my father died yesterday after a long battle with cancer, I feel absolutely lost and like I'm living in a world that isn't real. we all agreed to use money for the funeral. I would literally give every penny of it back just to have one day with him again. he was an amazing man. it's actually shocking to me some people think about cars and stuff when their father dies, makes my skin crawl.

Our Dad died decades ago, and three of us have survived in the Illery Warren, IDA. Conflict.

First, do not kick caregiver out of the home. In fact sign house over to her or him. The caregiver has destroyed life for x years and health and is probably broke due to cost of taking care of dad or mom. Parent probably promised caregiver something for giving up job, selling house, giving up life, never going anywhere for years due to parent afraid and fearful of them leaving. Now have a bitter, resentful, heart broken caregiver and you say, " Are you going to pay rent now. Where is all mom's money? She and you did not spend it all on her care or you? What did she leave?" The caregiver will look at you bitterly and think, wow. Hardly ever came to see ma or pa. Never came to help or volunteered to give me a day off. Never came and took mom out. Did not come and clean dads bed pan or fix him breakfast or wash his poopy shits and sheets five hundred times and now they are talking about me paying rent. What about me. My knees and back are messed up due to lifting parent for 3 years and here they are, all my brothers and sisters with their hand out wanting their share. Guess they forgot to do their share all the three years. Just a phone call now and then. Should have never said I would be the caregiver. Loved mom but it has left me sick, tired, bitter, angry, and glad I took care of her. I have no home now, no car, no clothes, no money and they all dance in here with their hand out. Wish they had danced in here with a broom or mop for the last three years and cleaned the house. That is what the people need to know. Get in there siblings and heirs and clean the house. Watch the parent for a week. Turn your share of the house over to the caregiver who has given her life and health to your parent and made their last few years here better. Hope you all read this and realize what you are not doing and how the one is doing it all without your help. Start paying them. The going rate is 15 to 20 an hour. Sell moms assets and use it to pay them. Working for free is not right.

Great video. Answered many of my questions.

You are great. Thank you for sharing your knowledge

Thank you for your information

Thank you so much. More video about the will please

My mom died and we four kids got a check from social security for about $339.00. They said she was owed money when she died. We thought it was for a stimulus check but it's from ss.

Really appreciate your videos. Very insightful

I wish my parents did'nt leave anything behind because I was appointed executor and the dealing with probate was a nightmare, then lets talk about siblings was disqusting all worried about when will they get their money. It made me sick. I did everything taking care of them and my siblings did NOTHING but yet had their hands out. I also paid for everything as well, I just wanted my funds replaced out of the inheritance and nothing else, my dad worked like a dog to care for his family so I did'nt want to collect his money it made me feel sick to my stomache and felt very guilty for taking it. I would'nt wish for anybody to have go through what I did. It was 18months of pure hell.

Wow! That was great advice and explained so very well! Getting copies of latest statements early on (organize a list of the assets) and maybe walking through the estate with a video camera too would give peace of mind. Thank you friend.

Great Video, very informative.

Great information. Thank you, Sir.

This was very helpful, saved it.

Thank you very much 😊

However foolish it may sound, I feel you are the most informative, get to point, you great examples...and you’re a pleasure to listen to. Must be that Louisiana personality. Can’t wait to get back there❣️😊

Very good video 💗💗💗

Thank you.

Very helpful information thanks 🙏

Great video and advice. Not easy terrain especially with a bunch of siblings who all think differently.

Good information Rabalais! But, I never heard you mention what you should do, if after the party that's over dad's estate does not answer you back or reach out to you in reasonable amount of time, then what actions should I take? When you started that statement I was awaiting your answer, but the video had come to an end.

Why when my dad remarried was never notified of his death n or never got my inheritance we spoke of n everyone ignoring me ...

My mom is in the ICU right now and she’s getting worse. Money, material things, and even eating is the last thing on my mind right now.

“My sister’s the executor, and I keep textin her,” 🔥 🔥 BARS!!! BARS!!!

