Former FBI Agent Breaks Down Body Language Pet Peeves

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Former FBI agent and body language expert Joe Navarro is back to explain why we feel they way we do about certain types of body language. Why do we shake hands, and why does a bad handshake turn us off so much? Why do we feel uncomfortable being stared at? Is there a reason why people "manspread"?
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@kellymckay4169 3 жыл бұрын

Pacing while on a stressful phone call is a must.

@mineola_ 3 жыл бұрын

I tend to freeze up during stressful phonecalls, pull my knees to my chest and get compact. Interesting to see the differences.

@kristinamitchell716 3 жыл бұрын

I pace anyways.

@nintendude794 3 жыл бұрын

@@kristinamitchell716 same.

@XxCrankyMoosexX 3 жыл бұрын

I find myself pacing during any phone call longer than a minute. Whether it’s with a friend and is casual or it’s more for business.

@tompw3141 3 жыл бұрын

People pacing behind me during their phone calls is stressful for me.

@youngandfoolish 3 жыл бұрын

I love that he talked about the differences between cultures. Having that broader perspective is so important

@luismartins6239 3 жыл бұрын

If you go to África you should know, that for them is normal to stand very close, In lines or everywhere.

@SpiritGuide11111 2 жыл бұрын

@@luismartins6239 India as well. Closer closer closer. I just want to knock the stack of people over and say back off!!

@speedy63663 2 жыл бұрын

its also racist.

@sevinchizzatullayeva229 2 жыл бұрын

@@luismartins6239 and a on my ooooo

@sevinchizzatullayeva229 2 жыл бұрын

@wientz 2 жыл бұрын

One thing I learned about "the handshake". Sometimes, maybe one in twenty, you get a bad 'grab'...that is, they grab about three of your fingers and you got nothing. Whenever that happens I just let go and say "let's try that one again" and always had a good response with that! Breaks the ice in a good way!

@hhhenge 2 жыл бұрын

this is my strategy too! i think it applies further than just handshakes too, if you can play off an awkward situation it often reads as charming and in control

@ericcaldwell3584 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I really hate that one. I'm thinking, "shall I courtesy?" "Are you going to kiss my hand?" I like your approach!

@paleamigo8575 2 жыл бұрын

A bad handshake is hard to forget but I wouldn't judge someone by that alone. Instead I would focus more on any positive attributes that may beneficial.

@johno9507 Жыл бұрын

I ran into a old friend and went to shake his hand and he gave me a absolutely gross limp handshake, I said to him "that's not a proper handshake." and then I squeezed his hand rather firmly, he then let out this horrific scream and the yelled "I've got cancer in my hand!" Man I felt absolutely awful inside. Sadly he passed away shortly after that. 😧

@eddiewalker7252 Жыл бұрын

Thank you -- broke fingers

@sophiesmith5922 2 жыл бұрын

I LOVE the part about the calf muscle being the second heart. I used to tap my heels on the floor rapidly as a kid in school. People thought I was nervous. Really I was trying to stay alert in class and felt like falling asleep. LOL. Such serious misinterpretation!

@WinkLinkletter Жыл бұрын

@John Smith For sure. I had a friend who would shake his feet back and forth when propped watching tube in the house TV room so that no matter what, it was there jiggling in your periphery. When he said he "just couldn't help it" he was banished to watch his little black and white in his own room. And another housemate, who couldn't stop bouncing the ham-hock leg of his 400 lb body, shaking the whole floor noisily. We just threw things at him EVERY time he'd start (about every ten minutes). So irritating. ,

@orphanslayer6546 Жыл бұрын

I bounce my legs up and down if I have to sit or I stand up, I cannot stay still without getting drowsy unless I'm hyper focused on something

@lizroberts1569 Жыл бұрын

I knew about the calf muscles as they tell British soldiers who are trooping the colour to clench and unclench the calves to stop passing out.

@benbailey2037 2 ай бұрын

I agree

@jackbrooks7478 3 жыл бұрын

"The human brain is the most complex thing in all of the cosmos" - The human brain

@cthulu423 3 жыл бұрын

Obama givin obama a medal.

@razmiddle9410 3 жыл бұрын

Hah!

@kelsierrr7247 3 жыл бұрын

A bit biased take tbh

@JakeND 3 жыл бұрын

Based

@gokaytaspnar1355 3 жыл бұрын

@@cthulu423 I was about to comment same thing

@briannarichardson9511 3 жыл бұрын

If you're talking with a close talker, try taking a small step back and see how far you can get them to move.

@kryptic_pro_2792 3 жыл бұрын

😂

@deathstalkr_ 3 жыл бұрын

Lmao

@tanie3543 3 жыл бұрын

@@Menderino what??!

@BradleyGibbs 3 жыл бұрын

Or just lick their nose...

@trevordoeshalloween5994 3 жыл бұрын

@@Menderino huh

@hasalih9852 Жыл бұрын

I like the way he talks, very clear, nice neat talking.

@db1982Cro 2 ай бұрын

And insincere, since its all a tought skill. I preffer an honest flaw to a flawless performance. Be a freaking person, ill deal with the rest.

@tiguaak 3 күн бұрын

hes talking like an alien describing humans

@justinevans2118 Жыл бұрын

So what I’m hearing is to do a gruesome calve workout before taking an exam. Got it 👍🏻

@Fizz-Pop 3 жыл бұрын

It's the limp handshake that gets me. No pressure at all. It's just this meat thing you shake. No life in it. I'm always polite, but it makes my skin crawl.

@007snail 3 жыл бұрын

Firm but not too firm. That limp handshake makes me feel the same.

@garyfox8701 3 жыл бұрын

I hadn't realised but when he said you remember I instantly recalled the two guys I know who are lettuce leaf hand shakers.

@robertsprafke9376 3 жыл бұрын

@@garyfox8701 Masons

@tyson9419 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah I knew a guy who had a dead fish, sweaty palm handshake. Absolutely disgusting!!

@andrewbarney5503 3 жыл бұрын

I've done limp or loose handshakes unknowingly because I was either lazy or I didn't like the person and really didn't want to shake their hand. But honestly hand shaking is weird, so if you are going to force your hand shaking behavior on me you don't get to dictate what kind you get in return.

