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Young Men Are Lonelier Than Ever (And It's Getting Worse)
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Men are lonelier than ever before, largely due to recent societal shifts like technology enabling constant work and erosion of traditional male communities; I explain why this epidemic of male loneliness exists and offer solutions men can implement, like scheduling tech-free time, joining group activities, and reframing your identity from "lonely person" to "disconnected person who can take steps to reconnect".
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@SlawcioD 7 ай бұрын
"ex machina" is from latin, pronunciation is different ;)
@jokerjosh3 7 ай бұрын
I wish you would stick to style video and give advice for that, and not advice for anything else.
@tbrown4080 7 ай бұрын
The internet allows women to select the top guys and avoid all others and dating is being done online more than ever
@raygorf735 7 ай бұрын
He's lying to you all. 1) vast majority of couples in this world are looks matched. I accept money can be a big dating trigger to women but that doesn't change observable reality and that is the world is full of looks matched couples. Average looking couples. 2) So called gigachad is an extremely rare phenotype (face type). It's a genetic outlier. Guys of gigachad looks (let's say 9) are no different to extremely short or extremely tall men - rare in the population. Real Men used the term ' gigachad' not chad. Chad is arguably 8 and not that common but so called gigachad is even less common so it's ridiculous to say all women want gigachad. Do you see lots of women dating gigachads? No. Of course not. It's childish to say "all women want gigachad." C'mon it's bullsh*t. It's not real life.
@Sphereal 7 ай бұрын
There is a difference between loneliness and solitude. Being alone is great. Being surrounded by people you dislike or that dislike you is hell.
@dudleyviban2764 7 ай бұрын
Exactly!
@Filthy_Larry 7 ай бұрын
So true. I 😂 at those who preach that a man needs a wife and kids.
@iiCounted-op5jx 7 ай бұрын
ok but hypothetically if you have no family, no friends, and no one to talk to/share your thoughts with you'll go insane with incredible loneliness
@Filthy_Larry 7 ай бұрын
@@iiCounted-op5jx only if your weak.
@iiCounted-op5jx 7 ай бұрын
@@Filthy_Larry your pfp reminds me of someone 💀 are you familiar with the name Cordic by any chance?
@hayesjk11 7 ай бұрын
When you’re told by society every day of your life that you’re toxic and women telling you that they don’t need you, is anyone surprised that men are lonely?
@francoisthibeaux-brignoles8399 7 ай бұрын
Golden words.
@carlitosbrigante6889 7 ай бұрын
It s ignored by this guy painting the redpill as negative but see how big it s now cause it resonates with many , divorce laws , alimony, unfair child support , undesirable women attitude etc.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
This is among the biggest problems men face, not just when it comes to dating but in society in general. Even when we're told to share our feelings they only want us to show certain types of feelings.
@Superman-cb3fr 7 ай бұрын
Facts
@EmbraceTheStruggle24 7 ай бұрын
It's exactly what newsmedia and what society conditions us to believe; though I'll admit I'm no sociological, business, or family counseling expert - but even I m aware of the ins and outs and mental tricks this stupid world tries to throw at us.
@Jose-ht2lw 7 ай бұрын
One thing is being lonely and to feel lonely. I'm in my my 30s, no wife no kids. No one takes my money nor time. I volunteer and got a handful of friends that hang out almost every weekend.
@RealMenRealStyle 7 ай бұрын
Great to hear that!
@Whoeverwhateverwhenever 7 ай бұрын
It's cool to be single and "hang" in your 30s. It hits you differently after 40 though.
@sumalways 7 ай бұрын
Yes great you have company. But if you have someone by your side who loves you in old age you dont feel incomplete.Nature intended for man and woman to be together.We are on top of the food chain as we have higher intellectual capabilities and have conscience decision making.Yes not all women deserve men but we men do deserve a loving and emotionally strong better half.
@Whoeverwhateverwhenever 7 ай бұрын
@@sumalways "not all women deserve men" 😂😂
@jokernabastard2828 7 ай бұрын
Solitude is not loneliness.
@w.adammandelbaum1805 7 ай бұрын
I got a sex robot pregnant, she gave birth to a vacuum cleaner, but it identifies as a toaster.
@mrmar-que6307 6 ай бұрын
You better pay for that toaster. It's your responsibility.👀
@w.adammandelbaum1805 6 ай бұрын
@@mrmar-que6307 I'm a crummy father.
@robertarmstrong3024 6 ай бұрын
It sounds like machines are almost as screwed up as humans. I hope it doesn't take you to court to get your house and half your income. ?So far so good?
@rogueranger7989 6 ай бұрын
I Identify as a Potato. Mainly I’m Baked, there are days I get Mashed and occasionally I’m Fried 😂.
@Nobody-sm7se 6 ай бұрын
That was actually funny lol
@chzzyg2698 7 ай бұрын
What worries me more is how comfortable being alone can be.
@consciousgentile5141 7 ай бұрын
You hate being comfortable?
@chzzyg2698 7 ай бұрын
@@consciousgentile5141I'm saying I love my quiet space. I can do what I want, when I want, and don't have nobody whining in my ear about anything.
@RenegadeManta799 7 ай бұрын
I travel the world by myself, and honestly I don't mind at all. I meet new people there and I have no one else to cater to or keep happy but myself. I can eat when I feel like, get up when I want, and do the activities I want to do.
@derekellis9927 6 ай бұрын
Why does that worry you? Its awesome.
@42smash36 6 ай бұрын
Keep telling yourself that cope, lonely man
@JJ-rp2df 7 ай бұрын
To men, far worse is being disrespected by society, relationships and family courts. Anything beats the poverty, false allegations and children alienated in divorce.
@EmbraceTheStruggle24 7 ай бұрын
Absolutely. Definitely can't deny that. It's a lot of what's wrong with not just the USA, but many parts of the world.
@oysterman962 7 ай бұрын
Yes agree. Society and politicians have given women too much power. Not saying they shouldn't be given equal rights but it's extreme favouritism not just equality they're getting. Men don't have the same government funded support programs available to them as women do. They have female gyms but then they use unisex gyms & complain they are being sexually threatened by men gawking at them all the while baiting the men with cameras to post footage on social media for their Only Fans.
@vegetashairline3060 6 ай бұрын
My wife's uncle just got arrested two days ago over allegations from his ex wife (total biznitch) that he touched her niece. From what I understand, she claims it happened over last December, during the holidays, but he was with us and my wife's side of the families for like a whole week. Now I don't know the whole story, but I wouldn't be surprised if his name will be FOREVER tarnished. What I do know is his new wife doesn't believe it, nor does anyone in our families
@agirl2094 6 ай бұрын
@@vegetashairline3060 I wonder how you’ll feel when you find out he did it…
@vegetashairline3060 6 ай бұрын
@@agirl2094 I mean I wouldn't be surprised either way, I don't know the guy too well, and Its not like I had a lock on his position every second of every day. And at the same time his ex is definitely the type of hateful person to just make up a lie to hurt someone
@delfinenteddyson9865 7 ай бұрын
I never felt as lonely as when being alone in a crowded place
@kimkhoitruong5991 7 ай бұрын
same fk those crowded place
@JackOfHearts42 7 ай бұрын
100%. I'm less lonely when somewhere quiet with 1 friend or even aquaintence/coworker to chat with than in a public space by myself.
@CommandoMaster 7 ай бұрын
I never got the idea of going to crowded places with a bunch of strangers that don't give AF about u. Eg. bars, clubs, concerts, parades. It's a waste of time.
@42smash36 6 ай бұрын
Keep telling yourself that cope, lonely man
@basicfilmblog 6 ай бұрын
Social media was undoutably the worst thing to ever happen to society.
@masterandkerranginparticul4324 6 ай бұрын
yeah, but that's only because women swipe us all left who are not above average height. social media should have made things way more easy for men, but thr opposite happened as women are now even. more picky than ever before. its insane
@nodrinkingproblemhere9095 5 ай бұрын
6.4, own 3 bedroom, car, bike, van. Single :D Last Year's Valentine day spent in a car having BJ from chick, who turns out is married, had a nice convo with husband on the street, he was tracking her phone. This years Valentine day got cheated by a different chick I dated last 6 months, de ja vu. Point is, even if you pull of dates and connect, it does not mean anything. After last relationship I didn't even get emotional, just deleted socials, took the key back and packed her stuff next day. @@masterandkerranginparticul4324
@handyman1016 2 ай бұрын
No, women's rights was the worst thing to ever happen to society.
