I always think that the wrong guy finds a woman like me boring ....I was right and I'm okay with that

Actually, Shumake, my daughter, and I have had this conversation. She said she's looking for someone like me. However, she says they aren't built like me anymore. Though I am flattered by what she told me, I told her the same things you had said. She will not find a good man who loves this world. They must be a Godly purpose driven man. They are not in the clubs, and they are not the pseudo religious types either. Well said bro.

As a young women, what you’ve said has truly resonated with me. I find men these days do not take you seriously and only want to "have fun" with you. No intention or commitment. You have to set your standards and purposefully stick to them

I was raised with in a two parent home. And pops always told me, that it's imperative to love myself in order to love a man.

Hey bruh I’m a old head 62 yr old and one of your shorts pop up, and I was concerned about the generation coming of men coming up because a lot of them speak about women like their the enemy, I was pleased to hear your content and I hope young fellas tune in

As someone who works with youth and college students, I’ve seen even the ones with good fathers make bad decisions these days with regards to the type of guys they choose. This generation is so heavily influenced by social media and corrupted by their toxic friends who get them to participate in hookup culture esp when they go to college. I’ve seen the sad transition of several of them clearly corrupted as soon as they step on campus that Freshman year.

Honestly a lot of women say these men don’t exist because they are superficial. They want to complain about men being no good, but when they meet a Kingdom man. He is ignored and friend zoned. Why? He is not tall enough or does not have enough muscles. Trust me, these women have came across good men and knew they were good men. It’s always excuses like he is too nice or I’m not turned on by him. I have a nice guy and love the way he treats me. I reciprocate, I let him know how much I appreciate him.

3:07 That’s a really good point and doesn’t get talked about often. A lot of the guys from the RP community, manosphere are just guys that are holding onto trauma from a woman that broke their heart. After that they don’t trust women at all and they take on ideologies from the likes of men like Andrew Tate, Fresh & Fit etc. It’s the same with women who go ultra feminist after having her heart broke by a man. Hurt people hurt people.

I retired from the position of being a "Fun Girl" to being promoted to "Mrs. Future Forever". It wasn't easy to get to this position after years of mental and emotional baggage. Thank You Lord for saving, protecting and keeping me!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

I’m a home body!!! And I still don’t attract the men I desire. I honestly be home or chilling with my daughter doing mama things all day. Then boom nobody calls me😂😂😂 they run so this can be a double edge sword. I’m a wife it’s just no man is ready to cuff , so I’ve accepted I’ll be single forever and that’s ok too

I can understand the people who are saying these men don't exist or to divest because clearly that's not been your experience, but its also about being a vibrational match/equally yoked with those type of men. I married a unicorn because I am a unicorn. If it was easy/common, everyone would do it. I attracted my handsome, growth minded, healthy (mentally and otherwise) black man when I decided to do my own healing work. That's how I leveled up the people I attracted. Otherwise they essentially don't exist because you're existing in different realms.

This video is ignoring the fact that “good men” are NOT the majority in the community. Shumake has read the bible. He knows we’re in the last days. He knows that this world is largely wicked and ungodly. Therefore he should know that “kingdom men” are not found in abundance. Even if every kingdom man was taken, they’d STILL be an excess of single women as there’s not enough to go around.

You know when I was 20 I wanted so much to get married. Loud, clubber, drinker, pretty face, and banging body; I knew I was going to get a good man because that was all it took. I was so WRONG!! Looking back as a married woman, I would have never married someone like me.

@0:43 LISTEN ! I’ve been dating since 14. I’m 26 now with 2 children. I just realized that my absent dad might have played an effect, however I don’t use that as an excuse as to why I’m single or why I’ve had failed relationships. I love super hard. But I’ve loved the wrong men. Now I’m praying for that Kingdom/Godly man. And your absolutely correct, before I gave it to God I couldn’t find a good man if you paid me to 🤦🏾‍♀️ but I know better now.

I think I have found a kingdom man and I have appreciated your content because I want to keep him. I’m not a city girl and I’ve never been but your content has reminded me of who I am and who I strive to be. Thank you!

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I'm thankful I had (and still have) my father around (he is a great human, even tho he's not perfect). I think the issue is that people (especially the youth these days) are so focused on what's going on outside and outside of themselves, they're not seeing that the problem is internal. Nobody is doing the work to heal and character build. Also God sends you what you need, not what you want. A lot of people miss out on the person that's suppose to be for them because they're not paying attention, they're not seeing the signs. Everyone talks about red flags, but they're not seeing the signs for the good people either.

When I tell you this guy is the only relationship/advice guy I follow it’s the truth! Brother thank you! 🙌🏾

There is a whole album called “You Can’t Take It With You” by a band called As Tall As Lions and it’s all about this Nothing in this material realm can out trump anything in spirit. Thank you for your message.

