Nahh frrr

no cap

Fr

Fax 📠

Cmon

Just don’t get in a relationship there ya go solved

@@daquaviousbingleton9763 telling that to an anxiously attached person is like speaking to them in another language. Being anxiously attached is apart of their nervous system. It's rooted in the infancy's/childrens' need to attach for survival and utilizing activating strategies to bridge the gap of their needs not being met.

Horrible. Betrayal is one of the worst feelings in life.

@@dominique7269 but also a very good teacher and lesson. Your next partner, like mine is appreciated more than they ever would have been.

Yes exactly! You’ve put it very well how I feel about this. It’s purpose is to heal you, and healing doesn’t only happen once.

Yes, I essentially think you should never date an Anxious person unless they make effort to be a secure attachment. I am an anxious person and I used to immediately communicate to my ex whenever I had problems because I thought being confrontational is key but it actually drove them away. To be fair my ex was an avoidant attachment, so they already don’t want challenges, and they need a lot of time to themselves. So now, I am no longer super fast with my confrontations and takes a day when I come across issues. Then I calmly discuss it with my partner and he’s a secure person so he never really gets defensive and we have a conversation instead of an argument. You should never date someone anxious or avoidant unless you are SURE you can provide for them. Self love and self discovery is the best for these co dependent people.

@@nightmime6314 Any insecure attachment style is not a good idea unless they are working on themselves. I am an FA but Ive been working on my attachment style for a few years not consistently because I was busy with school. I dated an FA after knowing about attachment styles and I thought because I know the attachment style inside and out that I would be able to handle it. Even though I knew him better than he knew himself because of this knowledge it was still a mindf*ck. It was mentally exhausting. I will only date secure going forward, and with work hopefully I can become secure.

Same thing happened to me. But he took 5 months instead. Even then it was a lot to process because he was so anxious to lose me 24/7. I broke up with him because I couldn’t bear that constant reassurance cross anymore.

so maturely put out, i hope you heal from the wounds which were never yours to begin with, i hope you never take it personally and with the fellow troubled mind some healing and move on with your life in peace knowing your higher self saved you from such toxicity, i hope you know the fact how unstable head can only fear being alone and ignore to work on themselves and shift from person to person just to curb out their loneliness and not facing their demons, not recognising they have any in the first plcae, i hope you find a healthy and a stable relationship, love xoxo

she moved on quickly (I’m assuming) #1 to make you jealous and #2 because she isn’t capable of being alone - speaking from my own experience I would relationship hop to fill a void but was never truly happy because a relationship will never make you happy unless you are already happy with yourself

Same thing happened to me, I was furious that my girlfriend kissed two guys before me and DANCED, just DANCED not even intimate like salsa or anything like that on a double date her bestfriend invited her to. She was a virgin and I'm her first sexual partner. The thing is to stop obsessing about it or you will develop this severe case like me. Have a deal breakers before entering relationship(mine is no hookup history - sex related). Started going to the gym, BJJ, running, reading a lot of books and focusing on myself. Developed self confidence and realized I m with the best girl ever. I will be the man that she deserves by her side!

@@misterchesks233thank you bro this gave me some clarity

agreed

Wow, congrats to both of you

Get him to gratitude journal. I highly doubt it'll take more than a month for him to not take you for granted

with all due respect, does your son not have a father in the picture ?

@@moneymakinmitch8130 he has

@Dylan G amen brother, we have to go through what we go through to come out the strongest version of ourselves on the other side. Or stay the same, or even worse, sink deeper.

Nice dude! Goodluck out there, sending love.

Proud of u!!

Bro live your life , and be yourself .

Sending healing for you 💗

@jumanna its okay you are not the only one we are here for you and us

watch develop attracion or corey wayne on yt and read there books, trust me

Bro I shit you not I did the same thing months ago. It’s crazy how alone one can feel with these problems, yet so many of us have them. Glad to see you’ve gained some clarity and mean to make it better. Respect 💪

Thinking about doing this too but I'm going through no contact atm for another few weeks atleast. Please let me know guys how you got with that. Some feedback would be appreciated

THIS IS EXACTLY what I said, this video is STRAIGHT from god bro

I just got broken up with by a girl who asked me out. Makes me feel like the longer someone knows me, the less they like me.

Edit: Love to see people sharing ideas, we need productivity! I can tell you that I've come to the same conclusion on my own, and yes, that is infact the key to masculinity imo. The funny thing about crime statistics, and single mother home statistics, is they actually affect how masculine a man can be. Without the father, and to a lesser extent with a shitty one, a boy will develop in a way where he doesn't know how to respond to his emotions due to lack of guidance, which breeds within him a feminine nature of reacting to emotions instead of acknowledging them, and using your brain anyways. Otherwise known as being a pussy. I wish you the best my friend, we're on the same path, and we will succeed, I can see it well.

