This is such a personal decision. And it’s yours alone. I pray for you two to have success in whatever you choose! ❤

My wife and I met in 2002, and got married in 2004. We never purposely tried to have a child, but we didn’t not try, if that makes sense. Finally, in 2011, my wife got pregnant. About 5 months into her pregnancy, we lost our child. It was devastating. We were both in a dark place and struggled to cope for a brief period. After finding out that my wife has severe endometriosis, and she cannot conceive, we understood and came to the realization that we would never have children. After going through all of that, we became so much stronger. We don’t have any regrets. Adoption wasn’t on the table. We both knew if we couldn’t have our own child then so be it. Ultimately, the decision is yours alone, and nobody should have any input but you both. Just remember that together you are strong and sometimes, things might not work out how you envisioned. Wish you both nothing but the best. Tutto il meglio!!

Don't know how many (if any) people have talked to you about, or if you've talked together about, being ok without having children at all. My husband and I didn't. We were very close, a loving beautiful relationship. Some people think 'family' means children but not so! Alan and I were a family and the happiest family we knew to boot. There are many things you can do if you don't have children. It too is a life more than worth living. I lost my husband and I am going on 72 (Italian from Naples by the way, and my husband was a British born Australian citizen) and it's ok we didn't have children. Never felt bereft not having them, we just lived a different life of moving back to Australia, then back to America and again! We traveled, we had a cat and a dog, we had a full life. Even if the 'worst' happens and no children are in the cards for you, it's not a tragedy. There is a different and fulfilling life still to be led.

Do whatever suits you. Everyone is full of useful and useless advice because we all want you to be happy, but your choices only need to make sense to the two of you and no one else ❤

Coming from someone who survived IVF and came out with a beautiful baby, I know this is a winding path. I’ve been there. I’m not going to tell you “to be patient” or “think of the glass half full,” but my only advice is to lean on each other. So many days I called my husband sobbing mid work day with “I can’t do this anymore,” so many days I just cried in his arms. Lean on each other. You will be parents one day and it will all be worth it, but you’re in the thick of it right now. Lean on each other!

Adoption is a beautiful choice

You’ll figure it out. You’ll be great parents. Your love for each other is beautiful. 💕

Thank you for being so transparent with your followers in such a personal decision. I am praying that life turns out as you have dreamed about.🙏💕

I am so cheered by your calm perseverance and long time plans. I really am sorry you have come up against these obstacles. You seem like a perfect couple to have children and love and care for them with patience and humour. I wish you, as always, all the best. D from London uk

Thank you for sharing your journey (I find it very helpful), but please don't ever feel like you owe us your story. It is such a personal journey, and if you ever prefer to keep some or all of the aspects private, please do so ❤

I hope you know how many of us are praying for you!! There are few couples who seem better equipped than you two. May your dreams come true very soon. 🙏💕🤗

You are such a special and loving couple in so many ways. Even during trying times you always maintain a sense of humor and positive attitude. I wish you all the best❤

Jessy, you are so strong! You are talking about all these difficulties and challenges and still finding strength to share them with a smile! Sending love and support your way 💪🏻💕

First of all, thank you for your transparency. While it's hard, I'm glad to see that so many more people are being open about their fertility struggles so people don't need to feel as alone on the journey. I don't have personal experience as I'm not yet in the process of trying to start a family, but a good friend from school opted for independent surrogacy back in 2017-18 and it was fascinating following the blog that she and the surrogate kept along the way. Recently she started doing surrogacy consulting for people interested in going the independent route but wanting some level of guidance. If you're curious to even just take a look at her website (and/or the blog mentioned earlier) and maybe ask a couple questions if anything comes to mind, I'd be happy to share it (preferably in a message rather than publicly).

Please people, don’t say just adopt! It’s the worst thing to say to someone in the trenches of IVF. It’s far more complicated just like surrogacy is too

You guys are amazing! I love how positive your outlook is, even within these trials.

