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I personally know and feel your pain ❣️🙏 🥂 to both of our complete healing, restoration and freedom any and all forms of psychological abuse and often associated, trauma and❣️🎁🗝️🕊️

My mother had post partum depression after the birth of my baby sister. I was 4 years old, my sister only a few weeks old, when we were placed in an orphanage. My mother was given a lobotomy and was reduced to the functional age of a 5 year old. I had been my sister’s caretaker, but we were separated to different units in the orphanage. I was allowed to see her on the day we entered. I was shown which bassinet she was in. I also was taken to see her through a gate, the day she took her first steps. From there, we were placed in a series of 6 foster home placements. I was 4 and my sister 2 years old. We were starved, frequently beaten with belts or switches. We were forced to take long naps every afternoon. Out for supper, bathed and back to bed. Often we were accused of “something “ , which resulted in no dinner, beaten and back to bed. The physical and mental abuse was horrific. There is so much more, abusive husbands etc. Needless to say, I have deep parental wounds and attachment issues. Thank you for shining a light on the consequences of lack of a nurturing care provider.

I took pictures of the messages before I confronted him. So he could erase them, but I had the evidence on my phone.

It’s always she’s just a friend

We start to become investigators, damn good ones too. Documenting everything. We never knew we would become psychologist in the mean time. Lol Although completely toxic, through my discovery I found my true self, reflecting where I was in my beliefs, fears and past trauma. My entanglement with the NPD set me on the journey to my purpose. Now certified advocate i am able to educate others. Grateful!

Gaslighting makes you feel crazy. Not just because of the apparent lying, but the fact that we thought our partner was mentally intact, come to find they dont grasp morality, decency, common sense and unaware of hypocritical double standards. The fact that the partner would rather appear immoral and hypocritical then choosing to either be honest or stop behaving in ways that pushes them to lie. I finally grasped that this is insanity. Lying is also false portrayal of self. Then the individual has no moral ground to stand upon, they become hypocrites, almost delusional in appearanceYou start thinking about the moments you were intimate, and how now knowing what you know that attaches to the false intimate connection

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Thank you this information was very clear and helpful!

None of all that is going to fix anything, not good enough.

Porn addiction is also a sex addiction. Not all sex addicts use prostitutes so not all sex addicts can afford a therapist. Yea there are people who genuinely can’t afford therapy.

Thank you.

Amazing and validating video!!!

Can you please repeat the book you mention in the beginning?

Amazing video!!! Thank you so much from a betrayed spouse! This has been so helpful for me and I’d love for more videos on this

Where is the QnA box?

Amazing! I keep watching it to boost me up now that I've found out my husband has been doing me wrong for yearssss. Anyone know the link to the full episode?

Polar opposing insecurity compensation...😮 where you focus so much on keeping her from not leaving, that you do the polar opposite

Hello Dr. Katehakis! Can you make a video about fetishistic Disorder and more specificaly about feet fetishism as a disorder? I am not talking about sexual preferences here, but about complex developmental trauma based response. Thank you in advance! I am reading now your book about Sex Addiction and I like it very much! Grettings from Hellas!

You are the man Gabe. I have always seen your testimony in awe and inspiring. It led me on a journey to live a more fulfilling life. Thank you for everything you do 🙏

Thank you! :)

The lady in red is not an addict !

Thanks for the heads-up but knowing this is ultimately pointless. You can not change your past or who you are by talking about it. We are doomed by our parents to live out the fates they have provided for us in their lack of wisdom and personal sense of care. You can escape yourself, but not your stars.

Dear Alex, you didn't really comment on treating those that have 3rd trimester trauma and dissociation. What do you think of Primal Therapy in this respect, where Arthur Janov says people relive this period of their lives on a body level. Or LSD Psychotherapy, where people seem to actually relive pre-hippocampal memories and release the repression and reconnect the brain? This seems to be well-documented in the more than 10,000 papers on the use of psychedelics in psychotherapy. The actual reliving of the birth trauma and even pre-natal traumas on a visceral, body level. So rather than asking one's mother, actually accessing the memories on a sensory, body level. Your thoughts would be welcomed.