Those two comments really resonated with me, like deeply. Thank you both for sharing those insights with the rest of us. Made me feel a lot more secure in myself. All the best bros!

The truth that he talks about at 1:06 with the youtube dating advice is really important, 99% of the time all those men that think "well I really just want sex" don't want that all, they've been brainwashed by society and the idea they need to have sex with many women to be men, what they really truly want is intimacy & deep meaningful emotional connections/bonds with women, but getting into the hookup culture can actually kill that for men and make it far further out of reach, literally turning them depressed or suicidal or feeling all the hedonism & time they wasted with women to women did nothing at all for them but drained their energy, split their soul. Either this or they're just trying to resolve all of the past trauma/resentment/anger they have of women due to their ignorance about female nature & human nature, or they are just trying to make their ego thrive, combat all the insecurities or lack of inner masculinity & confidence in themselves. Nourishing the ego is why a lot of women seek out attention or validation or casual sex as well. A lot of the geniuses in charge of western society back in America's glory days already KNEW this, which is why men were also expected to be virgins as well as very eligible bachelors that the women were the ones hunting to lock down & attract, competing with each other for a man. How valuable and powerful can a man's monogamous love to only one special women to him be if everyone in society subconsciously knew the importance of it & women were extremely eager to try to do everything possible, be as beauty, feminine, and chaste as possible to try to win a man's love? Its endless power, just look at everything inside your house, from all the makes the house to all the items inside of it, everything was made from man's love for a women. Its how capitalism thrived so much, men build for women, men invent & innovate for women if they're nerdy & neurotic, can't get any access to women or have kids early on in life from 13 - 29 so might as well spend all that time & energy to themselves innovating. And they're the ones laughing in the end with access to pair bond with the highest quality women on the planet while other guys knocked up girls in high school that look like land whales now, can't even go on a vacation to Hawaii twice a year let alone anywhere on the planet whenever they feel like it. Yeah, all the naturals or more simple minded men who don't overthink anything & just act, and who have no childhood trauma heavily succeed with women immediately in life but there are trade offs & benefits to everything. The other ironic thing is we can see everything the bible has ever said... MEN are all the ones who created all the degenerate women, and then other men complain that a man they've never met traumatized or used or made the girl think poorly of men, every single man that becomes the best version of themselves & settles down with a high quality women instead of using or breaking random women. We NEVER see complaining online period at all, maybe that's the point of it all though, since we don't see them complaining online guys on the internet perpetually have no idea this exist out there. While its possible to feel a lot of pain from bad or low quality people, its also possible to feel a lot joy, pleasure, and feel the true love of god bonding with a great high quality women.

Great description.

i feel like you don't have to figure out every emotion what you're feeling every time. feeling emotions is a big part of human experience. if you do what you do, will you ever feel your emotions fully or will everything in your life be some observer of emotions kinda thing? just putting in my thoughts and would want to see your views

how the hell did you see a 2 hour video when it was released 3 minutes ago💀

@@silenttrooper a magician never reveals his secrets

@@unclecondog9807 😰😰

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@@silenttrooper he never said he finished it

@Dylan G lol what

Yeah but also sometimes if you have strong anxiety/insecurity about something you might confuse it with gut feeling

best of luck bro, focus on healing and growth now you'll come back stronger

Where’s your self improvement vids

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I can’t say I love Hamza, but he certainly deserves respect

Currently a senior in college and my roommates (my only friends) all drink, smoke, go to the bars to pick up women etc. I have been dragged down to their level so many times, until I realized I have to avoid them completely and entirely. I used to feel so bad for literally locking myself in my room all day, but it sure is better then going to get drunk and have sex with random chicks. As a college student, I am literally surrounded by degenerates every way i look. The way I see it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a lone wolf, as it is the only way I can stay on the right track.

@@hankjahovs8937 i am going through a similar thing. I think the best thing we can do is to make our beautiful online community of wholesome young men into a real life thing: I think we need to have networking events where men and women who are into holistic , spiritual self improvement like Hamza advocates , can all meet up . Can you help me think of ways we can set this up?

You must believe that you are smart enough to recognize any negative people who may bring you down. I believe you are smart enough to recognize them as I know I am as well. Just keep trying and being genuine until you find your family

have strong morals if your morals are strong you won’t change as a person they can’t bring you down

Same bro!