Ladies have high standards you have to protect yourself if a man cant provide and protect run.

Sound wisdom from a man of God. We receive it! 🙏🏾

You’re literally the realist most relatable online big bro I never had ! Funny thing I’ve said these many things to some friends from the past & they never listened. Thank you for what you do and enlightening women and myself xoxo love from 954

I am divorce, I’m 40 and I decided to heal before dating anyone. And I, want to attract what I wanted and deserve. So It was a process but I wanted a man that walks in his integrity. So I have to walk in my integrity. My friends say girl just date and have options . I’m at an age where I know what I want and I can’t just swing from guy to guy. My choice was to heal and work on myself… So my man can find me, see me, and know that I am healed and his.

You just explained the man that I always desired so perfectly. God willing that I find him one day. Thank you.

Yes, they are out there! I refuse to belive that they don't exist.🎉

Thank you for your kind words and all these advices. The thing is, finding this kind of men is really hard in this day and age. They are out there ofc, but they aren't easy to find. Most people that you can come across are unserious and hateful. Praying for my husband soon ❤

You did a GREAT job in relaying this message in brotherly love. I saw a video with some Hebrew Israelites telling a woman on the street essentially the same thing, but their delivery came off so mean-spirited that I imagine it was a lot more difficult for the young lady to receive the message if she ever did. Yours was a very Christ-like approach! God bless you!

You’re such a GREAT human!!!! You give hope to humanity 🥹

Ok that all sounds amaaaazing! AND he’s black? BUT those men are far and few! Not saying it’s impossible but it’ll prolly take some time 🙄

For the women who do not fall in the category of what you described of the type of woman a high value man doesn’t want, what potential blinds spots could a woman be over looking within herself that may be preventing her from meeting the right guy after she has done the work on herself in all areas you mentioned?

I don’t know how this video got in my feed… But I’m glad it did!💞 Sir, you are speaking God’s Truth!🙏🏾 New Subscriber here!🙋🏽‍♀️

Love this!!! 1000% true!!!! Love it❤

Love these big bro convos! Thank you! 👌🏾✨

💯% true advice. I hope someone is listening.

Thank you Big Bro. Our body is the temple. We just need some guidance especially if there was no father figure.

You are God sent

Blocked that drama, thanks son.

CUZO🎉 You ALWAYS come at the right time!! God is FAITHFUL! YA MILL on the way!!

I never got the one I wanted. I am a bookworm homebody and maintaining what i have i am not interested in playboys and hood types i stay away from that. And I have always been up front about what i was looking for. But every time i consider some one its always the same thing they only bother because they are horny. Now they even ruder about it. Its such a turn off At my age now, i quit. I don't believe love and relationships are meant for me.

THANK YOU!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

Well I just figure it must be timing for me bc I'm not doing any club activities etc, I go out, I'm in my word, but nothing lol. I'm lucky if I get anything after hello lol.

I can relate to the point of tears. God had a reason to say guard your heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life. I felt like the woman at the well. That would be a fulltime ministry in itself. Agape

Thank you for being a big brother 🙏🏼❤️

Amen Brother Shumake! 😅❤

I appreciate this message. 🙏🏾❤️

I agree with u but do these kingdom men exist in the present world we live in? Are they in the minority? God did say that humans are desperately wicked which appears to get worst as time progresses. Can u do a video on where we can meet these men.

Well said 👍🏾

This!

Needed to hear this!

This is totally off tangent lol but is county Wayne is your dad? You look and sound just like him 🤣

Thank. You. My. Brother. For your. Platform. First. Making. God. The. Head. Of. The. Relationship. A. Woman. Who. Has. Self. Respect. LadylikeNess. Soft. Spoken. Carries. Herself. Like. A. Lady. Not. Loud. Character. Thank. You. Again. As. B. People. We. Must. Denounce. Bad. Behavior. With. Our. Children. And. In. The. Community. Continue. Your. Platform. May. The. Lord. Continue. To. Bless. Your. Platform. All. Praises👏

