Why You Care So Much

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2 ай бұрын

Resilience, happiness and freedom come from knowing what to care about-and most importantly, what not to care about.
05:00:The Courage To Be Disliked
09:53: Nothing is Real
22:08: The Power of Thinking For Yourself
34:33: Dopamine Detox: Become Invincible
44:07: The Fear of Death
55:27: The Odds of Existence
01:06:14: Nothing matters, but it’s ok
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@denisemay757 Ай бұрын

"If you wouldn't let a stranger into your house in fear of invading your privacy, why would you let them into your head; the most private place of all?" damn.

@Baseds__Backup_Account_3 2 ай бұрын

Even pretending not to care is a form of caring in some way, ya know.

@ayla8345 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely. Because you’re just pretending. The people that pretend not to care are usually the people that secretly care the most

@Empoley-ox9rm 2 ай бұрын

I'd argue it's still better than showing them that you actually care

@Leto85 2 ай бұрын

@@Empoley-ox9rm It depends I'd say. It's a defence mechanism at first in the first place.

@thequarentineboredomcure7038 Ай бұрын

Well is it possible to not care?

@Wpg204wpg Ай бұрын

@thequarentineboredomcure7038 that's actually a great question . I feel like some of the kids from the street corner takeovers actually don't care . At least take few of them anyway .

@Pazaluz 2 ай бұрын

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.” -Bernard M. Baruch

@Novastar.SaberCombat 2 ай бұрын

There is only one major concern people should worry about. When you're about to cross beyond the void veil... Reflect carefully. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

@honor9lite1337 2 ай бұрын

What's that? @@Novastar.SaberCombat

@Espeon766 Ай бұрын

Wtf people always told me Dr. Seuss said this jesus

@TheDramacist Ай бұрын

Nah, that was Homer Simpson - pilot episode

@DanielEngsvang Ай бұрын

When people turn around looking at something you do but you don't mind at all because you naturally Always have a good intent with everything you do and you Know it nothing can really "touch you" the same way as before with regards to "Insults", "rude people", "Arrogant people" and so on as you actually understands them Much much better than they understand You(or others for that matter) as it "clearly seems" you can rest assured that nothing is wrong with you, you are simply just an "Original" of sorts that Outgrew your mental "Auto-pilot", naturally and stubbornly insisting on thinking for YOURSELF instead of blindly following others(the rest of the blind people) as you simply can't even wrap your HEAD around what they are actually doing many times. So every time one steps out in the world and interact with people one can be sure to set a "good example" for others(Not motivated by Narcissism of course), so next time someone stares at you for some reason just remind yourself that you are once again setting a Good example and these are invaluable and can not be helped. That was all for today i think. Wish you the best of all things always and forever, or until you get bored of it of course. 😘🥰😗🤭🤫😇

@anyama2914 Ай бұрын

Life is rough, it’s lonely out there when you don’t think the same as the people around you. But there is always someone out there to connect with, it just takes effort and time.

@Baseds__Backup_Account_3 2 ай бұрын

The day I stop caring about Apertures videos is the day I stop living my life to the fullest, lol.

@itsdarkhere 2 ай бұрын

Idk man, I lost half of my trust after watching his temu video

@bharath2508 2 ай бұрын

😮😅

@honor9lite1337 2 ай бұрын

Why half? 😮@@itsdarkhere

@TK-nk1sk 2 ай бұрын

Real

@savuttaja4208 Ай бұрын

Um what a sigma

@vg__7349 2 ай бұрын

Fortunate to find this channel where there is no drama, rubbish talks.....only deep talks , philosophy and out of box thinking and content ❤..

@Novastar.SaberCombat 2 ай бұрын

Exactly. The only thing that matters is the one humanity seems to be the least concerned about. It's embarrassing, too. So... when you're about to cross beyond the void veil... Reflect carefully. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨

@kenhiett5266 Ай бұрын

This video is so spot on to my way of thinking that it's almost as if another me created it. I'm not always in agreement with your take on things, but this one hit dead center in the bullseye about subject matter I think about frequently.