From a woman perspective, can I just stress how brave Jess has been so far? Sharing your journey while you are actually going through it is extremely difficult and distressing! I only started talking about my infertility experience when I decided to get over it, took a different direction, and I got into a healthier mental state. It took me over 8 years of a quite solitary grieving, while people's comments kept hurting and punching me on the face. Well done both for addressing people's comments and suggestions, even the most appropriate ones. Thanks for openly talking about it, because there's so much people don't know or pretend not to know, there are so many misconceptions, social pressure and lack of empathy around us. And kudos to Alessio for being a supportive partner, this is not obvious! Whatever next step you decide to take (or can afford to take) in your infertility journey, it'll never, NEVER, be an easy one! Take good care of yourselves and, whatever direction your journey takes, you'll be happy again (and much stronger than you used to be)! x

Thank you both for the courage to share this journey, I wish you guys best of luck and pls know that it really helps us folks out immensely

You are wonderful people doing all you can and should do...take moments to relax/de-stress because this is a journey. So thankful you have each other. Because ❤ counts 😊 and you got this.

Exactly 26 years ago today I met my beautiful baby girl in China. She, and 3 years later my second baby, made my dreams come true. I hope you find a way to have your dreams come true.

You always have the best attitude and outlook, even when there are bumps in the road. I am sure this is hard, and hopefully the days ahead become easier and you have success with this process. Much love to you both! ♥️

You’re in my thoughts and prayers! Thank you for sharing your story. You’re helping so many couples to know they aren’t alone. I know the pain of trying to have a baby. Do what’s best for you and I’m so happy you’re staying positive!

You're both very strong and amazing for taking all these setbacks with so much grace! It took me 6 months and a miscarriage to get pregnant and even that felt so long and difficult. I applaud anyone who goes through any sort of infertility treatments!

This video reminded me of a story I heard of a woman not being able to carry a pregnancy to term and she did the egg retrieval but needed a surrogate; her mom ended up volunteering to be her surrogate . I pray no matter what happens that your dream of have kids will come true.

You guys are a super cute couple. Cute with how you are with each other, your fan base, and your whole attitude during what must be a difficult time. I started following months ago bc of your adorable shorts and travel vlogs, but I have stayed loyal bc of your willingness to share your honest experience. Much love!

I’m currently a surrogate. I used an agency to match me with intended parents. But there are match groups on FB where you can find a person to do an independent journey. But yes it’s expensive for the intended parents. I hope you’re able to move forward and carry for yourself!

Jessie you are 100% right. People's feelings should be validated and respected no matter how they differ from someone else's opinion and experiences. You both look like you would be wonderful and loving parents. It has been a tough journey for you both but you shouldn't loose faith. The best thing is that you clearly love and support each other and that's what's important.

You have such a lovely spirit between you. It sounds to me that you trust your medical team and are happy with your current working plan. I have not faced this challenge but I do live with a challenging situation as a carer for a young person. Sometimes things are so difficult and complex that it seems they will never work out and then sometimes, against the odds, and when you are not even expecting it, they do. With sincere best wishes and prayers. ❤

I love the message- “always up!” I’m rooting for you guys!

You are being so thoughtful about everything. You still have a lot of options to consider. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

Love watching you two. Praying for you and this journey but I love your mindset. I am the proud mama of 2 IVF girls so I know what the process is like and it’s a lot. I didn’t do it with an audience so I’m sure that makes it way harder. Keep on keeping on like you are and I’m sure your baby will be here before we know it. Sending you all the baby dust I can! ❤

You are doing fine. Your positive attitude and faith will get you through this. Just continue with the love and respect you have for one another. This is your life and your decisions to make. Most importantly take care of each other. You both need to stay healthy! ❤🙏🏻

Praying that you get the family of your dreams, whatever form that takes for you. Sending love and prayers to you both.

Do whatever is best for YOU. You're the only people who know what truly matters to you, what you're willing to do, and how long you're able to endure. Even family shouldn't really factor in your decisions unless they're offering surrogacy, should you opt to go that route. As for the Italian law regarding embryos: Bravo! If that had been in place here in the US, octomom wouldn't have been put through the ordeal she endured with her very unethical doctor. My heart goes out to you. Sending love, prayers, and healthy vibes your way.

I was a surrogate from friends and carried twins (in my contract there was a bonus for carrying twins too). You are correct, it is quite expensive in the US. It was quite a tiring experience. You guys do what works for you... I just hope it all comes together for you guys.

As a former infertility patient who after 12 years of trying was unable to get pregnant, I am so sorry you have to endure the negative and hurtful comments of viewers in addition to your stressful physical problems! You are so kind and thoughtful of others feelings, I wish people would give you the same grace. Sending love and prayers from Maryville TN

Everything will be ok this year! Prayers!!!!!!!

