This poem changed my life

This poem speaks to my daughter. Twelve years old, struggling with depression and suicidal ideation and an eating disorder, she read this poem to me and my wife today in an adolescent inpatient facility. It speaks to her deeply. I thank you from the bottom of my heart, Adam, for giving her another voice speaking words she needs to hear. She keeps a printout of this in her journal, there for whenever she needs it.

You are who you've been looking for. So stop looking for more unless you are looking in the mirror because it is about time for you to see clearly that: You are who you've been looking for. And that empty feeling you got, that hole in your chest you only got that feeling because you think you are not blessed with everything you need. You see we live in a consumerist society which means they need you to buy stuff and the easiest way to sell it is to tell you 'You are not enough'. Buy this car, you will get girls. Buy the bra, you will get guys. And we are seeing is so much that we start believing these lies. But the truth is: the make up they are selling to make you feel prettier is the same make-up you buy to stop feeling shittier about this lie they keep telling you that 'You are not enough'. And what about the movies we watch or the shows on TV The more I watch the more I see 'I need you to complete me'. And yes, love is the answer, love is the key but if you can't love yourself how could you ever love me. And loving yourself what does that even mean like massages and selfies and that sort of thing? Because the more I think about it the more it feels weird, I was always been taught that self-love is something to be feared. I've been taught that arrogance is bad and vanity, it's not good. And even my bracelets are telling me to act like Jesus would. So what should I do? How should I act? I am supposed to love myself but how do I even do that? Well, I got a trick that I pick up from a friend. Who noticed that I was quick to defend her when she would say something negative about herself. She would say 'I am so dumb' and I would say 'You are so brilliant' She would say 'I am so weak' and I would say 'You are so resilient' And when she said 'I feel ugly' and I said 'You look beautiful', she asked me why I was so dutiful filling up her cup constantly and yet treating my own cup so irresponsibly. Because when I looked in the mirror my voice was quite clear “You are ugly, you are too thin, your hairlines receding, you got a pimple on your chin” And that was when she gave me a piece of advice that changed my life: She gave me a hug and she said 'Treat yourself like someone you loved' Treat yourself like someone you loved. Now, I've been standing but I needed to be sitting because I couldn't believe that I had been letting myself keep forgetting that I was who I've been looking for. And deep in my core I knew it was time to stop looking for more until I could look through all my fear and look into a mirror and see clearly that the man looking back at me was the only one who can make me happy, and I am already enough. And I am not any more special or unique than you that is why I am here to speak to you 'You are already enough'. And when you start to see that you will start to be that. Your world will get brighter, your load will get lighter and you see that with life you can be a lover and not a fighter. And that life... you deserve it. Because you are worth it. And there is no point in letting yourself keep forgetting because no matter what you say or do: 'You are perfect'. As of today I hope I leave you with a direction correction away from the flaws you see in our reflection. They aren't flaws to me they are simply protection against all the doubts you have of your perfection. So start today, take a good long look in the mirror and say 'I am who I've been looking for'

every time i watch this and he mentions how he treats his cup irresponsibly, i get chills. every time.

The Dr. Suess of SELF COMPASSION.

“Treat yourself like someone you loved.” This hit so hard, and there is so much truth and depth in this one small sentence. I love this because we are so quick to judge ourselves and look down upon ourselves. I watched this at work and I started tearing up because this is so deep. So true, so thank you. I am forever watching this on my hard days💛🌻

‘And yes love is the answer, love is the key, but if you can’t love yourself, how could you ever love me.’ One of my fav lines.

Be a lover, not a fighter Treat yourself like someone you love

Okay..... Now I am binge watching your channel and WHAT. IS. THIS. Adam, wow. You are a poet. You are a unicorn. You are... damn, need I go on? You already know it all. Thank you for this. Have it bookmarked for my melancholy, uninspired days. much love, Marina

My teacher showed this to my class at the end of the day and I almost cried. This message is super strong and changed the way I viewed the world.