My father died in October..older sibling grabbed the lot just because she was executor...house bank account no contact from "it" the executor at all.

I Learned ALOT from this Video, so Thank You for that, Mr. Rabalais!! However, I still have yet to find any Substantial Info, be it Online or in a Video, explaining what would happen IF the Decedent's 3 Kids, who are his Listed Heirs to his Pension (& get along) & it's their Dad's Wife who's alleging that the "Survivorship/Death Clause" Voids their Inheritance (ie. Pension, but she "allowed" us to have his Non-Titled Belongings, saying that was in the Will, yet I didn't see that... But, then said we couldn't have anything of Value, had those things Appraised & then Auctioned them off & Donated the Other Non-Valuable Things to Goodwill.) & that the Survivorship/Death Clause left her Everything we were supposed to get & we got NOTHING, bc of the way she explained the 30 Day Survivorship/Death Clause? Even though the Will stated his Pension was to be Split between us 3 Kids? While she got his Bank Accts, Life Insurance Policies, etc. She won't Probate his Will, she wouldn't allow us a Copy, forbade us from taking Photos of it or Writing anything down from it & won't tell us his Lawyer's Name who Prepared it. What does this Mean & are there other ways to Obtain a Copy of his Will or Find out who his Lawyer was? My Dad died suddenly before the Executor Paperwork was Signed, so his Wife took Control of his Estate... His Wife also made sure to tell us that we'd have Problems if we made Waves for her & she found out we were doing anything behind her back. I'm Located in Pennsylvania & just don't know where to go, how to begin or if a Survivorship/Death Clause actually does Supersede what he Willed to us. Bc he didn't own any Titled/Deeded Property besides a Vehicle & a Boat, bc the House was in her Name. Any Guidance or Direction would be greatly Appreciated!! Thank you in Advance, Mr. Rabalais!!

thanks

My parents were divorced. My dad had a last will and testament. He had dementia. When he bought his condo he was still coherent. As a couple of years later he along with my sister went to attorney and had his last will and testament. When he bought the condo I am sure it was in his name (if not somehow my sister and her husband put the condo in her husband's name). Anyway, he had 3 daughters in which we all lived in a different state. He named my older sister (that his estate somehow was put in his name) as his executier. So he had a severe brain hemorrhage and was in ICU could not talk or anything. Anyway, he passed 5 days later. My sister said he never paid any mortgage or any bills. He was retired from oak ridge TN. He had 24 he care. And was well taken care of. We (my sister's) went to the cemetery and picked out a plot that was across from his parents. And then we picked out the head stone and my sister actually bought the site next to my father. The total cost for this was over 30,000.00. never seen such a beautiful marker. My sister said " daddy deserved the best). Which I agree. She said she bought life ins almost 2 yrs before he passed and lacked 2 weeks of being 2 yrs. On the day we were receiving friends a man from oak ridge TN came to funeral home and my sister signed paperwork. So she did get money from oak ridge. At least 10,000.00. anyway, after everything said and done my sister read daddy's last will and testament. his condo was not on there. Before he bought the condo he and my mother (they are divorced) my sister and her husband came down and did some work ( he is a contractor and she is an interior decorator) the house sold for almost 500,000.00. a 1/2 million.on his will he (I am middle child) left me with everything inside home and his vehicle. My younger sister was left nothing. She profited everything from our mother and supposedly stole from my father. Property was in my sister's husband's name. He said in his will that his home would be splitter between me and my older sister (the executior. My father had no idea that his property somehow was put in his son in laws name. Nobody knew. So where did the 1/2 million go. I have legal pads upon legal pads where my father wrote his budget for each month. Mortgage hoa power etc. My sister said he never paid 1 mortgage payment. But when I went to stay with my father for 3 months (before he had 24 he care he only had about 1,000 in his account. He received 3,000.00 a month from oak ridge. Anyway, how do you sort this out. Was he taken advantage of or just theft. It really bothers me. My sister and her husband are well to do . But after my father's passing things changed a little bit. Plus COVID-19. How do u find out if they actually bought the property in my sister's husband's name or later on had him sign over the condo and did not know due to dementia. The condo sold for almost 200,000 which I was to get 1/2 according to his last will and testament. But I can't because it's in my brother n laws name. Help!

