Dr. Gabor Maté Explains: The Dangers of Ignoring Your Own Needs

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✨ Dr. Gabor Maté Explains: The Dangers of Ignoring Your Own Needs and Understanding the Impact of Self-Suppression
In this enlightening video, we explore the profound effects of chronic self-suppression on our health, guided by the insights of Dr. Gabor Maté. Discover how neglecting personal authenticity and consistently prioritizing others' needs over our own can lead to significant health consequences.
🔍 Key Topics Covered:
🌿 The Dangers of Ignoring Your Own Needs: Learn from historical examples and personal anecdotes about the physical manifestations of neglecting self-care.
🌿 Autoimmune Diseases and Emotional Suppression: Understand the link between autoimmune diseases and emotional self-abnegation, especially in women, through the lens of the mind-body connection.
🌿 Healthy Anger as a Boundary Defense: Find out how appropriately expressed anger serves as a healthy defense mechanism and its parallels with the immune system.
🌿 Disease as a Manifestation of Internal Processes: Reframe your understanding of disease as a dynamic process influenced by life experiences, beliefs, and relationships.
💡 Why You Should Watch:
✨ Gain valuable insights from Dr. Gabor Maté on the interconnectedness of emotional health and physical well-being.
✨Discover practical advice on setting healthy boundaries and expressing emotions constructively.
✨ Learn how cultural and societal roles impact health, particularly for women, and what can be done to mitigate these effects.
✨ Empower yourself with knowledge to transform your health through self-awareness and emotional authenticity.
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🌟 Join the Conversation:
We'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences related to self-suppression and health. Leave a comment below and join our community in fostering better emotional and physical well-being.
A very special thanks to the speaker Dr Paul Conti for sharing his knowledge with us:
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@peteteale 28 күн бұрын

This may sound stupid, but what if you don't even know what your own needs are?

@seagypsy_ 27 күн бұрын

No it’s not stupid… I don’t know what my needs are either. I’m a recluse & socially isolated and rarely mix with anyone in society.

@yourinnerchildmatters 27 күн бұрын

It's not stupid at all! Understanding your own needs can sometimes be a challenging journey, but it's important to take the time to self-reflect and figure out what truly matters to you.

@rpura4883 27 күн бұрын

Start to get to know yourself. Explore what you love. Find the things that spark passion. This is the fertile ground that purpose and fulfillment sprout from. People are here but only a few are alive.

@kathleendinsmore7588 27 күн бұрын

Not stupid at all! You can be so conditioned to suppress your needs you forget to ask yourself what they are. Take the time to ask and be patient with yourself. It’s what I’ve had to do.

@gertruidasnyman7672 27 күн бұрын

I have been there for very long .Now i am into 7th year rediscovering who i am .Discerning between what i love and hate 😂.Now i allow myself the freedom to say what i hate and with that i discover what i adore .I hate war and fights .I love most animals ,the pesky ones i hate .All flowers are beautifull? I like people but i had to learn to turn my back on some . We" give off " an energy .If you prefer being alone thats okay ,be in your own happiness .Why would i go to meeting where people fight if i can plant a tree 😂? Do what makes you happy ...

@lisashelley1826 27 күн бұрын

I was a people pleaser, I developed cancer. I recovered after an aggressive drug regime. I attributed my illness to my interaction with others. 31 months after diagnosis, I completely changed my life. I am no longer a people pleaser, and 16 years on, I'm still fit and healthy. My advice would definitely be to put your own wellbeing before anyone else's. Thank you Dr Gabor gift to the world is immeasurable.

@yourinnerchildmatters 27 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so glad to hear about your recovery and how you've transformed your life. Your advice about prioritizing your own wellbeing is truly inspiring. Wishing you continued health and happiness.

@decolores23 23 күн бұрын

May the good Lord continue to Bless you, don’t forget to do fun things! Congratulation and Best healthy wishes for your life!…❤🎉🕊✝️🙌🙂

@vixenvalenzuela 21 күн бұрын

Oh I’m happy to read that outcome ❤

@user-dw1ot2fd1g 17 күн бұрын

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@jillfoley6834 14 күн бұрын

I’m 62 and if I feel any anxiety about an upcoming event that I don’t have to attend but feel obligated to, I now choose to stay home or work if I’m scheduled. I don’t go out of my way for others when they don’t appreciate my efforts. I don’t put extra stress or pressure on myself because I know it can lead to exhaustion and health problems. Be kind to yourself first. ❤

@Coach_Daphne 28 күн бұрын

What goes on your mind, goes in your body... Thank you Dr Gabor !

