My father showed me the definition of marriage in Black's Law Dictionary. It said, “Marriage is the legal union of a man and woman.” Then he asked me, “Where does it say love?” That really helped awaken my mind in my early 20’s.

I had an indian boyfriend many years ago and what struck me as very unfair was the fact that he travelled abroad and had many sexual partners but insisted that he would eventually return to India for an arranged marriage with a virgin.

There are different types even in arranged marriages in India. In South of India, bride and groom both decide who they want to marry after the parents have presented options to them. Some are not consulted and decision taken by parents.. Delhi is not the whole of India..

I know an India friend. He did not mind that his marriage will arranged by his family, and he did married a girl chosen by his parents. But many years later, he divorced, as he described they found incompatible although both have similar social background and university education. After that he found someone and got married again, this time seems right.

Marriage is considered an act of union between families, not an act of love between two. The two types of union sometimes can go along with each other, sometimes go conflict.

The old wise women in Japan says love doesn't last forever, but make sure you have your own income. So true. Financial independence and spiritual independence go hand in hand.

Firstly, Hinduism places a strong emphasis on individual autonomy and free will. The idea of karma, which is central to Hindu philosophy, suggests that individuals are responsible for their own actions and their own destinies. Therefore, it is believed that every person should be allowed to make their own choices, including the choice of whom to marry. Arranged marriages, on the other hand, often involve coercion or pressure from family members or other external factors, which can undermine the individual's free will. Secondly, Hinduism places great importance on the concept of dharma, which can be loosely translated as "duty" or "righteousness". According to Hindu beliefs, individuals have a duty to fulfill their social and familial obligations, but this duty should not come at the expense of their own happiness or well-being. Arranged marriages, which often prioritize family obligations and social status over individual happiness and compatibility, can be seen as a violation of this principle. Thirdly, Hinduism is a religion that celebrates love, devotion, and spiritual connection. The concept of bhakti, or devotional love, is central to Hindu worship, and it is believed that true love and devotion can lead to a deep and meaningful connection with the divine. Arranged marriages, which are often based on practical considerations such as social status or financial stability, can undermine this ideal and rob individuals of the opportunity to experience true love and connection. Lastly, Hinduism values diversity and individuality, and recognizes that every individual is unique and has their own strengths, weaknesses, and preferences. Arranged marriages, which often involve matching individuals based on external factors such as caste, can perpetuate harmful stereotypes and social hierarchies, and can lead to discrimination and prejudice against certain groups. In conclusion, Hinduism is a religion that celebrates individual autonomy, free will, and spiritual connection, and it is therefore not compatible with the practice of arranged marriages. By encouraging individuals to make their own choices, based on their own preferences and desires, Hinduism promotes healthy and fulfilling relationships that are based on mutual respect, love, and spiritual connection

Its good that he recognizes that he was blessed to get to know her and them to meet prior to the wedding.

In India arranged marriage is kind of like dating, except you marry. You get to choose your girl or boy you like. Lot of Westerners think of it as forced marriage where it is a totally different concept.

arranged is not "forced". It is 1 year of dating & approving. The documentary is misleading!

I unfortunately fell in love with an Indian man and now he is being tossed into an arranged marriage. We been together for 5 years, the pain that is has on me is beyond belief. He told his mother and she didn't speak to him for a month! She was so angry. He tends to listen to what she says alot except for the fact we had a whole relationship for 5 years. Its un fair to me and un fair to his new match that he is not a virgin. I am just so torn. I hope that he is happy with the choice he made though.

Indian marriages are based on orthodox selfish reasons, here marriages are based on families , caste , horoscopes, monetary status ,based on selfish reasons, at the cost of sacrifice of happiness of the two people. The two people who show-off happiness while extremely uncomfortable with each other.

a little strange to blur out half of the sculptures...who exactly would be scandalized?

I am sure this seems a far fetched situation to most of us but lets face it....do we ever know the person we married? I was 19 when I met my husband on a blind date and married 3 months later.We have been married 50+ years but still have problems with communication and under-standing.No way is optimal.

I would rather be an Old Maid.

I have a guy and we've been together for 3yrs. I just met him in a dating app. He's 26 yo and now getting married who he just met once for arrange marriage. He told me it was fine for marriage since it's the culture of India and both parties agree, not just him but the whole clan.