Hello, I do have a question about one of my parents passing basically in 2017 to 2018 was my freshman year in college and my father had passed away I got depression and I even told one of my teachers and consular that I am no longer going to stay in school because of it and they still took money out for student loans what steps should I take pertaining to this?

Hi. Great video. If inheriting a traditional 401K as a sole beneficiary. Can I denounce my rights and assign continent beneficiary if you are in a high tax bracket? Or did the decedent have to assign the continent beneficiary?

I have watched all your videos and I am very impressed with how well you explain everything. I live very near where you practice law. I called your office with a question about my rather extensive complicated case, My husband passed away almost a month a ago. Brook said I could not get a question answered because I am not a client, but the 1 questions I had needs to be answered before I can hire someone. So I have moved on to other attorneys, This would have been a big pay day for you, Dont forget to thank Brook ,

In California NO WILL uncle refinanced house got a bunch of money out shortly before grandparents died. He skipped town left my aunt paying two mortgages. when she couldn’t do it anymore she called me To move in and pay mortgage $2500/mo. now my uncle returns Storing his stuff here coming and going as he likes paying me no money at all. If I leave, the house is lost nobody can pay the mortgage. But no one can afford to give me my $30,000 I’ve already put in. so I can go on with my life. My last resort is to call the mortgage company and tell them what’s going on. I’m fine to stay here and continue paying the mortgage But it’s a lot of money and I can live for cheaper I fear I’ll never get my money back.

Question is, a parent has his kids as beneficiaries half and half (2 kids) via the bank and also for the mortgage they are listed as beneficiaries. Are designating beneficiaries enough if there is no trust or will established? Or are those assets liable for seizure if not protected by a trust or will. IS that parent off the hook just by that or is more needed?

It's funny you mentioned 4 siblings. I'm the 2nd in the line of 4. We are working together to honor our father's wishes and thinking responsibly while receiving our inheritance. Thank you for the helpful tips.

How about calling the sibling who is the executor and saying "Wow, I know you have a really big job ahead of you and I know you work full time and have three kids. Please know I am here for you and I am willing and able to help you in any way. Please let me know what I can do to help you through this."

Can you make a video when it’s intestate and the siblings don’t agree on administrator. Can multiple siblings apply/submit applications? Dependent vs. independent process?

Do u have a resource foe what to put into a “when u get the call” file we can put on our computer or stock drive?

What if dad has car loan debt ? Can I take over payment and keep vehicle ?

What does my son do if his grandmother is keeping everything. My ex husband just died and he was living with his mom and she is giving not to our son. He's 18 now he died last year when he was 17 still. She's keeping his clothes his car which is paid off. My son needs help. The family isn't helping.

My dad passed away few years ago he had no will or beneficiaries named on his IRA his ex wife claimed it walked into the bank with a death certificate how can I fix this

Like getting a lawyer and an accountant. That's what our dad's lawyer said. We've been past around 3 times so far.

My parent died and the Executor of the estate has not contacted me. A lawyer contacted me but not the Executor. What should I do?

What happens when a child is excluded from a Will and property (real estate) was deed to them, but excluded from all other assets?

I have to do my work but the coninettion is not working can you help me.

I just lost my both parents in six weeks, everything u said is true. This took me away from parents n their sickness n my sister is excutor, or She's in charge ,there's been problems in the family. They made Made feel Like I was not part of the cause the Corona virus . They kept away so what should I do. They said parents didn't want me their. I feel it was them. Mom just pass away, I told them to leave in hospital to spring but she didn't make it. I miss her do much, I am having chest pain N axiety. This Sunday is funeral ,they treat me like outsider both my sister. What do I do help me.

