I’ve always said that if all women rose to their worth, then men would have no choice but to do better. It really is that simple.

“ A woman has more influence in a man’s life, then he has in her life”. - Tony Gaskins

Tony I passed my first test with a man. He said he was gone call me Tuesday didn't hear from him until Today (Thursday). He was expecting me to call him but when he saw that I wasn't gone call him, he text me, no how you doin just did you study your music. I waited before I answered him and thought about what you said. First he didn't call me like he said, then he texted me, then he acted like he didn't do nothing wrong and then tried to be in control by asking me had I done what I was supposed to do. So I politely texted him back and said what happened Tuesday. He waited until about 30 min before he texted me back because I caught him off guard, then he said he forgot. I left it at that. Tony is teaching us ladies the truth listen if you want a better relationship, that was 3 tests that I passed and I would have failed had it not been for Tony's teaching. Thank You Jesus.

Best relationship coach on the planet- this dude right here is the truth. God bless you brother

“A man will do what he can get away with. Point blank. Period.” Truth!!!

I've been lied to, used... I used not to have standards, I put up with so much emotional trash in the past. I gave EVERYTHING in exchange for nothing. Disrespected my body, my soul, strayed from the right path... So I'm not gonna fake it. I've been in a dark place. The last time my heart was broken I found your channel, Tony, and since then I have learned so much about what I did wrong in the past. I am educating myself thanks to you, and every day I remind myself where my boundaries are. I didn't even have the concept of standards before finding you. There's so much left to learn for me! I'm going through the process with gratitude and with your guidance. Thank you!

The Lord called Tony to speak over an hour today, so I know this message is highly needed! 🙌🏾🙏🏽

“When you say, I refuse to be with a man that does this this this this this, if that man wants you, he gonna change.” TG

"Everybody tough in the comments..." -Tony Gaskins 😏🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦🏽‍♀️

I get so excited for my next relationship when I watch these videos, I feel like I have the tools and knowledge for success this time. God bless you.

I'm only 5 minutes in the video, but I must say that a lot of us DON'T think men are tough and strong 😂😂. Most men are fragile, extremely sensitive, lost, and break far too easily! Okay, let me finish watching...

“For a man to watch Pern” 🗣jesus I’m literary hollering

If women are so classy, then why are so many men getting over on them? The problem is that so many women don’t want to be alone. Men know this. Men in turn can do whatever they want to women. That’s how women get bought. It’s not always about money. A man can get over on any woman he chooses because he’s a master of the game. Women have to learn to play by their own rules not just the man’s. Show a man your rules. Let him know you won’t play unless your rules are in play as well. It’s all in the game. Men know that rules are meant to be broken. Don’t let him. There are too many men with carnal minded spirits who want to change you. They will test your character and Christianity. Resistance to these games is where your strength lies.

My husband was with his girlfriend for 10 years ,we got together and with 6 months he was talking marriage and I asked why he was willing to marry now and been with someone else for so long Men change for what he truly wants

Tony Gaskin pull the sheets off the women who hiding behind their demons.

"What made you think that a man cursing you out is apart of a relationship?" I even cringe at the fact that some men call the women who they're in a relationship with the B word...and they respond to it. Sis.. you have a name.❤

Recap: It's not about "teaching" a man. It's about knowing who you are and your standards and whether you stick to them or not. A man will rise up to these standards if he wants you. When it's genuine change, a man does not necessarily change for the better because he wants to of his own (personal) accord. It is because a woman has positively influenced him to. A woman can be used as a tool by God (or the adversary, depending on the woman). Tony's life is a living example of his wife's loving influence on him, which acted as a catalyst for his growth. A man can also act as a catalyst for the betterment of a woman's life. Women actually have tremendous influence on a man (more so than vice versa), but because of not knowing themselves, desperation and fear of being alone, they give their power (in the form of influence) away. How a woman can run a home smoothly can translate into the political arena and other domains. Men are afraid of losing their power to women, so they want to suppress a woman. This is similar to how whites would oppress blacks in the days of slavery.

Women need to stop being so gullible and also lying to yourself. If we make it a habit to constantly examine ourselves, you will learn more about what needs to change in your life and behavior. We can always use improving too, nobody has “arrived” yet.

You can know your worth, have standards etc. and still get tried, tested, disrespect for the first time by someone you were getting to know. Many of us know to run for the hills on the onset of such revelations. I have certainly seen the weak side of these modern men. They definitely aren't built like the men/elders in my family.

Rich man, broke man, poor man, down on his luck man, in between jobs man, I don't care what kind of man, I still can't be bought. Period! My peace of mind is priceless... I have seen it all and I'm wiser today than I've ever been.

