WARNING: I will never ask for your contact info in the comments section, that is someone impersonating me!

Issue is some ppl lie about who they are. I dealt with that myself. I asked all the questions and unfortunately, he lied about everything just to get me to be in a relationship with him.

This young woman is simply beautiful her eyes, teeth, smile, make up is simple clean, soft and feminine and refreshing to look at .. she is speaking about the headship arrangements in the Bible the problem is people have stopped reading the scriptures and deciding what is best for themselves with out the wisdom from our creator.. who has clearly given us the tools we need to have a successful relationship while they are marrie

I LOVE Stephanie! She’s an amazing woman of GOD! Her way of teaching is very practical and authentic! I’m so happy more woman are being exposed to her through your platform!❤

The "bait and switch" in some dating situations feels like gaslighting. You need time to get to really get to know someone (not be head over heels with endorphins, getting your judgement clouded by S3x as the be all, end all). The Bait and Switch is when someone presents themself as exactly who you want in the beginning of dating (like Kind, Caring, Considerate), so you become smitten, agree to start seeing them - then they stop being those things, NO LONGER Kind, Caring and Considerate (they become passive aggressive, talk down to you like you are stupid or beneath them, insult the things that bring you joy, put down your career aspirations and life dreams as stupid or a waste of time, etc) You feel unloved, you wonder why they went out of their way to woo you, when clearly they have NO RESPECT for you. They may be jealous of you, deep down fearing you are better than they are and have to take you down a notch to feel superior. This is NOT the person you became smitten for! They LIED about who they are!!! This is why you have to PLATONICALLY (non s3xual) hang out with someone, get to know them - maybe they will take down their guard and show this dark stuff someday so you can say no to dating - not jump into bed then feel extremely confused.

My grandmother used to tell me to “play” the damsel in distress sometimes, it’s ok to feel and be vulnerable… Also “ soft check” over time, his lineage, background, credit (money habits) NOW HIS MEDICAL BACKGROUND….. This is good! Watch a man’s love language! That’s good….. yes a lot of women CONFUSE SEX WITH LOVE… becareful yall listen to his words and how he moves!

Stephanie is so anointed. Thank you Lisa for having her✨

"NO ONE RISES...ABOVE THEIR THOUGHT LIFE." I STAND IN FULL AGREEMENT...💯💯💯!!!

Tim and I operated so beautifully together. It was like we were together in a past life. It was truly a spiritual connection from the moment we laid eyes on each other. No secrets, No lies just pure love, kindness, trust, understanding and respect. I miss you Tim 3/4/23. Thank you so much for this video.

Even Jesus said..... let your Yes be yes, and your No be no. He did not promote " hints". Communication is so, so important and Doable! NOBODY can read a Mind, nobody!

She is really brilliant. I’m getting so much out of this. She’s talking about things I never thought about never read about or never was apparent to me.

Exactly! I called off my engagement 2 years ago. My ex did not take the lead. and I hated a man didn't know what to do in a serious relationship. He missed a lot from his father growing up. He had a father in his life and his mother. He was selfish and future faked our long-term relationship. Great video!💯🙏

I love the guests you choose to have on this show. Many times I identify with an important thing they say. When she spoke about not being able to be vulnerable because of her need to take care of herself- this really spoke to my experience in life. I have seen this in myself, my struggle to accept love because of my fear that I must be the one to take care of me. It wasn’t until I was almost 30 years old that I realized this was something that was blocking love from fully being expressed in my life.

I love listening to Stephanie Ike. ❤so much wisdom. Thank you, Lord, for this wisdom you have given her. 🙏

A woman needs to trust the husband’s leadership skills prior to submit. A good leader in a couple must be trusted, honest, compassionate, respectful and should show some vulnerability.

Leadership also mean responsibility

16:38 is so powerful because I'm the kind of person who wouldn't get married if I didn't align with someone's core values... so when things like deaths and disappointments happen that make my partner unhappy, cold, or distant for a season, the first thing I'm going to think is how can I lean in more to fill in the gap. I already know it's the environment that's making them act like this, not their true core, so it's not a permission slip for me to abandon them or my commitment.

