You Are The Creator of Your Emotions NOT a Victim of Them

You Are The Creator of Your Emotions NOT a Victim of Them | Wu Wei Wisdom

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Every emotional feeling you experience, YOU have created. Your emotions are not your enemy, they are a helpful inner-guide. You always have a choice to create positive feelings and emotions - we explain how. www.wuweiwisdom.com/
In EPISODE #33 of our Walk the Wu Wei series with ordained Taoist monk, therapist and meditation teacher, David James Lees, and life coach, Alexandra Lees, you’ll learn:
~ the origin of ALL your emotional feelings (both positive and negative)
~ why every emotion you experience is created by YOU
~ why emotional sensitivity is not a weakness, and how to understand and use your emotions as a force for good in your life
~ why ‘positive thinking’ is not always possible or desirable, and why some uncomfortable or painful emotions (such as grief or sadness) are both natural and appropriate
~ why blaming other people, external situations or past events for your emotional feelings will only disempower you and ‘block’ your flow
~ why avoiding or ‘masking’ any uncomfortable or painful emotions, by using drugs, alcohol, over-eating and other unhealthy lifestyle habits, will never work and are self-harming
~ helpful strategies and advice for taking full self-responsibility for your feelings and emotions, and how to use meditation as part of this process
~ practical tips for compassionately confronting, questioning and managing your thoughts and emotions so that you control them and they do not control you.
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David James Lees and Alexandra Lees share their inspirational Wu Wei Wisdom on the real-life challenges faced by their clients and community members in their Walk the Wu Wei series.
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@user-yw1tj6qt6m 4 ай бұрын

Congratulations on making the top 10!! You both are wonderful and I believe that I am so blessed and grateful for your love and support. Thank you ❤️

@WuWeiWisdom 4 ай бұрын

Hi @user-yw1tj6qt6m, thank you so much for your kind words and congratulations! We're deeply touched by your support and feel incredibly fortunate to have such a positive and encouraging community. Your belief in the power of love and support mirrors our own, and we're grateful to be a part of your journey. Remember, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is always here for you, offering a space to connect with like-minded individuals: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Together, we celebrate these milestones and continue to support each other in growth and understanding. Kind Regards, David

@jobadger8323 5 жыл бұрын

I put this into practice today. Yesterday evening I got a text from someone and I created a green light feeling. I responded to the text from the place of the green light feeling. I have heard nothing back in the last 12 hours. As a result I created red light feelings and they started up on a familiar carousel that I have had in place with this person in the past and I got on the carousel. I realised and stopped. I got pen and paper and did the golden thread work. I challenged everything I was thinking. I gained some insight into my thinking and how I have believed that others control my emotions. I changed that belief. I choose my emotions. I choose how and when to let them go. The red light feeling went. I got down further to a core belief that I realised was incorrect. I have changed that belief. Green lights came on. I freed myself. This has still taken me most of my day. With practice I believe it will become rapid. Is this correct? Why is it taking me so long? I am going to ask myself why. Thank you.

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Jo, well done! Like everything in life you will have to practice and be a kind and compassionate with yourself as you learn.

@kunzang5136 2 жыл бұрын

Jo, thank you for setting an example for us to follow.

@HeatherRuffniteowl 3 жыл бұрын

I love this so much! I had no idea! Thank you so much!

@jleach3413 3 жыл бұрын

Me too!!! Who knew? Happy growth to you! Xoxo 💪

@kunzang5136 2 жыл бұрын

It's our wrong ideas that hurt us. No ideas is good.

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

You're so welcome! Kind regards, David.

@anncarroll2204 Жыл бұрын

I’m not surprised you’re in the top 10.❤

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hello Ann, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. We appreicate your kind comments. Kind regards, David.

@nihli034 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much Alexandra and David! I discovered your KZfaq channel six months ago and I watch regularly. Your teaching has helped me to understand myself more and to work in the right direction. You have helped to bring clarity and simplicity into my life. Thank you guys so very much.

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Hi D. , thanks for your kind feedback and for supporting out channel - we really appreciate it. It's good to hear that it is helping you on your journey! If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom, answer supporter questions and broadcast live Q&A and video teachings - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

@dawnpham8394 2 жыл бұрын

This is so helpful. Thank you so much.