I have already split cash assets and investments and added “Payable Upon Death” in every instance I can for each of my two children since I’ve been a widow for 15 years. Gave my property to them years ago since I was no longer wanting to handle the upkeep, etc. No debt other than utilities and insurances.

what if your sister not letting you know about policy that your father had on himself or his kids?

What about a father who abandoned me before I was born. Am I entitled to anything?

My deceased spouse's daughter coerced him to apply for a divorce,granted by the court even he was deemed Incompetent,the court let him move back to Canada with an estranged daughter who made herself POA,my wages was garnished paid him 3000/mth he died of Malnutrition,was awarded 50% of my retirement 403b & IRA, while I was in appeals,Now the Daughter is looking to get the 50% .i am @ a lost cause I am disabled & about to Retire, can't afford to be a burden for my kids,what should I do Thanks

My Father has passed, but my mother is still living, what happens now

Is there a difference in heir and beneficiary

Have not heard you comment on making your attorney the will administrator so the kids do not argue.

If dad died with out a will. just bank account with no beneficiary on his account and I'm just executor so how would I get the money out of the bank

I'll definitely have to get an attorney against my brother 😂

I'm the youngest of seven I live far away. Everyone seems weird in my family after my dad died I can't get the original copy the original copies not on record. What do I do. The old will is on record from an earlier date

My father passed away last year. My siblings and myself are all on the will equally. All that was left was a property he owned. My oldest brother is listed as the executor and is wanting to sell the property and is wanting us to reimburse him for expenses he incurred. I believe that his so called expenses are unreasonable and we’re not previously discussed. I would expect that everyone involved would be responsible for the attorney fees to probate the will and the taxes on the property, but I am not comfortable having to pay my brother for his travel to the property and “labor” to cut the grass and check on the property. Am I obligated to reimburse him for his own determined cost or anything he has paid for even prior to my father passing?

My dad died and im only 13 he died 10/18/21

Hi My sister died in Stanford hospital, my brother-in-law refuses to give the death certificate… strange guy but what can I do now?

My stepdad just died. “Planned kill” is a better term. I don’t care about inheritance, but am very pissed off I got NO say in the care he received in the hospital, or at home with hospice care, or in funeral arrangements. As a result, my dad had a rushed death from my psychopath sister. No IV fluids were given, so he passed away much quicker. Guess I’m just venting here more than anything. Romans 12:19 (KJV) Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

Do I have to notify the Social Security Admin and Medicaid? How do they know she died and/or does the nursing home tell them? I do not trust the nursing home.

I need help. I know ZERO about Lawyer Language and Zero about how to, Transfer a Property that my Mom owned. The house is paid for. We (sister) want to avoid Probate cause were not fighting for the property. My mom gave my (sister) her inheridense while my mom was alive. Im next of Kin or Heirs all i know im next. I still dont have death certificates. Whats next after that. I live in Florida. Im worried that the County will take the home. Please, i dont a paper will. What i do have is a voice recording of my mom having a stroke and final wishes saying the home belongs to me. My sister can aprove it. So, so....worried...

Do I need someone executor?

Shit my dad died left me nothing my mom is disabled i never even had a chance in this modern day

My brother is executor and he's trying to sell the house before my father is dead he has put him in A nursing home He's not dead. Does he have that power?

great info

My siblings went and spent my money when Dad died.. houses uhg

We found him in his bed this morning .. completely unexpected. I'm sorry dad. I love you so much.

so what about, " Power of attorney, Durable power of attorney, and Medical power of attorney? " Well there comes a time where that goes away, and you have to deal with becoming the, " Executor to the will handling the estate. " Just hear me when i say this. " The financial advisor and the power of attorney that worked with your father " may not be the ones you want surrounding you. Keep a close eye on them so they cannot embezzle money from you when you are hurt and down ..