This poem made me cry, it changed my life... im watching it over and over

Monday Feb 12 74 yrs old 40 yrs clean and sober and still need to hear this poem right now and probably daily along with 12 steps ,helping,others,prayer,meditation,therapy,healthy food,god,service,fresh air and new people places and things and continual healing from a searingly hopeless disease! Linda S in sf

I found this poem three years ago. It has helped me to get through a lot. I’ve been reading it every time I’m feeling self conscious, depressed, anxious, like I want to end it. But I read it and hear it. And life seems a bit better. Thank you so much for this

Never heard the truth about loving yourself been said so powerfully ... Thank you Adam

At 25, I realize that I don't know how to love myself. I am still clueless of how I wanted to be loved. But this shed the light to my path way back to home, leading back to myself. This is the first step where I believe I can find my true self, my worth, and of how can I love myself. I'm leaving my cocoon, stepping out of my comfort zone. 😳👊 Every step little by little will not hurt me. It will be hard but will be bearable. 💪

I live with chronic depression and social anxiety - these 2 things have made it difficult for me to make friends & maintain relationships. Last spring I went through a rough breakup that almost broke me. My life was flipped. Most days are pretty heavy for me. I try to bury myself in work so as not to think about things, but the mind goes where it wants. 9 months after the breakup, and I still haven't figured out how to "get out there" and be social again. It's just not in my nature. However, every single time I'm feeling like I've hit rock-bottom, I watch this video. A couple of months ago, I put post-its up all over my home with quotes from the poem. They help. Thanks Adam

Adam Roa, just so you know I'm a therapist that works with children, teens, young men and women. Whenever we discuss self-compassion and self-love, this is always the 1st place I start. I've shared with so many people who needed to hear this and colleagues alike. You've touched so many more lives than you'll ever know. Thank you for this message 💕

powerful...and so very true!

Preach!!!! Love this

Mindblowing! Thank you for your inspiration

I don't add a lot of comments to videos. I'm just one to watch and move on. But I wanted to say something. This video triggered a change in my life. People have been telling me my whole life similar things to this - love yourself, believe in yourself, etc. But I've gone through my 50 years pretty much not loving or even liking myself. Your message came at a time and in a way that really made me look at myself. And change. I've realized that I am who I've been looking for my whole life. Thank you

Remarkably brilliant . . .

still changing lives four years later thank you Mr. Roa ❤

Amazing!! Thank you!!

Thank you. I think this applies to every person. I listen to it every day

This is beautiful, your words made me cry. Thank you for encouraging me to feel better about myself❤

So special Adam. Thank you 🙏🏼

Life changing... Thanks Adam Roa!

absolutely beautiful

This poem made me feel like I wasn't worthless and I started to cry because I've never really been happy and happiness is the best feeling I've ever felt and I hadn't felt it since my mom died in a car accident and my dad said I was a piece of shit and I didn't deserve to be born and that I was a disgrace to the world and I shouldn't have been born but now I know he was wrong and this poem made me feel loved again thank you Adam Roa you have changed my life

I may need to listen to this every single day. ❤❤

I have seen this vid many times and its still amazinv every time.

Powerful ❤️

thank you so much for this poem

@Adam roa we want to see always like that this energy is amazing👏

SOOO SOOO Beautiful! Thank you! This was FELT

I LOVEE THIS SM❤️‍🔥

This is beautiful and it’s what SO many of us need to hear and to live!

Beautiful! It resonates!!!!!

I saw this 2 years ago during a long phase of self discovery Adam. It made me cry and played a big part in finding my self esteem. Thank you brother I have a lot of love for you for this.

This is my favorite poetry I’ve seen and changed my life

Dang, got me teared up Adam ! Great job 😊😊😊✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you, Adam. You are a gift from God.

Wow! That is epic! I wish I had heard it years ago. I wish everyone I know had heard it years ago too. So, so good...

This poem i 1st heard a year ago,,, My life hasnt been the same since ,, Such a massive and deep impact. Thank you Adam for posting this poem :)

I love me and I love you Adam!

I get chills everytime I watch this! ✨ I'm that to have seen this in person. It was just as powerful that day. ✨

Wow wow wow.....I'm speechless......💞💞💞 you are just wow Adam

Brilliant and Beautiful!🐾🌟💋

In Frozen 2, when Elsa’s mother tells her “You are the one you’ve been waiting for,” and Elsa’s smiling through her tears, I always get overwhelmed. That was one of the most impactful moments in my life, sitting there in the theater and hearing that. Now, sitting here listening to this, I’m smiling through my own tears. Thank you.

Thank you, from deepest part of my core, thank you.

I can not believe that I have lived over four years without hearing this poem. I recently came across a TikTok with this sound. It truly changed my life and brought me to tears. Lately, my mental health has been at its worst, though, these words that I have put up on my bedroom wall reminds me every day that I am enough. Thank you, Adam. This poem truly saved my life.❤

I’ve listened to this poem countless times and it still gives me the biggest goosebumps mmmm so amazing! 💕💕💕

Best speech I've heard till the date.