@sosororo4891 3 жыл бұрын

a very very very mind blowing concept. ..I really thankful for your help.

@JupGem 5 жыл бұрын

This is probably the best video I’ve watched of yours. You touched on many great points, with some tips that i’ll Put into practice immediately. The Wu Wei fb community is definitely one of the more positive, brighter spots on fb, and I’m grateful to be part of that. Thanks for all you do.

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your kind comments TJ - we're pleased that you loved this video as its topic is at the core of our teachings. It's wonderful to have you as a member of our Facebook Community too! A+D x

@joannatodd7978 2 жыл бұрын

Great question about waking up with red light feelings, thanks Alex!

@violacline3716 5 жыл бұрын

Your teachings are amazing and very clear! I am now 100% sure about taking responsibility for my thoughts and core beliefs.

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Viola Thanks for your kind feedback - we really appreciate your support! 🙂 If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

@jobadger8323 5 жыл бұрын

Watched the video again and it’s anazing how I learn new things each time as different bits of info pop up! So, I retrain my mind to observe and instead of saying..... I feel ......I now say.... I choose..I believe...I think..... and then I ask my mind why and by following the golden thread I give it positive alternatives to consider and adopt.

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, that's correct Jo! Glad you are continuing to uncover new learnings from the videos :-) x

@kunzang5136 2 жыл бұрын

Does the order matter? I think it's I believe, think, choose.

@k-lysbliss8875 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your comment. I have just deleted all the comments where I mention personal issues. Thank you for pointing this out.

@ekaeteekop5616 5 жыл бұрын

thank you. Thank you. Plenty of work to do. I think I have been expecting to happen what life expects me to do!

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Ekaete, you are most welcome, thanks for taking the time to watch and comment on our video. We are pleased to be part of your journey and if you have any questions on any of our KZfaq videos please comment below the video and we will try to answer them for you. Alex & David x

@miryamwhite1507 10 ай бұрын

I love you teachings. Thank you. I have a question. Do you have any youtubes on sleeping problems?

@WuWeiWisdom 10 ай бұрын

Hello Miryam, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. We have not got a video focusing on sleep problems, we will put it on the list. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.

@jobadger8323 5 жыл бұрын

I’ve just listened again to the video. It’s my corrupted core belief that I’m not good enough or lovable or worthy that is being set-off by this particular group gathering. Understood. Can you give me tips here as to how I can practically approach these corrupted core beliefs and transform them in a real sense into fully formed pisitive beliefs that at my core tell me of my goodness, lovability and worth please. Thank you.

@evian. 5 жыл бұрын

Jo Badger Hi Jo, I come from abused family, my mother was a monster, I thought she was mentally ill, my father abounded us . Im not going to to into details, everyone has a story. I suffered from not being good enough. My partner comes from a loving, a “ normal “ family, according to his words and he was worst than me. I have been very much interested in the subject of not being enough and I will tell you that it is universal! This funding allows me to distant myself from the concept, because it really is a concept. And it’s also so relevant. To put it simply, what’s good enough where you come from maybe not good enough in London. What’s good enough in London is not good enough in New York. It’s all relevant. To cure it, see it as a concept and know that most of people suffer from it. You may have a personal story to back it up your beliefs and know that other don’t have it haha haha it’s all mental 😂 all the best to you.

@kunzang5136 2 жыл бұрын

Part of this is our economic system. Society tells you we need more money, bigger house to provide for our family.

@spartaeus 6 жыл бұрын

How about people who are what many people call empaths or extremely empathetic. Personally I can feel energy coming from people. I can feel there mental attention. Which is very nice and up lifting most of the time. If I'm tuned into certain people I can feel them through the day. It's definitely a feeling and not an imaginary thing. There are no thoughts associated with it. I also get, seems like, only pure energy. My thoughts stop. I just feel. No thinking behind it. My breathing changes. I breathe into my stomach, continues for awhile, then stops. I'm not controlling it. Thinking tends to stop it. It's a blissful feeling. Yes it is a feeling. When thoughts start, the pleasant feeling disapates.