It amazes me how many women don't use their intuition when choosing a mate. It is 100% accurate 100% of the time.

A strong woman is not a loud, aggressive woman but rather a woman who is feminine, gracious and holds her fort with class.

Not all men are protectors or leaders obviously

Amen am a witness however I used to self sabotage,beating myself self up until I had a awakening! Nolonger am I a prisoner of my past but a prisoner of hope ..I officially devorced my past embracing my future of his good plan because am committed to creating new memories an sharing that no matter how many failures, mistakes doesn't mean you are a failure!! The devil is liar!! 💜🙏

You can ask questions, and people will lie. People change their minds depending on the seasons. How you feel when you're broke or broken is not the same as when you have plenty of cash and feel joy. How you feel in the winter is not the same as how you feel in the summer.

"There is strength in vulnerability"

Thank you Lisa (and other co-hosts) for all your time and devotion in helping others. You are appreciated. 🦋🤟

I'm SO glad you had a Christian on, Lisa. A lot of great guests, but this was is very much needed.

One of my favourite guests ever. LOVE her. Such an insightful and thought provoking heart centered discussion thank you

Lisa ~ Sadly, my husband had the exact same experience about ''opening doors'' ... He 'used to' hold the door open for women at the Post office. [this was done for women of ALL ages btw] 1 women [in her 40's] literally said '' I'm not interested in you & rolled her eyes'' & didn't say thank-you the 2nd women [in her 30's] said trust me - I'm strong enough to open my own door, stared at him & also didn't say Thank-you & the 3rd woman [in her late 70's/early 80's] yelled at him angrily & said just b/c I'm old, I don't need help from you or anyone ! & also, didn't even say Thank-you : ( Sooooooooooo Sad, it's Pathetic !!!! Now ... Funny enough - [some of] these''' type'''' of women are the exact same women i hear - who are *always* saying .... There are NO Good Men out there anymore, poor me, blah blah blah etc!!! smh In conclusion, my husbands ''had it'' / [fed up] w/ all these women's '''issues'' & no longer 'opens doors anymore' : ( ... so, Men feel guarded now to hold open doors etc, just don't do it anymore [I can't say I blame them] & women feel - not treated nicely etc / saying - no good men around = the ''perfect storm'' / vicious circle situation ... sad : ( !

So many takeaways from this video. I have to watch it again and take notes. The part I seemed to need to hear the most was when she reminded me that your true shine comes within.❤

I do believe that SUBMISDION and LEADERSHIP go together. Leadership requires the person or persons must agree(submit) that leadership is required and their support is necessary. The Leader must be very truthful, humble and compassionate! Submission is a process!

for any institution to work there must be a clear order of leadership; thats powerful

I like the way Lisa bobs her head when she's really vibing with what's being said! ❤😊

Love this anointed woman of God, Pastor Stephanie. Great interview👏🏽👏🏽

This woman pours into you, when she speaks, you just want to listen. Lisa is very talkative (in a good way) and she had the same effect on her. I love you Stephanie. Thank you for your submission to the holy spirit. I was drawn to you with the message "Dreams & interpretation" because at the time, God knew I needed him to speak to me and I'm eternally grateful he used someone who he could speak through in his calm and gentle nature ❤

WE ADORE STEPHANIE!!! Thank you for having her as a guest, I LOVE this conversation 👏🏽🫶🏽

Not only about going head to head but the other spectrum where a man refuses to lead and makes you choose all the decisions.

Pastor Stephanie is soo wise 🥹 Thank you Lisa for this interview ❤❤.

I was raised by a narc father and grew up with brothers. I adored my brothers. A horrible 3years marriage in my twenties. I went celibate 20 some years. But I had a wonderful male friend 21 years till his death. I refused to marry agin. He was a wonderful cook and we could sit for hours talking. I agree respect of each other is number one. But I am so non conventional. I still found your video very interesting. Btw you are so adorable Lisa I have watched your videos with Dr Ramani.