You gotta “Cut them off”.. and don’t play any games! And don’t be afraid to leave!! Ladies we are Gods creations and we must know your worth!😎

I'm here as a man listening & learning ❣

Just to let u no my best friend got me to start listening to u and I’m so thankful for that but just to let u no I only been listening to u for about 3-4 weeks and she got killed last Friday October 2 and her ex was the one who did it....it is a very sad time for me 😢😢😭😭 if u can pray for the family plz thanks for everything u do

Here for my lesson and laughter 👑❤️😂

"She done pulled a double shift, didn't get in the shower.... and im gone bite a wing!?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭😭😭😆😆😆😆

Careful not to allow those spirits to enter your life. They're hard to cleanse!

Tony you are completely right about training a man. My mother told me that whatever you let a man do in the beginning or treat you that's what he will do, so she told me never let a man hit me, talk to me any type of way, control me or give him money. She said whatever you let him do in the beginning he's going to want to do from now on and it's true I know. You definitely got to have standards for yourself, what you will deal with and what you won't.

“Pulled a double shift I’m trying to bite the wing”💀💀🤣🤣🤣

I’m 19 and I’m thankful for this! I’ve always been a people pleaser and I finally realize how detrimental this could be especially in relationships, I learning to stand my ground, this is especially going to be important with dealing with a man. Demand respect.

Oh wooooww!! When he said, " suck my toe right now!"" I"m at work and I lost it!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I’ve been single so long now, I really hope to meet my man/spouse this year, like soon, like today...🙂

It’s so true, when you see that a man is very insecure... ya betta RUN with the quickness 🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️💨💨💨💨

If men were treating us right and doing the right thing by us we wouldn't be watching Tony. Knowledge is power ladies. 💪🙏

So TRUE!!! When the TRUE test comes AND you pass.. THAT’S a testimony!!! It’s easy to pass when you’re not tempted. 💯

I like that Tony. No cussing. I once heard someone say that people cuss because they lack the vocabulary to express themselves.

I liked what you said about the initial conversation. Most men will mention God to enter your life and then you see they are a boys and not men!

Ya, he’s into porn, exc. I confronted him already. But I can’t do this anymore. It’s a moral confliction in my head right now. I need to realize I need better. Thanks Tony for the message.

It’s about you knowing who you are! Stick to what you know is right! If he is for you , he will adapt and adjust! Satan is normalizing foolery in this world! Don’t fall into his traps!

Yes, I chose to unfollow some people. Women shaking booties everything goes on instagram and social media. It is so sad. People don’t even know how lost they are. I pray for them.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😢💕

Tony, I have watched so many hours of your videos and as a practicing therapist, I really have to agree what you are saying with respect to keeping standards and respecting oneself. Thank you for all the free training you give men and women! It’s been useful as my practice as a clinician..

TG...I wasn’t ready for the “thumb” story 🤣

I love when Tony says “...cause you know I’m from the skreets” 😂😂😂 it’s my favorite

"Cause I'm from the streets..." that line always has me laughing cause they ALWAYS wanna make it known and use it as an excuse or something to be credible for haha! Stay blessed Tony!

I never would have thought that a man could help me become a better woman but it is happening. Not only does he help me in my love life but in everyday life as well. Body. Brain. Brand. ❤️ Thank you, Tony.

Sheri Gaskins for president! ❤️

"You Got To Stand On Your Square And Refuse To Be Knocked Off" -TG Yikess.!! Thank you soo much Tony, God Bless you and your family.!!! 🙏🏾😇

2:45 I don't know why my married friends can't see that. They're always saying to me, "you're single you got lot of money". 🤔 it's two of you, dual incomes, 🤔 why they think I have money just to play I don't know. All my bills have to be paid by me, they have some one to split bills with. So strange to me.

Tony you are hilarious!!! "Activating moisture. " 😂😂😂

The last 20 minutes of this video are gold. Tony, you're the teacher I've been looking for. I can hear the love of God through your words. May you and your family continue to be blessed.

Real tears. I'm on the treadmill dying laughing at "Kunta Kinte and having lunch at the strip club." Laughing so hard I'm crying.

Tony- Thank you so much addressing that people still have a chance at love after having an STD! Thanks for touching over that. Appreciate your videos and your obedience!

Lordt, y'all done made TG do an hour & 22 minutes. 😂 So here for it!

"Aye if he wanna watch a luh purn.." ok I'm mature I swear lmfao

We are doing bad... we have to be real with ourselves.. we all have settled for something...ie: porn, masturbation, not being a man of his word, we have allowed too much.. we have to hold ourselves and these men accountable!!! Thanks Tony, wonderful message today!!!

When I tell you, I feel so confident due to the knowledge learned, than I did before🙌🏾Thank You Mr. Gaskins! I look at you and your wife, for a true healthy example of a relationship.

