You're Emotionally Hard on Me! 😣 Waka & Tammy: What The Flocka

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3 жыл бұрын

Tammy might be too hard on Charlie. Can she lighten up and be a bit more softer with her?!
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Hip Hop’s iconic sweethearts Waka Flocka Flame and his fiery wife Tammy Rivera have been through it all. They have each survived childhoods shook by murder, violence and drugs... only to find each other, fall in love, and begin building a successful life together. From home renovations, juggling Tammy’s bustling music career, parenting their teenage daughter Charlie, and meddling in-laws..navigating marriage has become their biggest hurdle yet. Waka and Tammy have swapped roles and the power struggle is real!

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@kelly-monique6983 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy looks at vulnerability as a weakness and that’s the problem

@aze7324 3 жыл бұрын

Yup

@rimaa2410 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@lovecocksdick443 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly no wonder she is with a toxic "man".

@tbrown7274 3 жыл бұрын

It is a weakness and she’s kinda teaching her daughter this is a cruel world don’t cry over the dumb shit

@maijennasis 3 жыл бұрын

@@tbrown7274 it’s actually a strength lol

@lashaye5894 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy equates crying to weakness. This is why she instantly catches an attitude whenever Charlie expresses herself emotionally. As a young girl, Tammy didn’t have the permission to cry because of her hard upbringing. Her mom was on drugs, she lived in poverty, her dad was thrown in prison, etc. Deep down inside Tammy is still 15. But now that she has a daughter, she’s tryna groom Charlie into the person that she was which is bottling up her emotions and being “tough”. Whew! I honestly feel bad for Charlie because until Tammy can communicate without being combative, Charlie will never open up to her. Which ultimately will leave Charlie to seek validation elsewhere.

@lifewithkylee9184 3 жыл бұрын

Well it doesn’t stop her from crying lol

@tjohnson1711 3 жыл бұрын

It’s the “seeking validation elsewhere” part for me sis! You hit the nail on the head with that one 👏🏾👏🏾

@ToriSoBarbie 3 жыл бұрын

This was worded perfectly

@sweetlilangel714 3 жыл бұрын

I’m living this now.

@naebonnie 3 жыл бұрын

@@lifewithkylee9184 right Tammy stayed crying on love and hip hop

@Epinaj 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy just continuing to pass down trauma to her daughter. 😢 Emotions are okay and tears don’t make you weak. I am still learning this myself.

@angelalee9347 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@joshrennie4109 3 жыл бұрын

Agree to tell her daughter get over bout her father not being round get over it thts something thts not easy indictment on Tammy🤦🏾‍♂️

@angelalee9347 3 жыл бұрын

@@joshrennie4109 wym

@Prettybihhcheytv 3 жыл бұрын

Agree !

@nillaprecisee 3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@pocahontas2489 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy is forever taking everyone to counseling but she’s always the one in the session that refuses to take responsibility or listen to the therapist 😑

@rinabobina8453 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly!!!!

@Prettybihhcheytv 3 жыл бұрын

Fact !

@ShavonneSeven 3 жыл бұрын

Applaud her for going tho! Half these ppl won’t even step foot in a room for therapy. Tammy been this way, so it’s gonna take some time. At least she humble enough to go and talk

@Atlantaboi84 3 жыл бұрын

@@ShavonneSeven but going and not being open to listening is the same as staying at home though

@fwill4923 3 жыл бұрын

I believe that some of Charlie’s tears are some of the ones her mom hasn’t allowed herself to shed.

@bbfuturemrsp1208 3 жыл бұрын

Wow... There a thought 🧐

@miaormimi4108 3 жыл бұрын

Wow soooo true

@zyonsanaatv4390 3 жыл бұрын

Literally!

@MacKalive0101 2 жыл бұрын

That's deep... I felt that.