It would be cool if you can offer an ebook option. When would this be available? I appreciate you and your work.

I feel perhaps that there is one missing piece here. At 6:40 you discuss that a person seeks out being treated badly because they are re-running the patterns in the brain. I agree with this but I would like to take it a step further. Robert Firestone talks about the false self, which is a self-hating self that keeps the true self suppressed because the true self is full of shame and pain. By receiving real love it threatens the false self because the false self must remain hating of the real self. So when someone is nice to us or loves us this self-hating primary defense is threatened. It must remain in tact or the primary pain underneath may surface. Low self-esteem is actually a primary defense against infantile pain. This of course goes back to the infants survival mechanism where it cannot accept that mom is bad or doesn't love it so it must blame the self. So all of this threatens the primary defense against being unloved as an infant and small child. This is too painful. So by accepting someone nice and loving, we are threatening our self hate mechanism, which is a primary defense against infantile pain. We reject being treated too well because it touches on our real self, that is full of pain.

Great Video. If you still have heel pain it might be Plantar Fascitis. Tennis ball might help.

My girlfriend of 10 years who hasn't betrayed me for 2 years now has set some boundaries for me. I'm 53 and have never been to a brothel, she wants me to start going as long as she can watch. And she's reclaiming sex with me, she's willing to endure sex as long as we watch porn at the same time and as long as I do not touch her nor look at her and I have to role play that I don't exist. Well, it's a start!

Great discussion about intrigue where I learned things I hadn’t heard before. Thank you for this.

This page is amazing

Thank You for this amazing discussion

I was married to my very accepting wife for 51 years and I cared for her with MS for 26 years. She is no longer with us. I haven't had sex with anyone for 25 years. I'm too old now but it sure is good to FINALLY be free to be who I am. I am definitely noticing many very hot guys. I was a Baptist Pastor and missionary but I've been told I am not welcome even attend church and that I never was.

Pornography destroys relationships. It cripples you. Scientific studies show MAJOR negative affects of your brain on porn. I was addicted for over 20 years. Accountability has helped me. Also, changing bad behaviors to new good behaviors. Porn causes ED. I also want to add - Jesus broke those chains of addiction for me. I'm currently using Covenant eyes as my iPhone browser.

He has retracted his book.

Yes I understand what withdrawal is from love addiction it is pure h*** it is absolutely h*** and I can understand that I've been through this more than once and I'm so thankful to God that I'm not in it anymore but to me I believe recovery is a lifetime process and with my Lord my savior he will help me along the way and we always have to watch over ourselves and pray I'm thankful because he changed my life and I'm not doing the things I used to do and if I see myself getting into something or a familiar qualifier somebody I don't know I recognize right on the button what they're about and I avoid them because I know how easy I can get sucked into this and that's happened to me in the past but no more I'm getting better every day

Do you have further suggestions/audio Alex? Like, an example of what diving into the block can look like? Feeling hopeful! <3

Dear alex the question about narcissists really resonated.(i.e I'm going through this).Your response was soo helpfull.It helps me see my active role here.

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Does it really get that bad for sex addicts? I’m in AA so I understand my drinking problem but sex? I’d really love to understand it more

Yeah it’s painful you get so high you watch porn for so long the pleasure turns to pain… feels so bad for my heart

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This is the most advanced data .

Thank you

Love the way things get normalised instead of demonised ❤ thank you so much for explaining things in a calm respectful way 🙏🏻

Why do you think sex addicts keep going to one or select few affair partner(s)? Is it some kind of somatic resonance? I'm told by the sex addict that it was bec it was easy but then again, they truly don't remember the incidents or the feelings associated during those moments. I don't understand that and trying to figure it out to understand better. I think a sex addict would have A LOT of partners but this dx'd sex addict did not have but only 3 that cycled through for 30+ years of the sa's various marriages.

Your work is amazing and I believe has helped a lot of daughters in healing the invisible wounds.. I'm one of them.. THANK YOU 🧡

Sweet something I will not experience. I lived my lifetime Any intimacy adandonment. I developed Obstructive Sleep Aphnea. back to solitude alone and celibateand blocking past people and rejecting new people due to discust and revulsion

Thanks for sharing. This has been very helpful