@basicfilmblog 2 ай бұрын
@@handyman1016 utter drivel. Stick your head somewhere it doesn't shine.
@user-fd5tb4tg2t 15 күн бұрын
@@handyman1016 to a man’s view of society
@cccycling5835 7 ай бұрын
When I was college, women ignored me. They said I was corny for wanting a family and kids. So I went abroad and found a wife. Been married 15+ years with kids and a house, it’s been lovely. Now these same women are wondering where all the good guys went. They went abroad. BTFO
@keithcourneya4900 7 ай бұрын
Do you ever have them track you down and send you messages? I have and its hilarious to mess with them and harshly reject them.
@blarfroer8066 7 ай бұрын
The good guys are with the good women. And vice-versa.
@agirl2094 6 ай бұрын
Do you really think the women who rejected you really care what you do?
@EbikeAdventures667 5 ай бұрын
@@agirl2094Yes
@okgoogleplay3500 4 ай бұрын
bro, did you just go to united kingdom? Kinda sounds like it to me.
@kristijan8518 7 ай бұрын
I'm one of those men. I'm 31, a virgin, never had a girlfriend. Got university degree, I'm working out, dressing well... But seems like that's not enough because I'm awkward and boring. I have no more hope left.
@jackheinemann1994 7 ай бұрын
You can have all those things by valentines day if you just do, just gotta do it
@kristijan8518 7 ай бұрын
@@jackheinemann1994 do what exactly? And how?
@ian8270 7 ай бұрын
women don't care if you work out, they care if you have a personality
@kristijan8518 7 ай бұрын
@@ian8270 what can I do if I don't have a personality?
@kimkhoitruong5991 7 ай бұрын
@@kristijan8518 listen more to comedy bro, chill out and said what you interest at. there is 2 things happen : women likes what you tell the, or they dislike it and you save your own time and look for someone else, mindful and try to suggest the women to talk more about her then you find a way to insert yourself in and repeat the processs
@Detector1977 7 ай бұрын
it's better to be alone than treated like crap
@oysterman962 7 ай бұрын
Males get treated like crap in nature in general. Some female insects don't even require males to procreate. They have evolved through metamorphosis or cloning over millions of years. Humans are just learning to ditch masculinity now.
@Ragnar452 6 ай бұрын
Being alone is not bad at all. You have more money and more time to do whatever you want. What's to complain about. I see this as an absolute win. Maybe not for society but for you personally this is gold.
@EbikeAdventures667 5 ай бұрын
Same thing
@okgoogleplay3500 4 ай бұрын
jesus was deeply treated like crap by society.
@terryharris2558 7 ай бұрын
Women don't want us anymore, that's the big issue. Things spiritually have changed. Nobody knows who they are anyone, or what roles we're here to perform. I have come to the conclusion that women don't like us, and resent having to need men financially in the past. Where this leaves us, good question. We've just got to make the best of the cards dealt us.
@aracelymoran2504 7 ай бұрын
👍
@leninfranco9328 7 ай бұрын
Omg. Stop watching fresh and fit and all these red pill clowns
@forman208 6 ай бұрын
The real issue is social media and dating apps have given women such an ABSURD dating pool, logically, they're only going to go after the best looking/most successful men, leaving the majority out of the equation.
@What-he5pr 6 ай бұрын
True.
@littleripper312 6 ай бұрын
The truth is, you're not owed anything and now society is at a point where you don't just get everything because you showed up. You have to earn it. If you want someone to want to spend time with you then you need to be worth spending time with. I'm single and not the best looking and don't have a great job and if I'm to be honest I'm kind of boring most of the time, especially in groups. I'm learning to socialize more, improve my career and working out and I'm starting to make friends. It's not everyone else, its always you. If you have a negative mindset where it's everyone elses fault people can subconsciously pick up on it and will be repelled.
@CaptainWillard830 7 ай бұрын
Dudes are much better off alone. Remember that men are in love, women are in business.
@stevencooper4422 5 ай бұрын
"Some men die when they are 25, only to be buried at 75" - Benjamin Franklin
@jamessteele7102 5 ай бұрын
If a man does get married he should first insist on a prenuptial agreement (unless he is in a rare situation where she makes much more than he does).
@CaptainWillard830 5 ай бұрын
@@jamessteele7102 he should still her a prenup. Ensure any crumb snatchers that are bred, don’t end up with crazy rich wife!
@jamessteele7102 5 ай бұрын
@@CaptainWillard830 Good point.
@keithcourneya4900 7 ай бұрын
Its not rejection that men are afraid of. It's that a lot of western women have been indoctrinated into an intense dislike, lack of respect, and jealousy of men. I was recently in college (after retirement from the army) in a female dominated program and it was really disappointing to see. For me it started the moment in the first class we had where we all had to introduce ourselves and tell a bit about what we did before. I literally had women saying "who does that short guy think he is"🤣. Excuse me for putting my life on the line for our country and serving two tours in the middle east. Even being polite and saying hello or opening the door for them, which I do for everyone btw, can get these women passing rumors about you and "poisoning the well". Near the end of the program some literally told me they thought they deserved medals for being healthcare students during the coof🙄 I don't associate with anyone but exmilitary now.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
Yeah these are the types that ruin the dating pool for society as a whole as they push men away which in turn cause women who happen to be good to be without said men, and we can't even say anything out of fear of being misogynistic (Yes, this has happened before). But I do agree with that last statement to a certain degree, healthcare professionals (Not students) do deserve some recognition and respect akin to a medal, I remember the story of a healthcare official trying to keep a girl conscious after she fell and broke both arms after a fall. He didn't explicitly say if she died but he did say that she got quieter and quieter before she stopped talking. Another story I remember is someone having to refuse to let a father see his child's body after committing suicide, so he went to the basement and took out his childhoose baseball mitt to cradle as he whimpered, "Daddy's here now" as if he held his actual son in his hands. Not saying that they are on the same level as actual servicemen but they deserve a whole lot of respect.
@ShibaMcDripNu 7 ай бұрын
This is what our forefathers and ancestors fought for. /s
@alangwhiteTheBoss 7 ай бұрын
Bro as a vet u should not be so sensitive. The women who called u short have always existed it's just trendy to rag on men who r not Chad's. There plenty of chicks at college who would be chill and hang out with u. U just have to not care what ppl think and talk to everyone.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
@@alangwhiteTheBoss The issue wasn't that he was being "sensitive," it was the fact that the women he met were egotistical enough to disregard his past service as a veteran and even compare themselves to them because they were mere students in the medical field. Not professionals like nurses or doctors, but students.
@alangwhiteTheBoss 7 ай бұрын
@@EJ_Red I’m a veteran too I never expect ppl ton understand my service. I am always grateful when they do recognize it
@roboteen 6 ай бұрын
Is it loneliness? Or is it just that men are seeing a better way to live without the high chance of being called a creep and having their life ruined?
@sarahsmith3016 3 ай бұрын
No risk no reward
@skyking6989 7 ай бұрын
At 37 i no longer care. Im at an age where it just isn't gonna happen. Im to old and that ship has sailed. Im at peace with everything though. Going be happy alone
@oliver.n278 7 ай бұрын
same.
@w.adammandelbaum1805 7 ай бұрын
Bravo sir!
@skyking6989 7 ай бұрын
I don't worry about me. I worry for my nephews. What world are they going to grow up in?
@baki484 7 ай бұрын
Damn and when does the ship sail?
@skyking6989 7 ай бұрын
@baki484 For some guys they get sniz until the day they die but for me I gave up entirely at 33
@classyjuanito 7 ай бұрын
I enjoy being solitary. Maybe every now and then, I might feel lonely, given that I am not married with no kids. But, I can honestly say I enjoy spending time alone. I've been this way since I was a kid.
@kimkhoitruong5991 7 ай бұрын
same im also solitute from young age teenager
@Gunsight-One 7 ай бұрын
Same here. I was raised an only child with two rather disinterested parents so being on my own is second nature to me.
@RafaelSantos-vg3jd 7 ай бұрын
At least a bot won't cheat and divorce you, take half your assets, and demand child support and alimony.
@lilovs9952 6 ай бұрын
Demand child support?…you don’t wanna pay for the kid you fucked around and put in the world?
@kaczok1985 5 ай бұрын
Yet. I'm sure the feminists will end up fighting for bot rights. Remember, activism is not about achieving change, it's about constantly fighting for change.