He should stand up for her and let her know that he has her back no matter what

I’m surprised to see how ignorant many people are. Please understand that the definition of arranged marriages have changed drastically over the years. At least from the part of India I come from, people meet through different matrimonial sites..they chat with various people and finally once they feel the bond with one of them, they inform their parents to meet in person. And no the marriage is not rushed especially nowadays both parties spend more than one year to get to know each other…Only after that they get married

Even in the Church I was brought up in, it was encouraged to marry someone else in the church and matchmaking was always going on and not uncommon for cousins- usually 2nd cousins or cousins from each side of the family to marry...so currently I am related to cousins from both sides of family who married each other...if we have a family reunion..we are all related and only need one family reunion as we are all related.

Is this only in my location, or is everyone seeing those statues at about minute 11.30-11.40 in a blurred form? I mean, it's only a statue, why can't they just show it...

This is not true....modern Indians do not marry like what is shown.......people get to know each other before marriage and even parents know about it.....you meet someone through your family but full freedom is given to both the girl and the boy to reject each other if they dont find each other compatible.....the rather prevalent custom nowadays is love marriage that is arranged....

Let's not equate arranged marriage with forced marriage ; this bride knows very well that if she disliked the groom, she could tell her parents and they would not force her. Most modern Indian families like this one, where bride and groom are educated will not force anyone. She herself said it took her a year to decide and they talked and met often. These days the families basically perform the introduction, the decision to marry is the bride and groom's.

Even love marriages break up.......my mom and dad had arranged marriage......they are still together sin 30 yrs...in short it's about people and not arranged or love ...... arranged marriage in India means both after knowing eachother gives consent to marry......and not a forceful marriage

if males are having sex before marriage and females are not whom are the men having sex with?????????

In the protestant religion sex before marriage is not allowed either. I don't understand why the narrator stated otherwise. Do young people have sex before marriage? Yes, but it is not ordained in any way by the protestant church. Abstinence is taught and supposed to be observed until marriage.

'She will then belong to the groom's family' almost like she is an object! But hey, if that's their culture fair enough. I am happy to have freedom of choice. xx

Marriage be it love or arrange never ever gives guarantee of a person behaviour in future. And in India arrange and love marriage both happens. And arrange marriage are more prefered as matching the social status as its union of 2 families. Arrange marriage also girl meets discuss with many boys before choosing someone n vice versa. Not like one they met n forced to marry. That used to happen in old ancient India not now

This is so eye opening!! I have a pen pal from India and who isn’t far from New Delhi

Well it's like playing a Russian roulette. Never know what you are gonna get. I suppose Indians like the element of surprise of the biggest scale imaginable.

i had an arranged marriage. we liked the look of each other but no attraction, so it's been a terrible 13 years of marriage, 2 kids but no romance and love between us. no sex life of course. thats life, looking to get a divorce in later yrs

As a woman, I am so grateful to not come from this kind of culture. This seems incredibly oppressive.

Lol as a Westerner I believed in this lie of love and happiness ...they may not have this but at least they are not alone...here we are bondless

Dont know which India you are talking about! Now a days live in relationships before marriage, in India are becoming quite common!

Beautiful weddings & ways. I like it. 💕✨

Stay blessed

Grown men and women should do what they feel is best for them. A lot of people are pressured by their parents to have an arranged marriage. So they're really coerced into it, which really isn't exactly a free choice. Traditionally, in Desi culture, you do not get married because you love the person. They don't consider that. It's more like a business deal. It's mainly about coming from the same background whether it be religion, language, skin color, class, caste, etc. Some people are lucky to actually fall in love with the person they had an arranged marriage with. But for others, love never develops. And it's supposed to be a lifelong commitment. If you divorce, it brings shame on your family. So many stay in unhappy marriages because they don't want to disappoint their families. It seems like a lot of them think love is something to be looked down on and discouraged. It seems like they think divorce is the worst thing in the world. Just because you stayed married doesn't mean you have a healthy or successful marriage. I think it's better to take your time truly getting to know a person for a few years before marrying them. If you get married after knowing someone for a mere few months, you may realize too late that you're with the wrong person. Then what? You're just supposed to stay married and force a relationship that brings no one involved any happiness? It's even worse if you bring children into that situation. It messes them up too. Bottom line is, make your own decisions. And if it doesn't work out, at least you can be happy knowing that you lived for yourself and made your own choices without any regrets. I think that's better than living an unhappy life of regret.

If I were Indian I'd like and arranged marriage. I just have to meet the guy and maybe see if we are compatible and if we want the same things in life. If that's a a match and I like him that's good for me. Thing is I've seen many love marriages and seldom do those end well. Lol I'm actually married and I feel my husband and I have an arrange marriage of some sorts. Only thing is we were chosen by our ancestors. We were just drawn to each other. Very happy to stay together and we have the same values. We just click man and that came without butterflies like most romantic relationships are first based on.