@yourinnerchildmatters 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for appreciating Dr. Gabor's insights, they are truly life-changing!

@robynhope219 20 күн бұрын

U needed this guy to tell u that?

@stoicepictetus833 27 күн бұрын

I was abused and bullied throughout my childhood: I know this is common, but I couldn't gain weight as I felt continually ill through stress and couldn't eat much, had eczema on my body, had tonsillitis once a month, couldn't stop shaking. There were also obvious mental illness symptoms. Yes, trauma and later suppression of being allowed to show your anger and feelings towards noone doing anything for you at the time and then having to care for them later in life, affects your physical health dramatically.

@yourinnerchildmatters 27 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear about what you've been through. Your pain is valid, and it's important to acknowledge the impact it has had on your life. Remember, you deserve care and support. Please take care of yourself and seek out the help you need. You are strong for sharing your story.

@vixenvalenzuela 21 күн бұрын

Oh no, I hope you are free from those shackles now

@robynhope219 20 күн бұрын

It sure does...I hope you gained some weight!

@motherpedar3592 26 күн бұрын

It is me people and relatives pleaser. It completely drained me and i got sick ,my knees developed arthritis and hardy walk more than three blocks. When i confronted my immediate family with their behavior they turn against me and isolated me more and more. Even my tenent take advantage and doesn't want to move and pay the rent. That is why you cares for people and use you

@yourinnerchildmatters 26 күн бұрын

I'm sorry to hear about what you've been going through. It's important to prioritize your own well-being and set boundaries with those who take advantage of your kindness.

@ianmack5068 29 күн бұрын

Fantastic info provided here❤ grateful for all your doing ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters 28 күн бұрын

Thank you for your kind words, I'm glad you found the information helpful!

@janinecombrink2105 24 күн бұрын

Dr Gabor is amazing. We need specific detailed teachings on how to do this. How to even identify our own needs. What healthy selfishness looks like in practical terms.❤

@yourinnerchildmatters 23 күн бұрын

I appreciate your support and interest in learning more about these topics. Stay tuned for more content on this!

@CupcakeMami Күн бұрын

I believe the only way to know your needs is to spend lots of time alone, exploring different activities and experiences to find out what you like and don’t like. Then sharing the things that give you joy with others ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters Күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your insightful thoughts on self-discovery and spreading joy. It's important to take time for ourselves and then give back to others.

@DEtra591 28 күн бұрын

Dr Gabor love your book “The Myth of Normal” it explains so much that has been helpful to me. Have you ever thought of coming to Halifax, Nova Scotia? Love to see and hear you in person😀

@thundergrace 27 күн бұрын

thanks....i am going through a difficult trail right now.... i am living in my car....because i have been abused in shelters and i dont meet the criteria for domestic violence shelters...we are living in a violent culture. people are like vultures and prey on you and your orivacy and personal belongins....the other day i saw on a car that said #onlythestrongsurvive....it made me very upset. being in my car has limited my ability to really think things through clearly ..i am always in upheaval....i have to straigten my car out every day...its always getting messy because there isnt much room... i cannot get a job and i find that tehre are wicked cruel women who are bent on sabotage and rub in my not workig and say things like I have to get to work etc....they wont give me a job becaue i am a christian..i have to make some major decisions ..ia m being stalked and harassed by cops and cops in their own personal vehicles.. i want to be around people who really love me...

@yourinnerchildmatters 27 күн бұрын

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. Your strength and resilience in the face of all this are truly admirable. It’s heartbreaking to know how much you're struggling, and it's important to remember that you deserve kindness and respect. Please keep reaching out for support, and know that there are people out there who care about you. Take care of yourself as best as you can.

