this isn’t the case with every person & a lot of the times it can wear off before you start pushing

This is the problem. How is it that we don’t know you can literally do whatever you want to make it best for YOU! I’m not blaming you directly just mad at the broken system

it makes the experience more like a vaginal birth so it could include things like delayed cord cutting, skin to skin, regional anesthesia (if general is not necessary), letting mom see over the drapes, holding baby, and certain techniques to minimize nerve and muscle damage

@@zebra-kt2gq all of those things are already what a c section is so now I’m even more confused lol

@@ktm10593 depends on the doctor, a lot of older ones won’t do any of these things

@@zebra-kt2gq all the doctors I’ve had have done exactly this that’s why I’m saying I’m confused

Our bodies are built to experience natural labor. What do you think women did before all of this existed hundreds of years ago? Sounds like you needed therapy.

@@SJ-ru4ej Yeah and people DIED. I don't feel like dying in childbirth thank you.

​@SJ-ru4ej Offering choices matters. People have different anxieties, and yes, maternal and infant mortality rates were higher before hospital births became common. *People should be informed of the risks of elective induction, however.

@@harringt100 Precisely! The person giving birth should get to choose, with full information, what manner they are going to best be able to give birth. It's just as bad to withhold interventions as force them.

Idk but i had a great experience with mine. Scheduled c section and loved it

C sections are brutal. Watch a video of one intended for medical students where they actually show you the truth. They rip the layers of muscle open and yank baby out as fast as possible. Not just in emergency c sections either. There are medically sound reasons for this actually but it's very traumatic for the body. I assume a "gentle" c section tries to go a bit slower where possible. Or tbh it is probably just a marketing term to make moms less afraid of a c section.

it makes the experience more like a vaginal birth so it could include things like delayed cord cutting, skin to skin, regional anesthesia (if general is not necessary), letting mom see over the drapes, holding baby, and certain techniques to minimize nerve and muscle damage

I ended up asking for one because I felt I could NOT push anymore. It wasn't that bad. Compared to the contractions and the absolute terror of not being able to get my son out and the flat-out exhaustion, that was not a huge concern. My OB numbed me and it was a very small cut; 5 stitches I think they told me. I didn't tear beyond that. (I imagine I probably would not have gotten my son out without tearing, had I not been cut.) I was sore for a week or so, but...yeah. I don't think I even have a visible scar.

@ktbrunner1862 My mother got a double cut because I was stuck. 🥺

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In some areas that's a big ask. I did a shit ton of research before my third baby because I moved to an area with bad hospitals and it was next to impossible to find someone who listened to ACOG.

😂😂 so true 😂😂 Honestly I cant believe that girl who said it is making money from it

They delivered on Thursdays 😂

Exactly!! An episiotomy is much easier to sew up.

Natural tears heal more readily and cleanly than episiotomy. The natural tears go with your natural skin weaknesses, whereas episiotomy just goes straight through everything regardless of those lines. Think of anytime there's already a tear in something like a piece of paper or fabric and then you put pressure on that area, it tears way more easily and farther than if you started with a full intact piece. Same principle with skin and tissues. It's also better to encourage the mom to push gently and steadily rather than as hard as she can all at once, because that allows her body time to stretch as well as to feel when it is tearing too much. Backing off on pushing as fast and hard as possible is so that her tissues can stretch naturally rather than forcing a tear. I'm willing to bet that with your first, for one thing your tissues had never stretched that way before, but also your doctor likely told you to push as hard as you can every time you had a contraction. Those combined factors made for a worse tear. With your subsequent pregnancies, your body had already stretched in those ways, so it didn't need to stretch as much to get the next babies out. In fact, if they had encouraged you to slow down on pushing and resting on some contractions, you probably wouldn't have torn at all on the subsequent ones.

I’ll never understand it. I had an episiotomy and a grand total of 3 stitches with no issues healing. My sister on the other hand had a 4th degree tear, over 170 stitches and needed 2 total reconstructive surgeries over the following 18 months

While I agree with what everyone else has said, I do have something to add. I am a midwife, so I know the importance and place of an episiotomy or tearing naturally as well. If we notice your tissues aren't stretching well, or you are pushing way too hard, and we see your perineum becoming very white and not stretching, an episiotomy is indicated. This to prevent 3rd and 4rd degree tears where the anus is also ruptured is some way. We can guide the tear so it doesn't go towards the anus, thus preventing possible incontinence problems later on in life. This isn't the first choice though. If we can get women to push nice and slowly, giving time to the perineum, that is first choice. Different positions also have more probability of tearing than others, so changing it up is important. Natural tears heal better than episiotomies, even though they are slightly more difficult to suture. From what I understand in your story, they should have probably seen that letting you tear naturally would cause a bigger problem, than an episiotomy. For your 2nd and 3rd birth it should have been reevaluted off course, and I hope they did. Just because you had a 3rd degree the first time doesn't mean it will happen again, and an episiotomy is not first choice right away. It very well might be that you wouldn't have teared those times.

@@carolinaVF24 that’s the perfect approach in my opinion. Some people just do not have stretchy tissue and an episiotomy is a life saver. I just find it irritating when people insist natural tears are the only way to go