@jacquelinebrannon1610 2 жыл бұрын

I agree she's an emotional bully to her daughter and sometime I believe she don't even like her because she never listens to her advice and she have her own mind but at the same time you cannot tell somebody to be strong strengthen come with trials and tribulations that woman needs her mother's love and she's hurt for all the damage her mother calls her all her life that's why she have a rebellious spirit and a spirit of confusion rules without relationship brings Rebellion

@manifestingme6504 3 жыл бұрын

Your child should be able to come to you and cry to you for whatever it is that is upsetting them.

@tbrown7274 3 жыл бұрын

Na I disagree

@luckylibralady5551 3 жыл бұрын

Very true if they cant be vulnerable with there parents well then that's a problem.

@inahbaxter7123 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly I feel like my mom do the same thing to me

@sassyspice2727 3 жыл бұрын

@@tbrown7274 toxic

@nakishasd6997 3 жыл бұрын

I mean that’s what a momma should do

@jonesssss974 3 жыл бұрын

This issue is, Charlie doesn't feel emotionally supported. I understand Tammy doesn't want Charlie to feel sad all the time, BUT when she does, Tammy should be there & support her . not tell her to "stop crying I don't do depressed stuff"

@avantimontgomery3186 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you omg

@passionflowerhibiscus 3 жыл бұрын

She needs to allow her daughter to be sensitive. Not everyone is strong and tough all the time

@kenyattabillups4769 3 жыл бұрын

Facts. Bc my mom used to give me bs talks about being sensitive and crying too much all the time and in the long run I understood the appeal but I also still have to overcome that issue. Crying cleanses the soul

@lwhite474 3 жыл бұрын

@@kenyattabillups4769 exactly

@kenyattabillups4769 3 жыл бұрын

@@lwhite474 💯💯💯❤

@ForeverFahari 3 жыл бұрын

This is a very real problem in the black community especially as it pertains to black women. I blame this primarily on the Strong Black Woman trope that so many of us have bought into. Crying is not a sign of weakness, it’s an honest and normal reaction to so many of the things that we go through. My mom is a lot like Tammy in the sense that she’s very strong and believes that you should just “get over it”. I’m the complete opposite and growing up there were so many times that I felt like I couldn’t come to her about certain things because it wouldn’t be received well from her. Our kids needs to be assured from a young age that they are allowed to be vulnerable when necessary so that they can properly learn how to understand their feelings and communicate.

@adoremedream5834 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@sharnagrayson9649 3 жыл бұрын

SPEAK ON IT

@Pink_celeb420 3 жыл бұрын

Amen!

@TheeincredibleDaisia 3 жыл бұрын

She is emotionally hard on her. You can see it in all the episodes🥴

@Honeysbeehive 3 жыл бұрын

If Tammy only knew how strong is a person who cries over everything.

@oyahnia8217 2 жыл бұрын

right !

@redrum4139 3 жыл бұрын

I've seen tammy cry over waka more then I've seen any family member of mine cry.

@theiamcubanaxshow5001 3 жыл бұрын

I can see where they're both coming from. Tammie just wants her daughter to be strong. But at the same time you can tell Charlie is free spirited and just needs to live her life.

@maxinerubio8158 3 жыл бұрын

At least Tammy is taking her to counseling and working on it. As a mother with past trauma you don’t just leave it behind because you had a baby. It also could be something Tammy never saw as wrong because she’s always been that way.

@aggydreams 3 жыл бұрын

They just go to therapy to try make themselves good like they can trick the therapist. That lady needs therapy on her own by herself. That fake smile and talking over her when she trying to explain herself to the therapist. Tammy your not strong your a 🐩. There is a big difference and you need to fix up. That Leo energy coming in hard. 🤷🏾‍♀️

@jazzy9282 3 жыл бұрын

When Tammy said she doesn’t like when she knows Charlie is stronger then something and it makes her cry. Tammy sees it but Charlie doesn’t and that is where Tammy should take a step back and tell Charlie instead of yelling , she should just tell charlie that she is bigger than some situations and to never let someone control her emotions. I remember when I was Charlie’s age my mom and sister were so mean and i overheard them talking about me and I ran to my dad crying and he said “never let someone think they hurt your feelings “ Of course words hurt and people hurt you but you do not give people the satisfaction of letting them know that they hurt you because there is something so sadistic within people that makes them feel like , I made them cry I feel so empowered.