@Lanhoj 3 жыл бұрын

*Introduction* - @0:00 *1)* Staring - @0:23 *2)* Pacing - @1:23 *3)* The Bad Handshake - @2:40 *4)* The Close Talker - @4:08 *5)* Touch Phobia - @5:23 *6)* Manspreading - @6:04 *7)* Verbal Tics - @6:38 *8)* Eye Rolling - @8:09 *9)* Tapping - @8:28 *Conclusion* - @9:17

@jayczzzya 3 жыл бұрын

I am a chronic tapper. I agree, it calms me down and helps me fill out time. I have an overactive mind. I personally feel uncomfortble around close talkers and touchy feely persons. I use the techniques mentioned to cope with them. I admit manspreading is rude in public places but it's naturally ingrained in guys. We naturally do it because it gets quite hot, sweaty and sticky between our legs when we keep them closed especially while wearing both underwear and trousers. The point is we need to be respectful of each other pet peeves and well as learn to cope with our own peeves.

@manasavuibaubatiwale3593 3 жыл бұрын

Appreciate the time stamps 💯❤🙏

@stiltzkin2mb 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the timestamp!

@stephwheeler2k 3 жыл бұрын

I hoped he would have cited "smiling ," or frowning though its a candid tell. How long can humans go completely boring foregoing entertaining self or others in any social setting or gathering?

@adamware2103 3 жыл бұрын

Many thanks

@simonjones4941 2 жыл бұрын

This was really informative. I’ve always held a doubt that Body Language experts were dealing in pseudoscience but these examples were all backed up by science or studies. Thank you!!

@miketaco2900 2 жыл бұрын

His speach was to the point, to conclude one should be just confident and respectfull. That lines up all.

@ConradJupiter77 3 жыл бұрын

I'm more concerned why Robert gates secretary of defence is wearing half a suit.

@republictrooper5288 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah what was that?

@c4715 3 жыл бұрын

@Alan Hughes what do you Mean?

@bri7399 3 жыл бұрын

Looks like he was in the process of taking it off

@danshowlund 3 жыл бұрын

@@criminalsaint9611 🤣

@erakfishfishfish 3 жыл бұрын

Does he think he’s Harvey Dent?

@joeyilse1409 3 жыл бұрын

"It"s not about perfection, it's about improving whatever we have". This quote hit me different as it is applicable to a lot of things in life.

@sablethompson4729 2 жыл бұрын

Perfection is never achievable and can be harmful to aim for. But aiming for our best is noble and important. When we give up trying to be perfect, we can be great instead.

@jackoBoB1000 Жыл бұрын

@@sablethompson4729 well said!

@SakatzuCat Жыл бұрын

@@sablethompson4729 If you don't mind, I'm going to quote that when I can in conversations!

@agustinburlaza1690 Жыл бұрын

Amen.. I freaking loved that quote!! Seriously 👍

@rev.redhand6205 Жыл бұрын

Check out Chuck Missler extraterrestrial message on youtube

@marcushendriksen8415 2 жыл бұрын

There've been quite a few occasions in my life where I was glad that my male relatives took the time to critique my handshake during my childhood. It's insane how much a difference it can make to your job when your handshake impresses the boss, for example

@KINGNAS777 Жыл бұрын

Love me a solid handshake. The start to a confident conversation and lil optimistic too

@MysterySteve 3 жыл бұрын

The rabbi at the synagogue I went to as a kid shook every kid's hand violently, in a way that shook the entire upper half of our body. It always made us laugh and that was his intention. He was great.

@sanbilge 3 жыл бұрын

I hated it when adults were rough on me the way you explained it. Holding my shoulder and shaking, causing me to lose balance, pushing and pulling around. These people were usually family friends or distant family. I think it's really rude to kids when adults don't respect their personal space. I do realize that's not exactly what you were saying. Consider this a rant in parallel :)

@MysterySteve 3 жыл бұрын

@@sanbilge I'm sorry you went through that. I guess it depends on the culture you're accustomed to.

@nurhusna1407 3 жыл бұрын

I remember my grandpa used to do that too, it always makes us giggle. Happy memories.

@musicalman1995 3 жыл бұрын

I think we had the same Rabbi!

@MysterySteve 3 жыл бұрын

@@musicalman1995 Brooklyn?

@TekindusT 3 жыл бұрын

This man really needs a KZfaq channel for himself.

@hairdresser1300 3 жыл бұрын

He has a facebook page

@Kerosene. 3 жыл бұрын

@Yash Paul Sharma ok so?

@Berryss 3 жыл бұрын

He wrote a couple books, you should check them out

@juliustobar 3 жыл бұрын

@@ChiyokoMcNair Joe Navarro

@alyssaxastarita 3 жыл бұрын

1000%

@WinkLinkletter Жыл бұрын

The whole pacing combination of mechanisms and effects is so fascinating. I had a housemate that couldn't stop shaking his feet left and right while they were propped up watching tube in the house T.V. room. It nearly drove me crazy having him forever twitching in my periphery. I had another who couldn't stop bouncing his leg up and down when sitting, but he weighed nearly four-hundred pounds and it shook the whole floor. Arhggg! Great video.

@darlenesanchez7771 Жыл бұрын

I'm a California native, and the staring thing is so much different here. I would say you're only allowed to stare for half a second before it gets weird. It has to do with the pace of the culture here. Everything is so fast.

@kazum1809 2 ай бұрын

Here in sac we stare like crazy because most of us know each other

@SVENY 3 жыл бұрын

"squeeze at the same level" Teachers just casually crushing every bone in your hand...

@jielynsabarez2693 3 жыл бұрын

some people I know "assert their dominance" by squeezing the living life out of my hand when I try shaking hands with them, now I never agree to shake hands with people I barely know.

@chrono-glitchwaterlily8776 3 жыл бұрын

@@jielynsabarez2693 isn't that a good thing since their hands could be dirty?

@CANControlGRAFFITI 3 жыл бұрын

Teachers? How bout old whit men

@jim_8558 3 жыл бұрын

I give firm hand shakes but not crushing during parent teacher conference. Because a handshake shows a lot of who you are. Many people think teachers have no idea of hard labor. The males adults will change their opinion of me instantly when they feel a firm handshake with calluses.