@ravenusaugustus7129 7 ай бұрын
Men must help raising the morale of fellow guys now. Support is important.
@kimkhoitruong5991 7 ай бұрын
get together and teach the young and lost one how valuable their existence is
@littleripper312 6 ай бұрын
Older men need to mentor more. They have the life many young men want and they need to guide them in life. Not just with dating but friends, family work etc.
@tranzorz6293 6 ай бұрын
@@OneFreeMan17 Im gen x and this rot was alive and kicking when I was a kid. I was raised by a single mother in poverty, surrounded by other single mothers in poverty. We had feral lives no guidance, unwanted and neglected. Im sorry.. but were just as dysfunctional as this generation. Don't know what were gonna teach em as this its business as usual. Im from the uk and its been in decline for as long as I can remember.
@synthwave7 7 ай бұрын
Since my 50's my friends declined and I many times feel lonely. In big cities, people greet you but they don't become friends.
@rogueranger7989 6 ай бұрын
My Friends are the Dead Presidents I Carry.. 🤑
@jimbobfisher8904 6 ай бұрын
@@rogueranger7989can never go wrong with those guys!
@johnnyboyvan 7 ай бұрын
Women are so greedy now!! All about looks and money. I am done with them taking everything in a divorce.
@siccat6124 6 ай бұрын
Womp womp
@nicholaslawrence6926 7 ай бұрын
We must not confuse loneliness with solitude. You can be solitary and enjoy it without feeling lonely.
@hgbugalou 7 ай бұрын
Sure, but there is a difference between having friends and social experiences and choosing to be more solitude and never having those things and being forced to be in solitude. Most young guys need friends and social interaction. I am very much one who enjoys solitude, but I also am older now and had a rich social life when I was young. I know myself now, but did not back then. I also still have a set of best friends I can count on and still spend time with them and talk.
@esh3325 7 ай бұрын
Yes but we are not talking about that. This is about loneliness, sexlessness and feeling miserable because of it.
@coryleblanc 6 ай бұрын
nobody knows i'm alive, i sleep all day and i'm too depressed to eat
@hortenciac878 Ай бұрын
@@coryleblanc I hope you reach out and get some help.
@eduardobrigas4177 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for addressing this, I'm 33 for the last 2 years I've been just doing my job and hitting the gym, no girl, completely alone living abroad for the las 6 years, no children no family, still I'm sending all the money possible to my mother and other members of the familly for surviving due to my home country sittuation, it's very hard, Women always cared about Men's benefits it is in their nature and thats fine but with social media and current society low morals it's very dificult even for just a one night stand, having a girlfriend seens imposible nowedays as long as you are not close to be that top 1% Men they don't get interested in you, keep going guys, work on yourself forever no matter what, and be usefull for anybody who deserves your help.
@Whoeverwhateverwhenever 7 ай бұрын
Seriously, why do guys complain about women and "benefits" while these guys go after looks? Double standards.
@snappycenter7863 7 ай бұрын
@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever He never said anything about looks.
@mohamedalkaboom 7 ай бұрын
What an utterly depressing life. You probably need more sun and outdoors
@HNLAUN32 7 ай бұрын
As a man , I always thought women were unnecessarily unfair on men, but after seeing Tinder messages that my wifes friends have received from men. I can't no longer defend men's actions anymore. Even my sister, who plays sport, gyms and is a high school teacher. Has guy's ghost her all the time. She showed me their messages and they said stuff like - had the best time at dinner and I can't wait to see you again. Then, a few days later, I won't reply to a single message or return calls.
@dappidy3763 7 ай бұрын
@@Whoeverwhateverwhenever fr, I'm a woman and I never cared much about a guy's wallet, in fact I asked out guys who are basically what you call "broke" by today's market standards. 😂
@Stevesguitartraveling777 7 ай бұрын
It’s better to be alone than being with someone who makes you feel alone.
@jayl8547 6 ай бұрын
36 year old Army veteran here. I’ve been single for four years. No contact with women. The quality of women has went down drastically. I can sew, cook, clean, and think for myself but would allow a great woman to help if not do it all. Most women just don’t meet my expectations so I’m just going to keep searching. Never settle gents.
@richardscathouse 6 ай бұрын
I would settle for a woman who could cook and not set herself on fire 😢 w/hamburger helper 😢
@andrewevans7992 5 ай бұрын
@@richardscathouseif she has to cook shit out of a box thats premade, thats not cooking, thats just following instructions
@spidermuffin1596 2 ай бұрын
@@andrewevans7992 I agree with this bc I’m the kind of person who likes to make things from scratch. If I see a person who uses premade cookie dough and says they bake, I’d be offended.
@danthony4348 6 ай бұрын
Colleges and universities have played a substantial role: discrimination; teaching about toxic masculinity; breaking the “patriarchy”; alienation of men; etc. The end result is a significant decline in male representation on campuses and, as a result, a drop in male representation in many jobs/ industries. In general, women do not want broke men.
@spidermuffin1596 2 ай бұрын
I think toxic masculinity is a thing. It’s NOT being masculine- but thinking anything is wrong outside of a masculine stereotype. I saw a dude who said he wouldn’t play dolls with his daughter bc it’s “gay.” Like bro chill. It’s not gonna kill you to put your kid first. I feel like that is an example of toxic masculinity.
@danthony4348 2 ай бұрын
@@spidermuffin1596That is an example of toxic behavior; not masculinity that is toxic. His notion of what is proper was likely influenced by many factors the sum total of which resulted in his current situation (country, language, culture, religion, parents, siblings, friends, work, etc. Using words like “toxic masculinity” is a label to understand and categorize men in general who have toxic thoughts or act in a toxic manner. Why tie it to gender or sex?
@spidermuffin1596 2 ай бұрын
@@danthony4348 You’re right, it doesn’t need gender tied to it. there is also toxic femininity as well. Those two things touch different points tho so gender is used as a separation of topics. I get your point tho. If there weren’t so many dividers, there wouldn’t be a “gender war.”
@alwayspooh1588 7 ай бұрын
Perhaps we men are lonely because the kind of decent, good, morally upright women that we all seek are so few out there that the chances of us being lonely are so overwhelmingly high. By contrast, if you just want some floozie then there are lots of those about, as long as you lower your wants and settle for less than you are worth and want. What is the solution? Who knows.
@davidharman7245 7 ай бұрын
That is a great observation. I would like to add: people who purse moral excellence share certain passions and values. And often, they step out to be part of a community. This can create opportunities for friendships and romance as a young man. There are both young men and women who are crushed in a mindset of defeat and depression from abuse, childhood lonliness, and feeling they failed. They maybe even accept these and think they deserve a horrible lot in life. They are ignored by others, and definitely not seen as a dating option. However, if they pursue healing and purpose and let it change their soul - they can experience victory in life. And as their lives move in a new direction - former outcasts can become the most kind, high character, and captivating people to date. I would definitely recommend the book Wild at Heart, changed my life.
@alwayspooh1588 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for the suggestion, I will look into the book. However at mid 40s, I am only young in heart!@@davidharman7245
@pod5570 7 ай бұрын
Passport ans get out of modern Babylon
@keithcourneya4900 7 ай бұрын
Go overseas, dont fish in polluted waters
@declan-kr5if 7 ай бұрын
@@keithcourneya4900 passport bros are just valued for their $$$. A traditional woman would not be getting with western men, wake up
@egonjensen6506 7 ай бұрын
I've noticed that many young women don't even look and notice many attractive men. I've seen countless female shop assistants who don't even look at handsome and elegant men in their 20s and early 30s while taking payment at the checkout
@freakinccdevilleiv380 6 ай бұрын
Today you're lucky if they glance at you for a millisecond. Walking dead everywhere.
@leethebee101 6 ай бұрын
True, i agree. I can have long civilized conversations with much older women who always complement me rather than a lot of these girls and it’s sad….
@andrewevans7992 5 ай бұрын
Im 6’4. Women check me out n im not really a chad or that good looking ,
@divinebeing2476 3 ай бұрын
It's cause your tall lol@@andrewevans7992
@MalesAreDemons 18 күн бұрын
Becasue we at a JOB!!! You’re not entitled.