Trust me, I used to work in the club and a lot goes down in the strip club and touching is up to the girl! Don’t let your man go there

Whoa! This video right here! Oh my goodness. Tony, thank you so so much😭🙏🏾! I felt the spirit speaking to me throughout the entire video, but it got more intense at 1:11:00 to the end. You will never know this side of Heaven how much your work has helped millions of women. But God will show you one day and it will blow your mind. To God be the Glory! Blessings on top of blessings to you, Shari and your two boys.

Mr. Gaskins is giving us more than an hour of richness!

I swear to god Tony doesn’t get enough credit for how funny he is 😂😂😂 We getting entertainment AND wisdom!

Tony! This is how I was raised based off what you teach. People always said I was the odd ball out bc I’ve never been to a club, don’t smoke, drink etc. it’s not healthy and I’m keeping my mind and body pure. Thanks for validating how it’s supposed to be done. ❤

Every time I watch this, I get blessed! Tony keeps me grounded, because the enemy is busy and temptation to lower your standards is REAL! Recently, I met this guy who I actually liked. He’s masculine, funny, and easy on the eyes. We spent a lot of time together (in different settings), had long conversations, and encouraged each other. However, I noticed this guy have an issue with ACCOUNTABILITY and APOLOGIZING, when he’s wrong. Also, within 2 weeks of knowing him, he said we should be kissing because he’s an affectionate person. I told him I don’t do anything I’m not comfortable doing with a man. One month and a half in, he continued to say he didn’t see us “progressing” pretty much because I wasn’t physical with him. 🙄 I know it’s in a man’s nature to try but your expectations aren’t going to force me to do what I don’t want to do! I haven’t spoken to him in some days now and honestly it feels good. I stood on what is right and maintained my standards. I said God, send who’s for me and I’m patiently waiting.🙏🏾 Thanks Tony, for your videos! I’ve been revisiting them a lot 😅and they’re keeping me grounded.

Tony we definitely needed to hear this as women. I remember someone telling me this but I didn’t receive it. I believe this but we put men on such high pedestals sometimes but they are still human. I think we forget that as women.

Amen. I was touched as a toddler. It scared me, I felt ashamed.

Tony is so anointed ! I don't know how he manage to to tell the truth, honor God and be so funny doing so🔥🤣

I had a dream 2 weeks ago that you delivered this same message....my God🙌🏾

In order for our world to be it's best, the world needs Women to Realize and Understand their Greatness. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

Around 1hr 4 minutes you snapped. Theeee anointing was like let me come through real quick 🙌

Tony be killing me with "cause I'm from the streets." 🤣 So many guys want to be street though so he's spot on.

Yep God said it in the Bible. The Bible will surprise a lot of people. When I first read the Bible last year and continually reading. He open my eyes and he make me notice a lot. Also he said be careful what you hear, speak and entertain

Tony Hello been married 45 yrs still learning new things about my husband always . Most men keep you guessing all the time. This why I stay still to myself and pray 🙏. Im still not getting Notifications. Thank you for all you do. God Bless always❤

Teach Tony. I saw my Mom in abusive relations, I heard my Mom cuss too. I did not feel safe when people was angry and cussing around me.

Whattt...let me find out God finally called Tony to more than an hour 😲😲 and I am here for it!!🙌🏾🙌🏾 In all seriousness, thank you Tony for your time and for sharing what God gave you. May you and all those connected to you be blessed.

Tony, I am 64 years old and I truly thank God for what you share with women. God has blessed you with the spirit of counsel and wisdom. This resonated with me soooo much! I am grieved at the sexual immorality of our young ladies today and wished they all could listen to you to avoid unnecessary use and abuse in their lives. God’s continued blessings to you, Mr Gaskins.🙏🏾🙏🏾

This is a serious word. Go back to when my spirit was pure and at what point did I accept perversion as normal.

May OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BLESS ABUNDANTLY ANS PROTECT You Tony and Your Family IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST ✝️👑❤️💝🕊💐 AMEN❤️❤️❤️

We as women are created in God’s image and likeness. We are the apple of His eye, we are blessed and highly favored. We are God’s daughters, once we accept Christ as Lord and Savior. We must be willing to Learn how to love ourselves and see our worth. It took a man that likes me to tell me to know my worth because I was starting to chase him by trying to get his attention. I was embarrassed. But it made me do research and watch videos and read books and pray. I know God used him. I apologized to him, funny he likes me more now because I humbled myself and became vulnerable so I could grow.🙌🙌

Tony you are really my virtual father, I wish he would’ve taught me these things, But I’m so grateful to be learning it now you’re truly a blessing ❤️✨

Guys don't usually get this type "education". Thnx Tony, I'd have to go back to when I was 5 years old, I didn't think I'd ever hear some of the things you saying from a man, really appreciate the content. Praise God.

