Imagine being so accomplished and helping so many people by age 25. What a remarkable young woman

I suddenly just remembered that it was actually a random girl at school that introduced me to the world of animated pornography back in 2004. I really need to pray for that girl.

Magdala has changed the course of my (broken) relationship to sexuality and addiction. Thanks be to God for Rachael and the whole team.

As far as secular voices speaking out about porn, Billie Elish has been pretty vocal about it. Not a big fan of her beliefs, but I'm quite happy she is taking a stand.

It's a terrible habit - easy to fall into and hard to break. The internet is everywhere

Candace Owens just responded to Matt and Prager’s dispute about porn! It was really cool to see her totally defend Matt and speak out about the danger of pornography

As a guy, it’s really great to see women speaking out against pornography from a place of experience, compassion, and recovery. For me personally, a real contributing factor to the shame of porn addiction is the false idea that porn is mostly a male struggle and that women all look down on men who fight this addiction. While that may be true of some women, I think that it’s too easy to project that onto all women because of the lack of discussion about the woman’s side of porn addiction. For that reason, I find so much peace and feel so seen when pornography is discussed from a woman’s perspective. Further, it helps me feel more desirable and helps crush the porn-created paradigm that I’m undesirable to women. I think over time the benefits of open discussion between the sexes about this sin will only continue to manifest themselves, and that excites me.

Recovering 34 year old porn addict here. Been clean almost a year now. I cant recommend covenant eyes enough, especially on an android phone, which works better with covenant eyes. In addition putting a passcode on the smart TV and not having a computer in the home. The most important step in recovery is telling the people who care about you, and asking them to help you. My wife has the passcode to the TV, and my mom is my covenant eyes accountability partner. I hope this comment helps someone, and I pray that the Lord sustain me, Lord Jesus Christ, son of God have mercy on me a sinner.

I love Matt’s perspective of having compassion on younger self. So easy to suppress younger trauma. Regular confession to pick up this cross is incredible. Christ’s mercy is real and heals us.

I love that Rachael actually takes a few seconds to answer some of the deeper "why" questions that she's asked. Doesnt just pop off with the first thing that comes to mind. She understands that truly knowing yourself is a continuous process.

There was a huge group of women who loved fifty shades of grey and they would talk about at church an work so yes women struggle with lust , prayer for all who struggle

Magdala has given me an amazing relationship with an accountability partner and a beautiful group to share with ❤

This interview breaks and mends my heart over and over. Porn really does cause so much damage and robs so many of hope

While one should not go into a marriage with a porn addiction, I think one reason these addictions are so prevalent is because modern society is extremely counter to human biology. Our ancestors generally married as teenagers, whereas us moderns grow up in an extremely pornographic society and are told to wait, wait, wait while our hormones rage. It’s a problem none of us can really address, but I think this issue of porn and masturbation addiction in the West won’t stop until society reorganizes around biology once again. Society is hostile to children and marriage. I hope my kids are lucky enough to find good Catholic spouses when they’re college-aged and minimally suffer the meat grinder experience of modern culture that works against the goals of channeling one’s sexuality properly.

So hard to quit . Thank you for this video.

She needs to get on Michael Knowles show.

Billie Eilish - singer , spoke against pornography and how it ruined her childhood.

While listening to this today, I stopped the recording and thanked God for saving me from this rabbit hole. Before I was too far into porn, I gave it up one Lenten season and never went back.

Listening to Rachael gives me so much joy because I don't feel alone in how I think and the kind of person I want to become. Thank you so having her on this podcast, Matt!

So many helpful sub topics were addressed here. Healing imagination spoke to me on an extremely personal level and I'm so thankful for that being addressed here. What I found the most healing for my imagination was reading Tolkien and writing my own short stories. I was so filled with wonder as a child and feel that time in highschool and college KILLED it. I'm still healing and college was awhile ago now, but seeing my little daughter so filled with wonder and interest just makes me want to wrap her in my arms and protect her from the world most days. Women do struggle and I'm so thankful there's a ministry for this. Because years ago I knew people who needed it and they didn't feel they had a safe place to go. I also wanted to say THANK YOU MATT for addressing how toxic influencers can be for young Mamas. Even these lovely Catholic moms have said things and shown things that have been harmful to me as a new mom. KZfaq is my only social media now and I may even ditch KZfaq. Because I do not want to encourage envy or insecurities in myself, ya know? To all the young moms out there, sending you love and support!!