When a man really wants to look after his woman, I believe I would be more than happy to follow his decisions and I am the one who would nourish our child. Unfortunately that didn't happen because he is a horrible narcissist so things became upside down.

I've fell into the trap of thinking love was a chemical connection, and I really got burnt. But im grateful for the lessons learnt because now I know. I love how Ps Stephanie says wisdom is the application of knowledge. It just reminds me that everyday is a school day, there's always an opportunity to gain knowledge, to learn or unlearn things. Even in painful situations. I'm inspired by the wisdom you both embody in this conversation ladies❤

I heartfully believe that Communication with Humility will go a long, long way in solving many difficulties.

Steph Steph Steph 😮‍💨👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽, I’m definitely gonna watch this again!

I just burst into tears when you said what if he is taken away because my dad left us when I was soo young I didn't know it affected me so my so that I constantly have this fear of men leaving my life soo I self sabotage

When it come to submission i have always had a but to protect myself… I’m totally in agreement with what Ps Stephanie is saying, allowing myself to fully open up and strip away my protective garment, but now there is always being this advice that people say you can not tell your spouse how physically or mentally abuse your parent or someone close to you put you through… because they will do the same thinking that you have been through it once and who is going to protect you, if you parents did from the start…. How do one deal with that, because it also causes dishonesty between partners.

The man is the leader but the woman is the teacher.

Stephanie !! The wisdom, the laughter, the perfect skin... thank you for this discussion 🌸

This is sooo rich! Thank you. Pastor Stephanie

The part about Jealousy was so inspiring and accurate 👌🏾!

I see culture shifted our mindset but watch this open minded then you'll understand how powerful this conversation between this 2 is and how they head it straight up

THIS IS WHAT YOU HAVE STEPHANIE ON FOR!?!? i love it!! oh my goodness

So true when she said, " When we get angry and we allow the moment to bring narrative, that's a lie" usually my mind starts to assume and goes to who knows where😅😢

👏👏👏👏👏👏 OMG well said ! Mark twin said courage is not an absence of fear is acting inspite of it ! If you never faced yourself and your problems from childhood you will complete fighting it through people and society and will blame everyone else of the way of your dark side and manipulation

I love you Pastor Stephanie, I can see God in you. You are such amazing gifted and spirit filled woman of God❤🙌🙏

I love my sister Stephanie, she is just real. Very excited about the book . Pre ordered

The part where she said trauma is what can make women react negatively to things like opening the door, I can understand that. This is probably why in a previous relationship I struggled with letting him lead and it made me feel uncomfortable. I grew up in a house hold where my parents relationship was very toxic and my mom had to be the provider because my dad was an addict and my mom had to constantly fight him for money for the bills. On the other hand I think it was also hard because my ex was not a kind person. What I’ve learned from that relationship is that you can’t be a good leader in the relationship if there is no kindness and willingness to compromise.

This is really a beautiful discussion. I like how she thinks and views things. Very helpful and enlightening!

I love Stephanie Ike, she is an absolute God send in every way. Great conversation and so helpful, if every human listened to this there would be so much less pain in relationships.

There's so so much wisdom in this video. God bless you both❤

Olive Leaf Extract tonic will cure kennel cough. A splash on their food. Organic turmeric powder is also good. Bring your dogs inside when the weather is cold or stormy. Give them cosy comfortable beds.

I love Stephanie ike okafor! Thank you for this episode

So happy to see Pastor Steph!!

Wow... So well and wisely said!!! Thanks for this wonderful conversation. Women need to hear this when choosing their man .... and man should listen this to understand their role better!!!! Even as strong women we wont to let our men lead... but we need wise and responsible leadership. And this is sooooo much missing in this time.

Boundaries yes!!! We all can fall victim to our lesser self.. thank you for that!

