissist.

I AGREE 💯💯💯💯💯 ,,percent. !!!!!

It's all a scam now. Someone telling you to have "pride in your work" is just a tool for control.

When you're paid by the hour the incentive is to slacken off and do as little as possible per hour, especially in a dead end job. It's more like 'doing your hours' instead of 'doing your job'.

I like my work and take pride in it, its great to work for good customers, but I have ran out of steam trying to help people learn because they expect to know everything immediately.

Entrepreneurship is what is where it's at. No need to idealize the past (read "Bartleby the Scrivener"). The proponents of the "work ethic" are/were entrepreneurs. Learn a trade and put out your shingle. Problem solved. This is what Paul Revere would have advised, Ben Franklin, too. Anyone who says otherwise is selling something.

Suppliers decades ago be like: ' customer is always right ' Suppliers now be like: ' Karen '

I take pride in saying "I'm Working Class " while working on becoming nothing.

Hey I know this is off-topic but I was wondering if you could answer the question why borderline personality disorder and intelligence are connected .I’ve heard that most borderline patients are very intelligent thank you

Everything here encapsulates Carrilian Telent and why it collapsed so spectacularly.

who is this writer you bring up twice? "Veber"? I'd like to know more

I met one Irishman and he said why I should get a job if the government pays me to stay at home? He is 42 years old, lives with his parents and has plans to have things that is impossible without making cash.

Only way is to calm down & wait till required & not give up.

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this is evolution taking place, its no mistake. realize that.

Was Ayn Rand a narc?

Just look at the cars of today boring looking no style and and you get to choose from white black or grey whatever happened to colors or 2 tone colors on vehicles completely drab and boring there seems to be no imagination.