I love how they didn't do a cop out and have Buffy being super unbothered and supportive. How uncomfortable she gets while still wanting to be cool is such a spot on reaction.

I like how genuine buffy's reaction is to her coming out, like how shes gets all wigged out but still trying to be understanding, superb acting

This show probably handled this unexpected transition better than any I've ever seen.

The best part is Giles in the background 'Bloody hell'

"Are you freaked?" "No, absolutely no. I'm glad you told me." Buffy's the best friend ever!

The facial shift of buffy's is solid acting

What I like about this scene is it isn't treated dramatically. There is no dramatic music, no cut to an ad-break. Just a friend telling another friend about her newfound feelings. And it is dealt with perfectly.

That little breath Willow takes right before saying Tara’s name... such beautiful acting all around

I'll never forget this scene. I was a kid then and it shocked me a lot to see how normal it was how it happened to a character I already knew. Not stereotyped at all. Buffy was just as surprised as we all were. It was like super natural, super real. And I remember how it changed the image I had about gay people (like if they were "different" or "weird" or whatever...). It was Willow, Buffy's best friend, a character full of personality... only that now she was feeling this, which didn't change her other qualities at all... Years later, when I was 19, one of my two best friends came out to me (she had a relationship with a girl which didn't tell us about for a long time). I was shocked at the beginning, but then occurred the same: She was still the person I knew, with all her characteristics. There was only one thing about her that I didn't knew and now I did. It didn't change anything... Only that now she could be honest and speak frankly about her feelings as we, the other 2 girls, used to do with the boys we were with or we liked... I think this scene had a lot to do with the way I started opening my mind those years...

Drunk Giles..."Bloody Hell"😂

the 'bloody hell' from Giles killed me LOL

Sarah Michelle Gellar is a superb actor. Just look at the way she rearranges her face to be supportive. That's SO natural.

To be fair, Willow stood by Buffy dating the undead vampire Angel, lol. Another reason to love this show - their friendship (most of the time) was always first.

Another Buffy outfit I wish I had. Love that green sweater.

This is a very accurate portrayal of what it’s like coming out to a close friend who had no idea. Like shocked but supportive as can be

They took it surprisingly better then many others would have at that time period

I remember as a kid not understanding the coming out scene, I thought they were just surprised because they hadn't seen the chemistry, and hasn't realised that gayness was an important factor here. I'd just accepted Willow and Tara because their story felt very natural and I didn't even question it. Then I realised the oppression gay people face, and now these scenes hit correctly. I'm glad they did this. I'm glad Joss Whedon fought for their relationship.

THIS WAS SO IMPORTANT FOR OUR FUTURE

I like how they didn’t make Buffy and Xander disgusted but just shocked which is an expected reaction and they took it in a good direction of them excepting it. That’s why I think this show was written well.

I like Buffy's reaction. It makes sense for the time and then once she's called out she realizes, Willow is her friend and needs her. She recovers smoothly.

genuinely one of my favorite coming out scenes on tv to this day. the way buffy is genuinely taken aback because she never expected to be put in this situation but pulls it together to be supportive when she sees that willow’s nervous is so sweet and pretty realistic tbh

I too have always loved this scene. Agree re AH. SMG also plays it beautifully. She's freaked out at first, but then at 2:15, her expression changes as if to say "this is my best friend, I'm being a jerk." Really well done.

This scene is so spot on that when I came out to my friends and experienced this exact reaction, I didn’t take it negatively I was like “ok I’ve seen this before on Buffy - just because they seem uncomfortable doesn’t mean they’re homophobic. They’re surprised, they’re nervous about saying the wrong thing and that’s where the awkwardness is coming from” This scene made coming out much less scary for me and I appreciate that

“Bloody hell” 😂😂

I miss seeing Willow and Oz together, but I'm glad she's got Tara. I just wished that Willow would be honest with Oz about her feelings for Tara instead of lying to him about it.

the thing i love is when you have straight friends and they let you talk about your girl crushes with them and dont make it akward

Buffy is getting told the important message in 3 minutes. Poor Xander in 3 seconds :D Think we all loved Xander :)

One of my favorite scenes.

Buffy’s shock seems to be more from how this is her best friend she’s known for years, faced unnumbered dangers with, who is essentially her sister, announcing something like this blindsided her and threw her for a loop. I would have the same reaction if my best friend came out to me.

I love Gilbs reaction

I always liked Tara. And the Tara/ Willow relationship was just as sweet as the Oz/ Willow relationship. Gotta love Giles "Bloody Hell" Response

After finishing season 7 ( and starting the comics ) I forgot how wittle willow's voice sounds rn

It's the exact same interaction and the difference between them though both generally positive, could not be any bigger. One scene could make you cry it's so real and the other busts your got because we all know that's real too! This show cracked the code man. They cant make them like this anymore, and when they do every once and a while it's just amazing.

These two will get it together, and realize that they're meant for each other. Hopefully before their next lives....

They wanted to make either Xander or Willow gay... They went with what was marginally easier to sell to the network

im all with the whoohoo thing and youre not- this is why i love buffy, the humour is just wonderful

Bro this is sooo cute I love how she's just so supportive but kinda uncomfortable it's feels really real like it would have happened.

I love the acting in this scene♥️🥰

It was a great scene. (I also loved Giles' off screen "Bloody Hell")

You know what, as a person who came out to multiple people, I have to say that this is the most common reaction.. that's a good job on choosing how to do this scene 👏👏. Ps. Oh I love this so much 😂😍

I love how as soon as her best friend is worried about her reaction buffy instantly changes her mannerisms into completely supportive

I love this show 🥰 my favorite show ever.

You have to be honest or its gonna get allot worse " That is such a powerful and important message Lying will give you 5 minuets of peace and years of anger and fights. Being honest will hurt someone for a day or two weeks but they will get back to you ,because you told them the trutht and you were honest.