@gameaddictgonewild4391 2 ай бұрын

My mind is the strongest when i am alone. But i am always searching for verification for my believes in society from people who dont know

@juliansmith5591 2 ай бұрын

This video hit way harder than it had to. Bravo 🎉 sir pure craftsmanship

@solarcabin 2 ай бұрын

Groucho Marx said it best" I would never belong to a club that would have me as a member." The idea that you have to fit in or be ostracized starts at childhood and within families. Until you are 18 in America you are expected to follow the standards of your parents, community and laws. It is why so many teens rebel and I was one of them. As an adult you can shrug off those social pressures if you want but you have to be strong enough to not care what other people think. It took me until my 30s to finally not care.

@Baseds__Backup_Account_3 2 ай бұрын

A whole hour of Aperture is what I need in my life now more than ever. God its just so soothing.

@davidbgooch9587 2 ай бұрын

Absolutely love going to sleep to his long videos

@honey_wink 26 күн бұрын

Thank you for explaining this so well, I could never put into words what I dealt with for a while. I just felt empty and alone, I felt unreal and scared of the world. It sucked, I’m doing better everyday tho since I been putting in the work ⭐️

@beerex7483 2 ай бұрын

Bravo, young man! It took WAY too long for this old man to get where you are. I applaud your courage. Godspeed!

@user-zy2if7wu1b 2 ай бұрын

As my first subscription I thought I would say something. I find your content interesting and I am thankful you decided to make content. I enjoy listening to you. Keep up the good work 😊

@susansmiles2630 Ай бұрын

I love your uniquely calm, pragmatic voice and simple way of presenting profoundly deep insights on this insanely irrational thing called Life., while sharing personal vulnerability. I so appreciate your thoughtful work that reminds us all that we all share the same vulnerabilities. Thank you so very much for the beauty you bring to the world.

@dion_derelle 3 күн бұрын

I really appreciate these videos you drop here it’s really what I’m more interested in. I hope you can make audiobooks so that my phone doesn’t keep dying everyday due to listening to you till I sleep, I hope I’m not the only one that needs this. This type of information you drop here is what I’d love to spend money just to get. Thanks again.

@Ltulrich 2 ай бұрын

Quite possibly, the best video I've ever watched on KZfaq.

@MosesIssachar Ай бұрын

15:06 I have never heard anyone else mention this, and these thoughts came into my mind a few months back, possibly over a year ago, for the first time in my life. It's refreshing to hear.

@noahlapuz3853 2 ай бұрын

The protagonist slash creator took the figurative words out of my meta-mouth! 💜🙏💎

@DazzledCat Ай бұрын

Haven‘t watched your videos for a long time. Decided to watch this one and it did something to my heart & mind. Thank you very much.

@thesirmrdylandylan6221 2 ай бұрын

this makes me want to never look at social media again other than to talk to people and youtube that i specifically search, this video was terrifying and terrifically done at the same time, amazing watch.

@Coco-yv4pc 18 күн бұрын

"dive head first into the void and when you emerge on the other side you'll find nothing, but that future will be clear and bright a guiding light into a better yet fleeting life" - 1:16:14 this really hit hard for me, and instead of having my life just "be" it made me realize you should use your life as a guide, something that in the face of darkness will light the way for you, but it can only be as bright as you let it be.

@nerd26373 2 ай бұрын

This channel never disappoints. New philosophical concepts help in broadening our own minds and perceptions.

@paulaouton6448 15 күн бұрын

KZfaq keeps pushing trash content videos on my feed. I’ve been following you for a while, yet I had forgotten about your channel, I’m thankful you reappeared on my feed. I needed this. You. Your content. Your mind. Do you have any other channels (blogs, articles, etc.) where you publish?

@Leto85 2 ай бұрын

14:39 'The only thing that is certain are thoughts.' This begs for me the question: Do I think I think or am I actually thinking?

@jonathanmartinez2904 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for existing

@LMV123 2 ай бұрын

The view to like ratio is crazy.