I like the explanation of Till We Have Faces in relation to if prayer is enough. It delves into that prayer can be enough once we get to a point where we can be honest and present our true self to God. And it is through ministries like this that a person can get to a point where they can be truly vulnerable with God and be open to receiving that love and affirmation from Our Lord.

34:46 This hits hard. Listen twice and reflect on your online presence. I needed to.😞

Love, love. Love Rachael Killackey and Magdala Ministries!!! It has been such a blessing to my life!! 😊❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

It blows my mind that I've NEVER heard of Magdala ! I struggled with pornography addiction and that's how I came across Pints with Aquinas. Even though a lot of the help was geared more towards men I really was able to apply it to myself but man I often wondered how helpful it would be to have something for women because it is just not talked about at all but we are struggling with the same addictions. Praise God for your ministry, I pray that you'll continue to grow and reach more and more souls who are in dire need of this ministry, God bless!

Thank you Lord for Magdala Ministries and Rachael! My first small group meeting was this week ❤️

55:19 thank you so much I’ve started tracking my cycle a few months ago in relation to this sin, and I thought I was using it as an excuse but thanks for affirming that my intuition has some truth. It helped me understand where my compulsion comes from (since I’ve been trying my best to get rid of my triggers so I didn’t know what else to do). It’s not a quick fix, but for sure helpful. Thank you!

"Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes that reason is that you're an idiot" lol that's gold, I'm totally going to use that

I want to comment on the question "what can men do to support women who struggle with porn addiction?" because I feel like there were things left unsaid. I think men need to tell women how freaking beautiful they are, in a sincere and meaningful and completely chaste way, and I think our dear sisters probably crave that message and should hear it often. We certainly need to keep vigilant to avoid near occasions of sin, so it is certainly wise to avoid placing men and women in situations where they are likely to sin together, but I think we need to recognize that we ultimately really need each other and are configured for each other. I think we need chaste friendships with members of the opposite sex to fully actualize in sexual maturity and heal the damage done by porn and the pornified world. I am a man who struggled with porn for years, and very much am still yearning to fully heal from the wounds it left. After my first few months of sobriety, I was kind of overwhelmed by how distractingly beautiful I found women! My response to seeing their beauty was fear - fear that it would lead me into sin again. While I think that's an appropriate response for a time, we can't live life that way for long. Now I see a beautiful woman and I just thank God for creating her, allowing me to behold his lovely daughter, and say a quick prayer for her that she will persevere in chastity and glorify God with her life. These days I wish there were some forum where I could actually tell all the girls how beautiful I think they are, like in a co-ed church group for adults who have struggled with sexual sin. Is that crazy or dangerous? I'm a very happily married man and I wouldn't want to give the impression that I'm trying to have an affair or build up any kind of inappropriate relationship. My gut just tells me that we need to figure out how to do this if we want to heal. God bless all of you dear women who have struggled with porn, and I am sorry for all the hurt and pain you've experienced from the men in your lives who didn't tell you how beautiful you are when you needed to hear it! God love you and bless, my dear sweet sisters! Thank you, Rachel, for the great work you're doing! Glory to Jesus Christ, now and forever.

What a good show! Thank you 🤙👊

Love conversation! Thank you so much for sharing ❤

Thank you both for this wonderful conversation.

God bless Rachael! She is doing great work

Rachel you are wonderful. Praise be to God!

What a beautiful conversation. Thank u God for Magdala. And thank you God for Rachel. Magdala gave me a community of sisters who understand me and pray for me and are on this journey with me, together.

Thank you for this wonderful interview and the humility displayed here!. I just ordered the book to share it with my daughters! God is good!

Thank you for working on this, it’s very needed! And lovely conversation!

I came to the video version just to see if Thursday did the promo code well. You did good sir, well done.

Rachael came to my university to speak, and the perspective she gave was very insightful. Thank you both, Matt and Rachael, for spreading awareness to this issue.