Shumake, can you please talk a about "phenomenon" of men developing soul ties / friendships with other women other than his GF /blood relatives? aka " we are just friends"? Women, who might be married or might be single, but they go buddy buddy with the man, who has a gf and he plays buddy buddy with them, like we are just friends, And those buddies - ladies are affection toward the man, but don't show any true desire to get to know and befriend his girlfriend. They really are friendly for him, but quite distant or superficial with gf. Obviously, this is my story and it's heartbreaking. If we were in reversed roles and I had a few close male friends, who treated me as if I don't have my special someone in my life or/and acted excluding toward him, I would make those friends bounce. For real. Because it shows they don't respect my relationship, when they haven't even gotten to know him (my bf) but already got some attitude. I know, I would have some straight talk with these friends of mine. Now, I tried many times to make my bf understand this...I am loyal and I rly put our relationship first and expect the same back, since he loves me too. He pretend he doesn't see how his friends are with me , no they are not rude, but very excluding and distant, like our relationship is relatively new, you would think they will have positive curiosity about with whom he's with but they don't display it all. He is a mature man, older than me as well for enough years. Emotional and sensitive hence he says, he always found it easier to have female friends than male friends. Tho he has both. I don't feel like I'm better than those friends,I am just very shy and I just want to be accepted by them and not experience them kind of being excluding towards me , it is painful, and I wonder how come my bf is not wondering , what's going on and this has been affecting us greatly. I would love him to be actually the one wondering what's going on, etc..He says I'm too jealous. ok..maybe. but I see also clearly that he is comfortable with his friends , and he kind of doesn't see those nuances and shades they throw at me. When I point it out, he has a reason to criticize me. If I don't, i burn myself from within :/ He has even laughed that some of his female friends like him" like that". It makes me feel insecure because he hasn't put boundaries toward them but is very adamant of how he has to put them toward me to protect those friendships.. I just want him to understand me. .I love him and for the longest time , Believed he loved me too, now I'm not sure at all about it. Because Everytime I bring this up, he goes defensive and we got an argument. I bet he would not enjoy being in foreign country, having his GF all these friends who clearly show no desire to be befriend him too, like they don't respect us as a couple/our relationship. How do I make him understand this without making it worse?

Thank you for this context it gave me confirmation of my journey.

I am waiting with baited breath to hear the answer.

Thank you👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Great message!

As an older women who had to be older long before I should've, I've always known the type of man that I wanted and didn't want. I know I come scarred and it will take a very strong man who is sure of who he is to deal with me because I have had to be there for me for too long. I have never needed a man that makes a lot of money because I work and have a profession. I know how to actually get up and get. I need to see that you are working on you, have respect for others and self and is open to discussions. I will ride for you as long as I know I can depend on you to step up and adjust as necessary, and yes he has to have a belief in God and decency so we can grow in God together. I need someone I can build with who values my opinions and inputs and shares his with me in a constructive way as well.

Beautiful Advice 🙏🏾✨✨😊

This is good! Thank you!

Atp you're telling bw to date out because finding a bm like that is like finding a needle in a haystack 😂

You’re describing yourself as a man knowing the work you’ve done internally but you know deep down that your type of black male isn’t common. You sit back and shake your head at the behavior of your black male counterparts. Black women, DATE OUT. We are not obligated to suffer like this. We’ve been loyal long enough and have got horrible results. And yes a man need to make as close to 100k as possible so that he’s not trying to use you as a come up or make you pay the bills. Black women, date out and/or raise your standards and keep your legs closed.

thankyou

Thank you

Our men need to pray over us. And then pray for himself.

That's easy, he doesn't exist 😂

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What are your thoughts on dating a man with kid&you have none?

does this man exist?? more than one?

DATE OUT BLACK WOMEN. It’s time to move on!!!

Good points, but the last 3 minutes and the points aint hitting on nothing logically. Life is hard and people need to be held accountable for their decisions. You can’t blame “good men” or “good women” for being hurt from pass relationships and that turns them into city girls and players. Nah. Those are their choices and actions. People have to blame themselves for their actions and decisions.

Remember what a woman does. A man has taught them the behavior.

I agree with everything you say here, but I'm also tired of hearing BM speculate that most BW chase after thugs, ballers, men with money etc, which isn't true! Most BW don't move in those kinda circles and entertain men within our proximity. I'm 39 and have never been interested in thugs or bad boys. I've always dated the quiet, socially awkward, educated, nerdy, black guys (I even married one) and still got "the same black man" as Cyn G would say. The issue is that the pool of available men in our community is polluted. Most of these males aren't seeking a healthy, long-term relationship or marriage. As a result, many BW are opting to remain childless/single and/or have divested because we're not finding the right calibre of men within our own community. Sad but true.

Tell them he aint gay, bi, downstairs or down low

Not in shape that seems a little shallow for thicker built dudes but I realize this is just one opinion but definitely true about everything else look for quality versus quantity in partnership

Just city girls. City girls are nice people.

OK don't you see your married with babies, your taken already, why didn't we meet when I was dating yrs ago, I consider myself a good woman, not on the good looking side, didn't do all that bad stuff you were talking about and still ended up with the wrong man,

Good man got that bag right??

Honestly women don’t want men like that anymore. Thanks to the manosphere 😂

You can’t even make up nothing about a man😅.

Thank you brother for this message❤❤❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