@Jorda5s 2 ай бұрын

Goated

@tsarkiel8471 2 ай бұрын

Most people’s brains are too fried to get past the first minute 😔

@rdyxp 2 ай бұрын

@@tsarkiel8471me rn

@linkshadow2 25 күн бұрын

And the comments :(

@seyoch 2 ай бұрын

I'm from the pre-mobile generation and sometimes have no idea where my phone is for half a day without thinking about it. Thank god I learned to be able to live without a mobile phone or social media.

@Memesformiles5748 2 ай бұрын

A very deep, philosophical video truly a work of art.

@Italiaasicily Ай бұрын

Thanks buddy great content!👍

@MartinsTalbergs 2 ай бұрын

Today you found me as an echo, precise work sir.

@jamesrgoes 18 күн бұрын

This video is exactly why I continue to watch KZfaq and support and promote it where I can...like Public Television I grew up with and from which I learned so much...so is YT.😊

@RapidGuy-pq2re Ай бұрын

Watching your videos keeps me conscious

@SnappyWasHere 2 ай бұрын

I think holding down part of yourself due to group pressure may be a good thing to prevent trauma in your own life but I don’t think I would want to stray as far if I felt I had the support of a group. We feel the pressure of a group but not of the safety and comfort of a group.

@savuttaja4208 Ай бұрын

Um what a sigma

@ikurasugarbooty2331 Ай бұрын

I’ve been feeling exactly like this. This pressure (on top of life in general) to be whatever the group wants you to be but they’re hands off at the same time. There’s no real support just identity. You identify with the group and that’s it. Even if you look out for them, it won’t be reciprocated. I’m done being apart of “communities” especially here in the US. It’s a bunch of cults (politics, religion, cultures, corporate, etc) and predators preying on any and every “weakness”.

@Rossfaded 2 ай бұрын

So grateful I stumbled upon your channel, thanks for sharing this greatness with us all

@DanKro 29 күн бұрын

Thank you

@xD-xp6yz 2 ай бұрын

great video very educational

@Leto85 2 ай бұрын

03:50 I think that literarily aging was the cure that made me care less of what others would think of me. I remember that when I was younger I confused the whole concept with stopping what others would think of you would be selfish because it would mean stop caring about them. I was wrong there. And that makes a difference.

@marcussassan 2 ай бұрын

thanks for this

@benyaplon1156 2 ай бұрын

I love your content so much ❤️

2 ай бұрын

We are kindred spirits in terms of our outlook (well i like to think so anyway 😅). You're an inspiration to everyone keep on keeping on!

@ktbaby5237 2 ай бұрын

happy we're all here ❤❤❤

@l.y.r.i.x 2 ай бұрын

I love your content so much. Could you do more content on DEATH and MEMENTO MORI plssss

@shalxnda 2 ай бұрын

My favorite channel

@gameaddictgonewild4391 2 ай бұрын

People have so much interest in things that dont matter, so they have so little over for things that do...

@turtleanton6539 Ай бұрын

Indeed🎉

@alexbunney9085 27 күн бұрын

When you said solopsim OCD that was the first time I've heard of that and so many confusing sad things clicked in my life you just gave me so much insight to myself holy damn

@itsokifyourenotok 2 ай бұрын

"yes, nothing matters, but isn't that a good thing?" like dam

@BearScowe 2 ай бұрын

Great video!! I do want us to keep in mind, as far as being ostracized at the workplace..it is not always about poor performance..it’s much more nuanced than that..and it is not always a positive thing or called for.

@Clicklord 2 ай бұрын

Need this on Spotify

@Rex-13 2 ай бұрын

I found your channel because of the 731 video that’s insane

@Elatzy 2 ай бұрын

I recommend reading the book "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck": Very good book.

@paulaouton6448 15 күн бұрын

“Just be, for a minute or two, without any source of mental stimulation” should be easy, although sounds scary.

@Survivalguy 2 ай бұрын

Man we would have been great buddies had we met in our youth. I felt the same way. I didn't know why then, but I was light years away from kids my age. I love your content. Ignore the haters, they are just jealous. It too me 430 years to realize why I was not liked by alpha males. They were intimidated by me little I knew at the time. People don't like feeling stupid. I recently wondered if I might be on the spectrum a little. I never cared what people thought of me. I knew I was fine.