@tylerg6511 3 жыл бұрын

It's worse when 1 or more of your fingers already hurts.

@Ace_of_Empires 3 жыл бұрын

A lot of lads try to do little tricks they learn to try to show “dominance”, not realizing their display of needing to resort to tricks really communicates that they’re of weak spirit.

@55CINCO55 3 жыл бұрын

@@JEA- It's so easy to tell as well lmao

@shadowmoon1657 3 жыл бұрын

Sure, women dont do these things at all. The also “menspread”. And I “menspread” bc I have balls not bc I want dominance. Its impolite to spread too much, but its like you don’t know male anatomy. It really is a feminist concept bc of how stupid it is.

@shadowmoon1657 3 жыл бұрын

The real tricks of “dominance “ are also friendly competition and communication among friends. Your life must be sad

@chrono-glitchwaterlily8776 3 жыл бұрын

Same goes with money. The rich in my area tend to hide the fact that they're rich, whether for safety reasons or other reasons. The only ones really flaunting are those financially insecure or unstable. They wanna show off how much money they have and try to give themselves the image that they have more than they have

@lauramessy 3 жыл бұрын

@@shadowmoon1657 kind of triggered

@lazerous2002 2 жыл бұрын

Ive paced for years, I did not know that it helps you think. Awesome!

@dacads Жыл бұрын

I recently discovered I have a limp handshake because I was told. I never thought this was the case and was always disappointed with other people giving me a limp handshake. So the issue here is judging people when really they might not be aware themselves. Judging people is a big issue in society.

@theasianjaywalker4455 Жыл бұрын

Then you have the stupid level of people who decide it's meaningful. Like this really tells them some clever insight into your 'character' or how you'd handle yourself in business. I'm for ending the 'handshake' due to morons who've abused it.

@galling2052 3 жыл бұрын

I like how he does not write Off potentialy annoying behavior like pacing as something to be corrected. It is very helpfull and probably the most calming thing next to going on an actual walk. Personally get very irritated when people tell me to stop.

@Deady4u 3 жыл бұрын

I get why people ask you to stop though because even if it soothes you personally, it causes stress/anxiety on the people around you

@akilegna1255 3 жыл бұрын

but it makes the whole room nervous

@wmdkitty 3 жыл бұрын

That's nice, but your pacing is fueling my anxiety.

@JustAnotherBuckyLover 3 жыл бұрын

To all the people saying "but it makes me anxious" - it's not the pacer's responsibility to manage your anxiety. Many people who are ND (autistic, ADHD, Tourettes etc) pace as one of their stims and those stims are vital to enable them to function effectively. Not being able to do so makes US anxious... so you take care of YOUR anxiety, and we'll take care of ours, yeah?

@akilegna1255 3 жыл бұрын

@@JustAnotherBuckyLover yeah for sure ill take care of my anxiety by 'taking care' of whoever is pacing ;)

@Steve_Hayden 3 жыл бұрын

I like this guy. His explanations were short yet informative

@computerdores 3 жыл бұрын

I guess that's a good skill to have if u have superiors

@Huh1319 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve read all his books, read first one probably 9-10,years ago. Been obsessed with him and body language ever since. Highly recommend

@Huh1319 3 жыл бұрын

@@Steve_Hayden I’ve been in business and sales all my professional career. Full disclosure I have always been incredibly fascinated by emotional/social intelligence and body language, but I love his books (still do and I’m an avid reader). My entire career has been based on meetings, so I’m always intrigued when I look around and “try” to read the room. I think it’s helped/helps me be able to somewhat read better, as well as help adjust myself if I sense something I’m doing is upsetting.

@squirrelorama 3 жыл бұрын

Be sure to thank the video editor as well

@marinamel4707 3 жыл бұрын

@@Huh1319 Hello, I would like to read that book. Can you tell how it calls. Thanks.

@victinistealth5756 Жыл бұрын

Bro if someone was staring at me, I will stare back and it’ll be like a duel until one of us either breaks contact or blinks, please tell me I’m not the only one who does this 😭

@CrimsonLegacy Жыл бұрын

Dude you have to watch a clip where Sam Harris talks on an episode of Joe Rogan about a staring contest he had with a guy on a Subway.

@CrimsonLegacy Жыл бұрын

I found the clip! kzfaq.info/get/bejne/jdqepMmDqcy9h4k.html

@Danny-live 2 ай бұрын

In Los Angeles where I live eye contact can lead to a fist fight. Trippin

@allythearts5439 Жыл бұрын

Pacing can also be of comfort. I'm autistic so I do have a lot of weird tendencies and quirks and people may find off putting or suspicious. What they don't know is that its my self's way of masking it helps me to level out everything else that is running through my mind.

@julianakarasawa315 3 жыл бұрын

More than close talkers, I HATE people who think you are touchscreen. I'm listening to you, you don't have to poke me

@KemalKaratatar 3 жыл бұрын

Really what are your nose doing in my mouth ,stay away buddy 😁

@jayczzzya 3 жыл бұрын

Lol. I love that comment

@jerry-ic8id 3 жыл бұрын

Ohhhhhh I hate it...

@macforme 3 жыл бұрын

Juliana.... they are taking Facebook into the real world...perhaps?

@janemary8339 3 жыл бұрын

@@macforme Does Facebook still have the poke button?

@christierella 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t mind close family touching me, just not people I’m not close to.

@dregonskreper7609 3 жыл бұрын

Touch me senpai!

@em5345- 3 жыл бұрын

r/cursedcomments

@ixion_cyb 3 жыл бұрын

Kinda sus my guy

@Michaeljackyjackson_ 3 жыл бұрын

I feel u bro .. uncle?

@sooyan00 3 жыл бұрын

alright Alabama calm down

@DonDeLem Жыл бұрын

It has always bothered me how there are people who judge your entire character based on something so trivial as a handshake. I've known phenomenal people whose hands I've never even touched; sometimes I simply do not want to exert so much energy in a passing moment that I'm going to forget in a few minutes. Nobody my age has ever cared about something like that, and it's typically someone much older who throws a fit when they don't like your handshake. I think the world would be much better if people didn't feel forced to conform to societal standards.

