I had a very bad experience for my two years because the leadership pushing that same idea, brow-beating everyone who didnt show that 110% mentality. It has taken the better part of two decades to let the hurt go, and to be honest, I still harbor some resentment still. But, I know it was an example of what happens when you forget the Lord's way, and I at least consider it a blessing to know it.

In the MTC in 2014 a general authority came and gave a talk and said that we should give 100% and expend every bit of energy we had so that we came home "exhausted."

I think I had the same "problem"... When I got home from my mission I was sick for more than a month.

I thought the same! And I’ve had to spend a few years recovering from my mission because of it. Self-compassion is so much healthier than perfectionism! 10/10

For real! I wish I had figured that out on my mission instead of after. 😆

Jesus, Buddha, Lau Tzu, Epictetus, and others taught this over 2000 years ago. We just missed it. Glad it’s making its way back around.

Yes, so much that he even commanded us to take a day off. ❤️

I gotcha. My wife has ADHD (inattentive focus) and this is something she deals with, too.

I relate to this!! I was undiagnosed for the longest time and was so frustrated when I kept making the same mistakes no matter how hard I tried. But the Lord always forgave me, and I was confused why He wasn’t more upset with me. Turns out He knew I had ADHD all along XD and that trying harder isn’t nearly as effective with ADHD as trying smarter

@Magical Mercy your use of min-max makes me think you play video games?

Yes! Fellow ADHD brain here! It's only now in my 30s I've made peace with the fact that I'll never function like everybody else and I won't hit the same targets temporally and spiritually like others, but I KNOW that God knows I'm trying and he knows what's in my heart. We've got this!

Ditto!!! I an also ADHD!

Patricia good wisdom and very well said!

I love the perspective Brad Wilcox gives in his book ‘The Continuous Atonement’ where he says “we are saved by grace after all WE can do. The WE includes God. He makes the difference.” Try our best, and ask for God’s help with the rest. :)

This whole life experience was never really about the “doing”, but how the doing can change our “being”. The Jews in Jesus day got hung up on the “doing” and it became a stumbling block. We are no different today. Be still, be present in each moment, be mindful. Look inside for the change and growth and beauty that comes from the doing, otherwise all of the doing is pointless. God doesn’t care about your church attendance percentage or temple attendance stats or number of ministering visits. Did you just go through those motions, or did they go through you? Often the Why matters more than the What or the How. Be blessed and may harmony find you.

@@FromAgonyToLight You have interpreted one word into two meanings. God doesn't need saving because he is prefect.

@@TheArtOfBeingStill "God doesn't care about your church attendence..." - right in the middle of your comment.

Learning from my mother was more influential than any other experience.

Hey, Yooper, glad to hear from you, I’m kind of in your same boat. We gotta keep going, right? Have an excellent day!

Are you udalizing tech to video chat with your family? I often overlook this tramedous blessing. I have four children too. Keep leaning on the Lord. In all things He Shall direct thee for good.

Thanks for sharing!

Likewise.

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It's a balancing act to "not run faster than we can bear..." but to give our all at the same time💕

Sadly, that’s Utah culture.

Yeah, I wish leaders would focus less in numbers (specially when they try to encourage missionaries). I can remember my times as a missionary and trying doing everything fast to meet the mission´s goals and yet, having shallow results.

I think there are times when you are able to give that effort and times when you have to focus on yourself. I spent a few years completely focused on finishing my education. The next 6 years I was part of the YW presidency and spent several hours a week serving. The last few years I've been focusing on my mental and physical health because I was diagnosed with PCOS. I also lost my mom to Cancer and I'm trying to help my brother take care of our father. I'm not able to give the same amount of time to the church right now, but I'm trying. Sometimes I wonder if I'm doing enough, but all I can do is what I can do. I haven't refused help that has been requested and I've tried to lift the spirits of those around me when I can. I've tried to share my spiritual breakthroughs to benefit others. I do come home exhausted but sometimes it's just fatigue caused by my chronic illness. I think serving a mission is very different from juggling a family, a job and whatever callings you may have plus your own personal study time.

And how did that work out?

I don't understand your metaphor.

I love this!!

That just means you are human. Satan has a tricky way of making us think we are the only ones going through any scenario, but we know better. I'm glad you are seeing things clearer and giving your self some slack. So important.

Good luck with your teaching! That's awesome!

This topic has been in the books since the 1800s along with the Internet several decades ago. This is obvious. It is easier to access, if you can afford it.

Am saying a question am a member of the church of Jesus Christ of latter-day saints but am not in the place where the church is so I want to know how to worship in Sunday at home

Hi Salamatu, thank you for your question. You can contact your Bishop for that information. Many Wards are providing a link for members that want to worship from home.

@@churchofjesuschrist thanks so much for your response to me I will ask once more brethren thanks again

Well said. Still a lot of nonsense flying around in meetings that was never taught by Christ. He took naps, got away on his own to be mindful, and told us to take no thought for the morrow. He sees us as human beings, not human doings. The Jews in his day got caught in all of the doing and it became a stumbling block to them. We are no different now. Be still, and know that he is God. His burden is “easy and light”.

Can't echo this enough. The "echos" of lionizing extreme sacrifice over the years, kind of run against this kind of measured council. Even the recent run of "hastening the work" kind of cuts agains the message here of "slow and steady wins the race".

I could discount your experience very easily but I don't feel like getting into the semantics of the vague context presented.

@@travismarin2595 You need to chill out with the comments man. The stuff you're saying pushes people away. It's not helping. Calm down.

Thank you for your comment! Good luck on your mission!

Trees don't grow all at once. Be patient with yourself and keep going. ❤️

Yeah I'm working on that too LOL

Thanks for sharing!

So true! Thank you for your comment!

You are telling us needs are uncountable.