@user-is4bu8md3j 7 ай бұрын
Cut out the social media, it pollutes your mind. Stop watching porn and focus on being the best version of you. If you're involved with activity groups or have a larger social circle, you're bound to meet a decent woman. Being alone is not lonely, and as long as you have things to occupy yourself in a way that provides fulfilment, you won't be lonely. Stay strong, brothers 💪 👍
@joncheung1378 7 ай бұрын
That's an interesting insight. Getting fulfillment first is a good way to gauge the amount of loneliness in oneself
@hellmanksingh7967 7 ай бұрын
Lil cope per me. As you’re still involving yourself into larger social circles. Accept that one can feel lonely. Once that seeps in ( probably daily) it just fades away in a sense and we are not attached to the feeling of being lonely anymore. Men ( if they go all in to do something of immense meaning and have a great societal impact) can easily choose staying alone by themselves for the rest of their natural lives. Few women have also done it but here the odds are in favour of the male.
@NikosM112 7 ай бұрын
That doesn't guarantee you to get women if you aren't chad.
@Kyle-fp5lm 7 ай бұрын
@@NikosM112they always leave that part out.
@Znewts 7 ай бұрын
that doesnt change the material reality that I gotta get up at 4 in the morning to work a job I hate and dont get home until 6pm only to sleep for the next day..or that I need more than one soul sucking job just in order to work myself out of debt I acquired from school for a degree that was bs(don't get me started on the industry of tricking a bunch of minors into a lifetime of debt for jobs we're offshoring to china) I have no time or energy to work on myself/my passions/my social life. What good is cutting out social media I already cut out when that doesnt change the fact I'm going to die alone working in a ditch when others are going to retire and enjoy their families?
@maladyofdeath 7 ай бұрын
I've been alone for so long, I don't even remember what it's like to have a woman touch me, not even a hug or kiss. Dating is a miserable experience and has affected my mental health in a bad way. I just don't feel connected to anyone anymore.
@chadgrimes252 6 ай бұрын
I feel you i'm in the same boat, usually i would say all we could do is hope things get better but to be honest i lost all hope at this rate
@ForgedbyVi 7 ай бұрын
Modern social pressures make men feel guilty if they have feelings of competitiveness, desire, and aggression. We feel like we are only to be seen, not heard.
@baax 6 ай бұрын
Lol, nice excuse for not having a real crack at life
@jeffhogueison1656 7 ай бұрын
Good luck getting a women to leave her phone alone for a time to deprogram lol
@6packproductions710 7 ай бұрын
Men were told by women we aren’t wanted, and we are now listening. EDIT: with a little more time, I'm going to expand on the points made here: 1. Men's clubs and male spaces were great. They are now effectively extinct. Go ahead, try to make an organization that is a private club of some kind for men, only. Watch how the DEI activists show up to demand you open to women. Sounds fine, but once a woman enters a male space, the dynamics change. 2. I constantly hear people say men need to be more willing to express emotions. In practice, I've never seen that yield positive results. Hell, I'm nervous about a personal situation and my own mother disregarded my anxiety about an unknown situation. People claim this is a thing, but I've learned that those folks actually just want you to show specific emotions and specific times that they want from you. 3. The dating market is now winner take all, and there's no solution to it. Women have replaced men with the welfare state and their own careers. Good or bad? I don't care which, it's still accurate. As a result, to be desirable to women you either need to be extremely rich to the point where her other options are inferior, or so physically attractive she doesn't care about your income (both means you can be less of an extreme on either, but still need to be far above average). Most men will never be millionaires, and you can't make yourself taller. 4. Emotions are largely a biological form of feedback. Taking action is good, but just telling yourself "I'm not lonely, I'm disconnected" won't work if the evidence is to the contrary. Look at how many of these comments are men defending their isolation. Most men will go "I'm lonely BECAUSE I'm disconnected." Lift weights, join a club or two if you can, and realize the trend of women chasing after more elite men to a greater extent will never change.
@ShibaMcDripNu 7 ай бұрын
Just make a giant toilecthurch.
@vvsvoid950 7 ай бұрын
Of the points you mentioned we’re largely in agreement. Women make their own money, and are given/handed opportunities which allows them to choose men based on want and not need. Most men were never wanted it turns out. I think primarily the main problem now is how important looks are. If we’re never going to go back to a time in which women are with men based on need then it boils down to women’s choice. Women seem to want taller men, with very attractive faces, bedroom parts, hairline, etc. Men are afraid of rejection and don’t approach because we see and hear what women want; and we know most of us don’t fit the description. When half of men are essentially excluded from the dating women for things outside of their control. Oftentimes when men do finally date a woman, the woman treats them on average somewhat poorly and certainly treated the hot guy she had as a 2 year FWB/situationship much better. There’s really no solving the issue in my opinion. Women are only selecting guys based on wealth to use as a retirement plan and looks to actually have lustful romantic engagements with. Many guys think they are the latter due to the former and it couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s honestly just unpleasant for me to say this, but essentially a hot guy actually gets her water park running, while just being wealthy will have to sliding on a dry slide so to speak. If men have ever seen a hot guy and the extremely caring and positive treatment he receives from women, they’d probably take everything women have done to them into frame and realize they are not just getting a bad deal; they are getting abused by women. Hot guys and the way they are treated shows you who women really want. Women quite frankly after a certain age from 28 or perhaps 34, start to say they “matured” and they want to settle down. That’s happening less and less because women are fine with being a hot guys situationship even into their 30s now. I’ll also point out that many of these women didn’t mature, they just want someone to split half the mortgage with and they can’t get their hot guy fwb/situationship to do it. So this particular group of women just settles down with a dude for financial stability/assistance; however, this usually ends poorly today because she is in all likelihood cheating on her paypig/partner.
@karenmassey8354 7 ай бұрын
@@vvsvoid950Except men largely choose women based on looks as well so everything you wrote can be applied to men too.
@vvsvoid950 7 ай бұрын
@@karenmassey8354 of course, I agree. Men and women are more alike than most men want to admit to and most women want to admit to. I hope you continue to spread the word as well. Thank you.
@literallyonlyfanz2308 7 ай бұрын
@@karenmassey8354that’s really not all that true. Does beauty matter for women? Absolutely, HOWEVER, there is a study citing women find 80% of men unattractive, while men find most women attractive. Our bar for women’s beauty isn’t as high as women’s bar for men, women require A LOT more of men than we do of women. And this isn’t a “low standards” thing either, men just are more realistic, and don’t ask for the moon, stars, the whole galaxy, because we understand that’s impossible.
@JeffRage 7 ай бұрын
I'm 51 and haven't been in a relationship for 23 years. Yeah, I'm a tad lonely.
@coreyondavis6032 7 ай бұрын
It really took men this long to figure it all out??? In the end, some or most men would rather die on their feet than to live on their knees. Why would a man keep feeding a mouth that continues to bite?
@trey1941able 7 ай бұрын
Social media and the entitlement of women.
@brent4073 5 ай бұрын
The 19th amendment was a mistake..
@snappycenter7863 7 ай бұрын
There's a strange thing happening. I saw a poll that surveyed how many people are single in the US. Among those under thirty, there were twice as many single men (about 61%) as single women (about 31%). Aren't there a roughly equal number of men and women in a population? How can single men outnumber single women so much? (can't be "some are gay", because that applies to men too).
@frakismaximus3052 7 ай бұрын
In one part of the video, Antonio points out that the average young woman is now after the top ten percent of men. This might explain it... more women are in "situationships" with the top tier of men. Yaaaay feminism!
@user-vg8ox3he1i 7 ай бұрын
Two things are happening: 1.Women are dating older men (smaller percentage) 2.Women are dating the SAME highly attractive men. Which is why women are suddenly all having "situationships" with no commitment.
@jonyD143 7 ай бұрын
You can go to The Rational Male for more info on this.
@-glitch-8195 7 ай бұрын
Males lie about their relationship/marital status. There are plenty of married males who will straight up tell you they're single. So the "top 10% of men" theory is a myth. But y'll blame women for this for some odd reason. Of course, there are obviously women who lie about this as well. However, males are always "single." It doesn't mean they don't got a girl though. They're just mentally single. Also the status is based on those who partook in it. It's not a representation of the whole population. So if they polled 70 males & 30 females, how would you then come to a massive conclusion? I mean it's not a fair ratio, large enough sample nor do you know if those polled are being honest.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
Women often have high expectations when finding a partner. Men are guilty of this as well of course, but the expectations of women are often higher.
@TheZabinqp 6 ай бұрын
I'm 37 with no wife and no kids and i do not care what people say about me.People that talk shit about me sometimes they come and ask me for money.
@deetripletee7268 6 ай бұрын
“Chivalry is dead, and women killed it”- Dave Chappelle.