The enemy of our souls has desensitized our hearts to believe it's normal for a man to cheat, to abuse, to not provide, not be a good father. I was blessed to have a husband who was faithful, committed, didn't curse, provided, and loved me like I had never been loved before, but he passed away.. Thank you Jesus, I pray to have this again, but better. Thank you Tony for setting the example and teaching women all over the world what a godly man, godly marriage looks like.

Tony my friend was 47 and when I refuse to give in and hold him accountable I think I scared him to another but I am not made because I have a Boss mind and I want more and he either needs to step up or step out.

I'm done with the thumb in the booty at the "skript" club! 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 DJ done looped the song!

The Lord speaks through you, Tony. Thank you! I'm considering going back to church because of you.

Liked before I saw it, I'm taking all this in. So grateful for your messages!

I'm so glad to hear you say saying about this sexual freedom. I have been ghosted because I refused to allow myself to be Loose Booty🙈! I agree I was in the past made to feel like I wasn't good enough. But, I believe what the Lord says about me. I'm single and will continue to Trust God.

Thank you sir tony gaskins I’m a Filipina a single mom and been with the guy now that I’ve experiencing all the kind of manipulations and silent treatments that I’d no idea to all of this going on and I’d been busy working for so long not even thinking of myself and now that I got professional children’s I think this the time I consider myself intertwining man but I am so ignorant on what’s going on now until I’ve experienced those treatment that it’s so new to me and I feel lost and empty but because of you I slowly understand and learning everything as well as elevating my values and trying to let this man that I like most learn what he mistakes me as a woman even I got 4 beautiful daughters That Doesn’t mean I not valuable to enough to any man coz raising 4 daughters making them good children of God is something in proud that I’ve accomplished... thank you sir tony and I want to know more how to become you to help other women struggling and surviving.. I’m working her in kuwait as make up artist and I also helping others in need as my self advocacy

You were a control freak? Kudos to your wife for standing her ground! A person has to love themselves, or no-one else will! Not only did you want things to work, she did too. Even when she left. If only one party wants a relationship, it simply won’t work. Wasted time and years! Keep teaching, your voice is truly needed! 👍

Your so right about standing for what you believe in. I’m 40 but at the time I met an older guy he was in his late 40’s and I was 31 he tried it and I told him I needed a spouse not a father I had one. He was in the streets heavy. It forced him to step into his grown man because age didn’t verify the maturity. I was raised to know your worth by a single widow after my dad past when I was in 9th grade. I learned by the lessons but I thank God for his grace and mercy.

Your knowledge and wisdom is ALWAYS appreciated!

Lol I was wondering why you kept saying "Perrrrn" lol. Even with your heavy accent I knew something was off 😂

Almost choked on a Grape!🤣🤣🤣 Sweat activating stuff while you eating lunch at the strip club 🤣😱

Wonderful message as always, Tony! It would be nice to get your wife's perspective on some of these topics. I'd love to know how did she decide to give you another chance. I think so many women get confused about who to let go of and who to take a chance on.

Tony Gaskins, Life Coach and Sit-Down Comedian LOL

When I did not know I was enough I allowed myself to be bought. I thought once in my life with my insecure ways that a man loved me when he bought me everything he knew he could buy so he can get me to stay

" He's a teddy bear" made me giggle.

Tony, you make good points. One must know what one wants. I was in a relationship with a man who made substantially $ more; however I knew what I would & would not accept. As I said to him, all of the material possessions MEANS absolutely nothing, if you do not treat me RIGHT. Translated, you will not be abusive emotionally, physically, or otherwise When one knows what one brings to the table, eating alone is ok

I'm so GREATFUL for God sending you my way. I'm listening to you EVERYDAY, several times a day. And 'm feeling more and more empowered as a 59 year old woman. Thank you Tony Gaskins, Blessings to you and your family 🙏🏾

Tony, I have been following you since 2012, and you have helped me so much that words cannot express my gratitude....I am not perfect and still struggle with holding firm to my standards with men, but I can say that I am getting better. I invested in the birth your book course back in March and wrote two books...one is on Amazon and the other will be released at the end of this month. Thank you for walking in your gift and continue to inspire us, because we need it!

Tony i really respect you. Let me tell you why...I've read the book a woman's influence. You are giving away the truth that you could actually make money for. The good book says my people perish with out knowledge, which tells me you want us to do better and be better. Thank you.

As much as I enjoy the laughs while learning your lessons, this message is on another level. I heard powerful music behind these words. I have witnessed history going over an hour. Extremely empowering!

The God given genius of Tony Gaskins it that he went ahead and finally did a video for the men so 1) we could see what would happen and 2) so we could no longer say he hasn’t done it... The wisdom of the Holy Spirit is with this brother. I’ve sensed it numerous times.