1. MUST CONVEY: I love you and I’m on your side ✨ 2. HOWEVER: here is how your behavior is impacting me : articulate what the behavior is & how it’s impacting you without judging/criticizing the person 3. I can’t make you change this but if you do not change the behavior I have to change somethings: articulate the boundary THEN CLEARLY ARTICULATE THE BOUNDARY✨

Lawd Jesus!!!! I been struggling back and forth on a conversation that's going to have to happen and was having anxiety thinking about it....Lord this is right on TIME!!!!

More classes on communicating effectively should be implemented

When I tell you God gone give you the answers you need when you need them by any means necessary! These 12 minutes and 32 seconds was everything I needed! Thank you God and thank you for allowing Him to use you!!! 🙏🏾

Wisdom spoken....Wisdom received!!! Thank you, Pastor, for DAILY pouring into us!!!

Tips for tough conversations strategies: 1. I love you and I’m on your side 2. Here’s a behavior I noticed and this is how it’s impacting me 3. I can’t make you change this behavior, but I have to change some things if you don’t 4. If this doesn’t stop, this is exactly what I’m going to have to do.

haha I LOVE that when I think a message isn't relevant to my situation right now, it always turns out to be. Thank you for this, I wasn't aware this is something God wants me to work on.

Yes my emotions are affecting my relationship in Jesus name

Greetings Everyone GOD BLESS YOU ALL 💟🙏

Pastor, I have learned that even in anger, ppl spew out things that are no where near the truth. With trying to be effective, I can no longer expect others to correctly interpret anything. These words have put me in position of RELEASE, HEALING and UNSTUCK as I continue to learn better and more precise delivery. Its the response for me for me. No judgement. FREE Thanks for the holy nugget. Big Blessings!

Thank you for posting this mini message on tough conversations and the need to negotiate them. God bless you.

This is a breakthrough for a lot of people.

Praying for my communication skills to increase in every area of my life

Definitely need this ❤

Tnx dr💕.. Love frm Nigeria 💪🏾🇳🇬

this framework is so helpful

Learning how to be more assertive God is good I was just what I need when I needed right on time he is always on time 😁

Love it lately sounds been low

This goes right there with your 5 types of people you cannot help message. Such wisdom and guidance here. Thank you PD!

So important to be present in the moment.

Languishing is failure to THRIVE.

Much needed in my season

The spelling on the cover photo. Love Pastor Dharius!! He deserves proper spelling in and ON his videos!

Oh my Lorddd!!! Speak to me Holy Spirit! Pay attention! This was a direct word!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

Conversation about Conversation! Let's Go I'm ready for this LIFE TEACHING!👂🏽🧠🫀🤝🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽💪🏽

Thank you Pastor Dhaurius you have taught me so much over the years and I am so grateful for all the wisdom I am self aware that I haven’t been Assertive in communicating how I felt in conversation always trying to please others people but I am learning how to communicate effectively from a emotional healthy perspective God is peeling back layers of truma pain hurt and years of abandonment and rejection but I accept being called to this area and confident that I am excepted in the beloved you are a phenomenal teacher, and pastor and mentor that is helping so many people to walk in freedom and the truth of God’s word “knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.” ‭

Lord, forgive me for taking my frustration out on people who didn't do anything

Thank you pastor for sharing this timely advice.

I needed this last year! Glad I have the tool now

Thank you so much for this powerful word

This was right on time for me Pastor. Thank you!

On point!!!!

Awesome video.😊

I love the new format...color, words etc....love it

So glad PD studies Drs. Henry Cloud and John Thompson because their work on boundaries, growth, and healthy relationships is amazing. The book Boundaries is a MUST read and How We Grow is a deep dive into knowing ourselves better in the context of our Christian walk.

Thank you

Practical. Honest. And soooo good🙌🙌🙏

thank you Pastor that was a great help God bless you

Ohhhhh this is real good

Thank you so much Dr. Darhius!!!!!

Such great suggestions on the “How To’s” and taking them verbatim!

Thanks pastor I received this message from you in Jesus name!! I pray I have courage to have that conversation. 🙌🏾🙏🏽

Read these in Cloud and Townsend’s Boundaries In Marriage

Always come just in time!!!

So good!

Wow very profound!

Woww soo good! Thank you 🙏🏾

this is sooo good thank you

God bless you pastor D🙏🏾🙏🏾❗️

Turned off Dr. Phil when I saw this topic from Dr. Dharius! Thanks👍🏼 I needed this more🙏🏼🙋🏼‍♀️

Wowwwww

This is for me. Thanks pastor D

Thank you for this

Good stuff!!

Thank You Man of GOD for these 4 tools 🔧 for the inevitable Tough Talks. I will implement this teaching to my life and share this message with my Sister!🤝🏽

Thank you for this Word for me!! Right on Time!!

Assertive.

THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS MORE THAN YOU KNOW, ⭕🙏💙

Definitely needed this. God Bless

Wisdom principles 🙏🏾

So so factual!! Amazing & insightful Thank you Ps. Dharius 🙏🏽🙏🏽

Hi Dr Daniels thanks again for the powerful message ❤️❤️❤️

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I feel like im coming out of an 8 year fog over my life. I appreciate all ur wise words.

Love this teachings every day, Hi from Cuba🙋🏽‍♀️

THIS IS SOOO GOOOOD PASTOR!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH! GOD BLESS YOU....I NEEDED THIS!