@karenhartman9774 13 күн бұрын

@@yourinnerchildmatters

@karenhartman9774 13 күн бұрын

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@karenhartman9774 13 күн бұрын

@@yourinnerchildmatters my heart ached reading about your experience. I’m replying to recommend you listen to Louise Hay to learn to love yourself. Everything will change when you find that self love. EFT -tapping helps me immensely and maybe it will help you too to relieve anxiety and despair. You can do tapping for self love too. My love to you, wherever you are.

@yourinnerchildmatters 13 күн бұрын

@@karenhartman9774 ❤

@vietashroffoliver2521 24 күн бұрын

Thanks for posting this. Reassuring as this has been my belief for the past 2 decades or so

@yourinnerchildmatters 23 күн бұрын

Thank you for your kind words and for being a long-time believer in the message of this video!

@turkanismail1848 7 күн бұрын

Beautiful thank you. I have been in the process of change. Thanks to God and his guidance, i am recovering. I am in authenticity. I live one day at a time following my instincts and feelings. I have let people go, expressed myself, stood up for myself, total compassion and empathy for myself. I now love myself unconditionally as i continue my blessed, scared journey

@yourinnerchildmatters 7 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. Your strength and self-love shine through.

@turkanismail1848 7 күн бұрын

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you

@exploreworld3493 28 күн бұрын

thanks for this video ❤😘

@yourinnerchildmatters 28 күн бұрын

I'm glad you found the video helpful!

@rltreasure 24 күн бұрын

Hard to do when parents always bully their daughter by telling them you need to do as yo’are told less there be hell to pay!

@yourinnerchildmatters 23 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. Remember, you're not alone.

@manavisharma944 19 күн бұрын

That must be so hard to not have good emotional connection with the parents. It feels so lonely when there is no one in the family to understand and not impose or dictate things. But, remember that could be taken as purpose of your life to not let people around you make you feel that way. There are so many daughters all at the world feeling the same. They might feel stuck but they are not. Like you are growing yourself by reaching out to resources like this video and making yourself aware of your body & mind. Keep it up. Keep digging into great resources that can make you mentally stronger and learn how to stand for yourself and take care of your mental health. You can’t change others, but no one can stop you to grow. You are a gem out there ready to shine. You are not watching stupid TikTok videos. You are focusing on yourself already!! Keep going.. you will find many many great lessons as you will focus on your growth. God bless you.

@janelliot5643 18 күн бұрын

Yes, a bias toward boys and against girls or sexism or misogyny whatever you want to call it, is Alive and Well in the family and largely unconscious and it needs to stop

@janeschrder8070 18 күн бұрын

Yep, that's my mom. Hit me when I was 2 years old. Got anxiety issues till this day. And that's just one example. Hate myself 😓

@amygerstle2037 23 күн бұрын

Very important video and thought provoking. Thank you for sharing ❤

@yourinnerchildmatters 23 күн бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to watch and share your thoughts!

@decolores23 23 күн бұрын

Thank you Dr. Gabor I love to hear you speak. I always learn something you. God Bless you!…🕊✝️❤️🙂🙏🎼

@yourinnerchildmatters 23 күн бұрын

I'm glad you enjoy my videos and find them informative!

@yourinnerchildmatters 29 күн бұрын

Discover the life-affirming wisdom of Dr. Gabor Maté as he discusses the importance of prioritizing your well-being in this insightful video. Learn why it's crucial to never ignore your own needs and how to cultivate a healthier relationship with yourself. Join us for a transformative journey towards self-care and self-awareness with Dr. Gabor Maté. #DrGaborMaté, #SelfSuppression, #EmotionalHealth, #AutoimmuneDiseases, #MindBodyConnection, #HealthyBoundaries, #SuppressingEmotions, #WomenHealth, #ChronicIllness, #HealthConsequences, #EmotionalSuppression, #HealthyAnger, #DiseaseManifestation, #EmotionalWellbeing

@janeschrder8070 18 күн бұрын

This videa is an eye opener

@yourinnerchildmatters 18 күн бұрын

Thank you for watching! I'm glad you found it insightful.

@houndmother740 19 күн бұрын

I'm 65 years old and have worked most of my life on the fact that I grew up in an alcoholic family. Anytime it occurs to me that I have a need my first statement to myself is that I can't have it or I don't deserve it. I know that I do it but even at this late age it's hard for me not to default to that. It's really frustrating.