Recent conversation between Michael Knowles and Joshua Broome about this was fantastic as well

27:15 as a man I am entirely guilty of this and it led me down to philosophical egoism for a long time.

I LOVED Rachel. I listened to both interviews and I can't even explain how validated I feel now in my feelings, thoughts and opinions because of many things you guys said. I was feeling like the only woman going through that stuff, the identity crisis, feeling less feminine, the confusing predominant narrative in the Church, the traumas, social media, influencers... I just felt you guys were my long-time friends. Before listening to the first interview with Rachel I felt so alone in my thoughts, my opinions on women and sexual sin, social media, feminity, sin and marriage, etc. Before hearing about Magdala (I haven't tried it yet), I would just keep thinking that something was completely wrong with me for struggling with something that was a "man struggle", now I know that, even with my sins and traumas, I'm not a phenomenon and that there's hope. God bless you guys, I seriously loved these interviews.

When Rachel mentioned how many women are on OnlyFans this quote came to my head: Spengler's Universal Law #9: A country isn't beaten until it sells its women, but it's damned when its women sell themselves.

Oh yay... she's coming back

Jerome Kodell, in his book Life Lessons From the Monastery, tells a story about a young man struggling with prayer and remembering scripture. "A monk gave him a wicker basket and told him to fill it with sand, place it outside the door and every day pour a bucket of water over it. The young man did so and dound that each time some of the sand would leak out of the basket. After months of this the basket was clean. He reported this to his spiritual father and the monk said, "my son, you are the basket. The sand is your sinfulness, your pride, your unhappiness. The water is the word of God. The basket doesn't remember the water that gradually cleansed it, neither do you remember every word of scripture you read. But if you continue to pour the water of God's word over your sinfulness, someday you to will be clean." Prayer may not be the quick fix we want. But each time we pray God makes us stronger and prepares us for our victory.

That promo code at the end, though... Excellent job, Thursday

Don't watch the young mom blogs... find the old moms find the 55 year old mama who has 10 kids and a good chunk or life under her belt.... you will feel so much better. It's like having a internet grandma. Their advice works.

The Angelic Warfare Confraternity is great for prayer in healing imagination, the senses and much more. A set of 15 short prayers said everyday. You also have masses said for you and prayers from other members to help.

Women Struggle With P*rn Too…2

Rachael you’re a gem 💎 blessings to you and your family Jeremiah 33:3

Finally, an amen

reading I Believe In Love right now

Not really any silver bullets as was said, but there are many bullets of different calibers, and they add up. Finding the best combination of bullets for each person is important. One of them, which I don't think is thought through enough, is really thinking about how to apply Jesus' firm advice in Mt 5:27-30 to this problem. Scrutinizing weaknesses, triggers, occasions (including use of social media), contexts, and practical means of putting oneself in the best position to resist and push through. And Rachael touches on this in her new book. I'm glad she has a section on learning one's triggers, including how the phone can be an occasion for sin. So many people treat their phones today like an extension of their hand. Mt 5:27-30 may be applied here; it may be time to cut it off.

This is just a small comment that I think is worth making - a lot of Catholic speakers emphasize every person's brokenness to the point of mortal sinfulness, but Our Lord has graced certain people, a very few people, with perfect continence with regard to mortal sin of any sort as a witness to His great mercy and power. These people may be few and far between, but to make sweeping statements like "we are all sexually broken" or "no one enters their vocation with perfect chastity" is factually not true and tends to minimize the incredible panoply of the tapestry God weaves through His grace. I am so grateful for the examples of St. Therese or St. Dominic Savio, who were both preserved in this way. The intimacy of Mary Magdalene with Our Lord was very different than the intimacy of the sinless John the Baptist, but He called them both to that intimacy and witness for different purposes.

My favorite part of the interview was Rachel’s reaction to Matt giving her his copy of Mysteries of Christianity. She was more excited than Belle from Beauty and the Beast when she got a whole library 😂

Matt's pretty good at talking to everybody. Whether they're in their 20s or 80s. Lets get a teen in there haha

In my work as a couple's counselor, I often talk about the impacts or porn and other erotica on women's sexual expression and marriages. One facet of how porn damages that was not ttouched on deeply is the ways that porn warps women's expectations if their own anatomy and physiology. This can damage the man the woman and the marriage e rven years after the porn use has stopped.