@LOCATIONREDACTED Жыл бұрын

I like handshakes, but I may start doing very limp ones for my own amusement.

@jordanbendt9772 Жыл бұрын

@@LOCATIONREDACTEDgood one

@Someothername2134 Жыл бұрын

Well conforming to social standards is a pretty broad statement. Social standards are you don’t spread your legs too far on the subway. Social standards are you don’t spit on people. You cover your mouth when you cough. Etc. so let’s keep social standards, but let’s change the standard regarding handshakes.

@DonDeLem Жыл бұрын

@@Someothername2134 - Agreed. Those are moral things that make you a decent person. Having a "bad" handshake doesn't speak on your character at all

@scottworley1479 Жыл бұрын

Yep, our wonderful government. Full of self proclaimed professionals.

@lisasternenkind6467 2 жыл бұрын

I'm a creative. I am a public speaker. And I am a pacer. lol I always thought this meant, that I would try to run away, but Joe Navarro's explanation taught me better. Thank you!

@NaNa-re3wc 3 жыл бұрын

Now I know the science behind Friedrich Nietzsche’s quote, “All truly great thoughts are conceived while walking”.

@nicholasschroeder3678 3 жыл бұрын

Charles Dickens would walk London streets endlessly--sometimes 20 miles. I myself do a vigorous 40 minute hike daily

@IsomerSoma 3 жыл бұрын

Nietzsche made long walks around sils maria.

@Smllc22318 3 жыл бұрын

I dunno man can’t walk in the shower…

@HairyJuan 3 жыл бұрын

@@Smllc22318 but you are standing thus calf muscles will be in use

@joycethiery2488 3 жыл бұрын

I can believe that. When I walk in the woods or wherever, I come up with some of the neatest stuff

@d.g.5690 3 жыл бұрын

As someone who doesn't understand body language, this was fantastic

@mugin11223344 3 жыл бұрын

The four guys can teach you a lot about body language. In an interesting way. kzfaq.info But remember that body language is not like the spoken language, and 1 "sign" in itself does not necessarily mean anything. You have to see it in context.

@rafaelbautista4106 3 жыл бұрын

This guy has been observing body language since he was Young. His hobby

@shadowmoon1657 3 жыл бұрын

Bunch of stupid things as well.

@xgeex7540 3 жыл бұрын

@@shadowmoon1657 what do you mean?

@xgeex7540 3 жыл бұрын

His books also tells a looot that other body language books don't, worth the buy i swear. Literally changed my entire prespective on the tells

@LadySamurai88 Жыл бұрын

Love to listen to Joe Navarro about our body language

@JanetSmith900 2 жыл бұрын

A weak handshake, where someone loosely grabs your fingers, changes my entire perception of a person permanently. Also, people who give weak hugs (obviously only people close enough to hug) tells me a lot about them (for me).

@markdixon4095 Жыл бұрын

You read my mind!

@LjsBeats207 Жыл бұрын

I am that person 😂 I have really bad social anxiety so a firm handshake and eye contact is just a bit harder for me to do!

@DouradaBambina Жыл бұрын

@@LjsBeats207I always avoid someone like you

@LjsBeats207 Жыл бұрын

@@DouradaBambina haha that’s fair

@kalebjames2292 Жыл бұрын

The weak hug, or shallow hug thing can be a bit deeper tho

@ravenevermore7338 3 жыл бұрын

I can’t stand being touched or people standing too close to me. Both instantly make me want to leave the conversation.

@ayikan_nakiya 3 жыл бұрын

Fr some people don't even get that I want space like please not trying to seem like that one American to hate America the the core but they don't understand only my friends would most of them wouldn't listen like 😐 that's just sad 😕

@trustme-8058 3 жыл бұрын

@@ayikan_nakiya wait since when did this have anything to do with America 😀

@Qb3ify 3 жыл бұрын

I was hoping that he’d explained hand movement when talking.

@Cube_Box 3 жыл бұрын

You mean hand gestures? Tom Scott made a video about it just search hand gestures Tom scott

@rollomaughfling380 3 жыл бұрын

@@Cube_Box Rachel Greene made one too. Just search F • R • I • E • N • D • S (She had less-weird hair.)

@knowun 3 жыл бұрын

Gesticulation, I think, has a lot more to do with the process of articulating thoughts than with the audience's perceptions

@PeacefulPeteable 3 жыл бұрын

Lol

@ed4253 3 жыл бұрын

See Scotty Killer on YT, his hands move faster than he speaks

@APR702 5 ай бұрын

I cannot even tell you how rude I find an overly firm handshake is .

@marcushendriksen8415 2 жыл бұрын

As a manspreader, I don't do it out of a desire to display dominance, but because it's comfy 😂 my ideal body position would be on my back, spread-eagled on some ideally soft material at a perfect ambient temperature... but in the real world, stretching my legs out and putting my hands behind my head is the best I can do 😐

@marktatum2592 Жыл бұрын

Al Bundy?

@marcushendriksen8415 Жыл бұрын

@@marktatum2592 who?

@marktatum2592 Жыл бұрын

The husband/dad on "Married With Children" 90's comedy tv 📺 show

@marcushendriksen8415 Жыл бұрын

@@marktatum2592 ah no wonder I didn't recognize the name, I've never seen that show... but he sounds like my kinda guy 😁

@moladiver6817 Жыл бұрын

I'm a spreader because it's what my legs do when I relax. But I definitely don't do it when it means invading the personal space of the person sitting next to me. Then I make the effort of keeping my legs closed. I don't get purposeful spreaders. They are annoying as f*** and I usually just 'spread back' and take over by force. Until they get it.

@johnwalker1058 3 жыл бұрын

Talks about how bad the wet handshake is Me who has hyperhidrosis: RIP

@TheDerpyWerp 3 жыл бұрын

I interpreted that as in 'wet' paper towel strength levels rather than actual moisture lol

@carric9962 3 жыл бұрын

People with weird peely dry hand are just as bad

@deathstalkr_ 3 жыл бұрын

Just dry your hand with handkerchief or a tissue before a handshake.

@my_name_is_methos1466 3 жыл бұрын

Same, that used to be a big issue for me, especially in high school TT Have you tried a iontophoresis machine? it fixed the issue in my case.