@ItsMeShaniceG 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy is literally sitting there telling her daughter that she doesn't like her emotions. Those are her emotions. That's how she feels inside and you're telling her that you don't like that… My 28-year-old self hurts for her and my 16 year old self. White people be Trippin but one thing they do get right is how they let their children express themselves. Their kids aren't scared to say how they're feeling inside. Charlie look like she worried about what's gonna happen after she leaves this therapy session. That bothers me.

@PrincessDee0594 3 жыл бұрын

Sadly, this is a HUGE problem in the world today! Parents don’t take the time to be there for their children emotionally, which most times, leads to other circumstances unfortunately 😭

@kendawyatt673 3 жыл бұрын

Nawl Tammy needs to listen and empathize

@virtualbabe9171 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Instead of judging or toughen up cryin is human nature we r built to feel all these emotions If not then it’s a sign of pass Tramua on Tammy part

@rhyaweeks 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy acts like my mom. Now I'm 25 I am very emotionless which I hate because I would love to be more sympathetic.

@rhyaweeks 3 жыл бұрын

@Zelia Yorks I try to be as well. Because when I have children I don't want my kids to feel the way I felt.

@rhyaweeks 3 жыл бұрын

@Mvitvi thank you hun 🖤😭

@lavondatodd573 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy had to be strong & grow up fast. So she must realize to be patient & nurturing with baby girl. Time heal wounds

@Lcoop1980 3 жыл бұрын

Tammi is going to push Charlie right out of her life.

@brittneylittlejohn400 3 жыл бұрын

That’s what I’m saying she can be hard on her sometimes but other times you need to comfort her

@ampodelgado2882 3 жыл бұрын

No she is not.

@Lcoop1980 3 жыл бұрын

@@ampodelgado2882 I am 41 and my daughter is 22 we went 10 months at one point not talking because we weren't seeing eye to eye. It was the longest and hardest 10 months in my life. I'm speaking from EXPERIENCE and not from a bs opinion 🤷🏾‍♀️

@t4hj386 3 жыл бұрын

@@Lcoop1980 so after looking at this do you think you pushed your daughter away?

@Lcoop1980 3 жыл бұрын

@@t4hj386Not like this. It was a lot more to it with my situation, but Tammi is clearly not hearing Charlie's crys for help. I make a conscious decision daily to be aware of my words, actions... etc with my 15 anf 7yr old. We as parents don't try yo understand our kids when we were kids and know what it's like to be broke and no one hearing us. Times are different. Our kids are more advanced with the access to things that my generation didn't have. Being a parent is a lot, but these kids didn't ask to be here. I apologize for rambling

@sabinlyons3911 3 жыл бұрын

Crying doesn’t make you weak, that’s what your tears are made for to release whatever needs to be released. The cycle has to be broken

@thatgirlamir8541 3 жыл бұрын

I definitely understand where Charlie is coming from growing up we couldn’t really be vulnerable if my siblings and I cried we were told too “suck it up” or too “stop that weak crying shit”

@leahdxnise 3 жыл бұрын

i grew up with the same thing but the difference is now i allow myself to feel emotions because there is nothing wrong with crying/being vulnerable.

@thatgirlamir8541 3 жыл бұрын

@@leahdxnise exactly same I’ve had too condition myself too realize that crying is perfectly normal And okay I was soo used too bottling all my emotions

@blahblahblah576 3 жыл бұрын

Show emotion towards your child Tammy! It’s okay for Charlie to feel and be emotional sometimes. It’s part of being human ❗️

@free5266 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy doesn’t listen

@danijones819 3 жыл бұрын

crying is not a sign of weakness or allowing someone or a situation to make you feel less than it's a genuine human emotion ..Tammy please don't teach your daughter to suppress her emotions

@erikajones6802 3 жыл бұрын

My big sister said to me one day "man you're strong I can't cry in public like you" I replied I have no control over it lol. If I'm sad or frustrated I will cry anywhere I am to release those emotions I can't hold on to that energy. The upside is I let go easily so although I may drop tears once I dry my eyes it's a new day. As far as people looking at me I never concerned myself with people's opinion because only God knows my heart only God's opinion of me matters.