How sweet are you💞😇🕊💞

Based.

Amen

KZfaq is the only type of social media I follow, and it’s been curbed to religious content, nourishing or calm music, and a few political channels that present matters objectively and without riling me up to much. And random content, such as a goldfish breeder right now 😅 still trying to figure that one out as I don’t even have any fish lol. From what I can tell, SM like Twitter and Instagram really are toxic for people. I’ve seen my political channels get banned from their SM for “wrong think,” and they ironically ended up with much better content and have healthier attitudes about life. One of them said going into Twitter was “like constantly fighting” and thanks the ban for helping him get back into philosophy, focus on his family, and steer his course to starting up a more lucrative news business. As to the actual topic, I didn’t even realize I was going down the porn path until it just hit me one day. I’ve never been into romance novels or anything, as my tomboyish mindset was more geared to action and fantasy. However, I do link my initial porn intro due to certain types of anime and fanfiction. Off the bat, I don’t see a problem with anime in general as it’s entertainment like anything the US or Europe can come up with. There’s good and wholesome stuff out there, and then there’s the dark corners people know and joke about but then get offended when it’s rightfully called out to the mainstream. The cultural differences between the US and Japan means there are some things either side can find ‘offensive’ or ‘prudish.’ This lead to me watching certain tropes, interactions, and scenarios that “intrigued” me. I made my way to fan made stories because I loved reading and writing growing up, and it was fun reading different interpretations of scenes, exploring “what ifs,” and sometimes correcting problems from the show/movie. Long story short, I ended up reading stories with more “fluff” content and it escalated to actively seeking the ‘not safe for work (NSFW)’ stuff. It got to a point where I could barely watch shows without thinking “yep, there’s definitely some Rule 34 online” or “I bet someone has already made soft porn of this.” It definitely affected my mood, the way I watched entertainment, and led me to searching up phrases and words I never would have searched on my own 🫣😳 Fortunately, I found myself falling deeper into my faith and was able to stop myself pretty cold turkey. I still watch some anime, but am very picky on the type and genre and filter out any stories that could trigger me. A very unfortunate fact, though, is that modern cartoons and animation are actually a hotbed for introducing such themes to people. Unless it’s clearly labeled ‘adult’ or ‘for mature audiences only,’ most people especially parents don’t vet what their children watch as well as they should. And with kids being more online these days, they’ll look up stuff related to their favorite shows and movies, discover the decent and degenerate options, and start down the porn path. It’s something I’m on the look out for, and is why I still write and publish my own fan works. Partially because it gives me a chance to explore my favorite entertainment, and to provide more wholesome content for people like my younger self. Currently working on a few projects with a focus on action and “filing in the blanks” for one of my childhood shows. Almost a quarter of what I see story-wise is soft porn among some of the main characters, who are freakin MINORS in the show. Another thing to watch out for in regards to animation now a days, the weird obsession with LGBT+ representation and blatant sexual fetishism for under aged characters 🤢🤢

See, I disagree on one thing; the deliverance ministries in my archdiocese are run by all women charimatics, which makes it difficult to discuss things from a man's life. I never felt comfortable with them. Yet, the meeting with a monastic community changed my life.

It's hard to hold people accountable If you do not know their name

Would love to know what's the fat red book Matt gifted Rachel during the talk 😅, unable to catch the name

Matt what book did you give her? Would like to look into it. Thanks

Read “psalms 51” 13x times. It will help you and also for conversion of others. A priest with charism told me this, it was revealed by the Holy Spirit to him.

By God’s grace, we show up in Christ

Its actually really surprising to me to think that women can have the same issue. I think men have a huge disadvantage against porn in the sense that its much more alluring but I think men also have a big advantage against it because its MUCH less taboo to admit that your watching porn. Men also dont care about their social image nearly as much as women do. Porn is quite the drug.

Hit the like button...as I usually forget.

32:21 Brett Cooper is Mentioned

Sorry Matt, men absolutely do have a hormone cycle. As a guy I definitely did that in my own recovery. Where I was able to anticipate the temptations.