@desireelevesque634 Ай бұрын

I deal with severe depression, anxiety, poor self esteem and imposter syndrome (childhood trauma). I'm leaving a job I've been in for 12 years where I know the expectations and am confident I can achieve them, but I transferred to a new location 9 states away last year and I strongly dislike my (lazy, incompetent) coworkers. I have been invited by some new friends to apply at their workplace and try something new, but I fear that I am not capable of doing that job and I'm going to be a disappointment and a failure and have to find another job. I also fear that I'm not "cool enough" for my new friend group and they'll ostracize me once they get to know me better. It's exhausting to have to try so hard, not only to succeed in general, but to successfully drown out the voices of doubt and insecurity in my head.

@amensoul1242 Ай бұрын

i realy agree whit the starting now i will listen ..

@alexandrudrekaru-solo8789 2 ай бұрын

amazing ending

@nkha23 2 ай бұрын

In total love with this brain-stimulating channel. I want to see the man behind that voice. I don't know why, but I'm terribly curious

@paulaouton6448 15 күн бұрын

Me too, I need to see the face behind these thoughts.

@KingFriday274 2 ай бұрын

I love this channel.

@arboristlife3494 2 ай бұрын

I love your work keep it up

@turtleanton6539 Ай бұрын

Indeed🎉

@iBridgee 2 ай бұрын

Learning to let go of things beyond our control is the key to inner peace.

@domonator5000 26 күн бұрын

3:14 fuckin SAMEEE dude! I was so existential for my age.

@blueshadow7544 Ай бұрын

Incredibly rich content; so glad to have landed here! Can I focus on a detail: where did you take the probability figures from? Because car crash 1/107 to die and motorcycle crash 1/800 to die is very new to me then… motorcycles are safer? According to whom? Thanks!

@Blankspaceb 13 күн бұрын

Yeah a lot of those stats sounded like BS. Prob made up or some totally irrelevant math equation spit out those numbers.

@arellacamryn5209 Ай бұрын

Saitama be like, "Why is my face in your vid?"

@AmyLDCCXK Ай бұрын

Now I really want to see your video about Unit 731. Hey KZfaq, what about Unit 731?!?!

@youruler11 2 ай бұрын

I am not who I think I am, I am not who you think I am, I am who I think that you think that I am.

@nathanaelstucky 2 ай бұрын

In my experience, the only time I felt solipsism, was when I got mind numbingly high for the first time.

@jacobmalof 2 ай бұрын

Are you responsible or know who is responsible for “Athene’s Theory of Everything”? That video changed my life. If you see him/her/them, please send my thanks for that film. This channel strikes the same chord and scratches that same itch. This channel/perspective is a real gem, thank you!

@gabri770 2 ай бұрын

What a video…!

@abhaydubey9477 2 ай бұрын

Wisdom ✨✨

@saitamathecoder1386 28 күн бұрын

Love the saitama thumbnail.

@ryer8477 2 ай бұрын

is this a compilation or a full video

@SunWhukonn Ай бұрын

I see aperture Saitama Thumbnail I click

@kenhiett5266 Ай бұрын

I know balls to bones free will isn't a thing and that's devastating to the idea of a soul or afterlife of any kind.

@missshroom5512 2 ай бұрын

I wonder sometimes if heaven is so good why then does no one want to go

@kenhiett5266 Ай бұрын

Your chances of being attacked by a shark go up exponentially if you're an avid surfer in New South Whales, Australia.

@abdulimran1848 2 ай бұрын

❤️

@Paladoriom 2 ай бұрын

It's not the eyes that are blind, but the hearts. -Quran 22:46

@Strik9 2 ай бұрын

The only judgements i don't like come from court😂

@joeyRaven201 Ай бұрын

real

@polipob Ай бұрын

real

@Novastar.SaberCombat 2 ай бұрын

As an award-winning author who has also achieved 12+ medals in competitive saber fencing, and earned several awards for 30+ years of live productions... I don't have a bloody thing to prove to anyone. Especially not to "the internet", lol. 😂 I was working on productions before Netscape even existed, suckahz! I also briefly worked at Netscape, believe it or not (when I was pretty young).