I thought of surrogacy for you when you spoke of your sister. I definitely would have done it for my sisters and they would have done it for me. I know it has high costs attached but you have so many that would give to this. ❤️God bless you both! Everything will work itself out. Keep your thoughts of success high and prayers are coming.

This is your journey and you both need to listen to your heart and what is best for the two of you. Lots of love for both of you ❤️🤗🙏

Love that you are so compassionate and empathetic with everyone and wanting all those suffering to feel seen and heard and validated! ❤

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending you all the good vibes ❤❤️‍🩹 🫂

Your journey is 💯 percent such an emotional and personal one. Whatever you decide, no matter what that is, may God bless it and give you peace and success in the next steps. Praying for you from Texas.

🙏❤️ Whatever you both decide is best for you. Such a long journey. Blessings to you both. So glad to see you feeling better Jessi, continued prayers 🙏🤗

The decisions are agonizing, but only you can decide how to proceed. I wish you strength and clear thinking.🌷Whatever you decide will be the right choice!

I love that you share your journey and information because it could be helpful to those watching. I wish you the best! 😊🐦

Despite your hardships you two are really blessed. You have a solid relationship & great attitude. It will work put - Dio vede è provede🎉

It’s really too bad it’s so expensive, in Canada you cannot charge to be a surrogate. It’s volunteer and expenses are covered of course but with socialized medicine it’s reasonable.

I love watching you two on KZfaq😊 Prayers from TN 💖💖💖

love you guys, and your positivity.

Wow i definitely did not realize you're 5years into this journey. God bless you both. Wow just wow❤

Alessio and Jessi I’m praying for you!! No matter what is decided in your situation, I pray that you find peace and comfort!! I pray that God guides your hearts & continues to bless you both!🙏🙏🙏🙏😍😍😍😍

You don’t need to. Be patient! This is me telling an Italian to be patient…

Surrogacy sounds like it would be a strain on your finances and mental energy with all of the complications surrounding the process. Italy’s laws sound like they are intended to protect babies by giving each embryo a chance at life (referencing that each embryo needs to be used before creating more) and to be connected with their mother rather than separated (as happens in surrogacy). Even though the babies are yours and their DNA reflects yours, when a baby is born, he or she is only familiar with the mother who carries him or her through nine months of pregnancy. To immediately take the baby away from the only person they know is to create an immediate insecurity in the child’s life. While surrogacy can sound like a convenient option for adults, it’s not in the best interest of your child. I can imagine the discouragement through years of waiting and will be praying for wisdom for your family. I know your positive attitudes will encourage many!

Sending love to both of you! I'm praying that one of the options will work for you! ❤❤❤

I had a friend who works in a major US corporation (not a tech company in California). She was very fortunate to have a company who is very committed about recruiting and retaining women in leadership positions. They paid the full cost of her surrogacy. Twice. One surrogacy costs $300K in US. Maybe you need to work for a company that can at least help subsidize family planning. Some companies also cover IVF treatments.

❤❤❤ I hope everything works out for you guys! This journey you guys are going through is going to help many people. That would be on take of that❤️❤️

Prayers to you both

I feel for you all...remember your life will still be meaningful and wonderful even if you can never have a child. Of course don't give up but remember you will still have a wonderful life

I ask the Angels that you two have a most benevolent outcome having your own children. Thank you❤❤❤❤❤

Prayers and good thoughts for you both as always. I struggling myself with infertility for the last 18 months. It’s a long journey. ❤

I had two embroys and the first one took. Wishing you two the absolute best

Hey Jessie and Alessio, Blessings and prayers for your journey.❤ Lately my prayers have been answered...so I hope my prayers for you...help you as well. 🙏🏻❤

Praying for y’all. So much on your plate … which way to go. ❤❤🙏🙏

Amen everyones feelings are valid. I will pray God gives you confidence in Him

I’m so sorry that this process is so hard to manage. I sincerely hope that this works for you. It’s hurts my heart when good people struggle for children ❤

You two are amazing

God Bless you both, hopefully you will blessed with what you want 🙏 ✝️🙏✝️🙏✝️

You two are amazing❤

You guys are awesome. 🙏 ❤

Well good for you guys to keep trying you have to do what’s best for you !! I understand having your own child of course that’s the first option but you’ll see when the time is right a child is a child and that’s all you want & adoption is also a wonderful option

God bless wherever this journey takes you guys. You deserve to be parents and i pray God blesses you with a baby❤❤❤

Prayers for you both

You could try to adopt as well,a baby,for sure you would find a kid who will love you,and who deserves your love as well

I'm praying for u two. Sending ❤

Y’all are married… whatever you guys decide IS what is right for your family.