@danielflanard8274 3 жыл бұрын

@@deathstalkr_ Even then the skin is still quite moist. Not as bad as soaking wet, but not pleasant either, for either party.

@vinceschaeffer 2 жыл бұрын

the conversation my dad shared with me was you always look them in the eye when you shake their hand. shows a sign of respect of greeting. I could be wrong but I can't find it ok when they just shake your hand with their head down.. hope you all are having a great summer.

@kagitsune Жыл бұрын

I will remind the comments section (I'm sure the guest knows but it might have been cut for time) that not all cultures shake hands. For example, it's been considered kind of foreign and weird in Japan, until pretty recently. Instead you have different bowing body language. I really like the quick quarter-bow when you're passing by someone you recognize and respect. I notice it's become more common in Midwest America during the last few years of pandemic.

@donotneed2250 Жыл бұрын

Was same in South Korea. I did two tours between 1976 and 1980. I still prefer a bow, nod or just a small wave. I've had people get upset because I won't shake hands and I just tell them that I prefer to keep my germs to myself. I stay healthier that way. I've been known to hurt people when they grab my hand to force me to shake hands and I'm not in the mood for it.

@finalspoon7881 Жыл бұрын

Imagine caring so much about fixing body language when you have no money, no job, no physique, no confidence, no women and no future

@coxdm00 3 жыл бұрын

Joe Navarro also has a book, "What Every Body is Saying". It's an interesting guide to how you can read people's body language, what it might say about how they're feeling, and how you can present yourself differently. It's quite good!

@rayvincyful1 3 жыл бұрын

I have read that book like 5 times but I can't still read people. 😆

@Anonymous-jf2gy 3 жыл бұрын

@@rayvincyful1 really?

@rayvincyful1 3 жыл бұрын

@@Anonymous-jf2gy yes. I'm so bad at reading people. Lol.

@nycolaspaffoni2583 2 жыл бұрын

It is really based on science?

@briseboy 2 жыл бұрын

@@rayvincyful1 They are commonly tatted up, and you CAN read that = very ugly narcissism.

@nicklaskowalski 3 жыл бұрын

Shaking hands isn’t really done in some cultures. In Japan for example.

@ix7275 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah in Japan they do sepuku.

@hansenyan6217 3 жыл бұрын

@@ix7275 yep, the seppuku where they just stab themselves when meeting someone because interaction is just too much to bare

@HerFather 3 жыл бұрын

@@hansenyan6217 😭

@unusualusualdailysceneswep8405 3 жыл бұрын

In India 🙏

@ix7275 3 жыл бұрын

@@hansenyan6217 I thought that was Sudoku

@drvinson8947 Жыл бұрын

My pet peeve is when someone shakes my hand and squeezes too fast and hard before I can close my grip. I’ve learned to go in with a locked hand making it impossible to close before I lock in the grip.

@dznuts123 Жыл бұрын

FBI agents aren’t really the experts we want on this subject. The old man should have focused purely on body language and psychology

@meganh7526 3 жыл бұрын

I thought it was interesting that he didn’t talk about culture and hand shaking, since in many cultures hand shaking is not the norm.

@shadowmoon1657 3 жыл бұрын

I dont shake hands, I don’t care. If the person insist I barely touch their hands. I don’t know what they’ve been doing with that hand before. I think its gross and I never learned to accept it. Also I find it such a stupid gesture.

@Rooftop-Ali-BR 3 жыл бұрын

Pretty sure most people in the world dont normally shake hands. Big cultural difference there.

@shantanuranjan5462 3 жыл бұрын

Yes in hinduism it's namaste and in islam its usually verbal gesture

@Art-zs6sl 3 жыл бұрын

@@shadowmoon1657 Just don't pick your nose, you'll be ok.

@walterhicks3990 3 жыл бұрын

He is LYING! That's why he didn't bring it up. This is why we teach our children NOT to trust strangers/touches/etc. He literally just taught people how TO get abducted fastest/be the easiest targets.

@hamsteroncoffee 3 жыл бұрын

I hate people touching me while engaging in a conversation with me. Especially if they are fake people that try to use touching as a way to get "closer" to you. Grrrrr 😤😒

@mm-ee1qx 2 жыл бұрын

Just Cut that fake hand off 😂

@strawberrypastel8515 2 жыл бұрын

“Grr” 😭

@josephwynne4903 2 жыл бұрын

Not only get closer to you but to exert their power over you.

@dahyimi2185 2 жыл бұрын

What I hate the most is people who give "the condescending shoulder grab" to strangers. It's something they often do when a conversation is technically over, just before leaving, and I'm like: "Can't they just say 'bye' and leave without touching me?" 😒.

@srbaruchi 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, but (as a guy) having an attractive woman you barely know begin touching you during conversation is pretty delicious.

@bubblebaath7840 Жыл бұрын

The weapon thing sounds like a misunderstanding of certain tribes that shake with the left hand because they hold the shield in that hand and it’s letting your guard down and showing respect.

@fieryweasel 2 ай бұрын

7:50 "You keep looking down, or clearing your throat..." 7:57 "...you keep wearing half a jacket..."

@user-my2eo9lo1y 3 жыл бұрын

I wanted to add something I have noticed when it comes to babies and rocking them. My brother decided to sing one song when it came to his son's nap and sleep time. I have noticed through the two years of singing that song has been a helpful tool to make my nephew aware that it is rest time. I still Rock him when I can and sing that song, he relaxes,lays his head on my chest and listens. At times he sings part of the song with me. Now, I change up the song a bit by adding his name to the song. Pick a song and sing that song when it is time for your baby to rest and or sleep. The song that was chosen for my nephew was twinkle twinkle little star. Thank you and God Bless

@nancywutzke5392 3 жыл бұрын

That is so precious.

@madwhitehare3635 3 жыл бұрын

Singing is a restorative process for old, young and anyone in between!

@zackscott8636 3 жыл бұрын

scents are also reinforcing of mental states

@crabtrap 3 жыл бұрын

Is Poison by Alice Cooper ok?

@joycethiery2488 3 жыл бұрын

That makes a lot of sense. Seriously

@raviolipaneko5449 2 жыл бұрын

I didn't know that pacing helps circulate more blood to the brain, really informative thank you.