I asked the questions, he lied but I take full accountability bc after I asked the questions, I was supposed to wait him out. It's hard to turn off the faucet of wanting to be loved when you were sexually and emotionally abused as a child. I have to surprise desires that were introduced to me against my will. But I'm expected to stay classy and put in the work to discern the wolves. Sadly, None of my culprits were held accountable, EVER. But I have to stay accountable and not think of love but wait for God in his timing. How much more can one heart take💔

1. Records are for evidence what are you keeping evidence of?👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽.

The man as the complete leader doesn't resonate with me. I prefer to think about it as I lead in certain areas and him in others. We both bring different skills to the table and the one with the most experience should lead in that area, while respectfully taking into account the partner's opinions and preferences.

I always say THANK YOU when guys open the door!

lol the fact my cheating ex didn’t want me to keep record of his cheating yet he kept doing it😂

This video started off soooo damn strong. Wow. Super empowering.

This is the only relationship video necessary. Whew, I truly love and take in what Stephanie had to say. What a human and light!

No one rises above their thought life How you think is how you live Dang

No no...when I go to bed after shower lotion, perfume and download what is on my mind to paper. Still showing some love to myself ❤

When a man feels respected he will activate being the protector, but if he feel like he has to go toe to toe with you, you becomes each other's roommate. Facts and more facts. Jewels ❤ 💎 🔸️ 🔶️ 🔹️

Awesome ! So glad she did this podcast. Women need more encouragement. We are wise builders✝️💞🙏🏾

This was such a REFRESHING conversation!

My goodness, what an amazing, insightful & real conversation! A timely one too. I really learnt a lot. And plenty of my own questions answered. Thank you Pastor Stephanie and Lisa 🙏🏽 much appreciated. Blessings from South Africa 🇿🇦

This is humbling and brings a sense of understanding❤

Thank you Pastor Stephanie ❤❤

Stephanie is God-sent.

wow, what a powerful conversation. the fire ideology makes so much meaning. thank you for sharing.

This is excellent Thank you so much for your wisdom

2:37 excatly! Whether it's buying a vehic, a home, being faithful and loyal!

Great podcast ! Stephanie always brings the 🔥

I would love the names of people clearly showing in the title. Thank you ❤

There is so much strength in submission

There is a lesser version of you. That’s why you have boundaries. Wow Pst Steph! Always so wise. ❤

Thank you so much for sharing with us! we appreciate may God bless you 🙏

It's soooo much wisdom in this episode and I love the authenticity from you both!!!

This was so wholesome, great advise & wisdom ❤Thank you ladies.

Fantastic conversation, thank you Ladies ❤❤❤

Leaders serve. Negotiating skills are key. Not I give him what he wants cause hes male. Heads consult his team

It's good. I'm already liking her and I'm only a few seconds in to watching the video but the guest she has on today. She's good. I'm liking her

Awesome interview! It was very informative thanks for sharing.

No one rises above their thought life!!!!!!🔥🔥🔥

Pastor Stephen Ike Okafor if you ever have the time to read the comments on this channel, I want you to know that this conversation saved an African Christian lady. Thank you for the depth of wisdom and addressing things that I desperately needed answers to. And the Lisa Bilyeu I am your biggest fan and follower ❤

Jealousy and Envy are not synonymous - They are very different

This only works when people have learned to deal with reality and be sincere and willing to be honest about who they are and where they are at. But a lot of people don't even know who they are. They live out who they think they are but are far from being realistic.

0:44 eventuality its gonna break, if its self-focus pertaining to one of the parties in a "relationship"! 😱

There are some things one partner will be qualified to lead in and there are some things the other partner will be qualifed to lead in depending on their strengths and weaknesses.

Pastor Stephanie is so beautiful.❤️

As a guy who's never dated and only talks to women platonicly I've learned that most women are traumatized from their previous relationships so I will never date or marry and just keep it platonic which feels great because that means I won't be adding unnecessary stress to a woman's life and they won't be adding stress to mine, especially since alot of guys out here are already messed up from the trauma they've endoured which is traumatizing women so if you ask me the dating market is just a cycle of people trauma bonding.