Great information! My dad died 4/16/21 he lived with me for over 30 years. He had no assets and he spent nearly all monies he made through SS. I was his executor and he put me on his bank as POD. As you suggested, I waited until SS recalled their last deposit and only $500 in the bank. I closed the account about 3 weeks after dads death when I received the death certificate. Dad had no debts including no credit cards because he choose to pay cash for everything. I was lucky. However, now I am getting bills from the hospital. I never signed anything except once when he was placed in a rehab center. The letter I got from them said "you are required to ensure DADS NAME pays the charges." Since dad had no money, I personally paid for cremation and burial plot. Should I pay his medical bills? Do I have to file probate with the court?

if The will is lodged and I'm probate. How long do you get to fight that decision? Also, should a life estate be recorded on the deed. What are my rights as a hedderman on the estate. Am, I allowed on the property? Or can I sell my percentage of that.

Smash the like button, Subscribe and hit the Bell....done , done , done.....But sir you didn't tell us what to do if the executor is or apparently trying to sabotage the whole process, especially when the beneficiary is the ...daughter-in-law and the grandchildren (as successionary beneficiaries, ) Please advise the steps one can take.

My dad past away 5 months ago and now my brother is trying to kick us out he shut the power off I am.older than him I don't who my dad signed the house to But he Violating our rights & living conditions and my our food is going bad and my mom is in Mexico on Vacation

From what you said I'm understanding that I as a beneficiary should obtain: The will The Bank accounts The Roth IRA The Trust The Pension SSA benefits The House(s) The Car(s) Should there be anything else? If things are missing or are out of place then go to the probate court and . . . ? Do I mention the Trust codes or a violation of those should I need to go that far.

I am the only child left and my step mom is keeping things secrets so I have no idea what to do. I’m in Oklahoma it says I’m a inheritance state. So I have no idea what she is up to I know he has assets just lost right now

I just found out my dad died by a third party calling me looking for who was in charge of the estate , my brother told the insurance bcompany he was a only child , I thought it was a joke he died like 8 months ago , nobody else knows he has past why keep it secret , he is living in my dad's home and all his stuff is in storage boxes , what should I do , my brother has also been charged with assault on my dad plus he tried to kill his ex wife , he is very violent . What should I do I want to make sure my dad's estate is taken care of and his debts are paid

I am an only child. I have been a good daughter. My dad married a woman who had a daughter. His wife died. Now this daughter who of my stepmother child has taken over. She pushed me out years ago. I would call to speak to my father and she would say what do you want ! When my father had cancer I went to the hospital every day for 3 weeks. But all I heard was how my step mother ‘s daughter was the only person there for him. I’m really concerned. I didn’t get anything when my step mother died not even a photo. But this is my father. I am his only child. He is oblivious as to the games his late wife’s daughter have put me and my children through. I married young and I had 2 daughters. My stepmother’s daughter didn’t marry. But proceeded to have 4 kids by 4 different men. And my dad was stuck having to house them for years. So I’m in a bad situation. Honestly I’m the only beneficiary to my dad’s estate. Or should be. I know that this step daughter has a father. I know she collected something from her grandparents estate on her father s side. And she collected something from her mother’s grandparents. And her mother. So do I contact an attorney immediately to prevent her from coming in and stealing my inheritance. I’m not well myself. I have a rare autoimmune disease. The past couple of years have been very difficult. My father is 80. He had the cancer surgery back 3 years ago. And is about to have a hip replacement. I called to see if I could help. Drive him to the hospital or to therapy. But he told me no. The step daughter makes everything about my father her business. She literally lives 6 hours away in another state but is coming for two weeks to take care of him. I feel so pushed out of my father life. But I think she is trying to get my inheritance. It’s crazy I know. But about 20 years ago my X father in law asked me what will you do when your father dies. I said I’m not sure what you mean. Now at this point I had been divorced from his son about 6 years. I had remarried to my current wonderful husband. And my X husband was about to get remarried. I was just there having a cup of coffee while my X mother in law was finishing up a visit with my daughter. They were good people. And they even had dinner with us a few times. Sadly they have passed now, but at the time my X father in law just ask out if the blue (what will you do when you dad dies? ) I didn’t understand. He said because of your step sister. Witch we were not raised together. My father did not raise her either. I said well I might need to call am attorney. He looked at me and said “ good girl ! That’s exactly what you need to do .” So all these 20 years I have known that others see her as a problem. They see it , I feel it. What would I say to my own children if she steals my inheritance. I know I would feel very bad. He and my mother were married 10 years. And he was not kind to her. And I guess I’ve felt that all these years too. It just will not be right if I’m pushed out of my own inheritance. It’s not about $. I put myself through school. And I had a nice career. Before I got sick. I own property and I’m ok financially. But it’s the principle of it. He only has 1 biological child , Me and 2 grandchildren. My 2 daughters. I am very concerned. Thank you! LA