@intellectualsavage431 6 ай бұрын
He mentioned everything except for the fact that young men have literally been discouraged and demonized for approaching women publicly. That's why most guys rely on online dating now, especially younger men.
@MusicMike747 7 ай бұрын
I laugh at loneliness. I call it “peace, solitude, and independence”
@joedirt3449 6 ай бұрын
Precisely
@rogueranger7989 6 ай бұрын
Enjoying Every Moment of it.. 😂
@coryleblanc 6 ай бұрын
nobody knows i'm alive, i sleep all day and i'm too depressed to eat
@TheEmpress185 6 ай бұрын
@@coryleblanc Now we know you are alive so go eat something.
@julius-stark 6 ай бұрын
Honestly? As a single man with no kids, there's simple too many negatives to being in a relationship. Everything you do is wrong. All standards are toxic. Society not only encourages your woman to cheat, but wants you to be okay with it, as well as her wild past. Separating a father from his kids for a check is celebrated. I don't feel lonely at all, though I would have liked to have had kids, but not if it means becoming a slave.
@dcfv0001 6 ай бұрын
This hasn’t been my experience, being in a relationship is a fulfilling and beautiful part of my life! Being in love is wonderful and I’ve grown so much because of it. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve done, but I don’t regret it and I wouldn’t change anything about it. I wish other men could see things from my perspective, because I think nearly everyone is capable of love and having the experiences I’ve had.
@julius-stark 6 ай бұрын
@@dcfv0001 I'm happy for you. I hope it lasts.
@Ordoabchao-x9k 7 ай бұрын
It's a mindset. I'm a 30yo homeowner with disposable income, no children or woman to leech off my hard work or take it by force via the justice system with bs false claims. Can say despite having bad days due to work i am overall happy.
@maddyg3208 7 ай бұрын
Would you say that you "leeched" off your own father when you were a child?
@Ordoabchao-x9k 7 ай бұрын
@@maddyg3208 yes but he's dead so he doesn't care anymore.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
@@maddyg3208 Kids "leeching" off of you is only a problem if you didn't want to have kids but wasn't careful enough to prevent having them when doing the deed. Since it sounds like he doesn't want kids then he got the win in the end. His father we don't know, but like he said - he's dead. Doesn't matter now though bless his soul.
@Ordoabchao-x9k 7 ай бұрын
@QueerdoLoc yeah, i wish i had vacations to go have families in the other end of the planet 😂
@user-ko5ul7yi1x 6 ай бұрын
@@maddyg3208He has the right to "leech off" because he DID NOT ask to be here.
@jacqueslee2592 6 ай бұрын
This is a phenomenon with deep social, psychological, economic, and political consequences. That men are not taking women on dates alone deprives the economy from a lot of revenue. Hence, why cinemas, restaurants, malls, theme parks are bankrupt and declining since the past decade. These were places where men used to take women on their first dates, coinciding with the drop in dating, relationships, and sex. Condom manufacturers can also provide the statistics. Not many people are buying condoms any more.
@tyheildes6210 7 ай бұрын
Solitude is actually good for society. Not everyone wants to dedicate their time and resources to another.
@ReimarOfficial 6 ай бұрын
that’s true, but that still doesn’t solve the issue for those who do want connection
@tyheildes6210 6 ай бұрын
@@ReimarOfficial The question is WHY do those people want connection? Do they have co-dependency issues? Do they want kids someday? Do they want to appease society? That should determine how to proceed.
@BloodBornShadowWalker 3 ай бұрын
@@tyheildes6210bruh
@lmlm_ 7 ай бұрын
4:28 Feminist women basically sued them out of existence 40 years ago. Yet female-only gyms, female-only workspaces, and countless other female-focused programs exist today. 🤡💋
@MalesAreDemons 18 күн бұрын
Good
@bbrebozo6417 7 ай бұрын
The impact on society is not apparent until hard times come. It’s like Buffet says “you find out who’s been swimming naked when the tide goes out”. True for badly run companies and countries. When war comes, getting detached young men to serve becomes much harder. The Russia Ukraine situation illustrates this concept very well. Old soldiers mostly because the younger men have “relocated” away from the area.
@jprodriguez8566 7 ай бұрын
The real solution, Passport Bro!!
@larskamenec 7 ай бұрын
I always laugh at how accurate a comedian's joke was (I forget who it was): "Adult men don't have friends, they have wives - their wives have friends - and those friends have husbands". I think it to be VERY true that older men (I am approaching 50) have a hard time making friends. I am lucky to have a wife that is my best friend and has been since we were 12 years old - that doesn't come around every day. But it would be nice to have other guy friends who do enjoy the activities and subjects where my wife and I don't align as much. But between jobs, kids, houses, and general life requirements, it seems we all have about an hour a month where our "free time" matches up to get together. That does not build a lasting relationship.
@RevoOnRev1337 7 ай бұрын
thank you and appreciate for the personal sharing
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
A friend of mine is lucky then, his fiance happens to have some interests align with his
@larskamenec 7 ай бұрын
I would hope anyone getting married has at least a few interests that align. You will never find them all in alignment, but the important ones need to...then as you age you have to hope they remain aligned. That is the hard part.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
@@larskamenec Yeah the most significant/important interests for theirs do align and for them it is tabletop gaming (And gaming in general), so they already have some sort of investment to engage in as they get older. The only interests/aspirations that don't align, that I can think of, is certain TV shows with and the dream of moving to Florida (Or lack of for his part), both trivial in the grand scheme of things.
@larskamenec 7 ай бұрын
@EJ_Red I am not sure the moving to Florida thing is all that trivial. That is pretty major, actually. Where you live might be a Top 3 thing to agree on after life/political/social philosophy and children (and how to raise them). For what it is worth, I can understand his reluctance to go to Florida.
@DesertMav 7 ай бұрын
I'm in my mid-30s and I've never really had any luck with women. I'm not a top tier guy by any means, but it really sucks when even low tier women get more attention than me. Personally, I've been working on myself and making progress. I've watched some of the Red Pill content and they do make very solid points. However, they seem to focus more on either putting women down or pitting men against women most of the time. The best advice I can give to fellow men in this type of situation is to start improving yourself. Improve your fitness, improve your living space, hygiene, career, and the mental situation will start to improve as well. Also, dressing better will also help make you feel better.
@mormegil84 7 ай бұрын
The other problem with redpill is that it pits men again men, too. Evokes feelings of jealousy and inadequacy. We should all be helping each other.
@laturista1000 7 ай бұрын
Get used to rejections and the endless pursuit of building relationships with a healthy community of like minded people or people that challenge you to grow better. God will take care of the rest.
@FlameG102 7 ай бұрын
I end up feeling I missed the boat in high school/college. a good childhood friend gave me a love note in middle school. At that age I was in no way ready for that kind of thing so I turned her down. we remained friends though. in high school, she found someone else. I got along well with him too, and we are all 3 still friends. But I never really found anyone and I feel I was too emotionally immature to realize when a girl *were* interested in me. Early college I went on a small date with a girl I met in class, but i was always so timid that no followup ever came of it. frankly Id never known what i was supposed to *do* in hindsight its easy, just hang out until things get deeper. but I was already thinking "should I ask her to be my girlfriend? is that weird? that cant be how it is" and from there, nothing else ever happened. Now i'm 32, I am very much an introvert who would rather intimate gatherings than "going out", and my beliefs and tastes skew maybe a bit too old fashioned for my own good. and id like a girl that while not 100% the same, is a similar breed of "normal" person, yet out in the public world, those are rare, and when they do exist, there's current societal norms and job rules. Most jobs discourage intermingling in the workplace, and approaching a woman you dont know unless it's in extremely specific circumstances like a bar or club, is seen as creepy and weird. neo feminism has done a lot of damage to male/female courtship. Which isnt even getting to the notion of go-getter female businesswomen, who dont have time for no man, because they are pursuing a career. (and that itself opens up more subsequent cans of worms, as most men feel uncomfortable dating a woman of higher career/economic status than him, and frankly, most women feel the same in reverse. toss in the internet, phones, endless tv and entertainment at home, and there's never any reason for anyone who *isn't* an extrovert to go out and party, and there's even less for them to do if they try. sure there's always a way. But that first step- meeting someone that matches your preferences even halfway, as well as your personality, is incredibly difficult. Especially if you live in a modern big liberal city. Forget it then. the only women who seem to be out and about are the ones with pink sidecuts, go-getters, or the vapid kind.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
Dating apps feel more like I am applying to a job than finding a relationship. And adding onto what you said about "liberal cities," don't forget to consider social media.