I feel the same way. Broke up 3 months ago due to AAS, which severly hurt me, but at least I gained awareness to improve myself for future encounters

You only did what you thought was right in the moment, you have nothing to regret, you’ve only learnt and become better, keep pushing regardless of these temporary feelings you’ll come out levels ahead of a girl of that sort, you’ll be fine bro

bro u are a G keep going

I’m sorry to hear this bro! I really hope you get through it, and try to talk to people if you feel shit about it

Anxious attachment and the behaviour is really unattractive to women/

she belongs to the streets. Good luck bro

What did she do bro

Bro you won't believe in how much similar situation I am in.

I hear you, I just broke off a 10 month relo because of something similar to this

​@@modernbassheads5051 While she didnt go around fucking other guys (prob would if she had friends) she basically had online relationships with men. Denying that she had a boyfriend and just saying fucked up stuff behind my back.

@@adamyasharma6894 I don't know your situation but if it's really that similiar then the best advice i could give you is to leave. I know its hard because you're attached but they bring nothing but stress and anxiety into your life. I promise break up and you'll feel relief like someone unshackled.

Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

Be very careful, Hamza isn’t a mental health professional and I would question the validity of this video. He isn’t qualified to be giving advice like this. Big grifter vibes

@@acrez3260 wouldnt call him a grifter, but take everything he says with a grain of salt

Broke up with my girl a week ago cuz I told her who I really was (after months of putting on a macho red pill persona) and she got turned off. Been feeling kinda down lately and wondering if it was the right thing to do. This put a lot of things into perspective, she would always tell me she had an anxious attachment style (her dad was emotionally distant cuz he was a closeted homosexual) and I never knew what the fuck she was talking about. Obviously this video made a lot of sense to me

​@@acrez3260 He technically does have a bachelor's in psych, but from a personal anecdote this advice is the main reason I've had the relationship success that I've had so far

Same!

Same, I’ve been praying a lot

i just wanted to say your channel is so underrated, you got a new sub :)

@@burrito156 Hey thank you so much! I appreciate that a lot :)

You spoke a 1000% truth Heather. The other secure person shouldn't compromise because of us. Any tips on how can we avoid those completely illogical negative thoughts without it hampering the relationship? ALso, I just stalked your channel and so sorry for all bad happened with you. You are a fighter, Heather. I wish you all the best in your life. 😇

Missed on a good experience to get D down 😂

@@rishi.agarwal8 Thanks so much Rishi I appreciate your kindness. Wish you the ultimate best too ❤

yeah man same bruh, we should work on ourselves

You’re on the right path bro, the first step is to acknowledge the problem.

Trust me put work to it and you WILL change💪

Youre awesome for even acknowledging the problem For me it took so long to acknowledge i had a self destructive and self conscious mindset because of past I knew about my anxieties and fears but never wanted to face them, id much rather shut down. Honestly I still do it, to be realistic I think ive improved but I'm often very self critical of myself and have the need to be a perfectionist which drives me crazy Thank you for this comment it hit home ❤

@@clussyella but how do u face them? what u do?

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@@TMichelle555 much needed! Almost as if what you said I could absolutely relate 100%

@@justanotherviewer00 damn homie :/ yeah it’s a lot of us that went through it huh but f it what doesn’t kill us better run lol

absolutely

Same unfortunately

Don’t stop on your self development girl, regardless on what happens with this man. You owe it to yourself to work on this aspect of yourself for you and your future.

Bro I have the same experience, although I don't have autism, so maybe it doesn't affect it much. It's really painful and tiring to overthink everything and at the same time hoping that you can someday have normal social interactions with others

bro watch develop attraction and corey wayne on yt, trust me

Use that pain to go hard and build something bro

watch develop attraction on yt

That’s so cute :)

@@ymoonysun9130 thank you 🙏

Congrats on finding such a person. Good job working on yourself and things too.

@@DanteS-119 thank you, I wish this type of love upon everyone

Bruv i know exactly in what kind of situationship you are in right now, been there myself. I know this sounds cheesy but time heals all wounds and it will be gone soon. Just channel these emotions in the right direction, start going to some kind of martial arts or try starting a business, thats what helped me. Stay strong brother you‘re not alone 💪🏽

@@stsmile4901 Been pouring heavy into both lately. Basically all my time now. Thanks fr

The same fucking situation. Insane timing! does the video help btw?

Same. My GF blindsided me and broke up with me last December. Since then it's been hell. I don't want her anymore, because I know I deserve better, but I still love her, and imagining her having sex with other men is still destroying me. This is so weird. She was my first love.

@@nephastgweiz1022 genuine question why do you care so much like all I see our dudes crying about girlfriends etc it’s not that deep invest your time into something else to take your mind of it

Which book?

@@usamahamir8503 The book Is most likely What Happened to You

@@usamahamir8503 i think its called 'attatched'

which book

Behavioral therapy is the base. I highly recommend the book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns. And be sure to do the exercises that are in the book, it helps a lot