@briseboy 2 жыл бұрын

You may also stand on your head, which is soothing, without irritating others around you.

@raviolipaneko5449 2 жыл бұрын

@@briseboy I've tried that before, but its really nauseating and yeah my fam just got used to me pacing around the room.

@bigbrotherisasob 2 жыл бұрын

Really ?

@KanyeKetchup 2 жыл бұрын

It's called exercise try it

@ToMi-bm5hh 2 жыл бұрын

That pumping job of calf muscles is only important when standing. If you lay down, getting your heart in the same level as legs, it has no importance. So if this was a big benefit of pacing, you could just lay down instead. I think the rocking motion analogy makes much more sense in this case.

@Dontneedahandle0 Жыл бұрын

I’ve only sat by, maybe, a couple men that did the manspreading thing. For the most part, men are polite and will apologize and dial their legs in. The couple times that it did happen, it bothered me only because I had to sit in an uncomfortable position and it aggravated my tics. Everyone is different and even though I thought it was rude, other people might not. Sometimes, you have to just let it go.

@noice3788 Жыл бұрын

The reason I've found myself man spreading was bc it a bit uncomfortable to keep your legs together when we have parts in between them.

@sushitrash-dj9vq Жыл бұрын

@@noice3788 fr

@DonDeLem Жыл бұрын

Personally I try to take up as little space as I can, so I don't really manspread and I don't understand why others do it. Apparently some men find it uncomfortable to sit with their legs so close together but I've never felt that. It doesn't bother me in the slightest when I see other people do it. I actually thought it was quite ridiculous when I found out there was a word for it and people actually get annoyed by it 😂 I don't think it's that hard to politely ask someone to move their leg either

@TheRealStraw Жыл бұрын

@Noice exactly Sperm needs to be at a cooler temp than the body. That's why they are on the outside and will drop or raise based on temperature. It's also super uncomfortable to have them squeezed between the thighs for too long. Obviously. Many other health benefits of keeping the balls cool as well.

@trevorclinton5692 Жыл бұрын

This is a eugenics fr om goofy 💯

@realnurse2696 4 ай бұрын

As a nurse and overall “people person”, I’ve often been concerned about the correct handshake pressure. I can’t stand a limp handshake, but I don’t enjoy feeling like you’re trying to brake my hand, either. Where’s the happy medium? I probably overthink it every time I shake someone’s hand. 😂

@juliemanarin4127 2 ай бұрын

I'm a nurse too. I also know an embryo can't do anything...

@koretmulder6316 3 жыл бұрын

Handshakes in professional settings are also complicated by gender. I'm a woman in a professional workplace, and I am very likely to reach out for a handshake upon introduction, as I think is typical for most male-presenting professionals. Some associates (male and female) just respond naturally, and we do the normal pressure, quick grasp, two or three, done. I like shaking hands, it feels like the original ice-breaker. But I'd also say about half of the men look at my outstretched hand in confusion. And I've also noticed that some female professionals just don't do it at all, even while all the men around them are instinctively shaking hands as a greeting. I think this is still settling down in terms of gender norms in the business place.

@Mr3kiwis 2 жыл бұрын

That's interesting. I remember reading a very old etiquette book that said that ladies shaking hands was appropriate but if it was between a lady and a gentleman, the gentleman should never presume to offer his hand first but would take her hand when she offered it. That would be considered very sexist now but was part of the chivalrous culture of the time.

@florida23 2 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@longlivegarybusey6409 2 жыл бұрын

Probably because a lot men are terrified of touching female coworkers in any way. So their confusion is probably more of an internal risk assessment.

@riverraisin1 2 жыл бұрын

I think it's rooted in growing up as a male child. You hugged Dad until you reached a certain age and then switched to handshaking at some point. With Mom you always hugged. I know this isn't a hard rule, as some boys grow up always hugging both parents, but I think this mindset is carried over to adulthood and causes momentary confusion among some men in their professional lives.

@snafuet 2 жыл бұрын

In my country most male coworkers are confused, or even laugh at me for giving them the hand (sometimes even ignoring me in terms of greeting at all, if there are males in a room). Being younger than them doesn't help much, too...

@wishingtree3774 3 жыл бұрын

One thing he forgot about handshakes are the people who do it WAY too hard.

@professorbutters 3 жыл бұрын

Pre-COVID, I was surprised how many doctors give a really weak handshake. It’s more of a finger shake. Then I developed wrist tendinitis and went to a rheumatologist. A standard “firm handshake” is agonizing to many people who can’t do anything about it. Let’s not even get into the people who grab and yank forward so that you’re pulled off balance. Those Presidents, I mean people, are jerks. That so-called wet handshake is a kind thing to do. Post-COVID, I wonder whether some of us will go back to shaking stranger’s hands at all.

@mack626 3 жыл бұрын

Instantly lose respect for a guy if he tries to squeeze too hard, it’s the only thing that bothers me.

@scourix4181 3 жыл бұрын

Here in Germany we had several lessons about how to behave in a (for example) Job-Interview. One of the things i learned there is that a really hard handshake is a good thing. I really dont understand why... but i guess i have to adjust myself to the rules. Personally i prefer the fist-bump because i always have wet hands. So a handshake is horrible enough for me!

@Carlos1515 3 жыл бұрын

@@mack626 I lose respect for a man with a weak handshake

@mack626 3 жыл бұрын

@@Carlos1515 nothing worse than a limp handshake, I don’t know why people can’t just do a regular handshake… but if he tries to strangle my hand I just assume he’s insecure.

@50CAO Жыл бұрын

I have palmar hyperhydrosis so my hands are always wet and clammy. It’s always awkward and embarrassing when I shake someone’s hand. Very difficult to network and socialize in the business community.

@yoteslaya7296 2 жыл бұрын

My pet peeve is former fbi agents

@diegomontoya8889 3 жыл бұрын

Where this guy's tie hits his belt line is near perfection. That is exactly there you want the end of the tie to be. Everything in this man's life is about trying to be perfect.

@saulgoodmanKAZAKH 3 жыл бұрын

This man even explains perfectly.

@saulgoodmanKAZAKH 3 жыл бұрын

7:59

@diegomontoya8889 3 жыл бұрын

@@saulgoodmanKAZAKH Yeah, I wasn't sure what was going on there either...