@Ghostly8895 Ай бұрын

I wish I had a different mind, became a prisoner in my own mind about my low life and its torture everyday I have nothing and will become nothing, almost completely alone

@ericcarabetta1161 2 ай бұрын

The secret to being happy is, never make goals for yourself. That way, when/if you fail, you won’t be disappointed and feel like your life is meaningless.

@austing2786 2 ай бұрын

I’m loving the video, and no judgment if it is because your wonderful script is the highlight of the video, but are the video clips AI generated? Like the ones of people specifically, I was just having a hard time telling if it was or not

@zovutnik 19 күн бұрын

I'd love to put my phone off but I'm working using it mostly lol... Maybe it's time to quit to get a new perspective on things

@amensoul1242 Ай бұрын

10:13 i had the same tought at 13 now im 33 and i cant stand it anymore dude i swear xD im tilting realy bad :3

@korban007 Ай бұрын

God knows our plan, the work we do preserves us for as long as we want to be here. Our brain needs loads to also be here. Believe in nothing because that’s a choice too. Or have faith that someone will grant us grace. That the life we lived for God to enjoy our story.

@ryer8477 2 ай бұрын

The discord link is down

@turul9392 2 ай бұрын

Press F for Queen Tay

@markandrew3102 Ай бұрын

Out of control!! Come on now...

@9000ck 22 сағат бұрын

Where is the line between confirmation bias and heuristics? Also; being free thinking and having free speech is all very well, but there are two problems with this on the internet. 1) you can speak your mind and no-one will listen, 2) you speak your mind and you will be listened to only if you have something extreme to say 3) people who say extreme things tend to be wrong - tend to be wrong, but not necessarily 4) which means the internet/ social media if filled with the extreme.

@bikechase3783 2 ай бұрын

Is no one going to mention how similar the title is to Mark Manson's book

@mikev8341 2 ай бұрын

Cmon

@Colorcrayons 2 ай бұрын

So what happens if you ARENT re-invited to the group after ostracism? (see: 5:50) Becoming a pariah is just that, and it is often quite unjust, rather than benefiting those who are victimized (real or imagined). Simply because this act also grants social currency to those who initiate it the ostracism. Making the motive to ostracize questionable at the best of times. Thus, it is a tool to rule by fear. The fear of ostracism. Ruling by fear has never had beneficial effects.

@shoheiohtaniofficial 2 ай бұрын

23:02 - How is the truth "abusive and offensive"?

@Blankspaceb 13 күн бұрын

I don’t believe the shark stats. In cape cod, there are incidents every year lately.

@brother44444 28 күн бұрын

is that saitama i'm seeing?

@vladimirputin6274 2 ай бұрын

As much as I like learning about philosophy, I just can't help but wonder if anything does matter, and, for that sake, I just can't stop but think that there's no point in me living. To anyone reading this, consider not intaking too much philosophy, especially nihilism, if your mind is sensitive to information. Nihilism is one of the most profound concepts I've ever learned about, but it's also been dangerous to my mental health. I've started caring less about things and stopped trying so hard to succeed in life. However, the urge to stay alive is something that I still feel, and, for that matter, I feel the need to try harder. Yet, when nihilistic thoughts meet my pro-life desires, I break down and question so deeply if anything truly matters and whether I should just kill myself.

@Bigblanc81 2 ай бұрын

I've been exactly there too. Life in general has no meaning to me still but I've decided to stay alive for the people I love and to make them proud . I've found out that there's must not be an universal answer to the meaning of life but to realise that some people love me was enough. After I realized what I would do to them if I committed suicide I kinda had my answer of what it meant for me to stay alive. Hope that will help you even tho it's only my personal POV

@jjmm5655 2 ай бұрын

Well everything matters and everything is connected 😅 welcome to reality.

@mus3bmo7mmed15 2 ай бұрын

Is it a repost??

@mayiflex 2 ай бұрын

yeah i remember the first 20 minutes

@SkepticShay 2 ай бұрын

Solipsism is most likely not true. However one doesn't need to believe in solipsism to stop caring too much about other's perceptions and judgements. Nobody's perfect; everybody both makes mistakes and does it correct which applies to making judgements too.