Hi

I have a question my grand Mal have a will and my dad,s sister ask him to singed a paper my grand pal said to my dad it,s for your mother,s money he's one of 4 kids I am her grandchild do I revise money as well I am also in the will as well so that,s my question if you can help me fiuger this out please

For your peace of mind you should have also asked for bills dad may have owed

my dad died 20 months ago in ca…no will…done on purpose cuz he hated us..step mom name with his name on all his properties and accounts…are his biological kids entitled to anything…she tells us “sorry but no will can’t help ya”😡

You didn't answer your own question. Supposing you have all this information already. The question is, now what? What gives any of the children authority to do anything on behalf of the estate, on behalf of arranging funerals, etc. What gets the ball rolling?

Mt granddaughter has my son and me not able to receive any rights to his body we don't know what to do before she cremates him

petitioner is pro-per, mother died intestate, real property has reverse mortgage lien, [pg&e, water, garbage] no other creditors, property listed and buyer placed an escrow, petitioner is only child and mother never married, petition filed and accepted san joaquin county requested special administrator with letters & full authority. In a case where heir is only child, needs to sale property to satisfy reverse mortgage company ASAP listed real property buyers placed escrow. lien is $160,000 and $305,000 is purchase price. petitioner needs to sell due to interest accruing and money from sale to move? Reading through my panicked state can a list discripting 1-? or forms that can be filed to ex parte it all??

Hey guys my father died in America and Hannah's daughter and I am in Africa don't have no clue about my Father I'm his older daughter and I am in Africa so I don't know nothing about my dad's well because my auntie is taking over everything I want someone to help me fight hard for me please

Hopefully they have a “ when you get the call” file

Hello, I am a surviving spouse in Arizona. My husband and I have two children age 14. There are 8 bioligical children to my husband from prior relationships. No will has been found. We have searched the whole house, and RV which he was living in. I have decided to go to probate in order to insure that everything is done in accordance with the law of the land. What are the rights of the 8 children all age 18 and over, and no disablilities, and what are my rights in Arizona. I want to make sure everything is fair, to myself, my two minor children, and to the other 8 children. We have searched for a will and have not been successful in finding one. What is a reasonable time that I should wait for will location, and how do I convience the other children that I am trying to be fair?

My father just passed on the 14th and my brother hates me. He is not telling me nothing

Either pre-plan an inexpensive memorial or dress poor to the funeral home.

Their is no perfect world 🌎. I had a sister that came to my home and stated to me that she was the executor of my mothers state and that she will give me copies of all the paperwork. We are 5 adults 4 brother and my sister am from another father the only child. That was years ago am still waiting for the papers she never contacted me again or my other brothers. Horrible

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Who will come notify me when my only last parents dies

Only child and no will?!?!? Now what?!?!

Me I just put it into the bank said her bank account let it get us an interest it’ll be there right now my mom is battling stomach cancer and I’m hoping she survives the doctor giving no Hope

Ohh my gosh!

When my dad passes ill be taking my own life.

Step father died now what

Debating scuicide.

whats with the rambling - i have yet to find a useful video. its like you guys just want to manipulate people in a fragile state to hang on your every tangent and filler crap dialogue to get your viewer hours up. such a bad first impression. i wont even bother with the rest of your videos.

If i was looking for this response wouldn't have wasted my time.