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
Nevermind, you mentioned social media in an indirect way. Read your comment a bit too fast.
@FlameG102 7 ай бұрын
@@EJ_Red dating apps are awhole other can of worms in terms of how they have damaged dating and relationships. Despite all our talk of equality of the sexes, the fact is women will always have the advantage in dating, and now, they can just swipe, swipe, swipe, as if they were choosing from a menu at a restaurant. because there will always be more men on those dating apps than women.
@reanschwarzer2187 7 ай бұрын
I am of the opinion it’s just not our time I recommend reading a world without men by Aaron Cleary maybe go follow him I think that would probably be a good person for you to follow
@Donner906 6 ай бұрын
You need to volunteer and find ways to participate in the community. That is how to meet people.
@georgelush1998 7 ай бұрын
There is a difference between “I am….” and “I feel….” By saying “I am” you are identifying and defining yourself by the emotion. By saying “I feel” your conscious awareness acknowledges the emotion but realizes you are more than just that emotion.
@aracelymoran2504 7 ай бұрын
👍
@junipervip681 7 ай бұрын
Women have taught each other this for years. It benefits men too.
@fanofcodd 6 ай бұрын
Alone is not an emotion. It is a factual thing. If you die in your sleep , how long before somebody find you before the smell alert neighbours ?
@Othimbo 7 ай бұрын
In my humble opinion, Loneliness is caused by the lack of mastery of introversion. Any human who masters introversion is immune to Loneliness, end of story. Stay strong my brothers!
@pavelow235 7 ай бұрын
Yep because "Christopher McCandless" lived a fine life.....🤣.....lonely people have strange coping mechanisms.
@bpint695 7 ай бұрын
@@pavelow235 why do you demand that people feel bad when they aren't around anyone?
@pavelow235 7 ай бұрын
@@bpint695 He didn't go out to commit suicide, he went out to find purpose, and it's pretty clear seeking purpose on your own with no other human interaction is a recipe for disaster, regardless of what you think a noble life led is.
@bpint695 7 ай бұрын
@@pavelow235 that's not the point, people like you don't think it's possible to be 100% fulfilled alone, if a person says they are either: 1) they're taking a mega dose of copium to fool themselves or 2) they're crazy
@motauman1372 6 ай бұрын
No one will save you, only yourself
@profprofanity2308 7 ай бұрын
Early 30’s, refuse to be a step-dad = it’s already too late for me apparently so I quit trying. Online dating made it worse as I thought I looked average but apparently not. Good thing quiet, a few cigars and some scotch will band-aid it another night.
@w.adammandelbaum1805 7 ай бұрын
Remember Kipling's words in his poem The Betrothed..."A woman's only a woman, but a good cigar is a smoke."
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
I don't smoke but I have always enjoyed a good glass of liqour on calm and relaxing nights. What's your go-to? Mine is Knob Creek.
@maddyg3208 7 ай бұрын
Definitely early 30s is not too late for you mate, I had plenty of interest (much of it unexpected) from women up to my late 30s, and got married when I was 39.
@BlackJesusChrist666 7 ай бұрын
Antonio I’ve been a sub of yours for almost a decade. Funny enough your advices regarding menswear helped me get female attention that I had never experience in the past. I had a lot of fun but when things got serious got so majorly effed by women I nearly took my own life. After looking for answers I got black pilled beyond belief and realized my many looks deficiencies, which saved my life from being an oofie doofie divorcee cuck. Nowadays I’ve abandoned my dreams of having a family. It’s been 4 years since I dedicate myself to just work, lift weights and run 15-20k everyday to cope with life. Even though I have no friends or family I don’t feel lonely, I just don’t feel, I wonder if I’m just stoic but regardless I’m good. I just think it’s funny how this whole journey began with your vids. Still look back at the oldies to remember myself to dress classy and timeless.
@hgbugalou 7 ай бұрын
Not all women are evil bro I promise. I got majorly hurt a few times myself until I found my wife. You are doing it right though! Keep focusing on you and the right one will come around. When I stopped trying is when I finally found success with women and I mean the long term kind. Don't give up on your family dream yet, just put it on the top shelf for a while.
@barrettbritt 7 ай бұрын
@@hgbugalou you never know which ones are evil or not. Most relationships don’t work out. There’s no way to know if you ever found “the right one,” because they’re all the right one until they’re not. To suggest there’s a match for everyone is disingenuous. Not everyone has to end up in an amatonormative relationship.
@w.adammandelbaum1805 7 ай бұрын
Having handled hundreds of divorces and family Court cases in NY, I can assure you, my friend, that you are only missing out on being financially eviscerated and emotionally tortured by not having that "dream" of wife and family. In the majority of cases, it just doesn't work. There ain't an ass for every seat...sometimes you stand proud and alone.
@spikeboy101 7 ай бұрын
There are good women out there but it is 1/50, at least where I live in NYC. That's not worth it just mathematically. Most people don't improve themselves and they don't take improving their marriage and raising kids correctly, seriously. People do not deserve love, they deserve to be alone.
@kimkhoitruong5991 7 ай бұрын
you become a things that society fear the most, a WISE AND HEARTLESS MAN
@tarantulaina_jar7168 7 ай бұрын
It feels like I've gotten to to the mountaintop of self-love and healing, and I'm standing alone admiring the view, wishing I could share it.
@halcyonzenith4411 6 ай бұрын
Do not cast your pearls before swine, lest they be trampled into the mud and you be ripped to shreds.
@hgbugalou 7 ай бұрын
Never stop these videos reaching out to young men. They need it and as older, successful men, we owe them guidance.
@azhuransmx126 7 ай бұрын
Loneliness and relationships could be equally great. Solitude is bad. Being surrounded by people you dislike or that dislike you is the hell on earth.
@trottheblackdog 7 ай бұрын
Is it cruel or unfair to say that modern women have failed their part in the social contract? Or was this all inevitable?
@user-vg8ox3he1i 7 ай бұрын
What we learned is that without any social rules women will abandon society and pursue their own self interest even if it destroys them. They know there aren't enough top guys for them all. They know they have limited time to select a good mate. They don't care and they can't be reasoned with.
@TheShredtube 7 ай бұрын
The way society treats men, this was inevitable. Just how much do men tell other men to "man up", ignore others boundaries, almost acting like drill Sargeants getting ready for war.
@lotusmaglite 7 ай бұрын
It's certainly vague. What is your definition of "modern women," what do you mean by "the social contract," what do you see as "their part" of it, and in what way to you think they've "failed"?
@-glitch-8195 7 ай бұрын
"Social contract"??? 😂😂😂
@EJ_Red 7 ай бұрын
It was inevitable, though it came out as a result of various social trends and changes within the past 30ish years, the legal bias regarding men v. women being the biggest one nowadays.
@Housestationlive 7 ай бұрын
i'm 38 years old virgin and almost want to die at this point.
@sammyb1651 7 ай бұрын
You matter, man!
@Kyle-fp5lm 7 ай бұрын
Well, the virgin thing is easy to get rid of. I hear there’s new prostitutes every day in some cities.
@firstlast8258 7 ай бұрын
Take some politicians with you
@GearZNet 6 ай бұрын
@@Kyle-fp5lm If he's in America they're practically bussing them into every major city. 😅
@specs6637 7 ай бұрын
Haven’t watched the video yet, but based on the description and title I can see that you are someone who is genuinely trying to better your fellow man, and I thank you for that. In reality, we’ve known this, most of us have come to understand this. But we also know most people don’t care; and we refuse to believe the few heat do out of fear of being hurt again. It’s going to take a lot of work for us men to pull one another through the hard times that I see on the horizon
@indriadrayton1132 7 ай бұрын
We need Jesus, the One who died for our sins, the One who listens to you during your worst moments. The One who says, though your mother and father may leave you, I will lift you up. And Who sets the lonely in families. Jesus will be there for you!❤
@shadowmancy9183 7 ай бұрын
No, we need community, of which a religion can serve the role of. No one religion is the magic bullet. I'm still throwing off the learned helplessness that I have from being raised Christian so that I can actually make progress in my life.
@jameswetzel7406 7 ай бұрын
I’m a millionaire that hasn’t told anyone outside of my closest friends. I live simply because I stay invested. I lift weights 5 days per week. I play music professionally and work with kids. I speak three languages. I can’t even get a cute woman to spit on me.