Not everything comes from British colonialism . Yes, it took place, but before that don't forget the influence of Islam which is huge in India. India is more islamised and Conservative in a Muslim way than some Islamic countries. They forgot real Hinduism

Very interesting

Lovely looking couple ! Girl is very pretty ! 😍 may God bless this couple forever ameen

Having to marry someone you don't know seems so gross to me. 🤮🤮🤮

When you choose your own partner what do you do? You date him/her and meet him/her a few times, maybe some months. He/ she is on her best behaviour and all spruced up. Unless you live with a person day in and day out you don't get to know the person. So choosing your own partner and arranged marriage is almost the same. If you marry a person after living with him/ her and finding out he/ she is compatible then it is different. But to me this sounds just as distasteful and disastrous(to some people) as deciding your life partner in an arranged marriage. You can't live with series of people and award the prize of marriage to the winner can you? So arranged or otherwise the important thing is a life partner should be of your choice and your decision.

So beautiful❤❤❤

Simple thing "Arranged Marriages are not Forced Marriages"

I remember my cousins Hindu ceremony it was so colorful!

They really are a lovely couple

According to me there are 3 kinds of marriages 1) love marriage 2) Arranged marriage & 3) Forced marriage ( which is bad & need to be reported) . People always tend to get confused between arranged & forced marriages. One of the Top rule for healthy marriage / relationship (any above ) instead of brainstorming on wedding bash plans or pre -post shoots ....shoot your EGOs and invest time in figuring it out pro's & con's about one selves by respecting each others dreams & beliefs. Life is not all about lavish wedding, surprise / expensive gifts, high expectations.... earn yourself and spend together with your own limits rather than putting parents life at stake. Another beautiful rule of marriage is only GIVING (love respect, support & sacrifice) rather than TAKING.

We Indians do have a say if we agree on our parents choice or not it's not forced . Many Indians do love marriage and those who don't they decide among one of the proposals their parents find based on their son/daughter characteristics matched with the other. Yes we need more opening but it's not something forced which ppl wrongly depict.

Too biased. Can't believe this was uploaded 2 months ago...with arabic background music and the whole propaganda speech. Feels the video was made 30 years back.

The girl has no say😆😆that's bullshit. Parents give u options to choose and date and then marry. In my circle i have seen girls rejecting some 10 guys before finally saying yes for some guy after dating.

Arpit or armpit wtf🤣🤣🤣😭

According to Hindu culture women should not have sex before marriage but doesn't say anything or force men to do the same. Shouldn't the society ask men too if men are virgin too before marriage or does this only apply to men

Would this actually work, I am interested to know how happy these women are in their marriages? This is totally alien to the west!

Good thing things are changing though.

Nice😎👍✌🙏🇮🇩

Indian marriages are more of like business deals . I personally know so many people who are seeking happiness outside of their marriage . Selfish families make their children suffer by making them marry at young age before 30 , it’s easy to convince them when young , but later on they just suffer with frustration in a marriage

First find Love, then look for second love., then third, ... (West). Love means even you hate other person in full, than also don't leave them. Love and sacrifice part of same coin. like day and night.

These kind of marriages are common in MIDDLE EAST as well as entire SOUTH ASIA.

I don’t understand the issue regarding arranged marriage, it’s not like it is a forced marriage. Many arranged marriages work and some couples divorce. This is everywhere.

This is good

Marriage first then tortures for the Dowry …

This is not how majority of Indians get married parents do play an important role but bride and groom know each other quite well before getting married . They go on dates hang out together even as an Indian i cannot marry a unknown person just coz my parents want me to do so we are given complete liberty to choose who we wanna marry .

It’s not true that you’ll love a stranger if you get married to that person. In India parents teach and expect kids not to love. This continues after marriage.

This is not only in India, same in Bangladesh & Pakistan aswell.

First wedding then maybe they will love each other.

Only men are allowed to have sex outside of marriage? With who??? The double standards never make sense 😭

What's the divorce rate of the arranged marriage?

In india , there is called an updated version of forced marriage in replace of fully forced marriage:))

Theres no way I could marry a guy I was not in love with. Nope. And if he didnt love me I wouldnt like that either. Not one bit. Thats crazy. 😳

WT heck is she talking about re "young protestants"? That's one of the dumber things I've heard.