@alyxfaust5663 3 жыл бұрын

Sounds absolutely miserable.

@commanderwaddles3483 3 жыл бұрын

@@alyxfaust5663 Unless he finds it fun, like getting his stats up in a game lol

@LKeyYT 3 жыл бұрын

0:45 so many flashbacks of awkward staredowns I’ve had in Morocco that were unexplained to me until now

@3ior_izzo 7 ай бұрын

“Weapons were so big back then, we could see them over the horizon” 😂😂

@yotheman Жыл бұрын

I always hated any type of handshake and close talkers

@bronteboy89 3 жыл бұрын

Close talkers make me uncomfortable and touching kinda does but honestly I’d never call anyone out on it because it’s not that big of a deal personally

@oldbatkingartist9898 3 жыл бұрын

Almost every handshake, people never meet with the webs of our hands! I’ve constantly have had my FINGERS grabbed, and I always think like wow you made MY handshake look bad when in reality it’s like hey just get it deep don’t go for my fingers I’m not yer princess pal lmao

@iguanac6466 3 жыл бұрын

I hate that finger grab crap...

@billthebax5578 3 жыл бұрын

@@iguanac6466 yeah, why do guys do that!!! Hella weird. I thinking to try to make you feel or look weak , not sure 🤔

@crabtrap 3 жыл бұрын

I say confidently "handshake redue! Finger grabber" it lets them know, i know what they did and ill call them on it in our dealings. Even if the fingergrab was my mistake it makes them question themselves.

@sarahjcgillespie Жыл бұрын

The verbal tics one amused me. I have Tourettes, and my face always twitches just before I speak (regardless of topic) - as if it's a surface manifestation of my brain's effort to put the words in order before I open my mouth. My ex was on the autism spectrum and always interpreted my tics as a sign of distress, so he'd always say, "What's wrong?" the second I opened my mouth. My response was always, "Nothing - except now I'm annoyed, because you interrupted me again." Poor guy. 😂

@dmcguire70 3 ай бұрын

I hate it when you go into a shop , you pay for whatever it is you’re buying and you turn around and there’s somebody standing there right in your face .

@doonewatts7155 3 жыл бұрын

Fascinating I will never get irritated by my son's pacing again

@nonnaurbisness3013 3 жыл бұрын

How would pacing ever be a reason to be irritated?

@mintforest 3 жыл бұрын

@@nonnaurbisness3013 i dunno might be annoying if the kid walks loudly, for example stomps with every step

@sanbilge 3 жыл бұрын

@@nonnaurbisness3013 it's anxiety-inducing for some.

@cait5539 3 жыл бұрын

Same, must be more patient with my partner!

@HairyJuan 3 жыл бұрын

That part was really interesting for me, ever since I was a kid and still today I would always do some sort of pacing activity, sometimes even for like an hour or two straight to just get lost in my thoughts. I can't get lost in them like that when I'm sitting down but when I got diagnosed with ADHD and started taking amphetamine(which increases blood flow among other things) I found I was able to get lost in my thoughts that same way even while just sitting still.

@vegasdad 3 жыл бұрын

I want this guy to read me a bedtime story every night.

@somekindoflatindude9497 3 жыл бұрын

"Once upon a time, the end"

@obabas80 3 жыл бұрын

😅😅😅 excellent.

@Mikej1592 Жыл бұрын

One thing I really loved about the 2020 pandemic, was no longer having to ever shake anyone's hand ever again, and having a good reason to say "hey, backup 6 feet! 6 FEET!" man I miss the height of the pandemic

@robothug6688 2 ай бұрын

That not being aloud to look at each other thing is pretty scary. Shows how messed up we are.

@private9062 2 жыл бұрын

One of the most shocking moments in my life was to adapt to the 1 second “rule” of staring at each other in US. I felt so uncomfortable about it that I thought people were scared of me or something. Now I get why.

@markgreiser464 2 жыл бұрын

, I have made it a point in Life, to consistently look people, in the eye.

@gijsbertmarkus3754 2 жыл бұрын

Is this in general or also in conversation with someone?

@private9062 2 жыл бұрын

@@gijsbertmarkus3754 Only when I'm walking and someone's coming towards me in the oppposite direction. I'm culturally used to stare (naturally) at that other person for at least two seconds and keep going on. In US it feels like people are avoiding to be in the visual range of others.

@greyscalesx 2 жыл бұрын

@@markgreiser464 so In other words, you don't care if you make some ppl inconfortable ? Bc I can see why you always done it. But emphasizing it after have watched the video, feels like you say you will keep doing regardless of impact. This is not the great thing you seem to think it is.

@markgreiser464 2 жыл бұрын

@@greyscalesx , I study People. I do this because People are dangerous. Most dangerous People follow the same patterns. Most do not like to to return a gaze, if they are up to no good. I will live my life as I please. No apologies, if you do not like it. The technique has solved a lot of problems, before they started. People are predators, but I can deal with that. I do not Mask, I will not lockdown, I am not jabbed. I hope that helps.

@zlatkowar 3 жыл бұрын

Could listen to this guy for days.

@KanyeKetchup 2 жыл бұрын

Not every Man sits like a office boy cream puff with his legs crossed 😆😆

@bigdaddyem9970 Жыл бұрын

I hate when someone will be talking too close, so I take a step back, and they take another step forward, I feel instantly threatened

@awzsdrcfgybhjimklp Жыл бұрын

I don’t know about that stuff about hand shaking. That didn’t seem to line up with me. Shaking hands has never been a primal instinct for me it is very much a learned behavior often needing reminding to actually do it. And as I have learned there is no right way to do it only a wrong way which is with a light grip, any other way is fine.

@MidwestSirenProductions 3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad that I’m not the only one that dislikes “touchers”. I remember growing up and my dad telling me as an adult to politely put a hand on someone’s shoulder to signal an “excuse me” when passing through a crowd. I’ve never used that, because I know that I hate strangers touching me other than a handshake or a high-five, or whatever.

@tattoodrdoke 3 жыл бұрын

Probably wise on your part as its a bit overkill. In some cultures placing hands om shoulds or near neck is attempting to show dominance.