@Inddesign 7 ай бұрын
Have you tried looking emotionally unavailable? lol bad jokes aside...(that attracts bad things... trust me you don't want to create a trauma bond of sorts) live your best life, company is overrated. if someone is "meant for you" she will come, do not be desperate even better do not show your longing!
@Ally2018. 7 ай бұрын
You are probably looking for too young too beautifull not offering the same.
@JohnQPublic345 6 ай бұрын
#1... don't give a shit. They like that attitude
@inksicktv 6 ай бұрын
Lonely nothing. I’m married to my passion. If I married a person, I lose time with that passion for someone who’s potentially toxic. I refuse to compromise with a world (society) that doesn’t compromise back.
@Theloverboy2987 7 ай бұрын
Using your sisters suicide to promote a sponsor is in bad taste.
@richardscathouse 6 ай бұрын
Indeed
@Brotherken1234 7 ай бұрын
"I'm a strong black woman, I don't need a man"
@Maxrepfitgm 7 ай бұрын
Take out the "black" and you got it right
@user-vg8ox3he1i 7 ай бұрын
It's all of them now. The new phrase is "I don't need a man. I want a man"
@Maxrepfitgm 7 ай бұрын
@@user-vg8ox3he1i I was on a dating app "I know lol" and rejected someone as soon as I saw "A man is a luxury not a need". Then had the nerve to want a relationship, nah, those words put you in the causal fun category not the wife one.
@Brotherken1234 7 ай бұрын
@@MaxrepfitgmI'm a black male, but black women led the charge in "I don't need a man".
@Maxrepfitgm 7 ай бұрын
@@Brotherken1234 Nah, feminism, started by white women, led the charge on it. We're black and in the black community so it seems like our women started it, but they didn't.
@jimvari1909 7 ай бұрын
Volunteer, join a club (hiking for example), limit your time online and gaming, attend and participate at church weekly.
@Arcticwind-xw6qg 7 ай бұрын
Don’t tell me what to do
@Donner906 6 ай бұрын
Tell that to anyone in this comment section to improve themselves is like talking to a brick wall.
@Scotty_Bo0m 6 ай бұрын
ok boomer!
@raven-sf3di 6 ай бұрын
It only really works for people working standard work hours 9 to 5 . At the weekend you can join your hiking club . But most men work shift patterns nowadays. are there any hiking groups that gather at midnight any church events take place at that time ? Before most companies used to finish at the same time and after work (and sometimes during break)you would play soccer and then off to the pub afterwards. Now everyone lives miles away from work so no one wants to hang about .
@Ragnar452 6 ай бұрын
Alone is not lonely. People seem to fail to understand this. As an introvert I am most comfortable left alone with my hobbies and interests. I also have my group of friends. Maybe it's bad for society in other ways but I am very far from being lonely.
@inaninstantkill 7 ай бұрын
I been alone since I was 13 and when i tried to be social i get bullied and disrespected by people and so called friends treated me as a punching bag Im now 23 I do not want to be around people and whats funny is people trying they best to convince me to hang around them like the fact you trying to convince me speaks about the atrocities people put me through :/
@analogboi9434 6 ай бұрын
Right!? It's like you're supposed to magically forget what you've been through. I know for a fact most people just want me to be a part of their social group so I can be the weak link and they can play dominance games with me in front of others. I'm not stupid, being alone isn't ideal but it's the best option I've got lol
@inaninstantkill 6 ай бұрын
@@analogboi9434 yeah some of us see humans for what they are early. I'm 23 and all people want to use me for is an emotional sponge to vent they frustrations and anger and act like I'm suppose to just take that. They'll use phrases like, "I'm just playing with you, right" or "oh that's what friends do they talk shit about each other" when I know for a fact friends don't bring friends down. They take pleasure from seeing you miserable or hurt that's why I stop dealing with people. I live alone now I make $100k a year even in this economy I'm doing okay, and with no debt. I'm happier alone, no relationships, no marriage and no cohabitation. Just focusing on my own happiness because so far the only one who wanted me to be happy was me.
@mr.talldarkandhandsome4111 7 ай бұрын
I went out for a drive today. The more that I thought about my loneliness, the more I now see it as a blessing from God, himself. I now leave my life and purpose in his hands.
@Cauliflower_ears_750 4 ай бұрын
I am 39, engaged and when I was single, I was not lonely. I'd rather be alone than around people I can't stand.
@SkuzzelB8 7 ай бұрын
I got fed up living paycheck to paycheck by the time i was 23. Sure, i was meeting plenty of women, but i had no money. I decided to chase the bag. Moved back to the home ranch and took it over. I'm 35 now, and the bag is secure, but it feels like it came at the cost of meeting a good woman when i was much younger. I fear i may have missed the boat.
@w.adammandelbaum1805 7 ай бұрын
Nope. You'll never lose women chasing money, but you'll lose money chasing women.
@karinahall4915 7 ай бұрын
35 is not old.
@Icequake. 7 ай бұрын
What is this slang lol
@phalynwilliams4119 7 ай бұрын
You are a great age to meet a nice woman.
@rogueranger7989 6 ай бұрын
Trust me, better off going Solo..
@1HeatWalk 7 ай бұрын
The internet is filled with wisdom for younger men offered by our elders. The same tricks women use to manipulate us no longer works on us. "A wise man learns from other's mistakes".
@mountainmgtow5421 6 ай бұрын
NO ONE CARES THAT MEN ARE LONELY! Just ask women.
@Alien_Nukes 7 ай бұрын
Im a 31 year old half Mexican half black dude , never had a GF , nor Kissed , nor held hands or danced with a female. I had friends i use to play basketball but they all moved away after high school. Im definitely behind in life and ill be honest i feel like theres nothing to live for
@ivxidzi5256 7 ай бұрын
Its alright bro Try to find god life is hard but gotta keep going .
@zx6r502 7 ай бұрын
I’m 21 it’s exactly like that for me. Gets closer each day haha
@Alien_Nukes 7 ай бұрын
@@zx6r502 part of me wish I was your age but part of me knows of have it even worse in today's confusing time. I feel bad for gen z and alpha coming up. This is why I never talk down on gen Z men even if I strongly disagree with them on some things. I completely understand the frustration and anger to society.
@zx6r502 7 ай бұрын
@@Alien_Nukes yeah it has always been like that for me never had friends or anyone always been alone don’t even know where to begin or start. I just drink and smoke till I feel something usually don’t sometimes I get close but to much of a coward to go through with it I guess
@Alien_Nukes 7 ай бұрын
@@zx6r502 damn bro im sorry man. We men gotta stick together.
@flymarkus0957 6 ай бұрын
Approaching an A.I. female NPC: “I have boyfriend “
@dariorivera1539 7 ай бұрын
I woke up this morning and realized how lonely I am. I am not kidding and I wrote about it in my journal. The context is that I am going back to University next week and I am moving to another apartment. However, I need to find a roommate. I can't do that because the handful of people I do know already have a spot secured and I went to bed thinking about who I could ask and my mind went blank. I only really talk to about 4 people and they all have a spot already secured. I went to bed with that thought and I woke up realizing just how alone I am in university and how I don't have many friends. Most days I just come home to get on the PlayStation and watch KZfaq. I get the grades, but I don't really go out and meet people and this has hindered me in the long run. Something feels incomplete. It is nice to see a video about loneliness and I feel better equipped to make a meaningful change this year, so thank you! I know I am not the only one dealing with this and it seems like I can find a real solution for myself.
@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687 6 ай бұрын
Once men get used to loneliness, it just becomes solitude. I don't know what men are lonely, but I've never felt that way. I do what I want and spend my money on just myself and my family. MGTOW for the win.
@stonesfan285 7 ай бұрын
Yeah I feel lonely a lot. But I have taken more time to discover my hobbies and learn to be happy doing things by myself. It allowed me to discover who I was and create my own happiness. If a woman wants to be a compliment to that, great. If not, my life will go on and I will be okay. My parents want me to get married and have kids, but I don't owe anyone anything except happiness to myself.
@Inddesign 7 ай бұрын
You sir have dropped a pearl of wisdom here! best wishes!
@leethebee101 6 ай бұрын
Sounds like your folks don’t understand how much of a cesspool modern day society is
@iamaronman 6 ай бұрын
I'm a loner, not lonely, there is a difference.