I came out to my mum while I watched this scene

They handled thus with grace beauty and honesty

"No! It was Bad Before That! Since You two Went Off To College And Forgot About me! Just Left Me In The basement T- TARAS YOUR GIRLFRIEND?!"

There’s Woo and Ho I love Willow

Giles - BlOoDy HeLl😂

Buffy, Xander, Willow, and Oz look great!

Willow, our bisexual queen.

I love how she figure out alone tara and willow ❤❤❤❤

Meanwhile in Alternate Universe Oz never went to tibet and instead stays in sunnydale,xander came out as gay and went dating someone else,anya ended up got killed by warren and xander went very pissed off and became warlock just to kill warren,Tara ended up dating buffy and became an couple

It always kind of annoyed me that she told Buffy but didn't actually ever tell Xander. She knew Xander since they were children, she could trust him with anything. He only just found out by the arguing. Would WIllow have EVER told him? Or would he just see them kissing one day. XD

Bloody hell!

As a Woz shipper, this episode still breaks my heart into pieces. But I appreciate and respect it’s importance to the LGBTQ community.

Buffys and amazing friend my friends were great when I came out but I know a lot of ppl whose friends dump them because they come it’s so sad

Gay buffy will be totally awesome if they make a gay buffy summer

...and Giles. Lol

As a queer woman growing up in the 2000s, I can't tell you how much the character of Willow means to me. I think people forget what this time was like for people in the LGBTQ+ community in this time; we were more widely accepted than we were in decades prior, but not taken quite as seriously. Queer men were played up as the butt of the joke while queer women were hypersexualized. Willow was the first out lesbian character I saw on TV who WASN'T defined by her sexuality and that was so refreshing for me, as a questioning 13-year-old.

I miss Willow and Tara, but Willow and Oz were a good couple too.

While I liked the Willow/Tara relationship, I've always been torn about it because of Oz and Xander. Are we expected to believe that Willow didn't care for Oz? People always act like Willow is a lesbian, but she is clearly bi. She previously loved BOTH Oz and had a crush on Xander yet those elements of the story get ignored in later seasons.

I remember watching this episode when it premiered, and the candle scene between Willow and Tara spoke to my (yet to be discovered) real gay self. Sadly my coming out was still *years* away 😶‍🌫

Giles 😂

"Are u.. freaked? " "no! "

Uh, Buffy, you're in love with a friggin' vampire, so why is the idea of Willow and Tara so uncomfortable?

Bloody hell

........and Giles! Bloody hell!

Xanders reaction was funny Edit: thanks for 8 likes

Bloody hell hahahahahhaha

Lol, i was thinking of the end, then it happened

Considering this was, what, the year 2000? They handled it exceptionally well

"bloody hell"

I love Willow and Tara loved them loved how they did not force it down your throat either

She should've been honest with Oz. He shouldn't have found out the way he did.

We are lovely thank U

Aahahaha !!! Please do u own a pillow

oml spike at the end "bloody hell"

okay ....see the guy in the mirror!!!!

Will

In the 19th episode of season 4, 5, and 6 something happens with willow and tara. The relationship begins in new moon, tara's mind is fucked with in tough love, causing willow to try and kill glory, and in seeing red tara is killed. Causing willow to torture and kill warren.

When I was a kid I didn't see the "problem". I was just like "well they are in love". I just thought that the problem was that Oz was there friend and Tara wasn't part of the scoobie gang.

Ge tillbaka lite till snälla

Scream Queen 👑 However This episode I like, A lot actually. Because when Evan told me that he was gay (well he's Bisexual actually) My friends were very supportive because they actually cared about us. That's what I think we should have more on television 📺 Because I don't think that everyone understands that yet, So I think more shows should do things like this. By the way, I know what this month is. Happy Gay Pride guys

If u thnk she was going separate U picked the wrong girl

Aaamg didn't u read the footnotes

they had so many choices n directions for his part ... Willow leaves both and they all are sad ... she picks one and one of them are sad ... keeps both and they all are happy ... as for Buffy ... sure she is uncomfortable but then she didnt even have an inkling willow was bi so she didnt have to process that fully but from the very mention of it she was supportive no matter what willow chose .. showing she was her friend because of who she was not who or what she could do ...

Hmm woops

What episode is this-?!

What’s the episode and season

Like Buffy cares. She was written so well in this scene. If anyone doesn’t care about people being gay, lesbian, trans it’s Buffy. She was only taken back because willow didn’t tell her.

Varför svarar du inte :((

Willow is bi!

Ooooh disaster

I was 14 when I saw this, and I was absolutely obsessed with the show. Willow was already my favorite character, and I was still in the closet. It secretly meant a lot to me at the time and I looked up to Willow so much more for being so brave when I was still so scared. I told my mom first over the phone long distance, and her reaction was similar to Buffy’s: “Mom I have to talk to you about something (a guy) but I have to tell you something else first..” “What, you’re gay?” “…..yeah…..” “I don’t care, I still love you” And then my dad lol I was at dinner with him and my stepmom and my dad got all awkward and said “Boy I have to ask you something and I just want you to be honest cuz it won’t change anything… are you gay?” “…..yeah….” And then there was the support and hugs and all love. I got really lucky having them as my parents.

Was Oz cured for good?

Wait, I don't understand. Willow dated men before. She had a relationship with Oz and was heartbroken when he left. Were her feelings towards Oz not real? Maybe I'm over thinking this. The writers probably didn't plan this from the start.

Isn’t that faith in buffys body ? Lmao

willow was obsessed with tara unhealthy

She is gay so cute 🥰

Willow can't really expect Buffy to be 100% OK after dropping a bomb like that.