@xoseanaxo5538 3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@brandondriver99 3 жыл бұрын

I usually touch an elbow, as I find people aren't as threatened

@AngelsAndButterflies 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks to this video I realized that not liking being touched is normal. Until today I'd thought that I was socially awkward and that I didn't really have sincere relationships (outside my family) because I didn't touch people like I saw some other not-socially-awkward people do. Turns out I was overthinking it: I don't touch other people because I don't like being touched myself. That fact doesn't make me socially awkward like I thought it did. There's so much more to social interaction.

@rainhardgroinger3995 3 жыл бұрын

Thinking about , I do that quite often but i take my backhand 🤔

@christatum3045 3 жыл бұрын

Hand shaking is definitely directly related to weapons. When you shake hands you are mutually showing each other respect. Your first weapons are a fist so it's important to release the fist or display whatever you may have in your hand as a sign of good faith. You can't shake hands with a fist. So you either both bump fists, shake open hands or raise and present your hands. This is why the universal sign for surrender/nonviolence is both hands raised, open and exposed

@samanjj 3 жыл бұрын

Explains why we wave to friends as well.

@jwalkerC21 2 жыл бұрын

some dads are teaching handshakes wrong, they think its a squeezing contest to show strength, but in reality, it shows weakness in self-esteem.

@indubren Ай бұрын

"videotape yourself doing 5-10 minutes of a speech" I would rather die

@arnatri1503 3 жыл бұрын

I really don't like anyone touching me or even holding hands with anyone other than my parents or grand parents.

@LukesVintageRC 3 жыл бұрын

Imagine being this guys son in-law 😂

@KanyeKetchup 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I'd tell him Not every Man sits like a office boy cream puff with his legs crossed 😆😆

@ryosaeba3942 Жыл бұрын

3:43 That's not "graving in any strange way", that's an attempt of "Bro handshake", the problem there is that the dude in the black suit is a cold fish.

@nemonucliosis Жыл бұрын

His opinion and pet peeves are as important to me as the Walmart greeters.

@dattruemg_6062 3 жыл бұрын

As a young adult with crippled social skills and ques, I feel like being social should be a class.

@theephantommenace 3 жыл бұрын

100% agree with you!

@enlightenthebenighted8735 3 жыл бұрын

Your parent's sucked and you're full of excuses Go talk to people

@shoutarho6081 2 жыл бұрын

I agree, somewhat. Not necessarily a class mandatory at school but something optional. I am autistic and a big part of the issues I have daily is that I don't pick up on body language, facial expressions and social cues, like at all. I don't really show much either and my voice is quite monotone. I wonder how an expert such as Mr FBI would assess my communication if he didn't know my situation prior.

@matthewperez555 Жыл бұрын

Most colleges have speech classes. I had to take some in school lol.

@farmerfarmerer3847 3 жыл бұрын

My pet peeve handshake is when the other person shakes your hand but is looking everywhere else but wont make eye contact - now that is body language.

@WesleyNiman Жыл бұрын

That guy at minute 1:00 looked like a Jordan Peterson doppelganger 😂

@stluanne Жыл бұрын

Fascinating to learn about people who fidget or bounce their legs or feet. I don't do either. I can sit quietly for some time before I feel compelled to move... BUT, I can't *concentrate* all that well unless my hands are busy. I used to pick at dry skin or hangnails or bite my nails. Now, if I'm sitting waiting or watching tv or listening to a podcast or something, I crochet. I've completely broken the pick or gnaw habit.

@ToxicSpork 3 жыл бұрын

My sister was a "rocker". She used to rock back and forth on the couch. Eventually, the spring where she always sat poked through the back of the couch due to her constant rocking.

@ohheyitsjae2799 3 жыл бұрын

that’s crazy

@TheMrTalon 3 жыл бұрын

that's crazy

@thebloodyhound9098 3 жыл бұрын

that's crazy

@zee- 3 жыл бұрын

that’s crazy

@thegoods7011 3 жыл бұрын

that's crazy

@taten007 3 жыл бұрын

If there’s no one around then duh, take up space, be comfortable. If it’s crowded, be courteous.

@n2bfw884 3 жыл бұрын

The thought of men being comfortable triggers me. Please be courteous next time you comment.

@OPC3301 3 жыл бұрын

@@n2bfw884 wow youre so funny

@n2bfw884 3 жыл бұрын

@@OPC3301 You're welcome.

@williamfriar6295 Жыл бұрын

When someone doesn’t give me the perfect handshake, I cut off all contact with them. They’re dead to me.

@chrisradano Жыл бұрын

Men (I think) over analyze handshakes. The wet wimpy, the squeeze too hard, and the squeeze and twist. I agree, an annoying handshake makes me not like that person as much. What is the best hand shake? Straight up, even, and squeezing equal pressure as the other person. This guy is spot on.

@anabautista8071 2 жыл бұрын

1. Staring; 2. Pacing; 3. The bad handshake; 4. The close talker; 5. Touch phobia; 6. Manspreading; 7. Verbal ticks; 8. Eye rolling; 9. Tapping.

@patachungus 3 жыл бұрын

I've read a book he wrote about body language when I was just 14 and 11 years later I watch a video about him. It's so strange, like meeting your hero!

@564Clayton Жыл бұрын

I’d be interested in him doing this for different ethnicities in America! If he’s done it already, lemme know ❤

@yaboibuddha2227 2 жыл бұрын

Man walking back and forth, scientists: "Write that down, write that down!"

@ParisLauCampbell 3 жыл бұрын

"All I know is that i know nothing" You are unique... in your own way.

@hannahstahl1857 3 жыл бұрын

When our store opened back up while the pandemic was still going strong…. I’d have people run up on me and get right in my face so I would see them running up on me and I’d be talking steps/leaps back

@TheScienceGuy10 3 жыл бұрын

When you opened up your stahl, you mean. (Sorry, bad pun lol)

@commanderwaddles3483 3 жыл бұрын

@farorin I hope you got a faceshield, if not, do it bro. You can't trust these people to socially distance

@public.public 2 жыл бұрын

"I remember someone saying we shake hands because we want to demonstrate that we don't have a weapon. Folks weapons were so big back then you could see it over the horizon...." said the man who has never carried a concealed flint razor.