@Dgivan09 3 жыл бұрын

TBH I believe that most that grew up with one or both parents on drugs or absent, groomed themselves to be strong. Not for recognition or a badge of honor, simply because that was the only choice. Mold or fold...many chose molding themselves into a warrior and that translates to others whom can’t relate as “He or she is too hard” or “recognizes crying as a weakness.” Tammy knows that it’s a hard cold world and without a doubt she will always be there but she wants her daughter to bundle up emotionally...you can’t let everything and everyone break you, period!

@nishashawn2021 3 жыл бұрын

Crying over something you have control over is a trigger for me too tammy. I can't stand it... But crying on things one has no control over, I do understand. Life is hard.

@candicecarrasco9994 3 жыл бұрын

Well you better not have a child that's a cancer bc honey we are a water works of emotions crying is actually one of our strengths unless you want a possible murder scene

@nishashawn2021 3 жыл бұрын

@Shay Beauty never said shes not allowed to cry. It's a simple crashing of personality types...I saidddddd it's a trigger and I understand where tammy is coming from lol

@nishashawn2021 3 жыл бұрын

@Shay Beauty hope this helps your comprehension

@msftkayla1987 3 жыл бұрын

This is exactly how i feel with my mom like she literally called me weak because i struggle with depression and anxiety like dude huhhhh or like that i have to get over it🙄 I don’t understand why parents do that than be surprised when their kid no longer comes for to then about anything

@Yourfavorite-cx6jz 3 жыл бұрын

i like tammy however she seems borderline emotionally abusive. even when the girl is telling her how she is making her feel it’s like she isn’t listening

@jv-zv8mv 3 жыл бұрын

how are parents like this... bad parenting moment...

@avantimontgomery3186 3 жыл бұрын

I get you want you child to be hard but idc what’s going on my children can always cry to me about whatever. Cry long as you want scream and cuss but when you walk out this room you better hold that head and be the king and queen I raised you to be.

@Leelee0 3 жыл бұрын

How she gonna say "aw that's so sweet" crying is not sweet......lol

@daelynnbutler2742 3 жыл бұрын

Right

@SierraSl 3 жыл бұрын

“You need to get over because Im not with the depress stuff” I felt that😞. It sad to say our parents generation don’t know how to handle mental health.

@TBP2023 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy iam the same way it’s the Leo in us But watching this made me want to be a little more Softer with my daughter she’s just like Charlie and that’s my only child too

@sharnagrayson9649 3 жыл бұрын

It’s not stfu about them damn signs it’s called EMOTIONAL TRUAMA any sign and any damn body can have it stfu

@TBP2023 3 жыл бұрын

@@sharnagrayson9649 damn sis you mad or naw I think your going through some emotional trauma 😳

@YYYah-me-na 3 жыл бұрын

Awww Charlie 💕 she needs her mom’s gentle side

@debpadilla7242 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad y’all are getting some help talking about these tough issues! Charlie is wonderful and she wants to talk about these things but y’all need help to direct the conversation. This will help bring y’all closer and you both need that.😘🙏❤️🙌🏻 Parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever have! It is also the most rewarding job you’ll ever have!!! 🙏🥰🙌🏻❤️

@BurgundyMist22 3 жыл бұрын

I need to check myself because I see myself in Tammy and I do not want to be like her..