@WuWeiWisdom 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for comments on this teaching. I disagree with your definition of 'empathetic'. Empathy is to identify the feelings, thoughts or attitudes of others. You are describing a "supernatural" ability when you say you feel energy coming from people. If you did have the ability to feel energy coming from people you would then need futher supernatural powers to interpret those feelings and their energy correctly. So, what I believe you are describing is a belief: you believe that you have the ability to feel the energy coming from other people, if so, this is a supernatural gift and something you should share with the world. I wish you well in your future endeavours, thank you again for your interest in our videos. David

@spartaeus 6 жыл бұрын

Wu Wei Wisdom There's nothing supernatural about empathy or feeling other people's emotions. If you go into a room where there's a lot of tension or anger, you can feel it without a word being said. There's nothing supernatural about it. Everybody has it. Maybe some people have a better sense of it. The heart is not just something that pumps blood. There's scientific proof that it acts as another sense other than the commonly spoken about senses, taste, touch, smell, hearing, seeing. It can radiate feelings of love. And perceive strong feelings or subtle feelings depending on how developed that sense is. Taoism recognizes that we have chakras and energy. There's a reason that the expressions, thoughts have wings, emotions have wings. It's because as normal human beings we do perceive others feelings and thoughts. And they perceive ours. And we are affected by them. Although I'm sure it's possible to learn to block them, just like someone could purposely cause themselve to go blind or deaf. There's even a disorder where people don't have or have lost that ability. They call it npd. And I also realize that it's difficult for people with a rigid belief system to accept things they have been taught don't exist.

@WuWeiWisdom 6 жыл бұрын

The definition of empathy is not the ability to “feel” other people’s emotions. The example you use of going into a room with a lot of tension or anger is flawed. A better example would be: if you believe you have the ability to feel other people’s emotions, you should be able to walk blindfolded down a line of people and experience and define their individual emotions - sad, happy, depressed, fearful, etc. You say that you can do this, you, therefore, have supernatural powers. You also say that everybody can do it, I know that I couldn’t. I do believe as humans we are able to feel/sense Qi (Chi) energy and you can cultivate this ability. I do this as part of my professional diagnosis of clients but I would never say that I feel or diagnose their *emotions* using this ability - this would be false. Picking up another person’s energy is entirely different to feeling and diagnosing emotions. If a person does believe they can do this either there is a supernatural ability at work or the person is interpreting the sense of Qi/energy and choosing to put an emotional label on it but then this would be entirely guesswork and not based on fact/reality. Taoism does not use the term Chakras, this is a term usually used in Yoga and in India teachings. Taoism/TCM teachings use the concepts Tantian and Qi energy meridians. I have never heard the expression ‘that thoughts have wings’ and ‘emotions have wings’. Our teaching is you are the creator of your emotions not the victim of. Again, I thank you for your interest in our work and videos. I hope that I have answered all your questions. I do not believe I can add anything else to this thread. David

@marthaalexander4441 6 жыл бұрын

“Adversity reveals genius ...” -Horace

@WuWeiWisdom 6 жыл бұрын

Hi Martha, thanks for watching our video and taking the time to comment - that is a great quote. Adversity definitely can reveal positive qualities within us (often that we did not realise we had). It can also help you connect with the true 'Shen' spirit essence within you, which can often be overlooked or neglected in daily life :-) Alex & David x

@mildredmartinez8843 6 жыл бұрын

Excellent video. I'm catching up on your previous ones. You say the brain likes familiar things that's why we have to retrain it. These erroneous beliefs that we have been brought up with are difficult (at least for me) to erase. With your help I know more but still it seems difficult to yank them out. Does this mean that it will take a long time to correct these beliefs that produce these red light feelings? Thank you.

@WuWeiWisdom 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for your comments, I’m pleased that you are enjoying the videos. In answer to your specific question, NO it does not take a long time to correct these erroneous beliefs! There is a technique that we call the ‘following the Golden Thread‘ to find the root of the belief, which we call the ‘VOW’ then it is part of the Wu Wei Wisdom process to offer your inner child alternatives that they could consider as being a way to move forward. Then it is a matter of sitting with them until these become the familiar. Stay tuned we will be doing for videos of this subject and technique. Thank you again for your kind comments. David

@mildredmartinez8843 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting a comment. I also have difficulty yanking erroneous beliefs. It seems they have been glued to my brain. I'm not the only one. Thanks.

@AliAbidalkareem 6 жыл бұрын

Great video thanks for sharing. Can I ask what self help books you recommend that deal with healing the inner child?