@yourinnerchildmatters 19 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your experience. It's incredibly brave to acknowledge and speak about the lasting impacts of growing up in an alcoholic family. Many people carry similar burdens throughout their lives, and it's important to recognize that healing is a lifelong journey. It's never too late to work towards changing those deeply ingrained patterns of thought. Remember, you are deserving of love, care, and all the good things life has to offer. Consider seeking support from a therapist or support group that specializes in these issues-they can provide tools and strategies to help you overcome those feelings of unworthiness. Your awareness of this pattern is a significant first step, and every effort you make towards self-compassion is a victory. Stay strong and keep moving forward. You deserve it.Bless you dear!

@houndmother740 11 күн бұрын

@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you. Onward.

@letsgetrealwithyanky 20 күн бұрын

Beautiful and very true. Dr Gabor provides so much helpful information for us to heal. I just wish he would apply this logic to the Jewish people in Israel. Many feel very hurt by his warped views. May all humans heal and live in true peace.

@yourinnerchildmatters 20 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's great to see people engaging in meaningful discussions.

@citizenenak 18 күн бұрын

To Dr. Gabor, the awakened mind is a state where self awareness is independent of phenomena. Phenomena being the happening now of everything as a constant happening irrespective of any particular thought, feeling or image of any kind. Ones sense of self awareness is derived by placing attention on yourself as a meditation. A state of being aware you are aware is a state where the mind can only hold one thought and it's yourself alone to the extent you can keep your attention placed there. Basically keep doing this inward meditation and the energy you return to yourself will awaken a perspective that no longer is subject to propaganda because our sense of self isn't derived through thought. It will never leave and you will forever identify with it in duality. This sense of self or awareness is the doorway to all understanding says the Tao Te Ching. Adyashanti knows this sense of self as the awakened self or however culturally you want to define it. However knowing this doesn't render one feeling less, quite the contrary. One in this state is able to truly expeditiously endeavour kenosis or emptying one's self. The self awareness one gains by placing attention on the self enables this. Don't forget this sense of self is the direction of the kingdom of heaven. The kingdom of heaven is the full realization of the self within manifestation inhabiting both worlds at once. Seeing both polarities at once.

@yourinnerchildmatters 18 күн бұрын

I appreciate your insightful comment and the depth of your understanding. thanks again

@kforest2745 12 күн бұрын

Right never ignore your needs rather ignore whoever ignores those

@yourinnerchildmatters 12 күн бұрын

Thank you for the reminder to focus on self-care and not let others neglect our needs.

@zovalentine7305 26 күн бұрын

❤ Gabor Mate MD PhD CM ❤

@nataliemcgowan3425 22 күн бұрын

My partner well maybe soon to be ex partner always invalidates my opinion, also passive aggressive. Wasn't always this way I changed too when my dad passed away suddenly massive heart attack in 2018. I took a nervous breakdown June 21. I'm better than I was but not 💯 yet.❤

@yourinnerchildmatters 22 күн бұрын

I'm really sorry to hear about what you've been going through. Losing a loved one and dealing with a breakdown is incredibly challenging, and it's understandable that it would affect you deeply. It's important to prioritize your mental health and well-being. Have you been able to talk to your partner about how you're feeling? Sometimes open communication can help, but if they continue to invalidate your feelings, it might be worth considering seeking support from a counselor or therapist. Remember, you deserve to be in a relationship where your feelings and opinions are respected. Take care of yourself and stay strong. ❤️

@nataliemcgowan3425 21 күн бұрын

@@yourinnerchildmatters ive tried talking might as well talk to a brick wall. I'm bisexual and she is gay. She dislikes when men approach me then suppose anyone be like that. I talk she gives silent treatment or says I'm sick talking about this crap. I wanna be with somebody that understands me. I feel uncomfortable broaching some subjects with her now (wasn't always like that). I'm still struggling with the death of my dad. Sometimes I wanna just disappear.❤️

@yourinnerchildmatters 21 күн бұрын

@@nataliemcgowan3425 I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through. Relationships can be incredibly challenging, especially when communication breaks down. It's important to be with someone who understands and supports you, and it sounds like you're not getting that right now. Have you tried explaining to her how much this means to you? Sometimes people don't realize the impact their actions have. If she still isn't responsive, it might be worth considering if this relationship is healthy for you. Also, I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is really tough, and it's normal to feel overwhelmed. Please don't hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a counselor for support. You don't have to go through this alone. Remember, your feelings are valid, and you deserve to be heard and understood. Take care of yourself. Bless you dear!