For me I prefer for a love Marriage, because arranged marriage seems like deprivation of my liberty to live a happy marriage...

It's wrongly said, bride and groom. Don't have any say in selection of their partner, mostly parents ask for their children opinion and given time to understand.

Lol....which age India are you depicting here...it completely depends on family to family or the people...some people like to get married in short rituals not do elaborate or have had relationships before...both man and woman....unless someone is extremely conservative....this is usually not the case.....this is generalization....divorce can happen between anyone...arranged or love....how about US....have heard people marry n then leave as easily as they got married....🤔

She doesn't belong to anyone but her man I get that's apart of the culture and u have to respect everyone's culture and believes but she or any woman for that matter isn't a object or slave it's sad knowing that your woman has to be a slave to your family and the husband should have his wife's back no matter

I love wocomo's new intro!

Delhi doesn't represent entire India. This documentary failed to capture larger pictures

The groom never opened up about the extent of his affairs before marriage. I wish them both the best!

I tried to watch this with open mind but i find it a little biased. They're portraying the story from west's narrative. Or this might be a really old documentary as things are changing thess days.

They go all out for the wedding. Have you ever seen the carvings of the apsaras (dancing girls) on Angkor Wat? Yeah, those girls. Oh, my, the things they are portrayed doing!

When I first heard about this, I thought it was the most ridiculous thing ever, how are you gonna marry without knowing that person? What if he’s a killer or something?

Why not. No guarantees in life anyway.

Well it's an *arrange* marriage not *forced* marriage

Affairs???

Why she keep calling home armpit 🤣

This is rich indian

This so typical western projection of Indian weddings😅. It’s not that the bride & groom has no say in wedding. Only if they agree then the wedding date is decided. Such a propoganda video.

I married a Hindu and he sure wasn't a virgin.....most of the men aren't when they marry. Only a few I knew who were good boys and obedient to their parents stayed virgins until their arranged marriages - and they never had time for affairs and girlfriends anyway as they worked long hours to help support their parents and contribute to the family finances. They never spent a single night away from home until their marriage. I knew some Hindu men who had secret girlfriends before their arranged marriages came up and they still secretly saw those girlfriends after their marriage....many had affairs and mistresses. One of my sister in laws husband abandoned her with a baby son to run off with a Muslim woman and he never came back. She got a divorce and her family arranged a marriage for her with a widowed cousin.

Lot of wrong info

I would never do an arranged marriage or have my parents pick for me. I know it’s their tradition. But I am glad we don’t do that in my culture. Good luck.

Blind arranged marriages are quite a large over now and people are opening more n more about their relationships.

Shri Dr.Sudhir Kakar said it very well and logically acceptable by any society which gives importance to morality!

I'm only here to read the comments on how Hindu Indians and the Western world truly feel about each other!. On all other channels when it comes to political covering they seem to be hugging and kissing one another and saying we stand with Western policy and we love Israel 🇮🇱 😍❤️💞. But different story here!.🤔

Thankful among Christians in kerala at least, the couple chooses the partner, no-one is forced to marry someone they don't choose themselves. My fiance is from kerala and we are having a "Love marriage" and everyone is fine with it, actually we aren't the first ones. His own parents married out of love, not arranged. It's slowly changing, at least amongst chrisitans.

If you are ok with open relationships ok with having multiple relationships in one time or ok with sleeping with strangers so called one night stand why not arrange marriage atleast groom and bride take responsibilty of each other its very easy to point fingers to others and not looking in to yourself

this is kind of bollywood wedding not true hindu wedding. hindu wedding is very simple with lots of rituals. in this wedding i see very few rituals. whatever the groom is saying is his personality .

That's why they flirt extremely...

People don't understand one thing, that is, it doesn't matter if people do love marriage or arrange marriage. If people are real to themselves, then love will eventually bloom between the two. In any relationship, both people have to make an effort, it doesn't matter where they get married and with whom they get married, be it white, brown, black and it doesn't matter whether we get married to any Indian, British, African, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Australian, American, Spanish, Italian, Arab, French, it doesn't matter at all . Just be real to yourself and don't take the burden of anything of being in a relationship or marriage. Life has ups and downs and just like that relationship and marriage is also like that, live every moment, face every ups and downs of life with courage and fearlessness. In the end, everything will be fine. All the best to everyone for their future. 🙏❤️👍

Ankita is taking a huge risk, good luck to her cause it's all about luck.

How can a man have sex outside marriage with a woman who also needs to eventually get married but also needs to be a virgin ??? This doesn’t add up

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