@WuWeiWisdom 6 жыл бұрын

Hi Ali, thanks for your feedback! We guess you have already watched our short video teaching on the inner child? If not, this would be a good place to start: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/eLNgn9CXp9KpYnk.html ...There are no books that we can recommend that cover our unique approach to the inner child but we do have a MP3 teaching album on this topic which can be found here (it's Album 4: Oneness & The Inner Child): www.wuweiwisdom.com/shop/ We also have many discussions and answer questions on the inner child and all our other Wu Wei Wisdom teachings in our private (free) Facebook group and you would be welcome to join: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please also subscribe to our KZfaq channel as we plan to post our videos more regularly in 2018! Alex & David x

@AliAbidalkareem 6 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much. Yes I watched the video and its was helpful too. I hope you can post more videos in the future that deal specifically with the inner child healing. I hope you can also post videos that address the toxic shame. I think you are doing an amazing job and thank you very much again.

@spiritfilled5758 Ай бұрын

I lost my son 2 years ago in an auto accident. I'm still struggling with depression. There are several other issues or events that have accured since then, I've had a complete knee replacement I'm struggling with, im not able to maintain my required work hours so my income has greatly decreased, i just found out ive got to have a heart catheterization procdure, I'm so overwhelmed, LOTS of RED light emotions, not sure where or how to start the healing. If your able please HELP advise me how to begin to find peace and hope again

@WuWeiWisdom Ай бұрын

Hi, I'm deeply sorry to hear about the profound challenges and losses you've faced. It sounds like you're dealing with an immense amount of stress and grief, and it's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed. Starting the process of finding peace might seem daunting, but you're already making important strides by reaching out and expressing your feelings. One initial step could be focusing on small, manageable actions that can bring you moments of calm and rest each day. This might include gentle breathing exercises, spending time in nature, or engaging in activities that used to bring you joy, even if they feel different now. Remember, it's okay to start small and build from there. Connecting with others who understand what you're going through can also be incredibly supportive. Consider joining our Wu Wei Wisdom community, where you can share your journey and find encouragement from others who are navigating their own challenges: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Finally, it might be helpful to consult with a professional who can provide personalised guidance and support tailored to your needs. This can be a significant step towards resolving issues and finding a path forward. Please know that it's okay to seek help and take time for your recovery. You're not alone in this journey. Kind Regards, David

@spiritfilled5758 Ай бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you very much for your reply, and direction. I'm grateful for the support you provide for us who are seeking direction and support be blessed

@jobadger8323 5 жыл бұрын

I feel red light feelings at the thought of being in a particular group gathering and I’ve carried this round for many years on a carousel. I have followed the golden thread and my core belief is that I believe that they don’t love me. That belief affects my behaviour and I don’t enjoy life with these feelings. If I understand correctly, my red light feelings are a warning that I am off track. My belief is wrong and they do love me, although their behaviours towards me has me choosing to feel red light feelings. Is there some light to shed on this please David? Thank you.

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, you are correct in the role of the red-light feelings. They may or may not love you - only you have the evidence for this. The key issue I would meditate on why is it so important to you if they love you or not and why are you letting this affect your life.

@kunzang5136 2 жыл бұрын

Sorry to tell you the truth, most people cannot truly love another person. The closest we get is good parental love. We just have to love, starting with accepting, ourselves.

@jobadger8323 5 жыл бұрын

I have a question too please. I have only just started to give myself permission to acknowledge past hurt and choose to let it go. Is this work now about me, having taken emotional control, continuing to go into what for me have been emotive situations and with folk that I have created strong red light feelings around and then managing my emotional response? Alternatively is it about saying...........enough. I don’t want to put myself in these situations with these folk again. Is it about saying I have gained control over my emotions and I now choose not to go back around those folk in those scenarios because I simply choose not to?

@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Hi Jo, the choice is yours... if you are still choosing to create red-light feelings I would want to know why? But, this is a personal choice of self-development and growth.