@kay7630 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy needs therapy she is hard on her and it’s sad that girl is going be emotionally damaged because of her mom

@KirahN3 3 жыл бұрын

How Tammy was brought up she was taught to not cry don’t show emotions so thats all she knows and you can’t be mad at her for that BUT she has to also understand that Charlie is emotional and there’s nothing wrong with crying and feeling how you feel. It’s all a learning process. That doesn’t make Tammy less then a parent. Everybody has flaws and things they need to work on. For her to even go to therapy with her daughter that’s a start

@KirahN3 3 жыл бұрын

@Shay Beauty yes it’s emotional abuse but you have to also understand she’s HUMAN. Everybody has flaws and the fact that’s she’s going to therapy shows that she gives af and want to change for herself and her daughter. You have a lot of mf out here who are parents that don’t even take that step of healing. Let’s not pass judgment 😉

@reginalee1114 3 жыл бұрын

She loves her baby & wants her to be strong. This world is hard Tammy wants her to be ready. I get it Mom. One day she’ll get it too. Side note, let that baby cry once in a while Gangsta. Lol everybody ain’t hard in the paint like us. Different generation...

@DoItWithThema 3 жыл бұрын

Why can’t Tammy not understand. Listen to understand! Stop already coming to a conclusion. Your daughter is a crier. You just stated you don’t want her to conform to society yet she’s her own person, why you tryna make her into this tough person without the softness! There’s always a balance in life! You can tell her crying is good, get it out your system but remember to always boss up in the end. This lack of emotions in our communities is just trauma passing from generation to generation. Relationships whether platonic or friendship are on the rocks cause everybody want to be tough! Can’t even show empathy to your own child is crazy to me. I wish them luck

@monicadesirae4316 3 жыл бұрын

As a parent, I use to be the same way with my child. I was always saying stop all that crying or get away from me until you get yourself together. I had to learn that it’s ok to cry and to express that emotion. I also had to learn that it’s not ok for me to shut my child down from crying. When I do that I am saying that you are not allowed to express yourself in that way. I hope Tammy listens to the therapist and to Charlie. I know where Tammy is coming from because it’s hard to see your kid hurt by someone else. We want to protect our kids for as long as we can, but we have to let them be who they are and go through some things so that they learn from it and become stronger.

@amarra7218 3 жыл бұрын

I deal with this with my mom because she grew up exactly how Tammy did. I’m so sorry Charlie has to go through that because it’s very overwhelming and affects how you communicate & express yourself. Best wishes to them both. \:

@rosaaam2694 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy please get over yourself to raise your daughter! Don't bring your trauma to her, do better

@Shugah6262 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy talked about her own life experiences as a young girl and she it's clear she never grieved her own emotions as a child, She was an adult way to soon. Vulnerabilility does seem to upset many people that had to struggle and fight half or majority of their lives, with help love and support for those behaviors patterns Tammy & her daughters relationship can devlop into a loving compassionate mother, daughter foundation, I truly believe that it's never to late to change anyone or anything you just have to be willing to put in the time, work & effort real talk!!

@paulettesalomon2520 3 жыл бұрын

This is a good show. This therapy session is very relatable.

@spicytruth8721 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy is trying to teach her daughter to have tough skin so the world won’t tear her apart. Y’all gotta see the bigger picture

@passionflowerhibiscus 3 жыл бұрын

I think you should raise your child to be able to handle the world but in order to do that you have to create a space at home where they can be vulnerable and Tammy is not doing that

@shanicegisele 3 жыл бұрын

crying doesn’t make you weak

@khsmediacorner0524 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy reminds me of Naturi Naughton. If anyone has never heard of her, she was in a girls group back in the early 2000s called 3LW. She was also on the Starz show Power as well.

@sassycinderellatamara1976 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy is a Leo ♌️ and we definitely push emotions that make us look weak down. It’s not until something really bad happens that we cry and even then a lot of Leo’s just “deal with it.”