@gibson_az 7 ай бұрын
Great discussion mate. I like how you address this issue and try giving advice not only to the young men, but anybody who feels very lonely especially in the current era
@basicprogrammer6147 5 ай бұрын
I was ambush divorced at 55. I am a man. She kissed me goodbye and went to her sister's, and two days later the police were at my door giving me 20 minutes to pack a bag and get out. Then, two weeks later in my dive hotel room, her lawyer called saying she wants a divorce. 24 year marriage, two smart children, a paid off house with a picket fence, and a kitten... all down the tubes just because "she can". I am telling you, men: if you make ONE mistake, she is counting down the days to divorce you. There is no worse hell than what I am going through right now. I have wept for 500 days straight. I do not want to be here. The thought of ........ myself feels more comfortable in the late evening. But I have to children. I do not know what to do. Please pray for me. I am going to hell forever.
@spidermuffin1596 2 ай бұрын
I’m sorry to hear that. If you need to rant more please feel free to.
@realjoedee 6 ай бұрын
Men have the ultimate trump card: a passport. Not all cultures are created equal.
@mikes.7952 7 ай бұрын
Lone Wolf McQuade is a classic. Advice to young guys watching. Put down the phones, social media, and what not. Yes, you were robbed of the club and bar days pre social media and it was awesome. Had to be social. If you’re lonely, start by picking three random people, smile, and say hello through out the day. Go to a bar or networking event and force yourself to introduce yourself to everyone. Get out of your head and just do it. You’ll be surprised. There’s a reason us guys in out late 30’s and early 40’s are taking your women. That is a joke and serious. Just get out there and not be afraid of getting rejected. Practice makes perfect.
@consciousgentile5141 7 ай бұрын
How about, no? You can have them, Bro
@jokernabastard2828 7 ай бұрын
Solitude is not loneliness.
@DutyFirst 7 ай бұрын
💯. Not having a sexual/romantic relationship also shouldn't be seen as some kind of failure on the contrary having one an accomplishment.
@kmech3rd 6 ай бұрын
Being alone is exhausting. Women are exhausting. Life is exhausting. Simple as.
@Inddesign 7 ай бұрын
my advice: -have a supporting social circle, discard toxic people a.s.p. no matter your degree of attachment or relationship. -have more self love. -have a purpose in life! doesn't matter how silly might seem to others. (keep it a secret) -be kind to yourself but also be disciplined. -don't take any kind of abuse. -choose carefully the women/person you want to be your life companion. yes is not easy but don't give up. best wishes for you guys!
@gbd-oq1rz 7 ай бұрын
What about if I have autism. Which most men or women do not understand at all. Talking living life on an even harder mode
@Inddesign 6 ай бұрын
@@gbd-oq1rz I might be horribly wrong but I suggest you to "wear a mask of normalcy" when in public, see patterns and take what might convenient for you, mirroring is also an option to blend. but always have true friends, nothing is easy... I am aware of that. be careful about trusting people. and I am not "normal", I must seek help to socialize and interact with people because, "people are strange" heck, I'm not even a native English speaker and I hail from a country where you are supposed to be joyful and a party animal. what I have done to cope? Imitate people that I know, just bits of course. my apologies for the long comment!
@adamk.5552 7 ай бұрын
As a man, once you go through the process of deprogramming your brain from the social construct you were growing up in, trust me you will be more content. Surround yourself with like-minded men, develop some interests. Men were biologically engineered to create, build, innovative. Occupy your mind with constant learning. Put your muscles to work. Don't worry about purpose in life, fear of not experiencing, trying new things in life! Remember, life is a journey and you sure don't want to miss out on anything. Don't give up on your life. God gave you this wonderful gift of life. Don't waste it. Live the best life you possibly can, and you will be fine my friend 👌
@MrAschroeder1 7 ай бұрын
I don't see what the big deal is...being alone is amazing. Total freedom and autonomy to live life as you see fit. What's not to love?
@devin5381 6 ай бұрын
Nothing wrong with being Catholic.
@patrickbotz-forbes6444 7 ай бұрын
Antonio, one thing you didn't cover is the fact that there are more single men than single women. It is easy to get out and do stuff, be part of social groups, interact with co-workere, participate in volunteer groups, go to the gym, practice martial arts, feel connected to other people, yet still feel alone.
@lotusmaglite 7 ай бұрын
Excepting a massive and under-reported epidemic of MMF throuples, that is mathematically impossible. In the US, that is. Elsewhere, it's only exceedingly improbable.
@StarboyXL9 7 ай бұрын
Sex robots are only scary to women and PUAs, both for the same reason: sudden lack of access to hardworking men's resources.
@saliver5909 7 ай бұрын
I am alone but I don't feel lonely ever. People have been bringing me all sorts of troubles anyway. They never leave me alone and want me to do things for them for their benefit only. When I am alone I feel relieved and free. No more BS and mind game from annoying people. I guess I can never understand why people will ever feel lonely.
@spidermuffin1596 2 ай бұрын
This is not only a man thing but a woman thing as well. It sucks getting used and makes it harder to open up to people for sure. I hope to gain your attitude about it tho.
@Aeternum_Gaming 5 ай бұрын
divorce court is why i will never date again. i lost my home, kids, money, everything. women wanted everything, they got everything. i have no intentions of ever marrying again.
@user-jc2ds3xw4u 7 ай бұрын
I have no reason to have a child or relationship
@phillipsheppard5361 7 ай бұрын
I think there’s a very real difference between being lonely, and being alone. There have been a number of psychological studies that have found that certain (not all) men flourish when they are alone, they’re referred to as Sigma males.
@BJBoyd 7 ай бұрын
Can you provide sources for these studies? I’ve been a clinical psychologist for over 20 years and the “alpha/beta/sigma etc.” male distinction has largely been regarded as inaccurate. That is to say, if studies are out there I genuinely would like to read them. Also, that’s not to say that some people don’t do just fine being alone. But that would be much more of a matter of where they fall out on the array of ordinary personality traits.
@bluechip6596 7 ай бұрын
Holy shit that's cringe
@phillipsheppard5361 7 ай бұрын
@@BJBoydmost of the information I’ve gathered on the subject has been from Dr. Jordan Peterson, and the studies he has sighted. While I am certainly not a psychologist like yourself from what I understand he is a fairly well respected member of your professional community, although admittedly I don’t know that for a fact. If the information he is giving is not factual I would certainly be interested in knowing it.
@lotusmaglite 7 ай бұрын
@@phillipsheppard5361 Unfortunately, Jordan Peterson is not well-regarded among his "professional community." Several of my oldest friends hold PhDs in psychology, and they don't have a high opinion of him. Back in the day, he did some conventional work in the field that was regarded as credible and sound, but none of his latter works are regarded as such. He blends a drop of psychology with pseudoscience and personal philosophy, and because a large part of any listening audience is ignorant of psychology, they're unable to tell the difference, accepting it all as "science." It helps that the vast majority of his following are men who like the answers he gives to their questions/problems, and thus aren't particularly interested in examining them very closely. (Note the pushback you got immediately from the profession, re: "sigma males". It's this sort of quackery that separates Peterson from the serious scientists and scholars in the field.) What Peterson is quite good at is making a shedload of money selling a personal philosophy that comforts people who question the benefits of the cultural shift. They're right to question it, of course, but unfortunately, there is no dearth of con men and snake oil salesmen out there, looking to make a buck selling easy answers to complex questions. Peterson is especially adept at it, couching his philosophy in a lot of very official-sounding rhetorical flourishes, and speaking the language of plausible deniability with great fluency.
@Whats_newss 7 ай бұрын
@@phillipsheppard5361 "Trust me bro"
@shaymalchione809 6 ай бұрын
Loneliness is a personal problem. You aren’t lonely if you actually enjoy yourself. Try a new hobby, travel, etc.
@janovmi2 6 ай бұрын
im not lonely, im aloner and i dont mind, i dont need people in my life
@rimiserk8277 7 ай бұрын
Giving rights to women leads to hypergamy which leads to loneliness for men which leads to apathy for men which leads to fall of civilization which leads to women losing their rights which then leads to men having purpose again which leads to prosperity and rise of civilization again which leads to women getting rights again which leads to hypergamy...
@hypolaristic 7 ай бұрын
TFM was right
@Yomel123 7 ай бұрын
Great explanation to why don’t like y’all
@GearZNet 6 ай бұрын
@@Yomel123 You'll love the barbarians at the gates. 😂
@Yomel123 6 ай бұрын
@@GearZNet every man will be a barbarian at the gate. We know how yall are
@andradeb2695 6 ай бұрын
@@GearZNetwhen the time comes it's not worth saving them 😂😂
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