1. Self-esteem is not only what we think of ourselves, but also our attitude to ourselves, that is emotions that we experience in relation to ourselves.
If you feel hate, shame, disgust, guilt - you have low self-esteem.
2. Our self-esteem critically depends on how our loved ones relate to us. If you are subjected to domestic violence, then you will have a priori lowered self-esteem.
There can only be one way out: change the environment to a favorable one. The rest will not help.
3. There are 2 types of low self-esteem - namely self-hatred with specific exact negative beliefs (among which stands out the case with a story when, for example, someone called names, and the habit of scolding yourself + laziness) and a lack of positive self-image.
4. Self-assessment includes several sectors. For convenience, you can highlight the beauty (appearance), mind, achievements, character, zest.
5. How is self-esteem formed? At the age of 3 to 6 years, especially parents should give us a lot of real, reflecting our true self, positive assessments, which are at this evolutionary stage of the formation of the psyche an expression of genuine interest on the part of parents.
6. How to increase self-esteem?
6.1. Understand, realize, identify the connection between how you were called names in childhood (forcibly criticized) and your negative beliefs about yourself.
6.2. Stop the bad habit of scolding and punishing myself, calling me bad words (I'm stupid, I'm nothing, I'm ugly). Just stupidly ban it.
6.3. Search for positive beliefs about yourself in all sectors (beauty, mind, character, achievements, highlights, 10 pcs.)
6.3.1. Tests (Holland, DISK, Kibby, introvert / extrovert)
* Class book on the DISK system: "How to influence people in life and in business" Tolmacheva / Kozlov.
6.3.2. Recall all that good was said about you; notice that they’re saying good things about you now and accept it, and not skip ears; henceforth to remember everything that will say good.
6.3.3. "Help a friend": admit to a friend about their problems and ask for feedback. Let him / she better say what exactly and exactly they like you. In detail !!! not general phrases, so that you will definitely learn. Let them argue if necessary!
6.4. in case of relapse of self-esteem, do exercises “so what” and “but” - “so what, what am I dumb? what's next, huh?”)
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