@fairykween333 3 жыл бұрын

my mom is very much like this with me. i can’t talk to her or cry to her. my boyfriend broke up with me and it really hurt. she told me stop all that crying shit there’s more fish in the sea. like okay i get that but can’t you support me in this moment. i feel for charlie

@jazmineworthy2010 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry

@anomalybutterfly910 3 жыл бұрын

I understand Tammy’s mindset. I get frustrated with my adult (30’s) children especially my daughters when they cry over things/ situations when I know they’re stronger then that! The advice I give is put your energy into what u can control. I get the initial, but a year later??!! You’re stronger then this🦋❤️

@damishahanserd2245 3 жыл бұрын

This happen way too much in the black community teaching her to suppress her emotions is only going to allow her to be angry, bitter, and have explosive episodes over the Little issues in her life all because you told her to stop crying to release the stress she going through

@Ultrawicked 3 жыл бұрын

Girl you cry yours eyes out whenever and wherever . Lol I'm a cancer my ass always been crying since I was born .

@bmunie 3 жыл бұрын

This is emotional trauma.

@TaleiAK 2 жыл бұрын

The fact that they're in therapy talking about it is great because neither one of them is weak for not crying or crying about things. Two extreme versions learning to talk about things will make them more understanding of one another sometime along the road. The therapist needs to be a little creative with dealing with it though.

@cbonita3532 2 жыл бұрын

I literally have a child around the same age, height, built and even the same name. I am struggling with this very same issue of learning to understand that when my child expresses vulnerability that does not mean that she will not be safe in the world. This show with Tammy & Charlie helps me to see our struggles and improve our relationship.

@kiarathomas5481 3 жыл бұрын

That's really sad because at the end of the day the way she was raised shouldn't be allowed that to affect her daughter an her growth if something bothering her she should be there along with making her feel comfortable to want to be around her as coming to her and cry if something is bothering her she should do whatever it take to make it better not make her feel worse

@sophiawillis8840 3 жыл бұрын

Wishing them both well. Because at the beginning and end of the day that's a mother and daughter on a individual journey from any other mother or daughter. No two people are the same and it's not a single person's place to judge. We all have room for improvement and growth. I can't just act like I know so much about the next person or the outcome with the situations on their own journey because in all truth I'm not completely sure about my own. Well wishes peace and prosperity to all.

@HeiressDean 3 жыл бұрын

I love how she is willing to listen to her daughter and is willing to work on their relationship.

@shelocsher2396 3 жыл бұрын

Crying doesn’t make you weak, and not crying doesn’t make you strong. Because Charlie is very emotional, she might be the one to help Tammy accept this.

@brooklyngurl09 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy isn’t hard she’s just stuck in a protective phase so she can’t release her feelings she just move on physically leaving her stuck with unresolved feelings in that’s never dealt with

@manicmogulmedia7234 3 жыл бұрын

TF IS SHE SMILING AND LAUGHING FOR ITS A CLEAR SIGN OF DISASSOCIATION AND WILL HINDER HER CHILDS EMOTIONAL GROWTH

@nyeshasmallwood8331 3 жыл бұрын

IF U ARE A CANCER CRAB SIGN WE ARE CRY BABYS AND WE'RE VERY VERY SENSITIVE BECAUSE WE LOVE SOOOOOO HARD💯💯CRYING HEALS THE SOUL😢😢😢

@zeezee990 3 жыл бұрын

So true, lol... and Tammy is a Leo, she is a lion.. so she is naturally tough and she's a natural fighter. She express her emotions by lashing out..

@itsarneya2678 3 жыл бұрын

This is so true I cry so much 😂

@candicecarrasco9994 3 жыл бұрын

Yes I'm a cancer all I do is cry about everything people don't get us they think crying is a weakness actually it's our strength the tears are so we want hurt anybody tammy just doesn't get her daughter you have to understand a cancer

@dae4444 3 жыл бұрын

Awww crying does not make u weak. I tell men all the time that tell me they don't cry that they should. Im a proud cryer lol. Sometimes u need to let that shit out n sometimes u feel a little relief after but that's just me

@carmelspot1615 3 жыл бұрын

I'm 40 and still cry over things LOL I cry, release the emotions and then I'm good.

@consciousanfesiashapsnikof8688 3 жыл бұрын

Charlie is 15 years old, and her disposition with Tammy and Waka is disrespectful. She also talks in a way that shows lack of self-esteem. Charlie also needs to be a child, and stop trying to be grown too fast.