@ellenmuseum 25 күн бұрын

Check and check

@yourinnerchildmatters 25 күн бұрын

thanks for watching!

@zovalentine7305 26 күн бұрын

Contemplate this: "Dear God, I need money" The prayer is instantly granted. You need money. All creation begins with a decision to have a desire. All we humans ever do is imagine and decide.

@zovalentine7305 26 күн бұрын

Or contemplate this: Q. How do you know you don't NEED it? A. You don't have it ❗

@citizenenak 18 күн бұрын

Just consider the knowledge that to have a thought there are two things, the thought and the entity the thought occurs within. Now ponder this logic and understand everything about it and you will discover your presence. Easy peasy.

@citizenenak 18 күн бұрын

This also explicitly makes clear the separation of the self from thought in that thought occurs within the self not outside it. To say outside it is nonsensical.

@yourinnerchildmatters 18 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective!

@yourinnerchildmatters 18 күн бұрын

Thank you for highlighting the importance of recognizing the separation between the self and thoughts.

@robinhood6954 26 күн бұрын

Ignore them or not, they still never get fulfilled! 🥴

@yourinnerchildmatters 26 күн бұрын

Thank you for the reminder.

@estherrosario9419 24 күн бұрын

Wake up call…

@yourinnerchildmatters 23 күн бұрын

Thank you for watching!

@LouiseReynolds-d6n Күн бұрын

Interesting content but the background music is so off putting

@hummingbird4934 21 күн бұрын

So… I’m gonna die early! NONE of my emotional needs are met 😢

@trevawhitmoyer682 28 күн бұрын

Now we know that more women have MS because it’s linked to the X chromosome, of which women have two. Men are XY - only one X.

@yourinnerchildmatters 28 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

@janelliot5643 18 күн бұрын

I'd like to see that study.

@janelliot5643 18 күн бұрын

Chromosomes are genetic information. It's very dangerous to assign a causal relationship. It might be related, ie, activated by anxiety, but to say "more women get it "BECAUSE" is very problematic

@chikabolitaful 22 күн бұрын

“ those are the ones that get cancer by the way” where’s the studies

@yourinnerchildmatters 22 күн бұрын

Thank you for your comment!

@sheldonduff9338 22 күн бұрын

He is a doctor and is entitled to tell his personal experiences and observations. People get cancer for many reasons, this certainly could be one factor. Be kind.

@Saavycupcake 15 күн бұрын

This statement could possibly be related to ACE scores and studies- adverse childhood experiences.

@nicolessunshinecorner 13 күн бұрын

Yes so many “diseases” are born out of the “dis-ease” we are carrying inside from our subconscious patterns that were created in age zero to seven. You can rewire the brain to heal

@robynhope219 20 күн бұрын

Thats one thing u've never done: ignore ur needs😅

@user-dw1ot2fd1g 17 күн бұрын

These diseases are also a result of abuse, you can’t blame it all on the victim. Also, financial abuse.

@yourinnerchildmatters 17 күн бұрын

thanks for sharing your thoughts

@dutchcoiner 10 күн бұрын

Well, when you’re an adult, stop being a victim. Take responsibility for your own healing and health. You can make this choice at any time, although it seems hard. Feelings of being a victim also cause stress.

@clairelane3642 17 күн бұрын

Which is why the ERA needs to be passed in the USA--and full access to birth control, abortion and divorce. The feminists got it right. The liberation of women increases the health and well-being of women.

@yourinnerchildmatters 17 күн бұрын

Thank you for recognizing the importance of the ERA and women's rights.

@jillfoley6834 14 күн бұрын

I don’t agree with abortion, I believe once you decide and go through the process of killing your baby growing inside of you, it will leave you traumatized. And you can’t go back and redo it. Please honor and respect yourself enough to not have casual sex. God told us, sex is between a husband and his wife for our own good, to protect us. It’s hard being a woman today, having a stressful career and being a mother and a wife. It’s too much, but this is my opinion; I thought I would share. ❤