I’m so sorry, I am praying that you will be able to carry your own babies, you and Allesio would make incredible parents. God Bless you ! ❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

What a tough road. Do you and hopefully all will go well for you!

There are pros and cons to surrogacy from an ethical standpoint. It is a dream to be a parent. I pray that the natural way works. A child of a surrogate talked about the emotional harm that it caused her and it can also cause emotional harm to the one who is having the baby. PLUS! I am not for y’all going to jail. As Italian Americans most likely with dual citizenship this is frightening to me!!! Edit: now if it were my sister or my mom who carried, I would be okay with that. That doesn’t feel as unethical and it would be less expensive.

Prayers from Sweden!

It's also illegal in Italy as they mentioned and Italian citizens residing abroad have had difficulty registering their surrogacy - born children (born abroad) as Italian citizens.

I can't wait for you to tell us your little one is on the way. Wishing you the very best.

I am blessed enough to have my two beautiful girls through adoption - my heart breaks for you guys, but families can be created in other ways. Hugs!

My only child was stillborn. It was heartbreaking> but it does happen. A full life can be had. Good luck. Love y’all.❤

Do whatever is best for you!

God bless you both

Wishing you all the best . It is great that you just taking it one step at a time and hope for the best. I thought about that surrogacy when I started to hear your stories but wow yes it a a lot of money ..only those big celebrities can afford to I guess pay for that and find the best person . Wish I was younger I would do that for you guys ❤ maybe a good option will come along.. you still have time.. yeah and hmm Italy is strict..but the US is all about the money..here I think many feel like a number . Keep positive like you are..❤

Please think about the child too, and read accounts from children of surrogacy. I think in this day and age of medical technology, it can be easy to lose sight of the fact that children are not (and should not be) commodities. Praying for you as you discern.

I don’t have advice, just encouraging words that you have a community that has fallen in love with you and we are here thinking, some praying and others just wishing the best for you. Just know that you are not alone.

You are an amazing couple and I hope you will have your baby one way or another.We also had tried to have a baby for many years and I had it naturally at the moment we do not expect at all. Let'sGod bless you with your little miracle

I hope you have more information soon as well. Praying for your miracle.

thank you lot for sharing. so sorry that so many people have audacity to ask and push for "new better options" it is your way and i for sure you are doing that best for you and your family. all the best luck!!!! waiting for a good news)))

From what I understand adoption is an easier process, at least that’s how it’s been for one of my friends. She fostered one child, and then adopted her. The same woman got pregnant again with the same father and now she has two little girls. She’s also by the way doing this by herself. you have to do what makes you happy. But, also know that there are other choices out there.❤❤❤❤

Off topic but Jessi looks like an angel.

I just found you guys, and I don’t know if you are living in Italy, or US. But I know I read that Surrogacy is illegal in Italy. But yeah, surrogacy is super pricy! I think you two are a wonderful couple, and I support your decision no matter what you guys choose to do. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.♥️

I'm sorry you two are dealing with this great difficulty. I have maybe left 1 or 2 comments in the past on your foodie adventures, but I want to tell you I consider those productions the very best of the genre.

I will pray for you both. Try to stay optimistic. Babies usually happen when you stop stressing. I hope your health gets better so you both can have your baby.

Please can you post an email address? I wanted to send this to you personally. But here goes... I'm 28 years old. Married with 3 children. I have never had an issue during pregnancy. I'm healthy. I have seen a doctor every 6 my whole life. My full medical history is available. I would be happy to be a surrogate for you. No cost. I want to do this because I know the joy and purpose a child can bring. I will sign whatever legal documents you want upfront. My pregnancies have been so easy that it hurs my heart to see others struggle. Please just know that there are people willing to help.

It’s an expensive process! Do what makes you both comfortable. It’s not our decision. We are here for support. 🥰✌️

We have looked into surrogacy. In California it would be $120,000 for someone through an agency. It’s expensive and not a slam dunk. We are saving for it. But it’s so great that you guys have embryos! So much struggle to get those, you got half the battle down!

Good 💡 Idea ..Wanting a Family 👪 ❤ is Beautiful