Depends on the influencer of course, I feel like the ones that get deeper into theology are the best, but I recently had an experience where this Catholic influencer that just connects random thoughts to the faith etc and talks about kindness and all that stuff, basically treated me like and old rag after we’ve had several conversations about a myriad of things for I think over a year, and it’s so easy for them to hide behind the block button. Honestly terrible stuff, really makes you wonder which are actually Catholic.

Thank you for the message. The problem with this interview is how it is conducted for people who have not watched the first part of the discussion. I do wish that she shared her story for people who have not seen the first part. The majority of the interview was not about pron and the struggle, which is a huge miss.

There is a HUNGER from young women to have a woman show them how to be a wife and mother and live biblical marriage. There are people who do that type of content badly. And there are many who don't and who have helped young women. (Titus 2:3-5) If a woman showing their clean home is triggering then it's perhaps something to have some self reflection about. If we are only speaking about "inFLuEnCeRs", then fine. But I can assure you, the constant comments from feminists definitely can sour feminine content creators from wanting criticism from a stranger. When I have people in my comments saying being a homemaker is dragging down the whole of women, or that I'm creating helpless toxic sons, or dooming my daughter to SLAVERY....yeah, I stick to my own spiritual director and people who know me. Content about how to navigate motherhood and homemaking isn't inherently preaching and narcissistic.

Food for thought, did Adam love did eve love, Adam

Thank you,GOD and the Virgin Mary bless you all 🙏

Question for the gals in the comments willing to open up about this addiction. Is it significantly different for women in terms of psychology to guys? Like are we both dealing with the same issue, or do men and women suffer different aspects of porn addiction. For me it was an emotional crutch to blot out loneliness and the physical stimulation obviously. Not sure if it’s a similar slippery slope to fall down starting from emotional distress combined with physical pleasure and it starts. Also we all know based on Dr. Peterson’s analysis, men are very visual based and women have a mental base like romance novels being the main female porn fantasy while men it’s more like a control power fantasy. Just my thought and would like to hear how y’all perspective could shine light on this pit.

Thank God there is a ChristGodHolySpirit

Slayer of lackeys

The first step is in Christ

Please make that T-shirt.

Just didn’t hear here get into the nitty gritty. More chit chat than anything

You have not even mentioned how the Holy Spirit works in us in faith

Why do you not ask if it’s Christ using your frail files or Satan. For example, if someone leaves their mic off, is it Christ or Satan?

So, where is Christ! In the introduction to Self.

1:50:12 😳

All things are possible in Christ . Unless you’re letting Satan use your frail files!

Hopefully the talk is in Christ

It’s only by the grace of God, that your organizations in this world exist. So that we can see Christ and thusly GodChristHolySpirit it would be better if your obsession was with and in Christ

As someone who has no problem with porn, I rarely consume it. Perhaps because there's no temptation? It not being a "forbidden fruit" to me? I read a statistic- I believe in Pornhub's annual statistics report- that Utah of all places had the highest porn consumption rate per capita out of any state. Conservative, religious, Christian Utah. Go figure, right?

Are you willing to intervene in Christ.

Fear is not of God

Here's how to stop. Write the girl a letter. Done. End of story. If you know they know, you stop.

I think what would put a lot of women off is? You blame a mystical figure called Satan for their addiction, and act & sound using references to God as almost above those your trying to help.

Is it Christ who does not use your free will or Satan, using your frail files!

I don’t struggle with porn but I think woman struggle finding a real male leader role/ relationship. Hence why woman loved fifty shades of grey and Dom/submissive books. I think they want traditional male & female roles so they get it from porn because they don’t have it? Idk ladies tell me if this is true?

Their comments on social media and being a new mom ring SO true. I had my first last July and it took all of three days to realize how much even the greatest Catholic moms on Instagram made me resent and hate myself during the most joyful and glorious period of my life. Never ever going back. Choosing to trust in our Lord and leaning into Mothers intuition has been so fruitful for me. 🤍

Hopefully the kick in the pants is from Christ not just self!

No one sees God unless they see Christ

Wish her the best, however, her use of language and her unadulterated reliance on the language of the therapeutic is unappealing and problematical in the end.

There's a God? That's wonderful news. You must tell me how you found this out.