Don’t even know home many times I watched this ❤️❤️❤️

i've watched this video 3 times. thank you Adam.

I so love Adam❤

You’re speaking volumes of what I’ve been taught since childhood, all about self love first and” if you don’t love yourself you won’t spread the love.” My Mom taught me that since I was so little and I’m happy she has because it’s impacting everything and it helps with having gratitude along with self love always. This is phenomenal, Adam! So happy I discovered you before your following was massive. The best part is you’re still humble and sending the same good hearted messages across the social and that right there makes you an incredible human being. Thank~You, Adam...

The way this Guy delivered the msg with such a confidence, man I fell down there..! Thank you ❤🙏

Adam, watched you on evolving out loud and I have to say, i listen to your message almost every morning

Wow...this brought me to tears🥺🥺🙏🙏🙏god bless this man

"Treat your self like someone you love" This phrase has been my go to when i lost a close friend who has been with me since back then. So i took care of myself and everytime i feel the longing i repeat this phrase.

Adam, thank you ❤

Oh my goodness! I've just discovered your channel and with the way things have been going lately, you've just been an inspiration, so thank you. You truly are an amazing person

Our creator, is the one that we are looking for......

It's heaven on earth when you hear his words. A miracle, life is something wonderful and still we don't know it.

Now we're gittin down to bizniss!!! 😊

One of the best poems🔥🔥🔥🔥

I’ve never heard the first half and I’m glad I listened to it.

Treat urself as u treat some one u loved thats all wow so life changing

BRAVO!! ADAM ROA... You are as wise as a 100~ yr old Gentleman, You are a Beautiful Soul... Much Success and Blessings from Jesus & God Above

I just LOVE, Love, Love this poem. I also Love his IAm Enough Poem. 🥰

Adam Roa, you are an absolute genius!! Never have truer words been spoken - thank you xx You should consider making this into a song, so everyone can hear the truth & finally start realizing that they are enough xox

Love you, Adam.

This reminds me of why I love poetry thank you, the emotion the Message you have shared thank you

Watched this when it first came out 3 years later still find myself coming back to remind myself. Thank you for this(:

Well I have no idea who you are but I'm definitely in love with you.

Thank you soooo much Adam, this is the by far most impressive and inpiring self love speech I eve r heard in my life! Short but right away to the point - and authentic - thats the way I love it!! And on top of it, its a poem - incredible nice!!!

Thank you beautiful being. Your poetry connects me to myself and my truth in such deep, profound and meaningful ways. Sending so much love your way from South Africa ✨💚❤💙🤗🤗🤗

Watched this a couple of times but the emotions I feel is never diminished. I still cry over it .

The best poem on self love man Love you

Watched immediately after your freestyle poem. And it changed me. Things I've known but haven't put into practice. Thank you thank you ❤🧡💛💚💙

I’m thankful I’m seeing this. This is gonna change me life

Whattt is this! I m amazed by your poems... Started watching today but till now i have watched almost all your videos..... U are great.... Much respect and love 👏❤️

This video perfect. Everyone take it to heart.

Yes, yes and yes. Thank you Adam.

Confirmed! We have a prophet Among Us... Preach brother

I needed this!! This changed my life! Thank you Adam for helping me see that I am enough. For helping me see that I am the person I've been looking for. Amazing video! 💞

Oh wow beautiful love your energy 🦋

Amazing! So true

Thank you. Much love you beautiful soul 💚

YES Thank you Adam Roa

Shared a bunch! this is great.

Adam, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for this poem and video. You inspire me and your words move my soul. Thank you for this beautiful gift of pure unadulterated insight, passion and self-love. YOU ROCK, my friend.

I remember that I did spend the whole day thinking why I am not enough, then I was going through Tiktok and I heard those line "You are ugly you are too thin.. etc", so I started looking for the poem and here I am listening/replaying it over and over again. Thank you so much for writing and sharing this, this helped me a lot and it did change my mindset, you are absolutely right, we are enough and whatever I'm seeking, it's already within me, I just had to walk miles within myself to know this. Thank you!

Amazing!! Thank you for sharing such a powerful message.

Every single line of the poem have the impact🙌

Performances like these are why I’ve fallen in love with reading and making poetry. A good poem can bring so much out of you

The most powerful freeing thing to ever learn in life!!!! I had this awakening before I listened to this, and this explains it so well! Thanks

Such beautiful and powerful words, and so much truth.