@enomystompkins4428 3 жыл бұрын

Right no one wants to talk about that part though

@lerayshaaen 3 жыл бұрын

By Tammy telling her daughter to stop crying she isn't being sensitive to her daughter emotions. She should be happy that her daughter expresses when she hurt or when she happy. A lot of parents don't get that from their children!!children! A lot of children holds it in until it's too late...

@marelynhaines9606 2 жыл бұрын

I let my son cry cause kids need to be able to express what they are feeling. I will never say she’s a terrible parent cause Tammy loves her child. Charlie is her life but she is hard on her at the most inconvenient times. There’s a time to show tough love and there’s a time to show empathetic therapeutic love when your child is having an emotional moment. Teaching kids to suck it up is why kids will bottle everything up and bottle up mental health issues too then go do something crazy because they bottled up those emotions. There’s no book on parent hood but Tammy needs to listen to her daughter

@ahmir0224 3 жыл бұрын

Look how Tammy looking at her like she like say something els

@moeticjustuce 3 жыл бұрын

My mom was like Tammy.. grew up hard... sometimes i would emotionally express myself & she seemed numb to it... it kind of made me numb to things & I never thought I'd be this way cause I used to be so sensitive

@teemarie780 3 жыл бұрын

Seen this conversation coming a mile away.

@travisfreeman3353 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy loves her daughter but Tammy is like a lot of black mothers she's very tough and seems kinda heartless sometimes. A lot of black women have been through a lot growing up so they build up this toughness because they don't wanna seem weak. In the session with the therapist you can see Tammy is not taking it seriously and it seems like she doesn't really care. Her daughter is more sensitive and doesn't need to be treated like a baby but needs to be treated and spoken to like a teenager. Tammy speaks to her like an adult which makes the young teenage girl feel like Tammy doesn't care about her.

@PatriciaTheChosen1 26 күн бұрын

She was probably raised to be tough. I was raised to be tough and that's the reason I became the woman I am! I am raising my daughter to be strong also. Sometimes with kids if you allow them to think it's okay to make excuses as bout things they'll carry a victim mentality! I am not saying you can't cry about things or I don't ever break down but for the most part I am able to get through things! I was very vulnerable as a child and didn't know my worth! once I realized this I became wiser which, made me stronger mentally! Overall my upbringing played a big role in my ability to know how to push through!

@LP-ey7zj 3 жыл бұрын

It's okay to raise strong daughters, we got to show them affection also and allow them to show their vulnerable sensitive side and tears. It's okay to do that Mama's ❤️

@youdismissed9542 3 жыл бұрын

If you are someone that doesn't cry alot or at all or feel like being emotional is a weakness then clearly behind all of that you know how it feels to have pent up anger to the point where you are losing your mind....why would you want someone else to feel like that? I was like that as a teen and when I hit my early adulthood all of my emotions just came out like a whirlwind...I didn't know how to handle them and neither could the people around me.

@smolmaae7947 3 жыл бұрын

As much as I love Tammy, sis be quite and listen with your ears cause your baby needs you to just listen and be there . People need to understand when having kids they aren’t always going to be just like you. They are their own human as well with their own thought and feelings and as parents we have to accept and learn that .

@countrygirlxo7188 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy was like that though. Didn’t she stay with wakka after he cheated on her multiple times? Isn’t that “dumbing yourself down?” She clearly lowered her standards to be with the “man she loves.” I hate when parents go around acting like “look at me and my perfect relationship, try and be like me and you will be fine.” Tammy you pulled guns out on wakka quit acting like your relationship is normal or healthy. It’s definitely been toxic before... quit judging when you’re the last person that should be giving this girl advice.

@najajohnson1535 3 жыл бұрын

I don't know why but I understand Tammy's POV. I learned at a young age you couldn't be vulnerable around everybody and I just suppressed my emotions to the point where I was just numb mentally and emotionally. I am completely fine with people around me expressing their emotions and being vulnerable but its something I simply cannot allow my self to do.