@AnnaPrzebudzona 4 жыл бұрын

Ok, Im going to try and prove to you that I can't cope. I can't support myself financially. I can't find a job that I could do and I've lowered my expectations/standards almost to the bottom. So, that is me - waking every day in cold sweat thinking that I can't cope and I'll end up homeless. I thought that self-/-love was the most important thing I need but how can I practise self-love if I can't support myself on the most basic level - the level of material survival. The evidence that I can't cope is undeniable and I can't just start saying - ”oh, I can cope” until I prove that I can. I'm not doing my best searching for a job, I know that. It's a really dreadful activity - putting myself up for sale and seeing how little value I have because I don't have any great qualifications. That actually confirms another painful truth - that in the eyes of society I'm quite worthless. I can't go to a job interview and say - how dare you offer me so little for the most precious thing I have - my time. I value myself and I believe I have just as much worth as all other human beings but economy and job market have a very different view on that - I'm only worth as much as someone is willing to pay for my work. Yes, I know, it's not the spiritual worth you might be taking about but I'm not just a spirit floating around. I have this freaking human experience and I don't know how to deal with it. I'll appreciate if you reply to my provocative and desperate comment.

@WuWeiWisdom 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Anna, Thanks for your proof that "you can't cope." As you will appreciate it would be inappropriate for me to comment on personal issues without full knowledge, history and background. Therefore I can only comment in general terms. My understanding is that your evidence is that you cannot financially support yourself? If that is true, this is where you start the Golden Thread Process: "why can't you financially support yourself?" The only evidence I can find in your comments to that is that you have not got great qualifications. The next Golden thread question would be: "why haven't you got great qualifications?" and "why don't you get those qualifications now?" With the Golden Thread Process we are trying to identify your core belief that creates the "lie" David

@AnnaPrzebudzona 4 жыл бұрын

@@WuWeiWisdom Thank you for your reply! I'm afraid that doing the "golden thread" method on my own will only lead to running in circles or the carousel of despair as you call it, although it doesn't always look like despair. It usually looks like I'm being defeated by my own rational, ruthless thinking. Recently I've read an article which states that one cannot change their core beliefs. I think people would be willing to change them if they got a proof that the negative core belief is wrong, that's why they look for that external validation. Just repeating to myself that I'm awesome won't change what's sitting deep in the centre, whatever that is. Only if I proved to myself that I'm awesome could do that. But I have an idea, maybe I could prove to myself that I'm awesome by changing my negative beliefs. How??? I wish I could afford a few sessions with you. But if I could afford them, I wouldn't need them cause that in itself would be a proof that I can cope, that I can make enough money to afford everything I need.

@kunzang5136 2 жыл бұрын

@@AnnaPrzebudzona I'm a retiree. When I got a low paying job, I still gave my best because I believed I didn't sell my time. I believed I went to serve my boss, my coworkers, clients and on payday, I got a gift!! What a happy work life. Overtime, my attitude gained my promotion after promotion. Now I retired comfortably. You can do that too. My value at work is not measured by my paycheck but how helpful I was to employer, the money will follow.

@Sevenstarseven77 2 жыл бұрын

How to remove the core believe

@novitta4035 5 жыл бұрын

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@WuWeiWisdom 5 жыл бұрын

Thanks for watching and commenting - you may also enjoy our latest video: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/a7RnpqZi3q2-f2g.html If you have questions on any of our teachings please let us know or if there's a topic or issue you'd like us to cover in future videos do tell us as this helps us plan our future videos. If you enjoy our video teachings please feel free to subscribe to our KZfaq Channel (we add new videos every Sunday!) ➜ kzfaq.info (click the 'notification bell’ when you subscribe and you’ll also get an email notification every time we add a new video). We also run a free Facebook Group where we share daily Wu Wei Wisdom and answer supporter questions - you would be welcome to join the group ➜ facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/ Alex & David x

@jobadger8323 5 жыл бұрын

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@tristanconvert 3 жыл бұрын

So, STOP IT is only doable once one truly grasps that IT is a choice.

@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын

So many adverts

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Hi, Thanks for your feedback, we have asked Google to take them off meditations. Kind regards, David.

@yeahright2068 Жыл бұрын

It’s very irritating that the are talking over each other. It’s hard to follow when they are interruping each other and they don’t finish their sentences. And when one is echoimg parts of the others sentence. Stop it!

@WuWeiWisdom Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Kind regards, David.

@1STBUCKLEY Жыл бұрын

Well this was five years ago. Life's a learning curve