Thank you for your help and for sharing your gifts with me. Thank you for your information and it’s greatly appreciated! Much love to you and yours. Peace and ❤ to you

Yes, We are responsible for how we deliver. Yes…assertiveness.😊

If had the right way especially for people that are meant to be in my life.

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Very well spoken and very relatable. I’m finding each time I watch these I am empowered to have real change in conversations and relationships. The book is also very useful.

OMG Pastor D THANK YOU !!! This is so right on time for ME !!! My GOD Conformation 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏾🙌🏾🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️😭😭🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️

Tough Conversation

Amen. Dr. D. I was a victim of unnecessary evil. It really didn't affect me 10 years ago. Now I realize that my Husband had the power to defend me , and He never did. His Ex wife and family never accepted me, and did everything to break me down. He never said anything. Now I feel like He was never for me. Tis has caused great pain and trauma in my life. Im 54 years old now, and I am emotionally drained. Hes 65. And he still says NOTHING TO MY DEFENSE. Help me Lord God almighty. Because He doesn't want to address , or even acknowledge His part.

Boundaries SO IMPORTANT AND MUST BE HONORED YES THANK YOU SO MUCH

I needed this! Thank you for this message. I have been trying to support my boyfriend who is experiencing the grief of his mothers passing and he has pushed me away. It’s really starting to affect me. I’m trying to be there for him and not be insensitive. This is really helpful as I will be having a conversation with him.

I personally have no problem listening to other people however I like to keep my mind open for my own opinions than others and I encourage people to have original thoughts instead of letting people think for you

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Wow! This was much needed. When I fail at tough conversations that take so much for me to have & they blow up, I’m dumbfounded. This just showed me the areas where I need to improve. So grateful ❤️

Relationships.

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Lemme do another self examination cause I haven’t fully recovered from this weekend

In the words of PD, "Put some 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥in the chat if this is good💣🎤🎤🎤💣💣💣🎤

It may not “feel” comfortable.

Find the words to express the heart of these : 1. Convey : I love you and I’m on your side. 2. However here is how your behavior is impacting me. Their response is a revelation of how the person sees things 3. I can’t make you change this behavior but I have to change some things if you don’t. 4. If this doesn’t stop, this is what I’ll have to do.

? Dr.D The WORD THRIVE changed my life it's like the word has a heartbeat 💓💓 ,? What attracted you to the word THRIVE. I put it on EVERYTHING HOT ☺️ SAUCE

I hv allowed my partner to b part of his 3y old child . I suggested that he makes arrangements wt baby mummy abt calls , visits so I can b aware n prepare myself . Now the lady calls at nights for baby to talk to him ? I told him am not happy, was I emotionally n unreasonable to express my feelings about night calls?

Integration.

My husband is COMPLETELY DECEIVED INTO THE FALLACY THAT HIS ADULTERY & FORNICATION & PROSTITUTION DOESN'T AFFECT OUR MARRIAGE 😭

First of all, this needs to be 2 hours 😤 Second, why you so loud 😂😩

its crazy that nobody else sees what you all stand for and do behind closed doors.Just because somebody is black does not mean they wish you good.Don't think they are all not working with enemy behind the scenes.they speak like the enemy they act like the enemy and now they wonna say "we are in a relationship". How can somebody in church claim you are friends yet they see you being setup and they laugh???? They know their friend ain't gonna marry you,he is just a bluff attaching theyself to steal something for their own agenda and they know them scriptures is a lie they working for the enemy??? And you say "relationship"You see someone being setup to loose their house,jobs and they with a child and you say YOU AreNOT BURNED WELL ENOUGH IN THE FIRE TO BE RESCUED????? WHILE ALL THIS TIME THEY PRODUCING AND PUBLISHING THEIR OWN BOOKS,THEY FLEXING THEY ARE MARRIED.THIS 3 MEN ARE PURE EVIL IN DISGUISE.YOU WONDER WHY GOD AINT COMING TO RESCUE YOU.THEY DANG SET APLAN OF DIFFICULTIES AND FAILURE.THIS ARE YOUR OWN RACE.SO THEY CAN STEAL YOUR BLESSINGS THIS PASTORS ARE JUST EVIL.THEY THINK JUMPING ON PODIUMS WITH SOMEBODYS PRIVATE LIFE IS A RELATIONSHIP.THIS GENERATION IS BEING LED BY NARCISSISTIC PASTORS AND THERE WILL BE NO REVIVAL BECAUSE THEY SEE SOMETHING IS WRONG.INSTEAD OF DOING THE RIGHT THING.THEY REFUSE.GO JUMPING ON PUBLIC PLATFORMS ACCUSING THE WEAK WHO NEED HELP ON NONEXISTENT RELATIONSHIPS.HOW THE HELL IS STEALING SOMEBODYS PRIVATE LIFE AND JUMPING WITH IT ON PUBLIC FORUMS A RELATIONSHIP??? THIS PASTORS ARE ALL NARCISSISTIC AND EVIL.GOD IS SAYING SIT AND WATCH . WATCH THEIR MANIPULATIVE DECEIPTIVE BEHAVIOURS PLAY OUT.THEN THEY CLAIM WE ARE NOT GOING TO BLESS YOU..BUT GOD" THEIR God's wants to use your life.DO THE WORK & PAIN &SUFFERING BUT WE ARE GOING TO GIVE YOUR HARVEST TO YOUR CHILDREN.THIS PASTORS ATE PURE DEVILS IN PLAIN CLOTHES.They don't care if they did.TRUSt Me you can not steal or change the prophetic.it will fail.God will make sure it fails.They just want you attachment for their own gods