@CandCnation 3 жыл бұрын

She needs help herself she blames everything on everyone

@arielelisa9012 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy equates crying to weakness. That’s sad. She needs to resolve that because that belief in itself is trauma being passed down to Charlie.

@222evolvedpisces 2 жыл бұрын

as a water sign i understand charlie (she’s a cancer) i’m an pisces , we can’t help we cry it’s time i literally be fighting tears and they still break i’m not weak mentally or physically i just don’t know how to express my frustrations , she should be grateful rather have an emotional child then a short tempered hot head one

@Drando1989 3 жыл бұрын

I think Tammy is an amazing mother but she needs to understand that she has provided a better life for her daughter, WHICH IS THE GOAL 🙌🏾, and her battles are not the same as when Tammy was 15 in BMore, which I can imagine was a completely different world that what her daughter knows. It’s ok for Charlie to cry. But I understand Tammy’s annoyance with it being over a GIRL and she’s ONLY 15. Any mother would freak out. She’s too young to be THAT emotionally invested. 15 IS NOT GROWN, and IS NOT old enough for a “relationship” IDC. When Charlie grows up, she will understand why her mother didn’t want her to cry over irrelevant shit. I understand Tammy. And I understand Charlie 🙏🏾❤️

@enomystompkins4428 3 жыл бұрын

Yes this exactly

@candicecarrasco9994 3 жыл бұрын

Crying is definitely not a weakness Charlie is a cancer when we cry it's so we want do something we might regret for a cancer crying is how we handle thing tammy just has to get over it bc believe me more tears will come rather she likes it or not

@Blaque87Lace 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy girl bye it’s just Fucking tears!!!!

@marchtoofine6168 3 жыл бұрын

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😍😍😍😍💖💖💗💗.

@PurposelyObtuse 3 жыл бұрын

Parenting is hard. One must become comfortable with anything one dislikes about oneself. Otherwise one will become hoarse and hateful when one sees their children express those aspects.

@aautumnindigoamore 3 жыл бұрын

Why the hell she sound like tammy when she imitated her lol they’re such a cute duo!

@rosieb9 3 жыл бұрын

Hearing and listening are two different things. She did not listen to her daughter. Seems to be on the defensive throughout the conversation. I grew up with a mom like this and we were like oil and water. 😔

@curtistinemiller4646 3 жыл бұрын

Tammy,Charlie is just 15 ,having emotions is normal ,Let her be her,Crying makes her feel better she will learn in due time ...

@faithvalentin1403 3 жыл бұрын

I CNT W THE WIGS

@cindymngadi1694 2 жыл бұрын

i hate parents who are dismissive of your emotions Charlie : you're emotionally hard on me Tammy : i'm not actually, Im very lenient aargh dont dictate to me how i should feel about you, dont dictate how i should experience you. Just Listen. Listen. Listen to what i said, dont debate, dont justify, dont argue.

@rickylake8335 3 жыл бұрын

I’m a cancer like Charlie and I cry about everrrryyytttthhhinnnnggggggg

@tarynclemons 3 жыл бұрын

Being from Baltimore may have something to do with it. I used to live there and some of my family still does...

@sharnagrayson9649 3 жыл бұрын

No that’s not the case

@robbb416 3 жыл бұрын

Check YOURSELF Tammy!! You're messing that girl up and she is perfect.

@jamesgunz5970 3 жыл бұрын

She be wearing some nice hair the daughter it looks real!

@LBDesignsIIV 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so tired of these problems!

@PhillyChic215_ 3 жыл бұрын

They need to go seek therapy at Fix my life Iyanla Vanzant asap. Iyanla will get down to business and not sugar coat shit, Tammy need to get her bottled emotions out and be a better back bone for Charlie because Tammy has A LOT childhood trauma inside her that's making her be so hard Charlie, which is heartbreaking. Charlie needs to feel supported and uplifted and not told to basically shut up about her feelings. Parents stop passing your childhood trauma curse to your children, BREAK THAT CYCLE.